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Cake day: August 3rd, 2023

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  • I’ve known several women in almost this exact situation. It’s a very specific love language that’s hard to describe. The way they express love is by doting on others to handle all their needs. Not by waiting on them hand and foot, but by structuring and organizing things so that it’s already taken care of. Over time this seems to harden into a rigid and controlling view of how to do things. Not intentionally, but because asking others to do things for themselves would be like saying you don’t love them anymore. Then later as the routines become set it would be “too much work” to teach others and “they wouldn’t do it right”.

    But back to your original question, if you have that mindset that this is the way to express love then you’ll end up gravitating towards people who are immature in some aspects of care. If they are generally capable and appreciative then you can really shine by doting on them in the things they struggle with. Feeling needed and feeling loved are equivalent to you.

    That all works fine at first, but having kids throws it into overdrive. Now you can heap your brand of love on them by making sure they never have to lift a finger. But the expanding logistics mean any flexibility you had before is gone; things need to be done right or it all falls apart. Teaching your spouse or kids will just slow you down in the short term, even if it could help in the long term.

    I cannot imagine being an adult and not being able to cook or clean, but that’s my personal bias. I know I would not be a good match for someone with the mindset above.



  • At this point there are so many scandals and so many dead cats that I can’t tell them apart. Greenland is obviously a distraction because he’s already played it several times, even in his first presidency. I can’t tell if kidnapping a foreign official was a distraction or something he’s using Greenland to distract from. Epstein is the only thing I’m sure he wants us to forget. ICE is a great distraction, but it also seems like he wants us to ignore it for a bit while they gain strength and march towards their goals. Piracy/war with various countries is obviously profitable, but also seems to be getting milked as a distraction.

    It seems more like they’re just trying to fatigue us with constant atrocities, like the Andor quote.



  • Decided to look into the yellow counties in Montana because I was shocked if they could even be 49%. Petroleum County (a truly American name) in Montana has 228 occupied households and seemingly no public transportation. However, 58.2% of the county is employed in mining.

    So my best guess is a company bus that comes around and picks up everybody? It seems like the bulk of the remainder are farmers, which would mean they don’t “need” to drive anywhere. Although they do drive constantly across their property as part of the work, which feels like cheating.



  • This is very very loosely the plot of The Sparrow by Mary Doria Russell. They weren’t sent to necessarily convert the aliens, but the Catholic Church were the only ones willing to bankroll a trip that would take at least 60 years and have no possible ROI.

    It definitely does not go as planned and, maybe unsurprisingly to modern readers, ends with the Catholic Church being cast as a bunch of perverts in the public eye.





  • I think size is the biggest factor. OS ISOs are pretty big, so having a managed download is helpful. If the 100 GB triple-A games were open source I would certainly expect torrents. But the FOSS things I download directly are pretty small, and the vast majority are done through a package manager or docker compose. So there may be a Goldilocks zone in the middle where it’d be helpful, but in those cases I’d expect a small installer that downloads the bulk of it for you.

    So not much benefit for the consumer, but what about the provider? Spreading the traffic would reduce load on the hosting server which is a positive. You’d still have to handle the bulk of the traffic until the seeders outpace the leechers, but on long enough timescales it’d be helpful. Except you can’t really update a torrent, which means each release needs to start fresh. This still works for OS creators because updates tend to be far apart, there is a large user base, and there is still some market for older versions. For regular programs you may only get one of those three, at which point adding torrents may be more hassle than it’s worth.