Self care for me:
Yoga class with other people.
Going out for a Pokemon go walk
Making healthy food that I enjoy (not trying to be virtuous and not junk either - nourishing and delicious).
Having a drink on the porch - ONE drink - with my husband.
Going to bed when I get sleepy and getting up when I wake up.
Smell, no. Taste, yes. I don’t understand how something that stinks so much while cooking can taste so good but yes, I like fried eggs, boiled eggs, scrambled eggs, as long as they aren’t overcooked they are good.
Anchovies. I wouldn’t say judged but I’m alone in my love for them. Everyone in my house likes kimchi. It is loud smelling, I can sort of understand your family.
Make them a kimchi grilled cheese, or the kimchi/butter noodles - sometimes having it cooked lets it “click” for people, that was the gateway kimchi for everyone else in my house.
At work it’s licorice, though the old lady directly across from me does like it. I can imagine not liking it, but yum it’s my second favorite candy.
Oh yes, with the leek!
What a gorgeous picture!
Hobby? I’m on the wrong coast for it but would love to learn to surf. Pretty sure I don’t have time to get good at it. Music, I’d love to learn to play guitar or even to sing well. Not to perform. To be able to do it.
Lifestyle? Not sure, I think what I would change is stuff I can’t change without money or time I don’t have.
Give away 900 million dollars.
I agree with your premise though - too rich is just hoarding. There is no real lifestyle benefit.
The first time, I was 5’9" and 125lb when I got pregnant, so not like I had anywhere to hide it, but I worked until 6 months without telling anyone and that is when it became impossible to hide.
The subsequent times it happened faster, the belly was noticeable by 4 months or so, I could feel it before anyone else could tell in all cases.
I had a history teacher who was hugely fat - she warned us she would be out on maternity leave, we thought she meant later in the year but she was gone the next week, and when she came back, looked no different at all.
I say this as a person with plenty of years. When the president is so ancient he is shitting himself at meetings, and congresspeople are dying in office - of old age- this has become a gerontocracy of the worst sort. One would hope that as people get older they have more experience, more perspective.
At this point I would very strongly prefer that people younger than me be in office and I’m not even 60 yet. We need people with more stake in the future. 40-60 then out, retire for the sake of the country. Write a book or something.
What I think is funny (and oddly satisfying mathematically) is that life expectancy goes up as you get older. Like, at birth your life expectancy may be 75, but those who make it to 70 are predicted to live, on average to 80, and if you make it to 80, you are predicted to make it to 85 and so on (I don’t remember the exact numbers).
Yeah it’s crazy, when I was a teenager we had the lowest cost grocery markets in the US, corn was often 5 cents an ear on sale, maybe 20 cents regular price, watermelon you could buy on the roadside for $1, those are about 1.50 and 7.00 now and that’s pretty representative of the overall increase.
I’m counting everything that is consumed here, by humans (so including entertaining but not pets). Our total housing cost with electricity & insurance and taxes is really high here too (and is another thing that used to be cheap) , but again that housing is holding 5 people right now.
5 person household, all adults now, mostly physically active. Probably 4k a month all-in.
That includes some booze, not much eating out and is paid by all of us so average 800 / month per person, but not evenly spread, kids are more frugal and do meal prep for lunches and husband and I spend more, and feed all of us once a day at least. Not much junk food, buy ingredients not premade things and I do have a garden.
Yuck
Beyond the obvious problem with conflating good with pretty
I don’t think pushing a person towards a more generic middle look makes them more attractive.
RIP dude.
That sentence makes no sense. Figure out the amount you would need to eat and work out to MAINTAIN your desired weight and start doing that. Let it take however long it takes, then keep doing that to maintain, or tweak it to improve.
50lb in 2 months sounds dangerous as fuck. You could stop eating and probably lose that much, fuck up your metabolism, and immediately gain it back without even eating as much as you did before.
Damn, I want a man with a cheese shed!
Perfect man
Goes out to the cheese shed to bring me sharp cheddar
God no. I had a 1967 mustang. Had to fix it every time I drove it, it drank gas like a gasoholic, everything was manual but in terms of life and cost, it was the most expense for the fewest miles and not reliable. Like even if it had been newly manufactured to the same specs it would not be reliable or safe or even fun to drive.
My brother, meanwhile, had a Corolla he kept for 300k miles without much maintenance.
I am still in my 2014 Honda, and expect to be able to use it for 10 more years. Now do I think the 2024 better than the 2014? Not really, most of what I want was already in this one, but modern cars are so much better built than vintage cars were.
Mine looks great in cold wet weather, I live in Florida - our wet season is summer, winter so dry so it doesn’t happen often.
To me it sounds like you should try drenching it in cold water and scrunching some gel into the very wet hair, and letting it set up for as long as you can stand it, then diffusing it gently.
It looks great here!
I agree. It doesn’t help me that people who work in my town can’t live in my town. It doesn’t help me when taxes go up on my house. I have the same house if prices crash lower than we bought. I have the same house if prices go up.
In fact - if prices bottom out and we can keep our jobs, maybe I have a better house because maybe we can afford to do some reno that is too expensive right now because housing is so expensive.
“Didn’t work so hard” WTF? Did Trump work hard? There seems almost no correlation between who works hard and who has money. Some who work hard have money, some don’t. Some who never worked at all have money, some don’t.
I have never tried to be feminine, and believe strongly that “womanly” is the sum total of what women are and do, we define it every day by being ourselves. “Feminine” to me is the things people would do to impersonate a woman, if an alien came to earth, for example, and was performing to try to be like a woman - the outward behaviors and paint and hair and all.
So no, and I think it’s nothing to fret over. I want to be myself and help define what womanhood is, not chase after some stereotype. I’ve never felt particularly feminine, but do feel very attached to being female bodied, enjoyed being pregnant, nursing, love having sex as a woman. Just don’t see any point to stereotypical “femininity” or “masculinity” those are unnecessary, and actively harmful in some cases.