Personal Development starts with knowing yourself.

Before you start to build and improve your

relationships with other people and before you can
identify and set your career and life goals, you
should know yourself well first. This lesson will help
you understand more about yourself and start your
way to personal development.

“SELF” is defined as what an individual sees,

perceives, and defines oneself as apart from each
other. It is the way a person thinks about and views
his or her traits, beliefs, and purpose within the
world.

To know oneself, one must distinguish physical,

psychological and spiritual. Though these are
distinguishable, it is interconnected as one.
Self-concept and Self-esteem
Self-concept is our awareness to ourselves,
what we think and know about our identity,
personality, and individuality.The actual self
and ideal self are two broad categories of
self-concept.

Actual Self is the one that we actually see. It

is the self that has characteristics that we
were nurtured or born to have. It is how we
think, look and act. “GanitoAko! Self”

Self-image is how we see ourselves without

knowing how others view us. It is our
perceive image of who we are.
Self-knowledge is derived from social interactions that provide insight
into how others react to us. It is what we know about ourselves
grounded on the interactions we have to others.

Self-entitlement is when we start to think that we are special and

tends to impose that we are better than others and demand for
special treatment.

Ideal Self is how we want to be. It is an idealized image that we have

developed over time, based on what we have learned and
experienced. It could include what our parents have taught us, what
we admire in others, what our society promotes, and what we think is
in our best interest. “Sana All! Self”
Negotiationexistas the result when the actual
self is far from achieving one’s ideal self.

Social Roles that are adjusted and readjusted as

outcomes of social interactions are the main
reason for negotiations. It is when we find
dissatisfaction from the way we are is not what
we want to be.

Self-esteemfocus on our attitude towards

ourselves. It is how we value or see the worth of
ourselves, given the negative or positive
feedback we receive.

Low self-esteemleads to decreased confidence

levels, inferior, pessimistic, and being a pleaser
of other people.

High self-esteem develops high confidence, a

huge degree of self-acceptance, a tolerance to
what other people think and optimistic.
• Self-concept is mostly informational while self-
esteem is emotionally inclined.

• Comparing people is not pleasantly fair but for

some it actually works to propel them, and
sadly, for others, it discourages them further
down. Personality is too complex to be given
absolute solution or formula.
 Personal Effectiveness
making use of all the personal/innate resources – talents, skills, experience, energy and time, to
enable you to achieve life goals.
Talents are inherent ability of a person to do something.
Experience includes knowledge and skills that we acquire in the process of cognitive and practical
activities.
Knowledge both about yourself and certain content/topics.
Skills acquired expertise to do a particular job through training and real-life applications. If the
same ability is used many times in the same situation, then it becomes a habit that runs
automatically, subconsciously.
Here are some skills that will greatly increase the efficiency of any person who have
them:
Determination –allows you to focus only on achieving specific goal without being distracted.
Self-confidence – gaining positive attitude about yourself and believing of your capabilities.
Persistence – keeps you moving forward regardless of emerging obstacles such as problems,
laziness, bad emotional state, etc.
• Managing stress – ability to combat or handle stress that
arises in daily life from environment and people.
• Problem-solving skills – cope with the problems
encountered and consider it as new experience.
• Generating ideas – achieve goals using new, original,
unconventional ideas which can be change before being
implemented in the real world.
• Creativity – allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry
out a specific action that no one has tried to use.
• Most failures emanate from weaknesses that are not
recognized or not given appropriate attention or remedy.
Instead of giving up or indulging in self-pity, take action!
Recognize your own talents and abilities, build on them,
utilize them to your greatest advantage.
• Self-Assessment Question 1.) Differentiate your self-concept with your self-esteem.
• Self-Assessment Question 2.)What are the skills you want to hone and improve on?
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Practice Learnings!
• Instruction: TRUE or FALSE: Write True if the statement is correct and write False is
the statement is incorrect on the space provided before each number.
• FALSE 1. Self-concept is emotionally inclined.
• FALSE 2. Actual self is how we want to be.
• TRUE 3. Self-imageis how we see ourselves without knowing how others view us.
• FALSE 4. Self-esteem is what we know about our identity.
• TRUE 5. Low self-esteem lead to being a pleaser of people.
• TRUE 6. Self-confidence refers to having positive attitude about you.
• FALSE 7. Creativity helps you achieve goals using new, original and unconventional
ideas.
• TRUE 8. Persistence keeps you moving forward.
• TRUE 9. Determination allows you to focus only on achieving a specific goal.
• FALSE 10. Problem-solving skills helps combat stress that arises in daily life.
Self-Concept Inventory

Instruction: Take a look at your own self-concept and answer the following
self-concept inventory. Give yourself a rating on the space provided before
each numberusing the scale: 0 = Very Weak; 1 = Weak; 2 = Somewhat
Weak/Somewhat Strong; 3 = Strong; 4 = Very Strong.

•1 - 1.I have a strong sex appeal.

•4 - 2. I am proud of my physical figure.
•3 - 3. I am physically attractive and beautiful/handsome.
•2 - 4. I exude with charm and poise.
•4 - 5. I can easily get along with.
•4 - 6. I can adjust to different people and different situations.
•3 - 7. I am approachable; other people are at ease and comfortable with me.
•3 - 8. I am lovable and easy to love.
•2 - 9. I am a fast learner, can understand with one instruction.
•2 - 10. I am intelligent.
•2 - 11. I have special talents and abilities.
•3 - 12. I can easily analyze situations and make right judgments.
•4 - 13. I can be trusted in any transactions.
•2 - 14. I have a clean conscience and carry no guilt feeling.
•3 - 15. I have integrity and good reputation.
•2 - 16. My friends and classmates can look up to me as a model worth
emulating.
•3 - 17. I can express my ideas without difficulty.
•2 - 18. I talk in a persuasive manner that I can easily get people to accept
what I say.
•2 - 19. I can express my ideas in writing without difficulty.
•3 - 20. I am a good listener.
•3 - 21. I am emotionally stable and not easily rattled when faced with trouble.
•3 - 22. I am logical and rational in my outlook and decisions.
•2 - 23. I feel and act with confidence.
•3 - 24. I am a mature person.
Scoring: Copy your scores and write it beside each number on the given table and get the
subtotal.
Look at the results of your self-concept inventory. In what areas do you consider yourself
strong (with score 14-16 or somewhat weak (score of 10-13) and very weak (below 10).

Physical Appeal Human Relations Intelligence

1 __1__ 5 __4_ 9 ___2__
2 ___4__ 6 ___4__ 10 ___2___
3 ___3___ 7 ___3__ 11 ___2___
4 ____2__ 8 ___3__ 12 ___3__
Subtotal: ___10__ Subtotal: ____14___ Subtotal: __9___

Character Communications Maturity

13 ___4__ 17 ____3__ 21 ____3__
14 ____2__ 18 ____2__ 22 ____3__
15 ___3__ 19 ___2___ 23 ___2___
16 ____2__ 20 __3____ 24 ____3__
Subtotal: ____11___ Subtotal: ____10___ Subtotal: ___11____
TEST I: Multiple Choice
Instruction: Identify examples of one’s physical self, psychological self and spiritual
self.Choose the letter of the best answer and write it on the space provided before each
number.

___A___ 1. What skill allows you to focus only on achieving a specific goal without being
distracted?
A. Determination B. Persistence C. Focused D. Objective
___D___ 2. What skill helps you combat stress that arises in daily life?
A. Persistence B. ObjectiveC. Creativity D. Managing stress
___D___ 3.What skill helps you achieve goals using new, original, unconventional ideas??
A. Intellect B. Creativity C. Innovative D. Generating ideas
___B___ 4. What skill helps you to keep moving forward regardless of emerging
obstacles?
A. Determination B. Persistence C. Focused D. Objective
__B____ 5.What skill allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out a specific action
that no one tried?
A. Intellect B. Creativity C. Innovative D.
Generating ideas
TEST II: Identification
Instruction: Provide the term defined or described in each of the
statements below
NEGOTIATIONS- 6.Itexists as the result when the actual self is far
from achieving one’s ideal self.
SOCIAL ROLES - 7. The main reason for negations that resulted to
readjusted social roles.
ACTUAL SELF - 8. It is the self that has characteristics that we were
nurtured or born to have.
SELF- ESTEEM - 9. It is how we value or see the worth of ourselves.
SELF- CONCEPTS - 10. It is our awareness to ourselves, what we
think and know about our identity,
personality, and individuality.