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    This document discusses key concepts around harmony in human relationships. It covers: 1) Harmony in relationships is built on recognizing and fulfilling each other's feelings, which leads to mutual happiness. Feelings discussed include trust, respect, affection, care, and guidance. 2) Lack of trust is a major issue today and stems from not recognizing each other's inherent intentions. Differentiation and competition also undermine respect and affection. 3) Respect means right evaluation of others based on recognizing our shared humanity, needs, and potential for happiness, rather than superficial differences. Attention differs from true respect.

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    Module 3

    Understanding Harmony in the Family


    and Society- Harmony in Human-
    Human Relationship
    Family as the basic unit of Human Interaction.
    • Starting from family each one of us are involved in the relationships with society
    and its different parts.
    Harmony in Family
    1. Relationship IS and it exists between the Self (‘I’) and the other Self (‘I’).
    2.The Self (‘I’) has feelings in a relationship. These feelings are between ‘I’ and ‘I’.
    3.These feelings in the Self (‘I’) are definite. i.e. they can be identified with
    definiteness.
    4.Recognizing and fulfilling these feelings leads to mutual happiness in relationship.

    Recognizing and Fulfilling Feelings Leads to


    Mutual Happiness in a Relationship.
    • Once we have recognized the existence of human relationships, we are
    subsequently able to identify the feelings (values).
    • It leads to mutual fulfillment
    • Justice is the recognition of values (the definite feelings) in relationship, their
    fulfillment, the right evaluation of the fulfillment resulting in mutual happiness
    (Ubhay-tripti).
    Justice (Nyaya)
    Recognition of values,

    Fulfillment

    Evaluation

    Mutual happiness ensured


    What is the state today?
    • Do we want justice only on few occasions
    or every moment?
    • Will the justice get ensured in the family or
    in courts of law?
    • In how many relationships and on how
    many occasions, are we presently able to
    ensure justice?
    Values in Human Relationships
    Feelings (Values) in Relationships :

    • Trust (Visvãsa ) (can be spelt as ‘Vishvas’ too)


    • Respect (Sammãna) (can be spelt as ‘Samman’ too)
    (3) Affection (Sneha)
    (4) Care (Mamatã) (can be spelt as ‘Mamata’ too)
    (5) Guidance (Vãtsalya) (can be spelt as ‘Vatsalya’ too)
    (6) Reverence (Shraddhã) (can be spelt as ‘Shraddha’ too)
    (7) Glory (Guarava)
    (8) Gratitude ( Kritagyatã ) (can be spelt as ‘Kritagyata’
    too)
    (9) Love (Prema) (can be spelt as ‘Prem’ too)
    Trust (Vishwas)
    • Trust or vishwãs is the foundational value in
    relationship.
    • The feeling of Trust (Visvãsa ) in relationship is
    defined as:
    “To be assured that each human being inherently
    wants oneself and the other to be happy and
    prosperous.
    • After analysing we come on 2 aspects:
    – Intention (wanting to-our natural acceptance)
    – Competence (being able to do)
    Intention (Natural acceptance ) Competence (Ability to fulfill )

    1 a ) I w ant to be happy 1 b ) I am always happy


    2 a ) I w ant to make the other happy 2 b ) I make the other always happy
    3 a ) The other wants to be happy 3 b ) The other is always happy
    4 a ) The other wants to make me happy 4 b ) The other makes me always happy

    What we really want to be What we are

    When we are assured of the intention of the other and find that the competence is
    lacking, we become a help to the other. When we doubt the intention of the other,
    we get into opposition.
    Do we have Trust today?
    This is the most serious matter in all our interpersonal
    relationships-between husband and wife, father and son,
    between friends-this basic lack of trust, at the level of
    intention, is the basic issue. And we seem to be doing
    nothing to address this issue, to resolve this issue.

    This is a matter of fact that what is the trust you carry with
    others and how you evaluate it on the part of others.

    “Why do people have poor competence?” You may ask. It is


    because hardly anyone is paying attention to understanding
    the relationships. People are largely unaware. We can
    see that people keep doing things they don’t mean to. Even
    each one of us. We don’t want to get angry (intention), but
    end up getting angry (lack of competence).
    What we mean by trust today?/How do we use this term ‘trust’
    today?
    Now, you may say,
    1.‘How can I trust a stranger?’
    2.‘How can I trust someone who has bad intentions?’
    (a)He has not paid attention to his own natural acceptance at
    all (no one, even in education, pointed this out to him)
    (b)Due to the unfavourable circumstances that he has grown
    up in, or lives in, he
    has assumed that robbing is right or the only way. So he
    goes ahead and does it.
    3.‘I know someone’s character is not good. How can I trust
    someone like that?’
    4.‘If I trust everyone, wouldn’t people take undue advantage
    of me?’
    5.‘This person can never be trusted. Be careful of that person’
    6.‘Never trust anyone blindly’
    To Summarize…..

    In all our relationships, trust is the foundation. A


    relationship without trust results in opposition, the
    relationship itself gets shaken up. Lack of trust is what
    ultimately leads to extreme situations like war.

    Trust is thus called the foundation value or ‘ãdhãra


    mülya’.

    Our natural acceptance is to live with a feeling of


    relatedness to all and this means that we have the
    assurance in us at all times that each and every human
    being wants my happiness.
    Respect means “Right
    Evaluation”
    • Over Evaluation (adhi-mülyana) - To evaluate more
    than what it is.
    – e.g if you are wrongly flattered you feel uncomfortable.
    • Under Evaluation (ava-mülyana) - To evaluate less
    than what it is.
    – e.g if you are condemned, you feel uncomfortable.
    • Otherwise Evaluation (a-mülyana) - To evaluate
    otherwise than what it is.
    – e.g if you are evaluated as something else , you feel
    uncomfort
    “The Basis For Respect”
    1. I want continuous happiness and prosperity.
    • The other too wants to be continuously happy and
    prosperous!
    2. To be happy, I need to understand and live in
    harmony at all four levels of my living.
    • The other also needs to understand and live in
    harmony at all four levels of his/her living!
    3. The activities in me (‘I’) are continuous, we can
    check this for our desire, thought and expectation.
    • It is the same for the other ‘I’ as well. The activities
    are continuous there as well, and the other too has
    continuous desires, thoughts and expectations.
    After analyzing situations we
    conclude:
    1. We both want to have continuous happiness and prosperity
    • Our basic aspiration is the same.
    2. We both need to have the right understanding: which is to
    understand and live in harmony at all four levels of our living.
    • Our program of action is the same.
    3. The Activities and Powers of the self are continuous and the
    same in both of us – at the level of ‘I’.
    • Our potential is the same.

    Based on these three evaluations we can conclude that……

    The other is similar to me


    “Assumed Basis For Respect
    Today”
    Differentiation on the
    basis of …

    Physical Beliefs
    Body
    Facilities

    Sex
    Sects
    Wealth Post Ism’s
    Race

    Age

    Physical
    Strength
    “The Problems Due to
    Differentiation”
    •Differentiation based on Sex/Gender
    •Differentiation based on Race
    •Differentiation based on Age
    •Differentiation based on Wealth
    •Differentiation based on Post
    •Differentiation based on ‘isms
    •Differentiation based on Sects
    “DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ‘ATTENTION’ AND
    ‘RESPECT’ ”
    There is a whole lot of surplus activity that people are engaged in
    today, for the sake of respect. It can be actually funny if you start
    observing: people are climbing up mountains for the sake of fame,
    eating hot chillies and worms to be on TV, putting on all kinds of
    clothes, shaving their heads, letting their hair grow long, letting their
    finger nails grow long, earning a lot of money (even trying to become
    the richest person on the earth), working very hard to be on the
    magazine cover, this list is simply endless! If one understood the
    simple fact that what you can get from all this is only ‘attention’ and
    that you cannot ensure the feeling of being in relationship, the feeling
    of right evaluation and respect in the other (ask yourself-when you
    wear an exclusive dress, does it create a feeling of respect in the other
    or a feeling of jealousy?), then all these people will feel very much at
    ease! Just think about it: all the while, people are uncomfortable
    inside, since they are struggling for the sake of respect. If I see my
    relationship with you, I shall anyway respect you. I accept you for
    what you are, a human being like me. You don’t have to do something
    special to earn this respect from me. The fact that you are human is
    enough for me to respect you.
    Affection (Sneha)
    • Affection is the feeling of being related to the
    other.
    • Affection comes when I recognize that we both
    want to make each other happy and both of us
    are similar. Then for the first time, I feel that I am
    related to the other that the other is a relative of
    mine. This feeling is called affection.
    • “This feeling of acceptance of the other, as one’s
    relative is the feeling of affection or sneha in
    relationship”
    “Competition
    ”
    • There is a lot of talk of competition today.
    • You will find that competition results when there is
    lack of affection.
    • When there is affection, I help the other grow.
    • When I miss this feeling, I try to beat the other, act
    as an opponent.
    • It has been assumed by us generally, that in
    certain spheres of life, we do need to
    compete with the other, treating the other as an
    opponent.
    • We want excellence, not competition
    Affection or sneha is the recognition of
    the feeling that the other is related to
    me. It comes naturally once trust and
    respect are recognized in relationship.

    The basic crisis today is that of Trust


    and Respect

    Once we have these, affection naturally


    follows.
    Care (Mamta)
    The feeling of Care (mamatã) is the feeling to nurture and
    protect the body of our relative
    Guidance (Vatsalya)
    The feeling of ensuring right understanding and feelings in the
    other (my relative) is called Guidance or vãtsalya .
    Reverence( Shraddha)
    The feeling of acceptance of excellence in the other is called
    reverence (shraddhã)
    Glory (Gaurava)
    Each one of us wants to live with continuous happiness and
    prosperity. Each one of us has the similar faculty of natural
    acceptance, has the same goal and program and we have the
    same potential to realize this.
    Gratitude (Kratigya)
    Gratitude is the feeling of acceptance for those who
    have made effort for my excellence.

    Love (Prema)
    The feeling of being related to all is love (or prema).
    This feeling or value is also called the complete
    value (Pürn.a mülya), since this is the feeling of
    relatedness to all human beings.
    Harmony from Family to World Family:
    Undivided Society
    Justice starts from family and slowly expands to the world
    family.
    In the family, we learn to recognize relationship,
    the definite feelings or the values and learn how to fulfill them.
    Undivided Society ( Akhan da Samãja)-feeling of being related
    to every human being.
    The feeling of being related to every human being leads to our
    participation in an undivided society(Akhan da Samãja).
    When we understand the values in relationship with other
    units in nature too, we are able to recognize our
    connectedness with them too, and fulfil it. This enables us to
    participate in the universal human order (Sarvabhaum
    Vyawasthã).
    We can now conclude that there are definite values in human-
    to-human relationships which need to be understood and
    fulfilled accordingly.

    These values are


    1. Trust
    2. Respect
    3. Affection
    4. Care
    5. Guidance
    6. Reverence
    7. Glory
    8. Gratitude
    9. Love
    Response and Reaction

    Reaction Response
    -Doubt on intention -We are able to see that
    relationship IS a t the level of 'I'
    – Irritation -We feel the relatedness with
    the other at the level of 'I'
    -Getting Angry -We don’t doubt the intention of
    the other 'I'
    –Fights -We feel a sense of
    responsibility to improve our own competence and the other's
    competence
    -We work for mutual fulfilment

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