What Is Personal Relationship?: Prepared By: Mary Joy Adelfa P. Dailo, LPT
What Is Personal Relationship?: Prepared By: Mary Joy Adelfa P. Dailo, LPT
What Is Personal Relationship?: Prepared By: Mary Joy Adelfa P. Dailo, LPT
RELATIONSHIP?
Business transactional
relationship
Professional relationship
Family relationship
Friendly relationship
We can also say that every
relationship has specific objectives
or purpose that a person wishes to
pursue, either because of need,
want, or desire.
HOW ARE ATTACHMENTS
DEVELOPED?
HOW ARE ATTACHMENTS DEVELOPED?
1. SECURE ATTACHMENT
2. AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT
3. ANXIOUS-AMBIVALENT
ATTACHMENT
THREE DIFFERENT ATTACHMENT STYLES
1. SECURE ATTACHMENT
Is when the primary caregiver is the most of the
time present and when all the emotional needs of an
infant are providing a sense of security to the
infant.
Chances for a child who is exposed to this style of
attachment, grow up to have more secure and stable
relationships.
THREE DIFFERENT ATTACHMENT
STYLES
2. AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT
Is when the primary caregiver is cold and detached,
and even unresponsive to a child’s need.
3. ANXIOUS-AMBIVALENT ATTACHMENT
Is when the primary caregiver is not consistent in terms
of presence and in the meeting a child’s emotional needs.
A person who experienced this style of attachment in
childhood may develop separation anxieties with a loved
one, or may have mixed feelings between hesitancy and
commitment when entering into meaningful
relationships.
WHAT DRIVES ATTRACTION?
WHAT DRIVES ATTRACTION?
1. LUST
2. ATTRACTION
3. ATTACHMENT
THREE STAGES OF FALLING IN LOVE
by Helen Fisher
1. LUST
Is driven by the sex hormones,
testosterone, and estrogen. These
hormones affect both sexes.
THREE STAGES OF FALLING IN LOVE
by Helen Fisher
2. ATTRACTION
Is described as the lovestruck phase, which
involves neurotransmitters in the brain such as
dopamine, neropinephrine, and serotonin.
This is the stage when a person loses sleep and
appetite over someone, and become very excited
to someone while daydreaming of this special
person.
THREE STAGES OF FALLING IN LOVE
by Helen Fisher
3. ATTACHMENT
When the couple in love decides to continue with
the relationship, they enter the attachment
stage where long-lasting commitments are
exchanged and may lead to raising a family
OTHER REASON WHY PEOPLE ATTRACTED TO
ONE ANOTHER
according to Rozenberg Quarterly
1. TRANSFERENCE EFFECT
2. PROPINQUITY EFFECT
3. SIMILARITY
4. RECIPROCITY
5. PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS
6. PERSONALITY CHARACTERISTICS AND
TRAITS
OTHER REASON WHY PEOPLE ATTRACTED TO
ONE ANOTHER
according to Rozenberg Quarterly
1. TRANSFERENCE EFFECT
There are times we meet people who we
immediately like or dislike. Usually, these
people remind us of someone in the past who
has affected our sense of self and our
behavior.
OTHER REASON WHY PEOPLE ATTRACTED TO
ONE ANOTHER
according to Rozenberg Quarterly
2. PROPINQUITY EFFECT
We often develop a sense of familiarity with people
who live close to us, work with us, or go to school with
us, which leads us to liking them more.
OTHER REASON WHY PEOPLE ATTRACTED TO
ONE ANOTHER
according to Rozenberg Quarterly
3. SIMILARITY
We are often attracted to like-minded persons and
those who have similar beliefs and values as ours,
because the similarity is a validation of our innermost
values and belief system, and who we are as a person.
OTHER REASON WHY PEOPLE ATTRACTED TO
ONE ANOTHER
according to Rozenberg Quarterly
4. RECIPROCITY
We like people who like us back. The more we are liked by
someone we equally like, the more we behave in ways that
promote mutual feeling of liking.
OTHER REASON WHY PEOPLE ATTRACTED TO
ONE ANOTHER
according to Rozenberg Quarterly
5. PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS
Several research studies were conducted to confirm that
physical attractiveness is a major factor in liking someone,
and usually, first impression counts a lot, too.
OTHER REASON WHY PEOPLE ATTRACTED TO
ONE ANOTHER
according to Rozenberg Quarterly
IS LOVE A FEELING?
IS LOVE A THOUGH?
IS LOVE PHYSICAL?
1. INTIMACY
2. COMMITMENT
3. PASSION
DIFFERENT COMPONENTS OF LOVE
As theorized in Robert Sternberg’s Triangular
Theory of Love
1. INTIMACY
Researchers Reis, Clark, and Holmes and
Shaver defined intimacy as:
"That lovely moment when someone
understands and validate us."
DIFFERENT COMPONENTS OF LOVE
AS THEORIZED IN ROBERT
STERNBERG’S TRIANGULAR THEORY
OF LOVE
1. INTIMACY
o Close Familiarity / Friendship / Closeness
INTIMACY
INTIMACY
2. COMMITMENT
3. PASSION
Intimacy
Romantic love
(intimacy + passion) Consummate love Companionate love
(intimacy + passion (intimacy + commitment)
+ commitment)
1. Criticism
2. Denial of the existence of conflict
3. Contempt
COMMITMENT: SAYING YES AND
MEANING IT
1. Criticism