Harmony in The Family: By: Priya Jaidka

Harmony in the Family
By: Priya Jaidka
Harmony in the Family

1. Relationship is between the self (I) and the other self (I)
2. There are feelings, or expectation of feelings, in relationship of one
self (I) for the other self (I)
3. These feelings can be recognized they are definite
4. Their fulfilment and evaluation leads to mutual happiness
Feelings in relationship:
1- Trust
2- Respect
3- Affection
4- Care
5- Guidance
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6- Reverence
7- Glory
8- Gratitude
9- Love
Trust
Trust = to be assured
= to be assured that each human being inherently wants oneself
and the other to be happy and prosperous, to have this clarity
Absence of Trust
= lack of assurance that the other intends my happiness
= Doubt, Fear, Opposition
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Trust
Verify on the basis of your
Verify on the basis of your natural

acceptance
1a. I want to make myself happy
competence
1b. I am able to make myself

always happy
2a. I want to make the other happy 2b. I am able to make the others
3a. The other wants to make
herself/himself happy
4a. The other wants to make me
happy
always happy
3b. The other is able to make

herself/himself always happy ?
4b. The other is able to make me
always happy
Intention Natural Acceptance
Competence
What I really want to be
What I am
??
Trust

acceptance
competence
1b. I am able to make myself

always happy
always happy


?
happy
always happy
??
I evaluate my self on my intention (2a)
I consider myself to be good because I have good intention
Competence
Natural Acceptance, ie Intention
When
I lack
competence,
my are
competence. I expect
What we
What we
really
want to be I want to develop
the other will understand this, and help me with affection
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Trust
I evaluate the other on his competence
(4b) on the basis of your
Verify
acceptance
Since the other does lack competence, competence
I assume the other does not
have
the intention
I doubt
his intention
1b. I (4a)
am able to make myself
1a. I want
to makemyself
happy
?
always happy
I conclude the other is bad
Irritation, anger, condemning the other are
indications
always
happy of doubt on
?
intention
Doubt on intention is a major reason herself/himself

for problems inalways
relationships
happy ?
happy

always happy
Competence
What we really want to be
What we are
??
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About the Other
About Myself
The other broke a glass

The other did not come on time
The glass broke by accident

I tried really hard to reach on time
The other makes mistakes

intentionally
I make mistakes by accident
The other is bad
I am good
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Trust
Trust on intention = Having no doubt on intention
acceptance
competence
Trust
is to be able to see that:
Everyone wants to understand (Sabhi
sahi
samajhna
chahte
hain)
1b.
I
am
able
to
make
myself
Everyone wants to live in harmony (Sabhi sahi jeena chahte hain)
?
always
happy
Everyone can understand (Sabhi sahi
samajh
sakte hain)
Ie. to have no doubt on intention, to have the clarity that the other wants
always happy
?
to
be
happy,
and
to
make
me
happy

happy

always happy
Competence
What we really want to be
What we are
??
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Opposition
Trust
If we do not have trust on

intention, we have a feeling of
opposing the other
If we have trust on intention, we

feel related to the other
We express this as irritation or

anger, breakup
In case the other is lacking in

competence, we start facilitating
the other to improve his/her
competence, affectionately
(without being irritated or angry)
(Small acts of mistrust stay in the

thoughts, multiply, grow; doubt,
fear, opression; opposition
ultimately leads to fighting,
struggle and war)
We make a program with the other

based on right evaluation of
each others competence
This is living with human
conciousness
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How many persons do you have trust on intention unconditional (never

having a feeling of opposition, getting irritated or angry)?
Is increase in this number progress or decrease in this number
progress?
(Answer yourselftry to find it inside your SELF)
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Respect
Respect = Right Evaluation
Over evaluation to evaluate for more than what it is
Under evaluation to evaluate for less than what it is
Otherwise evaluation to evaluate for other than what it is
Disrespect
Whenever the evaluation is not right, it is disrespect

If we observe, we will find in our day to day relationship, we tend to do
one of the above three, leading to disrespect
Check for yourself in every interaction with others whether it is respect
or disrespect
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Differentiation (Disrespect)
Differentiation
Physical
Facilities
Body
Gender
Age
= Disrespect
Race
Physical
Strength
Wealth
Beliefs
Post
Isms
Sects
Evaluation on the basis of Body, Physical Facilities or Beliefs

(preconditioning) turns out to be differentiation and therefore
disrespect
Differentiation like this has led to resentments and protests. Example:
Generation Gap, Black vs White, Powerful vs Opressed, Rich-Poor,
Communism-Capatilism, Hindu-Muslim and so on
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Respect : Right Evaluation on the basis of the Self (I)

1. Our purpose is the same, our natural acceptance is the same Just as I
want to be continuously happy, so does the other
2. Our program is the same Just as I can live happily by understanding and
living in harmony at all levels, so it is for the other
3. Our potential is the same Desire, Thought & Selection is continuous in
me and also in the other. Just as I can understand, so can the other
The minimum content of respect is to be able to see and accept that
The Other is Similar to Me
The difference could only be at the level of

4. Understanding ;not information
i.
ii.
If the other has better understanding than me, I want to understand from other
If the other has lesser understanding than me, I accept the responsibility to improve
the understanding of the other
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Differentiation
Respect
I evaluate on the basis of body,

physical facilities or belief (pre
conditioning)
I evaluate on the basis of I (Self)
The other is different from me
The other is like me
We are competitors. I make effort

to accentuate the difference, to
manipulate, exploit the other
We are complementary to each

other. I live with responsibility
1. We have the same purpose

2. We have the same program
3. We have the same potential
(difference only in competence)
if I have more understanding

than the other, I help the other
If the other has more
understanding than me, I
become ready to understand
from the other
This is living with human

conciousness
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The feeling of being related

Verify on the basis of your natural acceptance if you want to be related
to:
None
One
Many
Everyone
None
The feeling of being related to none in opposition to all
One
The feeling of being related to one
Affection
Many
The feeling of being related to many
Love
Everyone The feeling of being related to all
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The feeling of being related

Affection The feeling of acceptance of the other as ones relative
(feeling of being related to the other)
Love The feeling of being related to all (Complete Value)
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Excellence
Understanding of the Harmony &
Living in that Harmony
at all 4 levels
Excellence and competition are not similar.

In excellence, one helps to bring the other to his level
In competition, he hinders the other from reaching to his level
Excellence is Absolute & Definite
Competition is always relative, with no definite state, no point of
completion
Reverence The feeling of acceptance for Excellence
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Check for yourself

In relationship:
What is the role of physical facilities?
What is the role of feelings?
What is the priority?
Where is the bulk of the effort?
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Harmony in Family From Family to World Family (Undivided Society)

1. Relationship is between the self (I) and the other
self (I)
2. There are feelings, or expectation of feelings, in
relationship of one self (I) for the other self (I)
3. These feelings can be recognized they are
definite
4. Their fulfillment and evaluation leads to mutual
happiness
1- Trust FOUNDATION
VALUE
2345-
Respect 7- Glory
Affection8- Gratitude
Care
9- Love COMPLETE
VALUE
Guidance
6- Reverence
Justice is ensuring right understanding in the self leading to right feelings and
it's expression in relationship resulting in mutual happiness. We have
Natural Acceptance for Justice for All from Family to World Family
Natural acceptance for Justice is already within you
Right understanding makes you aware
Once you are aware of it, there is continuity of these feelings and you are able
to fulfil them
Having right feelings in oneself leads to ones happiness
Expressing these feelings to the other leads to happiness in the other
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Harmony in the Family

Verify on the basis of your natural

1b. I am able to make myself

3b. The other is able to make

Intention Natural Acceptance

What I really want to be

Verify on the basis of your natural

1b. I am able to make myself

3b. The other is able to make

4b. The other is able to make me

Doubt on intention is a major reason herself/himself

4b. The other is able to make me

Natural Acceptance, ie Intention

What we really want to be

About the Other

The other broke a glass

The glass broke by accident

The other makes mistakes

I make mistakes by accident

The other is bad

herself/himself always happy ?

4b. The other is able to make me

Natural Acceptance, ie Intention

What we really want to be

If we do not have trust on

If we have trust on intention, we

We express this as irritation or

In case the other is lacking in

(Small acts of mistrust stay in the

We make a program with the other

How many persons do you have trust on intention unconditional (never

(Answer yourselftry to find it inside your SELF)

Whenever the evaluation is not right, it is disrespect

Evaluation on the basis of Body, Physical Facilities or Beliefs

Respect : Right Evaluation on the basis of the Self (I)

The Other is Similar to Me

The difference could only be at the level of

I evaluate on the basis of body,

I evaluate on the basis of I (Self)

The other is different from me

The other is like me

We are competitors. I make effort

We are complementary to each

1. We have the same purpose

if I have more understanding

This is living with human

The feeling of being related

The feeling of being related

Excellence and competition are not similar.

Check for yourself

Harmony in Family From Family to World Family (Undivided Society)

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