MODULE 17: Teen-age Relationships Including the Acceptable and

Unacceptable Expressions of Attractions

WHAT IS PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP?
PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP- is a form of relationship closely linked to a
person and which can only be important to that person.
KINDS OF PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP
o PRIVACY and INTIMACY- are two attributes describing personal relationships
and level of commitment to another person/s
o IMPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP- commitment to an organization like a business
entity, a principle or purpose.
o ATTRACTION- it is a force that unites people and can grow into an attachment
which eventually leads to commitment
ATTRACTIONS TO REMEMBER:
1. PHYSICAL ATTRACTION IS BASED ON INSTINCT
2. PHYSICAL ATTRACTION DOES NOT NECESSARILY LEAD TO A GOOD
RELATIONSHIP
3. PLATONIC ATTRACTION IS IMPORTANT
4. THE UNATTAINABLE IS ATTRACTIVE
ATTRACTION
People differ in what they consider attractive, and cultural influences on
attractiveness. Some commonly attractive characteristics of women include wide
eyes, high cheekbones, and a thin jaw line. Robert Sternberg (1986) states that a
healthy relationship will have all three components of love – intimacy, passion, and
commitment.
Understanding the Acceptable and Unacceptable Means of Expressing
Attractions Toward The Opposite Sex
Filipino culture is bound to believe that a decent display of someone's feeling is also
a must to be accepted by society. The Republic Act (RA) 11313 intentionally
prohibits indecent and unlawful acts of expression. This RA broadens the scope of
the Anti-Harassment Act of 1995.
What Makes a Healthy and Acceptable Expression of Attractions?
1. Mutual respect.
2. Trust.
3. Honesty.
4. Support.
5. Fairness/Equality.
6. Separate identities.
7. Good Communication
10 Things That Are Unacceptable in Any Relationship
1. Cheating
 2. Putting you down
3. Not supporting your dreams
4. Controlling
5. Lack of communication
6. Unnecessary sacrifices
7. Unreliability
8. Forgetting the memorable day
9. Self-destruction
10. Not caring about friends and family

MODULE 18: PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP - ATTRACTION, LOVE, AND

COMMITMENT
ATTRACTION
The Merriam-Webster dictionary, collegiately defined attraction as: the action or
power of evoking interest, pleasure, or liking for someone or something. For many,
attraction relates only between two people having an intimate and romantic
relationship. However, it may also extend to friends, colleagues, family members,
and others.
KEY COMPONENTS OF ATTRACTION:
PHYSICAL ATTRACTION
Facial features like the shape and color of the eyes, the nose, lips, and cheekbones
have an impact when talking with another person or people. Certain similarities in
facial and bodily symmetry or resemblance with anyone they know, or with
someone they like, could also be determinants of liking someone.
SIMILARITY
Many researches support that similarity causes attraction. Oftentimes, people
categorize other people based on information they already know about them. When
people rely too much on that mentality, it results in stereotyping, where someone is
being judged by others only because they were part of a specific group.
PROXIMITY
The more you get to know someone, the more likely it is that they will become your
friend. Distance is an important aspect of any relationship and it is related to
functional distance (how often people interact or communicate with each other)
People who are always near you just like your classmate or neighbor have a big
chance to become your friends.
RECIPROCITY
Relationships are built on reciprocity and if one side is not reciprocating, then the
relationship is doomed. Reciprocity is when feelings with someone are being
reciprocated or returned in the same way as you do. These may happen in any
relationship, with friends, classmates, family members, or romantic partners.
LOVE
1. (a) strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties;
2. An assurance of affection
Some elements are responsible for the deep and strong bonds of a person
with others that resulted in love. Oxytocin, Vasopressin, Endorphin,
Serotonin, Dopamine are chemicals that promote strong connections
between people. When a person experiences heartbreak, the brain processes
like an addict quitting a heroin habit. (INSERT TRIANGLE)
COMMITMENT
Commitment is a choice, a long and not an easy process that needs to be
participated by you and your partner. Any relationship will last through the
cooperation of both parties, without this, the relationship will not last and ends with
break-ups.
HOW TO EXERCISE EXPRESSING AFFECTIONS AND DEVELOPED INTO A
COMMITMENT
1. Stay happy.
2. Be empathic.
3. Keep open communication.
4. Always trust.
5. Show respect.
6. Be a helping hand.

MODULE 19: Personal Relationships – Identify ways to become responsible in

a relationship
IMPORTANCE OF RELATIONSHIP
1. Lead us to make healthy relationships.
2. Help us see our potential.
3. Boost our confidence.
4. Give you a sense of direction.
5. Clear our life goals and aspirations.
6. Build a beautiful person within you
6 Major Elements of Becoming Responsible in a Relationship
1. Mutual Respect
2. Value Quality Time
3. Trust and Honesty
4. Well-communicated Love
5. Reliability and Security
6. Non-judgmental Listening and Presence
MODULE 20: Various Roles of Different Individuals in Society and How They
Can Influence People Through their Leadership or Followership
ROLE - Defines a set of norms, values, behaviors, and personality characteristics
attached to a status such as leader, follower, or club president.
Roles of an Efficient Leader that can influence people:
1. Set example
2. Assume and do responsibility
3. Show Initiative
4. Life-long learner
5. Show enthusiasm
6. Willing to serve
7. Active listener
8. Show empathy
9. Be sensitive to the need of others
10. Delegate work
11. Learn to appreciate
12. Be patient
Role of an Effective Follower that Leaders Need
1. Courage to do responsibility
2. Courage to challenge
3. Courage to participate in transformation
4. A can-do attitude
5. A collaborative approach
6. Courage to serve and subservient
7. The passion to drive personal groWth

MODULE 21: SOCIAL INFLUENCE

Social influence is characterized by a change in your behavior caused by the people
that empower you to adjust to a particular situation. Social influence is categorized
by conformity, compliance, and obedience. Conformity is changing your behavior to
be the same with the others in the group. Compliance is granting a request or
demand asked by another individual in exchange of either a reward or a
punishment. Obedience means changing your behavior to follow the demand given
by an authority or an adult you have high regards with.

MODULE 23: FAMILY STRUCTURES AND LEGACIES

FAMILY
Family came from the Latin word familia which means group of people living in the
household. Family is the basic unit of society.
Types of Family Structures
 1. Nuclear Family
2. Extended Family
3. Single Parent Family
4. Step Family
5. Foster Family
6. Adopted/Adoptive Family
7. Bi-racial or multi-racial Family
8. Trans-racial Adoptive Family
9. Conditionally separated Family
10. Childless Family
11. Gay or Lesbian Family
12. Migrant Family
13. Immigrant Family
The Emotional Legacy
A strong emotional legacy:
- provides a safe environment in which deep emotional roots can grow
- fosters confidence through stability
- conveys a tone of trusting support
- nurtures a strong sense of positive identity
- creates a “resting place” for the soul
- demonstrates unconditional love
The Social Legacy
Key building blocks of children’s social legacy include:
- respect, beginning with themselves and working out to other people
- responsibility, fostered by respect for themselves,
- unconditional love and acceptance by their parents,
- the setting of social boundaries
- rules that are given within a loving relationship
The Spiritual Legacy
The church is there to support parents in raising their children, but it cannot do the
raising; only parents can. Parents need to take the initiative and present faith to their
children. If parents are loving, affirming, forgiving and yet strong in what they
believe, children will think of God that way.

MODULE 24: Make a Genogram and Trace Certain Physical, Personality, or

Behavioral Attributes through Generations
GENOGRAM - pronounced: jen-uh-gram) is a graphic representation of a family
that displays detailed data on relationships among individuals. Genograms were first
developed and popularized in clinical settings by Monica McGoldrick and Randy
Gerson. Some practitioners in personal and family therapy use genograms to
explain family dynamics to the client.
GENOGRAM SYMBOLS

MODULE 25: Plan on How to Make the Family Members Firmer and Gentler
with Each Other
TYPES OF FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS
1. Couple relationship
2. Parent-child relationship
3. Sibling relationship
4. Extended family relationship
ACRONYM of FIRMER and GENTLER PLANS
- Foster unity.
- Involve each other.
- Respect individuality.
- Model the behavior.
- Explain expectations and consequences.
- Reward good behavior.
- Give love and forgiveness
- Express gratitude.
- Nurture trust.
- Take time together
- Listen attentively.
- Ensure safety.
- Remember God.
- Pray always.
- Learn good communication
- Accept failures.
- Nourish each other.
- Serve one another.