The Experiences in Close Relationships-Revised (ECR-R) Questionnaire

Fraley, Waller, and Brennan (2000)

Instructions: The statements below concern how you feel in emotionally intimate relationships. We are interested in how you generally experience relationships, not just in what is happening in a current relationship. Respond to each statement by circling a number to indicate how much you agree or disagree with the statement. 1. I'm afraid that I will lose my strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly partner's love. disagree somewhat somewhat agree strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly 2. My partner really understands me disagree somewhat somewhat agree and my needs. 3. I often worry that my partner strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly will not want to stay with me. disagree somewhat somewhat agree strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly 4. It's easy for me to be affectionate disagree somewhat somewhat agree with my partner. 5. I often worry that my partner strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly doesn't really love me. disagree somewhat somewhat agree strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly 6. I find it easy to depend on disagree somewhat somewhat agree romantic partners. 7. I worry that romantic partners strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly wont care about me as much as disagree somewhat somewhat agree I care about them. strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly 8. I feel comfortable depending on disagree somewhat somewhat agree romantic partners. 9. I often wish that my partner's strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly feelings for me were as strong as disagree somewhat somewhat agree my feelings for him or her. disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly 10. I talk things over with my partner strongly disagree somewhat somewhat agree 11. I worry a lot about my strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly relationships. disagree somewhat somewhat agree strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly 12. I tell my partner just about disagree somewhat somewhat agree everything. 13. When my partner is out of strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly sight, I worry that he or she disagree somewhat somewhat agree might become interested in someone else. 14. When I show my feelings strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly for romantic partners, I'm afraid disagree somewhat somewhat agree they will not feel the same about me. 15. I rarely worry about my strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly partner leaving me. disagree somewhat somewhat agree 16. My romantic partner makes strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly me doubt myself. disagree somewhat somewhat agree 17. I do not often worry about strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly being abandoned. disagree somewhat somewhat agree 18. I find that my partner(s) strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly don't want to get as close as I disagree somewhat somewhat agree would like. strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly 19. It helps to turn to my romantic disagree somewhat somewhat agree partner in times of need. 20. Sometimes romantic strongly disagree disagree neutral agree agree strongly partners change their feelings disagree somewhat somewhat agree about me for no apparent reason.

21. I find it relatively easy to get close to my partner. 22. My desire to be very close sometimes scares people away. 23. It's not difficult for me to get close to my partner. 24. I'm afraid that once a romantic partner gets to know me, he or she won't like who I really am. 25. I usually discuss my problems and concerns with my partner. 26. It makes me mad that I don't get the affection and support I need from my partner. 27. I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on romantic partners. 28. I am nervous when partners get too close to me. 29 I worry that I won't measure up to other people. 30. My partner only seems to notice me when Im angry. 31. I prefer not to show a partner how I feel deep down. 32. I feel comfortable sharing my private thoughts and feelings with my partner. 33. I am very comfortable being close to romantic partners. 34. I don't feel comfortable opening up to romantic partners. 35. I prefer not to be too close to romantic partners. 36. I get uncomfortable when a romantic partner wants to be very close.
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strongly disagree strongly disagree strongly disagree strongly disagree strongly disagree strongly disagree strongly disagree strongly disagree strongly disagree strongly disagree strongly disagree strongly disagree strongly disagree strongly disagree strongly disagree strongly disagree

disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat disagree disagree somewhat

neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat neutral agree somewhat

agree strongly agree agree strongly agree agree strongly agree agree strongly agree agree strongly agree agree strongly agree agree strongly agree agree strongly agree agree strongly agree agree strongly agree agree strongly agree agree strongly agree agree strongly agree agree strongly agree agree strongly agree agree strongly agree

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