Coping Skills & Resilience

A Coping Skills Toolbox

Let’s make a What Is It?

A Coping Skills Toolbox is a place
Self-Soothing
(Comforting yourself through
for you to keep things that calm your five senses)
Coping you down in periods of distress. If
you have everything gathered in one
1. Something to touch.
(EX: stuffed animal, stress ball)

Skills place, it’s easier to remember to use

your coping skills rather than
2. Something to hear.
(Ex: music, meditation guides)
3. Something to see.
Toolbox! using negative behaviors.
(Ex: snow globe, happy pictures)
4. Something to taste.
(Ex: mints, tea, sour candy)
5. Something to smell.
(EX: lotion, candles, perfume)

Distraction Opposite Action Emotional Awareness

(Taking your mind off the (Doing something the opposite of (Tools for identifying and
problem for a while) your impulse that’s consistent with expressing your feelings)
a more positive emotion)
Examples: Examples:
Puzzles, books, artwork, 1. Affirmations and Inspirations A list or chart of emotions, a
crafts, knitting, crocheting, (Ex: looking at or drawing journal, writing supplies, drawing
sewing, crossword puzzles, motivational statements or images) & art supplies
Sudoku, positive websites, 2. Something funny or cheering
music, movies, etc. (Ex: funny movies/TV/books)

Mindfulness Crisis Plan Put it all together!

(Tools for centering and (Contact info of supports and Once you’ve gathered all of your
grounding yourself in the resources for when coping skills items, put them together in a box
present moment) aren’t enough) or other container, decorate it to
your heart’s content, and put it in
Examples: Family/Friends a place where you’ll remember it.
Meditation or relaxation Therapist Then USE IT!!
recordings, grounding objects Counselor
(like a rock or paperweight), Trusted Adult
yoga mat, breathing exercises Hotline
911
 o p ing 36. Hug a pillow or stuffed animal. 71. Try to make many words out of the
C 37. Focus on something like a rock, letters in your name as possible .
s
Skill
picture, your hand, etc. 72. Sort through your photographs.
38. Dance. 73. Play with a balloon.
39. Make hot chocolate, milkshake or 74. Give yourself a facial.
smoothie. 75. Play with legos, or build something.
1. Exercise (running, walking, etc.). 40. Play with modeling clay, slime, or 76. Start collecting something.
2. Put on fake tattoos. Play-Dough. 77. Play video/computer games.
3. Write (poetry, stories, journal). 41. Build a pillow or blanket fort. 78. Clean up trash at your local park or
4. Scribble/doodle on paper. 42. Go for a nice, long walk. in your neighborhood.
5. Be with other people. 43. Complete something you've been 79. Perform a random act of kindness
6. Watch a favorite TV show. putting off. for someone.
7. Read a magazine. 44. Draw or color. 80. Text or call an old friend.
8. Go see a movie. 45. Take up a new hobby. 81. Write yourself an "I love you be-
9. Do a word search or crossword . 46. Look up recipes, cook a meal. cause…" letter.
10. Do schoolwork. 47. Look at pretty things, like flowers or 82. Look up new words and use them.
11. Play a musical instrument. art. 83. Rearrange your room.
12. Paint your nails, do your make-up or 48. Create or build something. 84. Write a letter to someone that you
hair. 49. Doodle. may or may not send.
13. Sing. 50. Make a list of blessings in your life. 85. Smile to at least five people.
14. Study the sky. 51. Read something funny. 86. Play with pets.
15. Punch a punching bag. 52. Go to a friend's house. 87. Go for a walk (with or without a
16. Cover yourself with stickers. 53. Jump on a trampoline. friend).
17. Let yourself cry. 54. Watch a happy movie. 88. Put a puzzle together.
18. Take a nap. 55. Contact a hotline/your therapist. 89. Clean your room/closet.
19. Take a hot shower or relaxing bath. 56. Talk to someone close to you. 90. Try to do handstands, cartwheels,
20. Play with a pet. 57. Ride a bicycle. or backbends.
21. Go shopping. 58. Feed the ducks, birds, or squirrels. 91. Do yoga.
22. Clean something. 59. Do a craft or create something. 92. Teach your pet a new trick.
23. Knit, crochet, or sew. 60. Memorize a poem, play, or song. 93. Learn a new language.
24. Read a good book. 61. Stretch. 94. Paint your face.
25. Listen to music. 62. Search for silly things on the 95. Get together with friends and play
26. Try some aromatherapy (candle, internet. Frisbee, soccer or basketball.
lotion, room spray). 63. Pick wildflowers, find items in nature. 96. Hug a friend or family member.
27. Meditate or pray. 64. Color-coordinate your wardrobe. 97. Search on-line for new songs/
28. Go somewhere relaxing. 65. Watch fish. artists.
29. Bake cookies. 66. Make a playlist of your favorite 98. Make a list of goals for the week/
30. Alphabetize your CDs/DVDs/books. songs. month/year/5 years.
31. Paint or draw. 67. Paint something. 99. Take deep breaths with your eyes
32. Rip paper into itty-bitty pieces 68. Plan an event. closed and your body relaxed.
33. Shoot hoops, kick a ball. 69. Plant some seeds.
34. Write a letter or send an email. 70. Hunt for things you wish for on-line.
35. Plan your dream room (colors/
furniture).
 Positive Self-Talk

1. When it comes to thoughts, you have a lot of mind and control!! Your body listens and responds to
your thoughts!!

Your mental self-talk can be: POSITIVE or NEGATIVE

2. Sports Psychology is a great example of the power of mind control. An athlete is taught to stay
positive, to stay calm, be focused, be confident, to “see yourself as a winner,” and to “picture the
ball going in the hole.” Many athletes find success with this positive thinking and imagery.

3. Another way of positive thinking and mind imagery is used in relaxation and relieving stress. You
can imagine a scene, place, or event that you remember as peaceful, restful, beautiful, and happy.
It acts as a retreat from places of stress and pressure; consequently, the body actually responds
with a lower blood pressure and a lower pulse rate to calm down and relax.

4. Just as making positive statements to yourself help you to build confidence, improve performance,
and improve your mental skills, negative thinking damages these things.

Our sub-conscious mind can’t tell the difference between what is real and what is imagined! It
takes any pictures, any thoughts that you send to it as reality. Once you direct an image or
visualization to your sub-conscious brain, it will work 24 hours a day to make that image a reality,
coming up with a plan to make those thoughts true for your life. So, choose your self-talk very
carefully because your sub-conscious brain takes whatever you send it as real.

Examples: If you were taught as a child that all dogs will bite you, your mind will automatically
raise that fear every time you see a dog. (Although your friend tells you that her dog is friendly,
your mind believes and sends the fear message. You have to re-train your brain!!!)

If you continually say, “I’m really bad at math,” then your brain will send thought reminders to you
like, “I can’t do this,” “This is too hard for me,” “I’ll never get this because I am bad at math.”

5. You can retrain and change your thinking by having positive self-talk. It’s not easy at first, but it
can literally change your life!

Today, we are going to practice this difficult, but powerful positive self-talk.
What is positive self-talk?
Positive self-talk is a strategy that we can use to help us get through anxiety provoking situations. It helps
us to break stress up and involves focusing on positive rather than negative statements. There are three
key stages: preparation, coping, and review.

Preparation
As we are about to enter a situation or face something that we find daunting, we can help ourselves to
prepare with positive statements such as:

“It’s not going to be as bad as I think.”

“It won’t last long and I can cope.”
“I am getting better and need to re-build my confidence.”
“If I do get bad feelings, I know they won’t last long and I can cope with them.”
“It’s better to go than not to go. Worry doesn’t help.”
“I might enjoy it if I go.”

Coping
In order to help us cope and stay in the situation, we can use positive statements such as:

“Concentrate on what is going on….not how I feel.”

“This is just anxiety; it is an unpleasant feeling, but I’ve never been ill.”
“Concentrate on what I have to do.”
“I know I am going to be OK.”
“The feelings always pass.”
“Relax and think positively.”
“One step at a time.”
“Anxious feelings are unpleasant, but not harmful or dangerous.”

Review
Comments to help you review your achievement and give yourself praise:

“I coped with that.”

“I achieved that; I am getting better.”
“I handled that; it should be easier next time.”
“I can be pleased with the progress I’m making.”
“I did that well.”
“If I keep this up, I’m going to get really good at this.”

Even when things don’t go according to plan, you should still take time to review the situation and praise
yourself for what you have achieved. Each small step is progress, so try to focus on the positives rather
than the negatives.
Here are some additional examples of self-talk statements for you to use. Pick a few to practice.

A. Preparation for Stress

I’ve succeeded with this before.
What exactly do I have to do?
I know I can do each one of these tasks.
It’s easier once I get started.
I’ll jump in and be alright.
Tomorrow I’ll be through it.
I won’t let negative thoughts creep in.
__________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________

B. Facing a Challenge
I will take it step by step; I won’t rush.
I can do this; I’m doing it now.
I can only do my best.
Any tension I feel is a signal to use my coping exercises.
I can get help if I need it.
If I don’t think about fear, I won’t be afraid.
If I get tense, I’ll take a deep breath and relax.
It’s OK to make mistakes.
___________________________________________________________
___________________________________________________________

C. Coping with Fear

Relax now!
Just breathe deeply.
There’s an end to it.
Keep my mind on right now—on the task at hand.
I can keep this within limits I can handle.
I can always call ________________________________________________
I am only afraid because I decided to be. I can decide not to be.
I’ve survived this and worse before.
Being active will lessen my fear.
______________________________________________________________
______________________________________________________________

D. Self-Congratulations
I did it!
I did alright.
I did well.
Next time, I won’t have to worry so much.
 I am able to relax away anxiety.
I’ve got to tell ______________________________________ about this.
It’s possible not to be scared.
All I have to do is stop thinking I’m scared.
_______________________________________________________________

E. Affirmations
Every day in every way I grow stronger and stronger.
I enter this day with a peaceful heart.
_________________________________________________________________
 Replace Negative Thoughts with Positive Thoughts
(Positive Affirmations)

These are some examples of positive affirmations. These statements can help students fight their negative
thoughts. Affirmations can help when students are thinking negative thoughts or even when they are not
thinking negatively. Affirmations work better and faster the more times a student says them. Students may
say these affirmations to themselves several times daily, or they may post them around their house so they
can look at them until they sink in. If students do not like these affirmations, encourage them to create their
own.

1. I am responsible and in control of my life.

2. Circumstances are what they are, but I can choose my attitude towards them.
3. I am becoming prosperous.
4. I am creating the financial resources I need.
5. I am setting priorities and making time for what is important.
6. Life has its challenges and its satisfactions; I enjoy the adventure of life.
7. Every challenge that comes along is an opportunity for me to learn and to grow.
8. I accept the natural ups and down of life.
9. I love and accept myself the way I am.
10. I deserve the good things in my life as much as anyone else.
11. I am open to discovering new meaning in my life.
12. It’s never too late to change.
13. I am improving one step at a time.
14. I am innately healthy, strong, and capable of recovering.
15. I am getting better every day.
16. I am committed to overcoming my condition.
17. I am working on recovering from my condition.
18. I can recover by taking small risks at my own pace.
19. I am looking forward to the new freedom and opportunities I’ll have when I’ve recovered.
20. I am learning to love myself.
21. I am learning to be comfortable by myself.
22. If someone doesn’t return my love, I let it go and move on.
23. I am learning to be at peace with myself when alone.
24. I am learning how to enjoy when alone.
25. I respect and believe in myself apart from others’ opinions.
26. I can accept and learn from constructive criticism.
27. I am learning to be myself around others.
28. It’s important to take care of my own needs.
29. It’s okay to be myself around others.
30. I appreciate my achievements and I’m much more than all of them put together.
31. I am learning how to balance work and play in my life.
32. I am learning that there is more to life than success.
33. The greatest success is living well.
34. I am a unique and capable person just as I am.
35. I am proud of doing the best I can.
36. It’s okay to make mistakes.
37. I am willing to accept my mistakes and to learn from them.
38. I am willing to allow others to help me.
39. I acknowledge my need for other people.
40. I am open to receiving support from others.
41. I am willing to take the risk of getting close to someone.
42. I am willing to relax and to let go.
43. I am learning to accept those things I can’t control.
 Replacement Thoughts

Instead of Thinking Try Thinking

Must Prefer
Should Choose to
Have to Want
Can’t Choose not to
Ought Had better
All Many
Always Often
Can’t stand Don’t like
Awful Highly undesirable
Bad person Bad behavior
I am a failure I failed at

Instead of Saying Exchange With

I have to do well. I want to do well.
You shouldn’t do that. I prefer you not do that.
You never help me. You rarely help me.
I can’t stand my job. I don’t like my job.
You are a bad boy. That behavior is undesirable.
I’m a loser. I failed at this one task.

Instead of Saying Exchange With

Anxious Concerned
Depressed Sad
Angry Annoyed
Guilt Remorse
Shame Regret
Hurt Disappointed
Jealous Concern for my relationship
 Positive Self-Talk/Coping Thoughts Worksheet

Positive statements encourage us and help us cope through distressing times. We can say these
encouraging words to ourselves and be our own personal coach. We have all survived some very
distressing times, and we can use those experiences to encourage us through current difficulties.

Examples of coping thoughts might be:

• Stop and breathe; I can do this.
• This, too, will pass.
• I can be anxious/angry/sad and still deal with this.
• I have done this before, and I can do it again.
• This feels bad; however, it’s a normal body reaction. It will pass.
• This feels bad, but feelings may sometimes be wrong.
• These are just feelings; they will go away.
• This won’t last forever.
• Short term pain for long term gain.
• I can feel bad and still choose to take a new and healthy direction.
• I don’t need to rush; I can take things slowly.
• I have survived before, so I will survive now.
• I feel this way because of my past experiences, but I am safe right now.
• It’s okay to feel this way; it’s a normal reaction.
• Right now, I am not in danger. Right now, I’m safe.
• My mind is not always my friend.
• Thoughts are just thoughts—they are not necessarily true or factual.
• This is difficult and uncomfortable, but it’s only temporary.
• I can use my coping skills and get through this.
• I can learn from this and it will be easier next time.
• Keep calm and carry on.

Write down a coping thought or positive statement for each difficult or distressing situation—something you
can tell yourself that will help you get through. Write them down on a piece of card and carry it in your
pocket or handbag to help remind you.

Difficult or Distressing Thought Coping Thought/Positive Statement

Ex: I always feel so awkward around people. Ex: Just because I feel awkward does not mean
that others see me that way.
 Positive Data Log

Collect evidence, however small or apparently insignificant, that supports the alternative core belief. Write
down that evidence on the form below—as soon as possible after you notice the evidence—otherwise you
might forget, minimize, or discount the evidence.

You might start by collecting one piece of evidence each day and gradually increase to 2, 3, or 5 pieces of
evidence each day to support the new healthy core belief.

Alternative/Healthy Core Belief: Ex: I’m going to fail high school and not get into a good college.

Date Evidence to Support the New Alternative/Healthy Core Belief

2/15 Ex: I got a B on my Science test.
 Learning to be G.L.A.D.

G: Something you were grateful for today.

Think of something very basic for which you are grateful. It could be something as simple as the sunlight or
the nourishing food you eat. Write it below.

_____________________________________________________________________________________

Now think of something truly important in your life like a meaningful relationship, kids, friends, or your
health. Write it below.

_____________________________________________________________________________________

L: Something you learned today.

Write down something positive you learned about yourself today. It might be something you already knew,
but it came into focus today.

_____________________________________________________________________________________

Write down something you learned about another person today. Again, it might be something you were
already aware of, but you were more aware of this quality today.

_____________________________________________________________________________________

Write down a fact you learned today that made you curious or more aware of the world around you.

_____________________________________________________________________________________

Write down how something you learned today which changed your perspective of yourself or the world
around you in a positive way.

_____________________________________________________________________________________

A: One small accomplishment you did today.

Many people feel that accomplishments have to be a big important task, but it’s the little things that make a
difference in your life. Perhaps you are working on a goal like exercising or eating healthier or finding a
new job. Small steps towards your goal are important accomplishments.

Write down something you accomplished today.

_____________________________________________________________________________________
D: Something that brought you delight today.
What made you laugh or smile?

_____________________________________________________________________________________

What small thing of beauty did you see today?

_____________________________________________________________________________________

What did you hear today that lifted your spirits? A song? A child’s voice? A joke?

_____________________________________________________________________________________

Now close your eyes and think of your day and what you wrote. Breathe deeply for a few minutes and
visualize a positive image from the day. Write down something important from this exercise that you want
to remember.

_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
_____________________________________________________________________________________
Positive
Experiences
Write briefly about two times in your life when you have exhibited each
of the following qualities:

Courage Sacrifice
1. ................................................................................... 1. ...................................................................................

2. ................................................................................... 2. ...................................................................................

Kindness Wisdom
1. ................................................................................... 1. ...................................................................................

2. ................................................................................... 2. ...................................................................................

Selflessness Happiness
1. ................................................................................... 1. ...................................................................................

2. ................................................................................... 2. ...................................................................................

Love Determination

1. ................................................................................... 1. ...................................................................................

2. ...................................................................................
2. ...................................................................................

Write about any other positive qualities you feel you have
displayed in your life:
.....................................................................................................................................................................................................

.....................................................................................................................................................................................................

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Self-Esteem: My Strengths
Circle your strengths from the choices below, or add your own at the bottom.

Wisdom Empathy Enthusiasm Bravery

Social
Kindness Artistic Love
Awareness

Cooperation Honesty Curiosity Forgiveness

Open Common
Leadership Fairness
Mindedness Sense

Modesty Persistence Self-Control Patience

Gratitude Love Humor Spirituality

of Learning

Ambition Creativity Confidence Intelligence

Athletic Discipline Independence Flexibility

Assertiveness Logic Adventurous Generous

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 THE BEST WAYS
OF COPING WITH
STRESS
1 IDENTIFY UNHEALTHY COPING MECHANISMS
• Social withdrawal.
• Over-sleeping.
• Over-eating sweet or fatty foods.
• Not taking care of yourself or your hygiene.
• Using drugs or alcohol.
• Taking out stress on others (in arguments or negative outbursts).
• Taking out stress on objects (breaking things).

2 BE PHYSICALLY ACTIVE
• Dance to your favorite song.
• Walk to the store instead of driving.
• Walk your dog, or borrow someone else's for half an hour.
• Take the stairs every time there's an option.
• Find an exercise buddy, and go to classes together.

3 BUILD AND MAINTAIN RELATIONSHIPS

• Ask a friend to hang out.
• Call, text or email an old friend to catch up.
• Invite your exercise buddy for a walk and a chat.
• Schedule weekly meetups with at least one friend.
• Get to know new people by signing up for an activity or joining a
club.
• Consider volunteer work, which not only counteracts loneliness
but also allows you to give back to the world in a way that's
profoundly satisfying.

4 CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE

• Think positive thoughts and say positive things.
• Stop overthinking every single thing.
• Set "worry periods" - only allow yourself to stress out for a short
period of time a day instead of the whole day long.
• Deliberately reframe life's challenges-ask yourself what
opportunities they might present.
• Make a gratitude list - what are you thankful for?
• Engage in active problem-solving.
• Find lessons.
• Put your problems into perspective-will you really care about the
present difficulty in a month, or a year?
• Avoid perfectionism. Set yourself realistic, practical goals.

5 DEVELOP A "STRESS RELIEF" TOOLKIT

• Walk in a naturally beautiful setting.
• Meditate.
• Interact with an animal.
• Book yourself a massage.
• Watch a comedy.
• Contact one of your best friends.
• Keep a journal.
• Make a cup of herbal tea.
• Have a hot bath with relaxing essential oils.
• Read a good book.

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 16 Apps to Help Children and Teens With Anxiety

You’re out with your son running errands, and you can see his anxiety getting bigger and bigger. You can’t
delay these errands, but you’re noticing he looks like he’s about to head into full meltdown mode.
Unfortunately, you don’t have his coping skills toolkit with you right now. What can you do? Maybe there’s
an app that could help.

Apps can help children and teens manage when they are feeling anxious. Some apps can also help
children get through an anxious moment. And there are still other apps that can help by distracting them.

Mindfulness for Children (Free version and Pro Version $4.99/One Time Fee)
The free version has five guided meditations for children. They give more detailed information about each
of their meditations and instructions on how to do mindfulness.

Relax Melodies (Free version and paid Pro Version available)

Not specifically targeted for children, but can be used by people of all ages. There’s a huge variety of
sounds you can play, but there are also guided meditations. There are a lot more options in the pro
version.

Calm (Lite version or $4.99/month for the year)

Calm is a popular app among adults for mindfulness and meditation. Did you know there’s a section called
Calm Kids? You can get access to it with a subscription. If you use the app for free, there’s also a daily
calm series inspired by the characters in Winnie the Pooh.

Positive Penguins ($0.99)

This is good for upper elementary children who are strong readers and typers. This app helps children
figure out why they are feeling a certain way and then encourages them to think of things in a different way.
There’s also a five-minute guided meditation. Cool fact—this app was created by children!

Mindful Minutes by Oops Yay ($1.99)

Super cute and child friendly. This app has relaxing music and no ads. There are four different little
minutes you can do—with a fish, a balloon, a star, and a gem. Children hold down the image as it goes up
through relaxing scenery. This is super calming even for adults.

Bedtime Meditations for Kids by Christiane Kerr

Can be helpful at bedtime to help children settle down and transition into sleep.
Headspace (Free limited access version, but you can upgrade for the full experience for $7.92/month for
aa year, or $12.99/monthly)
A popular one for adults, this also has a section just for children. It’s divided by age (under 5, elementary
children, and pre-teens) and covers topics like calm, focus, kindness, sleep, and wake up. There’s an
introduction video to help you get started.

Stop, Breathe, and Think: Meditations (Free, Premium version available starting at $4.99)
This is another app that is for adults, but also has a family section with three guided meditations for families
to use together.

Recolor: Coloring Book for Kids (Free)

A coloring app that’s very easy to use. Just pick a picture and a color palette. Touch the color you want
and tap the area of the picture you want to color in. You can zoom in on details. What a neat way to
distract children!

Tanzen Free (Free)

Relaxing tangram puzzles. They have all the pieces out for you; all you have to do is arrange them.

Blox (Free)
This is a beautifully minimalist 3D physics game. Relax and enjoy the peaceful waves and calm sounds as
you swipe away blocks from an endless tower. Be sure to keep the diamond on top while you move out the
blocks below.

Mekorama (Free)
You lead a cute little robot through puzzles with no timers or buzzers. It’s adorable!

Breath of Light: Relaxing Puzzler ($1.99)

It’s gorgeous and the background music is quite relaxing.

Monument Valley ($3.99)

It’s a puzzle game where you are changing the environment to get from a starting point to the end. The
music is so soothing.

Highlights Hidden Pictures ($3.99/month)

You can zoom in on pictures and find the images. You can do free play, timed play, or find the clues in a
particular order.

Audible ($14.95/month after free 30 day trial)

Listening to books can be a great way to distract children and have them focus on something else other
than their anxiety. This app is connected to Amazon, and it’s a way you can listen to audiobooks. There
are a ton of books available. It can be used across devices, so you are always in the right place in a book.
Children can listen to books such as Harry Potter, Magic Tree House, Eragon, and Diary of a Wimpy Kid.
YOU WERE BORN
TO BE REAL, NOT IT’S
TO BE PERFECT.
OK.
The greatest weapon against stress is our
ability to choose one thought over another.

KEEP GOING, You have to fight

YOU ARE through some
GETTING bad days
THERE. to earn the
best days
of your life.

WHAT
CONSUMES
YOUR MIND,
“KNOW WHO YOU ARE CONTROLS
AND KNOW IT’S ENOUGH.“
YOUR LIFE.
Change the way you see things,
and the things you see will change
 Cognitive Distortions For Teens

Mind Reading: You assume you know what people thinking

without having evidence or proof of their thoughts. “He thinks I’m
an idiot.” “I’m not going to make the team”

Future-Telling: You predict the future – that things will get

worse or that there’s danger ahead. “If I go, people will make
fun of me.” “If I talk, I will mess up and not say what I mean.”

Catastrophizing: You believe what might

happen will be so awful and unbearable that you won’t be able to
stand it. “It would be terrible if I failed.” “If I make a bad grade
then I will never get into a good college.”

Labeling: You assign general negative traits to yourself and

others. “I’m disgusting.” “He’s horrible.” “She’s irrelevant.”

Discounting Positives: You claim that the

positives that you or others have don’t matter. “That’s what I’m
supposed to do, so it doesn’t count.” “Those successes were easy
so they don’t matter.”

Negative Filter: You focus almost exclusively on the negatives

and seldom notice the positives. “Look at all the terrible things
on the news.” “Girls never have anything nice to say.”

Overgeneralizing: You perceive the likelihood of a negative

outcome based upon a single incident. “I fail all the time.”

All-or-None Thinking: You view events or people

in all-or-none/black-and-white terms. “It was a
waste of time.” “I get rejected by everyone.”
“Nothing ever goes my way.”

Shoulds: You interpret events in terms of how things should be

rather than simply focusing on what is. “I should do well; if I don’t, I’m a failure.”
 Personalizing: You attribute a most of the blame to yourself for
negative events and fail to see that certain situations are also
caused by others. “My relationship ended because I wasn’t fun
enough.” “It was my fault my group got a bad
grade.”

Blaming: You focus on the other person as the source of your

negative feelings and refuse to take responsibility for changing
yourself. “She’s to blame for the way I feel.” “My parents caused
all my problems.” “My teacher is the reason I’m not doing well.”

Judgment Focus: You view yourself, others, and events in terms of

evaluations of “good” and “bad” or “right” and “wrong” rather than
simply describing, accepting, or understanding. “I didn’t perform
well.” “I tried it, and I just kept doing it wrong.” “Look how successful
she is, I’m not that successful.”

Regret Orientation: You focus on the idea that you could have
done better in the past, rather than on what you can do better
now. “I could have had a better job if I had tried harder.” “I
shouldn’t have said that.” “I always mess up.”

What if: You keep asking a series of questions about what if

something happens, and fail to be satisfied with any of the answers.
“Yeah, but what if I get anxious, and I can’t catch my breath.”

Emotional Reasoning: You let your feelings guide your

interpretation of reality. “I feel sad, therefore I must be
depressed.” “I feel anxious, therefore I must be in danger.”

Inability to Disconfirm: You reject any evidence or

arguments that might contradict your negative thoughts. “I’m
unlovable – my friends hang out with me only because they must feel
sorry for me.” “I’m a bad person – I only help others because it makes
me feel better about myself.”

Unfair Comparisons: You interpret events in terms of

standards that are unrealistic. “Others did better than I did on the
test.” “People my age are more successful than I am.”
Unhelpful Thinking Styles

x
All or nothing Over-
thinking Sometimes called ‘black generalising
and white thinking’ Seeing a pattern based
“everything is upon a single event, or
If I’m not perfect I have failed always rubbish” being overly broad in the
“nothing good conclusions we draw
Either I do it right or not at all ever happens”

Mental filter Disqualifying Discounting the good

Only paying attention to the positive things that have happened
certain types of evidence.
or that you have done for
Noticing our failures but +++ some reason or another
not seeing our successes
That doesn’t count

Jumping to There are two key types of Magnification Blowing things out of
conclusions jumping to conclusions: (catastrophising) proportion
• Mind reading & minimisation (catastrophising), or
(imagining we know what inappropriately shrinking
others are thinking) something to make it seem
• Fortune telling less important
2+2=5 (predicting the future)

should
Emotional Using critical words like
reasoning Assuming that because we ‘should’, ‘must’, or ‘ought’
feel a certain way what we can make us feel guilty, or

must
think must be true. like we have already failed

I feel embarrassed so I must If we apply ‘shoulds’ to

be an idiot other people the result is
often frustration

Labelling Personalisation Blaming yourself or taking

Assigning labels to
ourselves or other people responsibility for

ID
“this is something that wasn’t
completely your fault.

TUP
I’m a loser
Conversely, blaming other
S my fault”
I’m completely useless
They’re such an idiot people for something that
was your fault.

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 Name the Pattern!

Negative Thought Dysfunctional Pattern Rational, Positive

thought
I got into trouble at school Jumping to Conclusions I did something at school
today. I just know they’re going (Fortune-Telling) today that I’m not proud of,
to kick me out tomorrow. but everyo0ne makes
(also a bit of mistakes and it’s not the
Catastrophizing) end of the world! I’ll try
harder tomorrow not to
make the same mistake
again.

My friend looked at his watch Personification I can’t know for certain why
when I was talking today. He my coworker looked at his
must be thinking I’m boring. watch when I was talking. If
he thought I was boring, he
probably wouldn’t come
over to talk to me every day!

I got an award at the assembly Minimizing Positives I worked really hard to get
yesterday, but that’s no big that award! My hard work
deal. I’m not really that good of really paid off!
a student.

If I don’t get a date to the Catastrophizing It would be really difficult

homecoming dance, there’s’ no not to get a date to the
way I could ever go back to dance, but I could still go
school and face my classmates with my friends and have a
again! good time. Maybe there’ll be
other people there without
dates!

There’s no way I could ever be Comparison Our star quarterback is

as talented as the star really talented! Even if I’m
quarterback on the football never quite as good as he is,
team. I shouldn’t even try. it doesn’t mean I shouldn’t
play. There are lots of other
things I’m good at!
I only got a B on my reading All - Or - Nothing Even though a B isn’t what I
test. I always fail. I shouldn’t was hoping for on that test,
have even tried. it’s still pretty good! Next
time I could study even
more and see if can do even
better!

I can’t believe I gained 3 Maximizing Negatives Wow. I didn’t realize I’ve

pounds. I’m so fat and ugly. gained 3 pounds, but that
doesn’t define all of who I
am. I’ll just make sure to get
my exercise in 3 times this
week and stop having
Mountain Dew with every
meal.

My teacher didn’t answer me Jumping to Conclusions My teacher didn’t answer

when I said hello to her this (Mind Reading) me when I said hello to her
morning. She’s probably mad at this morning. She might be
me for something. upset with me, but I can’t
know that for sure unless
she tells me so. May be she
didn’t hear me?

Another student called me a Overgeneralization A student teased me today,

name once today. People are but that’s his problem! Lots
always making fun of me. of other people are friends
with me. I don’t need to
dwell on one negative
experience.

I must get all A’s to be a good Shoulds/Musts I’m a good student as long
student. as I do the best that I can
and work hard each day. I
don’t have to be perfect.

I hate how I look, so I must look Emotional Reasoning Just because there are
ugly to everyone else too. some things I don’t like
about my appearance
doesn’t mean everyone
feels that way! No one is
perfect!
 Classroom Interventions for Anxiety

1. Create a “safe” place for the child to go when the symptoms are high.

2. Be aware of physical symptoms of anxiety and provide activities to distract the child.

3. Allow a few minutes at the beginning of the day for the child to transition into the school day.

4. Talk to the student about what interventions they would find helpful.

5. Teach the child relaxation techniques they can do at school.

6. For children avoiding school because of anxiety, offer suggestions such as coming to school for a shorter
day.

7. Use small group activities throughout the day.

8. Reward effort by a student with anxiety.

9. Create group activities that role-play appropriate behaviors.

10. Decrease situations that induce stress.

11. Discuss anxiety symptoms privately with the student.

12. Discuss alternative ways of handling situations.

13. Find books that address children with anxiety.

14. Teach positive self-talk to the entire class.

15. Post the daily routine in the classroom and let students know in advance of any changes in the schedule.

16. Help students break assignments down into smaller segments.

17. Play soothing music during down time.

18. Incorporate exercise into the school day.

19. Use computerized reading programs.

20. Discuss what sections of a book will be read aloud with a student before calling on them to read.

Note: What interventions—if any—that will be used with a student should be made on a case-by-case scenario
based upon the data.
 My Strengths and Qualities

Things I am good at… Compliments I have received…

1 1

2 2

3 3

What I like about my appearance… Challenges I have overcome…

1 1

2 2

3 3

I have helped others by… Things that make me unique…

1 1

2 2

3 3

What I value the most… Times I have made others happy…

1 1

2 2

3 3

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 Helpful Books for Children and Families
This is a collection of the best books for children to teach them how to deal with complex emotions.
Included, too, are recommended books for parents to support their children and to help them understand
their feelings and figuring out healthy strategies to use on a daily basis.
Books for Families
Yoga and Mindfulness for Children and Families
 Teaching Yourself How to “Deep Breathe”

1. Deep Breathing helps you feel better when you are angry or nervous. Because you are the boss
of your body, you can relax and feel better.

2. Check if you are breathing now. Good! You are an expert at breathing! Wow, Deep Breathing will
be pretty easy for you to learn.

3. Make the air come in through your nose and out of your mouth. Practice that. (If your nose is
plugged up, just use your mouth).

4. Now, make sure you are sitting up straight. Make sure your feet are down. This makes the air
better for you.

5. Deep Breathing is a long, slow tunnel of air coming into your nose. Can you practice that?

6. Deep Breathing is a long, slow tunnel of air comes out of your mouth. Practice that.

7. Remember to breathe in and out, slow and long. Sometimes, moving your hands with the air can
help.

8. The job is to do 5 deep breaths. Let’s do them together.

9. Great job! Deep Breathing is like a super-secret skill that you can use right in front of people and
they might NEVER EVEN NOTICE! When you feel angry or nervous, you should do Deep
Breathing.

10.The last thing to know is: You HAVE to practice Deep Breathing or it won’t work. Just like you
practice (baseball, piano, reading, tying your shoes), you have to practice Deep Breathing to get
good at it. You should practice it when you feel good and happy. That way, you will be an expert
deep breather when you get angry or nervous.

11. Remember, you are the boss of your body. You can feel better by Deep Breathing.

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 Teaching Yourself How to “Spaghetti Body”
1. Sometimes, your body gets too tight. This happens when you are mad or nervous.
Spaghetti Body is something you do to get your body loose. That makes you feel better.
Since you are the boss of your body, you can make the tight go away.

2. Have you seen wet spaghetti noodles? They are wiggly, not tight. You can make your body
like spaghetti noodles.

3. Okay, this is the cool part. To get your Spaghetti Body, first you have to make your body
very tight all over! Let’s practice. Scrunch your hands very tight. And now, spaghetti your
hands very loose. Great job.

4. Stand up now. When I say a body part, you scrunch it very tight. Count to 3. Then make it
Spaghetti loose. So you will scrunch, hold for 3, then relax it like a noodle. What will you
do? (Have child repeat directions).

5. Scrunch your feet. 1,2,3. Now Spaghetti! Scrunch your legs. 1,2,3. Now Spaghetti! Scrunch
your bottom! Laughing is okay, but keep scrunching. 1,2,3. Now Spaghetti. You want to do
your bottom again, right? Okay, go ahead. (Repeat for stomach, shoulders, arms, hands,
neck, face, eyes).

6. Great job! You did Spaghetti Body! You should feel pretty loose and wiggly all over. Doing
Spaghetti Body helps your body feel less sad or nervous. This means you will feel better.

7. The last thing to know is: You HAVE to practice Spaghetti Body or it won’t work. Just like
you practice (baseball, piano, reading, tying your shoes), you have to practice Spaghetti
Body to get good at it. You should practice it when you feel good and happy. That way,
you will be an expert spaghetti kid when you get mad or nervous.

8. Remember, you are the boss of your body. You can feel better by doing Spaghetti Body.

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 Teaching Yourself How to “Stress Press”
1. Stress Press helps you feel better when you are mad. And that’s good, because when you’re
mad, sometimes you make bad choices and get into trouble. So Stress Press can help you NOT
get into trouble. Do you know what stress is? Stress is when something happened, and you
didn’t like it, and your body got mad. Like, maybe your face got hot and your muscles got tight,
and your eyebrows got mean. Stress is not good. But you can make it go away, because you are
the boss of your body.

2. Okay, hold out your hands and show me your palms. Did you know your palms have heels, just
like your feet? They are here (bottom part of hand, just above wrist). Circle your palm heels with
your fingers. Good. Now, make your hands flat, with straight, tight fingers. And press your palm
heels together. Put your elbows out—straight as a line! Don’t let your hands touch your chest.

3. Press your palm heels together as hard as you can. Your arms should go a little shaky if you press
for long enough. That is the Stress Press. Let’s do it together, and I want you to count out loud to
10 while we do it.

4. Great job! You did the Stress Press! It helps you calm down when you’re mad. It doesn’t fix the
problem that made you mad, BUT it helps you make better choices about the problem. Do you
understand?

5. The last thing to know is: You HAVE to practice Stress Press or it won’t work. Just like you
practice (baseball, piano, reading, tying your shoes), you have to practice Stress Press to get
good at it. You should practice it when you feel good and happy. That way, you will be an expert
stresser-presser when you get mad. Remember, you are the boss of your body. You can feel
better by doing Stress Press.

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 Imagery
1. Imagery is just daydreaming, but a little more structured and purposeful. It can be very helpful when
you’re upset or stressed out. The rule of thumb for imagery should be “more than a minute, less than an
hour.” It is a short escape from an upsetting situation.

2. There are lots of ways to use imagery to relax. You can imagine any one of these:
a. Relaxing place
b. Soothing person
c. Secret lockbox

3. There are two KEYS to effective imagery:

a. Get all your senses involved: sight, sound, taste, touch, smell. The more sensorily-rich your
imagery is, the more effective and relaxing it can be.
b. Breathe deeply and calmly throughout

4. For relaxing place: Think of a place you have been to, or seen in a movie, or read about in a book, or
otherwise imagined. This place should be safe. Some people like to think of the beach, a forest, or
grandma’s porch swing, for example. Once you have that place in mind, really focus on what it feels like
to be there. What are you wearing? What do you hear? What are the smells? Focus on the space
between your feet and the floor. Now what do you hear? Is there a taste in your mouth? Focus on the
space between your teeth and tongue. Are there people around? Is there a breeze? Ask and answer
these questions gently, as they come up. And if you don’t like the answers, imagine them changing.

5. For soothing person: Imagine someone who is kind, sees the best in you, and is never cruel. (Crushes
don’t work for this; the person is probably an adult or close friend). This might be someone in your life
right now. Or a fictional character. Or, if you believe in a higher power, it could be this, too. Once you
have the person in mind, imagine in detail what they look like, what they are saying, and what you feel
like with them.

6. For secret lockbox: Imagine—in great detail—a place in your mind where you keep what is most special
to you: your favorite memories, your good feelings, your hopes and dreams. Very clearly construct in
your mind what the lockbox looks like, and where you keep it. Open the box (do you need a key? A code?
Is it at the bottom of the ocean?) and sift through the lockbox, finding some or all of the pleasant things
you keep in there.

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 Pluses & Minuses
When you have a tough decision to make, complete this chart. It can help you decide what to do.
When you’re done, show this worksheet to someone you trust, who loves you, to help with your decision.
CHOICE 1:
CHOICE 2:

Pluses of Choice 1 Pluses of Choice 2

Minuses of Choice 1 Minuses of Choice 2

Pluses of NOT doing Choice 1

Pluses of NOT doing Choice 2

Minuses of NOT doing Choice 1 Minuses of NOT doing Choice 2

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 Progressive Muscle Relaxation
1. Progressive Muscle Relaxation is good to do when you are stressed out, sad, angry, or nervous. It
buys you time to calm down and prepare good solutions to your problems. You can do it quickly
(in a couple minutes), or take your time (20 minutes). You can do this in public, since it’s not very
noticeable. However, it is usually more effective when you’re alone. (If you’re in a crowded
place, steal away to a restroom stall, if possible…)

2. Sit or stand comfortably, but straight.

3. Close your eyes. (Oops, once you have the rest of this memorized…)
4. Take three deep breaths—in and out—through your nose.
5. Starting at your feet, feel them TOTALLY relax, and become even floaty-feeling.
6. Then, think of each body part as you move up your body. As you do, each part relaxes.
7. VERY SLOWLY, think of and relax—ankles, calves, shins, knees, thighs, hamstrings, bottom,
abdomen, lower back, stomach, middle back, spine, chest, upper back, shoulders, upper arms,
lower arms, wrists, hands, fingers, neck, chin, tongue, eyes, forehead, top-of-your-head.

8. If you want to go back down again, that can be even better.

9. The only way Progressive Muscle Relaxation can be effective is if you practice it when you’re not
upset. That way it becomes a kind of habit. You can train yourself to automatically think of it
when you’re stressed out, mad, sad, angry, or nervous. It’s also a great way to fall asleep…

10. When you’re upset, your brain has difficulties coming up with good ideas. It is usually not how
upset you feel that makes a situation terrible. What makes things really bad is when you react to
situations while you’re upset. It is absolutely worth it to take a couple minutes to do Progressive
Muscle Relaxation. Then, come back to the situation with a clearer head, and problem-solving is
a little easier.

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BELLY BREATHING
Helps with: Pain, Sleeping, Nausea, Anxiety, Worries, Anger

What is it? Belly breathing is a special way of controlling your breathing that
can help you relax, feel better and help your body to work its best.

What do I need? You really don’t need any tools but yourself to make this work,
but some things that may help are:
• A comfortable place.
• Your hand.
• Items such as a book, a pinwheel, bubbles or a harmonica.
See the tips section to see how these items can help.

When to use it?

• Do this anytime you are feeling nervous, stressed, angry or are in pain. You can
use it when you first notice these feelings, while you have these feelings or after
the feelings to help keep them away.
• You can use it to help you feel more comfortable with many things.
• Try to practice 2-3 times per day. In order for this to work at stressful times, you
must practice breathing techniques frequently when you are calm. By becoming
aware of your breathing and learning to use belly breathing it will become more
natural and automatic.

How do I do it?
1. Get into a comfortable position and let all of your muscles be soft and loose.
2. Imagine that your belly is a balloon and that right now it’s deflated.
3. Put your hand on top of your belly.
4. Breathe in slowly through your nose while you count to 3. Feel the balloon fill
with air as it raises the hand on your belly.
5. Breathe out slowly through your mouth while you count to 5. Feel the balloon
get flat as the hand on your belly lowers.
6. Try to breathe out for longer (5-6 seconds) than you breathe in (3-4 seconds.)
7. Imagine that the uncomfortable feelings leave your body as you breathe out.

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Tips:
• To check whether you are doing belly breathing or chest breathing, you may find
it helpful to place one hand on your belly and the other on your chest. The hand
on your belly should be moving up and down while the hand on your chest
shouldn’t move at all.
• Some kids might want to lie down on the floor with a small toy, book or paper
cup on their belly. With each breath, the object should move up and down.
• While you are exhaling slowly, you can:
• Keep a pinwheel spinning for 3-4 seconds.
• Blow out through the straw part of a pinwheel (take the top off) to help slow
down your breathing.
• Blow long, slow streams of bubbles from a bubble wand.
• Hold a note while blowing on a harmonica for 3- 4 seconds.

How can this help me? Breathing calms the mind and produces a state of relaxation in
your body. This is because when you breathe deeply, the message “calm down and
relax” gets sent your brain. Then your brain sends this message to your body. Those
things that happen when you are stressed, such as a fast heart rate and quick breathing,
all decrease as you breathe deeply. For example, Belly Breathing relaxes your muscles,
calms your nerves and helps release chemicals (called endorphins) in your body that
reduce pain.
GUIDED IMAGERY
Helps with: Pain, Sleeping, Nausea, Anxiety, Worries, Anger, Fatigue

What is it? Guided Imagery is a tool that helps your body by letting your mind
take you to healthy places that feel good. It uses your imagination to change your
thoughts by focusing on your senses (sound, vision, smell, taste, touch, movement.)
It’s like daydreaming – when your mind begins to wander and you imagine that you
are doing something fun. You can decide what to think about and what to imagine
and the best part is that your brain will listen.

What do I need? The main things you need are your brain and your imagination.
Other things you may use:
•A favorite memory or pictures of things you like doing or places you wish you could be.
• A favorite smell or scent.
• A CD with a visualization or imagery script.
See the tips section to see how these items can help.

When to use it?

• Do this anytime you are feeling nervous, stressed, angry, worried or are in pain.
• You can use it during times you wish you could go or be somewhere else because
you are uncomfortable.

How do I do it?
1. Close your eyes.
2. Take 3-5 deep belly breaths (see card #1: Belly Breathing.)
3. It’s time to imagine you are going to your special place. Where would you like to go?
If you could be anywhere in the world at this moment, where would you be? At the
beach with family, out with friends, at a sports game, somewhere feeling healthy?
4. When you have picked out a place, picture yourself there. Through your mind, you
can be at this place as if this were really happening.
5. Use all of your daydreaming skills and think about every little thing that makes this
place and experience just as you like it.
a. What do you see?
b. What does it smell like?
c. What does it taste like?
d. What sounds do you hear?

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 e. What do things that you can touch feel like?
f. How does your body feel as it moves (or rests) just the way you want it to?
6. Be aware of how comfortable your body feels when you are imagining yourself in
this place. You may notice your breathing slow down and your muscles feel looser
as your whole body starts to relax.

Tips:
• A favorite smell or scent can make your imagination activity more enjoyable and
bring your special place to life. Using a special scent before or during the imagery
activity can help you to feel even more comfortable and relaxed.
• Sometimes people find it difficult to do this imagination activity on their own.
If this is the case for you, you may be able to use a photograph or a picture from
a book or the computer to help jump start your imagination. It may be helpful to
have someone, like your mom or dad, lead you through this activity. Or maybe you
already have a CD that describes a special, relaxing place to you. You can listen to
this CD and use it to help your mind picture yourself there. Or, if you are in the
hospital, the Child Life department can loan you a CD.

How can this help me? Have you noticed that when you think about sad stuff you
feel sad or when you think about things you are worried about you feel nervous or
when you actually think about your pain, you hurt more? Fortunately, just like your
body and brain listen to you when you are thinking about bad stuff you can start to
think about good stuff to feel better. Usually when you think about good stuff, you
start to feel better and more comfortable. It’s like changing the channel on your TV to
something you really want to watch or turning the volume up or down in your body
to a level that is more comfortable for you. If you’re sad or afraid, your mind can bring
you to places that feel happy and calm. If you have pain, for example, your mind can
help you picture yourself comfortable and relaxed. You can find the places in your
mind where you’re in control of your body and where you feel happy and relaxed.
JOURNALING
Helps with: Everything.

What is it? You can use a journal or computer to write about your experiences.
It’s a way to get your thoughts and feelings out. You can keep these writings to
look back on yourself or to share with others. Or you can tear them up or delete
them right away. It’s doesn’t matter what you do because the most important part
is just to release the feelings and better understand them for yourself.

What do I need? A piece of paper and a pen or pencil is all you need.
However, other things you might want to use are:
• A special notebook.
• A computer.
• An audio or video recorder.
• Crayons or markers, stickers, pictures.
• If you are in the hospital, the Child Life department can provide you with a
notebook, computer or crayons/markers and stickers.
See the tips section to see how these items can help.

When to use it?

• When you can’t seem to get things off your mind.
• When you are feeling scared, nervous, upset, sad or angry about something.
• When you want to share with others about what is going on with you.
• When you are excited about something that just happened or is about to happen.
• When you want to encourage, help or inspire others.

How do I do it?
1. You can write, type, draw or even talk about your thoughts and feelings.
2. Be open and honest.
3. Consider writing about an upsetting emotional experience, especially if it is
something that you haven’t talked about before.
4. It is helpful to keep a balanced view, writing about both the positive and
negative feelings you are having.
5. You can tell about the lessons or things you’ve learned through a particular
experience. What would you want other kids who are going through the same
thing to know? Who knows, maybe you or someone else might learn from
your experience.
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6. You can also talk about things you are looking forward to, things you are proud
of, or goals for your future.
7. Try not to spend too much time writing about the details of the situation. Writing
about your feelings is what really pays off. Really let go and explore your deepest
thoughts and feelings about this experience. As you are writing, you may discover
ways that this experience connects with past situations, feelings or relationships.
8. If you can, try to journal for about 15 minutes each day for 10 days and then twice
weekly for the next month. You can write about the same experience for several
days or about different emotional experiences each day.
Tips:
• Remember that at first you might find it upsetting to write about some topics or
experiences. But those feelings will usually settle down within a day or two. Often,
after only a few days of writing, many people find surprising and unexpected insights
that can lead to important changes in the way you feel from day-to-day.
• A special notebook can hold all of your experiences. Place this somewhere
you will always know where it is so you are never searching around the
house for paper.
• If you don’t like writing with a pen and paper, using a computer for keeping an elec-
tronic journal may be the way to go for you. You may also consider blogging (but
remember, blogs are not private and you are sharing your information with the world.)
• Another option if you don’t like writing with a pen and paper is to use an audio or
video recorder for a media journal.
• Some people draw in their journal to express their feelings through art. If this
sounds like you, grab some crayons, markers or color pencils and add drawings
to your journal.
• You may want pictures, photographs or stickers to add to your journal entries to fully
capture the experience in a way that is meaningful to you.
How can this help me? Getting your feelings out, as you can through journaling,
can help you to better understand the problems you are dealing with and to find
good solutions that can help you feel better. Did you also know that stress from any
part of life (including school, friends, and family has an effect on our physical health?
Research shows that the effect of stress on our health is the biggest when these issues
and feelings are not directly expressed. So, finding a way to “get your feelings out”
cannot only help with your feelings but also with your physical health.
GETTING ACTIVE
Helps with: Pain, Sleeping, Fatigue, Sadness, Anger, Anxiety or Worries,
Improving Health

What is it? Getting active means exercising or moving your body.

What do I need? Depending on the activity you choose, some things can be
done without any tools.
(If you have any medical problems, talk to your doctor first about what activities
are safe for you.)
• Have comfortable athletic shoes that fit well.
• Make sure to use protective equipment (like a helmet for bike riding
or skateboarding.)
• Some activities require special equipment (like a bike, a football, baseball and mitt,
music for dancing, a DVD for yoga, just to name a few.)

When to use it?

• Do this anytime.
• When you are bored or tired.
• When you have extra energy.
• When you are sad or nervous about something.
• When you are angry and need to blow off some steam.

What can I do? There are so many ways to be active. The possibilities are endless.
• Go for a walk.
• Ride your bike.
• Jump rope.
• Go for a swim.
• Do yoga.
• Go rollerblading.
• Go hiking.
• Play a sport with friends, like basketball, soccer, kickball or tennis.
• Wii Fit games.
• Dance
• Do housework or chores.
• Take the stairs instead of the elevator (little changes help in big
ways over time.)

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• If you are in the hospital, talk to your doctor about what you can do to stay
active while hospitalized.

How do I do it?
1. Try different activities to figure out what you enjoy doing. It will be easier to
make things that you like to do a part of your routine.
2. Start out slowly, especially if you haven’t been active in a while.
3. Slowly increase the amount of time you spend doing your enjoyable activities.
4. Notice how great it feels as your body gets stronger and stronger.
5. Work your way up to exercising 3 times per week for at least 30 minutes.

Tips:
• Ask a family member to get active with you. Ask a friend to be your exercise
buddy. This can help you get motivated, makes exercise more fun and give you
time to spend time with others.

How can this help me? Research shows that physical activity can help you feel
stronger, have more energy, sleep better, improve mood, improve memory and
concentration, decrease pain, decrease stress and improve health in general.
TALK BACK
TO YOURSELF
Helps with: Pain, Fatigue, Anxiety, Worries, Anger, Sadness, Frustration

What is it? Talking back to yourself (also known as positive self-talk) is a way to
change your thoughts to be more positive, hopeful and optimistic, even when it
seems impossible to do because you are going through such a tough time.

What do I need? Just yourself and your amazing brain! Some things that
may help are:
• Pictures of people, quotes or other things that inspire you and make you
feel good.
• Someone who is very positive or who you like to be around.
• A notebook.
• You can find a variety of inspirational quotes online or in books (check your
library or bookstore). You can ask your parents or Child Life Specialist for help.

See the tips section to see how these items can help.

When to use it?

• Do this anytime you want to feel better. You can use it when you are feeling nervous,
stressed, tired, crabby, frustrated, sad, angry or are in pain.
• You can use it to help you feel more comfortable with many things. Try using these
thoughts before a situation that makes you nervous, stressed or uncomfortable to
make it easier to face and get through it.
• You can use it at home, in school, with friends, during a sporting event or practice,
at the doctor’s office or at the hospital.

How do I do it?
1. In your mind, tell yourself positive things about what has happened, is currently
happening or will happen in the future.
2. Make positive statements about yourself to yourself.
3. Catch yourself when you are thinking negative thoughts and STOP (it may help
to think of a big stop sign whenever you catch yourself thinking negatively.)

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4. Tell yourself that something good will happen or that things will go well.
You’ll see that if you think it, it is more likely to happen.

5. You are your best cheerleader. Some things you can say to yourself are:
a. I can do this. I’ve been through harder things than this!
b. I am refreshed, energized and ready to go!
c. I can shrink my pain. I can turn down the volume on my pain.
d. I can relax. I can feel good.
e. I will be ok.

Tips:
• Photographs of people, quotes or other things that inspire you can help you to
think of positive things to say to yourself and to feel more hopeful.
• Someone who is very positive or who you like to be around can help you to think
more positively. When talking to someone who has an optimistic view, you can start
to gain some of their energy and see things more positively. When talking to some-
one who you trust, they can help to challenge some of your negative thoughts and
help you to reframe those thoughts in a more positive and hopeful way.
• You may want to use a notebook or journal to write down your favorite quotes or
the positive thoughts that work the best for you. It may help to think about what
negative thoughts pop into your head most often, then write down the opposite
thought. Focus on that thought and practice saying it to yourself.

How can this help me?

Have you ever found yourself thinking that things are going to go badly? Because you
have already decided that things aren’t going to work out, you may actually behave
in ways that make it more likely the situation will turn out poorly. These negative or
pessimistic thoughts can make you feel tense, nervous and upset. They may even
cause you to not try your best. When this happens and it’s your time to do your thing,
it’s hard for your body to make things go well. When we are tense, stressed, upset or
expecting bad things to happen, we feel pain more strongly and can feel sicker.

Your brain listens to your body and your body listens to your brain. We know that
if you think about something, you can make your body do it – like kicking a ball or
doing homework. During positive self-talk, you tell your mind to think positively.
Because focusing on positive things and the feeling of hopefulness that good things
will happen, you can also increase the likelihood that positive things will happen. You
will also feel better when doing this. This works even if you are not sure you believe it.
GIVING THANKS
Helps with: Worries, Anger, Sadness, Frustration, Boredom

What is it? Being thankful for what you have, things that have happened to you
or for the people in your life.

What do I need?
• Paper and a pen or pencil.
• A journal or notebook.
• Markers, stickers, scrapbook supplies.
See the tips section to see how these items can help.

When to use it?

• Do this anytime you want to feel better. You can use it when you are feeling
stressed, crabby, frustrated, sad or angry.
•Y
 ou can even use these activities when you are feeling fine in order to remember
all the great things about your life.

How do I do it?
1. Write a letter to someone who has been very nice to you, but you haven’t said
thank you to yet.
• Give or mail this letter to the person. Or you can read it to them in person
or over the telephone.

2. Write three good things that happen to you each day.

• Keep doing this everyday for one week.
• Some examples are you made a new friend, you feel healthy, you got to do
your favorite activity or you did well on a test at school.
•B
 e sure to write about what caused the good thing to happen or why it happened.
For example, did you meet a new friend because you said hello or tried a new
activity? Did you do well on a test because it’s a subject you are really good at
or because you studied a lot?

3. Send someone kind thoughts. Write down all the things you wish for someone.
Send these kind thoughts to someone in your home and then to someone not
in your home.

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Tips:
• Markers, stickers and other scrapbook material can help you to make these thank
you cards your own. Decorate them with things that remind you of the person you
are thanking or of things that remind you of being thankful in general.
• Keeping a journal of the good things that happen to you over time is a great
idea. Try writing in it for one week every month. When you are feeling down, go
back and read about all of the good things that have happened to you and how
your strength and courage helped it to happen.
• Write down all of your kind thoughts on a big piece of paper or write them on
little pieces of paper and place them in a small jar for the other person to read
one at a time.

How can this help me?

Giving thanks activities help you to remember the good things that have happened
to you. Telling others that you appreciate them or are thankful for something they
have done can help you to feel good. When you focus on the good things instead
of the bad things, you feel better. When you feel thankful, you feel happier. If you
feel and express thanks often, you may wake up each day feeling more positive
and wanting to be around others more.
MUSCLE
RELAXATION
Helps with: Sleeping, Anxiety, Worries, Anger, Pain

What is it? Squeezing and then relaxing each muscle of your body from head to toe.

What do I need? You really don’t need any tools but yourself and a comfortable
place to make this work. Some other things that may help are:
• A squeeze/stress ball.
• A relaxation script or CD.
See the tips section to see how these items can help.

When to use it?

• 2-3 times per day to relieve stress or to keep you calm and relaxed.
• Do this anytime you are feeling nervous, stressed, angry or upset.
• Before things that make you nervous (like getting a shot.)
• Before, during or after uncomfortable situations like a long medical treatment.

How do I do it?
1. Get into a comfortable position.
2. Start by taking 5-10 belly breaths.
3. Squeeze all of the muscles in your face – eyes, cheeks, nose, forehead—(scrunch
up your face). Hold it tight and count to 10. Then let go of the tightness and feel
the muscles in your face melt into relaxation.
4. Now do the same thing with each muscle in your body working your way down
from your face:
a. Jaw (clench your teeth, bite down like you have a jawbreaker in your mouth.)
b. Shoulders and neck (lift your shoulders up to your ears.)
c. Back (arch your back and try to touch your shoulders together.)
d. Stomach (make your stomach hard like a rock.)
e. Arms (lift your arms up to the ceiling or squeeze them against your body.)
f. Hands (pretend you’re are squeezing something tight in your hand.)
g. Legs.
h. Feet and toes.

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5. Imagine a nice feeling of warmth or heaviness moving through our body as
you relax the muscles.

6. Notice the difference between how your body and muscles feel when they are
tight and when they are loose and relaxed. Do you feel like a stiff robot when
you are tight? Do you feel like an old, sloppy stuffed animal or a wet, cooked
string of spaghetti when you are loose and relaxed?

Tips:
• Use your stress ball each time you are supposed to make your muscles tight,
especially when you are focusing on the muscles in your arms and hands or
squeezing all of the muscles in your body at the same time.

• If this is hard for you to do on your own, ask your mom or dad to lead you
through a muscle relaxation exercise. Maybe you and your parents can put your
heads together to imagine situations that can help you to tighten your muscles.
For example, pretending you have a jawbreaker in your mouth can help you to
tighten your jaw or pretending that you are a turtle and need to pull your head
into your shell can help you to tighten your shoulders and neck.

How can this help me?

The muscles in your body can all get very tight when you are stressed, worried
and angry. When you are in pain in one area of your body, you also may notice that
the muscles in other areas of your body get tight. When you squeeze a muscle as
tight as you can and then let it go, it actually relaxes your muscle more than it was
before. Your muscle actually does not have a choice—when you make a muscle tight
and then let that tightness go, it has to relax. This is great because it gives us a little
bit of control over the state of our bodies. After you tighten and relax your muscles,
the muscle may feel warm and tingly afterward which is just a sign that it is letting
go of the tension and relaxing. When you do this to all the muscle groups in your
body, your whole body will feel relaxed.

Relaxed muscles need less oxygen. When your muscles are relaxed, your breathing
will slow down and your heart will beat slower. And this all works together to help
you feel calm and relaxed.
PAY IT FORWARD
Helps with: Sadness, Loneliness, Boredom

What is it? Being kind to another person or animal that could use a helping hand.
Volunteer with a group or organization.

What do I need?
• Paper and a pen or pencil.
• A journal or notebook.
• Markers, stickers, scrapbook supplies.
See the tips section to see how these items can help.

When to use it?

• Do this any time you want to feel better and happier about yourself. You can
do it when you are feeling sad and lonely or even angry.
• You can also use these activities when you notice someone else around you
needs help or is feeling down.

How do I do it?
1. Look around your community and find an organization or a person that could
use a helping hand.
2. Help them even though they are not expecting it and you will not get any
payment or reward for it.
3. Examples of things you could do outside the hospital:
• Donate food to a food bank.
• Read a book to a younger sibling or friend.
• Visit a a senior citizens center to brighten their day.
• Organize some friends to help clean up trash in your neighborhood, school or park.
• Bring a meal or treat to someone who is sick.
• Offer to babysit for a parent who needs to work late.
• Help with yard work for an elderly neighbor.
• Volunteer to walk your neighbor’s dog.
• Volunteer at a local community organization.
• Put change in someone else’s parking meter.
4. Examples of things you could do inside the hospital:
• Cheer someone up in the play room by offering to play a game together.
• Make a card for another patient to help brighten their day.

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Tips:
• If you want a little extra inspiration, try watching the movie “Pay it Forward”
(PG-13) with Kevin Spacey, Helen Hunt and Haley Joel Osment.
• Some acts of kindness have motivated other people to pay it forward too. For
instance, there was a news story about a person who paid for the next person in
line’s coffee at a coffee shop. That person then chose to keep the sharing going
and paid for the person behind her who paid for the person behind him and so on.

How can this help me?

Doing an unexpected act of kindness for another person not only helps the other
person but makes you feel better by decreasing feelings of sadness and anger and
by increasing feelings of happiness, connection and love. It also helps you learn
about other people and become more sensitive to their thoughts and feelings.
ACCUPRESSURE
Helps with: Pain, Fatigue, Anxiety, Worries, Nausea

What is it? Acupuncture and acupressure are part of the art of the traditional
Chinese medicine system that has been used for more than 5000 years. In Chinese
medicine the body is viewed as having channels or pathways where energy travels.
When there are problems in the body, these channels don’t function well and the
energy gets stuck like a traffic jam. This is when symptoms like pain or nausea occur.
Applying pressure to specific points on the body will open the channels and help
your energy flow smoothly. This can help pain, nausea and anxiety go away. For
example, if you feel nauseous, there is a very powerful point on your wrist that can
make you feel better just by pushing on it.

What do I need? Just yourself, although, you might want to ask someone else
(like your mom or dad) to help.
• Acupressure points can be turned on by applying pressure to them with a finger.

When to use it?

• As often as possible—the great thing about this is that you can’t do it too much.
• Do it before symptoms start, during the symptoms and after you feel better.
• Begin before any procedure or receiving medical treatment (i.e., chemo.)
• Use it to prevent stress, anxiety, nausea or pain—any time you want to feel
more relaxed.

How do I do it?
1. Breathing and pressure are important parts of opening the energy channels.
• Pick the appropriate pressure point and take 3 deep breaths before you start.
• If someone is applying the pressure for you, take the deep breaths together.
• Close your eyes and imagine something that flows smoothly like water.
• Apply pressure with a gentle circular motion for about one minute.
• Take 3 more deep breaths and repeat.
2. Specific pressure points on the body are activated to help with different types
of symptoms
• Ears: You can treat pain in your tummy by rubbing your ears. Remember start
with your 3 big breaths! Bring your thumb and finger together at the top of your
ear. Gently rub massaging in a downward motion to your earlobe. If you find a
spot that feels really good, keep rubbing it. This is your body telling you
where it wants some attention.
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 • Tips of the finger & toes: The most powerful points to activate the flow of
energy are located in the tips of your fingers and toes. Did you know that when
people bite their nails they are moving stuck energy by activating these points?
Start with your 3 big breaths. Gently rub the tips of all five fingers and all five
toes. If one of these points feels really good, stick with it. Your body is telling
you “That’s the spot”.
• For Pain: A main point for pain control is located in the webbing between
the thumb and index finger. Bring your thumb and finger together and notice the
top of the area that protrudes. Start with your 3 big breaths. .Pinch the webbing
between your thumb and index finger together with a gentle but firm pressure for
30 to 60 seconds. Repeat as needed. This point is very helpful for headaches.
• For Nausea: The main point is located on the underside of your forearm. To find
it measure two finger widths down from the middle of your wrist crease. The point
is located between the two tendons in the middle of your forearm. (Tendons are
the bands you can see when you wiggle your wrist). It is important to use your
child’s fingers when measuring to find the point.
• For Anxiety: One point for anxiety is between your eyebrows. To activate this point,
close your eyes, place your palms together, bring your hands up toward your face.
Press on the point with the tips of your middle and index fingers. Take slow deep
breaths and hold this pose for a minute. You will feel calm and relaxed.

Tips:
• Remember to keep practicing this regularly, even when you are feeling healthy, so
that you’re comfortable with it. Practicing and being comfortable with acupressure
will also help it to work better when you need it, like when you are in pain.

How can this help me? According to Traditional Chinese Medicine theory, acupuncture
regulates the flow of vital energy through the body. It is believed that each acupressure
point is connected through your nervous system to a place in your brain that is in charge
of a specific symptom (like headaches, nausea.) Pressing on these spots helps the
body to make feel-good chemicals (endorphins) to ease the not-so-good feelings.
Applying pressure to these points also relaxes muscles and allows better blood flow,
which helps oxygen and nutrients move through your body and helps your immune
system work better too. Research to test scientific theories about how acupuncture
might work to relieve pain is under way.
AROMATHERAPY
Helps with: Stress, Pain, Anxiety, Fatigue, Sleep

What is it? Have you ever noticed how a special smell can bring back memories?
Scents can be very powerful and affect our moods and feelings. For example, how
do you feel when you walk into a kitchen and smell chocolate chip cookies baking
in the oven? Even if it was a stressful day, you probably felt more relaxed and cozy
after being greeted by that smell, right? That is the power of aromatherapy. Certain
scents can make us feel better—for example they can make us feel sleepy, relaxed
or alert. In aromatherapy, the scents come from essential oils that are made from
different plants like lavender, peppermint and orange. There are many different
types of essential oils; each has a different scent and effect on the body. These
oils can be smelled or dispersed in a room by a special device called a diffuser.

What do I need? You may wish to consult with a clinician who specializes in aroma-
therapy. However, you don’t have to meet with an aromatherapy specialist or use
essential oils in order to enjoy the benefits of scent on your own feelings of well-being.
Consider natural ways to use specific smells to help you feel better and experience
the benefits of these commonly used aromatherapy scents. For example:
• A fresh lemon or orange.
• A sprig of spearmint.
• A few stems of lavender.
• Any other item that produces a smell you enjoy and find helpful.

When to use it?

• We recommend you use inhaled essential oils up to 6 times daily.
• Use it before symptoms start, during the symptoms and/or after you feel better.
• They can be used when you are in getting ready for bed to help with sleep.
• Use them throughout the day to prevent stress, anxiety or pain.

How do I do it? Everyone is different and each person may find a different scent
that works best for them. Try a few different smells in order to see what works best
for you. Below are common scents frequently used to help specific symptoms:
• Pain: lavender, sweet orange, peppermint.
• Insomnia: sweet orange, lavender.
• Worries/Anxiety: lavender, sweet orange.
• Fatigue: lemon, peppermint.

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Tips:
• Aromatherapy can work very well when used together with belly breathing and
guided imagery.
• You may need to try different smells to find the right one that works for your body.

How can this help me? The idea of aromatherapy is that smelling essential oils
activates the part of the brain connected to smell—the olfactory system. Then it sends
a signal to the part of the brain that controls emotions and connects to memories
(limbic system). This causes chemicals to be released which make the person feel
relaxed, calm or stimulated.

Many patients and their families have found aromatherapy to be helpful. Scientific
research has also shown some benefits and more research is underway to better
understand the possible benefits.

Are there any risks of aromatherapy? Aromatherapy is considered quite safe when
the essential oils are properly diluted by a trained professional. Using aromatherapy
by smelling the essential oil has no known side effects. It is important to always use
as instructed. Concentrated essential oils may be poisonous if swallowed and should
be handled with care. Don’t ever drink an essential oil. We recommend only using
aromatherapy with children who are at least 6 years old.
 Healing from Sadness, Stress and Worry:
Five Areas of Therapeutic Self-Care*

The Goal: To experience a better mood and feel more relaxed/positive.

Physical Self-Care Spiritual Connection

Exercise Prayer
Nutrition Meditation
Water intake Spiritual community
Hydrotherapy Inspirational texts
Natural light Activities that Forgiveness
Sleep The 12 steps of AA
support my
Medication Finding purpose and meaning
Supplements
vision of
Herbs wellness
Acupuncture
Breathing
Yoga
Touch Social Support
Family
Friends
Lifestyle Habits Psychiatrist/therapist
Structure/routine Minister/rabbi
Time in nature Support group
Fulfilling work Mental and Emotional Self- Day treatment
Setting goals Care Volunteer work
Relaxation Restructuring cognitive processes Pets and animals
Pleasurable activities Practicing daily affirmations
Humor Releasing negative beliefs
Music therapy Taming the inner critic
Creative self-expression Charting your moods
Time for beauty Feeling your feelings
Stress reduction Thinking like an optimist
Time management Keeping a gratitude journal
Overcoming the stigma of
depression
Self –forgiveness
Psychotherapy
Healing family of origin issues
Working through grief
 Coping Skills Pinwheel

ACTIVE COPING
Seek Solutions
Consider Your Values/Beliefs Anticipate What’s Coming

Forgive Self or Others NEGATIVE COPING Exercise/Take a Walk

Helplessness/Hopeless
Soothe Yourself Passive Withdrawal Suicidal Thoughts Deep Breath

Stay in the Moment

FEELINGS ` Set Priorities
Externalizing Grandiosity
Disappointment Numbness

Focus on Survival Shock Anger Problem Solve

Blaming Minimization
Isolation Sadness
Loss Of
Panic Grief
Join a Group Confusion Control Defiance Find Humor
Guilt Fear

Focus on the Facts Shame Rage Evaluate

Projection Rationalization
Demoralized Depression Assumptions

Get Enough Sleep Uncertainty

All or Nothing Intellectualizations

Ask for Help Eat Nourishing

Dissociation Wishful Thinking Foods
Awfulzing Catastrophizing
Mediate/Relax/Let Go Find Acceptance
Denial

Pay Attention to Feelings Do Expressive Writing

Share Feelings w/Friends
Coping Skills
Coping skills help us get through difficult times - they can give us an important break
from mental and emotional distress, and sometimes they are literally life-saving.
Keep this list of coping skills handy for when you need it… folded up in your wallet or
bag or post it up on the wall somewhere handy at home.

Distraction Conversation, listen to talk Pros Cons

radio, read, do puzzles, TV, Gives your heart & mind a Can’t do it for too long.
Absorb your
mind in
computer games, jigsaws, solve break. Doesn’t resolve any
something else a problem, make a list, learn underlying issues. Meds
something new, cleaning & Great for short term relief.
can make it hard to
tidying, gardening, arts & crafts. Great to get through a crisis. concentrate.

Grounding Use body & senses: smell Pros Cons

fragrances, slowly taste food,
Get out of Helps slow or stop Sometimes it’s better to
notice the colours around you. stay a bit dissociated
your head & ‘dissociation’ (feeling numb ,
into your
Walk on the grass barefoot, floaty or disconnected). (that’s how your mind
body & the squeeze clay or mud, do yoga, protects you).
world meditate, exercise. Reduces physicality of anxiety.

Yell, scream, run! Try a cold Pros Cons

Emotional shower. Let yourself cry… and
Release Great for anger and fear. Hard to do in every
sob. Put on a funny DVD and situation. Feels odd.
let yourself laugh! Try boxing, Releases the pressure of
Some people might think
Let it out! popping balloons, or crank up overwhelming emotion.
you’re acting ‘crazier’
some music & dance crazy! (be selective with how & where you
do this)

Massage hands with nice Pros Cons

cream, manicure your nails,
Self cook a special meal, clean your
Become your own best friend, Sometimes can feel
Love your own support worker. really hard to do, or feel
house (or just make your bed), superficial (but it’s not).
bubble bath or long shower, Great for guilt or shame.
Be kind brush hair, buy a small treat. You deserve it!
to
yourself.
Treat
yourself Write down negative thoughts Pros Cons
like a
Thought then list all the reasons they
treasure Can help to shift long-term, The more emotional you
challenge may not be true. Imagine
d being. negative thinking habits. feel, the harder this is to
someone you love had these do. In particular,
thoughts – what advice would Trying to be more logical can feelings of shame can
you give them? help reduce extreme emotion. make this very hard.

Help someone else, smile at Pros Cons

Access strangers (see how many smiles
Reminds us that everyone has Don’t get stuck trying to
your you get back), pray, volunteer, value and that purpose can save everyone else and
higher do randomly kind things for be found in small as well as forget about you!
self others, pat dogs at the local large things.
park, join a cause
Be kind to
yourself.
Treat Find out more online at www.indigodaya.com
yourself
Your Personal Coping Skills List
Use this page to write your own list of coping skills. You might take some from my list,
some that you already know, and others may still be out there for you to discover…

Distraction

Absorb your
mind in
something else

Grounding
Get out of
your head &
into your
body

Emotional
Release

Let it out!

Self
Love

Be kind
to
yourself.
Treat
yourself
like a
Thought
treasure
challenge
anyone who may benefit from it. Not for commercial use.
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d being.

Access
your
higher
self

Be kind to
yourself.
Treat
yourself Find out more online at www.indigodaya.com
like a
 Coping Skills
Coping skills are things we can do to make ourselves feel better when we are going
through difficult times.

The activities listed below are things you can do to help you feel better when you are
upset.
Take Care of Yourself: Change Your Thoughts by Using
Eat Healthy Food different Parts of Your Brain:
Sleep Well Read
Understand How You Feel Write a Story or Poem
Set a Goal
Exercise: Learn Something New
Go for a Walk Journal
Ride a Bike
Do Yoga Keep a Positive Attitude:
Make a List of Things You Like
Do Things You Enjoy: Focus on What You Can Control
Draw Say Positive Affirmations
Enjoy Nature
Laugh Use a Stress Ball
Sing
Hang Out with Friends Take 10 Deep Breaths
Play a Game
Watch a Movie Helping Other People Can Shift Our
Paint Focus and Make Us Feel Better.
Listen to Music Perform a Random Act of Kindness
Make a Playlist
Make a List of Things You Like

Get Help:
Talk to a Friend
Talk to a Trusted Adult

Get Away from the Problem:

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