Professional Communication Skills
Professional Communication Skills
Communication.
Barriers of Communication: Communication Barriers and Overcoming Communication Barriers -
Guidelines for Effective Communication.
Business Writing: Direct and Indirect approaches to Business Writing - Five Main Stages of Writing
Business Messages.
Exercise: Role Play, Square Talk Activity.
Module-VI: Etiquettes
Etiquettes: Greeting Etiquette - Corporate Etiquette - Telephone Etiquette - E-mail Etiquette - Meeting
Etiquette - Netiquette - Personal Etiquette - Social Etiquette - Dining Etiquette.
Exercise: Introduction and Art of Conversation, Telephonic Activity.
REFERENCES:
Meenakshi Raman and Prakash Singh, Business Communication, Oxford
Lesikar: Basic Business Communication, TMH
David Irwin: Effective Business Communications, Viva- Thorogood.
Rajendra Pal, J S Korlaha HI: Essentials of Business Communication: Sultan Chand &
Sons, New Delhi
Module-1
Unit-I: Concepts of Communications
Introduction: Definition and Process of Communication - Forms of Verbal and Non-verbal
Communication
Barriers of Communication: Communication barriers and overcoming communication barriers -
guidelines for effective communication.
Business Writing: Direct and Indirect Approaches to Business Writing - Five Main Stages of Writing
Business Messages.
Introduction: -
Communication is as old as human civilization. The common need for protection led to group
life. As group life developed, forms of communication also developed. Communication was in
the forms of codes, indications, signals, and expressions.
Gradually with the increase in population, division of labor, exchange economy, etc.,
necessitated the development of language. In the present-day world, communication is a vital
need of every Step in any industrial or commercial activity.
The term communication has been derived from the Latin word, ‘communis’, which means
common. Communication means, to tell, show, spread information, and inform. The term
communication is used to signify the process of transferring ideas or receiving them by any
means such as word of mouth, telephone, telegram, letter, message, etc. Thus, communication
stands for sharing of information, imparting or conveying ideas and knowledge.
Meaning
The English word ‘communication’ is derived from the Latin word communis, which means common.
The term communication refers to the sharing of ideas in common. In other words, it is the
transmission and interaction of facts, ideas, opinions, feelings, or attitudes. Communication is the
essence of management. The basic function of management (planning, organizing, staffing, directing,
and controlling) cannot be performed well without effective communication.
In short, Communication is the process of passing ideas, views, facts, information, and understanding
from one person to another. This process is necessary for making the subordinates understand what the
management expects from them.
Communication cannot take place without two parties – the receiver and the sender. The information
which is sent by the sender must be understandable to the receiver.
Definition:
Communication may be defined as “the transfer of information and understanding from one
person to another.”
According to Koontz and O’Donnel, Communication may be understood “as the exchange of
information at least between two persons to create an understanding in the mind of the other,
whether or not it gives rise to conflict.”
Newman and Summer- “Communication is an exchange of facts, ideas, opinions or emotions
by two or more persons.”
‘Communication is the sum of all things a person does when he wants to create an
understanding in the mind of another. – Louis A. Allen
‘It is the process of passing information and understanding from one person to another. It is
essentially a bridge of meaning between people. By using this bridge of meaning, a person can
safely cross the river of misunderstanding that separates all the people’. – Keith Davis
Objectives
The primary objective of communication in management is to convey information—instructions,
policies, procedures, decisions, etc., so the listener will hear, read, understand what is said, agree and
accept the message, and react as intended by the manager or sender of the communication.
There are many objectives of communication. They are
Communication – Characteristics
The characteristics of communication are as follows:
(i) At least two persons – Communication involves at least two persons—the sender and the receiver.
The sender sends the message and the receiver receives the message. There is an exchange of
information between two or more persons.
(ii) Two-way process – Communication is essentially a two-way process. It does not merely mean
sending and receiving messages. It is not complete unless and until the message has been
understood by the receiver in the same sense.
(iii) Form of communication – Communication may take several forms, e.g., order, instruction, report,
queries, etc. It may be verbal or written. It may be formal or informal.
(iv) Scope – Communication is present in all human relationships. It is essential in all types of
organizations and at all levels of management. It has a very wide scope.
(v) Dynamic process – Communication is influenced by the mood and thinking of the sender and
receiver. It keeps on changing depending upon the Level of understanding of the sender and
receiver.
(vii) Interdisciplinary – Communication derives knowledge from several sciences like anthropology
(the study of body language), sociology (the study of human behavior), psychology (the study of a
human), etc. The linking between these sciences makes communication effective.
(viii) Interpersonal relations – The main purpose of communication is to influence the human behavior
which creates interpersonal relations.
(ix) Circular process – There is a circular flow of information in the communication process. After
the feedback, the receiver of the original message is required to transmit another message. The
response indicates the success of the communication.
2. Message – The sender encodes meaning into a message that can be transmitted. The
message represents the meaning, the source is trying to convey.
3. Encoding – The function of encoding is to provide a form in which ideas and purpose can be
expressed as a message. The result of the encoding process is the message. Encoding
involves translating the sender’s intent or ideas into a systematic set of symbols or gestures.
4. Channel or medium – A medium serves as the means of communication whereas a channel refers
to the means of transmission of a message between the sender and the receiver.
A medium, which is an abstraction, can be oral, written, or non-verbal. Channel, on the other hand,
is concrete and could be a letter, a report, a book, a memorandum, fax, an email, the television, the
telephone, etc.
A sender conveys his/her message to the receiver by some medium (oral, written, or non-
verbal) over some channel (electronic means or printed Media).
5. Receiver – The receiver is the individual whose senses perceive the sender’s message. There may be
one or many receivers. If the message does not reach the receiver, communication is not
completed.
6. Decoding – Decoding is the process by which the receiver interprets the message and translates it
into meaningful information. Decoding is a two-step process – (a) the receiver must first perceive
the message, and (b) the receiver must then interpret it. The decoding process is very much affected
by some factors such as the receiver’s need, status, experience, situational factors, etc.
7. Communication noise – In communication, noise can be thought of as those factors that disturb
or distort the intended message. Noise may occur in each of the elements of communication.
“Noise” hinders communica-tion.
It includes the following factors:
(a) Factors that hinder the development of clear thought.
(b) Faulty encoding due to ambiguous symbols.
(c) Defects in the channel.
(d) Inattentive reception.
(e) Faulty decoding due to prejudices, wrong under-standing, personal outlook, the wrong meaning of
words and symbols.
Noise can result in miscommunication. Hence the important point is to realize all these possibilities of
noise and to minimize them.
8. Feedback – A feedback provides a link or channel for the communicator to know the
receiver’s response and to determine whether the message has been received and has produced the
intended change.
Feedback may come in many ways. In face-to-face communication, feedback comes through the facial
expressions of the receiver. Some indirect means of feedback are such factors as declines in
productivity, poor quality of production, lack of coordination, absenteeism, etc. Feedback may cause
the sender to modify his future communication.
FORMS OF COMMUNICATION:
There are several types of communication in our practical life. It depends on an organizational pattern;
parties of organization involved; several workers, the pattern of activating, etc. the types of
communication are shown below in a diagram:
A. Based on parties
1. External communication: External communication is the process of exchanging information
with the people of various external or outside parties of the organization. Generally, these
parties are a stakeholder of the organization.
2. Internal communication: Internal communication is the process of exchanging
information among people of different levels or internal participants within the organization.
(i) Horizontal communication: Horizontal communication is the communication where information or
messages flows between or among the parallel or same level or statuses people of the organizational
structure.
(ii) Vertical communication: Vertical communication is the communication where information or
messages flows between or among the subordinates and superiors of the organization.
(i) Downward communication: Downward communication is the communication where information or
messages flows from the top of the organizational structure from the bottom of the organizational
structure.
(ii) Upward communication: Upward communication is the communication where information or
messages flows from the down/bottom of the organizational structure to the top of the organizational
structure.
(iii) Cross or diagonal communication: Diagonal or cross-communication occurs when information
flows between persons at different levels who have no direct reporting relationship. It is used to speed
information flow, to improve understanding to coordination etc. for the achievement of the
organization.
B. Based on formality
Formal communication: Formal communication is the process of exchanging information by
following the prescribed or official rules, procedures, systems formalities, chain of command
etc. in the organizational structure.
Informal communication: Informal communication is the process of spontaneous exchange of
information among various people of different status in the organizational structure.
C. Based on media
Written communication: Written communication is the process of communication in
which messages or information is exchanged or communicated within sender and receiver
through written form.
Oral or verbal communication: Oral or verbal communication is the process of
communication in which messages or information is exchanged or communicated within
sender and receiver through using any spoken or written word.
Non-verbal communication: Non-verbal communication is the process of communication in
which messages or information is exchanged or communicated within sender and receiver
through without using any spoken or written word.
D. Others
Mass communication: Mass communication is a process of transmitting
information, thoughts, opinions or attitude through specific channel or media to a
large number of heterogeneous audiences.
Personal communication: When people exchanged information related to their personal
life or personal affair is known as personal communication.
Interpersonal communication: Interpersonal communication occurs when two individuals
are involved or exchanging information, ideas, opinions, feelings relating to the personal,
social, organizational, national and international matter who are located in the same place. It is
a process of face-to-face communication between individuals where messages may be verbal
(that is, expressed in words) or they may not involve words at all but consist of gestures, facial
expressions, and certain postures (body language).
1. Verbal Communication: The communication happens through verbally, vocally or through
written words which express or convey the message to other is called verbal communication.
Example: Baby crying (vocal) is verbal communication which express the hungry or pain through
vocally.
Verbal communication has classified into two types:
A . Oral Communication B. Written Communication.
Apart from oral and written, verbal communication is also has following types:
a. Public Communication, c. Intrapersonal Communication
b. Small Group Communication d. Interpersonal Communication
There are also other four types of verbal communication, which are listed below:
2. PROXEMICS-
Another notable area in the nonverbal world of body language is that of spatial
relationships, which is also known as Proxemics. Introduced by Edward T. Hall in 1966,
Proxemics is the study of measurable distances between people as they interact with one
another.
Hall also came up with four distinct zones in which most men operate:
Intimate distance for embracing, touching or whispering
Personal distance for interactions among good friends or family members
Social distance for interactions among acquaintances
Public Distance used for public speaking.
3. HAPTICS(Touch)-
4. CHRONEMICS(Time)–
5. PARALANGUAGE–
6. APPEARANCE-
Personal appearance refers to the way the audiences with their expectations of
appropriateness, see and evaluate the way you look. The ways you look is all about your
outward appearance of clothing, grooming, and make-ups.
Physical appearance largely determines attractiveness and those who are attractive are more
likely to be considered as more intelligent, more persuasive, and more likeable than the
unattractive ones.
Appearances also include:
*Hairstyles
* Body cleanliness
* Clean Nails
* Shiny shoes
*No tattoos
*Being appropriately dressed
7. ARTIFACTS-
Artifacts are forms of decorative ornamentation that are chosen to represent self-
concept. They can include rings and tattoos, but may also include brand names and logos.
From clothes to cars, watches, briefcases, purses, and even eyeglasses, what we choose to
surround ourselves with communicates something about our sense of self. They may project
gender, role or position, class or status, personality, and group membership or affiliation.
8. ENVIRONMENT-
Environment involves the physical and psychological aspects of the communication
context. The perception of one’s environment influences one’s reaction to it. For example,
Google is famous for its work environment, with spaces created for physical activity and
even in-house food service around the clock. The expense is no doubt considerable, but
Google’s actions speak volumes. The results produced in the environment, designed to
facilitate creativity, interaction, and collaboration, are worth the effort.
BARRIERS TO COMMUNICATION:
The barrier of communication is such a part that you have to keep in mind during every communication.
Even after taking care of every other detail during the conversation, some misunderstandings remain
during communication. Therefore, we must keep in mind some communication barriers to eliminate
misunderstandings.
Barriers during communication can be of many types such as linguistic barriers, physical barriers,
Personal barriers, Gender barriers, Emotional barriers, Language Barriers, Status Barriers, Cultural
Barriers, Organizational Barriers, Semantic Barriers, and Inattention Barriers and many more barriers.
1. Physical Barriers: It is also caused by barrier distance. Suppose that the person sending the
message is far away from the recipient. And communication is happening between the two. The
barrier arises due to him not being heard clearly because of far distance.
2. Personal Barriers: The personal factors of both sender and receiver may exert influence on
effective communication. These factors include life experiences, emotions, attitudes, behavior
that hinders the ability of a person to communicate.
3. Gender barriers: Gender barrier is also a type of barrier, such as male and female in an
organization, people of both genders work. Societal stereotypes, assumed gender roles, and
interpersonal differences can contribute to a communication gap between the gender and there is a
rift between people due to gender. For Example: Women are focused on relationships and men
are focused on tasks.
4. Emotional Barriers: The emotional barrier changes according to our mood. Emotional barriers are
due to mental limitations created by one’s own self. Emotional Barriers are the mental walls that
keep you from openly communicating your thoughts and feeling to others.
5. Language Barriers: Language barriers are the most common communication barriers which cause
misunderstandings and misinterpretations between people......Not using the words that other
person
understands makes the communication ineffective and prevents message from being conveyed.
6. Status Barriers: People often have difficulty navigating status differences when trying to
inform or persuade others. To many, social status is an indicator of credibility and legitimacy,
and this effects how seriously others take what one communicates. Status differences can create
a bias against those with the perceived lower status.
7. Cultural Barriers: Past experiences, perception, and cultural background greatly affect the way
people talk and behave. Culture plays an important role in shaping the style of communication.
...
The culture in which individuals are socialized influences the way they communicate, and the way
individuals communicate can change the culture.
8. Organizational Barriers: Inside the organization, there are many things inside which a
communication barrier is created. Just like the policy of the organization, about the rule and regulation
of the organization, about the status, the facility, there are many other things which cause a lot of
barriers.
9. Semantic Barriers: Semantic barriers to communication are the symbolic obstacles that distort the
sent message in some other way than intended, making the message difficult to understand. The
meaning of words, signs and symbols might be different from one person to another and the same
word might have hundreds of meanings.
10. Inattention barriers: Sometime the persons do not pay adequate attention to the message.
They do not listen, the spoken words attentively. The communication has no impact on those who
are unwilling to listen. Inattention arises due to lack of interest, over stimulation and time pressure.
1. Clarity of Purpose: The message to be delivered must be clear in the mind of sender. The
person to whom it is targeted and the aim of the message should be clear in the mind of
the sender.
2. Completeness: The message delivered should not be incomplete. It should be supported by
facts and observations. It should be well planned and organized. No assumptions should be
made by the receiver.
3. Conciseness: The message should be concise. It should not include any unnecessary details.
It should be short and complete.
4. Feedback: Whether the message sent by the sender is understood in same terms by the
receiver or not can be judged by the feedback received. The feedback should be timely and in
personal. It should be specific rather than general.
5. Empathy: Empathy with the listeners is essential for effective verbal communication. The
speaker should step into the shoes of the listener and be sensitive to their needs and
emotions. This way he can understand things from their perspective and make
communication more effective.
6. Modify the message according to the audience: The information requirement by different
people in the organization differs according to their needs. What is relevant to the middle
level management might not be relevant to the top level of management. Use of jargons
should be minimized because it might lead to misunderstanding and misinterpretations. The
message should be modified according to the needs and requirements of the targeted audience.
7. Multiple Channels of communication: For effective communication multiple channels
should be used as it increases the chances of clarity of message. The message is reinforced by
using different channels and there are less chances of deformation of message.
8. Make effective use of Grapevine (informal channel of communication): The employees and
managers should not always discourage grapevine. They should make effective use of
grapevine. The managers can use grapevine to deliver formal messages and for identification
of issues which are significant for the employees. The managers can get to know the problems
faced by the employees and can work upon it.
BUSINESS WRITING:
Business writing is a type of writing that is used in a professional setting. It is a purposeful piece of
writing that conveys relevant information to the reader in a clear, concise, and effective manner. It
includes client proposals, reports, memos, emails, and notices. Proficiency in business writing is a
critical aspect of effective communication in the workplace.
BUSINESS MESSAGES
Business messaging is a set of channels over which companies and consumers can communicate with
each other. The most common messaging channel is SMS or text messaging.
TYPES OF BUSINESS MESSAGES
This division is based in accordance with the effect it has on the reader Concept
Regardless of the more popular methods of communication, such as e-mail and other social
media exchanges, letters remain the most formal and legal type of written business
communication.
Five types of business letters are thank you letters, claim letters, adjustment letters, inquiry
letters, and transmittal letters.
These letters can be written in a direct approach or an indirect approach.
Most claim letters, inquiry letters, and transmittal letters are written in a direct approach,
where the writer refers to background, stating his/her purpose for writing in the opening
sentences of the first paragraph.
The indirect approach is used for letters that have negative messages. These types of letters
are letters that deny requests, such as adjustment letters that deny claims or letters that deny
employment applications.
After referring to background, the writer using the indirect approach adds a disclaimer that is
intended to soften a negative decision. The second paragraph states and explains the purpose of
the decision. This arrangement is a respectful, professional way to deliver a negative message.
DIRECT APPROACH:
When you use the direct approach, the main idea (such as a recommendation, conclusion,
or request) comes in the "top" of the document, followed by the evidence.
This is a deductive argument. This approach is used when your audience will be neutral
or positive about your message.
In the formal report, the direct approach usually mandates that you lead off with a summary
of your key findings, conclusions, and recommendations.
This "up-front" arrangement is by far the most popular and convenient for business reports.
It saves time and makes the rest of the report easier to follow.
For those who have questions or want more information, later parts of the report
provide complete findings and supporting details.
The direct approach also produces a more forceful report. You sound sure of yourself when
you state your conclusions confidently at the outset.
INDIRECT APPROACH:
In the indirect approach, the evidence is presented first, leading therefore to the main idea.
This is an inductive argument. This approach is best if your audience may be displeased
about or may resist what you have to say.
At times, especially if you are a junior member of an organization or if you are an
outsider, writing with an extremely confident stance may be regarded as arrogant.
In such cases, or if your audience will be skeptical or hostile, you may want to use the indirect
approach: Introduce your complete findings and discuss all supporting details before
presenting your conclusions and recommendations.
The indirect approach gives you a chance to prove your points and gradually overcome
your audience’s reservations. By deferring the conclusions and recommendations, you
imply that you’ve weighed the evidence objectively without prejudging the facts.
You also imply that you’re subordinating your judgment to the audience, whose members
are capable of drawing their own conclusions when they have access to all the facts.
Although the indirect approach has its advantages, some readers will always be in a hurry
to get to "the answer" and will flip to the recommendations immediately, thus defeating
your purpose.
Conclusion:
Therefore, consider length before choosing the direct or indirect approach. In general, the longer
the message, the less effective an indirect approach is likely to be. Furthermore, an indirect
argument is harder to follow than a direct one. Because both direct and indirect approaches have
merit, businesspeople often combine them. They reveal their conclusions and recommendations as
they go along, rather than putting them first or last. As a result, the approach strategy of business
reports can sometimes be hard to classify.
Two Sample Introductions for Formal Reports
1. Direct Approach (assumes audience will favour or be neutral to your recommendations),
Since the company’s founding 25 years ago, we have provided regular repair service for all our
electric appliances. This service has been an important selling point as well as a source of
pride for our employees. However, we are paying a high price for our image. Last year, we lost
$500,000 on our repair business.
Because of your concern over these losses, you asked me to study the pros and cons of
discontinuing our repair service. With the help of John Hudson and Susan Lefkowitz, I
have studied the issue for the last two weeks and have come to the conclusion that we have
been embracing an expensive, impractical tradition.
By withdrawing from the electric appliance repair business, we can substantially improve our
financial performance without damaging our reputation with customers. This conclusion is
based on three main points that are covered in the following pages:
I. It is highly unlikely that we will ever be able to make a profit in the repair business.
II. Service is no longer an important selling point with customers.
III. Closing down the service operation will create few internal problems.
2. Indirect Approach (assumes audience will be hostile to or resistant to your recommendations or
that you are much lower in the organizational power structure than the primary reader)
Since the company’s founding 25 years ago, we have provided regular repair service for all our
electric appliances. This service has been an important selling point as well as a source of
pride for our employees. However, the repair business itself has consistently lost money.
Because of your concern over these losses, you asked me to study the pros and cons of
discontinuing our repair service. With the help of John Hudson and Susan Lefkowitz, I
have studied the issue for the last two weeks. The following pages present my findings for
your review. Three basic questions are addressed:
I. What is the extent of our losses, and what can we do to turn the business around?
II. Would withdrawal of this service hurt our sales of electric appliances?
III. What would be the internal repercussions of closing down the repair business?
FIVE MAIN STAGES OF WRITING BUSINESS MESSAGES:
Writers have their own writing process as per their preference and they follow those steps
naturally. Whenever they get stuck with some tough topics, they follow the steps which are
familiar to all to stimulate their ideas in a right manner. It starts with prewriting and ends
with publishing. However, 5 basic stages of the writing process are prewriting, drafting,
revising, editing and publishing.
Each stage is precisely discussed here to represent a clear perception about the entire process
of writing.
1. Prewriting: Prewriting is important as it is the first stage, where a writer chooses the topic and
narrow down the points as well as he determines the purpose of his writing. Additionally, the
writer should consider his audience whom he needs to address. Find your idea and then try to
develop your idea and accumulate pertinent information that supports your idea. The next step is to
plan and structure your idea.
2. Drafting: Drafting is nothing but putting your points and ideas on paper and arrange these
points in a readable manner. Writers usually research about their topics at the prewriting stage
and then they accumulate the entire information at this stage. First, the writers do a rough draft
and then they try to arrange their points in a best possible way and gradually prepare a final draft.
3. Revising: Revising is another imperative stage, where a draft is scrutinized thoroughly and
points incorporated in the draft are rearranged. At this stage, new points are added and some
points are replaced and removed as per the requirements. However, revision is indispensable to
make the outlook of the writing catchy and cogent.
4. Editing: Fine the tone of the writing and check each line thoroughly. Check spelling,
grammar, punctuation, sentence structure, document format and other things. Check the entire
content as mistakes should not leave behind. However, editing is the stage where writers can
modify their lines as well as theme. It is always better to give your writing to someone for
editing.
5. Publishing: Publishing is the last stage where writers submit their work to the publisher.
Make sure your written document should be completed before giving to the publisher. However,
each writer’s goal is to publish his work and reach to the readers.
Module II
Unit-II: Written Business Communication
External Communication: The Seven C’s of Letter writing - Kinds of Business Letters - Business
Reports and Proposals - Purpose of Business Reports.
Internal Communication: Format and Principles of writing Memos - General Warning - Cautions.
External Communication
External communication is the transmission of information between two organizations. It also
occurs between a business and another person in the exterior to the company.
These persons can be clients, dealers, customers, government officials or authorities etc. A
customer’s feedback is also external communication. An organization invests a lot of time and
money to improve their image through external communication.
Effective External Communication
One can easily find the importance of external communication. Some of them are
Clear ideas, thoughts, and statement or the reason for communication.
It must be two-way communication.
Clear, error-free, formal, jargon-free, and easy language.
Understanding the need of the audience.
Proper choice of words for communication.
Importance of External Communication
It presents a favourable image of an organization.
It provides information about products and services to customers.
Advertise the organization.
Promote an organization
Reduces the risks of mistakes.
Common External Communication
Advertisement of an organization.
Response to a customer.
Press conference.
Annual reports and letters.
Print media.
Face to face meeting of two organization heads.
Tender documents.
Brochures.
Feedbacks.
Questionnaire.
The Seven C’s of Letter writing:
The Seven C’s are also known by the name of the “Principles of Effective Communication (EBC)”, and
called Seven C’s because every letter begins with the name of C and they are seven in number.
Although they are just seven small words beginning with a letter “C” but their importance for effective
business communication is same as the importance of seven seas for the world.
The Seven C’s has a much wider scope because these are applicable for each and every one during the
course of a whole day. Weather is he giving presentation, facilitate meetings, participating in
conference calls, doing conversation with his/her fellows, chatting, playing, etc.“The message is said to
be effective when the receiver understands the same meaning that the sender was intended to convey”.
For any communication in business, in order to be an effective, it must have these seven qualities.
1. Completeness 2.Conciseness 3.Consideration 4.Concreteness 5.Clarity 6.Courtesy
7. Correctness
1. Completeness:
By completeness means “the message must bear all the necessary information to bring the response
you desire”. One of the most famous terms use under this title is the “5’w’s”. 5’w’s includes Who,
What, When, Where and Why.
The 5’w’s means while composing an effective message we have to think about the receiver (You
Attitude). And also have to answer each of the above5’w’s.
The five-question method is useful when you write requests, announcements, or other informative
messages. For instance, to order (request) merchandise, make clear WHAT you want, WHEN u need
it, WHERE it is to be sent.
While composing an effective message we have to bear the following points in mind.
• Provide all necessary information.
• Answer all questions asked.
• Give something extra, when desire.
Benefits of Completeness:
Complete messages are more likely to produce desired results.
They can do a better job of building goodwill.
Complete messages help to avert the costly lawsuits.
2. Conciseness:
Conciseness means “The message only contains the information only relating to the topic and don’t
have irrelevant information.” And writer also strives to make the small and simple sentence which are
easily understandable by receiver. A concise message saves time of both the sender and the receiver.
Conciseness in a business message can be achieved by avoiding wordy expressions and repetition.
Achieving conciseness does not mean to loosen completeness of message.
Benefits of Conciseness:
Conciseness saves time of both the sender and receiver.
Concise communication provides short and essential message in limited words to
the receiver/audience.
Concise message is more appealing and comprehensible to the receiver/audience.
Concise message is non-repetitive in nature.
3. Consideration:
“Consideration demands to put oneself in the place of receiver while composing a message”. It refers
to the use of “You Attitude”, emphases positive and pleasant facts, visualizing reader’s problems,
desires, emotions and his/her response.
Effective communication must take the receiver/audience into consideration, i.e., the
receiver/audience’s viewpoints, background, mind-set, education level, etc.
Ensure that the self-respect of the audience is maintained and their emotions are not at harm. Modify
your words in message to suit the receiver/audience’s needs while making your message complete and
meaningful.
1. We-Attitude: I am delighted to announce that we will be extending our hour to make shopping
more convenient.
2. You-Attitude: You will be able to shop evening with the extended hours.
Benefits of Consideration:
Pose the good and pleasant effect.
Whenever next time same reader read this, he will read like a word view.
Length of the message is short which saves time both sender and receiver.
4. Concreteness:
“Being definite, vivid and specific rather than vague, obscure and general leads to the concreteness of
the message”.
Facts and figures being presented in the message ought to be specific.
Often it means using denotative (direct, explicit, often dictionary-based) rather than connotative words
(ideas or notions suggested by or associated with a word or phrase).
While composing Concreteness in a message we have to bear the following points in mind.
• Use specific facts and figures.
• Put actions in our verbs.
• Choose vivid, image-building words.
Benefits of Concreteness:
Concreteness reinforces confidence.
It is supported by specific facts and figures.
It makes use of words that are clear and that build the reputation.
It creates a positive and pleasant effect on the reader.
5. Clarity:
“Clarity demands the simple language and easy sentence structure in composing the messages”. When
there is clarity in presenting ideas, it’s easy for the receiver/decoder to grasp the meaning being
conveyed by the sender/encoder.
Clarity also implies emphasizing a specific message or goal at a time, rather than trying to achieve too
much at once. When we have a choice between an along word and a short one, always use the short,
familiar words that our reader or listener will frequently understand.
While Composing the Clarity in the message we have to bear the following points in our mind.
• Choose precise, concrete, and familiar words.
• Construct effective sentences and paragraphs.
• Use simple words rather than jargon words.
6. Courtesy:
“Doing well with good intentions” called Courtesy. In business, almost everything starts and ends in
courtesy. Courtesy means not only thinking about the receiver but also valuing his feelings, emotions
& attitudes. Much can be achieved by using Euphemism (polite and decent language), gestures, being
appreciative, thoughtful, tactful, and showing respect to the receiver.
Besides, the following guidelines discussed under CourteousCommunication generate a special
Euphemism tone in the writing or speaking message.
7. Correctness:
The core of Correctness means “sentence ought to be proper grammatical, punctuation, and well
spell” or free from any sort of errors.
At the time of encoding, if the encoder has comprehensive knowledge about the decoder of message, it
makes the communication an ease. The encoder should know the status, knowledge and educational
background of the decoder.
However, a message may be perfect grammatically & mechanically but still insult or lose a customer.
The term correctness, as applied to business messages also means the following three characteristics.
Use the right level of language.
Check accuracy of figures, facts and words.
Maintain acceptable writing mechanics.
While composing the Correctness in message we have to bear the following points in mind.
• Eradicates the confusing words like, accept, except, affect, effect, farther, further, lay, laid,
lain etc.
• Sometimes informal words are to use than formal words.
• e.g., Participate /Join, Procure /Get, Deem/Think (Believe), Endeavour/Try.
Benefits of Correctness:
Correctness in message helps in building confidence.
The message is exact, correct and well-timed.
If the communication is correct, it boosts up the confidence level.
It checks for the precision and accurateness of facts and figures used in the message.
It makes use of appropriate and correct language in the message.
The term “business letters” refers to any written communication that begins with a salutation, ends
with a signature and whose contents are professional in nature. Historically, business letters were sent
via postal mail or courier, although the internet is rapidly changing the way businesses communicate.
There are many standard types of business letters, and each of them has a specific focus.
Here are some of the most commonly used types of business letters:
1. Cover letters
Cover letters accompany your application when applying for a new position. You can use cover letters
to introduce yourself, describe your interest in a company and outline your qualifying skills. A cover
letter will include the following:
Contact information
Include your name, phone number and email address on the cover letter to ensure the reader knows
how to contact you after reviewing your application.
Salutation
Begin the letter by addressing the person to which you are writing the letter. This person may be the
hiring manager, department head or other company representative identified in the job listing.
Purpose of the letter
In your introduction, discuss why you are writing by mentioning the job title, the company name and
where you found the job listing.
Qualifying skills
In the body of your letter, highlight the specific skills that make you a strong candidate for the open
position. Your cover letter should complement your resume, so build off of the information in your
resume to provide more specific details of your professional experience.
Conclusion
End the cover letter with a memorable statement about why you are a good fit for the open position.
Include a call-to-action to encourage the reader to follow up on your application should they want
to interview you and learn more about how you could fit into their company.
2. Letters of recommendation
A letter of recommendation is written by another person who can confirm a professional’s
qualifications and work ethic. A letter of recommendation can strengthen an application for
employment, higher education or another professional opportunity. This letter often includes the
following information:
Relationship of the recommendation
The letter should state the relationship of the person making the recommendation to ensure the reader
knows what qualifies the writer to speak on the applicant’s behalf. Those who write these letters might
include a professor, supervisor or co-worker.
Evaluation of the candidate’s qualifications
The recommendation is often the body of the letter and speaks directly to the candidate’s skills,
positive character traits, professional goals and their potential in the program or position.
Examples
The writer can include specific examples of how the candidate demonstrated their skills during their
time working, studying or otherwise interacting with each other. This information can help prospective
employers understand how the candidate positively impacts their peers and supervisors.
Closing statement
It should conclude with a final confirmation of the candidate’s qualifications and include the writer’s
contact information should the reader want to know more.
4. Offer letters
An offer letter is an official offer of employment that describes the specific terms of the position. If
you agree to the terms the letter offers, then you will sign the offer letter and accept the job.
An offer letter will usually include the following:
Job description: This item outlines the specific job tasks and requirements of the role.
Job title: A letter that states the official name of the position can ensure you are hired for
the right role.
Requested start date: This is the date on which you will begin employment. You may
discuss with your employer if you need to adjust the date.
Salary and benefits: This information includes the offered salary, bonus and benefits that
come with the role. Some employers may specify when bonuses are given and benefits, such
as health care, begin.
Acceptance timeline: This is the date by which you must respond to the offer letter.
5. Sales letters
The purpose of a sales letter is to introduce a service or product to a client or customer. Sales
professionals often use these letters when making new contacts with prospective buyers or
strengthening relationships with long time clients.
A sales letter often includes the following:
Description of product or service
Include specific details about the item or service you are offering. Consider identifying a possible
solution this product or service provides to the recipient to best demonstrate its value.
Cost
Some letters include information about the price of the product or service, especially if the buyer is a
current patron. It may be included if the cost was already discussed in a previous meeting as well.
Call to action
Include directions to the reader explaining how they should take action if they want to buy. You may
include your contact information, the best times to reach you and a date by which they should reply to
take advantage of your offer.
6. Letters of commendation
Letters of commendation are a form of employee appreciation, and companies send them out to the
entire staff to congratulate an employee for a job well done. They may include the following:
Purpose: Begin a letter of commendation identifying who is being commended and for
what reason.
Details of the commendation: Include details about the specific tasks, achievements or awards
for which the team member is being recognized.
Call to action: This letter may include a call to action that encourages fellow employees to
congratulate the team member on their success.
7. Letters of resignation
A letter of resignation informs your employer of your intent to resign. While you may verbally notify
your co-workers and employer of your plans to leave, many organizations prefer to have an official
letter for documentation purposes.
A letter of resignation often includes the following:
Statement of resignation
Begin this letter with the official statement declaring that you are resigning from the company.
Reason for leaving
Depending on your situation, you may consider mentioning why you are leaving so your employer
understands your decision. This may include accepting an opportunity elsewhere, pursuing higher
education or relocating.
Dates
Include the date on which you are delivering the letter and the date of your official last day of
employment. This step can ensure your employer can best prepare for your leaving and fill your
position.
Thank you
Consider thanking your employer for the opportunity and the skills you gained while working for
them. This step is a professional courtesy that can strengthen your professional relationship with your
employer should you need their recommendation in the future.
Every business or enterprise needs business annual reports to see how things are working right now,
and what adjustments can be done to improve the situation. They provide a summary or analysis of a
particular situation or issue and give specific recommendations for further improvement. You should
know how to write a business report to ensure the best results, as well as choose the right type of
report you need for every situation
Business reports are actual documents that inform by summarizing and analyzing a particular situation,
issue, or facts and then make recommendations to the group or person asking for the report.
Keep in mind that with business reports, you’ll get several possible solutions instead of just one. Your
job would be to identify and weigh-up the cost and benefits of each solution for the organization in
the form of a business report.
2. Analytical Report
This type of business report is usually required when a company is trying to make an important
decision. An analytical report analyses the company’s situation, presenting relevant information,
explanations, and conclusions. It helps the company to make good decisions going forward.
3. Research Report
This is the most comprehensive type of business reports required when a company considers trying
something new, such as going into a new geographical area or offering a new product. A team of
specialists or researchers are given a topic and asked to find all the relevant statistics and details
obtained from an informational report, followed by a detailed analysis of the data found in the analytical
report. The conclusion of the research report will be based on the available data obtained from the
analytical and informational reports.
4. Explanatory Report
This report is required when you want to explain a topic or situation so that everyone can understand it.
For example, you can write it to explain the research you’ve conducted. Along with the table showing
the results, you should include the reason for the research, sample sizes, methodology, etc. After
explaining the results, you should briefly summarize the findings.
5. Progress Report
You want this report to show how things are going at the moment. A progress report isn’t based on
analysis or tons of research. Instead, they are an update for the person who needs it. One example of
this could be a weekly report disclosing the progress made throughout the week and what tasks you're
looking to work on in the upcoming week.
Purpose of Reports
The report plays an important role in decision-making in an organization. And such importance of report
can be understood through the following discussions:
1. Decision-Making Tool
Today’s complex business organizations require thousands of information. Reports provide the required
information a large number of important decisions in business or any other area are taken on the basis of
the information presented in the reports. This is one of the great importance of the report.
2. Investigation
Whenever there is any problem, a committee or commission or study group investigates the problem
to find out the reason behind the problem and present the findings with or without the recommendation
in the form of a report. It is another importance of the report.
3. Evaluation
Large scale organizations are engaged in multidimensional activities. It is not possible for a single top
executive to keep a personal watch on what others are doing. So, the executive depends on reports to
evaluate the performance of various departments or units.
4. Quick Location
There is no denying the fact that business executives need information for quick decision-making. As
top executives are found to be busy for various purposes), they need vital sources of information. Such
sources can be business reports.
5. Development of skill
Report writing skill develops the power of designing, organization coordination, judgment, and
communication.
7. Professional Advancement
The report also plays a major role in professional achievement. For promotion to the rank-and-file
position, satisfactory job performance is enough to help a person. But for promotion to a high-level
position, intellectual ability is highly required. Such ability can be expressed through the report
submitted to a higher authority.
8. Proper Control
Whether activities are happening according to plan or not is expressed through a report. So, controlling
activities are implemented based on the information of a report.
9. A managerial Tool
Various reports make activities easy for managers. For planning, organizing, coordinating, motivating,
and controlling, the manager needs help from a report which acts as a source of information.
1. Inductive method
Here we determine first the subject matter and then we try to find out the cause of the subject matter.
We follow the following sequence in the inductive method:
Introduction
Facts
Conclusion
Recommendation
E.g. an action taken against a subordinate in an organization can be drafted as a report by following the
inductive method, such as:
Introduction: Various incidents during the past two months cause investigation of the work record of
Mr. Micle Clark, sales executive, sales department
Facts: The investigation of his work provides the following points:
1. He has been late to his work seven times
2. He has been absent without notice to authority three times
3. He has made sales to unauthorized dealers.
Conclusion: Due to his negligence and unauthorized activities, our performance is subject to the bad
will. Immediate steps should be taken for recovery.
Recommendation: Based on the conclusion, it is recommended that Mr. Micle Clark should be fired.
2. Deductive Method
Here we first determine the cause and then we present the subject matter. We follow the following
sequence in the deductive method:
Recommendation
Conclusion
Introduction
E.g. an action taken against a subordinate in an organization can be drafted as a report by following the
deductive method, such as:
Recommendation: Mr. Micle Clark, Sales executive, sales department should be fired.
Conclusion negligence and unauthorized activities have caused us a bad will and therefore
immediate steps are required for recovery.
Facts: The Conclusion reached is based on the following points
1. He has been late to work seven times
2. He has been absent without notice to authority their times
3. He has made sales to unauthorized dealers
Introduction: Various incidents during the last two months made us investigate the work record of
Mr. Micle Clark, sales executive, sales division.
Business Proposals:
Business Proposal is a document, which is written for a specific reason either to get a job or a
project. Usually, it is sent to the company or the client for giving a brief introduction about
the services and the professional features of the seller.
It has been said that the Business Proposal can help grow a rich relationship between the two
companies and strengthen their mutual cooperation. The most common reason for writing a
business proposal is to obtain any project or offer the services for required work in order to
benefit both companies i-e the sender company and the company to whom the proposal is
being sent.
In simple words, a business proposal is a document or written offer from the side of the
seller to the buyer for getting a project to be put into action in the future time.
3. Response memo:
It provides information to their audience.
The format is divided into sections because it contains more information than other memos.
The sections are purpose statement, summary, discussion, and action. One way to identify a
response memo is that instead of having a "Subject:" line you have a "RE:" line, just like
when you directly reply to an email.
Since a response memo is a direct follow-up method of communication to a question, it is
necessary for the memo to begin by stating the original question or paraphrasing the initial
problem, and continuing by answering it immediately.
General Warning:
Employee warning notices are used to address and confirm an employee's performance or
inappropriate conduct at work. A company usually issues an employee warning form after a
meeting with him/her to discuss the issue. This gives the employee an opportunity to correct
their behavior moving forward.
It's important to be upfront and clear about your company's employment policies. You should
ensure that all employees are aware of these policies and have access to your employee
handbook.
Remember, you should also establish clear rules for your managers to ensure that all employees
are treated equally. To comply with federal laws, all managers must act consistently when
carrying out disciplinary actions to avoid being accused of unfair treatment down the line.
Caution:
To caution someone is to tell someone to be careful. If you know someone who is going to do
something that could be dangerous, you would caution him or her away from doing that
thing.
When someone is about to make a life-altering mistake, giving him advice about how to
avoid making that mistake is cautioning him about it.
It is possible to caution someone who is in grave danger, and it is also possible to
caution someone who is about to make smaller mistakes.
To caution someone about something is to show care for the wellbeing of that person, no
matter the situation.
To take caution is to make sure to avoid danger. Therefore, to caution someone else is to help
him or her avoid danger.
Module III
Public Speaking- Meaning
Public speaking(sometimes termed as oratory or oration) is the process or act of performing a
presentation (a speech) focused around an individual directly speaking to a live audience in a
structured, deliberate manner in order to inform, influence, or entertain them. Public speaking is
commonly understood as the formal, face-to-face talking of a single person to a group of listeners.
Public speaking is the process of speaking to a group of people in a structured deliberate manner
intended to inform, influence or entertain the listeners.
Basic Principles of Public Speaking
In order to make a successful presentation, a speaker should practice certain principles of good
delivery.
1. Look natural
If the presenter is stiff or artificial, he/she will look uncomfortable and awkward. The audience may
see this as a lack of confidence, which might affect their perceptions of credibility. The good speaker
strives for a natural, easy going style of presentation.
2. Maintain eye contact
Make and maintain eye contact with the audience members often. This demonstrates confidence in the
information being communicated to them, and engages them in discussion. Nervous eye-shifting and
avoidance of eye contact will display anxiety that the audience will notice.
3. Practice
While we are humans and no one is perfect, consistently practising presentations will continuously
improve public speaking skills. Speaking to a friend or a few colleagues is very different from
commanding an audience of one hundred or thousand people. The more we practice the better we will
become, and the more comfortable we will be with public speaking.
4. Do not read from notes
Reading from notes for any extended length of time takes the interest of audiences away, although it is
acceptable to glance at notes infrequently.
5. Speak with conviction
The material we present orally should have the same ingredients as that which are required for a
written research paper i.e. logical progression from introduction to body to conclusion.
6. Pause
Allow yourself and your audience a little time to reflect and think. Don’t race through your
presentation and leave your audience, as well as yourself, feeling out of breath.
7. Audio-visual aids
There are many kinds of props which you may use for a successful presentation. This can be a good
substitute for an introductory statement. This can also generate a more interesting approach to the
audience. When using audio-visual aids to enhance your presentation, be sure all necessary equipment
is set up and in good working order prior to the presentation.
8. Speak, Listen, respond, Adjust and Adapt
Speak to your audience, listen and respond to their reactions, adjust and adapt. Always be prepared for
unexpected. If you are short of time, know what can be safely left out. If you have extra time, know
what could be effectively added.
9. Leave them with anticipation
When it comes to public speaking, less is more. Make your presentation a bit shorter than expected.
Never allow your delivery to be so long that your audience wonders when it will be over.
10. Inspire change
Focus on the benefit you want to provide your listeners or the change you want to encourage them to
make. Think about the following:
What is the purpose for your presentation?
What are you helping or motivating your audience to do?
What are you teaching them?
What goals are you helping them to achieve?
What message do you want them to walk away from your presentation with?
Every day people around the world stand before some type of audiences to speak. Although the
public speeches have different types, they may usually become grouped into three types based on
the intended objectives: Informative Speaking, Persuasive Speaking, and Entertaining Speaking.
1. Informative Speaking: Among the most familiar public speaking types is informative speaking. The
main objective of the informative speaking is to distribute one’s knowledge of any subject with the
audience. The reasons for informative speaking vary extensively. For instance, you could be invited
to train a co-workers’ group on how to employ the latest computer software or report to the
managers’ group about how your newest project is going on.
Informative speaking is incorporated in many different occupations. The teachers speak to the
parents and their students also. Physicians usually give lectures regarding their expertise to the
patients, medical students, and other physicians. Fire-fighters provide demonstrations regarding
how to efficiently control fire in your house. Informative speaking is a general part of many jobs
and everyday activities. Therefore, speaking efficiently has become a vital and necessary expertise
in today’s life.
2. Persuasive Speaking: Another common reason for speaking to the audience is to convince others.
In everyday lives, we are generally called to motivate, convince, or encourage others to transform
their beliefs, taking action, or reconsidering the decision. Supporting music education for your
school, convincing the clients to buy products of your company, or inspiring students to go to
college, all these involve controlling other people using public speaking.
For people like elected officials, persuasive speaking is an important part of getting and continuing
success. People make their careers through speaking to the other people that pay to hear them. If
you can develop the skills of persuading effectively, it will prove to be professionally and
personally rewarding.
3. Entertaining Speaking: Entertaining speaking engages display of speaking to the occasions
including introductions of wedding toasts, giving and acknowledging awards, motivational speeches
and after-dinner speeches. There are experts, from comedians to religious leaders that make living
only from giving entertaining speeches. Anybody who has observed award shows on the television,
indicates that speaking for the entertainment is the task, which needs practice and preparation to be
efficient.
Advantages of Public Speaking
Influence the World: The finest ways of changing our society is the use of communication power.
The common citizens of any republic nation across the world are influencing this world by using
their power of speech. If you want to see examples of that, just type “citizens speak out” in any
search engine. You’ll get many examples of how commonly the citizens, use the power of speech
to make the actual changes in this world.
Develop Leadership Skills: Have you thought of climbing the business ladder and finally getting
yourself in the management or any leadership positions? If yes, the skills of public speaking are
extremely important to you. Efficient public speaking skills is a requirement for all the leaders. In
case you wish people to pursue, you need to communicate clearly and effectively what the
followers need to do. Among the most vital skills for the leaders for development is their skills of
public speaking and that is the reason why executives pay millions of dollars each year to attend
workshops on public speaking.
Become a Thinking Leader: Even though we don’t have any leadership position; efficient public
speaking can help us become a “thinking leader.” When your prospects, customers, and colleagues
rate you like a very smart person, you have become a thinking leader. For achieving the status of a
thinking leader, the individuals have to talk about their ideas with others in both public speaking
and writing.
Objectives
To develop your skills to communicate clearly, effectively and confidently with a range of
audiences in a range of different contexts.
To improve your research and design skills, and strengthen your delivery techniques.
To enhance your use of different support electronic and other visual tools.
To reinforce your performance skills (verbal and non-verbal).
To increase your confidence level in interacting with audience and control your nervousness.
To promote critical and reflective thinking by dealing with feedback on your presentation skills.
Types of Presentations
There are two basic types of presentations
1. Informative Presentations
The purpose of informative presentations is to promote understanding of an idea or to convey
information. They are often used to provide people with information about a concept or idea that is
new. A presentation on "Endangered Species in the South American Rain Forest" is an example of
an informative presentation.
2. Persuasive Presentations
The second type of presentation is a persuasive presentation. The goal of a persuasive presentation is
to influence a change in the belief, attitude, or behavior of another person when that person has some
degree of free choice. Expanding upon the example provided above, a persuasive presentation would
not only inform the audience members about the South American rain forest and its endangered
species, but would also try to get them to take specific and appropriate actions to save these
species.
Both types of presentations can be used to start a discussion by providing information on a
given topic followed by time for questions, answers, and discussion.
Integrating humour into your oral presentation helps enhance and maintain the audience's attention and
interest. Here are some pointers for effectively incorporating humor into your presentation.
Beginning a presentation with a joke or humorous story is a great way to break the ice. It can
help audience members relax, which will help you relax, too.
Using humor and stories in the body of the presentation is a great way to emphasize key
points, and recapture the attention of the audience.
Use topic-related cartoons, drawings, or illustrations that can be projected for all to see.
Use humor that maintains your personal dignity as well as the dignity of audience members.
Never use humor that would embarrass an audience member or damage his or her self-esteem.
Try out your stories or jokes on a couple friends and/or acquaintances to make sure they are
humorous. Practice telling the stories or jokes before the presentation to improve your
delivery.
Use humor that's acceptable to the group and not offensive. Avoid references to ethnicity,
religion, politics, and gender.
Most humor is very culturally specific and in some cases regionally specific. Make sure you
know who your audience is and what they find humorous before using any jokes.
Controlling your nervousness
Most people are a little nervous when they speak in public. In fact, a little nervous energy can enhance
a performance or presentation. It is important to control this nervous energy, however, so that it
remains a positive motivating force rather than a debilitating one.
If you are well prepared you will be less nervous. Practice your oral presentation in advance
and keep rehearsing it until you're satisfied. Then, when the time comes to deliver the
presentation, you'll be confident in your ability to do well.
Prior to the presentation dedicate time to focus and clear your head of other thoughts. Run
through the presentation in your head one final time and remind yourself of how well prepared
you are.
Greet the people with whom you'll be speaking. This helps you create a rapport with the
audience from the beginning and helps you recognize that the audience "isn't out to get you" —
they want you to deliver a good presentation.
Take deep breaths and consciously relax your body from head to toe to reduce some of
the physical symptoms of being nervous.
Make eye contact with members of the audience before you begin your presentation. If you've
already established a rapport with them by greeting them, this will re-establish in your mind that
the audience wants you to succeed.
How you say things may often appear to be more important than what you say. Have you listened to
charismatic speakers who gain and maintain the attention of the audience? Have you also encountered
speakers who quickly put an audience to sleep? Experienced presenters learn to communicate
effectively by using voice, gestures, and visual aids while trying to establishing a comfortable
environment for the audience.
Voice
Using your voice effectively can have a great impact on your delivery. The best speaking voice is
conversational, natural, and enthusiastic. Use the following guidelines to develop an effective speaking
voice:
Alter the pitch (high and low) of your voice to prevent yourself from sounding monotone.
Don't alter the pitch too much, however, because this may make you sound unnatural.
Speak loudly enough to be heard by everyone in the room, but vary the volume of your voice
to maintain interest and emphasize key points.
Stress certain words as another way to add emphasis. Typically when you stress a word, the
pitch and the volume increase.
Alter the rate at which you speak to maintain interest and add emphasis. Speak faster to show
excitement and/or build suspense. Speak slower to show the importance of an idea. Pause after
important ideas to allow the audience time to grasp them.
Gestures
Speakers often communicate with their audience either intentionally or unintentionally using
gestures and other physical behaviours. Use the guidelines below to help use gestures to your
benefit:
Maintain eye contact with members of the audience to keep their attention level high. Eye contact
signals that you care about the audience and you are attuned to their needs. Also use eye contact
to detect confusion or boredom so that you can then modify your approach.
Use positive facial expressions such as smiles, expressive eyes, and looks of empathy
and encouragement to communicate feelings and emotions.
Stand naturally with your feet spread slightly apart and arms relaxed at your sides.
Minimize gestures like pacing back and forth, rocking back and forth, playing with coins in your
pocket, wringing your hands, and other types of fidgeting. These gestures not only signal that
you are nervous, but they are distracting to the listener as well.
Use quick and energetic movements of your hands and arms to add expression to your
talk. Maintain the attention of the audience by making your movements unpredictable.
Visual-aids in presentation
Visual aids can help you emphasize main ideas, illustrate a concept, or stimulate the interest of
your listeners. Examples of visual aids include posters, overheads, flip charts, photographs,
computer-generated slides, and three-dimensional effects.
Use visual aids to emphasize important points and add interest to your presentation — don't put
every word of your entire presentation on them.
Select the appropriate visual aid for the environment. It may be possible to pass visuals around
to a small audience but in large groups you'll need to project them.
Give the visuals a consistent appearance including color and spacing. Start the text at the
same place on each visual.
Try to observe the seven by seven rule: on an overhead slide have no more than seven lines
and seven words per line. Similar rules would also pertain to flip charts, PowerPoint and other
computer generated slides, and posters.
Use a simple typeface or font. Don't use more than two different typefaces, if possible.
Make sure the text is large enough for people in the back of the room to read. Letters on a flipchart
should be at least 3 inches in height. For a projected overhead or slide, fonts between 20 and 48
points are customary.
Don't show visuals that conflict with what you're saying — this includes displaying them
once you've moved beyond their content.
Don't read the text that's on the visual, but do paraphrase and add to it.
While you won't always have control over the environment when you do a presentation, there may
be ways you can modify the environment so that it is both comfortable for you and the audience
members. The guidelines that follow to help you become aware of environmental factors that can
affect the delivery of your presentation are as follows:
Audience analysis is the process of examining information about your listeners. That analysis helps
you to adapt your message so that your listeners will respond as you wish.
In everyday conversations you adapt your message to your audience. For example, if you went to a
party the night before, you would explain the party differently to your friends and family. To your
best friend you might say, "We partied all night and there were tons of people there." To your mother
you might say, "Oh, I had fun with my friends." And to your significant other you might say, "It was
fun, I had a great bonding time with my friends." In each of these situations, you are adapting your
message to your listening audience. There are three phases in audience analysis: adaptation before,
during, and after the speech.
Using the word "A-U-D-I-E-N-C-E" as an acronym we can determine some general audience analysis
categories that these surveys should include. Analysis - Who are they? How many will be there?
U-Understanding - What is their knowledge of the subject?
D-Demographics - What is their age, sex, educational background?
I-Interest - Why are they there? Who asked them to be there?
E-Environment - Where will I stand? Can they all see & hear me?
N-Needs - What are their needs? What are your needs as the speaker?
C-Customized - What specific needs do you need to address?
E-Expectations - What do they expect to learn or hear from you?
1. Practice The more familiar you are with your material the more you will be able to inspire your
audience’s trust and confidence. Do more than practice reading through your material to yourself. If
possible, stand up in a room and deliver your presentation to the walls. Get used to hearing your own
voice filling a room. Familiarize yourself with the words and phrases in your presentation. Play
around with different volumes and see how well you can hear your own voice. Above all, familiarize
yourself with the main thrust of your argument and explore how the individual elements of your
presentation piece together. This will help you to keep to your chosen objectives and avoid
distractions when it comes to your actual delivery.
2. Assert yourself: An effective presenter needs to be assertive, not aggressive. There are
two important points.
Posture: It is important to appear confident at all times. Different postures create different
moods. A very formal, upright and still posture will create a very different atmosphere from
a relaxed and active one. Remember to match your physical behaviour to the objectives
underpinning your presentation. If you want to be either formal or informal, make deliberate
choices about your physical style and stick to these.
Presence: Have the confidence to fill your space in front of an audience. Avoid apologizing
for your presence by saying “sorry” (although you must be polite if circumstances demand—
e.g. the session is running over time, or the microphone has stopped working). Also, avoid
physical apologies by hiding behind a desk or lectern. You must be confident that the audience
wants to listen and that you have something interesting to tell them. Don’t be afraid to wait for
an audience to settle down before you start speaking or to ask for quiet if this does not happen.
3. Make contact with your audience
One of the key challenges faced by the presenter is to establish links with her/his audience (a poor
presenter appears to be speaking to an empty room). Making contact helps to maintain an audience's
interest and encourages them to believe that you are genuinely interested in talking to them. You can
make contact with your audience in a number of ways, including:
• Eye contact: Eye contact is part of everyday communication and an audience can feel uncomfortable
if they are denied it. Making eye contact with individuals gives them a sense of involvement in
your presentation and helps to convey your objectives on a personal level. Make sure that you share
eye contact with all members of a small audience and all areas of a large audience. Regularly shift
your focus around the room, not so that you look nervous, but to help involve as many people as
possible in your talk.
A handy tip: if you can’t make eye contact in a large group, don’t look at the floor or ceiling (this
looks like boredom or rudeness). Try looking at people’s foreheads. The people sat around them will
read this as eye contact even if the individual won’t.
Gesture: People use their arms and hands in every day conversation to add emphasis or to help
describe events. Presenters will therefore look rather awkward if they keep their hands in their
pockets or rooted firmly at their sides. Use gestures to welcome your audience, to add emphasis to
your main points or to indicate an ending. Try to use open gestures which move away from your
body, extending them out to your audience. This helps to break any audience/presenter divisions.
Make sure that all gestures are controlled and precise; too much movement will appear nervous
and unfocussed. Always watch against distracting your audience from the content of your
presentation. You should continually be trying to find ways to help them listen and understand.
Spoken contact: Acknowledge your audience by making verbal contact with them. At the beginning
of your talk ask if they can see and hear you, or check that lighting and sound levels on audio-visual
equipment are satisfactory. During your presentation, ask rhetorical questions that you can then
answer (e.g. “How do we know this was true?” or “So, what does this prove?”). At the end of your
talk give the audience an opportunity to ask questions or to clarify detail— this encourages them to
take ownership of your material.
The use of questions is an important tool. Questions involve your audience’s mind in a more
stimulating way than simply asking them to sit and listen to your talk. Draw an audience in with clear,
focused questions.
4. Use your voice: Your voice is a very flexible and powerful tool. You can use it in many
different ways by varying the:
Volume: Make sure that your voice is loud enough for your audience to hear clearly.
Speaking too loudly or too quietly can make it difficult for your audience to follow your
presentation. Listen to people speaking in normal conversation. They tend to raise or lower
their volume for emphasis. For example, they may speak loudly when giving an instruction but
softly when apologising. To add energy to your presentation, use these colourful changes to
your best advantage: a conspiratorial whisper can draw an audience in; a loudly spoken
exclamation can make them sit up and listen.
Pace: Make sure that the speed of your delivery is easy to follow. If you speak too quickly or
too slowly your audience will have difficulty following your talk. To add life to your
presentation, try changing the pace of your delivery. A slightly faster section might convey
enthusiasm. A slightly slower one might add emphasis or caution.
Pitch: The pitch of your voice also varies in day to day conversation and it is important to play
on this when making a presentation. For example, your pitch will rise when asking a question;
it will lower when you wish to sound severe. Play around with the volume, pace and pitch of
your voice when practicing your presentation. Find different ways of saying the same
sentence. Explore different ways of adding emphasis to your main points. Always try to
convey enthusiasm and energy through your use of your voice.
5. Breathe: Always remember to breathe steadily and deeply. If you are anxious about making a
presentation your breathing will become fast and shallow. This will affect the quality of your voice and
your ability to speak clearly for extended periods of time. Try to take a few deep breaths before you
make your presentation, making a conscious effort to slow your breathing down and taking in more air
with each breath. During your presentation, use pauses after questions or at the end of sections to
allow comfortable breathing patterns. Don’t be afraid to slow down the pace of your presentation if
your breathing becomes uncomfortable.
6. Drink: It is a good idea to have some liquid to hand to quench your thirst if you are speaking for a
long time. However, be careful not to gulp ice-cold water before you go on as this constricts your
throat and affects the quality of your voice. Drink a warm (not hot) cup of tea to relax your throat
and ease your speaking voice
LISTENING:
Listening is the process of receiving messages from oral, verbal and non verbal communication and
interpreting the same. It is necessary here to differentiate hearing and listening. Hearing is receiving
the sounds through ears without evaluation and I interpretation. Listening is a very broad concept.
Hearing is just a part of listening. We listen through ears, eyes, mind and heart (empathy). Listening
task not only the current input and also the matter that already exists in the memory. Listening takes
the total environment into consideration. Listening in a classroom is different to that of listening the
same from the same teacher privately.
People feel listening is .very hard and in many instances people avoid to listen or try to break a
listening process. Culturally listening is considered as an inferior status and sender a superior status.
Therefore, every one tries to be a sender most of the time. When somebody is communicating a
message, people try to obstruct and try to communicate something from their side. Infact, when you
are listening you will gain many things. You can understand the other person totally and also you will
find time to respond effectively. Therefore, one has to practice listening. Good listening skills are
essential to become a good communicator.
1. Hearing: Hearing just means listening enough to catch what the speaker is t saying. For example,
say you were listening to a report on zebras, and the speaker mentioned that no two are alike. If you
can repeat the fact, then you L have heard what has been said.
2. Understanding: The next part of listening happens when you take what you have heard and
understand it in your own way. Let's go back to that report on zebras. When you hear that no two are
alike, think about what that might mean. b You might think, "Maybe this means that the pattern of
stripes is different for each zebra."
3. Judging: After you are sure you understand what the speaker has said, think about whether it
makes sense. Do you believe what you have heard? You might think, "How could the stripes to be
different for every zebra? But then again, the fingerprints are different for every person. I think this
seems believable."
In the process of listening some of the tips for being a good listener are:
1. Give your full attention on the person who is speaking. Don't look out the window or at what else is
going on in the room.
2. Make sure your mind is focused, too. It can be easy to let your mind wander if you think you know
what the person is going to say next. Hut you might be wrong! If you feel your mind wandering,
change the position of your body and try to concentrate on the speaker's words.
3. Let the speaker finish before you begin to talk. Speakers appreciate having the chance to say
everything they would like to say without being interrupted. When i you interrupt, it looks like you
aren't listening, even if you really are.
4. Let yourself finish listening before you begin to speak! You can't really listen if you are busy
thinking about what you want to say next.
5. Listen for main ideas. The main ideas are the most important points the speaker 1 wants to get
across. They may be mentioned at the start or end of a talk, and repeated a number of times. Pay
special attention to statements that begin with 1 phrases such as "My point is ..." or "The thing to
remember is ..."
6. Ask questions. If you are not sure you understand what the speaker has said, just I ask. It is a good
idea to repeat in your own words what the speaker said so that you can be sure your understanding is
correct. For example, you might say, "When you said that no two zebras are alike, did you mean that
the stripes are different on each one?"
7. Give feedback. Sit up straight and look directly at the speaker. Now and then, i nod to show that
you understand. At appropriate points you may also smile, frown, laugh, or be silent. These are all
ways to let the speaker know that you ~ are really listening. Remember, you listen with your face as
well as your ears!
Types of listening
1. Discriminative listening
Discriminative listening is the most basic type of listening, whereby the difference between difference
sounds is identified. If you cannot hear differences, then you cannot make sense of the meaning that is
expressed by such differences. We learn to discriminate between sounds within our own language
early, and later are unable to discriminate between the phonemes of other languages. This is one reason
why a person from one country finds it difficult to speak another language perfectly, as they are unable
distinguish the subtle sounds that are required in that language. Likewise, a person who cannot hear the
subtleties of emotional variation in another person's voice will be less likely to be able to discern the
emotions the other person is experiencing. Listening is a visual as well as auditory act, as we
communicate much through body language. We thus also need to be able to discriminate between
muscle and skeletal movements that signify different meanings.
2. Biased listening
Biased listening happens when the person hears only what they want to hear, typically misinterpreting
what the other person says based on the stereotypes and other biases that they have. Such biased
listening is often very evaluative in nature.
3. Evaluative listening
In evaluative listening, or critical listening, we make judgments about what the other person is saying.
We seek to assess the truth of what is being said. We also judge what they say against our values,
assessing them as good or bad, worthy or unworthy. Evaluative listening is particularly pertinent when
the other person is trying to persuade us, perhaps to change our behaviour and maybe even to change
our beliefs. Within this, we also discriminate between subtleties of language and comprehend the inner
meaning of what is said. Typically also we weigh up the pros and cons of an argument, determining
whether it makes sense logically as well as whether it is helpful to us. Evaluative listening is also
called critical, judgmental or interpretive listening.
4. Appreciative listening: In appreciative listening, we seek certain information which will
appreciate, for example that which helps meet our needs and goals. We use appreciative listening when
we are listening to good music, poetry or maybe even the stirring words of a great leader.
5. Sympathetic listening: In sympathetic listening we care about the other person and show this
concern in the way we pay close attention and express our sorrow for their ills and happiness at their
joys.
7. Therapeutic listening
In therapeutic listening, the listener has a purpose of not only empathizing with the speaker but also to
use this deep connection in order to help the speaker understand, change or develop in some way. This
not only happens when you go to see a therapist but also in many social situations, where friends and
family seek to both diagnose problems from listening and also to help the speaker cure themselves,
perhaps by some cathartic process. This also happens in work situations, where managers, HR people,
trainers and coaches seek to help employees learn and develop.
8. Relationship listening
Sometimes the most important factor in listening is in order to develop or sustain a relationship. This is
why lovers talk for hours and attend closely to what each other has to say when the same words from
someone else would seem to be rather boring. Relationship listening is also important in areas such as
negotiation and sales, where it is helpful if the other person likes you and trusts you.
9. False listening
False listening occurs where a person is pretending to listen but is not hearing anything that is being
said. They may nod, smile and grunt in all the right places, but do not actually take in anything that is
said. This is a skill with the people who do a lot of inconsequential listening, such as politicians. Their
goal with the audience is to make a good impression in very short space of time before they move on,
never to talk to that person again.
10. Initial listening
Sometimes when we listen we hear the first few words and then start to think about what we want to
say in return. We then look for a point at which we can interrupt. We are also not listening then as we
are spending more time rehearsing what we are going to say about their initial point.
11. Selective listening
Selective listening involves listening for particular things and ignoring others. We thus hear what we
want to hear and pay little attention to 'extraneous' detail.
12. Partial listening
Partial listening is what most of us do most of the time. We listen to the other person with the best of
intent and then become distracted, either by stray thoughts or by something that the other person has
said. We consequently dip inside our own heads for a short while as we figure out what they really
mean or formulate a question for them, before coming back into the room and starting to listen again.
This can be problematic when the other person has moved on and we are unable to pick up the threads
of what is being said. We thus easily can fall into false listening, at least for a short while. This can be
embarrassing, of course, if they suddenly ask your opinion. A tip here: own up, admitting that you had
lost the thread of the conversation and asking them to repeat what was said.
13. Full listening
Full listening happens where the listener pays close and careful attention to what is being said, seeking
carefully to understand the full content that the speaker is seeking to put across. This may be very
active form of listening, with pauses for summaries and testing that understanding is complete. By the
end of the conversation, the listener and the speaker will probably agree that the listener has fully
understood what was said. Full listening takes much more effort than partial listening, as it requires
close concentration, possibly for a protracted period. It also requires skills of understanding and
summary.
14. Deep listening
Beyond the intensity of full listening, you can also reach into a form of listening that not only hears
what is said but also seeks to understand the whole person behind the words. In deep listening, you
listen between the lines of what is said, hearing the emotion, watching the body language, detecting
needs and goals, identifying preferences and biases, perceiving beliefs and values, and so on.
Module-IV
Unit-IV: Behavioural Techniques
Body Language: Facial expressions - Body posture – Gestures - Eye movement - Touch and the use
of personal space.
Business attire and Grooming: Different types of attire - Guidelines for business attire.
Body Language
Body language refers to the nonverbal signals that we use to communicate. According to
experts, these nonverbal signals make up a huge part of daily communication.
From our facial expressions to our body movements, the things we don't say can still convey
volumes of information.
Body language is a type of a nonverbal communication in which physical behaviours are used
to express or convey the information. Such behaviour includes facial expressions, body
posture, gestures, eye movement, touch and the use of space.
1. Facial expressions
Think for a moment about how much a person is able to convey with just a facial expression. A smile
can indicate approval or happiness. A frown can signal disapproval or unhappiness.
In some cases, our facial expressions may reveal our true feelings about a particular situation. While
you say that you are feeling fine, the look on your face may tell people otherwise.
Just a few examples of emotions that can be expressed via facial expressions include:
Happiness
Sadness
Anger
Surprise
Disgust
Fear
Contempt
The expression on a person's face can even help determine if we trust or believe what the
individual is saying.
One study found that the most trustworthy facial expression involved a slight raise of the
eyebrows and a slight smile. This expression, the researchers suggested, conveys both
friendliness and confidence.
Facial expressions are also among the most universal forms of body language. The expressions
used to convey fear, anger, sadness, and happiness are similar throughout the world.
The eyes are frequently referred to as the "windows to the soul" since they are capable of
revealing a great deal about what a person is feeling or thinking.
As you engage in conversation with another person, taking note of eye movements is a natural
and important part of the communication process.
Some common things you may notice include whether people are making direct eye contact or
averting their gaze, how much they are blinking, or if their pupils are dilated.
When evaluating body language, pay attention to the following eye signals.
2. The Mouth
Mouth expressions and movements can also be essential in reading body language. For example,
chewing on the bottom lip may indicate that the individual is experiencing feelings of worry, fear, or
insecurity.
Covering the mouth may be an effort to be polite if the person is yawning or coughing, but it may also
be an attempt to cover up a frown of disapproval.
Smiling is perhaps one of the greatest body language signals, but smiles can also be interpreted in
many ways.
A smile may be genuine, or it may be used to express false happiness, sarcasm, or even cynicism.
When evaluating body language, pay attention to the following mouth and lip signals:
Pursed lips. Tightening the lips might be an indicator of distaste, disapproval, or distrust.
Lip biting. People sometimes bite their lips when they are worried, anxious, or stressed.
Covering the mouth. When people want to hide an emotional reaction, they might cover their
mouths in order to avoid displaying smiles or smirks.
Turned up or down. Slight changes in the mouth can also be subtle indicators of what a
person is feeling. When the mouth is slightly turned up, it might mean that the person is feeling
happy or optimistic. On the other hand, a slightly down-turned mouth can be an indicator of
sadness, disapproval, or even an outright grimace.
3.Posture
How we hold our bodies can also serve as an important part of body language.
The term posture refers to how we hold our bodies as well as the overall physical form of an
individual.
Posture can convey a wealth of information about how a person is feeling as well as hints about
personality characteristics, such as whether a person is confident, open, or submissive.
Sitting up straight, for example, may indicate that a person is focused and paying attention to
what's going on. Sitting with the body hunched forward, on the other hand, can imply that the
person is bored or indifferent.
When you are trying to read body language, try to notice some of the signals that a person's
posture can send.
Open posture involves keeping the trunk of the body open and exposed. This type of posture indicates
friendliness, openness, and willingness.
Closed posture involves hiding the trunk of the body often by hunching forward and keeping the arms
and legs crossed. This type of posture can be an indicator of hostility, unfriendliness, and anxiety
Emotions can also be detected through body postures. For example, a person feeling angry would
portray dominance over the other, and their posture would display approach tendencies. Sitting or
standing postures also indicate one's emotions.
A person sitting till the back of their chair, leans forward with their head nodding along with the
discussion implies that they are open, relaxed and generally ready to listen. On the other hand, a person
who has their legs and arms crossed with the foot kicking slightly implies that they are feeling
impatient and emotionally detached from the discussion
Consider how your perceptions of people are affected by the way they sit, walk, stand, or hold their
head. The way you move and carry yourself, communicates a wealth of information to the world. This
type of nonverbal communication includes your posture, bearing, stance, and the subtle movements
you make
Dos and don’ts of body posture
Do Stand Tall
For good body posture when standing, always hold yourself erect. Keep your head straight with your
chin tucked in. Pull your shoulders back, keep your stomach tucked in, and knees straight. Take care
not to let your hips jut out. Feel your body straighten up and visualize your head reaching skywards.
Make a conscious effort to follow this method of standing, always.
Do Lift Your Smartphone (Or Book!) Up Higher
Avoiding phone usage is not an option for most people. But you can improve your posture while
reading or texting. Instead of keeping your head bent down to read from your phone, bring the phone
up so it is at eye level. This should reduce the strain on your spine and neck. The same applies to
when you are reading a book.
Exercise can help fix balance issues, tighten up loose muscles, and build strength in muscles that
support good posture. For instance, exercises that help build core strength and flexibility are good to
include in your exercise regimen. Tai Chi and Yoga, in particular, are two activities to improve body
positioning and general awareness of your body and posture.
Do adjust your Workstation and Working Surfaces
Ensure your desk at work and countertops in the kitchen are at the right height for you.
If they aren’t, use a short stool or laptop table to adjust their height to something comfortable for
you.
Your desk should be at a height that allows the monitor of your computer to line up level to your eyes.
Your chair must allow your feet to sit flat on the floor and not dangling above the ground. If you are
short, put a footstool or footrest to ensure your thighs are parallel to the ground and feet flat on the
floor.
Get a chair that offers good back support.
Ensure your forearms are parallel to the floor and your arms make an L-shape at the elbows
Consider some activities to improve body position and seating mindfully, every hour or two. This
might be a series of stretches you do at your desk or even just straightening up your body and
sitting more consciously.
Don’t Slouch
This goes without saying, but slouching is terrible for your posture. It stresses the spine as well as
the muscles, joints, and bones that support it.
Staying in the same position for a long time can be just as bad as having bad posture. Get up and
walk around every hour or so. Stretch your body in these breaks to ease any muscle tension.
Crossing your legs can make your hips/pelvis rotate or tilt. After a while, this can bring on lower
back pain. Sit with your feet flat on the ground.
4. Gestures: Gestures are movements made with body parts (example hands, arms, fingers, head, and
legs) and they may be voluntary or involuntary. Different hand gestures help emphasize meanings and
regulate interaction between or among participants
Gestures are woven into the fabric of our daily lives. You may wave, point, beckon, or use your hands
when arguing or speaking animatedly, often expressing yourself with gestures without thinking.
However, the meaning of some gestures can be very different across cultures. While the OK sign made
with the hand, for example, conveys a positive message in English-speaking countries, it’s consider
offensive in countries such as Germany, Russia, and Brazil. So, it’s important to be careful of how you
use gestures to avoid misinterpretation.
DO:
Talk with your palms facing in an upward position. Doing this, so that people can see the inside of
your hand, dramatically increases “the degree of trust of what you are saying,” says Pease. People will
also more often associate this hand gesture with the adjectives of “friendly, laid back, easy going.”
“The reason behind this is because it’s a primal instinct, says Pease, “to should they show they are not
concealing anything in you hands or arms.
“It is hardwired into us, it’s a survival thing. You are being open and not threatening… It has a
soothing affect on people.”
Place your elbows on the outside of the chairs arms when sitting in a chair during a meeting.
According to Pease, people of high authority assume this position because it alludes authority and
confidence. “Elbows on the outside (of the chair) creates an atmosphere that your relaxed and you
don’t feel intimidated. Whereas if you are nervous or up tight they keep their elbows in beside their
ribs as a form of protection.”
Keep hand gestures no higher than your chin when talking or listening. This body language not
only maintains authority, says Pease, but more importantly “you’ll feel more authoritative.”
Keep your hand vertical when shaking hands to create rapport. This neutral position, as well as
maintaining an even pressure, will create a good first impression. The vertical hand presents you as an
equal, not overpowering or submissive, says Pease.
Use powerful gestures such as “the steeple”. This gesture looks “almost like you’re praying,
where the fingertips come together, makes you look and feel confident”, says Pease.
DON’T:
Talk with your palms facing down. According to a test done by Pease, “people recall up to
40% less. And remember you in harsher terms: authoritative, pushy, aggressive” when you use
this body language.
Point. “The rule is you can point at things, not people… You can point with your hand or a
pen.” In the same test by Pease “No one could remember much of what the finger pointer said
and just didn’t like that person… It is like having a small stick and you’re hitting someone with
it”, says Pease.
Talk with your hands higher than your chin. The higher above your chin, “the less
credibility people perceive you’ve got”, says Pease.
Splay your fingers. “For those who don’t feel confident, when they use their hand they spread
their fingers.
“Perhaps is comes down to ancient primal signal that you’ve got nothing, and you’re totally
unthreatening,” says Pease. But in a business meeting when you are trying to appear successful
and confident, it is not a signal you want to give off.
Put your hands behind your back, in your pockets or crossed in front of yourself.
According to Pease these are three big no-nos. “If your palms are out of sight, people get
suspicious. You ancient brain is saying ‘Why is this person not showing me they’re unarmed?'”
Handshake with both your hands over the other persons “Never gives a double-handed
(handshake) on a first meeting – ever,” Pease says. “This is because you want people to feel
accepting of you and not intimidated. By using two hands you are taking control.”
But most importantly gestures must only be used in sync with what you are saying. Hand
movements are great way to aid what you are communicating but only if it is reinforcing what
you are saying.
The following examples are just a few common gestures and their possible meanings:
Crossed arms might indicate that a person feels defensive, self-protective, or closed-off.
Standing with hands placed on the hips can be an indication that a person is ready and in
control, or it can also possibly be a sign of aggressiveness.
Clasping the hands behind the back might indicate that a person is feeling bored, anxious, or
even angry.
Rapidly tapping fingers or fidgeting can be a sign that a person is bored, impatient, or
frustrated.
Crossed legs can indicate that a person is feeling closed off or in need of privacy
4. Eye movement
Oculesics -Oculesics, a subcategory of body language, is the study of eye movement, eye behaviour,
gaze, and eye-related nonverbal communication. Eyes are said to be the window to the soul. -
Through eye contact, one can tell if the other party is paying attention to the speaker’s words. - It can
also help in determining whether one is saying the truth or not. - Through eye contact we can be able
to know one’s emotional condition.
Eye Gaze: When a person looks directly into your eyes while having a conversation, it indicates that
they are interested and paying attention. However, prolonged eye contact can feel threatening.
On the other hand, breaking eye contact and frequently looking away might indicate that the person is
distracted, uncomfortable, or trying to conceal his or her real feelings.
Blinking: Blinking is natural, but you should also pay attention to whether a person is blinking too
much or too little.
People often blink more rapidly when they are feeling distressed or uncomfortable. Infrequent blinking
may indicate that a person is intentionally trying to control his or her eye movements.
For example, a poker player might blink less frequently because he is purposely trying to appear
unexcited about the hand he was dealt.
Pupil Size
Pupil size can be a very subtle nonverbal communication signal. While light levels in the environment
control pupil dilation, sometimes emotions can also cause small changes in pupil size.
For example, you may have heard the phrase "bedroom eyes" used to describe the look someone gives
when they are attracted to another person. Highly dilated eyes, for example, can indicate that a person
is interested or even aroused.
Tips for Making Eye-Contact
Turn your shoulders and head to face the other person's eyes. Opening up your body to the
other person tells them you are listening, engaged, and ready to communicate. It also makes
eye contact easier and more natural to maintain. Position yourself a few feet away from the
other person's face
Choose a focal point near the eyes. Most commonly, this is one of the other person's eyes, but
if you are uncomfortable you can look between their eyes, just under or above the eye, or at the
earlobe.
Make gentle eye-contact. Think of how you would look at a painting or great view -- you are
not focusing intently on their eye but instead looking at them gently. Hold your eyes in this
position and resist darting them around. Relax your gaze by breathing slowly as you make eye-
contact and nodding occasionally while you listen.
Break eye contact briefly every 5-15 seconds. Too much eye-contact can be as off-putting as
none at all. While you don't need to count the seconds, you should look away every once in a
while to keep the conversation light and easy, but only for a few seconds. Some casual ways to
do so include:
Laughing, nodding, and acknowledging the other person.
Looking at the sky/weather.
Looking off to the side briefly, as if remembering something.
Running your hands through your hair.
Make a conscious effort to start making eye-contact slowly. Do not try to force yourself to
hold the eyes of every person you meet if you are uncomfortable. Start slowly, reminding
yourself to make eye-contact in every conversation.
It is easier to practice while listening to someone instead of while you are talking.
Make "whole-face contact" to make your eye's feel more natural. Smile and nod along to
the conversation, rotating your gaze though eyes, the person's nose, and mouth. When talking,
don't feel like you have to make eye-contact the entire time-- change your expression or look
away to keep the other person's interest.
Practice with a TV, web-camera, or mirror. If you struggle with real people, you can
practice with a screen or mirror. Try to make eye-contact with every character you can on TV
or video blogs. News channels, where the anchor looks right at the camera, are a great way to
practice comfortably in your home.
Know when good eye-contact is essential. Making eye-contact is a sign of trust, reliability,
and openness, and helps in a variety of social settings. However, there are some settings when
it is vital for success.
Job Interviews: Good eye-contact tells a boss that they can trust you. Be sure to look them in
eyes while you talk, as it assures them that you know what you're talking about.
These rules vary according to culture and location, so they're not etched in stone. They're here as a
guideline for social and professional etiquette.
BUSINESS ATTIRE
2. Smart Casual: Smart casual business attire is just a step down from traditional, formal attire.
Men:
Sports jacket with a tie, dress pants, and button-down or traditional business shirt or nice
turtleneck
Dress shoes
Accessories as described in traditional business attire
Women:
Jacket or dressy sweater
Dress pants or skirt
Blouse, shirt, top or turtleneck
Hose
Dress shoes
Accessories as described in traditional business attire
3. Business Casual: Business casual attire is slightly more casual than smart casual and permits
more comfortable cuts and fabrics.
Men:
Khakis or dress pants
Shirts with collars or golf or polo shirts
Sweaters
Vests
Occasionally an informal jacket and tie
Attractive leather shoes and accessories
Women:
Nice pants or skirt
Blouse, top, or sweater
Vest
Occasionally an informal jacket
Attractive leather shoes and accessories
4. Casual: If you want to dress appropriately in a casual workplace, you may find yourself wearing
jeans and other casual wear.
Men:
Casual pants
Jeans
Shirt, with or without collar
Sweater
Vest
Sweatshirt
Casual shoes
Women:
Casual pants
Jeans
Casual skirt
Blouse, top, or sweater
Vest
Sweatshirt
Casual shoes
Even with a casual business attire dress code, some articles of clothing are almost always
inappropriate, no matter the workplace, including ripped or shredded clothing, flip-flops, beachwear,
and tops that reveal the midriff.
ETIQUETTES:
Etiquette is merely a set of guidelines for politeness and good manners, the kindnesses with which we
should always treat each other. It will always matter!
Without etiquette, members of society would show far too much impatience and disrespect for one
another, which would lead to insults, dishonesty, cheating, road rage, fist fights, and a rash of other
unfortunate incidents.
1. Greeting etiquette
In business, who you know matters and first impressions are the longest lasting. That's why it's so
important to make the best impression when greeting someone by using the proper business greeting
etiquette, which will help guarantee you start your relationship right every time.
Of course, because greeting etiquette around the world and even among different industries varies, be
prepared to adjust your greeting slightly based on circumstance when necessary.
1. Stand Up
When you’re greeting new people, do so face-to-face. It’s just polite, and shows respect. It means that
you consider them important enough to change your physical position for them. It also helps you to
make eye contact.
2. Make Eye contact
Making eye contact indicates engagement and focus. It shows that you’re interested in the other
person. Staring at your shoes, your watch, or your phone shows the opposite, and suggests
disengagement. Use positive body language.
3. Have a Smile
Even if you’re carrying the woes of the world on your shoulders, try to look happy to see your new
acquaintance. A grimace immediately puts the other person on the defensive, while a smile is
welcoming and inclusive.
4. Take the Initiative with a Handshake
Approach the person you’re greeting and extend your hand. You’ll come across as confident
and assertive, not aggressive. Don’t wait for the other person to take a lead.
Keep it simple: shake firmly, but avoid the “death grip.” A “limp fish” leaves an equally poor
impression. And keep your spare hand by your side: two-handed pumping and hands on shoulders are
strictly for politicians.
5. Introduce yourself
Even better, say why you’re there and what you do. “Hi, I’m Suresh” is a start. “Hi, I’m Suresh. I’m an
account manager with the Client Success team. How can I help?” is actually useful, and shows you’re
making the effort.
6. Observe the Hierarchy
If you’re making the introductions, remember business etiquette. Introduce less senior people to more
senior ones. Start with the name of the senior person, and then introduce the junior person to them.
As you did when you introduced yourself, give some context. So, “Colette, may I introduce Phil? Phil
is our new lead developer. Phil, Colette is our chief financial officer.”
2. Corporate Etiquette
An individual must know how to behave at the workplace. There is a huge difference between college
and professional life. One needs to be disciplined at the workplace.
Corporate Etiquette refers to set of rules an individual must follow while he is at work. One must
respect his organization and maintain the decorum of the place.
Corporate Etiquette refers to behaving sensibly and appropriately at the workplace to create an
everlasting impression. No one would take you seriously if you do not behave well at the workplace.
Remember we can’t behave the same way at work place as we behave at our homes. One needs to be
professional and organized.
Never adopt a casual attitude at work. Your office pays you for your hard work and not for
loitering around.
Don’t peep into other’s cubicles and workstations. Knock before entering anyone’s cabin.
Respect each other’s privacy.
Put your hand phone in the silent or vibrating mode at the workplace. Loud ring tones are
totally unprofessional and also disturb other people.
Don’t open anyone else’s notepads registers or files without his permission.
It is bad manners to sneeze or cough in public without covering your mouth. Use a
handkerchief or tissue for the same.
Popping chewing gums in front of co-workers is simply not expected out of a professional.
Stay away from nasty politics at the workplace. Avoid playing blame games.
Keep your workstation clean and tidy. Throw unwanted paper in dustbin and keep files in
their respective drawers. Put a label on top of each file to avoid unnecessary searching.
Never criticize or make fun of any of your colleagues. Remember fighting leads to no
solution. There are several other ways to express displeasure. Sit with your colleagues, discuss
issues face to face and decide on something which is mutually acceptable.
Take care of your pitch and tone at the workplace. Never shout on anyone or use foul
words. It is unprofessional to lash out at others under pressure. Stay calm and think rationally.
Never attend meetings or seminars without a notepad and pen. It is little tough to
remember each and everything discussed in the meeting. Jot down the important points for
future reference. Wait for your turn to speak.
Pass on information to all related recipients in the desired form. Communicate through
written modes of communication preferably through emails. Keep your reporting boss in the
loop. Make sure your email signatures are correct.
Reach office on time. One must adhere to the guidelines and policies of the organization.
Discipline must be maintained at the workplace.
No organization likes to have a shabbily dressed employee. Shave daily and do not use
strong perfumes.
Never wear revealing clothes to work. Body piercing and tattoo are not allowed at the
workplace. Females should avoid wearing heavy jewelry to work.
Don’t pass lewd comments to any of your fellow workers.
While having lunch together, do not start till the others have received their food. Make
sure your spoon and fork do not make a clattering sound. Eat slowly to avoid burping in public.
Respect your fellow workers and help them whenever required.
It is unethical to share confidential data with external parties and any other individual who is
not related to the organization. Data in any form must not be passed to anyone outside the
organization.
Office Stationery is meant to be used only at work. Taking any office property back home is
equivalent to stealing.
Make sure you turn off the monitor while you go out for lunch or tea breaks. Switch off
the fans, lights, printer, fax machine, scanner before you leave for the day.
Don’t bring your personal work to office. Avoid taking kids to office unless and until there is
an emergency.
Park your car at the space allocated to you. Don’t park your vehicle at the entrance as it
might obstruct someone’s way.
Never ever drink while you are at work. Smoke only at the smoking zones.
Do not leave the restroom with taps on.
Female Employees should stick to minimal make up.
3. Telephone etiquettes
These are some basic manners that everyone in Business should follow because what you say
represents you, your organization and your ideas. All of these deserve to be portrayed in the best
possible manner. There are certain thumb rules that we go by in Business.
Keep a pleasant voice pitch. Use warm wishes like “good morning, “how are you, good sir?”
and such. First impressions are the last impressions. So make them last.
Know your audience: It’s important to know who you are speaking to set the tone and use
relatable language with them.
Never call any person at odd hours like early morning or late nights as the person will
definitely be sleeping and will not be interested in talking to you.
If you are the one who has called, before starting the conversation, introduce yourself first and
then definitely confirm whether you are talking to the right person. Example – Hello sir. Good
morning. My name is Ajay; I am calling from ABC limited. Am I speaking with Ravi?”
Make sure your content is crisp and relevant. Don’t play with words, come to the point
directly and convey the information as required. If you the one dialling, first prepare your
content thoroughly and then only pick up the receiver to start interacting.
Re-check the dialled number to avoid unwanted confusion and mistakes.
Remember you are making a conversation. Be a good listener and always ask for feedback to
know whether you have the other person on the same page as you. Also, when the call is done,
always ask politely to the person on the other hand if that is all? Then end with pleasantries.
Always speak each and every word clearly. The person on the other end can’t see your
expressions so remember your tone should be apt to express your feelings in the correct form.
Very important telephone etiquette is to never put the second party on very long holds. It
is rude and may cause irritation to the person on the other end.
If there are disturbances around like TVs, radios, etc., it’s telephone etiquette to turn its volume
down so you are audible to the person on the line.
If you are eating and it is a formal phone call, it does not sound good. First off, all calls must
be scheduled on non-lunch hours. If there are unplanned calls that are business related, either
ask for pardoning you till you finish eating or maybe take a break from eating or finish the call
first. Not only do we sound funny when we speak on the phone while eating, but we can also
be not clearly understood.
It is hard to concentrate on the person on the line if you are focusing on other activities like
watching a video, reading a book, eating, playing video games, etc. It may very well come
off as irresponsible and disinterested to some.
One of the important telephone etiquettes is to not take too long to pick up a call. If you
miss the call, make sure you give a call back as the other person might have an important
message to convey. Avoid giving missed calls at workplaces as it irritates the other person. Be
professional and always approach first if you are the one in need.
Do not leave your phone numbers on your emails for them to call you if you are the one
approaching for work.
In professional talks, never keep the conversation too long as the other person might be busy.
Always keep the content crisp and relevant and do come to the point after formal greetings.
If you are not the correct person and the speaker needs to speak to your co-worker always
politely say “one moment please- I will call him/her in a minute”. If the colleague is not in the
office premises, always take a message on his/her behalf and don’t forget to convey to him
when he is back. Also, it is best if you do not discuss these messages with others as some
information could be sensitive too.
If you have network issues between a call, deal with it patiently and wisely. People tend to
raise their voices when the network is the issue. If it’s a patchy network, even a raised voice is
going to sound patchy. So do not resort to yelling. Moreover, it causes disturbance to others
around you. Check your network, if the issue is at your end, politely tell them you are
disconnecting the call to find a better spot to call back from.
Chances are they won’t be able to hear it, but you have no choice. If re-connection takes to
long, leave them a message with a re-scheduled call. In case the network disturbance is from
the other person’s end, politely tell them that you are facing difficulty in hearing them. Kindly
ask them to find a network zone.
4. Email Etiquette
Have you ever received an email that left you wondering about the person who sent it? Or worse, have
you ever sent an email that you later regretted? Being on the receiving end of a bad email can leave
you shaking your head and trying to figure out what on earth the other person was thinking. Being the
one who sent it can ruin an otherwise great day, and it can have adverse repercussions later.
Whether you send a personal or business email, following proper etiquette is essential to prevent
miscommunication or hard feelings.
Follow the Golden Rule by treating the recipient as you would want to be treated. Before you click
“send” on any email take a minute and give it an extra read-through. Effective use of email can put you
in a positive light with your supervisor and may even give you an edge when it's time for a promotion.
1. Don't Assume Privacy: Keep in mind that your company and personal email may not be private. Your
company has the right to read anything sent from the office, so never write and send personal or highly
sensitive information from work. Personal email from home may be forwarded, so don’t put anything in
writing that could cause a problem if it reaches the wrong person.
2. Avoid Offensive Comments: Avoid offensive comments in your email. This includes racist, sexist, or
negative remarks about another person or company. If you receive an offensive email, don’t reply or
forward it to anyone. Never use email to say anything that can be misconstrued or misinterpreted if it
gets back to your boss.
3. Edit Your Messages: Edit your emails before you send them. Use spellchecker and go over all business
emails to make sure you have proper grammar. You always want to present yourself as a professional in
all correspondence. Check personal email after you finish writing it to make sure it gets your intended
point across. Dropping or adding a single word can change the meaning of a sentence.
4. Reply with Caution: Know the proper way to reply to the emails you receive. Pay close
attention to the sender and the others in the “to” and “cc” fields. Respond as quickly as possible
rather than let your “saved” folder become too cluttered.
Avoid the urge to hit “reply all” before looking to see who is listed in the header. Your
response may confuse others on the list or you might wind up sending unnecessary information
to people you don’t know. The only time you should click “reply all” is if you are sure
everyone needs the information you are sending.
5. Meeting Etiquette
One must learn to maintain the decorum of the work place. It is important to respect one’s organization
to expect the same in return. No one would ever take you seriously if do not behave well at the
workplace.
Meetings are an important part of corporate where employees sit together on a common platform,
exchange their views and opinions and reach to a solution benefitting the organization and mutually
acceptable to all.
Meeting Etiquette refers to codes of behaviour an individual ought to follow while attending
meetings and discussions at the workplace.
Let us go through some meeting etiquette in detail:
Try to find out what the meeting is all about. Understand the importance of the meeting. Never
go blank. Employees should do all the ground work before attending meetings to ensure
maximum participation from their end. Prepare notes in advance.
Never attend meetings without a notepad and pen. It is practically not possible for an individual
to remember each and every thing discussed at the time of meeting. A notepad helps in jotting
down the important points for future reference.
Always keep your cell phone on the silent or vibrator mode. Cell phones ringing in the middle
of meetings and seminars are considered rude and unprofessional. This might insult others
sitting in the same room as well as break the pace of the meeting.
Do not attend phone calls during meetings unless it is an emergency. It is bad manners to do
the same.
Superiors must create an agenda before every meeting. The agenda must be circulated among
all employees for them to prepare in advance. Meetings should not be conducted just for the
sake of it. It is important to have well defined plans. Make a list of issues to be discussed at the
time of meeting. Make sure you do not deviate from the key points. Keep the meetings short.
Never be late for meetings. Going late for a meeting is something which is not expected out of
a professional.
Chewing gum during meetings is childish and must be avoided.
Be a good listener. Listen to what others have to say. Wait for your turn to speak.
Sit wherever you find a place. Do not run here and there.
Do not enter the meeting room once the meeting has already begun It disturbs others.
Avoid taking your cups of coffee or tea to meeting rooms unless and until advised by superiors.
Fiddling with pen or notepad is one of the major distractions in meetings. One must concentrate
and stay alert. Be an attentive listener. Do not yawn even if you find the meeting boring.
The one chairing the meeting must speak loud and clear. It is essential to take care of the pitch
and tone.
Meetings ought to be interactive and allow employees to come up with their suggestions and
valuable feedback. A question answer round must be kept at the end for employees to clear
their doubts.
Once the meeting is over, minutes of the meeting must be prepared and circulated across all
departments for them to take necessary action
Use Whiteboards, projectors, graphs, pointers, slides for better clarity.
Do not convert the meeting room into a battle ground. Speak politely and do respect your
colleagues.
Never attend meetings in casuals. Follow a professional dress code.
6. Netiquette
The internet often plays a huge part in many young people’s daily activities; allowing them to
communicate freely with others and share information with ease via messaging apps, social media and
gaming networks.
At any one time they can be navigating a whole host of different apps, with some of the most popular
ones being Snapchat, Instagram and WhatsApp. With so much of their lives playing out online, it is
important for young people to consider how their online behavior and choices can have an impact on
themselves, and others.
1. Be respectful. Everyone has different feelings and opinions and it is important to respect this
online. You may wish to comment on something someone has shared but always remember that behind
every account is a real person.
2. Be aware of how your comments might be read: Strong language, capital letters, and exclamation
marks can be easily misinterpreted online. In the real world we have the addition of body language,
tone of voice and facial expressions to help us understand what someone has said. We also have the
opportunity to re-phrase what we say if we’re misunderstood in the offline world. When you are
online, these are missing.
3. Be careful with humor and sarcasm. It’s always great to share jokes with others and it is
important to be yourself online and let your personality shine through. However, not everything is
always clear online and sometimes people might not realize you are joking. Often people rely on
emoji’s or texts speak.
4. Think about who can see what you have shared. Privacy settings are a simple way to restrict who
can see what you are sharing, but even with them in place nothing is ever truly private online. Make
sure you keep as much of your personal information off the internet as possible and never share
anything inappropriate or that may get you into trouble.
5. Remember to check friend requests and group invites before accepting them. The internet is a
great place to share content and chat to friends but remember to review any new requests before
accepting them. Check if they are from someone you know or were expecting to receive a request
from.
6. Take time to have a read of the rules of conduct/ community standards. Most online forums,
social networks and gaming networks have their own code of conduct or guidelines for a user’s online
behavior. Every user has the right to have the same positive experience online. The services you’re
using use these guidelines to help guide and support you so that you know what will and won’t be
tolerated on their service
7. Be forgiving. The online world can be very different from the offline world so try to be
understanding of others when they struggle with online communication. If you see something online
that you don’t think is appropriate, you can use reporting tools to flag it to the site’s safety team.
7. Personal etiquette
There are times throughout every day of your life when you have to make a choice of whether to use
good etiquette or be that person whose friends and family start avoiding. Even under the most trying of
situations, it isn’t that much more difficult to be well mannered, and you’ll ultimately feel better later
if you do the right thing.
If you step outside your house during the day, you’re likely to encounter people, so try to be friendly.
Even on miserable days when everything seems to be going wrong, forcing a smile has the potential to
lift the mood of not only the person you’re looking at but yours as well. Offer a greeting, and you
might even see an extra ray of sunshine.
Certain words carry a tremendous amount of power when you care enough to be polite and civil to
others. Add “please,” “thank you,” “you’re welcome,” and “excuse me” to your vocabulary, and you
may find others responding with reciprocated kindness. You get extra points in the manners and
conversation department if you include a compliment, such as, "Good job," or "You look nice today."
Be On Time
Avoid being late for an appointment with anyone, whether it's your doctor or your child. Being on time
shows your respect for the other person.
When you're late for meetings, appointments, work, get-togethers with friends, or anything else, you're
forcing others to wait, which is a huge waste of their time. They'll never get those minutes or hours
back. Remember how you feel when you've had to wait for someone.
Be a Helper
You don’t have to be a Boy Scout to help out your fellow citizen. If you see someone whose arms are
overloaded with packages, open the door for them. Also, if you have just entered a building and
someone is right behind you, hold the door to keep it from slamming in his or her face. These gestures
of kindness are simple but make a big difference in everyone's mood.
Respect Others
When you interact with other people, you need to respect them. Allow others to voice their opinions
without argument. Respect their personal space as you would want others to respect yours. When you
are in the company of someone of greater authority, show him or her proper respect.
If you can let others go first without awkwardness, then do it. This includes walking, standing in line,
and driving. A woman with small children will appreciate getting through the checkout lane quickly,
particularly if her children are hungry or bored. If a driver needs to move into your lane, and you can
let him in without the person behind you rear-ending you, then gesture for him to go ahead.
This world has become too noisy, so try not to add to it. Keep your cell phone ringer volume as low as
possible. If you work in an office cubicle, be considerate of your fellow office mates by keeping your
voice low while chatting on the phone.
Eat Politely
Whether you brought your lunch or you’re eating out with friends, everyone appreciates good table
manners that your parents should have taught you. Keep your elbows off the table, don’t talk with your
mouth full, and avoid reaching across people to grab the saltshaker. Formal dinners have more
etiquette rules, so if you’ll be going to one of those, take a little time to brush up on what’s expected.
When eating in a restaurant, there are additional rules you need to follow. You need to be considerate
of everyone, from others in your group to the server. Make sure you talk to your children about
behaving properly before you take them to a restaurant so they'll be welcome back.
The old remove-the-hat-indoors etiquette rule seems to have gone out the window, but there are still
some guidelines that you’d be wise to follow. If your hat is large and obstructs someone’s view (such
as in a theater), remove it. If you are on a business call or job interview, don’t risk being seen as
impolite by leaving your hat on. When the national anthem is played, it’s a sign of respect to stand and
remove your hat.
Being thankful will never go out of style. When someone does something for you, or sends you a gift,
thank the person with a handwritten note. It’s the least you can do for a person who has taken the time
to think of you.
Introduce People
When you are in a situation where you’re the only person who knows the other parties, take the time to
introduce them. Look at the person whose name you are saying, speak clearly, and if you’re in a social
setting, find something the people have in common.
8. Social Etiquette
There are general rules of etiquette that work all the time, while there are others that are specific to
each situation. It's important to know the basics of good manners, regardless of where you go.
There are more bad manners and social faux pas than ever, so it's easy to be confused about what's
socially acceptable. Many of the correct behaviors people once considered common sense have gotten
lost in the swirling wind of bad advice, outdated manners rules, and social media that makes it too easy
to slip up and be rude.
There are certain accepted behaviors in all social situations that you need to learn. With few
exceptions, putting them into practice can make a big difference in your social life.
Social rules:
Easy to have good manners – These basic rules of proper etiquette are mostly common sense
with a healthy dose of the Golden Rule thrown in for good measure.
Be on time – No one likes to wait for others who are chronically late. However, there are times
when being late is out of your control.
Personal space – When you see someone squirming as you step closer back off a bit. Every
culture has different comfort levels of personal space, so before you travel, find out how close
you can get to people without being rude.
Men’s manners – This one is simple: All you have to do is be a gentleman. Rudeness is never
manly.
Women’s manners – You can be a lady and still show strength. Times have changed, and some
rules have become outdated, but it's always appropriate to be mannerly.
Teens’ manners – Show everyone how grown up you are by demonstrating good manners.
Chances are, if you exhibit proper etiquette, you'll earn respect and maybe even more
privileges.
Children’s manners – Be the kid everyone wants to play with. Even grownups will want to be
around you if you're polite.
Host and Hostess Gift - Never show up empty-handed when you're a guest in someone's home.
Dealing with a Flaky Friend - It's difficult to deal with someone who is always late, forgets to
show up, or can't be relied on.
9. Dining Etiquette
Regardless of where you are eating, proper etiquette at the table is important. Even when it's just you
and your family having a meal together, you still want to set an example for your kids.
Here are some essential dining etiquette rules that you should follow:
Turn off your cell phone before sitting down. It is rude to talk on your phone or text while in
the company of others.
Never talk when you have food in your mouth. That’s just gross. Even if someone asks you a
question, wait until you swallow before answering.
Taste your food before you add salt, pepper, or other seasoning. Doing otherwise may be
insulting to the host or hostess. If you are dining with a prospective employer, the person may
perceive you as someone who acts without knowing the facts.
Don’t cut all your food before you begin eating. Cut one or two bites at a time.
Never blow on your food. If it is hot, wait a few minutes for it to cool off. Scoop your soup
away from you.
Some foods are meant to be eaten with your fingers. Follow the lead of the host or hostess.
If you are drinking from a stemmed glass, hold it by the stem.
Break your bread into bite-sized pieces and butter only one bite at a time.
Try at least one or two bites of everything on your plate, unless you are allergic to it.
Compliment the hostess if you like the food, but don’t voice your opinion if you don’t.
Use your utensils for eating, not gesturing.
Keep your elbows off the table. Rest the hand you are not using in your lap.
Eat slowly and pace yourself to finish at the same approximate time as the host or hostess.
Avoid making other rude sounds at the table.
If you spill something at a restaurant, signal one of the servers to help. If you spill something at
a private dinner party in someone’s home, pick it up and blot the spill. Offer to have it
professionally cleaned if necessary.
When you finish eating, leave your utensils on your plate or in your bowl.
Never use a toothpick or dental floss at the table.