NOTRE DAME OF TRECE MARTIREZ
WEEK 3
Objectives:
At the end of this lesson, the student should be able to:
1. Discuss an understanding of teenage relationships
2. Express his or her ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment
3. Identify ways to become responsible in a relationship; and
4. Appraise one’s relationships and make plans for building responsible future
relationships
LESSON 9: PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP
WHAT IS PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP?
Personal relationship – refer to close connections between people, formed by emotional
bonds and interactions. These bonds often grow from and are strengthened by mutual
experiences.
OTHER DEFINITION:
➢ It is the way in which two or more people, groups, countries, etc., talk to, behave
toward, and deal with each other. (Merriam-Webster Online Dictionary)
Privacy and Intimacy are two characteristics that define personal relationship.
HOW ARE ATTACHMENTS DEVELOPED?
There are three (3) attachment styles as defined by Ainsworth, Blekar, Waters, and Wall
(1978) these are:
1. Secure attachment – it is when the primary caregiver is most of the time present
and available and when all the emotional needs of an infant are met, providing a
sense of security to the infant.
2. Avoidant attachment – it is when the primary caregiver is cold and detached,
and even unresponsive to a child’s needs. The child senses rejection and this
often leads to premature detachment and self-reliance.
3. Anxious-ambivalent attachment – when the primary caregiver is not consistent
in terms of presence and in meeting a child’s emotional needs. Often, a person
who experienced this style of attachment may develop separation anxieties.
WHAT DRIVES ATTRACTION?
According to Fisher, there are three stages of falling in love:
1. Lust – is driven by sex hormones, testosterone, and estrogen. These hormones
affect both sexes.
2. Attraction – is described as the lovestruck phase, this is the stage when a person
loses sleep and appetite over someone, and swoons while daydreaming of this
special person.
3. Attachment – when the couple in love decides to continue with the relationship,
they enter the attachment stage where long-lasting commitments are exchanged,
and may lead to raising a family.
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LOVE AND INTIMACY
Is love a feeing? Is love a thought? Is love physical? The definition of love is a feeling of
deep affection, passion, or strong liking for a person or thing
(https://www.yourdictionary.com/love). The American Heritage Dictionary defines love
as:
• A strong feeling or affection and concern toward another person, as that arising
from kinship or close friendship;
• A strong feeling or affection and concern for another person accompanied by
sexual attraction;
• A feeling of devotion or adoration toward God or a god;
• A feeling of kindness or concern by God or a god toward humans; and
• Sexual desire or activity: the pleasures of love; a night of love
ROBERT STERNBERG’S THEORY OF LOVE
1. Intimacy – it is about being open and vulnerable to that person whom we deeply
trust, who we feel connected with, and who values us with unconditional positive
regard, which is viewing the other person with complete trust and devoid
suspicion or negative thought.
2. Commitment – is an act of deciding to consistently fulfil and live by agreements
made with another person, entity, or cause, and where the values of integrity and
respect serve as a guide to one’s behaviour and thinking.
3. Passion – it is the intense state of being that drives and consumes a person to
pursue an interest, a vision, or a person.
RESPONSIBILITIES IN A RELATIONSHIP
Important responsibilities that is necessary in a relationship to make it flourish and stay
beneficial for the parties involved.
1. Be responsible for what you think and say to the other person. Emotions
should be considered when dealing with other people. Being sensitive to these
emotions will make a person responsible for what is said, and accept the
consequences of how the other party will receive the message.
2. Be responsible for what you promise to do or not do. Integrity is a key factor
in relationships. Coupled with trust, integrity in one’s word means that you are
reliable and trust-worthy.
3. Ensure the relationship is mutually beneficial. Balanced relationships are
always mutually beneficial to both parties. It is always good to have a give and
take attitude for this assures fairness and equality.
4. Respect the other party or parties involved. Giving respect to each other and
other’s perception and view is a common responsibility of any party involved in a
relationship.
5. Be ready to provide support when needed. Providing support, either
financially, emotionally, spiritually, or physically, strengthens the bond in a
relationship, as this is an expression of one’s commitment to the other party.
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GRADE LEVEL: 12 WEEK 3
SUBJECT: PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT 4thQUARTER
TOPIC: Personal Relationship LESSON: 9
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ACTIVITY 1.
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towards him/her and what he/she must expect from you on how you will show
your responsibility in your relationship.
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