Understanding the Self

Unpacking the Self

The Sexual Self

Sex is biological male, female, also intersex (reproductive differences based

SEX on genitalia, chromosomes, hormones).

A person’s identity based on their physical characteristics, genes and hormones.

Men: penis Women: vagina

Intersex: chromosomes and hormones of a female but external genital are like that of a male:

chromosomes and hormones of a male but external genital is like that of a female. Also refers to

sexual acts, as in ‘having sex. Primary and secondary sex characteristics

SEXUALITY Your sexuality is about who you’re attracted to

sexually and romantically.

Human sexuality refers to people’s sexual interest in and attraction to others, as well as their capacity

to have erotic experiences and responses.

Language describing sexuality, gender identities, gender expression, and all identities is constantly

evolving. Additionally, terms and language may be used in varying ways across individuals, groups,

and regions. These definitions are provided to help with general understanding of terms. Because

language and identity are very personal and constantly changing, it remains best practice to allow

individuals to self-identify rather than use any of these terms to assess the identity of others

ALLY refers to someone who advocates and supports a community other than their own. Allies

are not part of the communities they help. A person should not just self-identify as an ally but

rather show that they are one through action.

EXPANSIVE, in an intersectional learning context, refers to covering a wide area in terms of the
scope of identities; extensive and wide-ranging reflecting immediately the feeling and sense of

openness and belongingness with recognition, communication, and dialogue. It differs from

‘inclusive’ which in meaning and implementation holds and maintains a power differential, whether

or not intentionally set.

GENDER BINARY refers to the system of beliefs, structures, policies and practices based on the
assumption that there are exactly/only two genders and is limiting to individuals that do not exist

within a binary.

GENDER DYSPHORIA is the medical term to define a condition where one’s emotional and
psychological identity as male or female is felt to be different than one’s biological sex. This

dysphoria involves a conflict between a person’s physical or assigned gender and the gender with

which he/she/they identify. People with gender dysphoria may be very uncomfortable with the

gender they were assigned, sometimes described as being uncomfortable with their body

(particularly developments during puberty) or being uncomfortable with the expected roles of their

assigned gender.
GENDER EXPRESSION/PRESENTATION refers to the way one expresses their gender identity. It is

the physical manifestation of one’s gender identity through clothing, hairstyle, voice, body shape,

etc. Many transgender people seek to make their gender expression (how they look) match their

gender identity (who they are), rather than their sex assigned at birth. Someone with a

nonconforming gender expression may or may not be transgender.

GENDER/GENDER IDENTITY refers to the individual identification of a person’s gender, as defined

by that person, and can differ from their sex assigned at birth. It is one’s internal sense of being a

“man or woman”, neither of these, both, or other genders. Everyone has a gender identity,

including no gender identity. For transgender people, their sex assigned at birth (male, female)

and their gender identity are not necessarily the same.

HETERONORMATIVE/HETEROSEXISM reflects social structures and practices which serve to

elevate and enforce heterosexuality while subordinating or suppressing other forms of sexuality. It

defines a world view that assumes and/or promotes heterosexuality as the normal or preferred

sexual orientation. It reflects a belief that everyone is and should be heterosexual/ straight. This

includes prejudiced attitudes or discriminatory practices against people who identify as

homosexual.

INTERSECTIONALITY refers to the interconnected nature of social categorizations such as race,

class, gender, etc. as they apply to a given individual or group. This has presented as creating

overlapping and interdependent systems of discrimination or disadvantage and more positive

awareness of any given individual’s or group’s multi-faceted and informed experience.

LGBQ/GNCT refers to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Queer or Questioning/Gender Non-Conforming and

Transgender. (Though this acronym acknowledges that sexual orientation is separate from gender

identity and expression, it still limits the many variations of sexual orientations that exist.)

LGBTQI refers to Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer or Questioning and Intersex. (This

acronym, and other variations, conflates sexual orientation and gender identity and expression and

is being utilized here as a bridge to the above more accurate description LGBQ/GNCT.)

SEX ASSIGNED AT BIRTH/BIOLOGICAL SEX is the assignment and classification of people as

male, female, intersex, or another sex assigned at birth often based on physical anatomy at birth

and/or genetic analysis.

SEXUAL FLUIDITY is the idea that sexual orientation/attraction can change over time, and
depending on the situation at hand.

SEXUAL ORIENTATION/SEXUALITY is a person’s physical, romantic, emotional, aesthetic, and/or

other form of attraction to others. Gender identity and sexual orientation are not the same. Trans

people can be heterosexual/straight, bisexual, lesbian, gay, asexual, pansexual, queer, etc. just 8

SOGIE Handbooklike anyone else. For example, a trans woman who is exclusively attracted to other

women would often identify as lesbian

SOGIE refers to Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity and Expression and describes a wider spectrum
of all people, not only the “LGBT” (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender) community. It is now

being introduced in many legal doctrines, in United Nation documents, and it is becoming popular in

social media. Its usefulness lies in its inclusiveness. The term “LGBT” is specific to individuals who

identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender. SOGIE refers to characteristics common to all

human beings as everyone has a sexual orientation and a gender identity. Everyone expresses their

gender, not just individuals who identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender.
TRANSITION refers to a person’s process of developing and assuming a gender expression to match
their gender identity. Transition can include: coming out to one’s family, friends, and/or co-workers;

changing one’s name and/or sex on legal documents; hormone therapy; and possibly (though not

always) some form of surgery. It’s best not to assume how one transitions as it is different for

everyone.

IDENTITIES
It is always important to be mindful of not assigning or assuming the identities of others – particularly

among young people. A non-cis or non-heterosexual identified person may not disclose immediately

or at all during the time they may be involved in programming. They may also identify differently

between visits/encounters. Adults should routinely ask how their youth want to be known/how they

identify. Use language corresponding with how individuals self-identify.

AGENDER denotes ‘without gender’. It is often used as an identification for people who do not

identify with or conform to any gender.

ANDROGYNOUS is where gendered behaviors, presentations and roles include aspects of both
masculinity and femininity. People of any gender 9 SOGIE Handbookidentity or sexual orientation

can be androgynous, but it is often favored by non-binary people as a means to externally express

their gender identity. Androgyny can include dressing in way where one is unable to tell if they are

male or female.

ASEXUAL is someone who experiences little or no sexual desire (but may desire nonsexual romantic
connection).

BISEXUAL refers to individuals who are attracted to both men and women; sometimes used more
broadly to refer to people who are attracted to others whose gender is like their own and to people

whose gender is not like their own.

CISGENDER/CIS refers to Non-trans. From a Latin prefix meaning “on the same side,” as opposed

to trans – which means “across.” It is a term for someone who exclusively identifies as their sex

assigned at birth – men who were assigned male at birth and women who were assigned female at

birth. The term cisgender is not indicative of gender expression, sexual orientation, hormonal

makeup, physical anatomy, or how one is perceived in daily life.

CROSS-DRESSING is the act of one dressing up as the gender that they do not normally find
themselves living as. This is done usually as a hobby, to live out fantasies, for drag

shows/parties, or for sexual excitement.

DEMIGENDER is a gender identity that involves feeling a partial, but not a full, connection to a
particular gender identity or just to the concept of gender. Demigender people often identify as

non-binary.

GAY refers to people whose primary romantic/erotic attraction is to people 10 SOGIE Handbookof
their same gender, i.e. men who are attracted to men, and women who are attracted to women.
GENDERFLUID is a gender identity which refers to a gender which varies over time. A gender

fluid person may at any time identify as male, female, agender, or any other non-binary identity,

or some combination of identities. Their gender can also vary in response to different

circumstances. Genderfluid people may also identify as multigender, non-binary and/or

transgender. Genderfluid people may feel more comfortable using gender neutral pronouns and

may have an androgynous gender expression. Being genderfluid has nothing to do with which

set of genitalia one has, nor their sexual orientation.

GENDER-NEUTRAL is inclusive of all genders, as opposed to gender-specific. A “gender neutral”

restroom is one that everybody can use. It is not only for “gender-neutral” people.

GENDER NON-BINARY is a spectrum of gender identities that are not exclusively male or female
and are outside the gender binary.

GENDER NON-CONFORMING is a gender expression that does not conform with societal
expectations and gender norms. These expectations vary across cultures and have changed

over time.

GENDERQUEER is most commonly used to describe a person who feels that their gender identity
does not fit into the socially constructed “norms” associated with their sex assigned at

birth/biological sex. Genderqueer is an identity that falls anywhere between or outside

man/boy/male and woman/ girl/female on the spectrum of gender identities.

INTERSEX is a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a mix
of or variation of male and female reproductive and/or sexual anatomy. The word

“hermaphrodite” is a stigmatizing and misleading word and is antiquated from medical

literature. It is preferable to use the word “intersex” in its place.

LESBIAN describes women whose primary romantic and erotic attraction is to women.
PANSEXUAL refers to being open with attraction to members of all sexual orientations and or
gender identities including heterosexual/straight, gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, etc.

QUEER is an umbrella term describing a wide range of people who do not conform to
heterosexual/straight and/or gender norms; a reclaimed derogatory slur taken as a political

term to unite people who are marginalized because of their nonconformance to dominant

gender identities and/or heterosexuality. It is sometimes used as a shortcut for LGBT while at

other times used to distinguish politically queer people from more mainstream LGBT people.

Because of its origin as a derogatory slur, this term should be used thoughtfully. If you’re not

queer, or for public communications, LGBTQ is often more appropriate currently.

TRANS is anyone whose gender identity and/or gender expression differs significantly from what
is expected of them in their culture based on their sex assigned at birth. This broad category

includes transgender, transsexual and genderqueer people, crossdressers, drag queens and

kings, masculine women and feminine men, and more. The term is so broad because it enables

us to talk about issues facing the whole range of trans people.

TRANS FEMALE (or transgender woman, transwoman, or transsexual woman) is someone

assigned male at birth who now identifies and lives as a woman.

TRANS MALE (or transgender man, transman or transsexual man) is someone assigned female at
birth who now identifies and lives as a man.
TRANSGENDER refers specifically to people who have an experience of transitioning (socially
and/or medically) from living as one gender to living as another gender. Transgender should almost

always be used as an adjective. As a noun (e.g. “she’s a transgender”), it sounds disrespectful to

many people, or as a past-tense verb (“transgendered”), it does not make sense.

TRANSSEXUAL is a historical original term that is often considered pejorative similar to transgender
in that it indicates a difference between one’s gender identity and sex assigned at birth. Transsexual

often, though not always, implicated hormonal/surgical transition. Unlike transgender/ trans,

transsexual is not an umbrella term, as many transgender people do not identify as transsexual. When

speaking/writing about trans people, please avoid the word transsexual unless asked to use it by a

transsexual person.

TWO-SPIRIT is a gender identity specific to Native American culture. If someone is two-spirited, their body

simultaneously houses both a masculine spirit and a feminine spirit, and can also mean that they fulfill both

gender roles describing a range of gender and sexual orientation categories from cultural traditions, both

historical and current. It is important to acknowledge and honor this identity as OCF celebrates and

engages native practices at the core of our content and circle practice.

BIOLOGICAL PERSPECTIVE of ONE's SEX

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