Understanding Respect as the Right

Evaluation

by
Dr. I.Nelson
Associate Professor/ECE
SSN College of Engineering
 Session Objectives
▪ At the end of the session, students will be able to
understand the respect in human – human
relationships.
 Session Outcomes
▪ At the end of the session, students will be able to
comprehend the differentiations in relationships and
respect as right evaluation.
 Outline
▪ Disrespect
▪ Respect
▪ Respect Yourself
▪ Respect Others
▪ Respect Environment
▪ Respect as Right Valuation
▪ Current Scenario- Differentiation in Relationships
 Outline
▪ Minimum Content of Respect- Other is Similar to Me
▪ Complete Content of Respect- We are
Complementary to Each other
▪ Summary
▪ Quiz-III
▪ Test Your Understanding
 Disrespect
• Disrespect means speaking or behaving in a way that
shows a lack of respect for a person, law, or custom.
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Respect

Tea Ceremony
Respect

Tsunami 2011
Respect

Tsunami 2011
Chennai Floods-2015
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 Respect
• Respect, also called esteem, is a positive feeling or action
shown towards someone or something considered essential
or held in high esteem or regard.
• It conveys a sense of admiration for good or valuable
qualities.
• It is also the process of honoring someone by exhibiting care,
concern, or consideration for their needs or feelings.
- Wikipedia
Respect
Respect
 Respect Yourself
• Before you can respect others, you must first
respect yourself.
• Show respect to yourself by accepting and honoring
your own:
1. Emotions
2. Skills
3. Beliefs
4. Abilities
5. Challenges and body
Respect Yourself
Respect Yourself

Moral Science
Respect Yourself

Dress suitably
Charlie Chaplin
1889-1977
Charlie Chaplin left us 4 statements:
(1) Nothing is eternal in this world,
not even our problems.

(2) I like to walk in the rain, because

no one can see my tears.

(3) The most wasted day in life is the day

we don't laugh.

(4) The six best doctors in the world

1. Sunshine.
2. Rest.
3. Exercise.
4. diet.
5. Self-esteem.
6. Friends.
Respect Others
Respect Others
Respect Others
Respect Environment
 Respect as Right Evaluation

• Explore the feeling of Respect

• When do we feel respected?

• How do I respect others?

 Respect as Right Evaluation
• With the right evaluation, we feel respected.

• Without the right evaluation, we feel disrespected.

• Respect is right evaluation.

 Respect as Right Evaluation

• Disrespect can take place in three ways:

 Respect as Right Evaluation

• We generally do one of these three in our day-to-day

behaviour.

• If these three occur, the other person feels uncomfortable

and disrespected.
Minimum Content of Respect- Other is
Similar to Me
 Minimum Content of Respect- Other is
Similar to Me
• To ensure right evaluation, we have

1. Our purpose is same.

2. Our programme is same.
3. Our potential is same.
 Minimum Content of Respect- Other is
Similar to Me
1. Our purpose is same.
 Minimum Content of Respect- Other is
Similar to Me
2. Our programme is same.
 Minimum Content of Respect- Other is
Similar to Me
3. Our potential is same.

➢ The endowment of natural acceptance and the

activities such as desire, thought, and
expectation is continuously going with one
another.
➢ The primary potential, such as understanding,
thinking and doing, are all the same.
Current Scenario- Differentiation in
Relationships
Current Scenario- Differentiation in
Relationships
• The differentiation or disrespect in relationships is
based on the following
1. Body
2. Physical Facilities
3. Basic Beliefs
Current Scenario- Differentiation in
Relationships
• The differentiation or disrespect in relationships is
based on the following
1. Body
a) Gender
b) Race
c) Age
d) Physical strength
Current Scenario- Differentiation in
Relationships
• The differentiation or disrespect in relationships is
based on the following
1. Body
a) Gender
❖ Male or female is an attribute of the body and not an
attribute at the level of the Self. Differentiation based
on gender is called male and female.
❖ In many countries, people even prefer a male child to a
female child, and in some other societies, the other way
around.
Current Scenario- Differentiation in
Relationships
Current Scenario- Differentiation in Relationships
DNA Structure
Watson and Crick with the DNA double-helix model
Pulsar
 Marie Curie
Polish-French physicist and chemist
Nobel Prize- Physics (1903) and Chemistry (1911)
The world's brightest scientific minds posed for this 1927 photo
after historic debates about quantum mechanics
The world's brightest scientific minds posed for this 1927 photo
after historic debates about quantum mechanics
The world's brightest scientific minds posed for this 1927 photo
after historic debates about quantum mechanics
Narges Mohammadi
Nobel Peace Prize 2023
 Gender pay gap in
Bollywood

“If Rani can fill in more seats

than I can, 101 percent she
will be paid more than me “
- Aamir Khan
Current Scenario- Differentiation in
Relationships
• The differentiation or disrespect in relationships is
based on the following
1. Body
b) Race
❖ A person treats another of the same race as oneself but
others differently.
For example, we differentiate based on skin colour –
white, brown, black, etc., whether the person is of the
Aryan race, Mongolian race etc., or based on caste.
Nazi Holocaust Rwanda Holocaust
Current Scenario- Differentiation in
Relationships

Bengal Famine-1943
Current Scenario- Differentiation in
Relationships
Current Scenario- Differentiation in
Relationships

Nehru’s words, “The final epitaph of British rule” in India.

Current Scenario- Differentiation in
Relationships
• The differentiation or disrespect in relationships is
based on the following
1. Body
c) Age

❖ One must respect elders, and there is no such notion as

respect for youngsters.
❖ Evaluation at the Body level – age is related to the
Body, not the Self.
Current Scenario- Differentiation in
Relationships
• The differentiation or disrespect in relationships is
based on the following
1. Body
d) Physical strength
❖ We treat a stronger person differently, which happens
at the Body's level.
❖ Respect out of fear.
Physical Bullying in Schools
Cyberbullying in Schools
Current Scenario- Differentiation in
Relationships
• The differentiation or disrespect in relationships is
based on the following
2. Physical Facilities
❖ Wealth
❖ Post/Status
Current Scenario- Differentiation in
Relationships
• The differentiation or disrespect in relationships is
based on the following
3. Basic Beliefs
❖ Ideology
❖ Sect
❖ Info
 Complete Content of Respect- We are
Complementary to Each other
• At the level of the Self, only the competence could be
different.
• Competence means how much of the potential of the Self has
been realized.
• One Self may have realized more of its potential, while
another may have realized less.
• This difference in competence is complementary to each
other
 Complete Content of Respect- We are
Complementary to Each other
• Self of the one or other might have realized
potential
• Based on competence, we are different.
 Complete Content of Respect- We are
Complementary to Each other
• To ensure right evaluation, we have
1. Our purpose is same.
2. Our programme is same.
3. Our potential is same.

• In addition, there is competence, which

means how potential has been realized.
Complete Content of Respect- We are Complementary to
Each other
Differentiation and Respect Table
 Complete Content of Respect- We are
Complementary to Each other
• The complete content of respect is

1. The other is similar to me based on purpose,

programme and potential.

2. We are complementary to each other based on

competence.
 The Other Salient Values in a Relationships

• Affection
• Care
• Guidance
• Reverence
• Glory
• Gratitude
• Love
 The Other Salient Values in a
Relationships
Values Description
The feeling of being related to the other.
Affection
The feeling of care is the feeling of nurturing and
Care protecting the Body of our relative.
The feeling of acceptance for those who have made
Gratitude efforts for my excellence.
The feeling of ensuring the right understanding and
Guidance feelings in the other (my relative).

Reverence The feeling of acceptance of excellence in the other.

The feeling for someone who has made efforts for
Glory excellence.
The emotion of strong affection and personal
Love attachment
 Love as the Complete Value
• Love is a complete value which encompasses all the
other eight values.
• Love is expressed as
1. Kindness
2. Beneficence
3. Compassion
 Summary
• Respect is right evaluation
• Differentiation is disrespect
• Respect based on Self(I) – The other is like me.
• We are complementary to each other.
• The only difference is in our level of understanding (how
much of our desire, thought & expectation is based on our
Natural Acceptance)
• If the other has more understanding than me
❖ I am committed to learning from the other
• If I have more understanding
❖ I live with responsibility with the other
❖ I am committed to facilitating understanding in the
other( once the other is assured in the relationship,
and not before that)
• Love is a complete value.
Quiz-III
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 Test Your Understanding
1. Study the differentiation and respect table and
answer the following
Where have most of your effort been?
Where would you like to put in your effort now?
What effort, if any, is required from your side now?