Final Term Paper

Personality Development and Wellness course

A.J. Monparath Charatwattananich

By

Chachrist Hoverberg 66110011

Submitted on May. 2. 2024

The human mind is a complex organ that is full of mystery and is still not fully
understood. It is believed that we humans only use 10% of our brain’s full capabilities. This
leaves us to wonder what our minds can truly do. But to understand how the mind works, we
would also need to acknowledge each person’s personality type which ties to how we would
understand that person, this is why there exist a personality test called “16 Personalities Test”
where people are categorized into 16 types of personalities. The purpose of the test is to help the
person that is taking the test to explore and truly understand themselves for what type of person
they are. The test is made up of a series of questions regarding your daily lives and routines, this
extends to how you interact with other people and how to feel towards certain situations. The
person’s personality will be categorized into letters according to their personality. The categories
are as follows, people with the “Analysts” trait will have the letters “N (Intuitive)” and “T
(Thinking)” in their personality traits, they are known for their rationality, impartiality, and
intellectual excellence. “Diplomats” are recognized with the letters “N (Intuitive)” and “F
(Feeling)”, they are known for their empathy, diplomatic skills, and passionate idealism in life.
“Sentinels” are known for the letters “S (Observant)” and “J (Judging)” the personality of
someone with practicality and focus on order, security, and stability. And lastly, “Explorers”
which have the letters “S (Observant)” and “P (Prospecting)” who are known for their
spontaneity, ingenuity, and flexibility. Each type of personalities have their own sub-categories
which analyses the personalities even further and results with the person their specific
personality type within the larger categories. For instance, a person within the “Analysts”
personality can have one of the four subcategories being “Architect” (INTJ), “Logician” (INTP),
“Commander” (ENTJ), and lastly “Debater” (ENTP). All the types mentioned above have their
own uniqueness and characteristics according to the role. The accuracy of the test is up to the
participant’s perception and can be disregarded as inaccurate if the participant disagrees with the
answer the test has provided because inventively the answer is created based on the participant's
answers on the test.
 My personality

From personally taking the test, I find myself to have the “Mediator” (INFP) trait which
is a personality type with the introverted, intuitive, feeling, and prospecting traits. And as I
researched more, I found that this is a rare personality type and tend to be quiet, open-minded,
and imaginative, and apply a caring and creative approach to everything they do, and I fully
agree with the results from the test as I read more about the personality. This personality trait is
also divided into two sub-traits being “INFP-A” with “A” meaning the “Assertive Mediator”,
and the trait “INFP-T” with “T” meaning “Turbulent Mediator”. The difference between these
two sub-traits is seen by looking at how each type of trait self-evaluates themselves. The
“Assertive Mediator” is someone who rely on optimism and self-assurance to inspire them and
positive impulses motivates them to reach their goals while the other trait “Turbulent Mediator”
is someone who are typically not comfortable with their current lives and use this dissatisfaction
to try to become a better person. They also are known for feeling negative emotions to a greater
extent than the “Assertive Mediator” type.

After understanding that my personality type is the “Mediator”, I can also conclude that I have
the “Turbulent Mediator” sub-trait because I feel that I have more negative emotions than
positive ones and a section of the article on the website about my personality has caught my
attention the message is as follows “Turbulent Mediators are likely to describe themselves as
lazy more often than Assertive Mediators” which I find true because I constantly think that I am
too lazy and not feeling truly accomplished when something is done. Another point I find
interesting and true is “Turbulent Mediator’s high regard for the opinion of others potentially
makes them better listeners and team players, even if in an introverted way” I find this to be very
accurate due to how I have very high regard for how and what people think about me, about the
person I am, and about the life I live, and I take these opinions very seriously and often re-
evaluate myself when I face confusion and negative emotions.

The Three Traits

Firstly, The Gift of Empathy, “INFP” personalities share a sincere curiosity about the
depths of human nature, they yearn to understand the people around them. When someone opens
up to them or turns to them for comfort, they will be honored to listen and help, which I find to
be very true of myself because I often try to help people out in everyway possible, usually
putting myself behind the person I’m helping, but it can also be a liability in the case where I put
too much on my shoulders and can often overwhelm me and impact me negatively because of the
fear of not being able to help other people.

The second trait is “Speaking Their Truth”, people with the Mediator personalities have a talent
for self-expression because they are uneasy with pretending to be someone they aren’t and tend
to crave opportunities for creative self-expressions and I find this to be the most accurate trait
that I have because I cannot pretend to be someone else I’m not because I fully understand what
and who I am as a person. Another point is that they like to daydream and fantasize instead of
taking action, this is why they make sure that they take decisive steps and actions to turn their
dream into reality. From my perspective I see that I often daydream about a better life and future,
and I try my best to create those dreams into reality, but as I understand, with my trait being the
“Turbulent Mediator” I will never truly feel like I have made it to the point where I feel that it is
enough for me to stop and relax.

The last trait is “In Search of a Calling”, people tend to feel directionless or stuck until they
connect with a sense of purpose. For many, including myself, this purpose has something to do
with uplifting others and putting myself behind people I’m helping. This causes people with this
personality to need a focus on their energy and efforts, otherwise they will end up exhausted and
overwhelmed. And I have personally felt this feeling of being exhausted by helping others and
not prioritizing myself.

Influences

One’s personality can be influenced by many things, but there are some factors that
heavily influences us more than others. These factors revolve around your upbringing such as
family background, life experiences, values and beliefs, and culture are some of the most
important factors towards someone’s personality. Personally, for me, I find that my family values
and beliefs have influenced me the most. I feel that the way my parents have raised me has
taught me many things about life and gave me an idea of how everything should be. My parents
have taught me about how we should all have an open-mind and listen to others and how
important it is to be caring and to be creative, to think outside of the box. I also like to
understand different cultures and traditions making me very considerate and respectful towards
other people, this curiosity is a very compelling factor in influencing to want to understand
people, to understand their lives, their personality, and goals. This is why I tend focus on
understanding other people rather than working on myself, creating the problem of putting my
self behind other people because of the belief that I need to help them, while I am also getting to
understand that person more and add fuel to the fire that is my curiosity. It is important for me to
set boundaries for myself because without it, I risk overwhelming myself to the point that I am
exhausted and feel uncomfortable. This is why it is important to always put yourself first in
every situation and assure that you yourself are comfortable with helping others.

With my self being mixed-race I also think that my curious behavior stems from being exposed
to different cultures and lifestyles. When I look at people, I always wonder how their lives are,
what they do every day, and what they are thinking. I do not know whether this is because of my
curiosity as a whole or whether I am trying to understand others in a way that helps me
understand myself, but something that I am certain of is that everybody has their own lives and
each and every one of them are different, and this is why nobody except yourself can fully
understand yourself and know who you are with confidence. Understanding other people has
helped me know what type of person I am, and the differences that I have to other people.

No one knows you better except for yourself and your mind. To discover yourself you have to
truly accept yourself for who you are as a person.

Personality and Work Life

Working is something that everybody has to do at some point and knowing what you
would do best and what would be most efficient in the work life is very crucial. A successful
career requires many skills, and one of the most important is your attitude and how you feel
about your work life. Without the correct mindset and attitude toward your work, you will just
feel miserable and suffer through all the work you must do. To have a positive attitude, you need
to be working in the fields that you are most knowledgeable and most comfortable in. To
illustrate, someone who is an introvert would have difficulties doing work that is usually done by
extroverts such as out-reaching work or work that requires you to approach and make contact
with other people, this would obviously be troublesome for introverts because they don’t like
approaching others and making contact with them. This is why it is important to work with
something that you like and feel fully compelled to do.

I personally wanted to become a pilot when I was young, but growing up made me realize the
reality of that type of work and made me sway away from it. For me, my dream career now
would be a successful career in business communications inside large companies and
corporations.

With my personality type being the “Mediator”, I feel that this career path matches with my
personality type because as the name suggests, every company needs a mediator who can
mediate deals and offers in the business context and I think that my skills in understanding
people can greatly help me understand the situation I’m in and how I should handle it. The traits
of the Mediator as I see it really fits me and the lifestyle I live, so in that case I would think that
it would be beneficial to myself and my work life. I also want to feel a sense of purpose in the
work I do, I would try to cultivate emotional and moral connections to the work I do and always
reassure myself that my efforts go towards helping others in some shape or form.

In business communication there are many factors that result in how your colleagues or business
associates see and evaluate you. One of those key factor is reputation, it is something that is held
with high regard and can control the outcome of business decisions. I see this as a very good
thing for me because with my personality type, understanding people is something I love to do
and understanding the type of person I am communicating with can help me get a clearer picture
on what the intent or demands of that person is. It is clear that the more you understand someone
as a person, the more you help yourself towards successful communication because if you
understand them, you will know how to act, how to speak, and where to put yourself in different
situations with that person.

But of course, with benefits of the personality there are also downsides that come with it. One of
the biggest downsides is the fact that I am an introvert, and the business communication field
requires you to be a confident and outgoing person, which I find very hard to do. This causes me
to be self-critical and often feel useless and inadequate when I fail to live up to expectations. I
also feel that I have to weakness of self-isolating when I find myself in new environments and I
am very reluctant towards making new friends because of the self-isolation causing me to
sometimes feel lonely and stuck in an uncomfortable place of mind where I want to make new
friends or get involved in communities but also fear because of not knowing how to, especially
in new environments that I am not used to.

Improvements

I often dream of being a perfect person but as I get older and understand the world more,
I realize that there is no perfect person in this world, everybody knows their own imperfections
and problems. But for me, I see that these imperfections are rooms for improvements to be done
and I often try to embrace my imperfections and understand the person that I am. When I try to
improve myself, I usually try to accept my negative emotions and try to reduce them to a
reasonable point where I feel comfortable addressing them. Another way I try improving myself
is not tolerating any uncomfortable situations and I try to leave that uncomfortableness or make
peace with it. I try to become as comfortable as I can in different situations, but as we cannot
control everything, sometimes it is better to just make peace with the fact and I would push
myself to be as comfortable as I can in uncomfortable environments and situations.

Conclusion

To conclude, I would say that your mindset and attitude towards yourself is what shapes
you as a person, following others would not help you understand who you are, it is only up to
you yourself to truly discover who you really are. In this world you can only control yourself and
nobody else can, it is very important that in life, you are your own boss and everything you do is
your decision and action. No matter what personality type you are, there is always a place in this
world where you feel most comfortable and to reach that place you must first know yourself,
accept yourself, and love yourself. You cannot let your life be dictated by others because that is
how you will find yourself in difficult, unfavorable, and uncomfortable situations.

To end things, I would like to say that in this world where everybody has their own lives, just
focus on your own, focus on how to improve yourself, you do not need to follow in other
people’s footsteps as you can make your own and choose your own direction in life.
You do not need to think and care about what everybody says about you because only you know
the truth of who you really are and how you are as a person. Lastly, I would say that embrace
who you are and make the most of it. Use your uniqueness to make a difference in this world and
always improve yourself to be a better person.