STEP 1 :

DISCOVER AND PRACTICE STEP 2:

doing the work on the Ego
SCHEDULE TIME
Consciousness: Emotional in your calendar to do
Immaturity PDFs. Using them the work and listen
as your guide, begin to consciously to/practice the Emotional
observe when you experience Immaturity guided
immature thoughts, feelings, or meditation.
reactions.

EGO CONSCIOUSNESS:
EMOTIONAL
IMMATURITY
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STEP 5: STEP 3:
ENGAGE MAKE A SMALL
STEP 4:
with the community DAILY PROMISE
ATTEND
group and book club using the Small Daily
to connect with the LIVE virtual Promise Planner PDF
others on the journey workshops to engage (or write your own in
and share what’s with the community a notebook) and
coming up for you. in real-time or watch celebrate your follow-
the replays within through!
their respective
course lessons.

For extra support and accountability, head to the Accountability Partner Group located within your portal.
Please note: finding an acountability partner is a self led process. Connecting with others, and holding yourself accountable,
can be a helpful + needed practice to actually begin doing the work consistently.
 EGO CONSCIOUSNESS:
EMOTIONAL IMMATURITY
When our ego or identity are challenged, or we feel threatened, we often react
immaturely (i.e compare, compete, control, shame, etc.), repeating the coping
habits/mechanisms that we learned and formed during our childhood. Taking time
to explore the ways in which we express our feelings with others can help us
understand our emotional habits within our current relationships.
When we deal with our emotions in immature, unreasonable, or irrational ways, it’s a
sign that a hurt part of us is lashing out, repeating those old ways of coping until we
choose to become aware and practice differently.

THE WORK:
Start paying attention to the moments where you react immaturely, unreasonably
or are feeling threatened. The practice here is to better learn/understand ourselves
through observation, noticing the moments we are reacting in unworkable ways.
Spend some time reading over the questions below. You may find it helpful to copy
them into your phone, a notebook, or anywhere you’ll have them easily accessible as
you’re witnessing yourself throughout the days.

Objectively witnessing the times when you experience these immature thoughts,
feelings, or reactions, will help you reconnect with your deeper emotional wounds.
In these reactive moments, take some time to explore the following prompts
considering why you may be feeling as you do:
Do you feel worried that you might be ignored, abandoned, or left by another?

Do you feel invalidated, overlooked, or unseen by another?

Do you feel undervalued or criticized for your contributions to the relationship?

Do you feel pressured or controlled by another?

Do you feel overvalued or singled out for only certain aspects of you?

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 EGO CONSCIOUSNESS:
EMOTIONAL IMMATURITY
Take a look at the list below and spend the next few weeks witnessing your own
hurt inner child. Remember that these wounded, reactive states are a sign of a
deeper hurt, so do your best to be compassionate with yourself (and Little You!) and
nonjudgmental as you witness these painful and often neglected parts of yourself.
Mark the statements/behaviors that you notice in yourself:

I’m emotionally explosive and raise my voice, say things I don’t mean or slam
doors.

I’m highly defensive or am unable to listen to another’s’ thoughts or feelings

without taking them personally, feeling attacked, or becoming emotionally
reactive.

I’m dismissive of another’s’ feelings or invalidate, deny, or try to change how

they feel in order to relieve my own discomfort.

I fall into black-and-white thinking, viewing things as all good or all bad or
having a difficult time seeing contextual nuances or another’s perspective.

I center conversations or experiences around my emotions or have a difficult

time expressing curiosity or empathy about another’s internal world.

I try to control or dominate conversations by changing the subject to ones I’m

interested in or insist on sharing my own perspectives or experiences.

I actively find ways to distract myself from or avoid uncomfortable

conversations, topics, or experiences by scrolling on social media, turning on
the TV, or leaving the room entirely.

I remove, withdraw, or emotionally distance myself, shutting down, or giving

another the silent treatment.

I close myself off from receiving connection or support from another or

intentionally suppress my needs or emotions, choosing instead to remain
“tough” or emotionally distant.

I use alcohol, drugs, or other substances to numb myself or engage in other

self-harming behaviors when stressed, upset, or uncomfortable.
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EMOTIONAL IMMATURITY
After you’ve spent some time observing your own experience, use the prompt
below to note what you’re learning/witnessing about your own wounded inner
child and habitual ways of thinking/feeling/coping:

When my inner child wound is activated, I tend to think

_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________.

I tend to feel ____________________________________________________________________

[identify your physical sensations].

In my relationships, I tend to act ________________________________________________

_________________________________________________________________________________.

Afterward, I tend to think _____________________________________________ and/or feel

__________________________________________________________________________________.

Use this space to journal any additional observations or reflections:

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 SMALL DAILY PROMISE PLANNER
START OF DAY
TODAY I WILL FOCUS ON SHIFTING MY PATTERN OF:
_________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________
MY SMALL DAILY PROMISE TO BEGIN TO SHIFT THAT PATTERN:
_________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________
I AM GRATEFUL FOR: ____________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________
WHEN I _________________________________________________________

_________________________________________________________________
I’LL EXPERIENCE: ________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
I HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY TO PRACTICE BEING
MY FUTURE SELF TODAY WHEN I: ________________________________

_________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________

END OF DAY
TODAY WHEN I KEPT MY SMALL PROMISE I FELT: _____________
__________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
I NOTICED A MOMENT OF PROGRESS TODAY WHEN I:

__________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
TODAY I LEARNED _______________________________________________

AND I WILL USE THIS KNOWLEDGE TO: ____________________________

__________________________________________________________________
 SMALL DAILY PROMISE PLANNER
START OF DAY
TODAY I WILL FOCUS ON SHIFTING MY PATTERN OF:
_________________________________________________________________
dealing with my emotions in immature, reactive ways.
_________________________________________________________________
MY SMALL DAILY PROMISE TO BEGIN TO SHIFT THAT PATTERN:
_________________________________________________________________
Each day I will consciously observe when I experience immature thoughts, feelings,
_________________________________________________________________
or reactions.
I AM GRATEFUL FOR: ____________________________________________
my willingness to witness my emotional immaturity
_________________________________________________________________
and develop more mature ways of coping and handling myself.
consciously observe when I experience immature thoughts, feelings,
WHEN I _________________________________________________________
or reactions
_________________________________________________________________
healthier and deeper relationships with others.
I’LL EXPERIENCE: ________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________
I HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY TO PRACTICE BEING
MY FUTURE SELF TODAY WHEN I: ________________________________
I am going about my day, I can
take the time to consciously observe myself during moments of immaturity
_________________________________________________________________
and reactivity.
_________________________________________________________________

END OF DAY
I felt really
TODAY WHEN I KEPT MY SMALL PROMISE I FELT: _____________
__________________________________________________________________
proud of myself because I kept this promise. I am also feeling a little bit of
__________________________________________________________________
unease witnessing my immaturity.
I noticed that when
I NOTICED A MOMENT OF PROGRESS TODAY WHEN I: ______________

__________________________________________________________________
I got into an argument with my partner I got irritated by what they were saying and I stopped
__________________________________________________________________
talking to them and went to my room and slammed the door. My awareness is growing.
TODAY I LEARNED I_______________________________________________
have room to practice becoming more emotionally mature.
AND I WILL USE THIS KNOWLEDGE TO: continue practicing witnessing my moments
____________________________
immaturity + taking the steps needed to shift into a more emotionally mature human being
__________________________________________________________________
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