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    Loss Inventory Assignment

    Sometimes we stay stuck in our lives unless we look directly at the ways
    we’ve been wounded and we grieve. This is an exercise that allows you to
    acknowledge what you have loved and lost, the hurts, disappointments, endings,
    and betrayals you have endured. In validating our losses, we begin the grieving
    process.
    In writing your inventory, consider the following: What are the losses
    you've endured in your life that stand out to you from earliest memory to the
    present; what has made you sad, what has broken your heart, what has left a
    gap in your life; what do good-byes bring up for you?
    There is no right or wrong way to do this. Just let your heart speak to you
    as you review the losses you have experienced. Be gentle with yourself as you
    complete this inventory, and contact your friends, family, or your therapist for
    support if needed.
    Losses or endings typically bring new beginnings or ways or being.
    Often, but not always, it helps to look at what was gained as a result of the loss.
    But that type of perspective takes time and each grief journey is unique. Only if
    you find it helpful at this time, also write about what has resulted from each loss
    that feels healing.

    Below are examples from individuals who have done the loss inventory:

    --One of the earliest painful memories was when I stayed with my grandmother because
    my mother was about to give birth and there were unexplained "complications." My dad
    would visit us and I can still remember seeing the red tail-lights of his care as he drove
    away. Longing to go with him... [gained: sense of empathy and compassion]
    --when I think of a "gap in my life" growing up, the biggest one was a sense that I never
    quite measured up to my dad's expectations. Envious when I would see other fathers
    and sons with an easy relationship. [gained: sense of ambition]
    --I moved around so much when I was little that I felt uprooted and friendless much of
    the time. [gained: ability to make friends as I got older]
    --my parents' divorce when I was 7. [gained: understanding of others whose parents
    divorced early]
    --Loss of my wonderful mother due to lung cancer.
    --loss of my dog who our entire family loved. Felt helpless as he had multiple seizures,
    didn't know what was wrong. [have had several dogs I have loved after this one]
    --my grandpa who died when I was 8. I remember bargaining with God to
    let him stay a little longer in my life and when it didn't happen, I lost my trust in God
    -- loss of my virginity at age 15 to someone who didn't care about me. [gained: I chose
    my partners more wisely after that]
    --loss of my innocence because I was sexually abused as a child.
    -- loss of my first love, loss of trust in others, loss of trust in my intuition, loss of sense of
    security, loss of feeling special to someone
    --loss of belief in the inherent goodness of others after being sexually assaulted.
    --my friend who committed suicide in college.
    --2 of my closest friends getting married. [gained: Though these friends could not be
    replaced, I did make other close friends]
    Copyright 2010, Mavis Tsai, Ph.D., www.faptherapy.com

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