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Author(s): Probyn, Elspeth
ISBN(s): 9780816627202, 0816627215
Edition: First Edition
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Year: 2005
Language: english
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FACES OF SHAME
Elspeth Probyn
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Contents
Acknowledgments vii
Introduction: Shame in Love ix
1 Doing Shame 1
2. Shame, Bodies, Places 37
3. The Shamer and the Shamed 75
4. Ancestral Shame 107
5. Writing Shame 129
Notes 163
Index 187
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Acknowledgments
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Shame In Love
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and you talk about yourself; you wish for silent communion,
and I need promises of love. Not quite in love enough but
enough in love to hope; interest is interrupted. The rupture is
painful: "what could have been" is such a sad and shameful
refrain.
Tomkins describes how shame can appear only once inter-
est and enjoyment have been felt and when they have been
ripped from you. At that moment the sheer disappointment
of loss translates into shame that attacks your sense of self: the
entrails of who you thought you were are suddenly displayed
for all to judge. In Tomkins's description:
The innate activator of shame is the incomplete reduction
of interest or joy. Hence any barrier to further exploration
which partially reduces interest. . . will activate the lowering
of the head and the eyes in shame and reduce further explo-
ration or self-exposure.5
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lost none of its sharp pain. And you blush, the only feeling
that physically covers the face. In French, one blushes to the
whites of the eyes, to the ears, and to the roots of one's hair.
The tentacles of the blush, of blood rushing to the face, attest
to the inner cringe.
Blushing feels bad, and it's a reaction that cannot be faked or
brought on without experiencing or remembering the feeling
of shame. Shame makes us feel small and somehow undone.
It's no wonder that in most societies, shame tends not to be
talked about, let alone vaunted. Other negative emotions, such
as anger or rage or guilt or sadness, are regularly discussed in
both popular and academic accounts. But shame makes an
appearance only in discussions about pride, and then only as
a shameful feeling. National pride, black pride, gay pride, and
now fat pride are all projects premised on the eradication of
shame. As political projects, they clearly, and often with very
good reasons, denounce shame. Increasingly, there is a sense
that pride is an entitlement, a state we will all achieve once we
have overcome our nagging feelings of shame and once society
becomes a place where no one shames another.
It's hard not to concur with such hopes—to aspire to live
with only "good" and pleasurable emotions. There is nothing
pleasurable about shame, but there is something immensely
interesting about it in all its expressions. Certainly, compared
with guilt, shame constitutes an acute state of sensitivity. Guilt
is easier to get rid of and once dealt with is forgotten, whereas
shame lingers deep within the self. Being shamed is not unlike
being in love. The blush resonates with the first flush of desire.
It carries the uncertainty about oneself and about the object of
love; the world is revealed anew and the skin feels raw. Shame
makes us quiver. In his psychoanalytic investigation of shame,
Gerhart Piers cites this remarkable passage from Hegel:
Shame does not mean to be ashamed of loving, say on ac-
count of exposing or surrendering the body . . . but to be
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was a fairly manageable topic for a small book. I now see that it
is huge and engages many different disciplines and many aspects
of human life. Many have written that it is somehow shameful
to speak of shame. I cannot possibly do justice to shame. One
thing I have learned is that shame enforces modesty, just as it
tugs at the writer's desire to explore "the big questions." This
book should be seen as just that: an attempt to follow the dif-
ferent lines that lie coiled within shame. In small ways, I hope
to use shame to nudge readers to question their assumptions
about the workings of our bodies and their relations to think-
ing; about the nature of emotions in daily life and in academic
reflection; and about ways of writing and relating.
Is shame cultural or physiological, or does it—and this is
my bet—demand a way of rethinking such oppositions? Does
shame disconcert us because we feel it simultaneously in our
bodies, at the core of our selves, and in our social relations?
These are big questions that are hard to nail down or even to ap-
proach head-on. I feel as if I'm tracking shame—hunting down
past and present evidence of its various forms, following up
some leads and discarding others that have attested to shame's
presence. I am stalking shame in its different manifestations and
in terms of how it has been described; I am following shame
because of where it might lead. I am consumed with why: Why
has shame been discounted? Why does shame seem so innate
when it is felt, seemingly, only in the actual or remembered pres-
ence of others? Why are we so afraid of shame?
Tackling shame brings to mind the image of Sisyphus
and his rock—up he pushes it, only for gravity to exert its will.
Human against rock, and it seems that the rock or at least the
forces of nature will always win. However, against a tragic
reading of an absurdly large project that must fail, Albert
Camus famously argued that the efforts of man, while absurd,
are also twinned with happiness. In Camus's reading, Sisyphus
is an absurd hero because of his passions and struggles: "The
struggle itself towards the heights is enough to fill a man's
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INTERESTING DESCRIPTIONS
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someone says that all humans blush (as Darwin did and many
others following him), what does it do to our sense of shame?
What does it do to our ideas about the body? What does it
do to ideas about being wired as human? Do animals blush?
According to Darwin, and as any pet owner would concur,
they certainly seem to express shame. As I watch my cat turn
away after I've chastised him, I wonder at his feeling of shame.
All these very different ideas are interesting. But I also use
interest in a more specific way. Interest constitutes lines of con-
nection between people and ideas. It describes a kind of affec-
tive investment we have in others. When, for different reasons,
that investment is questioned and interest is interrupted, we
feel deprived. Crucially, that's when we feel shame. That little
moment of disappointment—"oh, but I was interested"—is
amplified into shame or a deep disappointment in ourselves.
Shame marks the break in connection. We have to care about
something or someone to feel ashamed when that care and
connection—our interest—is not reciprocated.
I take these ideas from the psychologist Silvan Tomkins.
As we'll see, Tomkins bases his theory of shame on clini-
cal studies of what the body does when it feels. His research,
conducted during the 19508 and 19605, was largely ignored or
unheard of in the humanities. However, several years ago the
well-known literary critic Eve K. Sedgwick edited a collection
of Tomkins's writing, with the help of Adam Frank, then a
PhD student. Sedgwick and Frank describe the joy they felt
when they first encountered Tomkins's work:
We got our first taste of Silvan Tomkins when we were look-
ing for some usable ideas on the topic of shame. In a sodden
landscape of moralistic or maudlin idees regues about what is,
to the contrary, the most mercurial of emotions, Tomkins'
formulations startle: for their sharpness and daring, their
amplitude, and a descriptive levelheadedness that in the
dispiriting context sounds almost surreal.24
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any given case would allow one to ask, What was it possible
to think or do in any given moment of the past, that it no
longer is?31
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TOMKINS S AFFECTS
It's hard not to dwell on Tomkins's fascinating life and career.
According to Irving Alexander's 1995 account, Tomkins gradu-
ated in 1930 from the University of Pennsylvania with a BA in
playwriting. He then went on to do graduate work in psy-
chology, and, after a brief stint at working for a horse-racing
syndicate, he did postgraduate studies in philosophy, where
he explored value theory and personality theory. He made his
name by 1943 through his research in psychopathology, but it
wasn't until 1951 that he presented his ideas on affect, which
he thought could not be derived "from an analysis of psycho -
pathology but rather from a general theory of human function-
ing."33 His first paper on affect was published in French in 1956
in a collection edited by Jacques Lacan. This didn't have much
of an impact on his American colleagues, and it wasn't until
1962 that the first two volumes of Affect, Imagery, Consciousness
were published. Later, volume three was published a few weeks
before his death in 1991, and volume four posthumously.
He was apparently a great teacher and a warm colleague
who encouraged many of the now leading names in psy-
chology, among them Paul Ekman, whose work in the emo-
tions took up Tomkins's ideas, especially about the centrali-
ty of the face in emotion. There is a lovely photograph of
Tomkins in the opening front page of Shame and Its Sisters.
He has one of those marvelously expressive, nearly plastic faces
and a gorgeous smile. Strangely enough, the dominant lines
on his face mirror the result of one of Ekman's experiments
on the role of the eyebrows in emotion.34 If lines and wrinkles
indicate a particular recurring and predominant type of af-
fect, Tomkins's face reveals a habitual expression of surprise-
interest, with some sadness. Reading about all the little things
the body does makes one strangely attuned to the previously
unnoticed. Perhaps this explains why Tomkins claimed he
suffered at different times of his life from esoteric physical con-
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being could be, and often is, terrified about anything under
the sun. It was a short step to see that excitement has nothing
to do per se with sexuality or with hunger, and that the ap-
parent urgency of the drive system was borrowed from its co-
assembly with appropriate affects as necessary amplifiers.36
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AFFECT OR EMOTION?
Tomkins describes an intricate model of affect as central to
human functioning. In Marcel Mauss's term, which I discuss
in the next chapter, Tomkins sought to comprehend "the
total man"—the site where, for want of better categories,
the biological and the social continually charge each other.
Tomkins argues strongly that "the biopsychological mecha-
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Exploring the Variety of Random
Documents with Different Content
begat children of Azubah his wife, and of Jerioth] the Hebrew
seems to be corrupt. Read perhaps begat children of Azubah, his
wife, daughter of Jerioth; or took Azubah the wife of Jerioth. The
name Azubah = forsaken is significant: see the note on verse 42,
Caleb, ad fin.
the father of Tekoa] i.e. the founder of the town or the eponymous
ancestor of its inhabitants. For Tekoa see 2 Chronicles xx. 20, note.
25‒41.
The Genealogy of the Jerahmeelites.
50. the son of Hur] Read with the LXX., the sons of Hur. Hur
was the son of Caleb (verse 19).
Chapter III.
1‒24.
The Genealogy of the House of David.
Nathan] Through him our Lord’s descent is traced in Luke iii. 31.
10‒16.
The Line of Davidic Kings.
Zedekiah his son] Zedekiah was heir, not son, to Jeconiah, whom
he succeeded in the kingdom. His relationship to Jeconiah was that
of uncle.
17‒19a.
The Davidic Line from Jeconiah to Zerubbabel.
Pedaiah Shealtiel
| |
a daughter = a son
|
Zerubbabel.
19. the sons of Zerubbabel] so the LXX. The Hebrew has son, as
Revised Version margin.
19b‒24.
The Davidic Line from Zerubbabel.
21. and Jeshaiah ... Shecaniah] The LXX. reads (with some
blunders in reproducing the names), “and Jeshaiah his son,
Rephaiah his son, Arnan his son, Obadiah his son, Shecaniah his
son,” thus adding five steps to the genealogy. The difference of
reading in the Hebrew text thus suggested is very slight. It is quite
uncertain whether the Hebrew or the reading of the LXX. is to be
preferred: see the Introduction § 3, A 2.
Helah and Naarah] Neither the names of the wives nor those of
the children yield any certain information.