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F T C N A D - .: ROM HE Enterfora EW Merican Ream WWW Newdream ORG
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WHO ARE WE AND WHY
ARE WE DOING THIS?
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OUR PARTNER
T ABLE OF C ONTENTS
Are You Dreaming of the Perfect Holiday? . . . . . . . . . . . 2
Retail Extravaganza . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3
Getting Started . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3
Time and Stress . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5
Gifts and Spending . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6
Budget . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 6
Talk to Your Family . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7
Simplify Gift Ideas . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8
Gifts of Time . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8
Homemade Gifts . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9
Budget: Zero . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 10
Gifts of Experience . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11
Gifts to Charity . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12
Gifts for Children . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13
Gifts for Grandparents . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15
Change Gift-Giving Traditions . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16
Simpler Entertaining . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17
Connect With Your Children . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18
Remember Your Elders . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 18
Be Kind to the Earth . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19
Campaign Endorsements and Resources. . . . . . . . . . . . . 20
A RE Y OU D REAMING OF THE
P ERFECT H OLIDAY ?
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R ETAIL E XTRAVAGANZA
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G ETTING S TARTED
efore deciding how to simplify, take a moment to reflect on
B what kind of holiday celebration you want. Are you looking
for more activities to enjoy with your children? A celebration
focused more deeply on nature? New charitable or community-
based traditions? A clearer affirmation of your spiritual beliefs?
Or are you trying to reduce the stress and get a little extra time to
sleep? Once you have
decided what you want to
do differently, it’s easier to
decide how to act.
When adults reflect back
on their childhoods, holi-
days are often some of their
most precious memories.
What holiday memories do
you want, for yourself and
for your children?
Unfortunately, too
many of us get trapped in
the chaos of shopping, plan-
ning, cooking, and cleaning.
We speed up so much that
we never really slow down and enjoy the season. The heart and
soul of the holidays often get lost.
Imagine the holidays have come and gone. The food has been
eaten, the gifts have all been opened, and you are observing the
aftermath. Picture the scene carefully: the way the house looks,
the way you feel, what your family is doing. Once you can see the
image clearly, answer the following questions.
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Does your usual celebration focus on those aspects of the
1. holiday that you feel are most important?
o YES o NO
Where can you enlist help to make tasks easier and more fun?
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G IFTS AND S PENDING
ry to remember how much money you spent last year on
T gifts, decorations, and overall celebration-related items dur-
ing the holiday season last year. If necessary, estimate your bills,
but if your bank and credit card statements from last year are
available, do your best to get an accurate picture of what your
actual costs were. Don’t forget to add in the price of wrapping
paper, food for entertaining, and any last-minute “stocking
stuffers” or other extras you may have purchased, too. Calculate
what percentage of your annual income this amounts to.
Amount: __________ Percentage of annual income: _________
Are you comfortable with this figure? Is the amount you spend
on the holidays greater than your yearly electric bill? Your annual
savings? Your annual charitable giving? Did you put any of these
expenses on a credit card, and if so, how long did it take to pay off
the credit debt? The purpose of this exercise isn’t to make you feel
guilty, but to give you some perspective. Often, we are simply not
conscious of how much is flying out of our wallets during the rush
of the season. Seeing the total amount added up can provide some
resolve to track expenses more carefully, however. If you don’t feel
the level of enjoyment you received justified the amount you spent,
try setting a budget to spend less.
B UDGETING
or many people, overspending is the biggest source of stress
F at holiday time. We all want to show our loved ones that we
care about them, but we don’t need to go broke in the process.
If financial concerns have the potential to ruin your holiday, set a
holiday budget well ahead of time that weighs the money you
have available against your obligations. Then, reconsider your
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obligations. Take another look at what you spent last year, outlined
in the exercise above. If you paid $200 to prepare a large, fancy
meal for your extended family, could you spend $30 this year on a
simpler main course and ask guests to bring side dishes? If you
spent $10 on wrapping paper, could you use children’s artwork or
maps from your travels as a free alternative this year? (The tips that
follow will help with creative ways to save money.) Every budget is
unique, but the bottom line should be a figure you can cover with-
out credit debt over the months leading up to the holiday. Calculate
a total amount you are comfortable with, then plan a budget that is
roughly half of what you know you can afford. This gives you a
cushion against all those little extras that spring up unexpectedly.
It’s also a good idea to record your holiday purchases as you
make them. Keeping a running tally of your expenses (in a memo
pad in your purse or a sheet of paper in your wallet) will help you
track how well you are sticking with your budget. If you predict
that overspending will be a problem, make a rule to do all of your
holiday shopping with cash. This reduces the chance that you will
buy on impulse, limits your spending to the amount you choose to
bring into a store, and won’t cost you anything in interest.
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Some families will resist any kind of change. This doesn’t
mean you can’t gradually incorporate new practices into your usual
rituals. Creatively planned activities and thoughtful homemade
gifts will often win over cynical friends and relatives, and even the
smallest changes in your routines can make you feel better about
your holiday while reducing your impact on the environment.
Gifts of Time
his is a wonderful option for just about anyone, from the
T person who “has everything”
In appreci
to the elderly relative who would
ati on of your
friendship
most appreciate your companion-
,
I am prou
d to give y
ship. A particularly nice way to
ou
____________
_________
give the gift of time is by creating
____________
a voucher or “coupon” that
describes the gift being given, _________
for_________
like in the example at the right. ______ .
This gift ca
n be
redeemed
at any tim
Special activities with a
during the e
year by
loved one — a candlelight
calling me
and
dinner, massage, or picnic
arranging
a
convenien
A month of taking out the
garbage, doing the dishes, t time.
shoveling the snow, cleaning With Love,
the cat box, or performing
other household chores.
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A monthly lunch date with an elderly relative or friend
Babysitting
Car washing
Homemade Gifts
ou do not have to be an artist, or even exceptionally creative,
Y to make a great gift for someone. And while it does take
some time to make a gift, it may be no more than the time you
spend hunting for a parking spot at the mall.
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Make homemade potpourri, candles, or soap.
Buy a plain, clean T-shirt from the thrift store and customize
it for your recipient with iron-on transfer paper or fabric paint
(available at craft stores).
Budget: Zero
Give away the last great book you bought and enjoyed to
someone who enjoys your taste. You’ll get to talk about the book
later, and you can always reread a library copy.
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Put together a little book of
favorite family recipes.
Gifts of Experience
ome gifts are not tangible, but are a chance for the recipient
S to try something new. This kind of gift can provide memo-
ries that last forever, without the need for more stuff.
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Offer to teach a skill you possess, such as canning, swing
dancing, knitting, furniture-making, or doing the butterfly stroke.
Gifts to Charity
he commercialized holiday culture encourages everyone to
T focus on getting stuff, for our kids and ourselves. But many
religious traditions instruct us that true joy and purpose come
from focusing on the needs of others. This year, consider more
gifts of charity that touch the hearts and lives of people who are
less privileged.
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What is an Alternative Gift Fair?
magine a shopping list that, instead of sweaters, knick-
I knacks, and video games, contained solar cookers for
refugees in Kenya, solar water systems for victims of natural
disasters in Honduras, and garden plots for urban families in
your neighborhood. These are all examples of presents that
can be purchased at alternative gift fairs, generaly for just $5
to $100. When you make a donation toward a specific gift of
charity, you receive a card detailing your gift to give to your
recipient.
In addition to supporting worthy charities in your area and
around the world, gift fairs are a great way for communities
to come together for a festive holiday celebration. Many
feature live music, homemade decorations, food, and lots of
holiday spirit.
Want to attend a fair but don’t have one in your neighbor-
hood? Consider organizing one! Hosting a fair is a great
way to support a diverse range of organizations while
bypassing much of the stress that comes with the annual
shopping season. Find out more about where fairs are being
held and how to host one in your own community by visiting
www.newdream.org/holiday/altgift.html.
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Yay! A lump of coal!
Have you ever noticed that some kids are happier with the wrap-
ping paper than the present? Often, the less complicated a gift is,
the more it engages a child’s imagination. So, consider stuffing a
stocking with these timeless toys:
a magnifying glass
building blocks
modeling clay or
homemade play dough
a homemade sock
monkey
empty food boxes, play money and a cash box for running an
imaginary store
silk nightgowns, wild shoes, silly ties, and hats for playing
dress-up
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a cookbook with simple, healthy recipes
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C HANGE G IFT -G IVING T RADITIONS
or extended families, office parties, or families with grown
F children, the usual custom of getting a brand new gift for
each person on your list can be excessive. Try one of these fun
ideas for reducing the number of material gifts while keeping the
fun spirit of a gift swap.
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S IMPLER E NTERTAINING
or some people entertaining can be a major holiday stress.
F Starting in November, we are bombarded with images of
extravagant decorations and elaborate holiday recipes. With these
standards, a simple party can become a
monstrous task.
The first step in making hol-
iday events more manageable is
to decide that you are willing to
give up perfection. If you accept
that your gathering will not look
exactly like the cover of a maga-
zine, you might be able to enjoy
it more. Here are some ideas to
simplify your party, whether it’s a
large or small gathering:
If friends and relatives are willing, have a gourmet potluck
party instead of doing all the cooking yourself. The food can still
be scrumptious, but each person only cooks one dish!
Instead of having a party centered around a full meal, have
people over for coffee and dessert alone.
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C ONNECT WITH Y OUR C HILDREN
any of us are looking for new ways to connect with our
M children during the holidays. If you would like to create
some holiday rituals, especially for kids, here are some suggestions:
Help your children prepare gift boxes for the homeless (filled
with items like food, treats, and toiletries). This can be done
jointly with a few families and is a gentle way to teach them to
appreciate their own good fortune and instill the values of com-
munity service and kindness to others.
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B E K IND TO THE E ARTH
f you are looking to
Several years ago I made dozens
of cloth gift bags which I gave as
I connect your holi-
gifts and hae used for our own day rituals to the natur-
gifts since our children were new- al world, or if you just
borns, saving a mountain of wrap-
want to be more envi-
ping paper and ribbon.
–Karen Madsen ronmentally conscious,
Everett, Washington there are lots of things
you can do:
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This Campaign Endorsed by Further Reading
Cecile Andrews
Hundred Dollar Holiday by Bill
Learning for Life Project
McKibben
Liz Barratt-Brown
The Oikos Group How the Grinch Stole Christmas by
Dr. Seuss
Brent Blackwelder
Friends of the Earth Simplify Your Christmas by Elaine
Co-op America St. James
Marian Wright Edelman Unplug the Christmas Machine by
Children’s Defense Fund Jo Robinson & Jean Coppock Staeheli
Robert Engelman
Population Action International What Kids Really Want That
Money Can’t Buy by Betsy Taylor
Peter Forbes
Trust for Public Land “Winter Solstice Celebrations for
Paul Gorman Families and Households” by Selena
National Religious Partnership for Fox <www.circlesanctuary.org/
the Environment pholidays/SolsticePlanningGuide.html>
Jaqueline Hamilton
Environmental Defense “Whose Birthday Is It, Anyway?”
(Christian-oriented pamphlet),
Mark Jacobs
Coalition on the Environment and Alternatives for Simple Living, (1-800-
Jewish Life 821-6153) <www.simpleliving.org>
Products
Spirit Rock Center
Frances Moore Lappé
Center for Living Democracy
Alternative Gifts International (1-
Rabbi Mordechai Liebling 800-842-2243)
Jewish Reconstructionist Federation
<www.altgifts.org>
Bill McKibben
Author Conscious Consumer
Mary Pipher <www.newdream.org/consumer>
Author
Conservatree recycled card listings
Vicki Robin <www.conservatree.org/paper/
New Road Map Foundation AddProductsCards.shtml>
Richard E. Roy
Northwest Earth Institute Give for Change
<www.giveforchange.com>
Juliet Schor
Boston College National Green Pages from
Michael Schut Co-op America (1-800-58-GREEN)
Earth Ministry <www.coopamerica.org>
Sierra Club
Ten Thousand Villages (1-717-859-
Bishop Bennett J. Sims 8100) <www.tenthousandvillages.org>
The Institute for Servant Leadership
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