M.muzhda Raport

Salahaddin university Erbil
College of Arts
Social work department
Submitted by: sara khalid ahmed

Submitted to: muzhda muhammad aziz
Subject: Toxic parent

Toxic parents
Introduction:
To clarify, "toxic parent" is neither a medical term nor a well-defined
concept.
When people talk about toxic parents, they usually mean parents who
consistently act in ways that make their children feel guilty, afraid, or
obligated.
Their actions are not isolated incidents, but rather patterns of behavior
that have a negative impact on their child's life.
The fact is that parents are human beings.

As a result, they may make mistakes, yell too much, or do potentially
harmful things to their children – even if unintentionally.
However, their instinct is to do better and make things right.
A toxic parent, on the other hand, is more concerned with their own n
eeds than with whether or not their actions are harmful or damaging.
They are unlikely to apologize or even admit that what they are doing
is wrong.
Characteristics of toxic parents:
The term "toxic parent" refers to parents who exhibit some or all of th
e following characteristics:
Self-centered actions.
When it comes to things that you require, your parent may be
emotionally unavailable, narcissistic, or uncaring.
It may appear that every situation revolves around the same question:
"What about ME?"
Containing behaviors
Toxic parents may intrude on your privacy or deny you the ability to
make your own decisions.
Or perhaps, even as an adult, they are overly critical and controlling o
f your decisions.
Manipulative actions.
Your parent may try to control you by manipulating your emotions wi
th guilt or shame.
Toxic parents may use time, money, or other items as pawns in their g
ame of manipulation.
Abuse, both physical and verbal.

Abuse does not always involve hitting, yelling, threats, or other obvio
us behavios
You may be subjected to more subtle forms of abuse, such as name-
calling, shifting blame, silent treatment, or gaslighting.
Types of Toxic Parents
1.The godlike parents:

suffocate their child's independence to the point where the child is una
ble to survive on their own
This environment fosters the notion that the child is bad and weak,
while the parents are good and strong.
2.The inadequate parents:

Because these parents are preoccupied with their own survival, the
child becomes almost invisible and is forced to grow up quickly.
As a result, it is difficult for these children to develop a sense of self-
worth.
3. The controllers:
These parents attempt to live vicariously through their children and ex
ert control over their lives even when their children reach adulthood.
These children develop anxious and fearful personalities and struggle
to mature. These parents often use guilt and shame to leverage
themselves.
4. The verbal abusers:

These parents directly insult their children or are cynical and sarcastic
in order to intentionally hurt and humiliate them.
This parenting style is frequently seen in highly competitive people or
perfectionist parents who are never satisfied with anything.
This causes the child to internalize and begin to believe what their par
ents say about them.
5. The physical abusers:

Physical abuse is frequently perpetrated as a result of the parent's
exhaustion, high stress levels, anxiety, their own unhappiness and
lack of impulse control, or because physical abuse was normal for
them as children.
When their children fail to meet their needs, these parents lash out.
This parenting style causes rage, revenge fantasies, and self-hatred in
the children.
How to Deal With Toxic Parents

 Stop trying to please them: It is natural to seek approval from
your parents, but toxic parents are nearly impossible to please.
And, more importantly, it is your life, and you have the right to
make your own decisions and do what makes you happy. Living
your life in accordance with the values and goals of others will
leave you chronically unhappy and unsatisfied. And if you
spend your life trying to please your parents, you will be their
prisoner, constantly seeking validation and love from people
who are unlikely to give it to you. When you give your parents
this kind of power, you give them the ability to determine your
self-worth, telling you whether you're smart, successful, a good
parent, a worthwhile person, and so on.
 Set and enforce boundaries: Boundaries assist us in

establishing clear expectations and limits for how others may
treat us. Boundaries separate you emotionally and physically
from your parents. This is probably something you didn't have
as a child, so setting boundaries and telling your parents how
you want to be treated can be unsettling. Toxic people are
resistant to boundaries; they want to be in charge. Setting
boundaries with toxic people is difficult because they do not
respect limits, but do not let this discourage you. Boundaries are
necessary for all healthy relationships. Remember that it is
acceptable to limit your contact with your parents, to say no, to
arrive late or to depart early. It's even acceptable to avoid
contact with your parents. You owe nothing to them!
 Dont try to change them: Trying to change people who refuse

to change is a waste of time and energy (and will leave you
extremely frustrated). Instead, concentrate on what you can
control, such as how you respond to your parents, your choices,
and your behavior.
 Be mindful of what you share with them: Trust is an essential

component of healthy relationships, and we should only share
personal information with those who have demonstrated their
trustworthiness. Unfortunately, if your parents gossip about you,
criticize you, share information about you without your
permission, or use what you tell them against you, they may not
fall into this category. You are not required to tell them
everything (or anything) that is going on in your life or to
respond to their questions. Only share what makes you feel at
ease and secure.
effects of toxic parents:

Family, in whatever form it takes, has a significant impact on an
individual's sense of self-worth, perception of and trust in others, and
overall world view. Essentially, it serves as the foundation for how
you perceive and interact with the people, places, and things around
you. When you realize you've been exposed to toxicity, it can be
helpful, if not liberating, to realize that many of the behaviors you've
picked up are toxic. You may have thought that the negative
experiences you had as a child were, well, normal.
For example, you may have been beaten or abused but dismissed it as
a spanking. You may have been neglected severely, but you framed it
as your parents being too busy. If you grew up with a toxic parent as a
role model, you may feel doomed. How do you stop history from
repeating itself?
There is some good news here. Learned behaviors can be unlearned
and modified with a little effort. This isn't an easy task, but the first
step is admitting that your environment shaped you. You will not be
able to change until you understand and accept the factors that have
influenced your behavior.
References
Beyhan budak YouTube video 2020
https://youtu.be/UFx0Y2MknXY
Sharon martin on August 3, 2018

https://psychcentral.com/blog/imperfect/2018/08/10-tips-for-dealing-
with-your-toxic-parents
Ashley marcin on July 16, 2020

https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/toxic-parents

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Salahaddin university Erbil

Submitted by: sara khalid ahmed

Subject: Toxic parent

The fact is that parents are human beings.

Characteristics of toxic parents:

Abuse, both physical and verbal.

Types of Toxic Parents

1.The godlike parents:

2.The inadequate parents:

4. The verbal abusers:

5. The physical abusers:

How to Deal With Toxic Parents

 Set and enforce boundaries: Boundaries assist us in

 Dont try to change them: Trying to change people who refuse

 Be mindful of what you share with them: Trust is an essential

effects of toxic parents:

Sharon martin on August 3, 2018

Ashley marcin on July 16, 2020

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