Lesson Overview

How Others See Me

Concept Length Recommended
Self-Management 15-50 Minutes 3rd Grade
Skills

About This Lesson

Xe llo Entry Point
In this lesson, students will explore qualities they admire in others and
themselves to help develop their positive self-concept. With a focus on positive This a ctivity ca n be used in
behaviors and attitudes, students will build their understanding of how they can conjunction with students’
wor k in the About Me
control the way others see them.
section, wher e they
inventor y a ll the inter ests
Lesson Objectives a nd str engths tha t help
m a ke up their identity.
By the end of this activity, students will
• Build a positive self-concept by exploring the qualities that they like about Le sson Vocabulary
themselves;
• Link behaviors, attitudes, and language with others’ perception of them; • Perspective

• Identify positive qualities they want to demonstrate to others. • Impression

• Positive
• Negative
Driving Question • Behavior
• Attitude
How can I make others see me the way I want to be seen?
• Meme
• Autobiography
Future-Ready Skills

Self-M a n a gem en t Self-Con fiden ce Respectin g Y ou r self

ASCA Standards
Respectin g Oth er s Un der sta n din g Per spectives
M 1 . Belief in developm ent of
whole self, including a hea lthy
ba la nce of m enta l,
socia l/em otiona l a nd physica l
Lesson Breakdown well-being

Activity 1 - Shout-Outs! B-SM S 2. Dem onstr a te self-

10-15 discipline a nd self-contr ol
minutes I n this wa r m -up a ctivity, students list positive qua lities a bout a
cla ssm a te, a nd in r etur n, r eceive a positive shout-out fr om their B-SM S 6. Dem onstr a te a bility to
pa r tner . over com e ba r r ier s to lea r ning

Activity 2 - Meme Yourself

10-15
minutes Students explor e how they see them selves a nd how other s m a y see
them in this cr ea tive dr a wing a ctivity.

Activity 3 - The Me I Want the World to See

15-20
minutes I n this a ctivity, students cr ea te a n a utobiogr a phica l a r ticle,
highlighting a ll of the good qua lities a nd a ctions tha t they wa nt other s
to know a bout.

Exit Activity - How Others See Me Exit Slip

5-10
minutes Students r a te how com for ta ble they feel with their under sta nding of
how their beha vior , a ctions, a nd a ttitude im pa ct the wa y other s see
them .
How Others See Me

Shout-Outs!
Concept Length
Self-Management 10-15 Minutes
Skills

Inquiry Prompts Mate rials Re quire d

• What positive qualities do you notice first about someone?
•
• What positive qualities do you admire in others?
•
Shout-Out! slips
Pencils, colored pencils, or
markers

Instructions • Computers (tablets, phones)

with Internet access (if you
want students to upload their
In this activity, students celebrate the positive qualities they admire in their artifacts)
classmates, and learn what positive qualities other students see in them. At the
end of the activity, students should have some positive qualities noticed by their
peers that they can build on in the next activity.
1 Divide students into smaller groups. Give each group a set of shout-out slips.
Artifacts
2 Ask students in the group to fill out one card for each person in their group.
H a ve students uploa d the
3 When they’re done, students should pass their cards to the person they shout-outs they r eceived to
wrote about. Have each student share their cards with the group. Storyboard, wher e they ca n
4 As a class, go over some of the cards and discuss how the student r eflect on wha t it felt like to
hea r a bout the positive
demonstrates the quality mentioned on the card.
qua lities som eone else sees in
Message for students: You never know what kind of impression you’re making on them .
people. Sometimes you can’t control the way someone sees you. (For example,
if you’re the youngest, everyone in your family might think of you as the baby of
the family.) But sometimes you can control how people see you. Think about the
kinds of behaviors, language, and attitude that make a positive and negative
impression on you. Which do you display and when?
How Others See Me

Meme Yourself
Concept Length
Self-Management 10-15 Minutes
Skills

Inquiry Prompts Mate rials Re quire d

• What positive qualities do you notice first about someone?
•
• What positive qualities do you admire in others?
Meme Yourself activity
sheets
• Pencils, colored pencils, or
markers
Instructions
• Computers (tablets, phones)
with Internet access (if you
A meme is a piece of media, like a photo, that becomes popular and spreads want students to upload their
from person to person online. Memes often include text-based observations or artifacts)
humor. Based on a popular meme that features a series of images representing
others’ preconceptions about a person or their job, this activity asks students to
envision how others might see them. Thinking about how others see them helps
students link their behavior, attitude, and words to the impression they give.
Artifacts
1 Give students the Meme Yourself worksheet and make sure they understand
the terms meme and perspective. Students ca n uploa d their
m em es to Storyboard, wher e
2 Ask students to think about how other people might see them based on how they ca n r eflect on how they
they act, the language they use, or the attitude they show. think other s see them , a nd how
3 Have students draw a picture that shows how the person described in the they wa nt to be seen. Y ou ca n
a lso displa y students’ m em es in
activity may see them.
your cla ssr oom .
4 Encourage students to present their memes to the class and explain why
someone might see them in a certain way.
5 You can also have students choose their own perspectives on the blank
version of the meme activity sheet. Some options:
• How I see myself
• How my family sees me
• How strangers see me
• How my pet sees me
• How my teammates see me
• How my grandparents see me
• How my siblings see me
Message for students: Put your best foot forward! Make a good impression!
There’s lots of sayings that encourage others to think about how their actions,
words, and attitude impact the way others see them. What if you could come up
with your own saying?
How Others See Me

The Me I Want the World to See

Concept Length
Self-Management 15-20 Minutes
Skills

Inquiry Prompts Mate rials Re quire d

• How do you want others to see you?
•
• What qualities do you think others overlook in you?
The Me I Want the World to
See worksheet
• What good qualities do you want to keep developing?
• Pencils, colored pencils, or
• What bad habits do you want to break? markers
• Computers (tablets, phones)
with Internet access (if you
Instructions want students to upload their
artifact or add a goal)
In this activity, students create an autobiographical article about themselves,
highlighting all of the good qualities and actions that they want others to know
about. The article gives them the chance to explore exactly how they’d like
others to see them.
Artifacts
1 Give students a copy of the Me I Want the World to See worksheet.
H elp students uploa d their
2 Explain that this is a chance to highlight some of the qualities that they want wor ksheets to their Storyboard.
others to see in them. Alter na tively, if they ha ve a n
3 Ask students to draw a picture of themselves in the space provided. idea how they wa nt to cultiva te
qua lities tha t they wa nt other s
4 Next, have students reflect on the answers to the prompts/sentence stems. to notice, they ca n a dd it to the
(If they have shout-outs from the first activity, they can use those slips to help My G oals section of Xello.
fill in some of their answers.)
5 Discuss students’ articles, pointing out the admirable qualities they want
others to see in themselves.
Message for students: Everyone’s a work in progress. Even adults still need to
work on showing their best qualities to others. And sometimes you can’t help
what others choose to see in you or believe about you. But putting your best foot
forward, and actively working on the positive qualities you already have or want
to develop, can help others see you as you see yourself!