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What Is Personality?
Word stems from “persona”
Latin for “mask”
Personality Defined:
A pattern of relatively permanent traits and unique characteristics that give both
consistency and individuality to a person’s behavior
Traits
Consistency of behavior over time
Individual differences in behavior
Stability of behavior across situations
Characteristics
Unique qualities (e.g., temperament, physique, and intelligence)
What Is a Theory?
Theory Defined
A set of related assumptions that allows scientists to use logical deductive reasoning to
formulate testable hypotheses.
Theory and Its Relatives
Philosophy
Broader than theory, nature of knowledge
Speculation
Theories rely on speculations but must be tied to empirical data and science using
observations testing hypothesis
Hypothesis
educated guess that can be tested using scientific method
Taxonomy
◦ Classification according to natural relationships
Why Different Theories?
Different Personal Backgrounds
◦ Childhood experiences
◦ Interpersonal relationships
Different Philosophical Orientations Unique Ways of Looking at the World Data Chosen to
Observe is Different
Perspectives on Theories of Personality
Psychodynamic theorists
Freud, Adler, Jung, Klein, Horney, Fromm, and Erikson.
Humanistic-existential theorists
Maslow, Rogers, and May.
Dispositional theorists
Allport, and McCrae and Costa,
Biological-evolutionary theorists
Eysenck and Buss
Learning (social)-cognitive theorists
Skinner, Bandura, Rotter, Mischel, and Kelly.
Theorists’ Personalities & Their Theories of Personality
Psychology of Science
The empirical study of scientific thought and behavior (including theory construction) of
the scientist
The personalities and psychology of different theorists influence the kinds of theories that they
develop
What Makes a Theory Useful: Criteria for Evaluating a Theory
Generates Research from the hypotheses
Is Falsifiable (Verifiable), either confirming or disconfirming
Organizes Known Data
Guides Action (Practical), provide good structure for finding answers to problems.
Is Internally Consistent- logically compatible, concepts and terms are operationally
defined
Is Parsimonious, simple and straightforward are more useful than complicated
concepts
Dimensions for a Concept of Humanity
Determinism v. Free Choice
Pessimism v. Optimism
Causality v. Teleology
Conscious v. Unconscious Determinants of Behavior
Biological v. Social Influences on Personality
Uniqueness v. Similarities
Research in Personality Theory
Must Generate Research
Theory gives meaning to data
Data comes from experimental research designed to test hypothesis generated by the
theory
Systematic observations
Predictions are consistent and accurate
Two Empirical Criteria for Instruments
Reliability
Consistency of Measurement
Validity:
Construct Validity
Convergent
Divergent
Discriminant
Predictive Validity
CHAPTER 2 – Sigmund Freud: Psychoanalytic Theory
Overview of Psychoanalytic Theory
• What Made This Theory Interesting?
Cornerstones: Sex and aggression
Spread by a dedicated group
Brilliant language (Goethe Prize in Literature)
Biography of Freud
Born in Freiberg Moravia (now the Czech Republic) in 1856
Spent most of life (80 years) in Vienna, Austria
Was the eldest son of eight
Studied Medicine, specializing in psychiatry; interested in science
Studied hysteria with Charcot & Breuer
Studies on Hysteria (1895)
Abandoned seduction theory in 1897 and replaced it with Oedipus Complex
In 1900 wrote Interpretation of Dreams
After 1900 developed international circle of followers (Adler, Jung, and others)
Was driven out of Austria by Nazis in 1938
Died in London in 1939
Level of Mental Life
• Unconscious
– Beyond awareness
• Includes drives, urges, or instincts
• Is known only indirectly
• Can become conscious by dreams, slip of tongue, neurotic symptoms
(primary and final censor)
– Two sources of unconscious processes
• Repression-blocking of anxiety filled experiences (punishment and
suppression)
• Phylogenetic Endowment-inherited experiences that lie beyond an
individual's personal experience (Jung’s collective consciousness)
(Oedipus complex and castration anxiety)
• Preconscious
– Not in conscious awareness, but can be
– Content may come down from conscious or up from unconscious
• Conscious
– Mental life that is directly available, plays a minor role
– From either the perception of external stimuli; that is, our perceptual conscious
system, or from unconscious and preconscious images after they have evaded
censorship.
Provinces of the Mind
• The Id
– Pleasure Principle-Seeks constant and immediate satisfaction of instinctual needs
– Primary Process
• The Ego
– The Reality Principle-responsible for reconciling the unrealistic demands of both
the id and the superego with the demands of the real world
– Secondary Process
• The Superego
– The Idealistic Principle - What we should do/Moralistic (dived into two sub-
systems)
– Conscience - results from punishment for improper behavior and tells us what we
should not do
– Ego-Ideal - stems from rewards for socially acceptable behavior and tells us what
we should do
Dynamics of Personality
• People are motivated to seek pleasure and reduce tension and anxiety
• The term dynamics of personality refers to those forces that motivate people
• Drives
– Libido or Sex Drive (seek pleasure, which can be gained through the erogenous zones,
especially the mouth, anus, and genitals.)
• Thanatos or Aggression/Destructive Drive (aims to return the person to an inorganic state
or death, but it is ordinarily directed against other people and is called aggression. )
• Anxiety
– Neurotic Anxiety-apprehension about an unknown danger and stems from the
ego's relation with the id
– Moral Anxiety-similar to guilt and results from the ego's relation with the
superego
– Realistic Anxiety-similar to fear and is produced by the ego's relation with the real
world
Defense Mechanisms
• Repression
Involves forcing unwanted, anxiety- loaded experiences into the unconscious. Most basic
of all because it is an active process in the rest.
• Reaction Formation
marked by the repression of one impulse and the ostentatious expression of its exact
opposite.
Ex. For example, a teen age boy may have deep-seated unconscious sexual feelings for a
teacher, but on the surface level he expresses exaggerated animosity toward that teacher.
• Displacement
The redirecting of unacceptable urges and feelings onto people and objects in order to
disguise or conceal their true nature.
Ex. A woman greatly dislikes her boss but takes her anger out on her husband and
children.
• Fixation
Fixations develop when psychic energy is blocked at one stage of development, making
psychological change difficult.
• Regression
Regressions take place when a person reverts to earlier, more infantile modes of behavior.
• Projection
Is seeing in others those unacceptable feelings or behaviors that actually reside in one’s
own unconscious. When carried to extreme, projection can become paranoia, which is
characterized by delusions of persecution.
• Introjection
Introjection involves the incorporation of positive qualities of another person in order to
reduce feelings of inadequacy.
Ex. Hero worship might be a good example.
• Sublimation
Contributes to the welfare of society. They involve elevating the aim of the sexual
instinct to a higher level and are manifested in cultural accomplishments, such as art,
music, and other socially beneficial activities.
Stages of Development
• Infantile Period (Birth-5)
– Oral Phase -infant is primarily motivated to receive pleasure through the mouth.
Weaning is the principal source of frustration during this stage.
– Anal Phase -second year of life, when toilet training is the child's chief source of
frustration. If parents use punitive training methods, a child may develop the anal
triad of orderliness, stinginess, and obstinacy, all of which mark the anal
character. However, most children escape the detrimental effects of this stage.
– Phallic Phase
• Male Oedipus Complex -sexual feelings for one parent and hostile feelings for the
other
– Castration Complex - castration anxiety or fear of losing the penis, breaks
up the male Oedipus complex and results in a well-formed male superego
• Female Oedipus Complex (Electra)-Same
– Penis Envy - a situation that leads to only a gradual and incomplete
shattering of the female Oedipus complex and a weaker, more flexible
female superego
– Latency Period (5-puberty) - Freud believed that psychosexual development goes through
a latency stage — from about age 5 years until puberty—in which the sexual instinct is
partially suppressed.
– Genital Period (puberty-adulthood) -The genital period begins with puberty when
adolescents experience a reawakening of the genital aim of Eros, and it continues
throughout adulthood. (the desire to be with a loved one)
– Maturity -the ego would be in control of the id and superego and in which consciousness
would play a more important role in behavior.
Applications of Psychoanalytic Theory
• Free Association (patients are required to say whatever comes to mind, no matter how
irrelevant or distasteful)
– Transference (patient transfers childhood sexual or aggressive feelings onto the
therapist and away from symptom formation
– Resistance
• Dream Analysis
– Manifest(conscious) and latent(unconscious) content
• Freudian or Unconscious Slips (Parapraxes)
Related Research
• Unconscious Mental Processing
– Automatic, implicit, nonconscious processing
• Inhibition and the Ego
– Limbic system and Dopamine
• Defense Mechanisms
– Neuropsychological underpinnings of repression
• Research on Dreams
Critique of Freud
• Did Freud Understand Women?
• Was Freud a Scientist?
– Theories are difficult to test
– Generated considerable research
– Difficult to falsify
– Very loose organizational framework
– Not a good guide to solve practical problems
– Internally consistent theory
Freud’s Concept of Humanity
• Deterministic and Pessimistic
• Causality(past) over Teleology(future goals)
• Unconscious over Conscious
• Biology over Culture
• Equal emphasis on Uniqueness and Similarity
CHAPTER 3 – Alfred Adler: Individual Psychology
The individual psychology presents an optimistic of people while resting heavily in the
notion of social interest.
Differences between Freud and Adler
FREUD ADLER
People as being motivated mostly by social
Reduce all motivation to sex and
influences; by their striving for superiority
aggression.
and success.
Assumed that people have little or no Believed that people are largely responsible
choice in shaping their personality, for who they are.
Assumed that present behavior us caused by Present behavior is shaped by people’s view
past experiences. of the future.
Placed very heavy emphasis in unconscious Psychologically are usually aware of what
component of behavior. they are doing and why they are doing it.
regardless, of the motivation for striving, each individual is guided by a final goal
Fictionalism
subjected, fictional final goal guides our style of life, gives unity to our
personality.
Adler’s ideas on fictionalism originated in Hans Vaihinger’s book The
Philosophy of “As If” - Fictions are ideas that have no real existence, yet they
influence people as if they really existed
People are motivated by what is true but by their subjective perception of
what is true.
Whether true or false, fictions have a powerful influence on people’s life.
* teleology – explanation of behavior in terms of its final purpose or aim; concerned with
future goals or ends.
* causality – deals with past experiences that produce some present effect.
Physical Inferiorities
People may still act as weak and inferior even if they become big and superior
because people begin life as like that so they develop a fiction or belief system
about how to overcome these physical deficiencies.
Physical handicaps have little or no importance by themselves but become
meaningful when they stimulate subjective feelings of inferiority
Physical deficiencies alone don’t cause a particular style of life; they simple
provide present motivation for reaching future goals.
Organ Dialect
disturbance of one body part of the body cannot be viewed in isolation; it affects
the entire person; deficient organ expresses the direction of the individual’s
goal.
the body’s organs “speak a language which is usually more expressive and
discloses the individual’s opinion more clearly than words are able to do”.
e.g. Man suffering from a rheumatoid arthritis in his hands. His stiff and
deformed joints voice his whole style of life.
4. The true value of all human activity must be seen from the viewpoint of social interest.
Gemeinschaftsgefühl
English Definition Other Definition
Social feeling or community feeling Feeling of oneness with all humanity; membership
in the social community of all people
The natural condition of the human species and the adhesive that binds society
together.
Necessity for perpetuating the human species.
Overly concerned with themselves Fear defeat more than they desire success
Lack consideration for others Convinced that life’s major problems can be
solved only in a selfish manner
Unable to cooperate for the common welfare Experience a strong sense of envy towards
success of others
See society as enemy country
Neglected children have many of the characteristics of pampered ones, but
generally they are more suspicious and more likely to be dangerous to others.
Safeguarding Tendencies
Enables people to hide their inflated self-image and to maintain their current style of
life.
Adlerian Freudian
Largely conscious and shield a
person’s fragile self-esteem from Symptoms are formed as a Defense mechanism operate
public disgrace; discussed only w/ protection against anxiety. unconsciously to protect the ego
reference to the construction of against anxiety; common to
neurotic symptoms. everyone.
Excuses
Most common safeguarding tendencies; typically expressed in the:
“yes, but” – people state what they claim they would like to do – something
that sounds good to others – then they follow if an excuse.
“If only” – the same excuse phrased in a different way.
Excuses protect a weak – but artificially inflated – sense of self-worth; deceiving
people into believing that they are more superior than they really are.
Aggression
To safeguard theirs exaggerated superiority complex to protect their fragile
self-esteem.
Aggression may take form of:
Depreciation
tendency to undervalue other people’s achievements and to overvalue
one’s own; evident in criticism and gossip.
intention of depreciation is to belittle another so that the person, by
comparison, will be placed in a favorable light.
Accusation
tendency to blame others for one’s failures and to seek revenge;
safeguarding one’s own tenuous self-esteem
Self – Accusation
marked by self-torture and guilt; means of hurting people who are close
to them
With depreciation, people who feel inferior devalue others to make
themselves look good. With self-accusation, people devalue themselves
in order to inflict suffering on others while protecting their own
magnified feelings of self-esteem.
Withdrawal
People run away from difficulties; people unconsciously escape life’s problems
by setting up a distance between themselves and those problems.
Four modes of safeguarding through withdrawal:
Moving backward
tendency to safeguards one’s fictional goal of superiority by
psychologically reverting to a more secure period of life
designed to elicit sympathy, the deleterious attitude offered so generously
to pampered children.
Standing still
people who stand still simply do not move in any direction; thus, they
avoid all responsibility by ensuring themselves against any threat or
failure.
by doing nothing, people safeguard their self-esteem and protect
themselves against failure.
Hesitating
people hesitate or vacillate when faced with difficult problems.
Hesitating may appear to other people to be self-defeating, it allows
neurotic individual to preserve their inflated sense of self-esteem.
Constructing Obstacles
they protect their self-esteem and their prestige; if they fail to hurdle the
barrier, they can always retort to an excuse.
Masculine Protest
cultural and social practices influence many men and women to overemphasize the
importance of being manly.
Application of Individual Psychology
Family Constellation
In therapy, Adler almost always patients about their family constellation: their birth
order, gender of their siblings, and the age spread between them.
General hypotheses about birth order:
Firstborn children, likely to have intensified feelings of power and superiority; high
anxiety, and overprotective tendencies.
Second born children, shaped by their perception of the older child’s attitude towards
them.
Youngest children, likely to have strong inferiority and to lack a sense of
independence; highly motivated to exceed older siblings.
Only children, develop an exaggerated sense of superiority and an inflated self-
concept; lack well- developed feelings of cooperation and social interest.
Early Recollections
(CHANGE)
Dreams
(CHANGE)
Psychotherapy
(CHANGE)
Object Relations Theory (ORT) is an offspring of Freud’s instinct theory but ORT
differs in at least three general ways:
1. ORT places less emphasis on biologically based drives & more importance on
consistent patterns of interpersonal relationship.
2. Rather emphasizing the power and control of the father, ORT tends to be more
maternal, stressing the intimacy and nurturing of the mother.
3. ORT generally see human contact and relatedness- not sexual pleasure- as a prime
motive of human behavior.
Introduction to Objective Relations Theory
Drives are the source, aim and object
Aim is to reduce tension
In Freudian terms, the object of the drive is any person, part of a person, or thing through
which the aim is satisfied.
Accept the basic assumption of Freud’s and then speculate on how the infant’s real or
fantasized early relation with mother or the breast become a model for all later
interpersonal relationships.
Psychic life of the infant
Importance of the first 4 or 6 months.
infants do not begin life with a blank slate but with an inherited predisposition to reduce
the anxiety
Experience as a result of the conflict produced by the forces of the life instinct and the
power of the death instinct.
The infant’s innate readiness to act or react presupposes the existence of phylogenetic
endowment
Fantasies
the infant, even at birth, possesses an active fantasy life.
fantasies are psychic representations of unconscious id instincts
they should not be confused with the conscious fantasies of older children and adults.
unconscious images of “good” and “bad.”
E.g., a full stomach is good, an empty one is bad
As the infant matures, later unconscious fantasies are shaped by both reality and by
inherited predispositions
One of these fantasies involves the Oedipus complex, of the child’s wish to destroy of
parent and sexually possess the other
Objects
Agreed with Freud
- humans have innate drives or instincts, including a death instinct.
- Drives must have some object.
- the hunger drive has a good breast as its object,
- the sex drive has a sexual organ as its object
Klein believed that from early infancy children relate to these external objects, both in
fantasy and in reality
In their active fantasy, infants introject external objects
Positions
Infants as constantly engaging in a basic conflict between the life instinct and the death
instinct
- btw good and bad, love & hate, creativity & destruction.
- the ego moves toward integration and away from disintegration, infants naturally
prefer gratifying sensations over frustrating ones
1. Paranoid-Schizoid position
The infant desires to control the breast by devouring and harboring it
At the same time, the infant’s innate destructive urges create fantasies of damaging the
breast by biting, tearing, or annihilating it
To tolerate both these feelings toward the same object at the same time, Ego splits itself
- Retaining parts of its life and death instincts while reflecting parts of both instincts
into the breast
Now, rather than fearing its own death instinct, the infant fears the persecutory breast
develops a relationship with the ideal breast, which provides love, comfort, and
gratification.
The infant desires to keep the ideal breast inside itself as a protection against annihilation
by persecutors
the ego’s perception of the external world is subjective and fantastic rather than objective
and real.
- not based on any real of immediate danger from the outside world.
2. Depressive Position
the infant develops a more realistic picture of the mother and recognizes that she is an
independent person who can be both good and bad
The ego is beginning to mature and can tolerate some of its own destructive feelings
rather than projecting them outward
the infant also realizes that the mother might go away and be lost forever
Fearing the possible loss of the mother, the infant desires to protect her
Keep her from the dangers of its own destructive forces, those cannibalistic impulses
that had previously been projected on her
the infant’s ego is mature enough to realize that it lacks the capacity to protect the
mother
experiences guilt for each previous destructive urge toward the mother
The feelings of anxiety over losing a loved object coupled with a sense of guilt for
wanting to destroy
Defense Mechanism
1. Introjection
Infants fantasize taking into their body those perceptions and experiences that they have
had with the external object, originally the mother’s breast
Introjected objects are not accurate representations of the real objects but are colored by
children’s fantasies
2. Projection
as infants use introjection to take in both good and bad objects, they use projection to
get rid of them
the fantasy that one’s own feelings and impulses actually reside in another person and
not within one’s body
By projecting unmanageable destructive impulses onto external objects, infants
moderate the unbearable anxiety of being destroyed by dangerous internal forces
Projection allows people to believe that their own subjective opinions are true
3. Splitting
Infants develop a picture of both the “good me” and the “bad me” that enables them to
deal with both pleasurable and destructive impulses toward external objects
4. Projective Identification
By taking the object back into themselves, infants feel that they have become like that
objects, that is, they identify with that object.
Unlike simple projection, which can exist wholly in fantasy, projective identification
exists only in the world of real interpersonal relationships
Internalizations
1. Ego
The ego, of one’s sense of self, reaches maturity at a much earlier stage that
Freud had assumed
Freud hypothesized that the ego exists at birth, he did not attribute complex
psychic functions to it until about the 3rd to 4th year
To Freud, the young child is dominated by the id
Klein largely ignored the id
The ego’s early ability to sense both destructive and loving forces and to
manage them through splitting, projection, and introjection
The ego is mostly unorganized at birth
But strong enough to feel anxiety, to use defense mechanisms, and to form
early object relations in both fantasy and reality
The ego begins to evolve with the infant’s first experience with feeding
- When the good breast fills the infant not only with milk but with love
and security
- the bad breast - the one that is not present or does not give milk, love,
or security
All experiences are evaluated by the ego in terms of how they relate to the
good breast and the bad breast.
When the ego experiences the good breast, it expects similar good
experiences with other objects,
Ex. its own fingers, a pacifier, or the father.
Thus, the infant’s first object relation (the breast) becomes the prototype
not only for the ego’s future development but for the individual’s later
interpersonal relations
2. Superego
Emerges much earlier in life
Not an outgrowth of the Oedipus complex
Harsher & cruel
Produces not quilt but terror
Why so harsh?
Ex. fear of cut up by his/her parents
This dual image of self allows them to manage the good and bad aspects
of external objects.
As infants mature, their perceptions become more realistic
They no longer see the world in terms of partial objects, and their egos
become more integrated
Terror turns into feeling of guilt
This early ego defense lays the foundation for the development of the
superego
Harsh & cruel superego is responsible for many antisocial and criminal
tendencies in adults.
3. Oedipus complex
Begins during the earliest months of life, overlaps with the oral and the
anal stages, reaches its climax during the genital stage (instead of phallic
stage) at around age 3 or 4
Children’s fear of retaliation from their parent for their fantasy of
emptying the parent’s bod
Stressed the importance of children retaining positive feelings toward both
parents during the Oedipal years
During its early stages, the Oedipus complex serves the same need for
both sexes
- Children are capable of both homosexual and heterosexual relations
with both parents
— The little girl’s principal anxiety comes from a fear that the inside of her body has been
injured by her mother, an anxiety that can only be alleviated when she later gives birth
to a healthy baby.
According to Klein, penis envy stems from the little girl’s wish to internalize her
father’s penis and to receive a baby from him.
This fantasy precedes any desire for an external penis contrary to Freud’s view,
Klein could find no evidence that the little girl blames her mother for bringing her
into the world without a penis.
Instead, Klein contended that the girl retains a strong attachment to her mother
throughout the Oedipal period.
For both girls and boys, a healthy resolution of the Oedipus complex depends on
their ability to allow their mother and father to come together and to have sexual
intercourse with each other.
No remnant of rivalry remains. Children’s positive feelings toward both parents
later serve to enhance their adult sexual relations
Psychotherapy
Klein substituted play therapy for Freudian dream analysis and free association,
believing that young children express their conscious and unconscious wishes through
play.
It is to foster negative transference and aggressive fantasies., she provided each child
with a variety of small toys, pencil and paper, paint, crayons , and so forth.
In addition to expressing negative transference feelings through play, Klein’s young
patients often attacked her verbally, which gave her an opportunity to interpret the
unconscious motives behind these attacks.
The aim of Kleinian therapy is to reduce depressive anxieties and persecutory fears and
to mitigate the harshness of internalized objects.
Critique of ORT
Low falsifications,
Low in research
Generates few testable hypothesis
High in organizing information about behavior of infants
Moderate as a guide to the practitioner
Low on the criterion of parsimony
High internal consistency
Concept of Humanity
High on determinism
Both optimistic and pessimistic
High on Causality
High on unconscious determinants of behavior
Social determinants over biological bases
Emphasis on similarities
John Bowlby
Bowlby firmly believed that
the attachments formed during childhood have an important impact on adulthood.
Competitiveness and
Leads to an intensified Causes people to
basic hostility Feelings of isolation
need for attention overvalue love
spawns
3P’s – Power is a defense against the real or imagined hostility of others and takes the
form of a tendency to dominate others; Prestige is a protection against humiliation
and is expressed as a tendency to humiliate others; Possession acts as a buffer against
destitution and poverty and manifests itself as a tendency to deprive others.
Withdrawal – developing an independence from others or by becoming emotionally
detached from them. By psychologically withdrawing, neurotics feel that they cannot
be hurt by other people.
Compulsives Drives
- Neurotic individuals have the same problems that affect normal people, except neurotics
experience them to a greater degree. Everyone uses the various protective devices to
guard against the rejection, hostility, and competitiveness of others; normal individuals
are able to use a variety of defensive maneuvers in a somewhat useful way, neurotics
compulsively repeat the same strategy in an essentially unproductive manner.
Neurotic Needs
10 Categories of Neurotic Needs: Characterize Neurotics in their Attempts to Combat
Basic Anxiety
1. Neurotic need for affection and approval: attempt indiscriminately to please others
(living up to expectations, dread self-assertion & uncomfortable feeling towards
hostility of others and oneself)
2. Neurotic need for a powerful partner: tries to attach themselves to a powerful
partner (lacks self-confidence, overvaluation of love & dread of being alone or
deserted)
3. Neurotic need to restrict one’s life within a narrow border: downgrades their own
abilities and dread making demands on others (strive remaining inconspicuous,
taking second place, & contented with very little.)
4. Neurotic need for power: needs for prestige and possession; control others and to
avoid feelings of weakness or stupidity (power & affection greatest neurotic needs)
5. Neurotic need to exploit others: frequently evaluate others on the basis of how they
can be used or exploited (fears being exploited by others)
6. Neurotic need for social recognition or prestige: combat basic anxiety by trying to
be first, to be important, or to attract attention to themselves
7. Neurotic need for personal admiration: self-esteem must be continually fed by the
admiration and approval of others (need to be admired for what they are rather
than for what they possess)
8. Neurotic need for ambition and personal achievement: strong drive to be the best
()must defeat other people in order to confirm their superiority
9. Neurotic need for self-sufficiency and independence: strong need to move away
from people, thereby proving that they can get along without others.
10. Neurotic need for perfection and unassailability: striving relentlessly for
perfection, neurotics receive “proof” of their self-esteem and personal superiority.
(dread making mistakes and having personal flaws, and they desperately attempt to
hide their weaknesses from others)
Neurotic Trends
- Three basic attitudes towards self and others: (1) moving toward people, (2) moving
against people, and (3) moving away from people.
*basic conflict - very young children are driven in all three directions—toward, against,
and away from people.
Intrapsychic Conflicts
- Intrapsychic processes originate from interpersonal experiences; but as they become part of
a person’s belief system, they develop a life of their own—an existence separate from the
interpersonal conflicts that gave them life.
The Idealized Self-Image
- An attempt to solve conflicts by painting a godlike picture of oneself; As the idealized
self-image becomes solidified, neurotics begin to believe in the reality of that image.
They lose touch with their real self and use the idealized self as the standard for self-
evaluation.
*sense of identity - alienated from themselves, people creates an idealized self-image, an
extravagantly positive view of themselves that exists only in their personal belief system.
Drive toward a Vindictive Triumph - most destructive element of all; drive for
achievement or success (aim is to put others to shame or defeat them through
one’s very success; or to attain the power to inflict suffering on them—mostly
of a humiliating kind)
Neurotic Claims
- Believing that something is wrong with the outside world, they proclaim that
they are special and therefore entitled to be treated in accordance with their
idealized view of themselves.
Neurotic Pride
- A false pride based not on a realistic view of the true self but on a spurious
image of the idealized self. (imagine themselves to be glorious, wonderful, and
perfect, so when others fail to treat them with special consideration, their
neurotic pride is hurt)
Self-Hatred
- The realization that their real self does not match the insatiable demands of their idealized
self, they will begin to hate and despise themselves.
- Six Major Ways How People Express Self-Hatred:
Relentless Demands on the Self –
push themselves toward perfection
because they believe they should be
perfect
Merciless Self-Accusation –
constantly berate themselves