Making Change in Our Lives

A Workbook by Sheila A. McBeath

Original artwork by the author

1st Edition, December 2018

Revised, January 1, 2024

Printing note: All pages are letter sized 8.5” x 11” (22cm x 28cm)

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Table of contents
Dedication xii

Preface xiii

Introduction xiv

Section 1 Spiritual self-awareness 1

Does it really matter what we think? 1
What are 'thoughts' anyways? 1
Steps in becoming spiritually self-aware 3
Spiritual decluttering (cleaning up our thoughts) 3
Next steps 5
Self-test 5

Section 2 Changing our automatic responses 6

Automatic responses 6
Build a relationship with your inner child 6
Build a relationship with your Guide 6
The process of inner child work 7
About belief systems 9
Next step 9
Self-test 9

Section 3 A new form of meditation 10

Going home means getting centred 10
How to Go Home (meditate) 12
Next steps 15
Self-test 15

Section 4 Meditation and communication 16

Section 4.1 Communication ground rules 17

Meditation and dreams 17
How the guides communicate with us 17
How can I be sure I'm receiving Universal Truth? 19
Stumbling blocks 19
Ask questions 20
Sample questions 20
Be alert 21
Meditation and the fine art of asking questions 21
Next steps 22
Self-test 22

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Section 4.2 Spiritual meaning of colours 23
Quality of the colour 23

Section 4.3 Spiritual meaning of numbers 24

Suggested interpretations for the numbers 24

Section 4.4 Spiritual meaning of symbols 28

Suggested interpretations 28

Section 5 Spiritual component of physical conditions and/or anatomical parts 35

Abdomen 35
Ability to learn 35
Absenteeism / Tardiness (behaviour) 36
Accident proneness 36
Addiction 37
Adenoids 38
Adenovirus infections 94
Adrenal glands 38
Alexithymia 40
Allergens 40
Allergic reactions 41
Amputation 42
Ambiguous genitalia 42
Amyloidosis 42
Andropause 42
Aneurysm 42
Ankles 42
Anniversary illnesses 43
Armpits 43
Arms 43
Arthritis (or osteoarthritis) 44
Autism spectrum disorder 45
Back 45
Beckwith Wiedemann syndrome 45
Bile ducts 46
Birth abnormalities and genetic disorders 46
Birthmarks 46
Bladder 47
Blood 48
Blood clots 49
Blood pressure 51
Blood vessels 51
Body odour 52
Bone marrow 52
Bones 52

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 Bowel 53
Brain 54
Breast 59
Broken bones 60
Bruises 62
Burns and fires 63
Bursitis 63
Cancer 63
Cannabinoid hyperemesis syndrome 66
Cartilage 67
Cecum 67
Cell phone addiction 67
Cellulitis 68
Cerebral palsy 68
Cervix 68
Cheeks 68
Chickenpox 68
Chin 68
Chronic disease 69
Chronic fatigue syndrome 69
Clothing choices 69
Collar bone (clavicle) 70
Colon 70
Common cold 71
Craving 71
Cysts, lumps and bumps 71
Dawdling (behaviour) 72
Diabetes 72
Digestion 73
Diphtheria 76
Dizziness - Vertigo 76
Dry 76
Dysautonomia 77
Ears and hearing 77
Eating disorders 79
Eating open-mouthed 80
Elbows 81
Endometriosis 81
Endometritis 81
Epstein-Barr virus 81
Essential familial tremor 81
Eyes and vision 82
Face 85
Fascia 86
Feet 87
Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders (FASDs) 89

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 Fever 90
Fibromyalgia 90
Fingers 90
Flu - Influenza 91
Fungus 92
Gallbladder 93
Gangrene 94
Glands 94
Gonads 94
Groin 95
Guillain-Barré syndrome 96
Gums 96
Hair 96
Hands 97
Handwriting 98
Hangover 98
Headache 98
Heart 99
Hernia 101
Herpes simplex virus (HSV) 102
Hips 102
Hoarding 103
Hormones 103
Human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) 104
Hypochondria 104
Hypothalamus 104
I don't feel like it syndrome 104
Immune system 104
Impotence 106
Incontinentia pigmenti 106
Infection 106
Infertility 107
Inflammation 108
Insect stings or bites 108
Jaw 108
Joints 109
Kidneys 110
Knees 111
Knuckles 112
Lacrimal glands 113
Lactose (or food) intolerance 113
Laziness (behaviour) 114
Legs 114
Ligaments 114
Lipoma 114
Lips 115

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 Liver 116
Losing one's belongings (behaviour) 116
Lungs 116
Lupus 118
Lying 118
Lymphatic system 118
Lymphatic vessels 119
Lymph nodes 119
Mammary glands 119
Marfan syndrome 119
Me too syndrome 119
Measles 120
Medical or dental procedures including surgery 120
Memory 120
Menstrual cycle 121
Mental illness 123
MTHFR variant (methylenetetrahydrofolate reductase) 128
Migraine headache 128
Miscarriage 128
Mitochondria 129
Money problems 129
Mononucleosis 130
Motor Neuron Diseases 130
Mouth 131
Movement disorders 132
Mucous membranes 132
Multiple Sclerosis 132
Mumps 132
Munchausen’s Syndrome by Proxy 132
Muscles 133
Muscular dystrophy 134
Nails 134
Neck 136
Nervous system 137
Neurotransmitters 138
Nocebo effect 139
Nose 139
Osteonecrosis 141
Pain 141
Pancreas 143
Parasites 144
Parkinson’s disease 144
Pelvis 144
Penis 145
Persistent genital arousal disorder 145
Physical body 145

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 Pineal gland 146
Pins and needles 146
Pituitary gland 146
Platelets 147
Polio 147
Polyps 148
Porphyria (intermittent acute) 148
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) 148
Posture 149
Powassan virus 149
Pregnancy 149
Proctalgia fugax (variant of levator ani syndrome) 150
Prostate 150
Psoriasis 151
Radiation poisoning 151
Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy (RSD) / or Complex Regional Pain Syndrome (CRPS) 151
Respiratory infections 152
Ribs 152
Salivary glands 152
Scarlet fever 153
Sciatica 153
Scleroderma 153
Seasonal affective disorder 153
Sebaceous glands 153
Seizure 153
Self-mutilation 154
Sepsis 154
Sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s) 154
Shoulders 154
Side effects 155
Signals 155
Sinus cavities 158
Skeleton 158
Skin 158
Skull 165
Sleep 166
Sleep positions 167
Somatic (or psychosomatic) symptom disorder 167
Speech 168
Spinal column 170
Spleen 171
Stage fright 172
Sternum (breastbone) 172
Stomach 172
Sudden death syndrome 173
Suicide ideation 173

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 Sweat glands 174
Teeth 174
Tendons 177
Thighs 178
Throat 178
Thymus gland 179
Thyroid 179
Toes 180
Tongue 181
Tonsils 182
Ulcers 182
Urine 182
Uterus 183
Vagina 184
Vasovagal syncope (Fainting) 185
Vertebrae 185
Viral hemorrhagic fevers (VHF's) 187
Walk (gait) 187
Wrists 188
Yawning 189
Yeast infection 189
Zoonotic diseases 189
Do you suffer from ... ? 191

Section 6 Spiritual glossary of Terms and their spiritual aspect 193

Abandonment (thought, attitude, emotion, behaviour) 193
Anger (thought, emotion) 194
Anxiety (thought, emotion) 195
Arrogance (thought, attitude) 195
At least I... (thought, attitude) 195
Attribution bias (thought, attitude) 196
Authority figure 196
Avoidance (thought, behaviour) 196
Basic spiritual needs 197
Belief system 197
Blame (thought, attitude, emotion) 197
Bullying (thought, attitude, behaviour) 198
Child abuse (thought, behaviour) 198
Co-dependent relationship (thought, behaviour) 199
Compassion (thought, attitude, emotion) 199
Complacency (thought, attitude) 200
Condemnation (thought, attitude, emotion) 200
Confirmation bias (thought, attitude) 200
Contempt (thought, attitude) 200
Control (thought, attitude, behaviour) 201
Criticism (thought, attitude) 201

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 Defiance (thought, attitude) 202
Déjà vu (thought, emotion) 202
Denial (thought, behaviour) 202
Despair (thought, emotion) 202
Distress (thought, emotion) 203
Distrust (thought, attitude, emotion) 203
Double standard (thought, attitude) 203
Dread (thought, emotion) 203
Echo chamber (thought, attitude) 204
Ego (thought, attitude) 204
Embarrassment (thought, emotion) 204
Envy (thought, attitude, emotion) 204
Evil (thought, attitude, emotion, behaviour) 205
Faith (thought, attitude) 205
Fake news (thought, behaviour) 205
Fear (thought, emotion) 205
Fear of abandonment (thought, emotion, belief) 206
Fear of change (thought, emotion) 206
Fear of commitment (thought, emotion) 207
Fear of confrontation (thought, emotion) 207
Fear of contamination and/or disease (thought, emotion, belief) 207
Fear of death and dying (thought, emotion) 207
Fear of failure or of success (thought, emotion) 208
Fear of intimacy (thought, emotion) 208
Fear of invasion (thought, emotion) 208
Fear of looking stupid (thought, attitude, emotion) 208
Fear of negative energies (thought, attitude, emotion) 209
Fear of retribution (thought, emotion) 209
Fear of telling the truth (thought, emotion) 209
Fear of the unknown (thought, emotion) 209
Feedback loop (thought, behaviour) 209
Finally (thought, attitude) 209
Flat tire (experience) 210
Forbearance (thought, attitude, behaviour) 210
Forgiveness (thought, attitude, emotion, behaviour) 210
Free will 210
Gossip (thought, attitude, behaviour) 211
Grace (thought, attitude, behaviour) 211
Gratitude (thought, attitude) 211
Greed (thought, attitude, behaviour) 212
Grief (thought, emotion) 213
Guide/Angel/Teacher 213
Guilt (thought, attitude, emotion, behaviour) 214
Guilt trips (thought, behaviour) 214
Hatred (thought, attitude, emotion) 214
Honesty (thought, attitude) 214

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 Humility (thought, attitude) 215
Hyper vigilance (thought, attitude) 216
Hypocrisy (thought, attitude) 216
Ignorance (thought, attitude) 216
Inner conflict (thought) 216
Insolence (thought, attitude) 217
Isolation (thought, behaviour) 217
Jealousy (thought, attitude, emotion) 217
Joy (emotion) 218
Judgment (thought, attitude) 218
Manipulation (thought, attitude, behaviour) 218
Martyrdom (thought, attitude) 219
Meditation (thought, behaviour) 219
Mercy (thought, attitude) 219
Misandry (thought, attitude) 220
Misanthropy (thought, attitude) 220
Misogyny (thought, attitude, emotion, belief) 220
Obedience (thought, attitude) 220
Observation mode (thought, attitude, behaviour) 220
Optimism (thought, attitude) 221
Overview effect 221
Patience (thought, attitude) 221
Peace (thought, attitude, emotion, behaviour) 221
Perfectionism (thought, attitude, behaviour) 222
Pessimism (thought, attitude) 222
Petulance (thought, attitude) 223
Phobia (thought, attitude, emotion, behaviour) 223
Prayer (thought, attitude) 223
Prejudice 223
Pride 224
Procrastination (thought, attitude) 224
Quantum entanglement 224
Rage 224
Rejection (thought, behaviour) 224
Repression (thought) 225
Resentment (thought, attitude, emotion) 225
Respect (thought, attitude) 225
Restorative justice (thought, attitude, behaviour) 225
Revenge (thought, attitude, emotion, behaviour) 226
Sacrifice (thought, attitude) 226
Sarcasm (thought, attitude, behaviour) 226
Scorn (thought, attitude) 226
Seeking of Truth and Understanding (thought, attitude) 227
Self-aggrandizement (thought, attitude, behaviour) 227
Self-esteem (thought, attitude) 227
Self-importance (thought, attitude) 228

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 Self-interest (thought, attitude) 228
Self-righteousness (thought, attitude) 228
Shame (thought, emotion) 228
Should (thought, attitude) 229
Silent rebellion (thought, attitude, emotion) 229
Sniping 230
Soul mate 230
Spiritual self-awareness (thought) 230
Spite (thought, attitude, behaviour) 230
Status quo bias (thought, attitude) 230
Stress (thought, attitude, emotion) 231
Suppression (thought, thought) 231
Survivor's Guilt (thought, attitude, emotion) 231
Temper tantrum (behaviour) 232
Tolerance (thought, attitude, behaviour) 232
Toxic relationship 232
Traumatic events 233
Trust (thought, attitude) 233
Unconditional love 233
Universal intelligence 234
Universal truth 234
Vibrational frequency 234
Victim (thought, attitude) 234
War (thought, attitude, behaviour) 235
Worry (thought, attitude) 235

Section 7 Frequently asked spiritual questions 237

The questions 237
The answers 239

Section 8 Spiritual questionnaire 274

Part 1 – Childhood 275
Part 2 - Education and Employment 278
Part 3 - Family 281
Part 4 - Marital status 285
Part 5 – General 289

Section 9 Spiritual exercises 295

Apologizing 295
Guilt-buster 296
Forgiveness 297
Grieving 300
How to raise self-esteem 302
How to stop sniping 303
How to build tolerance 304

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 How to stop worrying 305

Section 10 External resources 307

Section 11 The path 310

What are the planes of existence? 310
Who we are 324

Section 12 Passages 336

Appendix A Self-test Questions and Answers 350

Appendix B The chakras and their traits 352

Appendix B The chakras and their traits 353

Appendix B The chakras and their traits 354

Appendix C Spiritual Word Search Puzzle 355

Appendix D Spiritual Bingo Card - 01 356

Appendix E Spiritual Bingo Card - 02 357

Appendix F The dimensions, chakras and cusps 358

Illustrations 359

About 361
Copyright 361
ISBN 361
Fees 361
Terms of use 361
Mission statement 361
Vision 361
Contact 361

About the author 362

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Dedication
To the Universal Intelligence, for everything.

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Preface
Figure 1 Ripples

In the sea of humanity, our thoughts, words and deeds create

ripples of energy that eventually touch others. Our thoughts,
attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires can be kind or cruel. If
we are ever to gain world peace though, we will need to vastly
increase acts of kindness and vastly reduce acts of cruelty. We
cannot achieve such profound change unless, and until, we
change our negative thoughts.

Simply denying that we have negative thoughts serves no

purpose other than to excuse ourselves from making changes; likewise blaming others for our negative
thoughts. Until we acknowledge that we have them, we are powerless to change.

This workbook presents the process by which I changed my thought patterns, and by which you can
change yours. Anyone can do it, who will think about themselves, and about humanity, in a new way.
We are not merely children of our earthly parents; we are spiritual beings at our core. We are children
of the Universal Intelligence.

The process has nothing to do with religion, and everything to do with this key fact: We are not alone
on our journey; we are each accompanied by a spiritual guide. In any given moment, our guide is but a
question away. Knowing who we are at our core, and knowing that we are not alone on our journey,
form the very foundation of the work herein.

Since our thoughts create our reality, it only makes sense that changing our thoughts will change our
reality. Learn to work with your guide to change the thought patterns that create injury, illness and
unhappiness. The guides help us to find the truth of the issues that keep us stuck in the past, and to
heal those injured parts of our lives.

Similar to light, thoughts behave as both waves and particles. Anyone who has experienced depression
knows that the wave effect is very real. As each depressive thought occurs, we feel the advancing
anguish and await its departure so that we can 'feel better' again. Likewise, we know that thoughts are
particles... we actually feel them physically and have a name for them... "emotions/feelings'. Negative
thoughts vibrate at a lower frequency than positive thoughts. Anyone who has had angry thoughts or
experienced something pleasurable knows the difference, and has felt the difference, between anger
and delight.

Know this: In any moment of any day or night, we can choose to communicate with our guide and start
making ours the best reality possible.

Sheila McBeath / July, 2023

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Introduction
Our thoughts drive our every action or inaction; they determine the course of our lives. Paying
attention to our thoughts enables us to start changing them. If we fail to pay attention to our thoughts
(our spiritual diet), we risk becoming a victim of them.

When we leave this life, we take with us only our thoughts.

Figure 2 Components of our spiritual diet

The immense power of thought

cannot be overstated. Nothing exists
in physical without first having
existed in thought. Everything we see
around us would not - could not -
exist, had Intelligence not thought of
a plan to bring it into existence. The thoughts we "feed" ourselves (our spiritual nutrition) are every bit
as important as the nutrients we eat and drink (our physical nutrition). A steady spiritual diet of fear,
anger, worry or guilt is much like a steady physical diet of potato chips, candy and soda pop. Now here
is the good news. We are not powerless victims. Since we choose our spiritual diet, albeit unwittingly,
and since our spiritual nutrition creates our reality, we have the power to change our reality.
Figure 3 Thought manifesting in matter produces physical life

This personal development workbook

teaches how to change a poor spiritual
diet into one that is rich in positive
thoughts, attitudes and emotions. The
process will change your life, just as
much as you decide. Even if you only
resolve one inner conflict though,
your life will improve. Of course we all
have many inner conflicts, so the
more issues you are able to resolve, the more likely you will be to open to your soul’s full potential.

Similar to light, thoughts behave as both waves and particles. Anyone who has experienced depression
knows that the wave effect is very real. As each depressive thought occurs, we feel the advancing
anguish and await its departure so that we can 'feel better' again. Likewise, we know that thoughts are
particles... we actually feel them physically and have a name for them... "emotions/feelings'.

Negative thoughts vibrate at a lower frequency than positive thoughts. Anyone who has had angry
thoughts or experienced something pleasurable knows the difference, and has felt the difference,
between anger and delight.

After inner conflicts are resolved and negative patterns remodeled, you may find yourself wondering,
“What more is there to do? Is this all there is?” Indeed, there is more. Section 11 provides information
about continuing forward on your path of spiritual awakening.

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Section 1 Spiritual self-awareness
Food for thought | To truly change self requires changing our thoughts.

Does it really matter what we think?

Yes, yes it does. Nothing exists in physical without first having existed in thought. Thought drives our
every action or inaction. The state of humanity is what it is today because of our thoughts, whether
positive and negative. If we are ever to solve the problems we face, we must first change ourselves; we
cannot change ourselves unless and until we change our own thoughts. We must stop blaming others
(the devil, the moon, other people, circumstances, etc.) for our problems and start accepting our
power.
Figure 4 We all think, all the time
Our thoughts drive our every action or inaction, and they
determine the course of our lives. Paying attention to our
thoughts, attitudes and emotions, and learning about our belief
systems and desires enables us to start changing them.
We all think, all the time.

What are 'thoughts' anyways?

Our thoughts express our spiritual reactions to whatever is going on within us and around us. Thought
patterns start forming as soon as soon as a soul settles into its human form. The Universal Intelligence
hears every single one of our thoughts, and knows the pattern each thought expresses. For example,
thinking something as simple as, "At least I'm not like that person" expresses an attitude of self-
righteousness. Our guide flags this as a lesson to be learned, and future experiences will provide us
with opportunities to learn humility. Our spiritual reactions are expressed in the following ways:
Thoughts are ideas formed into language using words, images or symbols. Our thoughts produce the
attitudes, emotions, beliefs, desires and behaviours that we all have.
Attitudes arise from our thoughts and belief systems.
Emotions arise from our thoughts and attitudes, albeit at lightning fast speed. It can seem as though
we first feel an emotion and then have a thought, but this is not so.
Belief systems are stories we use to justify our attitudes, emotions, desires and behaviours.
Desires result from our thoughts, attitudes, emotions and beliefs.
We behave in the ways we do as a result of our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires.
This may be hard to believe, but we hardly hear even one tenth of our thoughts. The simple exercise
below will help to dip your toe into the deep waters of your thoughts.

What do you think?

Review the following self-assessment list, noting any pattern that applies to you. If three or more
apply, then your spiritual diet may be placing your physical health at risk:

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 o I want/need everyone to like me
o I pretend to be happy but I really am not / I cry easily but I’m not sure why
o I blame others if things do not go my way
o I give up if things do not work right the first time
o I am always in pain
o I have a hard time falling asleep and it is even harder to get up in the morning
o I fall asleep fast but wake up after a couple of hours and cannot get back to sleep
o I hate me and I hate my life and I’m pretty sure that God hates me too

Now this is the starting point, the doorway into learning how our thoughts affect our lives. Behind each
statement, there is a story. Take for example the first: “I want/need everyone to like me”. In order to
change our thought patterns, we must bring into conscious focus the backstory. How many times did
we go without love, or compassion, or understanding or encouragement, when we most needed it,
from the person from whom we most needed it? What conclusions did we reach as we came to realize
that we were not loved, not respected, and maybe even invisible? We may have thought “Nobody likes
me.” Or “I’m unlovable.” We may also have thought that well, since I was treated this way, it is all right
for me to treat others the same way. We may have taken out our pain on a younger sibling, or a pet.
We may have manifested eating disorders or self-harming behaviours. We may also have reacted in
the opposite way by deciding, “When I grow up, I’ll never treat anyone this way.” Or “When I grow up,
I’m going to help people.”

Negative thoughts? Who, me?

Before we can change our negative thoughts, we must acknowledge that we

have them. If humanity is ever to take its next evolutionary leap forward, we
must first change ourselves; we cannot change ourselves unless until we change
our thoughts.
Note: If you want to change negative thought patterns but do not know which
ones you might have, or if you do not think you have any, look up the physical
conditions you have to see the thought patterns that can enable them.
When I first started walking this spiritual path, I was preparing to go out to meet
a friend. As I stood in front of the mirror to put on some makeup, I suddenly
“Everyone thinks of
changing the world,
began to hear my thoughts. I could not believe my vicious, mean, cruel comments!
but no one thinks of If someone else had said these things to me, I would be furious, and oh so hurt.
changing himself.” Somehow I knew I had been repeating these thoughts for years, even though they did
Leo Tolstoy
not really register. Actually paying attention to them brought them into my
consciousness, and this new awareness enabled me to start changing them. Until I knew they were a part of
me though, I was powerless.

A healthy spiritual diet enables us to feel joy, love and optimism, and to be kind, generous, patient and
tolerant - not only with others, but with ourselves. Spiritual malnutrition occurs with chronic
negativity, and I was suffering from it. That day I felt just how badly my nearly constant stream of fear,
anger, worry, guilt and resentment were hurting me. My spiritual diet was preventing me from living
well. A poor spiritual diet can also create many of life's negative life experiences such as addictions,
chronic pain and diseases, co-dependent relationships, repeated failures and feeling like a victim.

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It is all too easy to deny that we have negative thoughts, but it is seldom our intention to have them.
They just seem to happen, almost like a reflex. (Just try watching television for two minutes without
judging or criticising someone.) It is not that we are bad for having negative thoughts; rather, it is up to
us to recognize and change them. Our thoughts, positive or negative, are the great equalizer. We all
have them - no matter who we are, or where we live, or what we do for a living. Our thoughts drive our
every action or inaction, so if humanity is ever to take its next evolutionary leap, we must first change
ourselves; we cannot change ourselves unless and until we change our thoughts. If we fail to pay
attention to our negative thoughts, we can end up feeling like a victim of life. Here are some common
phrases and the negative thought pattern they express:
Table 1 This phrase...is this thought pattern

This phrase... ...is this thought pattern

I’m mad at you so I’m not talking to you Abandonment
It’s ok if I break the rules. Rules are for everybody else Arrogance
I don’t want or need this, but I’m keeping it anyway Greed
It’s good, except... Criticism
It has to be done this way, my way, the right way Perfectionism
I hate you and I will never forgive you Resentment
I will make you pay for hurting me Revenge

Steps in becoming spiritually self-aware

Figure 5 Steps in becoming spiritually aware

In large part, we are who we are because of our reactions to, or our thoughts about, our early
childhood experiences. Paying attention to our thoughts and acknowledging that we, ourselves, really
do have negative thoughts enables us to change them. Resolving the inner conflicts resulting from our
experiences is done through introspection and meditation. Resolution brings inner peace. Being at
peace frees us to make wiser choices about our lives, enabling profound change. That’s it. That’s the
process.

Spiritual decluttering (cleaning up our thoughts)

Spiritual decluttering means resolving inner conflicts, refining our understanding of our thought
patterns, and finally, reducing our thoughts. Doing so enables us to feel better by healing illness, to pay
better attention to ourselves, and to better hear our guide.

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 Figure 6 Spiritual decluttering
Resolve inner conflicts
Inner conflicts keep us stuck. They create negative
behavioural patterns and generally prevent us from living
well. Such conflicts result from having core beliefs that are
not based in truth. We cling to the beliefs that formed in our
childhood. We may have been taught them by our authority
figures, or we may have developed them on our own in the
absence of input from our caregivers. Once we have them
though, changing them can seem next to impossible.
Let’s say a child suffers abuse by a sibling. The child tells
their caregiver that the sibling "hates me" but the caregiver
says, "Don't be ridiculous. Your sibling loves you." The child
knows this to be false, yet feels compelled to believe the caregiver. An inner conflict results and a
belief system forms that says "Love hurts" / "I am not worthy" / “My feelings cannot be trusted”. The
child grows up craving loving relationships yet is continually drawn to abusive people. The conflict
resolves upon accepting a newer truth - Universal Truth - through communicating with your guide. The
new Truth says, “I can trust my feelings. I can trust myself.”
In fact, sibling abuse does not arise out of ‘love’. Abusive behaviour arises from fear, anger, resentment
and other negative thoughts; these are issues for those with abusive behaviour to address in order to
heal their lives. Of course parents do not think that any of their children could harm a sibling, so the
child is taught to believe that their sibling is just playing, or that she or he is not actually trying to harm
them. The child knows better, but learns instead to not trust her or himself. Resolving inner conflicts is
also known as inner child work.

Refine your thoughts

Refining your thoughts means understanding at ever-deeper levels just what a particular thought
pattern sounds like, so that it can be gradually reduced and maybe even eliminated. For example,
judgment can take many forms:
o You see someone eating. Based on the time of day, you 'decide' that they are obviously eating
their breakfast. There are other options though. The person may have worked a late shift and this
is supper for them. The person may have a disease that requires them to eat several times per
day, and this may be their third, fourth or even fifth meal of the day so far. The fact is that we
cannot possibly know, unless we ask them directly. To assume that we know is judgment.
o You look at this same person and decide that they should not be eating because they are
overweight, or that they should be eating more because they are too thin. To assume that we
know what their diet should be; to assume that we know what their correct weight should be, to
assume that we know what is best for them is to assume that we know which spiritual lessons are
being presented for them in this particular lifetime. These are all matters of judgment.
o You look at this same person and decide, based solely on their physical appearance, that they are
not worthy of your respect, or of enjoying life, or of receiving God's unconditional love. Now
suppose that the person you just judged is yourself. Do you think that your words do not impair
your self-esteem?

How many times in a day do you make such judgments? You might be surprised. Negative thoughts like
judgment, criticism and condemnation are refined by paying attention to the physical signals that your
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guide gives you, and by gaining understanding of the signals in meditation. What we consider to be
judgment and what our guides consider to be judgment can be quite different, and that is the reason
that signals are given. They remind us to pay attention to our thoughts and ask questions to
understand the signal.

Reduce your thoughts

Have you any idea how much time we spend worrying about things over which we have utterly no
control? Or how often we rehash past events, searching, wishing somehow for a different outcome?
Decluttering enables us to gradually reduce the number of thoughts we have. The fewer thoughts we
have, the more we are able to simply be in observation mode and achieve the overview effect.
Food for thought | Believing that we do not need to change limits our capacity for change.

Next steps
Spiritual decluttering is achieved by following the next steps:
o learning how to change our automatic responses (Section 2) and
o learning to meditate in a new way (Section 3).
Together, these actions bring resolution of inner child issues and stable self-esteem. Our lives gain new
meaning and our spiritual self-awareness increases. Through this process, pain from the past seems to
magically disappear, not because we are ignoring it or medicating it, but because we are truly dealing
with it.

Self-test
Click here for the answers
1. What are the five components of our spiritual diet?
2. What are the steps in becoming spiritually self-aware?
3. What thoughts, attitudes and/or emotions are expressed by the following statements:
o At least I'm not like that person
o I'm mad at you so I'm not talking to you
o It's ok if I break the rules. Rules are for everybody else
o I don't want or need this, but I'm keeping it anyway
o It's good, except ...
o It has to be done this way, my way, the right way
o I hate you and I will never forgive you
o I will make you pay for hurting me
4. Define each of the following:
o Thoughts
o Attitudes
o Emotions
o Beliefs
o Desires

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Section 2 Changing our automatic responses
Food for thought | Doing this work enables true ‘freedom of thought’ because we stop
repeating the thoughts that create negative life patterns, enabling us to focus on the
present.

Automatic responses
Knee-jerk reactions
The key to changing our automatic responses to our daily life experiences is to
discover our reasons for choosing to respond the way we do. Those reasons can
be found deep within our childhood memories and require focused effort to
reveal. Inner child work is the practice of recovering these memories and
resolving the issues they created. This initiates the spiritual decluttering
process. Begin by building a relationship with your inner child, and then with
your guide. See Section 8 if you need help to recall details about your childhood.

Order from chaos

When our thoughts are filled with negativity (chaos), it can be challenging to
find inner peace and calm (order). When something is worrying or angering us,
it can be almost impossible to stop thinking about it. The thought keeps endlessly repeating and after a
while, we may not even hear it anymore - but it is still repeating. Without resolution, these often-
repeated thoughts create accidents, illness, insomnia and even to a state of chronic confusion for us by
lowering our vibrational frequency and keeping us stuck in feedback loops, to say nothing of creating
karmic situations.
Figure 7 Chaotic thoughts, attitudes and emotions

Resolving our inner conflicts frees our conscious mind to dwell in

the current moment. We can focus on the matter at hand and
this improves our memory, our ability to concentrate, and our
ability to solve problems.

Build a relationship with your inner child

Start doing things to support and honour yourself and to encourage self-expression. Do the things that
you loved to do (or wished you could do) as a child: drawing, colouring, finger-painting, running,
playing skip-rope or hopscotch, hula-hooping, writing in a diary, or whatever gave you comfort and/or
joy. Use your imagination. These activities will help your inner child to feel acknowledged, respected,
safe and secure. Aim to do this at least once or twice per each week, even if only for 30 minutes or an
hour. Whatever you do, try to memorialize your thoughts and experiences by journaling.

Build a relationship with your Guide

We are accompanied in life by our guide/teaching angel who is a messenger of God; a divine
representative. The guides are the bridge connecting us with the Universal Intelligence. Nothing
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escapes their notice. Nothing in our experience is ignored or overlooked. Our thoughts are every bit as
audible to our guide as the spoken word is to us. In fact, our entire life experience is recorded in our
Akashic record.
Figure 8 The process of inner child work
Learning to communicate
consciously with our guide, by
asking questions and, just as
importantly, by listening for
answers, opens the door to
finding the root causes of our
negative behaviours. Armed
with this knowledge, we
become able to resolve the
difficulties in our lives and
begin to meet our soul’s
purpose.

The process of inner child work

Identify a negative behaviour
The first step is to identify a negative behaviour that causes problems for us. Could be addictions,
chronic lateness, verbal sniping, withholding communication as a punishment, pathological lying,
feeling like a victim, or any pattern that you wish you could change.

This can be challenging, since we can tend to feel fully justified in doing whatever we are doing. Until
we accept that we are not perfect; that we do things that hurt ourselves and others; and that our
motives may not always be pure, we remain unable to change. Learning the root cause of negative
behaviours can also be challenging since our childhood memories are not always complete or accurate.
This is where our guide can help.

Learn its root cause

The second step is to recall the traumatic event that caused us to react in such a way as to create a
negative life pattern. This can be challenging if we dismiss an event simply because it was not
necessarily traumatic in the clinical sense, or if we believe that traumatic events from early childhood
cannot be recalled. Ask your guide to show you the event while in a meditative state, and then pay
attention to your thoughts. Use the spiritual questionnaire in Section 8 to reveal possible areas of
concern.

Recall the thoughts, attitudes and emotions that you felt when it happened. Recall your thought, your
decision that said, "I am going to (fill in the blank)". This could be something as seemingly simple as “I
am never going to cry again” or as complex as “I am not worthy of respect or love” or “I am bad”. This
conclusion is the root cause that continues to create negativity in your life because it was made
without understanding. Unresolved experiences tend to replay in our thoughts as we continually try to
figure out why they happened. We get triggered whenever we are reminded either of the event, or of
the conclusion we drew from it. Inner child work enables us to learn our motivations and validates our
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painful experiences. It also helps us to see that we were not solely responsible for their occurrence
because after all, as children, we are simply not responsible.

Work with your guide to gain full understanding about why the event happened, why you reacted in
the way that you did, and why you continue doing the behaviour. As adults, we can look at our
childhood experiences and find understanding that is not possible for young children. This is not to
place blame, but to accept responsibility for our part and to recognize that, as children, we were not
solely responsible for their occurrence.

Grieve the losses it has caused

The third step is to feel the emotions and think the thoughts that could not be expressed as a child.
Grieve the losses that were felt, and say the angry thoughts out loud, if possible. Cry, cry, cry. Let it all
out, as scary as that may sound, for crying is an important part of the physical (and spiritual) healing
process. Unresolved, repressed or suppressed issues create harmful toxins in the body and crying
provides an escape route for them. Acknowledge the pain that made us choose to react the way we
did, without understating its importance.

These events were important, for they have made us who we are today. It does not matter whether
anyone else thinks that our experiences were easier or worse than theirs. What is important is that
they happened to us, they hurt us, they were traumatic for us. All our experiences have helped to
create all the thoughts, attitudes and emotions, beliefs and inner conflicts that we have now, that are
creating our negative behaviours.

Forgive
The fourth step is to forgive, both self and others. This is a crucial action. Without forgiveness, we
remain stuck in the past, constantly replaying unresolved experiences in our thoughts, hoping that
somehow we will be able to figure out why they happened, or that we will be able to magically
transcend the experience just by remembering it.

Achieve peace
The final step is to appreciate the peace that comes from resolving an issue. Revel in it, and use the
satisfaction as a reason to keep on working on yourself. Then it will be time to identify another
negative behaviour and repeat the process.

Doing this self-work changes the ways in which we interact with others, and our family and friends may
be less than enthusiastic when uninvited change is thrust upon them. However, do not wait for
anyone’s permission or approval before starting this work. This is your life; this is your choice; only you
may decide what is right for you.

Identify another negative behaviour

Identify another negative behaviour and repeat the process. After all, we all have more than one bad
habit. The reasons for our behaviours are multiple and intertwined, so there is always more
understanding to be gained. Keep working toward inner peace and enlightenment.
Food for thought | Not doing this self-work puts us at risk for developing many chronic
diseases. Science is now proving that traumatic childhood experiences impact our health in
adulthood - check out this TED Talks presentation by Dr. Nadine Burke-Harris.

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Additionally, check out this SciTechDaily.com article: Strict Parenting May Hardwire Depression Into a
Child’s DNA (scitechdaily.com)

About belief systems

Our core belief systems are incredibly powerful. Our self-esteem depends on them; they determine
how we interpret and experience life. We begin forming them in childhood and our innate
confirmation bias ensures that we continue to find them to be true.
Inner child work roots out negative or inaccurate beliefs (and thoughts, attitudes and emotions) and
reveals the Universal Truth about them, rather than what we have come to accept as truth. Looking
back on our childhood as adults, we can recall the thoughts we had as young children and find
validation. Here is an example of what can happen if inner conflicts are left unresolved:
While a young child, my friend’s parents separated. Her father moved both Kim and her brother to a new
home in the stealth of darkness, unbeknownst to their mother. It was a traumatic experience for all, but
Kim suffered enormous guilt. Why guilt? She believed - really believed - that she had caused all of this
turmoil. As a result, she grew up feeling responsible for her brother and father, as well as for looking after
their home. She was only eight years old! She lost many of her favourite items in the move as she had no
control over which of her belongings came with her. No surprise then, that hoarding became her security
blanket. Kim hoarded not only physical items but emotional and spiritual anguish. “Victim” became her
identity, and she used this as her reason for underperforming. She died of breast cancer while in her 50’s,
unwilling and seemingly unable to let go of her pain, or of her belief that she was "bad".

Many of the experiences we have as children are written off by our caregivers as being unimportant, or
even worse, the Truth of the experiences becomes wrapped in their denial. We can end up believing
that we are wrong or crazy or just plain bad (the source of many of our issues), so we must validate
ourselves. Finding Universal Truth through meditation enables us to become strong and confident by
ensuring that our beliefs are based in Truth, rather than having to rely on someone else’s biased
version of our pivotal life events.

Next step
The next step on the path to spiritual self-awareness is learning to meditate in a new way.

Self-test
Click here for the answers
1. What is needed before beginning inner child work?
2. What are the four steps of inner child work?
3. How do belief systems impact our lives?
Figure 9 Fitting all my pieces together through inner child work

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Section 3 A new form of meditation
Food for thought | Prayer is one-way communication - us talking to Source; Going Home is
two-way communication - us talking to Source, and Source talking to us.

Going home means getting centred

The Universal Intelligence has taught me a new way to meditate. It is called “Going Home”, to illustrate
the idea of consciously connecting with our Creator via our guide. One of the best ways to learn about
ourselves is to meditate in this new way. That means getting centred and paying attention to our
thoughts. This takes practice - lots of practice; but as my. guide says to me whenever I’m learning a
new skill, "Practice makes progress."
Figure 10 “Going Home” is two-way communication

What makes this technique different?

You may be aware at some level that there is a guide or
angel with you, but did you know that we can
communicate with them, and they with us? Going Home
practices two-way telepathic communication with our
guide. This means paying attention to our thoughts,
rather than shutting them down in a quest for silence.
Having the intention to stop thinking can actually prevent the communication that can best help us.
This technique builds spiritual self-awareness, which is the ability to know why we think the things we
think and believe the things we believe and especially, why we do the things we do.

What are the goals?

The aim is to concentrate on paying attention to our thoughts so that we may practice two-way
communication with our guide. As we learn to identify our thought patterns, we see where work is
needed to resolve inner conflicts. This enables us to gradually reduce and refine our negative thoughts
and increase our positive thoughts.
Table 2: Reduce these...Increase these

Reduce these Increase these

Condemnation Compassion
Fear Faith
Greed Gratitude
Guilt Joy
Hatred Love
Jealousy Mercy
Judgment Patience
Lying Peace
Manipulation Respect
Resentment Sacrifice
Revenge Tolerance
Self-righteousness Trust
Worry Truth

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What tools are needed?
All we need is the intent to allow our guide to work with us. With this method, the many requirements
of some other forms of meditation become obsolete. Especially, there is no need to stop thinking.
Stopping or blocking our thoughts prevents the purposeful two-way communication that will help to
find enlightenment.

Before beginning a s ession

Our physical body has a way of interrupting or disturbing our conscious thoughts, so get fully
comfortable. Why? If we are hungry, our thoughts will focus on food and eating, or on liquids if we are
thirsty. If we are full, our body will be focused on digestion. If our muscles are not relaxed, we will
squirm to find a comfortable position. Scratch all your itches. Blow your nose or rub your eyes if need
be. In other words, make sure that all your physical needs are tended to, to give yourself every possible
advantage.

Once you are settled and comfortable, aim to close your eyes. This will help you avoid focusing on
objects outside of self, and better able to focus on your thoughts.

When and how o ften should it be done?

Begin by practicing Going Home twice daily. This will build the habit of including communication with
our guide into our routine.

What about pro tec tion from negative energies?

No protection is needed because there is no such thing as negative energies.

How long s hould a s essi on las t?

Spend five to ten minutes, or as long as you are comfortable and able to stay focused on paying
attention to your thoughts. If you lose focus or forget to pay attention for a few seconds, just return to
listening to your thoughts. Listen as if your thoughts are words being spoken by someone else. Falling
asleep when starting out is quite normal. Try to be patient with yourself throughout the learning
process. After all, it takes time and effort to learn any new skill.

How often, and how many times per day, should this be done?
Aim for two sessions per day (once upon awakening and again before going to sleep). After a week or
two, you will be able to find your centred space quite easily. Twice daily meditation helps develop the
pattern of regular communication with the Universal Intelligence. Once we come to rely on our guide’s
presence, Going Home becomes second nature. We need only ask for assistance with whatever we are
doing. If we have a question to which we don't know the answer, we can ask our guide. We can
communicate with our guide at any time of day or night, under any circumstances. If we can hear our
thoughts, we can hear our guide.

What can happen when I am centred ?

Pay close attention to your mind and body, even if you do not close your eyes, Your thoughts may
sound different once you are centred, or you may feel your energy change. Your guide may also give
you physical signals to confirm their presence.

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 Haiku 5-7-5: Connecting
If you are comfortable closing your eyes
Go ahead and do so. You will know that you are in the right space
when your eyelids flutter lightly. One of the special effects that can
happen when we Go Home is a visual impression - in our mind’s eye
- of what I call "swirlies". This is a series of silvery-blue or purple
lights and shapes that shrink and grow and dance across our field of
vision in our thoughts, as if the inside side of our eyelids is a
projection screen. It is beautiful to see, and is a signal from our guide
that we have reached our centred space.

Sometimes in meditation the guides will use words like "thee",

"thy", "thou", etc. when working with us. Other times they might address us as "Child of God", or
"Child". This is not meant in any way other than lovingly, respectfully. When this happens, it is
completely unmistakable that it is the Universe speaking, and not just our own thoughts. We can be
certain then that there is specific information waiting for us, and that questions need to be asked in
order to access it. Then we need to work with our guide to fully understand the message.

If you are not comfo rtable closing your eyes

Leave them open; however, this can indicate an unresolved issue that will prevent you from achieving
the best possible results. Open eyes can prevent you from being able to focus on your thoughts. Also, if
course if your eyes are open, your eyelids will not flutter and it will be harder to see the swirlies or
visions that your guide may wish to give you. Aim to create a safe place for yourself to relax with your
eyes closed. Start with a few seconds and build up to meditating comfortably with your eyes closed.

Whether your eyes are open or closed though, pay close attention to your mind and body. Your
thoughts may sound different once you are centred, or you may feel your energy change. Your guide
may also give you physical signals ranging from a feeling of warmth or coolness, to shivers or tiredness,
to sneezing.

How to Go Home (meditate)

Exercise 1
Getting centred
Going Home requires getting centred. The goal of this exercise is to find your centre, pay attention to
your thoughts, and gain a sense of peace and harmony, even if only for a few moments. Paying
attention to your thoughts is an important step in gaining spiritual self-awareness and changing
thought patterns.

This is achieved by finding a place of calm within self. Go there simply by being willing. Sounds too
simple, right? But it really is just that easy.

o Begin by finding a quiet place where you can be undisturbed for five or ten minutes. Once you are
settled comfortably, take a slow deep breath in, and gently let it out
o Ask for assistance. Direct your request to the Universal Intelligence
o Pay attention to your thoughts

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 Haiku 5-7-5: Whispers
Being centred can also be called “observation mode”, whereby we
simply pay attention to all that is happening around us and within us. Go
there simply by being willing. Sounds too simple, right? But it really is
just that easy. Begin by finding a quiet place where you can be
undisturbed for five or ten minutes. Once you are settled comfortably,
take a slow deep breath in, and gently let it out. You may find it helpful
to ask the Universal Intelligence for assistance upon starting.
There is no need to breathe in any particular fashion, but it can be
helpful to focus on your breathing as a way to go within. There is no
need for any special equipment or materials. Playing soothing music can
help us relax, but no rituals are needed to begin communicating with
the our guide. In fact, performing rituals can indicate fear, since fear says that something terrible will
happen if the ritual is not performed. Then ritual becomes superstition, which is nothing more than
fear that has become habit. Aim to maintain the state for gradually longer periods of time, even up to
30 minutes.
Figure 11 “Going Home”, a new form of meditation

Some suggestions for Going Home music:

o Youtube - Ambient music
o Youtube - Anugama - Healing
o Youtube - Anugama - Shamanic
Dream
o Youtube - Tibetan Monks Chanting
Om

What happened?
What did you experience? Was there a
message? Were there colours, or was there
a picture? Was there a particular feeling, such as a sensation of warmth or cold, tiredness, relaxation,
peace? If there just seemed to be a jumble of thoughts, try to recall at least a few of them.

Actions
Whatever is experienced, questions must be asked to gain full understanding about what has been
given. Why? Since the spiritual Law of Free Will requires the Universal Intelligence to tell us what we
want to hear, or what we already believe to be truth, it is up to us to make the conscious choice to set
aside our preconceived ideas and beliefs. In fact, recognizing all of our beliefs becomes crucial if we
want to change our thought patterns.

After practicing this twice per day for a week or two, you will be able to find your centred space quite
easily. Then it will be time to go on to Exercise 2.

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Use a notepad
Figure 12 Use a notepad
Whatever happens, record your experiences in a journal of
some sort. It will serve as a reminder of your journey
toward spiritual self-awareness. More importantly,
information that does not currently make sense may do so
as you become more adept. Interpreting meditation and
dream symbols and messages requires that we recall the
details. The guides can help with this if we invite them to
do so.
Even seemingly insignificant details can be an important
part of the message. Then ask questions of your guide to find out what the people or things represent
spiritually (see Section 4.4). Hint: Keep paper and pen or pencil near when meditating or sleeping to
record information while it is fresh.

Use a dictionary
Figure 13 Use a dictionary
If a word keeps repeating in your thoughts, refer to a
dictionary to find all the possible meanings of it. Then ask
your guide which meaning applies and listen for the
answer. Sometimes our guide’s intended meaning is not
what we would normally understand it to be.

Exercise 2
Now that you can find your centred space more easily and
are getting used to listening to your thoughts, it is time to
start asking some questions. When starting out, it is best to ask simple, straightforward questions.
Here are a few suggestions, but feel free to use your own:
o What is my guide's name?
o How many guides are working with me?
o What is my soul name? What is my soul purpose?

When in a centred state, ask your guide to address you by your soul name. Listen closely. If you do not
hear it, ask your guide to spell it for you - one letter at a time, if need be. Please note that soul names
are not from any earth language; they are in the Universal language of Truth.

Finding your soul's purpose may not be quite so simple. If you have a strong fear or a strong belief, the
Universal Intelligence will not interfere with it (because of free will). Your guide may well be obliged to
tell you exactly what you want or expect or fear to hear. Take a list of carefully formed questions into
meditation and work with your guide to find Universal Truth.

Remember to ask for assistance while getting centred and then ask your question(s). Listen to your
thoughts for at least 15 to 30 seconds after each question. Pay close attention to your body too, as
your guide may use physical signals to communicate with you.

One of the first questions I asked my guide was, “Why didn’t you protect me?” No answer came, but I
did not really expect there to be one. Even if they had answered, they may have said something like,
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“That is not our job”. That would have infuriated me, and could well have shut down any interest I had
in connecting. The Universe has taught me since then that there are certain required life lessons for
each of us, and our guide ensures that we meet them.

What happened?
Was there a message? Were there colours, or a picture? Was there a particular feeling, such as a
sensation of warmth or cold, tiredness, relaxation, peace? If there just seemed to be a jumble of
thoughts, try to recall at least a few of them. Journalize your experiences.

Action
Whatever is experienced, questions must be asked to find the correct interpretation and to gain full
understanding about what has been given. Why? Since the spiritual Law of Free Will requires the
Universal Intelligence to tell us what we want to hear, or what we already believe to be truth, it is up to
us to make the conscious choice to set aside our preconceived ideas and beliefs. In fact, recognizing all
of our beliefs becomes crucial when working with our guide. It is a good idea to keep a notepad and
dictionary handy.
Figure 14 Buddha listening

"What we think, we become."

Buddha

Next steps
Section 4.1 provides more information about meditation and how the guides communicate with us.
Section 4.2, Section 4.3 and Section 4.4 teach how to interpret colours, numbers and symbols
respectively.

Self-test
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1. What is “Going Home”?
2. What are the goals of this form of meditation?
3. What is “spiritual self-awareness”?
4. What is "centred space"?
5. Why is it important to ask questions?

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Section 4 Meditation and communication
Food for thought | One of the best ways to learn about ourselves is to meditate, and the
best way to learn how to meditate is to practice, practice, practice.
Section 4 is divided into four sub-sections:
Section 4.1 Communication ground rules
Here you will find more in-depth information about Going Home. Learn how the guides communicate
with us, the importance of asking questions of our guide, and tools to find the spiritual meaning of our
dreams and meditation sessions.

Section 4.2 Spiritual meaning of colours

The guides often show us colours in meditation and dreams, as well as in everyday life. This section
provides important questions to ask your guide, as well as a starting point for interpreting several
colours.

Section 4.3 Spiritual meaning of numbers

Do you have a favourite number? Do you know what it represents? Do you often see a number
repeating in your everyday experiences? This section provides important questions to ask your guide,
as well as a starting point for interpreting the numbers zero through 38.

Section 4.4 Spiritual meaning of symbols

The guides often use the universal language of symbolism to communicate with us in dreams and
meditation, and also in everyday life. The interpretations provided in this section are suggestions only
and questions must be asked of our own guide to find their intended meaning.

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Section 4.1 Communication ground rules
Meditation and dreams
Meditation or “Going Home” takes us into a world with much more meaning than we might ever have
imagined. We become a conscious participant in our own spiritual development. One of the first things
to notice is the images and phrases that appear in our thoughts, in dreams and meditation and even in
everyday life. It may seem as though this is something new, but it really is not. We all receive
communication, but we seldom take time to pay attention. Going Home helps us to slow down and
listen, and to become more adept at recalling our thoughts. This might seem like a lot of work, but
paying attention to our thoughts builds self-worth and self-acceptance, along with a healthy new
pattern of working toward self-improvement.

In the early stages of practicing Going Home, the guides help us to hear our thoughts so that we can
learn what we are creating in our lives. Learning new belief systems that are based in Universal Truth
enables us to resolve our inner conflicts, and then release old patterns that keep us stuck repeating
negative life experiences, also known as being “lost in the playground'.

How the guides communicate with us

Our guides communicate with us telepathically, with pictures and/or words that symbolise the areas of
our lives needing attention. Why? For them to simply tell us that we are doing something "wrong"
would be judgment on their part. This would violate the spiritual Law of Free Will, with which they are
obliged to comply.

The guides have an uncanny way of bringing the right people, places and things to our attention, to
inspire us to ask questions. For example, having a dream about our earthly mother might be used to
show us that we are acting as she might. Perhaps we have taken on one of her negative behaviours
and it is causing turmoil in our lives. Until we recognize it though, we cannot change it. Once we know
it is within us, we can find and resolve the underlying issue causing us to repeat the pattern.

My mother would withhold communication completely from me if I did something that annoyed or
displeased her (see cold shoulder treatment). This is a very effective form of manipulation as it can
cause us to feel guilty. Of course I learned to do it too, and it crippled my ability to have healthy
relationships. The pattern hurts others, but it also hurts us. It freezes our thought process, preventing
us from saying how we feel. The Universe provided me with several clues in dreams and in meditation
to help me see (a) that I was doing it, (b) that it was hurtful, and (c) that change is possible. Changing
the pattern meant struggling through the learning curve of healthy self-expression. Easy? No. Worth
the effort? Absolutely.

This is how our thoughts can sound when we pay attention to ourselves:

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 Figure 15 What our thoughts can sound like

The guides use symbolism that can take many forms. Colours, numbers, images of people we know,
animals - everything we experience in life - can be used to teach us about ourselves, anytime of day or
night. Check out the spiritual meanings of colours, numbers and symbols.
Figure 16 Dream and meditation symbols

Other methods the

guides use to
communicate with us
They may make a play on
words. For example: A
dream might highlight the
wallpaper in a room, with
the important part being
where the wallpaper meets
the 'ceiling'. The message?
“See (the) link”. A car might
be shown - a Lincoln
Continental...same message.
Both of these ‘link’ dreams
are aimed to help us see the
link between things that we
might not consider to be connected. We may think that our behaviour is not at all like someone else’s,
yet in fact we may be doing the exact same thing.

If we are shown the face of someone we know or knew, we can ask our guide what this person is
meant to represent. Our earthly mother can represent the old days, the old ways or old-fashioned
concepts, or the idea of nurturing. Our earthly father can represent some aspect of the relationship
that we have (or had), but might also represent our heavenly Father (Universal Intelligence). The image
of a family member might mean that there is a relationship in some area of our life that is
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unrecognized or misunderstood, or it could mean that we, or someone around us, is behaving in a
manner that is like (or unlike) that relative.

The guides often use pictures of books, computers, televisions and telephones to show us that
communication is required. Then we would ask what issue needs to be discussed, and with whom.
They may repeat a few lines from a song over and over in our thoughts. Although the words may seem
self-explanatory, we need to make sure by asking.

Our guide may repeat a person's name or a particular phrase over and over until the correct questions
are asked. "What am I doing that is like or unlike this person's behaviour?" is a good place to start.
With the vast number of possible interpretations, it is easy to see the importance of asking questions
of our guide and listening for the answers.

How can I be sure I'm receiving Universal Truth?

Our guide will tell us exactly what we believe (see free will) unless we specifically ask for Universal
Truth rather than that which we want, expect or fear to hear, so we must ask questions designed to
allow our guide to give us new information. After all, if they tell us what we already know or believe,
how can we grow or change? See honesty

The more questions we can ask, the better. We must be willing to acknowledge that we may have
preconceived ideas or belief systems, even if we do not know exactly what they may be, and we must
be willing to set them aside. We must be truly willing to confront a Truth about ourselves, our loved
ones or our experiences that may not agree with what we have been taught or what we may want to
believe.
o If the information received is free from ego, control, anger, condemnation, etc., we can be
reasonably certain that we are receiving Universal Truth; likewise if the answer is logical, sensible
and straightforward
o If our guide tells us something and we have a feeling of, “Aha, I knew it”, that is a big clue that we
are in the way and preventing our guide from giving us Universal Truth
o If the information being given is already common knowledge, then we are limiting the possibilities
in some way, perhaps due to a belief system. It is well then to acknowledge it, and then ask to
have it set aside so that new information can be given
o If the answer is presented like a grand theatrical performance, it is likely that a belief system is in
the way
o If we are trying to decide on the best course of action, but we already know what we want to do
(or what we will not do), that will prevent our guide from giving us new options. They will not tell
us that we are wrong. Also, if fear is making us want to avoid something, our guide will not tell us
to walk through that fear. We must be willing to set our fear aside when our guide provides an
opportunity to face it
o If a guide answers a question with, “As you wish”, there may be preconceived ideas in the way,
preventing the guide from giving new information. Then we need to state that we are willing to
set aside what we believe so we can receive new options.

Stumbling blocks
Some beliefs can actually prevent our guide from answering us. If we ask a question and no answer
comes, there may be a belief system in the way - could be something like:
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 o "No one will answer me because there's no one there"
o "I'm not worthy or capable of receiving communication"
o "I don’t have any negative thoughts or behaviours"
o "I already know what this means"

Beliefs like this can be worked around by persevering with practicing meditation. After all, what does
giving up achieve? Rest assured that there is definitely someone there, you are worthy and you are
capable. It just takes practice and determination.

Ask questions
Even if we think we know the meaning of a dream or meditation image, our guide may well have
wrapped another, even more important message within it. As long as we believe that we understand
the symbol fully, our guide has no choice but to agree. We must have the intention to look for it. Ask
simple, straightforward questions. It is best not to seek information that would invade anyone's
privacy, and it is best not to ask the guides to make a judgment about anyone. If your question does
not receive an answer, ask your guide for the reason and listen closely to your thoughts for the answer.
Figure 17 Guidelines for asking questions

Sample questions
Here are a few sample questions
to help find the Universal
meaning. Until our guide says we
have gained the necessary
understanding, we will know to
keep asking questions. Ask one
question at a time and pay close
attention to your thoughts for at
least 10 to 15 seconds for the
answer before moving on.
(Answers to more complicated
questions may come over a period of time, maybe even over the space of a few days.)
o Is this dream meant to show more than one idea?
o Is this a vision of the past, the present or the future?
o Who (or what) does this person or thing represent?
o Is this the correct direction for me?
o What is my part in my relationship with (name of person)? All too often, we blame the other guy
for our troubled relationships and fail to take responsibility for our part
o What is meant by the (colour/number/picture) just given?
o Which of my beliefs prevent me from moving forward in life?
o Do I have complete understanding?

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Be alert
By remembering consciously the questions we have asked our guide, we begin to see the answers
presented all around us as we go about our lives. This process provides epiphanies and brings spiritual
enlightenment. We will find that which we seek. Even if we forget that we have asked to be shown
something, our guide can remind us (somehow) to be alert when something important is happening.
We can then ask questions to find out what is needed. Awareness of our personal environment can
reveal new levels of information. Note that our daily experiences are used to teach us. Television
programs, relationships of the people around us - at work, at school, at play - can show us new areas
about ourselves to examine.

If our guide communicates with us in a way that seems rude or cruel, it is to help us see how we treat
others or ourselves. That which we hate most in others is often within us, but when we are dedicated
to improving ourselves, our guides will persist until we get the message. Once we know what we are
doing, we can begin to change the pattern.

Since the guides work only with unconditional love, there is no possibility that they are acting out of
spite or revenge, or any other negative purpose. They hope that we will begin to ask questions. Try
asking:
o Are you communicating this way to reflect my own behaviour to me?
o Are you communicating this way to show me how someone treats me?
o Why are you communicating with me this way?

A friend was out driving in her car when she was guided to, “Turn left here, Turkey”. She told me about
it laughing and said, “That’s just what I would say!” That is precisely the point. Her guide was reflecting
my friend’s own behaviour for her to see, and, hopefully, modify. Of course, if we see nothing wrong in
name-calling, then the first thing to change is our attitude. The Universal Intelligence calls this
judgment, criticism, and condemnation though, and if we choose to change the habit, assistance will
be given. Of course, if we see nothing wrong in with it, then the first thing to change is our attitude.

Meditation and the fine art of asking questions

Figure 18 Problem ... Analysis ... Solution

Problem
Many people give up on meditating, claiming that they
never receive answers to their questions. While that is one
possibility, there are others.

Analysis
o We may not be able to tell the difference between our guide’s words and our own
o We may ask a question and then not give our guide a chance to answer
o Our question may not be clearly worded

Solution
Think like a reporter and consider exactly what information you want. The W5&H method - Who,
What, When, Where, Why and How - can be helpful. Write out or type your questions beforehand. Use

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as few words as possible, using simple, clear phrasing. Ask one question at a time and wait for the
answer before moving on to the next question.

We often we make statements and then wait for the Universe to agree or disagree with us, so be sure
to ask an actual question.

Be sure to Go Home before asking your question. Ask your question out loud and then immediately
pay attention to your thoughts - as if you were listening for another person to answer. Epiphanies will
come with practice and perseverance. Check out WikiHow's How to ask better questions

Next steps
You will need at least a basic understanding of the spiritual meaning of the colours (Section 4.2),
numbers (Section 4.3) and symbols (Section 4.4) because the guides use them to communicate with us
in dreams, in meditation and even in everyday life.

Self-test
Click here for the answers
1. What keeps us lost in the playground?
2. What is the best way to learn how to meditate?
3. What are the ways that our guides communicate with us?
4. Why is it so important to ask questions?

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 Section 4.2 Spiritual meaning of colours
The guides often show us colours in meditation and dreams, as well as in everyday life. As always, we
must ask our own guide to find the Universal Truth about the colours that are shown to us.

Quality of the colour

If muddy or washed out, ask your guide which colours are in the mix: muddy brown can be a
combination of green and red. Then the message could be something like; "An emotional wound has
created anger or resentment and healing (forgiveness) is required". If clear and bright, then the
message might be a positive one but still needs to be fully understood.
Table 3 Spiritual meaning of the colours
Colour Name Clear and bright Colour Muddy or washed out
Red State of peace/harmony Difficulty expressing emotions
Draw energy from unconditional
Orange Fear that one is unsupported
love
Yellow Clarity Confusion. Fear or distrust

Gold Highest spiritual attainment Dishonourable intentions

Brown Comfort Emotional wound needs healing

Yellow-green Joy Envy, greed, jealousy

Green Growth, health, healing Healing is needed

Teal/Turquoise Enlightenment Stale belief needs updating

Avoiding looking at a painful
Blue The search for Universal Truth
truth
Indigo A Universal Truth has been learned Belief based in untruth

Violet/Purple Able to love despite flaws Holding grudges

Pink A difficult issue has been resolved More questions are needed

Black The unconscious. New possibilities Fear

Gray Balance Inner conflict

Silver Our connection with Source Ego, trying to do everything alone

White Striving for purity of thought Self-righteousness

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Section 4.3 Spiritual meaning of numbers
The guides use numbers to draw our attention to unrecognized issues, or to give us feedback. If more
than one digit is shown (example: 10), ask your guide if the number needs to be reduced to one digit
(1) to find the required message. If it does not, then look at the meaning of each digit individually (1
and 0), and/or at the number itself (10).

A numerical value has been assigned to the letters of the English alphabet. The theory is that each
letter, by virtue of the number it represents, has a specific vibrational frequency.
Table 4 Numerical value of the letters in the English alphabet

a=1 b=2 c=3 d=4 e=5 f=6 g=7 h=8 i=9

j = 10 k = 11 l = 12 m = 13 n = 14 o = 15 p = 16 q = 17 r = 18

s = 19 t = 20 u = 21 v = 22 w = 23 x = 24 y = 25 z = 26

Suggested interpretations for the num bers

As always, be sure to ask your guide for the Universe's intended message for you.
Zero (0) Attunement
State of being at peace. A time for patience, to look within, rest, rejuvenate, meditate. May indicate
feeling stuck, yet unable or being unwilling to take action. Could be a belief that “I already know this”
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One (1) Initiative
The beginning of a new cycle. May indicate trying to do something alone, unassisted (ego)
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Two (2) Communication
Able and willing to give and receive information. May indicate a co-dependent relationship or difficulty
deciding whether to speak truth
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Three (3) Harmony
Unity of mind, body, spirit. May indicate that conflict and disagreement are preventing peace
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Four (4) Intent
Able and willing to do whatever is needed to get the job done. May indicate laziness, or that more
effort is required
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Five (5) Change
Change has been achieved, or may indicate that we are fighting change, or not acknowledging that we
need to change (denial)
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Six (6) Quest
The search for spiritual understanding. May indicate that we are ready for a new level of learning
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Seven (7) Learning
May indicate that we need some alone-time, so that we can reflect on whatever has been happening
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Eight (8) Union
Our interconnectedness with the Universal Intelligence. We are never alone. May indicate that we are
feeling abandoned or betrayed and craving support
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Nine (9) Heritage
Can indicate a positive, or a negative, family pattern. Are we teaching it to others?
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Ten (10) Completion
Completion of a stage, cycle or project has been achieved, enabling a new cycle of learning to begin.
May indicate fear of failure/success
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Eleven (11) Opportunity
A doorway. New possibilities or opportunities are now available. Who or what must be left behind? Is
there guilt or remorse?
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Twelve (12) Generosity
Able to give without expectations. May indicate greed, jealousy
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Thirteen (13) Conciliation
Willing to do whatever it takes to come to fair and equitable solutions. May indicate inability or
unwillingness to do so
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Fourteen (14) Creativity
Constructive, productive, expressive. May indicate a fear of personal expression
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Fifteen (15) Curiosity
Seeking Universal Truth and understanding. May indicate a belief that new information from our guide
cannot be helpful
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Sixteen (16) Wisdom
Able to see beyond self. May indicate narcissism
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Seventeen (17) Guiding Principle
Able to seek guidance without fear of losing self. May indicate unwillingness to seek guidance,
believing that we know best
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Eighteen (18) Faith
Belief systems founded in Universal Truth and unconditional love. May indicate incorrect or unhealthy
beliefs not based in Universal Truth that prevent trust
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Nineteen (19) Cooperation
Able to share knowledge and acknowledge our shortcomings. May indicate a fear of being replaced
that prevents acknowledging our shortcomings. See fear of abandonment
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Twenty (20) Striving
Willing and able to work hard to attain one’s goals. May indicate lack of desire to work
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Twenty one (21) Equality
Treating self and others fairly, with respect. May indicate that we are holding double standards
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Twenty two (22) Perseverance
Keeping on, in spite of obstacles. May indicate a pattern of giving up at the first sign of trouble or
difficulty
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Twenty three (23) Revolution
Profound positive change has been gained in self, in belief systems or in behaviours. May indicate that
change is needed in self, in belief systems or in behaviours
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Twenty four (24) Purpose
Following our higher motivations. May indicate resistance to following a higher path
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Twenty five (25) Sacrifice
Willing to meet others’ needs before our own. May indicate unwillingness to act selflessly
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Twenty six (26) Transformation
Change a liability into an asset. May indicate a belief that change is not possible
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Twenty seven (27) Rec onciliation
Able to settle differences fairly and to forgive without expectations. May indicate resentment, revenge,
or unwillingness to forgive
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Twenty eight (28) Optimism
Able and willing to look for the silver lining. May indicate unwillingness to do so
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Twenty nine (29) Opportunity
A new opportunity awaits. May indicate unwillingness to step out of our comfort zone
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Thirty (30) Inspiration
Hearing our inner voice and acting on it. Seeing new possibilities. May indicate resistance to growth,
improvement or change. See defiance
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Thirty one (31) Intuition
Seeking guidance as to the best course of action and following it. May indicate unwillingness to follow
guidance, thinking our way must be easier or better or safer
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Thirty two (32) Analysis
Open to considering all options. May indicate inability or unwillingness to look beyond the easy way
out
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Thirty three (33) Reason
Able to think clearly, yet feeling the emotions of a situation. May indicate lack of desire to focus
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Thirty four (34) Stillness
Appreciate periods of inactivity. May indicate inability or unwillingness to relax
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Thirty five (35) Agreement
Agreement without anger can open the door to new possibilities. Agreement with unspoken needs or
desires creates a peace that cannot last
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Thirty six (36) Sharing
Able and willing to give and take fairly. May indicate that we are only willing to give, or only willing to
receive. Applies to material items as well as to communication
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Thirty seven (37) Faith
Knowing that the next step will be revealed in due course. May indicate inability or unwillingness to
trust that the Universal Intelligence will provide whatever information is needed to help us move
forward spiritually
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Thirty eight (38) Evolution
Able and willing to change and grow. May indicate that we want everyone else to change

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Section 4.4 Spiritual meaning of symbols
The guides use the universal language of symbolism to communicate with us in meditation and in
dreams, to help us understand our experiences or to provide us with information we will need in the
future. Our challenge is to recall the symbols upon returning to everyday consciousness. Unless we are
attentive, they can quickly evaporate and leave us with a sense of unfinished business.

The process requires tracing back through our thought stream. Sometimes it can be effortless,
sometimes it can seem impossible and other times, something will happen hours later that trigger a
recollection. It is important not to criticise ourselves for being unable to remember, or for failing to
understand the message. It takes practice to develop such skills - lots of practice.

Suggested interpretations
The interpretations below are suggestions only and questions must be asked of our own guide to find
their intended meaning for us.
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Actors
Our feelings about the person or people being shown can reveal how we feel about some aspect of
self or someone with whom we are associated
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Animals and pets
Can represent unrecognized thoughts, attitudes and emotions. Is it a creature of the land, sea or air? Is
it friend or foe? Does it have a name? What colour is it? What emotions are felt? Does it speak to you?
Bird
Looking for a new spiritual truth, freedom; or stagnant belief system, imprisonment
Cat
Healthy, interdependent relationship; or a co-dependent relationship where one or the other must
always be in control
Dog
Friend; or danger of betrayal
Dolphin
Joy; or stifled spirit
Elephant
A secret was revealed and nothing bad happened; or everyone is trying to keep from talking about the
terrible thing that everyone already knows
Fish
Spiritual food; or having a false belief system that one stubbornly maintains to be true
Monkey
Is someone behaving like a child?
Snake
Feeling at peace with self; or belief that one is "bad" and has been condemned by God; that
forgiveness is not possible
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Blood
Substance that transports the vibrations of our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires to
each component of our physical body. Can represent our innermost desires; or can be a message that
someone is behaving like a victim or a martyr
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Bracelets, hoop earrings and rings
Can represent the cycles of life, unity of purpose, communication; or can represent feeling trapped in a
never-ending cycle of negativity
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Bridges, doors and gates
Can represent connections, possibilities, transitions, etc. What is the colour and condition? Is it
functional? Can show that there is a way to connect with whatever is on the other side - one must only
be truly willing to take the steps. See doors
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Cardinal directions
Represent the direction our life is taking; or where one seeks information
North
Looking up, to Source, to God, to the Universal Intelligence, looking to spirit
South
Looking down, looking away from Source, looking to physical, looking to self or others
East
Looking to the right. If right-handed, this is the correct direction to take
West
Looking to the left. If left-handed, this is the correct direction to take
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Clothing
Can represent our spiritual belief systems. What style is being worn? What colours are being worn? Is it
new or old, clean or dirty, bought, borrowed or stolen? What are the shoes like? Hat? Gloves? Socks?
Underwear? See nudity, silent rebellion
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Coins
Can represent change. Can also represent metal, mettle, medal or meddle. Do we have some or need
some, or were coins found or lost?
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Columns
Represent support, or lack thereof
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Darkness
Can represent the unknown, the unconscious. What feelings are being felt in the dream, and upon
remembering the dream?
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Death
Can represent a deceased loved one (or hated one!). Can also represent potential or required change.
Can be preparation for the eventual so as to eliminate fear; or to show that dread is present. Can show
that a big change has happened or is about to happen
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Doors
Note whether open or shut, locked or unlocked. Are we inside or outside of it? Does it have a window?
Closed door
Can show that have ended something; or that we are unable or unwilling to open the door to new
possibilities
Locked door
Can represent our desire to hide something, or to hide from something, or can be used to show that
someone is preventing us from gaining access to something, or that the time is not yet right for taking
the next step. Do we have the key? If so, does it work?
Open door
Can show that new options, new possibilities are now available
Unlocked door
Can show that the time is right for taking the next step
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Elevators
Can represent a sudden change in how we feel about ourselves. Better? Worse? More - or less -
balanced? What style is the elevator? Old, new, express (where the lower floors are skipped)?
____________________________________________________________________________________
Emotions
What emotions were felt while the dream was taking place? What emotions are felt as the dream is
recalled?
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Escalators
Can represent a gradual change in how we feel about ourselves. Better? Worse? More balanced?
____________________________________________________________________________________
Food
Can represent our spiritual diet, either what it is or what it needs to be. Is the food fresh or spoiled?
Junk or nutritious? What colours are shown?
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Flying
Can show us that we are feeling free, or that we are needing to free ourselves of something, or that
everything is going well
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Gardens, plants, shrubs, trees
Can represent growth or lack thereof. Can show the need to look for the root cause of an issue
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Genitalia and sexual intercourse
Can represent communication or reproduction. Is communication occurring? Is communication
occurring? Is communication being withheld?
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Glass
(cup, mug, drinking glass, mirror, window) If a drinking vessel, can represent how we are absorbing our
spiritual lessons. Is the container clean? Clear? Coloured? Dirty? Cracked? If broken, can show that a
change has happened or is about to happen. If stepping or walking on broken glass, can show that our
life path is filled with pain and needs to be swept clean
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Hospitals
Can show inner conflict, unhealthy belief systems, unrecognized emotional pain. Are you the patient, a
visitor or a caregiver? What is the room like? Who is present or missing? Is the lighting bright or dim, is
it day or night?
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Hotels
Can represent a "facility" (check definition in dictionary or on-line and ask your guide which meaning
applies). Can show that we feel like a guest in our own home (not accepting ownership or
responsibility)
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Houses
(and rooms therein) Can represent where we live spiritually or physically. Can also represent our
physical body. Is it a house from the past? Is it familiar? Is it in good repair? What is its street number?
Attic
Where we store stuff. Is it clean or cluttered?
Basement
The unconscious. Is it clean or cluttered? Is the lighting bright or dim?
Bedroom
Where we communicate. Is the bed being used, is it made or unmade, is someone in it, is the wrong
person in it? Is communication taking place?
Kitchen
Where we prepare and eat our spiritual food. Is the food fresh or spoiled? Is it junk food?
Living room
Where we live. What emotions are felt? What condition is it in? What is the furniture like? What is the
light source?
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Keys
Can represent a core belief system, a plan, a creative idea. Do we have the key? Is it functional? Has it
been lost or stolen? Is it new or old? If stolen, could be a warning. What metal is it: brass, gold, silver?
What colour is it? Is it on a key chain?
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Light images
(Candles, flashlights, lamps, sun, moon, stars, incandescent, regular or fluorescent light bulbs, lighting
in a room, etc..) Can represent God's unconditional love or enlightenment. Is someone moving toward
or away from the light source? If lighting is dim, can indicate that more understanding is required. If
bright, can show that enlightenment has been achieved or is needed. What emotions are being felt?
____________________________________________________________________________________
Mirrors
Can represent how we see ourselves, or how we think others see us. If broken, can show a need for
some serious changes, or that we need to recognize some change(s) we have made
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Modes of communication
(Books, computers, flags, newspapers, radios, telegraph, telephones, televisions) Communication is
either required or not recommended. If communication is required, with whom does what subject
need to be discussed? If not recommended, why?
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Modes of transportation
(Bicycles, cars, buses, trains, boats, planes) Can represent the way in which we travel our spiritual path
or our physical body. What is its state of repair? To whom does it belong? How fast is it moving? Is it
travelling recklessly or controlled? Buses and trains can be used to represent work or vacation
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Money
Can represent how we feel about ourselves or our financial situation. In the dream, do we have enough
or need some, have we borrowed or loaned, donated or stolen, gambled away or won, spent foolishly
or hoarded? See losing belongings, purse
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Music and song lyrics
Whatever the style of music, it can hold a symbolic meaning for us. For example, Rock and roll could be
used to show a rebellious attitude toward someone or something, Classical could be used to show that
there is a vast intelligence in the Universe even if we can't see it, Rhythm and Blues could be used to
show that grieving a loss would be to our benefit, Traditional music could be used to show that we
have or have not embraced traditional teachings. Song lyrics can help us understand some aspect of
ourselves or our experiences. If the lyrics keep repeating throughout the day, there is a message in
them that we are not quite grasping. Meditate to find it. Some suggestions for Going Home music:
o Youtube - Ambient music
o Youtube - Anugama - Healing
o Youtube - Anugama - Shamanic Dream
o Youtube - Tibetan Monks Chanting Om
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Nudity
Can represent how we feel about self. Is there shame or discomfort? Is there privacy? Who else is
present?
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People
Can represent aspects of ourselves. Can also represent unresolved issues within ourselves. Who is
being shown? A parent/caregiver can represent love / withholding of love, support / control, the old
days or the old ways, etc. If the person being shown is no longer alive, the Universe is using our
knowledge of the individual or our relationship to show us something about ourselves
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Places of education
(Schools, universities, libraries, museums, archives) Can represent a lesson. What needs to be learned,
researched, uncovered, dug up? What is needed to complete the lesson? If late for class or an exam,
could be showing an unresolved issue or a negative behaviour like absenteeism
____________________________________________________________________________________
Places of worship
Can be used to show us how we feel about our relationship with our Creator, or that we have a
religious belief that disagrees with the Universal Truth about a current life issue
____________________________________________________________________________________
Police
(Can also be courtrooms, judges) Can represent either human or spiritual laws. What emotions are
felt? Is someone being charged with an offense? Is someone testifying for or against someone? If so,
who is it and what do they represent? What emotions are felt? Is someone being charged with an
offense? Is someone testifying for or against someone? If so, who is it and what do they represent?
____________________________________________________________________________________
Purse
(Can also be wallets, money, briefcases, luggage) Can represent wealth or security, a cherished belief
system, baggage of unresolved issues or unrecognized issues about career. Is it with you or has it been
left behind? Is it heavy or easy to carry? Has it been stolen? See losing belongings
____________________________________________________________________________________
Root vegetables
(Beet, carrot, potato, etc.) Can represent unrecognized belief systems or buried memories. The
vegetable's health and condition can reveal how we feel about the belief or memory
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Snow
Can represent a need for rest and relaxation, or to look within. Could mean that a relationship is about
to change, or that a difficult issue needs to be (or has been) resolved
____________________________________________________________________________________
Teeth
Can show our ability/inability to process information that goes against our beliefs or desires. If teeth
are missing or damaged, can show that a big change is about to happen or has happened
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Unidentified Flying Objects (UFO's) and/or aliens
Can show that we have a new recognition of the Universal Intelligence, or that there is a design for our
spiritual path. Are we fighting it?
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Walking
Can represent how we walk our spiritual path. Do our feet get tangled? Are we running freely?
Limping? Using a cane or crutches? Unable to walk?
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Washroom facilities
Can show that something needs to be released, or that an issue with our releasing process needs to be
examined. Are the facilities clean and in good repair? Is releasing taking place? Is there difficulty in
releasing? Is there a door for privacy? If so, is the door in good repair or broken? Is the lighting bright
or dim?
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Water images
(River, pond, lake, ocean, swimming pools, etc.) Can represent spirituality. Is the water cold or warm,
clear or muddy, torrential or calm? What colour is it? If a river, is it flowing in the correct direction?
Clean or filled with trash?
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Windows
Can represent how we look at the world, how we think the world sees us, or how much "light" we let
in. Are we on the inside or the outside of the window? Are the windows clean or dirty, smudged or
smeared, small or large, operational or stuck shut, old or new, boarded up or covered? If broken, can
show that something has happened or is going to happen that could drastically change our viewpoint.
See glass
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Workplace
(Any place of business) Can represent our spiritual path. Are you working? How do you feel about your
work? What is your position? Where is the boss? Who is the boss? What are your feelings for the boss?
Boss can represent God, a person or an idea. What is being bought or sold? What is on display? If other
employees are present, who are they, how do you feel about them, what are they doing? What are you
doing?
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Section 5 Spiritual component of physical conditions
and/or anatomical parts
Food for thought | Just think of the billions of dollars and vast resources that could be
spared, were we to forgive those who harm us. Just think of the needless pain and suffering
we could avoid if we were to forgive ourselves. Chronic diseases could be avoided, along
with harmful acts done out of despair, anger or hatred.
Since we are spiritual as well as physical beings, our thoughts, attitudes and emotions affect our health
at least as much as the physical world. Profound healing becomes possible when we address both the
spiritual and the physical aspects of a condition. Use the descriptions below to address the spiritual
component, and seek medical attention from your professional healthcare provider to address the
physical.
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Abdomen
Organs within the abdomen enable our spiritual reactions to our life experiences to manifest in our
physical body. See digestion
Issues that can arise
Bloating
Putting too much (or too little) emphasis on self. See ego, self-esteem, self-importance
Distension
Excessive thoughts of ego, self-importance, or self-condemnation, or shame. See self-esteem
Itching
See anxiety
Pain
See distress
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Ability to learn
Results from our feelings of worthiness to be alive, to receive nourishment, to receive focused, loving
attention, and to participate meaningfully in the family
Issues that can arise
Learning disorders
Includes auditory processing disorder, dyscalculia, dysgraphia, dyslexia, language processing disorder,
nonverbal learning disabilities and visual perceptual/visual motor deficit.
Can result from any or all of the following:
o The child feeling uninvited or unwelcome in the family
o Parental failure to engage in the child's development
o Birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
o Unrecognized and/or unresolved traumatic events
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Change the pattern: Meditate to uncover incorrect or false beliefs about self that arose during early
childhood, and replace them with truth and understanding. See inner child work

ADD / ADHD
Means literally that we received too little or too much attention as a child. Hyperactivity is a physical
response to our desperate need to get - or avoid - focused attention
Looks like: Habitually over-reacting to life experiences as an excuse to ensure that we receive lots of
attention. Attempts by others to soothe us are like an addictive balm, but the risk is that they will
eventually tire of soothing us. If we do not get the desired response (favourable attention), our
agitation can increase to the point of tears or even temper tantrums disguised as a fear response, in
the hopes that they will give up and comfort us. Even if that 'comfort' comes in a negative form like
yelling or shaming, it is preferable to going without attention
Spiritual effects: Can manifest as a chronic need for validation from others. See co-dependent
relationships, self-esteem
Physical effects: Ear and hearing issues, eye and vision issues, comprehension and memory problems
Change the pattern: Work on building a relationship with your inner child. By paying better attention
to our needs, we find it easier to pay better attention in daily life. Doing these things gives us
something meaningful on which to focus... our happiness. The more we pay attention to our needs, the
easier it becomes to maintain focus - an extra benefit!
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Absenteeism / Tardiness (behaviour)
Absenteeism and chronic lateness are passive/aggressive forms of abandonment in which we are
unable or unwilling to meet responsibilities. It is the source of many of life’s difficulties and can
infuriate those who are waiting for us, and sometimes that is the whole point. See avoidance,
dawdling, defiance, silent rebellion
Spiritual effects: Unwilling or unable to follow through on commitments, depression
Physical effects: Arrhythmia, hypothyroidism
Change the pattern: Meditate to find and resolve the reason for the pattern. Visit Wikihow to Learn
how to set priorities
Do you know someone who is always late to meet you? Try setting a limit for how long you will wait for
them. Maybe it will be 15 minutes, maybe 30, but stick to whatever you decide and leave after your
time limit
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Accident proneness
Guilt or shame can make us unconsciously seek punishment, or wish to prove that we are not as good
as everyone thinks, or that we ought to be punished for doing well if a loved one is a failure. This can
manifest in physical as injury-causing accidents that often occur just before our performance is to be
judged or tested (fear of failure/success). Injuries are also a way to show that we are in pain and
distress and in need of nurturing or sympathetic attention. See bruises
Change the pattern: Build stable self-esteem to enable expression of our emotional needs in a mature
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Addiction
Results from a spiritual desire to avoid pain or run away from truth, from responsibilities, from our
thoughts and emotions, and even from life. Can be to a chemical substance like food, tobacco, drugs or
alcohol, or to any behaviour (like gambling, shopping, overusing a cellphone or personal device, etc.).
See abandonment, obsessive/compulsive behaviours.
Spiritual symptoms of addictions can vary from constantly telling stories about how everybody has
'done me wrong' (victim pattern), to pathological lying, to using guilt trips to manipulate others, to
avoiding making decisions (hoarding).

Change the pattern: Since addictions begin as thoughts which in turn create behaviours, they can be
modified, and even, in certain cases, released completely. To bring about such dramatic change
requires great strength, determination and commitment, but change is possible. Until the root cause of
the need for the addiction has been recognized, resolved and released, the likelihood of recurrence
exists. Very often, the root cause is the belief that "God must hate me" (see unconditional love), and
therefore I deserve to be punished. Excessive gambling can be caused by a chronic need to win, to
prove that "God loves me".

Breaking an addictive habit

Those who have tried to ‘break’ a substance addiction or a self-destructive habit may have noticed
their habit is not just one habit. Let me explain. Thanks to joining a months long gradual cessation
program provided by my provincial lung association, I can share my story as a Formerly Addicted
Cigarette Smoker.
The association provided a wealth of helpful information which I read and took to heart, so I was
prepared as well as I could be for the process about to unfold. Participants were to keep track of each
cigarette they either had, or craved but didn’t have, noting the time, severity of the craving and
possible reasons for wanting it. This was a new concept for me, as I was not exactly the most observant
person when it came to paying attention to myself. Sure enough though, I began to see that I wanted
to smoke at certain specific and even predictable times... with a cup of coffee, after meals, when
starting and finishing a phone call, when starting the car’s engine, etc. This was not just one, but many
habits. I saw too that smoking had become part of my reward system; even in the midst of physically
demanding tasks I would stop for a smoke because after all, I deserved a ‘reward’, when what I actually
needed was to just rest for a few moments. This observation practice enabled me to start thinking of
myself as a non-smoker, which is a vital component of the process of change - seeing ourselves in the
new and improved way.

Last smoke
About two months after starting the program, I was tiring of recording every cigarette. On Halloween
of 1986, I had a huge argument with my mother. The moment we ended the call, I badly wanted a
cigarette. As I sat smoking and pondering what information to record, it occurred to me that the
argument was important. While I didn’t have the knowledge or foresight to examine this further than
to say well, there’s no way I’ll give my mother that much power in my life, I decided, firmly, that ‘this’
was the last cigarette for me.
Over the next few days and weeks, I noticed that my cravings would come after increasingly longer
periods and last for fewer seconds. Like waves on the ocean, the first few days saw one every three
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hours or so. Luckily the program had prepared me for this, so I was able to ‘just say no, not now’ and
the craving would pass. This gradually stretched to three days, then weeks, then months. I was amazed
to have a craving - seemingly from out of the blue - three years after my last smoke. It lasted not even
a full second, and since then, I haven’t had a single desire to smoke.

Spiritual w ithdrawal symptoms

Now here’s the tricky part. I mentioned cravings above, and certainly, cravings play an oversized role in
changing thought patterns and behaviours. Whether we’re trying to give up certain substances or
change negative behaviours though, cravings are very likely to happen. Another, possibly even larger
challenge than giving up the substance or the behaviour, is dealing with the increase in obsessive
thoughts about the issue(s) we are unable or unwilling to confront and resolve.
We think we are sustained by our addictions, but truly, our addictions are sustained by us, by
our thoughts.
When changing behaviours, our brain kicks into high gear and reminds us of all the reasons we want
and need that thing, but that is not all. Our thoughts obsessively return to the underlying issues
creating our need, our trigger events, and everything will remind us of our pain, the pain of the hurts
we can’t bear to face (or worse, that we have been trained to ignore or deny). The temptation to use
that thing can feel overwhelming, and that’s if we’re paying attention to our thoughts. If we are not,
we’re likely to experience even stronger and longer-lasting effects and cravings.
For example, someone with abandonment issues (abandonment, fear of abandonment, reverse
abandonment) is apt to recreate the very issues their addiction enables them to manage.
Abandonment issues might cause us to pick a fight with a loved one so that they (a) blow up at us,
giving us an excuse to leave the relationship, (b) leave the relationship thereby proving that we are in
fact unlovable, or (c) and this seldom happens, they will lovingly soothe and comfort us. In this case,
the addiction is the need to receive regular, ongoing proof and confirmations that we are loved and
appreciated. Any information to the contrary causes our knee-jerk reaction of lashing out. We might
suffer brain freeze, rendering us incapable of calm or coherent thought, making the situation worse.
But we don’t have to give in or give up. We have tools... We have re-trainable brains. We have
information. We have free will.
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Adenoids
Represent our ability to protect our self-esteem from being harmed by others’ negative opinions about
us. See immune system
Issues that can arise
Adenoiditis
Feeling unwelcome, uninvited and surrounded by negativity
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Adrenal glands
Represent our ability to regulate our reaction to emotional stress
Issues that can arise

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Can occur upon learning that a cherished, foundational belief system is false
Addison's disease
Unable or unwilling to acknowledge our mistakes. Occurs if we habitually play victim whenever
someone tries to hold us accountable for our words or actions. The alternative, accepting
responsibility, is out of the question since we believe that doing so would be devastating
Adrenal insufficiency, Primary
If due to:
Autoimmune disease s
Holding self to excessively high standards (perfectionism), but wondering why since no one else
does, and using this as an excuse to harshly criticise others. Involves vicious self-condemnation for
the tiniest infraction of those standards; or if we think someone unfairly judges or criticises us. See
full list of autoimmune diseases plus HIV / AIDS, sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s)
Bleeding into adrenal glands
Occurs after physical injury, which occurs after an extremely painful emotional injury that makes us
question the reason for bothering to stay alive
Adrenal insufficiency, Secondary
If due to:
Diseased pituitary gland
Feeling that one is at risk of being harmed by invisible enemies (see Can negative energies and
entities harm us?)
Sudden withdrawal of corticosteroid treatment
Occurs after feeling that we have lost the support of the allies who should never have stopped being
supportive
Congenital adrenal hype rplasia
Results from parental inability or unwillingness to provide the child with the spiritual necessities of life
like unconditional love, compassion, and/or emotional support
Cushing syndrome
Unable or unwilling to trust and just be at peace
Hyperaldosteronism
Habitually feeling angry, cheated and offended over life experiences that do not go our way. See victim
Other infections of the adrenal glands
Disappointing realization that we really have no control over what others think of us
Cancer spreading to adrenal s
Severe loss of our faith in human decency after being harshly criticised, even if we are ourselves
extremely judgmental and critical. It is only all right for us to be harsh
Tuberculosis
Belief that we are weak. Feeling at the mercy of those who are strong and in a position of power.
Giving up on our ability to survive. See HIV / AIDS, lungs
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Alexithymia
Can manifest as a personality trait if one left a prior incarnation while suffering severe emotional
trauma, or can manifest in the current lifetime due to psychological distress
See associated conditions: Autism spectrum disorder, addiction, ADHD, allergens and allergic
reactions, anorexia, anxiety, asthma, bulimia, depression, dyspepsia, fibromyalgia, high blood pressure,
inflammatory bowel disease, irritable bowel syndrome, migraine headache, nausea, PTSD, stroke,
traumatic brain injury
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Allergens
Represent fear of things over which we have no control
Animals
Angry that everyone else always gets to do whatever they want (see pity party)
Dust
Which person, behaviour or situation is a never-ending irritation in the family?
Environment
Physical manifestation of a chronic fear of the unknown
Food
Deep need to receive loving attention from a specific authority figure. Chronic fear that we are in
imminent danger but not knowing what to do about it and believing that no one will help. Physical
result of an unresolved traumatic situation that we fear is bound to happen again. Visit
SciTechDaily.com and check out What Is the Difference Between a Food Allergy and a Food
Intolerance?
Insect stings or bites
Chronic fear of being an unsuspecting dupe. See fear of looking stupid
Mold
Feeling as if there is no escape from our current situation. Since we cannot change others, we must
change ourselves by changing our reactions to our life experiences. See required life experiences, plus
anger, blame, self-esteem, self-condemnation, shame, toxic relationships, feeling like a victim
Multiple Chemical Sensitivity
Just as there are many physical triggers for this condition, so there are many underlying spiritual
components. Chief among these are several possible fears (fear of contamination, fear of death/dying,
fear of invasion, and fear of retribution), along with a profound need for focused one-on-one nurturing
attention (see ADD / ADHD, possibly feeling like a victim, and being hyper-critical of things we do not
like
Semen
Unrecognized or unresolved issue with one's mate. See infertility
Specific individual(s)
Extreme emotional discomfort when a certain individual is near and believing that we absolutely must
not, CANNOT EVER, reveal our true feelings about them. Our feelings may be positive or negative
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Allergic reactions
Represent an unspoken plea for help in dealing with an on-going traumatic situation

Allergic fungal sinusitis

Unable or unwilling to acknowledge to others that we have suffered an incredibly painful experience,
and there are reminders of it everywhere, making us feel it will be impossible to forget. We have built a
spiritual dam to prevent our tears from flowing
Anaphylaxis
Frustration with feeling that it is unsafe to share our true thoughts about the current troubling
situation. See allergens, angioedema
Histamine intolerance
Unable or unwilling to confront an aggressor. See fear of retribution
Hives
Fear that one's normal reactions to everyday life experiences will be criticised by an authority figure
Triggers
See allergens, autoimmune diseases and:
Gen e ti cs
Family pattern of seeming to be a completely different person when out in public compared to at
home
Me d ic a t io n s
See side effects
Und e rl y i ng m ed ic al c on d i ti o ns
See cytomegalovirus, Epstein-Barr virus, lupus, lymphatic system cancer, thyroid conditions,
hepatitis, HIV / AIDS
Seasonal hay fever
Who or what around us is so irritating that we are frustrated and/or furious and just want to cry? See
anniversary illnesses
Example: As a young boy, my friend he would often visit his
beloved grandmother, who happened to live just across the
street. Grandma kept a beautiful flower garden that completely
filled her front yard. Flowers bloomed from spring through
autumn, and the air was filled with heavenly scents. When
Grandma passed away, my friend was not allowed to attend her
funeral, and he was ridiculed for showing his grief. He learned to
suppress it, to the point that any flowery aroma would trigger
Illustration 1 Pink flowers (Seasonal hay fever) his symptoms. Not only was he suppressing his sadness and grief
though; his anger toward his parents and siblings for denying him prevented him from learning to deal
with his emotions in a productive way. By recognizing this, he began the process of healing.
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Amputation
Whether accidental or surgical, amputation is a physical manifestation of our failure to acknowledge
the part we played in a traumatic or tragic life experience. See blame, denial, martyr, self-
righteousness, victim. If amputation was accidental, see accident proneness. If amputation was
surgical, see contributing physical condition(s)
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Ambiguous genitalia
Can occur as a life lesson for those who may have - in a previous existence - made less-than-
considerate choices for someone in their care who was fully dependent. See birth abnormalities and
genetic disorders, required life experiences and What is karma?
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Amyloidosis
Feeling like a prisoner in our life situation. See enlarged tongue, rheumatoid arthritis, tuberculosis,
victim
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Andropause
Major physical life change that can create challenges to our self-esteem. Can show how well or poorly
we adapt to change. Can help us better understand the challenges facing adolescents as they
experience puberty, or the physical challenges facing females throughout life (see compassion).
Combining medical treatment with meditating to understand and resolve the spiritual component of
the physical issues arising, can reduce frequency, severity and duration of symptoms. See hormones
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Aneurysm
Chronic refusal to accept that our negative beliefs are based in fantasy rather than Universal Truth
Abdominal aortic
Inability to get past a shameful incident that shattered our belief of who we are and what we stand for
Brain
Obsessively repeating a lie to self, hoping that if we say it often enough, we will become able to accept
it as truth
Thoracic aortic
Unable or unwilling to admit to self that we made mistakes that harmed our loved ones
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Ankles
Represent self-assurance or lack thereof
Issues that can arise
Arthritis
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Regretting a recent life choice and wanting - yet not wanting - to change it back (indecision)
Dislocation
Lack of spiritual stability and faith that we are doing what is right for us
Fat or swollen
Overcompensating for a perceived weakness
Ganglion cyst
Pattern of denying our true calling, both to self and to anyone who will listen
Sprains
Trying to force self into making an important decision or taking an important step, but resisting
Strains
Unable to choose the best course of action
Subluxation
Not knowing which way to turn or where to look for guidance or assistance
Weak
Fear of having to be independent; lack of trust in self
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Anniversary illnesses
Physical symptoms and/or new traumatic situations that arise as the anniversary date of past
unresolved traumatic events approaches. See seasonal affective disorder, seasonal hay fever, Why do
we get sick?
Change the pattern: Meditate to find the triggering event(s) and then do the spiritual exercises in
Section 9 to gain resolution and release
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Armpits
Represent our comfort or lack thereof with open, honest communication with self and/or others. See
arms, shoulders
Issues that can arise
Cancer
Heart
Infection
Intertrigo
Pain
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Broken
Wanting a solid, visible reason to be excused from commitments we wish we had not made. See
elbow, humerus, radius, shoulder, ulna, wrist
Pain
Unable or unwilling to carry the load
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Arthritis (or osteoarthritis)
Over-compensating for a perceived weakness in a particular area. Can develop after a joint has been
injured, but releasing anger and blame for the injury can help to prevent it from forming
Acromioclavicular or AC joint
Carrying negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions about the burdens we bear. See cartilage
Ankles
Chronic self-doubt
Bone spurs
Physical outcome of chronic lack of forgiveness, whether of self or others
Feet
Emotional pain from past experiences that has not yet been released (habitual lack of forgiveness for
self and others). Every new emotional injury adds to the buildup. See affected toe, knuckles
Fingers
Placing excessive importance on what others are doing wrong (judgment, criticism, and
condemnation). Lots of finger-pointing. Fear that all that needs to be done will not get done in time.
See affected finger, knuckles
Gout
Denying our habitual anger with a parent or other authority figure. See legacy family pattern
Hips
Inability to move forward for fear of leaving someone or something behind, of being left behind, or of
becoming useless. Unable or unwilling to release out-dated belief systems
Knees
Distrust in our ability to recover from defeat or loss. Habitually living in victim mode, always fearing the
next offense. See knee problems, fear of invasion
Neck
Over-compensating for a lack of belief in self
Psoriatic
Habitually alternating self-condemnation with self-indulgence. Pattern stems from our caregiver(s)
having been alternatingly, and unpredictably, too harsh/too loving. Our immune system becomes out
of balance as a result of not knowing whether to expect cruelty or kindness from those around us, and
over-compensates with self-protection - just in case. See psoriasis

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Reactive
Concealing our true reaction to a threat to our self-esteem. Since symptoms may not start until from
one to four weeks after the triggering event, it can be challenging to recall the thought. Try to recall
what was happening at the time of the initial infection anyway, because the information will assist the
healing process
Rheumatoid
Unable to accept that we are ok. Belief that we are bad or unworthy because after all, that is what we
were raised to believe. Chronic griping about what everyone else is doing, saying and/or thinking in the
hope that people will see our goodness. Anger, guilt, shame, victim
Shoulders
Belief that we are indispensable, or belief that we are carrying a heavier load than everyone else. See
bronchitis, bunions
Spine (Ankylosing spondylitis )
Firmly held, fundamental belief about a specific subject that is based in untruth and illogic, and of
course that means that everybody else's belief is wrong, wrong, wrong. See self-righteousness
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Autism spectrum disorder
Beyond the physical aspect of this complex disorder, there are many spiritual components to be
considered. Family history and behavioural patterns must be examined, along with the spiritual
learning requirements of the family unit and those of the affected individual. Spiritual success is
measured by the degree to which love manifests. See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, karma,
reincarnation, required life experiences
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Back
Represents whether we feel supported in life. See bones, skeleton, spinal column, vertebrae
Issues that can arise
Back pain
Feeling alone, unsupported and at risk of harm
Upper
Fear of invasion or of what the future holds, dread, distrust
Middle
Inability to solve a current problem and belief that no one can or will help
Lower
Fear of abandonment, chronic avoidance of dealing with painful issues. Living a lie
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Beckwith Wiedemann syndrome
The child has joined the family to experience what it is like to be reliant on the good will of one's
caregivers. Whether the soul encounters kindness or cruelty, there is tremendous opportunity for
spiritual growth
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Bile ducts
Represent our ability or willingness to express strong emotions and/or forgive anyone, including self
Issues that can arise
Blocked
See symptoms: abdominal pain (upper right side), fever, itching, jaundice, nausea and/or vomiting,
dark urine
Cancer
Hating self for living the lie that brought our success, but unwilling to let it go and reveal the truth.
Feeling justified in holding onto it because after all, everyone else is just as 'bad' as us. See gallbladder,
liver
Stones
Obsessively worrying about what others are thinking about us or our choices but wanting no argument
or discussion about it because whatever we think is truth, right?
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Birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Physical manifestation of unresolved spiritual issues within the affected individual if congenital, or
within the parental or family relationship if genetic.

Souls enter human form to reflect or amplify the spiritual condition of the family, in conjunction with
the individual's learning requirements. We may experience an extremely short or long life. We could be
sent in to become a physician to minister to those in need, just as easily as we could be sent in to
become one who is in need. Only the Universal Intelligence knows what is truly required for our
spiritual advancement. See What is a legacy family pattern?, Required life experiences, What is
karma?, What is reincarnation?
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Birthmarks
Represent unresolved issue(s) from prior lifetimes, or from legacy family patterns existing in the
current family. The child will seek to learn the ways in which their caregivers deal with strong
emotions. It may be hard to believe that babies and children could have the capacity to understand
such concepts, but since this condition arises from past life experiences, we must allow that while the
baby may not yet have language skills, its soul has vast intelligence. See birth abnormalities and genetic
disorders
Types
Infantile hemangioma
The unresolved issue(s) may arise from the way in which the soul left a prior incarnation, possibly
through a violent injury, whether inflicted by self or another, whether accidentally or intentionally. It
would be beneficial to be patient and tolerant with the child, teaching by example rather than, "Do as I
say and not as I do"

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Nevus simplex (angel kiss, stork bite or salmon patch)
The child will seek to learn the ways in which their caregivers react to events that cause them (the
parents) to behave erratically or unpredictably
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Bladder
Represents patience and tolerance for self with expression of our needs or strong emotions
Issues that can arise
Bladder problems
Lack of patience , fear of expression of strong emotions. See urinary tract infections
Cancer
Obsessed with the injustices one has suffered (lack of forgiveness). Unwilling to take responsibility for
self, yet feeling forced into accepting it
Infection
Avoidance, ashamed of and/or hating self for being unable to stop having strong emotions
Inflammation
Anger (pissed off) and unwillingness to express it because they should already know
Interstitial cystitis
Unable to relax and fully trust that everything is ok
Leaky
Unable to deal with life's many little frustrations without getting angry
Overactive
Fear of being left out or forgotten (this condition can often create that exact situation). See distrust,
fear of abandonment, pelvic floor dysfunction
Polyps
Trying to conceal strong emotions or withhold expression of our needs
Prolapsed
Not knowing when to hold onto or let go of emotional baggage, and unable to stop thinking about it all
Vesicoureteral reflux
If acquired
Unable or unwilling to fully express strong emotions due to fear that the core issue causing them
may be revealed. See ectopic kidney
If from birth
Legacy family pattern of wanting, yet fearing, expressions of strong emotions like anger or grief. See
birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
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Blood
Substance that transports the vibrations of our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires to
each component of our physical body. Can represent our innermost desires, or can be a message that
someone is behaving like a victim or martyr
Issues that can arise
Anemia
Giving up. Feeling powerless and angry that everyone else seems to have so much power. See blame,
victim
Sickle cell anemia
Legacy family pattern resulting from believing that the members are unworthy of anything good in
life, period. See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, What is legacy guilt?
Thalassemia
Legacy family pattern resulting from repeated losses and failures or lack of success, leading family
members to perceive themselves as "less than" everyone else. See birth abnormalities and genetic
disorders, victim
Cancer (leukemia)
Represents our beliefs about the Universe, our place in it, and our right to exist, that are incorrect and
impossible due to the true nature of the Universal Intelligence. In children, can be a reflection of
parental beliefs or a karmic situation
Sounds like: “The Universe is out to get me.” See fear of retribution, unconditional love
Cholesterol
Represents our ability to recognize that which is helpful or harmful for our health, and to maintain
appropriate boundaries over our impulses, choices and actions
High cholestero l
Believing self to be the good person who never acts out of malice (self-righteousness). Nothing is ever
quite good enough (criticism). Nothing ever works out quite right (victim). Never receiving recognition
for our many supposed sacrifices (martyr). No joy in life. Check out this article from SciTechDaily
"Childhood abuse linked to higher risk for high cholesterol..."
Low choles terol
Unable to withstand the pressures of wanting to do what we want to do, even though it can harm us.
See contributing physical and/or spiritual conditions: anemia, anxiety, birth abnormalities and genetic
disorders, cancer, depression, liver disease like hepatitis (C), malabsorption syndrome, malnutrition
(see digestion, eating disorders), feeling like a martyr or victim, thyroid issues
Hematoma
Note: Does not refer to those with physical conditions that can cause excessive bruising. See
hemophilia
Difficulty in processing a recent emotional blow to our ego or self-esteem. Chronic bruising can
indicate a need for sympathetic attention, or a desire to paint oneself as a poor, defenseless victim.
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Hemochromatosis
Belief that we are carrying a far heavier load in life than we deserve, and that it is far heavier than
anyone else must carry. See diabetes, heart problems, liver disease
Hereditary
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Juvenile
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Neonatal
See autoimmune diseases
Sec on d ar y
See anemia, chronic liver disease
Hemophilia
Family pattern resulting from a fear of retribution. See legacy guilt
Pyroluria
Actively taking steps to harm others that somehow always end up hurting self. Self-imposed state of
victim-hood
If acquired
See chaos
If from birth
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, legacy family pattern
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Blood clots
While physical injury can cause so-called "good" blood clots, the spiritual component of abnormal
blood clots is one's system overreacting to spiritual injury, self-inflicted or not. The following factors
and/or serious conditions are associated with abnormal blood clots:
Antiphospholipid syndrome - primary
Feeling threatened by impending change
Antiphospholipid syndrome - secondary
Chronic fear of being attacked
Arteriosclerosis / Atherosclerosis
Unable or unwilling to "go with the flow". Arguing with anyone who challenges our authority, because
we know best - about everything
Certain medications
See hormone imbalance, breast cancer, side effects, Why do we get sick ...?
Deep vein thrombosis
Profound desire to make everyone drop whatever they are doing to help us, because we are unwilling
to actually do anything ourselves . Crippling desire to make everyone else as miserable as self. Look to
the condition or the belief that is causing inactivity. See phlebitis

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Factor V Leiden
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Family history of blood clots
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders and Is there hope that I won't develop any of the
diseases that my parents had?
Heart arrhythmia
Unable or unwilling to submit to a routine or schedule for fear of appearing weak
Heart failure
Unable to withstand the pressures of pretending to be successful while feeling like a failure. See
arteriosclerosis, high blood pressure
Hiatal hernia
Living in an overly controlled environment; too much pressure to follow rules and live up to others'
expectations. Anger, repression, suppression
Obesity/Overweight
Trying to cover up shameful secrets. Unable or unwilling to express strong emotions. Habitually using
food as a reward, or as an excuse to avoid meeting responsibilities or dealing with issues. See
addiction, arrogance, survivor’s guilt
Peripheral artery disease
Unable or unwilling to be cooperative, as a way to ensure that others feel subservient and see us as an
authority figure. See possible contributing spiritual factors: arrogance, control, defiance. See possible
contributing physical factors: atherosclerosis, Raynaud's disease
Phlebitis
Fury over our inability to control everyone and everything. Chronic refusal to simply let go and trust.
Crippling desire to make everyone else as miserable as self. See deep vein thrombosis
Polycythemia vera
Overcompensating for a lack of joy in our life. See blood cancer
Pregnancy
Holding a negative belief about pregnancy, childbirth or our ability to be a good parent
Prolonged sitting or bed rest
Look to the condition or the belief that is causing inactivity
Pulmonary embolism
Stubborn refusal to budge - on anything - ever - unless there is absolutely no other option than to
concede. Chronic need to be in charge. Viciously critical and quick to condemn. Unwilling to forgive
others yet desperate to have everyone's approval. Expecting that everyone will just go along with us
because they know we will make life miserable for them if they do not
Smoking
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Emotional and cognitive inability to process a difficult experience that occurred prior to the stroke.
Feeling strong emotions about it and either bursting to express our thoughts about it and frustrated
with being unable to describe everything accurately, or forcing ourselves to bury the secret and never
speak of it again
Surgery
Look to the physical condition that necessitated the surgery
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Blood pressure
Represents temperament, self-control and how we deal with stress
Issues that can arise
High
Constant anger and frustration, even if not voiced aloud. Always waiting for something bad to happen.
See anxiety, atherosclerosis, distress, distrust, fear, heart failure, kidney problems, stress, stroke,
victim, worry
Low
Chronic sorrow, even if not voiced aloud. Feeling helpless (“I want my daddy”) or even giving up on life.
See Addison's disease, anaphylaxis, anemia, septic shock, thyroid issues, vitamin deficiency
Orthostatic hypertensio n
Unable or unwilling to just slow down due to wanting not to miss out on getting the things that
everyone else appears to be getting. See self-esteem, and know that, in life, whatever is truly required
for our soul’s ultimate good will be provided
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Blood vessels
Represent an information highway upon which travel our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and
desires
Issues that can arise
Peripheral vascular disease (or peripheral artery disease)
Unable or unwilling to be cooperative, as a way to ensure that others feel subservient and see us as an
authority figure. See possible contributing spiritual factors: arrogance, control, defiance. See possible
contributing physical factors: atherosclerosis, Raynaud's disease
Small vessel disease - Heart
Unable or unwilling to trust that all is well. See possible contributing spiritual factors: chronic distress,
distrust, fear, worry. See possible contributing physical factors: birth abnormalities and genetic
disorders, diabetes, high cholesterol
Telangiectasia
Belief that life is dangerous. Can place us in a state of hyper vigilance (or "fight or flight" state)
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 Can result from unresolved trauma. See affected area of the body plus autoimmune diseases, birth
abnormalities and genetic disorders, liver disease, lupus, pregnancy, scleroderma, spider veins,
varicose veins
If from birth
Can result from a life-ending trauma in a prior incarnation or from a family pattern
Spider veins
Wishing we were someplace - anyplace - else, or with someone - anyone - else, and feeling stuck in the
planning process to bring change
Varicose veins
Wishing we were someplace - anyplace - else, or with someone - anyone - else, but unable or unwilling
to do anything about it (victim)
Vascular dementia (or Cerebral small vessel disease )
Unable or unwilling to acknowledge our role in our painful life experiences. See possible contributing
spiritual factors: chronic distress, distrust, fear, worry. See possible contributing physical factors: birth
abnormalities and genetic disorders, diabetes, high cholesterol, stroke
Vasculitis
Angry thoughts, chronic feelings of self-righteous indignation or feeling like a martyr or a victim. See
possible physical contributing factors: birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, side effects, blood
cancer, infection (hepatitis B or C), autoimmune diseases such as rheumatoid arthritis, lupus or
scleroderma that may trigger attacks on blood vessels. See complications that can arise: aneurysm,
blood clots, vision loss or blindness, pneumonia, sepsis
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Body odour
Note: This does not refer to those who have limited access to bathing or laundry facilities.
Excessive body odour can be a form of silent rebellion. Can begin as an act of spite. Withholding
approval, lack of respect for others or self
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Bone marrow
Represents our ability to maintain firmness of purpose. See lymphatic system
Issues that can arise
Leukemia
Sickle cell anemia
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Bones
Represent our spiritual infrastructure of belief systems. See broken bones, skeleton, spinal column,
vertebrae
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Physical outcome of chronic lack of forgiveness, whether of self or others
Cancer
Belief that is not based in Universal Truth, that we are unlovable and therefore unloved (in children,
can be a reflection of parental beliefs). See leukemia, unconditional love
Osteogenesis Imperfecta
Parents’ unrecognized issue of having - or not having - faith in a loving God or a similarly impactful
belief that forms the foundation on which the child will stand or fall. See birth abnormalities and
genetic disorders
Osteomyelitis
Fear that we are alone and unsupported and incapable of supporting self. See infection
Osteoporosis
A cherished belief is found to be untrue and a positive replacement seems impossible to find. Can be a
loss of our faith in a loving God), a crumbling spiritual infrastructure, fragile or unsound beliefs or
fragile spiritual health
Paget’s disease
Deep regret for not having done more in our life and wishing to go back and do it over
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Bowel
Represents our ability to release that which is no longer needed
Issues that can arise
Anal fissure
Blaming someone for pressuring us to hurry up and perform but not seeing that the pressure - the
stress - comes from our own need to win their approval
Inflammatory bowel disease
See Crohn's disease, ulcerative colitis
Irritable bowel syndrome (IBS)
Constipation
Greed, trying to hold onto everything, wanting the best of everything. Withholding approval of self
or another. Control, defiance of authority figures, denial. Stuck in the past - trying to hold onto it,
yet wanting to change it. Withholding forgiveness. Can indicate co-dependent relationships
Diarrhea
Wanting to hurry into the future, yet afraid to let go of the past. Condemnation, distress, fear. If a
baby or toddler has the condition, can indicate that someone is trying to make them hurry up and
get going. See stress
Loose bowel
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Complete and utter despair, and unable or unwilling to take any steps to make changes that would
help to change circumstances
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Brain
The brain is the soul’s wheelhouse during physical incarnation; the pineal gland is its helm, and the
pituitary and hypothalamus glands are its commanders. The brain is the first place in the human body
to react physically to our thoughts, attitudes and emotions. From there, signals are sent to the nerves
in the spinal column and from there, to the area of the body that is affected by each particular
thought, attitude or emotion
Issues that can arise
Abscess
Obsessive nasty, poisonous thoughts about a specific person, place or thing, See infection
Akathisia
Can be triggered by antipsychotic drugs used to treat mental illness. See birth abnormalities and
genetic disorders as a genetic predisposition may play a role in the condition.

Akathisia can also be triggered by medications used to treat any of the following conditions: ADHD,
anxiety, depression, encephalitis, insomnia, nausea and/or vomiting, traumatic brain injury. See
movement disorders
Amusia
Can result from traumatic brain injury as well as unresolved emotional trauma
Amygdala
Represents our ability to react to our life experiences with emotions appropriate to the situation
Enlarged
Unable or unwilling to self-soothe. See anxiety, autism spectrum disorder, depression, hyper
vigilance, hypochondria, self-mutilation, stress
Change the pattern: Meditate and practice doing the self-esteem exercise
Hijack
Unable or unwilling to accept responsibility for our actions when we feel strong emotions, and
habitually using our strong emotions as an excuse to behave irresponsibly
Change the pattern: Meditate and practice doing the self-esteem exercise
Aneurysm
Obsessively repeating a lie to self, hoping that if we say it often enough, we will become able to accept
it as truth
Anosognosia
Unlike denial, where we know we have a personal or medical issue but refuse to acknowledge it, this
condition prevents us from being able to recognize that we have a medical issue. See stroke, traumatic
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Aphantasia
Karmic condition resulting from past life inability or unwillingness to trust self, due to having made
catastrophic or life-ending choices. Can create a need in the current lifetime for others to tell us what
to do. See co-dependent relationships
Change the pattern: Meditate and practice doing the self-esteem exercise
Aphasia
Firm belief that the Universal Intelligence is punishing us (or that we should be punished) for all the
horrible things we have said and done. See stroke, traumatic brain injury, guilt, shame, unconditional
love
Change the pattern: Meditate and practice doing these spiritual exercises: Apologizing and releasing
guilt, Guilt-buster, Forgiveness, Grieving
Aphasia - Palilalia
Extreme fear that stating our opinion - all of it - will inadvertently cause something horrible to
happen (similar to believing the superstition that stepping on a crack - even accidentally - will break
our mother’s back). See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, Tourette syndrome
Ataxia
If acquired

See contributing conditions or factors:

Autoimmune diseases such as multiple sclerosis, sarcoidosis, celiac disease
Brain abnormalities such as abscess or tumour
Cancers such as lung, ovarian, breast or lymphatic system
Cerebral palsy
COVID-19
Head trauma
Infections such as chickenpox, HIV, Lyme disease
Side effects from certain medications or substances
Stroke
Thyroid problems
Vitamin deficiency

If from birth
Legacy family pattern of parents enforcing strict control over their children due to fear of losing
them and their services. See fear of abandonment
Cancer
Firm belief in our own badness (chronic self-condemnation). Extreme regret over something we have
done or not done, and this may set up a karmic situation
Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease - Mad cow disease
Stubbornly-held core belief based in untruth
Spontaneous (sporadic)

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 Firm belief in a false story that developed from our negative reactions to life experiences. Any
attempt by others to question or challenge the belief is met with firm (and possibly explosive) anger
and refusal to consider any other possibilities
Familial (inherited)
Firmly believing a false truth that our caregivers repeatedly reinforced in a negative way, that they
believed was nurturing
Iatrogenic
(contamination through medical or dental procedures)
Belief that medicine alone is capable of, and is responsible for, repairing any bodily damage, illness
or injury sustained through life experiences
Variant (contamination through eating beef infec ted with the abnormal prion
protein)
A crippling inaccurate belief is intertwined with our identity
Dementia
Progressive inability to function within the boundaries of the lies we tell self and others about the type
of person we are or were. See Alzheimer’s disease, Huntington's disease, Parkinson's disease
Encephalitis
Primary
Processing poisonous thoughts. Wanting to release them yet fearing that they may be true
Secondary
A recent experience has re-triggered poisonous thoughts that we have not yet completely released
because they may be true
Epilepsy - Seizure
Represents inability or unwillingness to cope with being told, "No". See birth abnormalities and genetic
disorders, psychogenic non-epileptic seizure
Focal seizures
Frontal lo be seizures
Unwilling to focus on the matter at hand and wanting to escape the situation. See defiance
Occipital lo be seizures
Unable to cope with an overly emotional situation and desperate to change the subject. Feeling
trapped
Temporal lobe seizures
Feeling frustrated because it seems like no one ever agrees with us. See victim
Generalized seizures
Absence
Feeling extremely vulnerable ("I want my mommy!"). Trying to "seize" someone's attention. Anger,
fear
Atonic

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 Fear that we will never get to the place we want to be, which is anywhere but where we are right
now
Clonic
Desperate to divert attention from the matter at hand
Myoclonic
Lost in thought about all the things we would rather do than 'this', or all the places we would rather
be than 'here'
Tonic
Deeply disturbed with the current situation and giving up on trying to change it, because no one
ever listens to us anyways
Tonic-Clonic
Deeply disturbed with the current situation, but unwilling, or feeling unable, to do anything about it.
Feeling trapped
Face blindness (Prosopagnosia)
If acquired
See contributing conditions or factors:
ADHD
Autism spectrum disorder
Stroke
Traumatic brain injury
If from birth
Legacy family pattern of generations of children being left alone for extended periods, whether
through parental choice or by unforeseen circumstances. See birth abnormalities and genetic
disorders, fear of abandonment
Functional neurological disorder/conversion disorder
Sudden unrecognized fear or belief that something must be wrong with us personally. Such thoughts
can become obsessive worry which can actually alter our brain function
Change the pattern: Check out Spiritual decluttering and learn to hear and identify your thoughts, so
that you can change them
Huntington's disease
Legacy family pattern of withholding critical pieces of information from those asking questions. Desire
for the questioner to "suffer as I have suffered". Subtle form of torture that aims to keep the question-
asker under control. See greed, lying, revenge, spite, birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Sounds like: "If you don't know, I'm not going to be the one tell you." "Wouldn't you like to know."
Change the pattern: If someone asks a question, tell the whole truth and resist the urge to hold back
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Hydrocephalus
Unable or unwilling to be at peace with the ebb and flow of emotions arising from life experiences. See
birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, infection, meningitis, mumps, traumatic brain injury,
traumatic events
Normal pressure
Unable or unwilling to be at peace with having caused big trouble for others
Obstruc tive
Blocking the flow of emotions arising from life experiences
Intracranial pressure
Represents our ability to balance doing that which we want to do with that which we are asked to do,
without feeling grief or guilt. See self-esteem
High
If due to nervous system issues: Unable or unwilling to pay attention to our thoughts, and to honour
our better intentions by doing what is right
If due to other contributing conditions, see brain aneurysm, brain tumour, encephalitis,
hydrocephalus, traumatic brain injury
Low
If spontaneous: Fear that our deepest darkest secret will be revealed for all to see... that we believe
we are not good enough.
If due to other contributing conditions: see birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, spinal cord
injuries, trauma
Meningitis
Our home and/or work environment is infuriating and there is no way to change it. Fearing that
protection from it is impossible and it is only a matter of time until we become just like them (self-
righteousness)
Progressive supranuclear palsy
Frustrated desire to be in control and feeling that everyone else has it all - in other words, feeling like a
victim. Feeling that God has singled us out to punish us for something we have done that we believe is
an unforgivable sin that everyone does. Unwilling to acknowledge our error and seething suppressed
anger, guilt, shame, self-hatred
Psychogenic non-epileptic seizure
Unconsciously holding self back from reaching out for assistance in processing traumatic life
experiences
Contributing spiritual factors: Anxiety, distress, embarrassment, shame
Contributing physical factors: PTSD, somatic symptom disorder, traumatic life experiences
Change the pattern: Meditate to identify the trauma(s) and the thought patterns arising from it so that
they can be resolved and released. See Spiritual decluttering
Reversal of vision metamorphopsia
Sudden, shocking fear that we may be overlooking something vitally important, or that things may not
be as we believed or perceived. See stroke, traumatic brain injury, vertigo

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Sensory processing disorder
Difficulty in accepting that we are in a physical body. The soul may have left its previous life experience
in a traumatic way, or this may be the soul's first incarnation in human form
Synaesthesia - Mirror-touch
If acquired
Results from the Universe cooperating with the soul's profound desire to feel
If from birth
Karmic condition given in accordance with the soul's need to experience that all in physical form
have feelings and experience pleasure and pain, not just self
Synaesthesia - Visuo-spatial / Odour-colour
Karmic condition enabled by the soul's desire to assist in building humanity's understanding of, and
capacity for, experiencing life in physical form
Traumatic brain injury
Chronic
Placing self in situations where repetitive brain injuries occur, can indicate feeling extreme guilt that
requires punishment. See accident proneness
One-time
Profound challenge presented in accordance with the soul’s learning path. See required life
experiences
Tumour
Obsessive negative thought patterns that eventually manifest in physical within the brain
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Breast
Represents nurturing and kindness - either need for, lack of or provision of. See mammary glands
Issues that can arise
Cancer
There are more than 80 types of breast cancer, hence the spiritual component can be any or all of the
following factors: Taking on a persona that we feel was thrust upon us by others or by negative life
experiences. Belief that how we treat self and others is nurturing, when it is not. Nursing grudges
(resentment). Needing to mother or be mothered. Feeling unloved or unlovable. Living with the
constant threat of someone's emotional abuse, feeling responsible for it when it happens, and feeling
unable to stand up for self. Appreciating self for saying, "No" to an abuser, yet still wanting the abuser
to somehow magically change into a good person (control). Longing to be loved and appreciated,
craving everyone's positive attention
Fibrocystic breast disease
Tired of having to deal with the same old stuff every month and aching for change but not knowing
how to make it happen
Implant illness
Fear of retribution or fear of looking stupid for having made the wrong choice - again. See chronic
confusion, chronic fatigue, memory loss, skin rash, joint pain
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Change the pattern: Meditate to learn your reason(s) for needing approval from others. See self-
esteem
Inverted nipple
Fear of being unable to nurture ‘correctly’ or refusal to provide nurturing
Itchy
Unrecognized need to nurture or a sudden need to be nurtured
Lactostasis
Can result from fearing failure or success, anger at having to be responsible, and/or a pattern of silent
rebellion against authority figures
Mastitis
Either over-nurturing, feeling over-nurtured, or angry about having to over-nurture someone who
really should not need so much support
Periductal mas titis
Resenting those whom we feel forced into nurturing
Pain
Aching to nurture or to be nurtured. Fear of being alone or having to fend for self. Signal that trouble
may be brewing within the family
Pimples between breasts
Irritation with our mother, even if not alive
Size
Although not a problem as such, beast size creates much turmoil for our lives no matter our gender.
The most important consideration in breast size (or any part of the physical body) is our thought
patterns. Some people with breasts sized larger than their frame might suggest can be either very
nurturing or kind, or very cold and cruel. The opposite also holds true, some with smaller breasts than
their frame might suggest can be among the kindest, most nurturing - or coldest, cruelest - people. If
someone has smaller breasts and gains a substantial amount of weight, their breasts might get bigger,
but that would not necessarily mean that their thought patterns had changed. Likewise, someone with
larger breasts might have reduction surgery, and their thought patterns may or may not have changed
at all. But the breasts do represent nurturing and kindness, so if problems arise, the place to start
looking for the spiritual component of the issue would be our nurturing and kindness, either need for,
lack thereof, or provision of. Do we receive enough nurturing? Are we kind to others? Do we feel
worthy of receiving kindness or nurturing? Do we provide others with care and consideration?
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Broken bones
Habitually thinking, “Give me a break” (victim, judgment, criticism, condemnation ). Time for a break
with the old days or the old ways but unwilling to let go of the past
Ankle
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Wanting a solid, visible reason to be excused from commitments we wish we had not made. See
elbow, humerus, radius, ulna, wrist
Back (spine)
See spinal column, vertebrae
Chin
Shattered self-confidence due to a recent life-changing experience
Collar bone
Represents our ability to maintain self-esteem. If broken, a recent choice or event has made us
question our ethics, morals and values
Elbow
Knowing it is time to change our attitude toward our mate or career but stubbornly refusing
Femur
Terror at the thought of having to support oneself
Fibula
Extreme disappointment that someone or something we believed was reliable and sturdy has failed
Fingers
Sudden realization of an incorrect belief in a particular area. See affected finger
Foot
Wishing for a troubling situation to change but unable / unwilling to do anything to make the change
happen
Hand
A recent decision has created unforeseen, unfavourable repercussions
Hip
Anger over being forced to change because of changes that occurred that were beyond our control.
See victim
Humerus
Feeling compelled to do it all, without considering the consequences for self or others
Jaw
Fear that a recent decision or event is going to have disastrous consequences
Knee
Feeling at risk of being publicly humiliated
Leg
Fear that a recent decision was horribly wrong or that a recent negative experience proves our inability
to navigate life. See femur, fibula, tibia
Nose
A recent experience left us feeling exposed and vulnerable but we have done nothing to protect self
from threats. See victim
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Ocular or orbital fracture
New information from a credible source is causing us to question a core belief. If found to be Truth, it
could mean having to reconsider our life choices. See Why do we ... have accidents?
Osteogenesis Imperfecta
Parents’ unrecognized issue of having faith in a loving God, or lack thereof, or a similarly impactful
belief that forms the foundation on which the child will stand or fall. See birth abnormalities and
genetic disorders
Osteoporosis
A cherished belief is found to be untrue and a positive replacement seems impossible to find. Can be a
loss of our faith in a loving God), a crumbling spiritual infrastructure, fragile or unsound beliefs or
fragile spiritual health
Radius
Unable or unwilling to grasp the potential negative impact of our actions
Ribs
Too much self-imposed pressure to out-do all others. See individual vertebra, sternum
Shoulder
Trying to do anything and everything that is necessary to gain everyone’s approval
Skull
A recent emotionally traumatic event has created the need to reassess our life including relationships,
career, hobbies, education - in short, everything. See Paget’s disease
Spine (back) and vertebrae
See affected vertebra
Sternum
Sudden alert that things cannot go on as they have been. See Why do we ... have accidents?
Tibia
Fear that our strongest support will be ripped away from us
Toes
Sudden realization of a painful fact in a particular area. Habitually thinking, “Give me a break” (victim,
judgment, criticism, condemnation). Time for a break with the old days or the old ways but not willing
to let go of the past. . See affected toe
Ulna
Unable or unwilling to accept that our role in the family is under threat
Wrist
Wanting life to have new meaning yet fear of the unknown, and so wanting to delay the inevitable
changes that life brings
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Bruises
Note: Does not refer to those with physical conditions that can cause excessive bruising. See
hemophilia
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indicate a need for sympathetic attention, or a desire to paint oneself as a poor, defenseless victim.
See accident proneness
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Burns and fires
Anger, guilt, self-punishment, desperate for sympathetic attention or recognition
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Bursitis
Represents inflexibility
Elbow
Complaining that others are not doing enough, yet we are unwilling to do our fair share
Finger
Unable or unwilling to adapt to unexpected changes in our work. See affected finger
Heel
False belief about our childhood is making it difficult to walk our life path with joy
Hip
Anger and distress about the constant changes that life brings
Knee
Anger about feeling unprotected
Shoulder
Unvented explosive anger and resentment
Toe
Unable or unwilling to adapt to unexpected changes on our life’s path. .See affected toe
Wrist
Self-condemnation over belief that we are failing at our chosen work
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Cancer
Represents obsessive/compulsive negative thoughts about a specific subject
Adrenal glands
Severe erosion of our faith in human decency after being on the receiving end of harsh criticism, even
though we are extremely critical and judgmental. Attitude that says, “It is only all right for me to be
honest”
Armpit
Desperate to hide a dirty secret and living in constant fear of it being exposed
Basal cell carcinoma
Holding onto a spiritual wound that we are unable or unwilling to acknowledge or deal with. See
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Bile duct
Hating self for living the lie that brought our success, but unwilling to let it go and reveal the truth.
Feeling justified in holding onto it because after all, everyone else is just as 'bad' as us. See gallbladder,
liver
Bladder
Obsessed with the injustices we have suffered (lack of forgiveness). Unwilling to take responsibility for
self, yet feeling forced into accepting it
Blood
Beliefs about the Universe, our place in it, and our right to exist, that are incorrect and impossible due
to the true nature of the Universal Intelligence. In children, can be a reflection of parental beliefs or a
karmic situation
Sounds like: “The Universe is out to get me.” See fear of retribution, leukemia, unconditional love
Bone
Belief that is not based in Universal Truth: That we are unlovable and therefore unloved. In children,
can be a reflection of parental beliefs. See leukemia, unconditional love
Brain
Firm belief that “I am bad” (chronic self-condemnation). Extreme regret over what we have and have
not done
Breast
There are more than 80 types of breast cancer, hence the many possible spiritual components. Can be
any or all of the following factors: Taking on a persona that we feel was thrust upon us by others or by
negative life experiences. Belief that how we treat self and others is nurturing, when it is not. Nursing
grudges (resentment). Needing to mother or be mothered. Feeling unloved or unlovable. Living with
the constant threat of someone's emotional abuse, feeling responsible for it when it happens, and
feeling unable to stand up for self. Appreciating self for saying, "No" to an abuser, yet still wanting the
abuser to somehow magically change into a good person (control). Longing to be loved and
appreciated, craving everyone's positive attention
Cervix
Obsessive/compulsive thoughts about the child (or children) that one could have/should have or
should not have birthed
Choroidal melanoma
Focusing on a fault or flaw in someone (could be self, another, or humanity at large) and believing that
they cannot/will not ever change. Resigned to living with what we see as permanent imperfection,
rather than taking steps to change our opinion
Colon
Holding onto every little hurt and making sure that everyone knows we are wounded. Each new
offense adds to the burden and strengthens our resolve to not do anything about it
Gallbladder
Poisonous thoughts that have infiltrated our beliefs about life and the process of living, and hating self
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Processing our life experiences with a chronic “poor me” attitude (victim)
Leptomeningeal carcinomatosis
Negative thought patterns originating in the brain that have manifested physically in tumour cells (see
breast cancer, lung cancer, melanoma), that create a deadly feedback loop within the body
Leukemia
Represents our beliefs about the Universe, our place in it, and our right to exist, that are incorrect and
impossible due to the true nature of the Universal Intelligence. In children, can be a reflection of
parental belief systems or a karmic situation
Sounds like: “The Universe is out to get me.” See fear of retribution, unconditional love
Acute myeloid le ukemia
Sudden suspicion that our childhood fear of God’s wrath and/or retribution is true. While ultimately
in the hands of the Universal Intelligence, justice is always tempered with forgiveness and mercy.
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, karma
Liver
Processing our life experiences with an “everybody else is an idiot and has caused all my problems"
attitude (blame), or "I'm an idiot and everybody else is better than me" (self-condemnation). Deep-
seated, long-standing anger and feeling fully justified in holding onto it. Fear of abandonment. See liver
diseases
Lung
If the individual smokes, look for the real reason for starting to smoke. If the individual has never
smoked, could be a “smothering” attitude (smothering the truth, smothering a loved one, or being
smothered by a loved one, etc.). Is the individual in a co-dependent relationship?
Lymphatic system
Unable or unwilling to forgive self or others. Extreme, chronic resentment that creates the need to
inflict pain on others. Living in emotional turmoil. Victim, seemingly unable to protect self
Lymphoma
Unable or unwilling to pay attention to signals due to feeling that no one really cares about us, or that
we are meant to suffer
Melanoma (skin)
Covering self in a shroud of negativity, can be self-hatred or self-righteousness. Look to the affected
area of the body for understanding
Mesothelioma
Feeling abandoned and/or betrayed by those who are supposed to protect us
Mouth
Chewing on poisonous words. Incorrect beliefs that negatively flavour all of life's experiences
Multiple myeloma
Unacknowledged or unrecognized guilt, shame, blame and grief from our early childhood over
something that we did (or were falsely accused of doing), or regret over something we did not do that
we wish we had done, prevent us from being able to accept all the good that life has to offer. Feelings
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genetic disorders), blood, What is a legacy family pattern?, What is legacy guilt?, Why do we get sick /
suffer injuries / have accidents?
Ovary
Unable or unwilling to let go of the life that could / should have been with the child we could have /
should have had. Fearing that God has forsaken us or is punishing us by not giving us what we want.
Strong belief that something is terribly wrong with us and with anything we create
Pancreas
Chronic need to control everyone and everything, and deep frustration with any imperfection that
might risk our losing anyone's approval. Always feeling second- or third-best
Pleomorphic liposarcoma
Desperate to hide our shameful secrets and living in constant fear that they will be discovered
Prostate
Refusal to accept responsibility for the negativity in our life (blame, victim)
Sinus cavities
Knowing that others are suffering and that we could help, but withholding assistance because after all,
no one ever helped us. They deserve to suffer
Stomach
Eating a spiritual diet filled with sickening thoughts about self, others, God, or the world in which we
live. Chronic distress about our life experience
Testicles
A negative idea or belief about self, others, God, or the world in which we live has formed, and fear of
it manifesting in reality is growing stronger
Throat
Trying to swallow a false story, or trying to feed someone else a false story; living a lie. Feeling stifled.
Chronic choking back of tears or words. Wanting someone to meet our unexpressed emotional needs
Thyroid
Failure to monitor our spoken words to filter out judgment, criticism, or condemnation, believing it is
acceptable to share hurtful information because we think it is truth and they need to hear it
Tongue
Obsessive/compulsive thoughts about how we communicate and connect with others. See human
papillomavirus
Uterus
Obsessive/compulsive thoughts of our failure to create perfection (self-condemnation)
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Cannabinoid hyperemesis syndrome
Thought pattern that demands harsh punishment for the tiniest infraction of our personal standards.
See addiction, bulimia, nausea, perfectionism, self-condemnation
Change the pattern: Do the Forgiveness and How to raise self-esteem exercises

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Cartilage
Represents ability to withstand and recover from shock or trauma. See joints, ligaments, muscles,
tendons
Issues that can arise
Ankylosing spondylitis
Firmly held, fundamental belief about a specific subject that is based in untruth and illogic, and of
course that means that everybody else's belief is wrong, wrong, wrong. See self-righteousness
Arthritis
Over-compensating for a perceived weakness in a particular area. Can develop after a joint has been
injured, but releasing anger and blame over the injury can help to prevent it from forming
Damaged cartilage
Resistance to life changes that cause us to examine our spiritual self
Rheumatoid arthritis
Unable to accept that we are ok. Belief that we are bad or unworthy because after all, that is what we
were raised to believe. Chronic griping about what everyone else is doing, saying and/or thinking in the
hope that people will see our goodness. Anger, guilt, shame, victim
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Cecum
Represents our ability and/or willingness to incorporate our spiritual reactions to our life experiences
into our consciousness. See abdominal distension, abdominal pain, constipation, diarrhea, nausea
and/or vomiting
Issues that can arise
Cancer
See colon cancer
Cecal volvulus
Unable or unwilling to consider that we are not doing everything perfectly and correctly, in spite of
abundant evidence to the contrary
Inflammation
(includes neutropenic enterocolitis, ileocecal syndrome, or cecitis)
See AIDS, cancer, food poisoning, immune system, inflammation
Pain
See diverticulitis
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Cell phone addiction
Is the phone or device being used to avoid talking with the person or people at hand? Does using it give
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Cellulitis
Unrecognized suppression of profound grief and feeling like a victim of, yet also feeling responsible for,
the tragedies in our life. See gangrene, infection, sepsis
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Cerebral palsy
Fear, fear, fear - in both mother and child. Can result from unexpressed or unrecognized explosive
anger in the mother. See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
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Cervix
Represents ability to maintain, manage and sustain creative urges
Issues that can arise
Cancer
Obsessive/compulsive thoughts about the child (or children) that one could have/should have or
should not have birthed
Cervicitis
Anger toward self for stifling our creativity in favour of winning approval from another
Dysplasia
Fear that the joy one gains from creating will fail to provide life-long happiness or fulfillment due to
recent painful experiences
Incompetent
Fear that we will fail to get over the pain of recent or ongoing traumatic events
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Cheeks
Represent emotional vulnerability
Buttocks
Issues can result from hiding our negative thoughts and motives from self. See acne, bruises
Facial cheeks
Issues can result from displeasure and/or chastisement from an authority figure. See acne, rosacea,
embarrassment, shame
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Chickenpox
Wanting to receive the same special considerations as everybody else. See shingles
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Chin
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Broken
Shattered self-confidence because of a recent life-changing experience
Pimples
Taking to heart things that do not concern us personally
Trembling or twitching
Strong urge to express our thoughts or feelings
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Chronic disease
According to the Public Health Agency of Canada, “Chronic diseases, also known as non-communicable
diseases or NCDs, are diseases that are persistent and generally slow in progression which can be
treated but not cured.” By the definition of the U.S. National Center for Health Statistics, “a chronic
disease is one lasting 3 months or more. Chronic diseases generally cannot be prevented by vaccines or
cured by medication, nor do they just disappear.”

According to the Universal Intelligence, the spiritual component of chronic disease is having suffered
unrecognized and therefore unresolved traumatic events. Science is verifying the connection. Watch
this TED Talks video by Dr. Nadine Burke-Harris: How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime
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Chronic fatigue syndrome
Habitual feeling that there is no way to get out of commitments that we felt pressured into accepting
because of our fear of losing someone’s approval if we just say, "No"
Change the pattern: Check out self-esteem
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Clothing choices
Represent either an unspoken need for attention or a desire to be invisible
Note: This category does not refer to those with few clothing choices, or who lack access to laundry
services.
Ill-fitted - Too big
Wanting to hide yet hoping to be seen; wishing for sympathetic attention
Ill-fitted - Too small
Trying to create drama and chaos with self at centre
Inappropriate - Casual
Displays a lack of regard for the things that others respect and/or admire
Inappropriate - Formal
Wanting to escape reality, wanting to not be held responsible
Inappropriate - Revealing
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Loud dresser
Silently begging to be confronted to justify a wish to shout someone down. Defiance
Quiet dresser
Desire to avoid contact or communication of any sort
Soiled
Form of silent rebellion
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Collar bone (clavicle)
Represents ability to maintain self-esteem
Issues that can arise
Acromioclavicular or AC Joint arthritis
Carrying negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions about the burdens we bear. See cartilage
Break
A recent choice or event has made us question our ethics, morals and values
Distal clavicular osteolysis
Unrecognized, consuming belief that we are just not good enough as we are. See self-esteem
Osteomyelitis
Fear that we are alone and unsupported, and incapable of supporting self. See infection
Thoracic outlet syndrome
Carrying a heavy burden of emotional pain and not knowing what to do about it
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Colon
Represents our ability or willingness to let go of that which is no longer needed. See cecum
Issues that can arise
Cancer
Holding onto every little hurt and making sure that everyone knows we are wounded. Each new
offense adds to the burden and strengthens our resolve to not do anything about it
Colitis
Hidden shame and unrecognized guilt eating away at self. See Crohn's disease
Colitis - u lcerative
Taking on responsibility for everyone's negative experiences and feeling the need to be punished for
them
Crohn's disease
Over-reaction to a perceived threat. Always feeling like a victim and blaming anyone except self for our
failures. "I want my Daddy!" See colitis

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Diverticulitis
Blaming others for failing to prevent unpleasant experiences from happening and refusing to forgive
them for it
Fistula
Feeling pressured into taking shortcuts
Polyps
Trying to hold in that which needs to be released
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Common cold
Can occur when we feel trapped into doing too much for others and our efforts are under-appreciated.
Getting a cold seems like the only escape
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Craving
Represents an unrecognized need for loving attention from self, but believing that our own is not
enough to soothe the pain and hurt. We then turn outward to various behaviours or substances for
comfort. See addiction, co-dependent relationships, obsessive/compulsive behaviours, guilt, self-
esteem
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Cysts, lumps and bumps
Convinced that we are not worthy. Period.
Adiposis dolorosa (Dercum’s disease)
Belief or fear that uninhibited expression of our innermost thoughts will lead to disaster . See lipoma
below, affected area and birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, plus autoimmune diseases, brain,
hormonal system
Baker's cyst
Chalazion (eyelid cyst or meibomian cyst)
Ganglion cyst
Pattern of denying our true calling, both to self and to anyone who will listen. See affected area
Lipoma
Physical manifestation of thought patterns that say it is not ok for me to live joyously. See birth
abnormalitie and genetic disorders
See neuroma
Ovarian
Wanting to do or create something that is outside of our realm of experience, but not knowing what it
is or how to bring it into existence. See hormonal problems, pregnancy, endometriosis, pelvic infection
Cystadenomas
Wanting to express our spirituality in a new way
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 Wanting to create something new in the physical world
Endometriomas
Unrecognized desire to stay stuck in the past that makes us want to avoid change, yet craving
change
Pilar cyst
Nurturing worrisome or troublesome issues in our thoughts, rather than actually doing something
about them
Pilonidal cyst
Belief that what we `are’ doing is not what we `should’ be doing, but unable or unwilling to make any
behavioural changes and feeling like a victim
Tumour
Whether cancerous or non-cancerous, obsessive judgmental or critical thoughts about self or others.
See type of cancer or tumour: brain, lacrimal gland, pineal gland, pituitary gland
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Dawdling (behaviour)
Act of revenge designed to annoy someone by delaying doing that which we have been asked to do.
Form of passive/aggressive manipulation often done when we feel we have no voice and no other
options
Looks like: When asked to do something we then decide to do a multitude of other things that we tell
ourselves must be done first (even if they are not related to the task); or we pretend not to have
understood the request and ask all sorts of questions about it, or we start doing it - but as slowly as is
humanly possible. We wonder why they get angry with us, when that may actually be the point of
dawdling! See avoidance, silent rebellion, victim
Spiritual effects: Chronic unhappiness that they want us to hurry
Physical effects: Low blood pressure, hormone imbalance
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the source of the desire to anger others
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Diabetes
Lack of faith or hope that the future can be good or belief that it will not be good. Chronic state of
distress; habitual belief that something bad is about to happen. Giving up hope dawdling
Gestational
Fear that the baby's potential for unhappy life experiences due to the father's negative behaviours, will
cause unending grief and guilt for us
Hyperglycemia
Overcompensating for our perceived failure to prevent the family from coming to harm or having
negative experiences
Hypoglycemia
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Diabetes insipidus
Unable to relax due to unrecognized, extreme, chronic anxiety. See autoimmune diseases,
hypopituitarism
Secondary effects of Diabetes
Blindness
Unable or unwilling to see that which needs to be seen
Gangrenous extremities
Chronic placing of self into “victim mode” as a way to control and manipulate others. See gangrene
Kidney failure
Extremely difficult to please, chronic temper tantrums, even if not voiced aloud. See criticism,
perfectionism
Type 1
Can occur after the family receives a devastating blow, and no one sees that we are taking on full
responsibility and blame for it
Type 2
Chronic, crushing sadness because we know the happy stories we tell others (and ourselves) about our
family are false, but hoping that they will believe them anyways
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Digestion
Represents how we absorb, utilise and release our spiritual life lessons. See eating disorders
Issues that can arise
Appendicitis
Living with constant criticism, whether from self or another. Trying to digest and accept a cruel idea
that we know to be false
Bloating
Putting too much (or too little) emphasis on self. See ego, self-importance
Burping
Fear of being forgotten, ignored or lost in the shuffle
Celiac disease
Unable to accept nurturing, yet believing that we are nurturing others, or feeling compelled to nurture
others, either to gain their approval or because we think that no one else cares enough. Can occur
when our job ends or if a child leaves home. Feeling that life has lost purpose
Choking
The thought that just happened was judgment, or our attention wavered. See signals
Diverticular perforation
Blaming everyone but self for our dysfunctional toxic relationships, and astonished and furious that
they will not change. Since we play a crucial role in creating our relationships, if we change, our
relationships will change. See victim

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Diverticulitis
Blaming others for failing to prevent unpleasant experiences from happening and refusing to forgive
them for it. See victim
Fistula
Feeling pressured into taking shortcuts that we know are likely to fail
Flatulence
Feeling that we are always being overlooked and angry about it; self-importance
Trapped abdominal gas
See distress
Food allergies
Deep need to receive loving attention from a specific authority figure. Chronic fear that we are in
imminent danger but not knowing what to do about it and believing that no one will help. Physical
result of an unresolved traumatic situation that we fear is bound to happen again
Food poisoning
Signal that we strongly dislike one or more of the topics of conversation during a meal but unable or
unwilling to state our true thoughts or feelings
Gastroenteritis (Norwalk virus)
Belief that others are telling horrible lies about us and that everyone believes them to be true, but
wishing it were not so
Norovirus infec tion - Infectious
Self-loathing that manifests in physical as a craving to hear the worst about others (see gossip) to
help us feel less "bad"
Norovirus infec tion - Non-infec tious
Believing self to be the only "bad" person in the world
Gastroparesis
Unable to stomach or digest (absorb, utilize and release), the cruel spiritual food that we were fed as a
child or are now consuming. Can result from child abuse, including feeling that our basic spiritual needs
were not met
Gluttony
Fear that we will not be given our fair share, so taking everything that is offered and more. Applies to
food and other substances as well as attention. See greed, self-importance
Heartburn/Ind igestion
Includes dyspepsia and gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD)
Just waiting for the next irritating experience. Strong dislike of much of what we take in (hearing /
seeing / thinking / experiencing)
Hemorrhoid
Trying to win the approval of an authority figure who stubbornly withholds it. Feeling pressured to
hurry and feeling that there is not enough time. Pushing too hard/trying to force self or another into
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Hiccups
Wanting to change the subject of conversation in order to avoid talking about something; or wanting
to take back words that were just spoken (form of control). See signals
Malabsorption syndrome
Unable to accept that we are worthy, that we are no worse than any other soul in human form
Physical effects and/or components: Infection, inflammation, trauma. If resulting from surgery, look to
the physical condition that necessitated the surgery
Contributing physical conditions: Celiac disease, Crohn's disease, cystic fibrosis, lactose (or food)
intolerance, chronic pancreatitis
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the thought patterns preventing self-acceptance (guilt, shame)
Mineral or vitamin deficiency
Unable to grasp and absorb the key meaning of an ongoing issue. A missing piece of crucial information
missing would connect the pieces of the puzzle, if only it could be found. Meditate to find the answer
Electrolyte imbalance
Unable or unwilling to sustain our spiritual stability due to wanting to be nurtured, rescued or cared
for. Note: If you know which electrolyte is affected, please Google it. The search results will likely
show the risk factors and symptoms for its imbalance, and you can check out those in this e-book or
on my website
Risk factors: Burns, cancer, cirrhosis, congestive heart failure, diarrhea, eating disorders, fever, high
blood pressure, hyperhidrosis, infection, kidney disease, substance use disorder (see addiction),
vomiting
Symptoms: Arrhythmia, constipation, fatigue, headaches, muscle cramp, muscle spasm, numb or
tingling limbs, fingers and toes, vomiting
Motion sickness
Anger, frustration and despair that we will still be stuck in our current life situation, even when the
road trip, air flight or sea voyage ends. Feeling trapped
Nausea and/or vomiting
Spiritual diet filled with sickening thoughts like condemnation, distress, fear, resentment, revenge. See
hangover
Obesity/Overweight
Trying to cover up shameful secrets. Unable or unwilling to express strong emotions. Habitually using
food as a reward, or as an excuse to avoid meeting responsibilities or dealing with issues. See
addiction, arrogance, survivor’s guilt
Rickets
Hiding from life. If a child, living in an over-protected environment yet basic spiritual needs are going
unmet
Sclerosing mesenteritis
Unable to stomach the constant hateful thoughts for self that we feel we are obliged to feel. See guilt,
self-condemnation, shame

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Unrecognized or unresolved beliefs eating away at our very ability to thrive. See fear of retribution,
feedback loop, guilt and legacy guilt, shame, intolerance, victim
Physical effects and/or components: Celiac disease, Crohn's disease, diabetes, diverticulitis, histamine
intolerance, hormone imbalance, kidney stones, osteoporosis, malabsorption syndrome, mineral or
vitamin deficiency, scleroderma
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the initial triggering event so that it can be resolved
Ulcerative colitis
Taking on responsibility for everyone's negative experiences and feeling the need to be punished for
them
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Diphtheria
Feeling unloved, invisible, unimportant, uninvited and unwelcome
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Dizziness - Vertigo
Desperate for love and approval but not knowing where to look for it. Worry, worry, worry. Trying to
make sure that everything gets done (control) and gets done perfectly. Trying to avoid seeing an
uncomfortable truth, denial. See labyrinthitis, Ménière's disease, nausea
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Dry
Represents a need to develop our spirituality. See affected area
Ears
Craving spiritual understanding and growth but fearing we will fail
Eyes
Lacking compassion, empathy for self. “No one cares about my hurts, so why should I?”
Hair
Tendency to overthink every little thing for fear of making a mistake. Feeling that we are at risk of
imminent emotional, physical or verbal attack. If breakage occurs, can result from anger that the
perceived attack has not happened yet
Heels
Depriving self of enjoyment and blaming someone else for making us do so
Lips
Unable to satisfy our thirst for something that we know is better left untouched. Feeling deprived
Mouth - chronic
Living with constant low-grade fear
Mouth - occasional
Knowing that our words are false and/ or purposely divisive

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Chronic worry that someone in a position of power will judge, criticise, and condemn our work
Skin
Craving a meaningful spiritual experience
Socket
See detail for the affected individual tooth or teeth
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Dysautonomia
Unable or unwilling to communicate clearly or honestly with others (or with self) about painful issues
within the family unit, often due to a fear of retribution for causing trouble. Look to the following
contributing condition(s) for more information (not a complete list): addiction (to alcohol) |
amyloidosis | anemia | antiphospholipid syndrome | autoimmune diseases | birth abnormalities and
genetic disorders | celiac disease | Chiari malformation | diabetes | Ehlers-Danlos syndrome | Epstein-
Barr virus | Guillain-Barré syndrome | hepatitis C | HIV / AIDS | lupus | Lyme disease | multiple
sclerosis | mitochondrial disease | Parkinson's disease | pneumonia | pregnancy | rheumatoid arthritis
| trauma | vitamin deficiency
Multiple System Atrophy (MSA)
Stubborn refusal to change, to adapt, to collaborate, to cooperate
Neurocardiogenic or Vasovagal syncope
Unable or unwilling to deal with the matter at hand. See fainting
Postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome (POTS)
Desperate, insatiable need to receive unconditional nurturing. See COPD, congestive heart failure
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Ears and hearing
Represent how we interpret that which we hear
Issues that can arise
Burning
Condemnation, embarrassment, shame
Deafness
Extreme frustration that no one ever says what we want to hear. See fear of abandonment
If due to:
Auditory nerve damag e
“Leave me alone”. See abandonment, avoidance, cold shoulder, isolation
Congenital
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Hearing loss
Fear of hearing what is not being spoken, avoiding hearing whatever is being spoken, wanting the
noise to stop
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Pattern of pretending to be unable to hear - not everything - just information we dislike or with
which we disagree. Blocking out information that disagrees with our beliefs can be a crippling
pattern, preventing open discussion about any potentially contentious matter (politics, religion,
healthcare, etc.). Can result from a desperate need to be correct and in control. See echo chamber
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn why we need to be right, and visit WikiHow to learn How to
deal with disagreement
Dry
Craving spiritual understanding and growth but fearing we will fail
Earache
Distress about our spiritual environment (lots of blaming and finger-pointing happening) and feeling
hopeless that it will ever change
Eustachian tube blockage
Unwilling to pay attention to our emotional needs, for fear of causing havoc in our family or group,
and/or condemning self for inability to control our emotions when stressed
Fungus
Low or unstable self-esteem, shame, unshed tears over what is being heard or not heard
Itchy
Pay attention to what you are hearing or thinking. See signals
Labyrinthitis
Confusion about our life purpose; feeling like we are just putting in time. Unsure of which life path to
take and afraid that our entire life will be wasted in the wrong pursuit
Mastoiditis
Tired of all of their noisy arguing; feeling responsible for it but not knowing how to make it stop. See
infection
Ménière's disease
Refusing to do what we know we ought to be doing, and making all sorts of excuses about it
Misophonia
Loathing our personal environment and furious that no one understands or sympathises with our
painful dilemma. Our constant fury toward the idiots around us, plus feeling impotent to smarten them
up, makes us feel that these people will irritate us forever - we will never be rid of them. This constant
stress lowers our vibrational frequency and creates so much tension that certain sounds actually seem
to hurt us physically
Otosclerosis
Family pattern in which affected members refuse to hear what certain other members have to say. If
the unwillingness to hear is not addressed, it may eventually manifest in physical by altering the ear’s
bone structure
Pain
Feeling trapped into listening to something you do not want to hear, or not hearing what you do want
to hear. See signals
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Trying to avoid hearing what others are saying
Popping for no apparent reason
Pay attention to your thoughts. See signals
Seborrheic dermatitis
Habitual griping in our thoughts due to feeling helpless against life’s many annoyances. Changing our
attitude is the key to reducing and removing the condition. See self-condemnation
Tinnitus
Unable or unwilling to confront what we know we are avoiding. See signals
Buzzing or humming
Signal to let us know that our guide has specific, timely information for us. Ask and then pay
attention to your thoughts, and whatever is happening around you
Ringing
Thinking we know best and not wanting any disagreement about it. Irritation (anger)
Trapped water
Hurrying through a normally enjoyable task to meet someone else's needs and unhappy about it
Wax build-up
Meeting everyone else's needs before our own and unhappy about it. Unable or unwilling to speak out
against unfair treatment. See fear of abandonment
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Eating disorders
Represent our unrecognized or unresolved reaction to traumatic situations in our childhood (possibly
ongoing) and over which we felt we had utterly no control. See addiction, kleptomania,
obsessive/compulsive behaviours
Anorexia nervosa
So desperate to have some control in a chaotic environment, that withholding food seems like the only
solution. May be used to punish self or to spite an authority figure
Avoidant/restrictive food intake disorder (ARFID)
Desperate for focused loving or sympathetic attention
Binge-eating disorder
Bouts can be triggered by feeling unable or being unwilling to say what we are really thinking. The
physical discomfort of over-eating, along with our guilt , shame and embarrassment of feeling out of
control, takes our attention away from the original issue. See addiction, silent rebellion,
obsessive/compulsive behaviours
Bulimia nervosa
Cycle of self-approval, then guilt and condemnation, then punishment. See depression,
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Self-imposed punishment for believing self to be the cause of all the suffering, misery and tragedy in
our family
Eating disorder not otherwise specified (EDNOS)
Unable to discern exactly who or what is responsible for our pain, knowing only that “I hurt”
Feeding disorder
Battle of wills between child and caregiver resulting from a karmic situation
Muscle dysmorphia
Belief that we are ineffective, powerless, incompetent and incapable of fixing all the emotional turmoil
in our family. See victim
Night eating syndrome
Trying to avoid feeling the feelings surrounding a traumatic event that happened during the night and
that keeps replaying in the thoughts, especially at night. See insomnia
Orthorexia nervosa
Punishing self by building a persona of one who is dedicated to healthy eating - as a way to make
amends for having caused the family to suffer. The more difficult it is to find “pure” foods, the less
appetizing they are, and the more expensive they are, the better. The pattern has the added benefit of
diverting attention from our supposed failures
Pica
Blaming the person or people responsible for all the pain and suffering in our life, unwilling to forgive
anyone - ever - just in case they played a role in it, and wanting them to see how badly we are suffering
because of their failures. Read about these contributing factors: grief, spite, revenge
Purging disorder
Abject misery over the direction our life is taking, and feeling powerless to change it (feeling like a
victim)
Rumination syndrome
Wanting the family to know that we do not believe the spiritual food they are feeding us, and that it is
sickening
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Eating open-mouthed
If due to weak jaw muscles
See muscles, myasthenia gravis, TMJ disorders
If elderly or infirm
Could be a form of dementia, or could be Alzheimer’s disease, such that the muscles have forgotten
what to do, or the mind has forgotten how to process food
If not elderly or infir m
May have been taught different dining etiquette, may be flouting society and its rules (arrogance,
defiance, silent rebellion), or may have breathing issues (lungs, nose, sinus)
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Elbows
Represent our attitude toward duty. See ligaments, tendons
Issues that can arise
Broken
Knowing it is time to change our attitude toward our mate or career but stubbornly refusing
Bursitis
Complaining that others are not doing enough but we are unwilling to do our fair share
Dislocation
Lack of spiritual stability and faith that we are doing what is right for us
Golfer's elbow
Angry about all the stupid obstacles in our path
Ligament damage
Unable or unwilling to stay committed to our chosen path, or simply living without a firm purpose, and
so veering from one project to another without ever accomplishing anything and hating self for it
Subluxation
Not knowing which way to turn or where to look for guidance or assistance
Tennis elbow
Feeling forced into wasting our time and energy in the wrong pursuit
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Endometriosis
Needing to control every little thing. Overly dependent on one's mate (co-dependent relationship).
Holding onto a narrow or out-dated belief system. See infertility, miscarriage
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Endometritis
Unrecognized anger toward self and our part in the reproductive process. See miscarriage
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Epstein-Barr virus
Saying "No" but either being ignored or coaxed into agreement, or feeling that there is no way to get
out of commitments that we felt pressured into accepting because of a fear of saying, "No". And it
keeps happening. See mononucleosis
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Essential familial tremor
Chronic, habitual self-condemnation and fear of retribution for over- or under-reacting to the constant
onslaught of challenges that life brings. See affected body part
Familial tremor
Legacy family pattern of habitual self-condemnation and fear of retribution. See birth abnormalities
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Eyes and vision
Represent how we interpret that which we see
Issues that can arise
Astigmatism
Unable to find something valuable in life on which to focus
Blepharitis
Chronic sadness and not seeing that we have the power to change our circumstances. Waiting for
somebody / everybody else to do something different or be different
Blindness
If acquired
Feeling that one has been ‘blind-sided’ by life. Deep fear of confronting a difficult or painful truth or
a desire to hide the truth. See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, echo chamber
If from birth
A strong family pattern is occurring and no one sees it, and everyone is blaming someone else for
making them be that way. See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, legacy family pattern
Bloodshot
Belief that someone is not seeing / appreciating all that we are supposedly doing for them, supposedly
unselfishly
Blurred vision - temporary
More understanding is required about the matter at hand
Bruised eye
Displeasure with something we just learned about self (guilt, shame)
Bulging eyes
Living in an unrecognized state of shock. Self-righteousness
Cataracts
Wanting to see the world not as it is, but as we want it to be, or as we think it used to be
Chalazion (eyelid cyst or meibomian cyst)
Taking on other people’s responsibilities because we are unable to say, “No” to them for fear of losing
their approval. See self-esteem. Or... Rushing in to do someone’s job for them because they will
probably do it wrong. See perfectionism
Change the pattern: Learn to allow others the chance to experience the consequences that can come
from not doing their job, or from not doing their job well
Choroidal melanoma
Focusing on a fault or flaw in someone or something (could be self, another, or humanity at large) and
believing that it cannot/will not ever change. Resigned to living with what we see as a permanent flaw,
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Colour blindness (poor colour vision)
Belief that it is ok for us to do things that irritate others, but not for others. See sickle cell anemia,
diabetes, macular degeneration, Alzheimer’s disease, glaucoma, Parkinson's disease, addiction to
alcohol, leukemia
Crossed eyes
Unable or unwilling to focus on that which needs to be seen or done, and doing whatever we can to
prevent others from seeing it
If from birth
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Dark circles or hollows under eyes
Thinking and feeling like a victim
If due to:
Aging (can appear as h ollows)
Like wrinkles and gray hair, unless there is physical discomfort, they are not cause for concern. See
aging process
Allergies
See allergens and allergic reactions
Atopic dermatitis (eczema)
Flaring antagonism but believing that a fight would be pointless, unwinnable. Thinking like a victim
Contact dermatitis
See dermatitis
Eczema
Flaring antagonism but believing that a fight would be pointless, unwinnable. Thinking like a victim
Fatigue
Trying to avoid thinking about something or trying to remember everything (anxiety, worry). Fear
that something important will be forgotten
Seasonal hay fever
Who or what around us is so irritating that we are frustrated and/or furious and just want to cry?
See anniversary illnesses
Sinu s it is
Chronic fear that we are broken and need to be fixed, or that we will soon be caught and punished
for our mistakes (fear of retribution). See allergic fungal sinusitis
Detached retina
Fear that one has missed a very important message and that it will not be repeated
Dry eye
Lacking compassion, empathy for self. “No one cares about my hurts, so why should I?”
Far-sighted
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Wanting to believe that we have no unresolved issues, yet knowing there are "spots" that need some
work
Fuch’s dystrophy
Unable or unwilling to acknowledge our disgust with those who fail to be or do as we wish they would
Glaucoma
Chronic self-righteousness, martyr. Attitude of “I’ll show them”, yet feeling that no one is watching
because no one really cares (abandonment). Unwilling to forgive, prejudice, bigotry
Iritis
Not seeing that others might perceive our actions to be unkind (self-righteousness)
Itchy
Pay attention to what you are seeing or thinking
Keratoconus
Wanting to avoid looking at that which is right in front of us, in case it challenges our beliefs. See birth
abnormalities and genetic disorders, retinitis pigmentosa
Lazy
Seeing our parents or caregivers not working together as a team, and fearing that it is only a matter of
time until we get thrown off the team too
Macular degeneration
Chronic fear that we might be perceived as a weak, old fool. See fear of looking stupid
Macular hole
Unrecognized fears about the aging process and how we will be affected by it, and worry as to how our
family will deal with us as we age
Near-sighted
Focused more on self than others (self-importance). Living in the past
Orbital pseudotumor
Fear that if we start crying, we may never be able to stop
Pain
Feeling trapped into seeing something you do not want to see, or not seeing what you do want to see
Pigment dispersion syndrome
Unrecognized, incorrect beliefs about self that prevent us from being compassionate. See glaucoma
Pink eye
Anger and sorrow over a recent disappointment and believing that someone else is to blame. See self-
righteousness, victim, COVID-19
Presbyopia
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Ptosis
Pattern of fighting with self over every single decision we make due to not having been allowed to
make age-appropriate decisions during childhood and adolescence. We can become unable or
unwilling to trust in self to do what is right. See contributing factors: cancerous tumour or cyst in the
spinal column, neck trauma, stroke
Issues that can arise
Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis, autoimmune diseases, Guillain-Barré syndrome, multiple sclerosis,
Parkinson's disease
In children
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Puffy eyes
Irritated - or sad - with what we are seeing or witnessing
Retinitis pigmentosa
Belief that spirituality is ok for the other guy, but that we personally have no need for such silliness.
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, keratoconus
Retinoschisis
Unable and/or unwilling to discern and/or acknowledge to self, whom we can ever really trust to be
honest. See cysts, lumps and bumps, birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, distrust, legacy family
pattern
Reversal of vision metamorphopsia
Sudden, shocking fear that we may be overlooking something vitally important, or that things may not
be as we believed or perceived. See stroke, traumatic brain injury, vertigo
Stye
Unable or unwilling to release tears over our painful experiences (it’s ok to cry!) If chronic, practice the
Grieving exercise
Tearing eyes
Negative - Holding back tears. Positive - Feeling unconditional love. See signals
Thyroid eye disorder
Unable or unwilling to relax and trust; being on guard and on the look-out for danger all the time. See
autoimmune diseases, Graves' disease
Twitching eye
Signal that something needs to be examined more closely
Vitreous detachment
Belief that is harsher for us than most others, and angry that our loved ones are not doing everything
they can to make life easier for us, and providing us with a soft place to land
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Face
Represents how we face life. How we see ourselves can manifest in the face. Facial abnormalities in
children can be a reflection of spiritual difficulties within the family unit that are not being dealt with or
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“faced”. See acne, avoidance, birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, face blindness, cheeks, chin,
rosacea, wrinkles
Issues that can arise
Bell's Palsy
Holding back tears. Unwilling to enjoy life (spite). Unwilling to verbally express sorrow and/or distress.
Looking for a way out, fear of being caught and held responsible. not wanting to hear, denial
Chilblains
Wishing to live in a different environment but seeing no way to get there, and feeling impatient and
frustrated. See affected body part (face, fingers, toes), as well as lupus, Raynaud's disease
Pain
Wanting to hide from that which we fear will be a painful revelation or confrontation
Swelling
Needing compassion, nurturing and sympathy for all of our suffering. See inflammation. Can be
triggered by allergic reactions, cellulitis, pink eye, hormone imbalance, self-imposed stress, side effects,
sinusitis, stye, surgery, thyroid issues
Trigeminal neuralgia (tic douloureux)
A false belief system or an inner conflict is putting us under increasing pressure to resolve it, once and
for all. Find the issue by examining whatever triggers the pain. Correct the false belief by learning the
Universal Truth through meditation. Resolve the issue through forgiveness both for self and others. See
brain cancer, facial trauma, multiple sclerosis, root canal, stroke
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Fascia
Represents the manifestation of self-esteem into physical matter. It reflects our spiritual ability to
protect ourselves from attack or recover from injury, and indicates our level of spiritual flexibility in
meeting the challenges of life. See pain, signals
Issues that can arise
Compartment syndrome
Acute
Results from a physical injury that follows a traumatic experience we have ignored or belittled. See
Why do we get sick / suffer injuries / have accidents?
Chronic
Needing someone’s approval and repeating the same thing to get it, without success
Dupuytren’s contracture
Ehlers-Danlos syndrome
Frozen shoulder
Hernia
Femoral, inguinal, or umbilical
Marfan syndrome
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Myofascial pain syndrome
Spiritual pain that manifests in physical as small bumps on muscles that radiate pain if they are
irritated. Resolve the spiritual pain to reduce physical discomfort
Peyronie’s disease
Scar tissue resulting from spiritual injuries to a male’s over-inflated ego or sense of self-power, that can
diminish ability to function. See bent penis, birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Plantar fasciitis
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Feet
Represent how we feel about our the direction of our life path. See heels, toes, walk (gait)
Issues that can arise
Arthritis
Emotional pain from past experiences that has not yet been released (habitual lack of forgiveness for
self and others). Every new emotional injury adds to the buildup
Athlete’s foot
Feeling like an unknowing, unsuspecting victim of someone’s lack of caring
Ball of the foot pain
Belief or fear that anything we do to help ourselves will, eventually, backfire and hurt us. See
metatarsalgia
Broken foot
Wishing for a troubling situation to change but unable or unwilling to do anything to make the change
happen
Bunions
Avoidance of our true calling, of truth, of desire, etc. Habitually holding anyone or anything else but
self responsible for our problems and failures, yet always feeling responsible for everyone and
everything. Aggravated by having to carry someone else’s load or feeling that we are carrying the
whole load alone and not being appreciated
Tailor's Bunion
Unwilling to do a certain task and expecting others to do it for us because after all, it is easy for
them so they should not mind doing it
Bursitis
Unable or unwilling to adapt to unexpected changes on our life's path. See affected toe
Claw toes
Hanging on desperately for dear life due to feeling unsupported by those responsible for caring for us.
See affected toe
Clubfoot
Fear of what might happen if we do our very best and still fail to be "perfect". See birth abnormalities
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Craving approval from one and all, yet pretending not to need it, and withholding it from everyone
Cuboid syndrome
Low or unstable self-esteem such that self-condemnation kicks in at the first sign of a disagreement. A
cascade of negative thoughts and emotions ensues, including anger, fear and feeling like a victim
Drop foot
Fear that we are incapable of living independently
Duck-footed
Feeling fully justified in taking more than our fair share. See greed, splayed feet
Flat (fallen arches)
Inability to stand up for oneself. Hopeless that we will ever feel joy in life after having suffered a
devastating loss
Change the pattern: Grieve the losses, build self-esteem, forgive
Fungal infections
Wanting to hide, and wanting to hide from, the (supposedly) shameful, dirty truth. Remember that
while God does not ever judge, criticise, and condemn us, he does allow us to experience the logical
outcomes of our spiritual choices. See free will
Fungus
Ugly thoughts eating at us (condemnation, embarrassment, guilt, shame). See athlete's foot
Ganglion cyst
Pattern of denying our true calling, both to self and to anyone who will listen
Haglund’s Deformity
What is gnawing at us? Dissatisfaction with the path we are walking. Deep sorrow over a poor life
choice and blaming someone else for it
Heels
Represent core beliefs about the role we have taken on in this current lifetime
Dry or cracked
Depriving self of enjoyment and blaming someone else for making us do so
Narrow
Fear that we will never be able to do all that we are being expected to do
Spurs
Feeling abandoned or unsupported by loved ones, and so feeling fully justified in being self-centred,
self-absorbed and self-important
Whip
Wanting others to see how hard we are trying so as to win their approval
Hollow (cavus) foot or high arch
Pretending to ourselves that we are loved and supported, yet knowing that we are not. Can people not
see how desperately we need their support? See metatarsalgia, plantar fasciitis, hammertoes, claw
toes, sprained ankle, broken foot
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Metatarsalgia
Unable or unwilling to comfort self, believing that we deserve to suffer - every step of our life’s path.
See ball of the foot pain
Morton’s Neuroma
Habitually selling self short to gain sympathy or to escape responsibilities, or habitually over-stating
our abilities or accomplishments in order to gain someone's approval
Numb
Belief that something we want to happen will never happen
Plantar fasciitis
Regret over a life path taken that we did not desire or choose. Not that we are unhappy with the
current situation; we just wonder what it would have been like to have been able to follow our chosen
path
Plantar fibroma
Fear that when our current stage of life or project is complete, no new 'next step' or project will be
revealed, and we will become useless. This is “empty nest syndrome” manifesting in physical
Plantar warts
Walking our path in a cold, heartless way and blaming someone for making us be that way. See HPV
Sole of the foot - pain
Unwilling to forgive a hurt that someone caused, believing it was intentional
Sore feet
Walking our path with unresolved spiritual issues and no interest in gaining resolution. See echo
chamber
Splayed feet
Endlessly searching for someone to provide us with emotional or spiritual stability yet finding none.
See duck-footed, flat feet, hollow foot
Tingling or vibrating feet
Signal from the Universe during a stressful situation that difficulties may lie ahead but the outcome will
be favourable
Top of the foot - pain
Fear of retribution from an unkind source
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Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders (FASDs)
If arising from the mother-to-be unintentionally exposing her unborn baby to alcohol, required life
experiences are being presented for the entire family.
If arising from the mother-to-be intentionally exposing her unborn baby to alcohol, a karmic situation
or debt exists between mother, baby and entire family.
While not currently physically curable, the effects of FASDs can be greatly eased by the entire family
practicing unconditional love, patience, tolerance, and forgiveness, and by not blaming or guilt
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Secondary conditions
See ADHD, addiction, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, PTSD
Fetal Alcoho l Syndro me (FAS)
See possible issues: ADHD, brain, face, hearing, heart, joints, spinal cord injury, vision, self-esteem
Alcohol-Related Neu rodevelopmental Disorder (ARND)
See possible issues: Ability to learn
Alcohol-Related Birth Defec ts (ARBD)
See possible issues: heart, kidneys, skeleton, ear and hearing issues
Neurobehavioral Dis order Associated with Prenatal Alcohol Exposure (ND -PAE)
See possible issues: Ability to learn, temper tantrums
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Fever
Feeling extreme anger, embarrassment or regret over a recently-made decision
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Fibromyalgia
Conviction that no one cares more about anyone or anything than us. Unable to discern the value of
differences between people. Wishing to be left alone. Fear of the next attack, not only of the condition,
but also from a loved one or a supposed friend. See autoimmune diseases
Spiritual effects: Anxiety, depression, distrust, martyr, perfectionism, self-righteousness, victim, worry
Physical effects: Arthritis, dizziness, irritable bowel syndrome, knee problems
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn to come to peace with the past
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Fingers
Represent how we feel about our life's work. See hands, fingernails, joints, knuckles
Thumb
Represents how we feel about our ability to grasp what is going on. If injured, fearing opposition or
feeling opposed
Index
Represents our tolerance (or lack thereof) of self and others. If injured, constant judgment, criticism,
and condemnation, whether directed at self or another, whether voiced aloud
Middle
Represents our level of patience with self and others. If injury occurs, easily offended
Ring
Represents how we feel about marriage or being single, partnerships and friendships. If injured, can be
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Baby
Represents our comfort or lack thereof with our place in the family. If injured, living in a dream world
and feeling it is being threatened. If bent, can indicate that there will be childish, whiny behaviour if we
do not get what we want or when we feel threatened
More than five fingers
See description for adjacent fingers
Issues that can arise
See Achenbach syndrome
Arthritis
Placing excessive importance on what others are doing wrong (judgment, criticism, condemnation).
Lots of finger-pointing and shaming. Fear that all that needs to be done will not get done in time. See
affected finger
Bent or broken
Incorrect belief in a particular area. See affected finger
Brachydactyly (shorter than average)
Legacy family pattern of feeling 'less-than' or 'outcast', and fighting to overcome the deficits created by
the belief system(s). See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, karma
Bursitis
Unable or unwilling to adapt to unexpected changes in our work. See affected finger
Dislocation
Lack of spiritual stability and faith that we are doing what is right for us. See affected finger
Fungus
Ugly thoughts eating at us (condemnation, embarrassment, guilt, shame). See affected finger
Ingrown nail
Feeling like we are always running late (blame, revenge, spite). See affected finger
Subluxation
Not knowing which way to turn or where to look for guidance or assistance. See affected finger
Syndactyly (webbed)
Legacy family pattern of feeling that we will never be given enough to meet our needs, so we must
take it for ourselves and if they think we are greedy for doing so, it is their fault that we are. See
affected fingers, birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Trigger-finger
Extreme frustration in a particular area. See affected finger
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Flu - Influenza
Can occur if we are about to be tested and fear failure or success. Often used as an excuse to get out of
commitments that we wish we had not made (avoidance) - just saying "no" can be a vaccine. The fear
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to our thoughts, lo and behold, we get sick. Fear of being a victim. Deep need for one-on-one attention
or to receive the same special considerations as our sick friends, or a desire to be looked after
H1N1
Wanting to be taken seriously, or to be rewarded in spite of our failures or shortcomings
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Fungus
Represents holding onto negative ideas or beliefs about self or others
Fungal infections or diseases
Wanting to hide, and wanting to hide from, the (supposedly) shameful, dirty truth. It is very important
to remember that while God does not ever judge, criticise, or condemn us, he does allow us to
experience the logical outcomes of our spiritual choices. See free will, guilt
Athlete’s foo t
Feeling like an unknowing, unsuspecting victim of someone’s lack of caring
Candida
Using someone else's condemnation of us as an excuse to behave poorly, underperform, be vengeful,
or hate self, or to go on a bout of obsessive/compulsive behaviours like binging on alcohol, food, drugs,
shopping, etc. See depression, yeast infection
Ears
Low or unstable self-esteem, shame, unshed tears over what is being heard or not heard
Intestines
Feeding ourselves thoughts that are out of balance with unconditional love and Universal Truth, and
using those thoughts as an excuse for our shortcomings. See candida
Jock itch
Placing excessive stress on self to excel in spite of restrictions beyond our control
Lungs (Aspergillosis )
Drowning in a swamp of sorrow. See grief
Mucormycosis
See affected area, COVID-19
Nails
Ugly thoughts eating at us (condemnation, embarrassment, guilt, shame). See fingernails, toenails
Sinus
Unable or unwilling to acknowledge to others that we have suffered an incredibly painful experience,
and there are reminders of it everywhere, making us feel it will be impossible to forget. We have built a
spiritual dam to prevent our tears from flowing
Skin (Pityriasis rosea or Tinea Versicolor)
Wishing to be pitied for all of the pain we have experienced, and wanting to cover self in a protective
blanket to prevent further offenses
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Exposure to the fungus occurs within a few days of having made a decision to do (or not do) something
and gradually starting to doubt self, but not willing to admit to anyone that we would like to change
our choice for fear of looking stupid or weak-willed
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Gallbladder
Represents our ability to process, or digest, our thoughts, attitudes and emotions
Issues that can arise
Abscess
Obsessive poisonous thoughts that are focused on justifying one's reasons for choosing to act or not
act in a certain way
Attack
Condemning self for a decision we made a short time ago, up to a day or two before the attack ("What
have I done?!"). We might justify the decision in different ways, but inside, we fear that others think it
was made for purely selfish reasons and are also condemning us for it
Biliary dyskinesia
Obsessively repeating our reasons to believe that nothing seems to work right - EVER. Could be
something like, “God hates me” or, “Nobody ever helps or supports me”. See blame, victim
Cancer
Obsessively poisonous thoughts that have infected every belief we have about life and the process of
living and hating self for thinking them, yet feeling the beliefs are fully justified and so doing nothing to
change them
Gangrene
Successfully convincing self of the truthfulness of all the horrible thoughts we have, and completely
unwilling to look for other options
Inflammation
Obsessively repeating thoughts about all the supposedly selfless deeds we have accomplished, to build
self-esteem where almost none exists or to justify our self-righteous arrogance
Perforation
Giving up on ever finding good in anyone or anything, especially self
Polyps
Falsely soothing our hurt feelings with bitter untruths
Sclerosing cholangitis
Repeated bouts of vicious condemnation of self or others, followed by periods of remorse and hoping
that the words are untrue but doubting that they are
Stones
Common bile-duc t
Obsessively worrying about what others are thinking about us or our choices but wanting no
argument or discussion about it because whatever we think is truth, right?
Gallbladder
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 Obsessing about what others think about us or our choices and believing our conclusion: they think
we are no good
Pancreatitis
Poisonous beliefs about the reason that a negative or painful life experience occurred
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Gangrene
Results from giving up on the idea that our pain and anguish can ever be compensated for by those
who have harmed us (resentment), and that since our pain is worse than anyone else’s, it can never be
resolved or released. See cellulitis, diabetes, infection
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Glands
The glands represent our ability and/or desire to sustain and nurture ourselves. Their function is
improved or impaired by our reactions to our life experiences. See affected glandular system:
Endocrine
Pineal, pituitary, thymus, thyroid and two adrenal glands. See affected organs that act as glands:
kidneys, ovaries, pancreas, testes
Exocrine
Lacrimal, mammary, salivary, sebaceous, sweat
Issues that can arise
Adenovirus infections
Represent our ability to tolerate with patience the many irritations of life in physical. Flare-ups can
indicate that a recent experience made us feel unknowingly angry or resentful - again
Prader-Willi syndrome
One parent fails to meet the other's needs, even if they have not been spoken aloud. The ensuing
despair, frustration and/or rage affect the developing fetus and the child is born with this condition. He
or she is left trying to resolve the parent's anguish
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Gonads
Provide the building blocks by which energy may manifest into matter. When sperm(see testis)
fertilizes egg (see ovary), an energy gateway opens, through which an incoming soul may enter
physical life
Ovary
Produces eggs, which, if fertilized by sperm, are the means by which thought may manifest in matter
Issues that can arise
Cancer
Unable or unwilling to let go of the life that could / should have been with the child we could / should
have had. Fearing that God has forsaken us or is punishing us by not giving us what we want. Strong
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Unresolved issues around children, child-bearing, and parental responsibility. If pain is intense or
severe, see appendicitis, ectopic pregnancy, pelvic inflammatory disease
Ovarian cys t
Wanting to do or create something that is outside of our realm of experience, but not knowing what it
is or how to bring it into existence. See hormonal problems, pregnancy, endometriosis, pelvic infection
C ys t ad en o m as
Wanting to express our spirituality in a new way
D er m oid c y st s
Wanting to create something new in the physical world
End o me t ri om a s
Unrecognized desire to stay stuck in the past that makes us want to avoid change, yet craving
change
Ovarian torsion
Fear of being judged, criticised, or condemned that prevents us from expressing our creativity
Ru p t u r e
Futile, impotent rage at feeling unable to fully express ourselves
Pol yc ys t ic ov a ry sy nd r om e
Deep concern that having a child will cause our loved ones to ignore us in favour of the child (fear of
abandonment), or fear that the child will cause us no end of grief, as we think we did for our parents
(self-condemnation). See obesity/overweight
Pr em a tu r e o va r i an f ai l u re
Belief or fear that "God hates me because I have done nothing meaningful in my life" or an "I give
up" attitude
Testis or testicles
Produces sperm, the vehicle by which thought may become manifest in matter
Issues that can arise
Cancer
A negative idea or belief about self, others, God, or the world in which we live, has formed and fear of
it manifesting in reality is growing in intensity
Pain
See accidents, inguinal hernia, kidney stones, prostatitis, urinary tract infections
Testicular torsion
Fear of what the future holds for us and strong doubt that we will be successful in life
Varicocele
Wanting to remain in the comfort of childhood, or fear of having to become a responsible adult
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Strained
Resisting taking the next step, preferring to stay in a safe place even if it means losing out on
opportunities
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Guillain-Barré syndrome
Belief that a recent choice or action has left us open for invisible negative forces to invade and torment
us. See autoimmune diseases, Can negative energies and entities harm us?
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Gums
Represent our innermost feelings about how we support ourselves. See lips, mouth, teeth, tongue
Issues that can arise
Bleeding
Worry, worry, worry
Gum disease
Feeling overstressed, overworked and under-appreciated
Inflamed
Unable or unwilling to take the necessary time to care for physical needs
Receding
Anger over being unable to win the approval of someone who is highly unlikely to give it
Swollen
Desperate need to do well enough to win the approval of someone who is highly unlikely to give it.
Self-imposed stress
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Hair
Represents our thoughts and how we feel about them
Issues that can arise
Alopecia
Chronic self-condemnation for every mistake we have ever made
Baldness
Frustration with any imperfection. Worry, worry, worry
Dandruff
Chronic worry that someone in a position of power will judge, criticise, and condemn our work
Dry
Tendency to overthink every little thing for fear of making a mistake. Feeling that we are at risk of
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Can result from anger that a perceived attack has not happened - yet
Excessive hair growth
Trying to cover up a secret. Self-condemnation
Folliculitis
Unable or unwilling to express our thoughts and feelings about the true cause of our misery and
suffering. See barber’s itch, boils and carbuncles, infection
Eosinophilic
Profound shame due to believing that others are condemning us because they know our deepest,
darkest secrets and sins. See Is there a difference between crime and sin?
Gray (if younger than 30)
Physical manifestation of a family pattern of unwillingness to show vulnerability or weakness
Hiding behind one's hair
Manoeuver to deny access to those who would dare to look or question
Ingrown
Fear that our best efforts to conceal a secret will fail
Loss of eyelashes
No way to protect self from being hurt by seeing the ugliness in the world
Self-inflicted removal
(Includes over-plucking eyebrows, pulling out hair or excessive body hair removal)
Deep emotional or spiritual pain after traumatic experience(s). Guilt, shame, spite
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Hands
Represent how we feel about our work and our performance of it. See fingers, fingernails, joints,
knuckles
Issues that can arise
Achenbach syndrome or paroxysmal finger hematoma
Fear of having to stand up for self and having an unsuccessful outcome, fear of confrontation. See birth
abnormalities and genetic disorders, legacy family pattern
Arthritis
Placing excessive importance on what others are doing wrong (judging, criticising and condemning).
Lots of finger-pointing. Fear that all that needs to be done will not get done in time
Back of the hand - if injured
Wanting to slap someone or fearing retribution
Broken
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Doing a job that we would rather not be doing, feeling unfulfilled, unappreciated and frustrated, and
resisting making any changes
Dupuytren’s contracture
Trying to understand an important spiritual concept that seems just beyond our grasp. It is related to
our family dynamic and feels more important with each passing year, yet harder to pin down. Not
'getting it' only makes matters worse for self and exasperated family members. See birth abnormalities
and genetic disorders, What is karma?
Fungus
Ugly thoughts eating at us (embarrassment, guilt, self-condemnation, shame)
Ganglion cyst
Pattern of denying our true calling, both to self and to anyone who will listen
Numb or tingling or vibrating
Belief that we will never find our ideal career. Signal that we are being guided, for example, if shopping
and our hand starts tingling over a certain object - either BUY it or BYE it - that is to say, it is time to ask
whether to buy it or leave it
Palm - if injured
Unable or unwilling to give and take, or wanting to slap someone
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Handwriting
If illegible: wanting not to be understood or wanting to be misunderstood and keeping secrets
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Hangover
See addiction, abandonment, guilt, shame, self-condemnation
Chronic
Can be created by a need to soothe or placate ourselves for putting up with abuse from others. We
may think we are rewarding ourselves, but is it really a reward if it hurts us?
Occasional
Can occur after celebrating something for which we feel no real joy
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Headache
Feeling trapped. Headaches are often used as a way to punish ourselves, or to escape responsibilities
or commitments, or to under-perform. See abandonment, avoidance, chronic confusion, distress, fear
of commitment, worry
Migraine aura
Unable to accept the truth about a troubling issue because it would interfere with our desired course
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Feeling helpless and hopeless to resolve an ongoing issue, yet unable or unwilling to seek options or
ask for help
Retinal migraine
Feeling blind-sided by the actions of someone we considered to be a friend
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Heart
Represents our ability to sustain self
Issues that can arise
Aneurysm (thoracic aortic)
Unable or unwilling to admit to self that we made mistakes that harmed our loved ones
Angina
Sudden, intense fear that we risk repeating a past mistake
Aortic dissection
(The most common aortic catastrophe)
Extreme difficulty in understanding how someone could have been so cruel
Arrhythmia
Unable or unwilling to submit to a routine or schedule for fear of appearing weak
Atrial fibrillation
Wanting to comply with schedules and routines set by others because it is the right thing to do, but
fiercely resisting, because the thought of having to do what ‘they’ say creates so much mental chaos
and emotional turmoil that it is physically unsettling
Bradycardia
Wanting time to pass as slowly as it seemed to do in childhood, or wishing to return to and relive
childhood
Broken heart syndrome
Triggered by stressful situations such as the death of a loved one, a serious physical illness or surgery.
Results from a sudden realization that we are not in control of life and death situations. See cardiac
arrest
Cardiac arrest
Sudden fear that our life choices have been incorrect and hurtful (see forgiveness) and that there is no
way to fix the damage (shame)
Cardiomyopathy
Unable or unwilling to acknowledge the truth about our family's spiritual environment
If acquired
See contributing factors
If from birth
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
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Ar rh y th m o ge ni c r ig h t v en t r icu l a r d y sp l as i a
Hiding the truth about our pain (even from self) so that everyone will believe the made-up stories
we tell of how kind and loving our family is or was
D il at ed
Wanting to be all things to all people. Can occur due to wanting to solve everyone else's problems
as a way to avoid dealing with our own
Hyp e rt r op h ic
Unable or unwilling to feel compassion for anyone who suffers pain or loss. Can occur due to a
legacy family pattern of self-important greed
Re st r ic ti v e
Projecting our negative motives onto others as a way to avoid seeing the harsh truth about self
(blame)
Congestive heart failure
Unable to withstand the pressures of pretending to be successful while feeling like a failure. See
arteriosclerosis, high blood pressure
Erythromelalgia
Gradual (or sudden) realization that there may be no escape from the current situation, or relief from
the burdens we carry. See autoimmune diseases, birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, blood
vessels, chronic pain, inflammation, lupus, peripheral neuropathy, polycythemia, Raynaud's disease,
Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy (RSD) or CRPS
Heart disease
Pattern of avoiding dealing with our problems in favour of focusing on matters beyond our control. Can
also manifest in our physical home as heating/cooling system problems. Those with heart disease may
be perceived to be heartless, or at the other end of the spectrum, selfless
Sounds like: “You’re breaking my heart” (guilt trip, martyr)
Heart problems in children
Can be a reflection of spiritual/emotional difficulties within the family unit. Heart/lung disorders can
also manifest in our physical home as drainage and/or heating/cooling system problems. Irregular
heartbeat can show that we are unable or unwilling to follow a schedule or a routine. See birth
abnormalities and genetic disorders
Irregular heartbeat
Unable or unwilling to follow a schedule or routine. See silent rebellion
Murmur
Family pattern of being emotionally cold or emotionally smothering - in the extreme - and condemning
any family member who dares to behave differently. See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders,
karma
Myocardial infarction (heart attack)
Belief that an imminent change will be lethally devastating
Myocarditis
Fear of change, wanting everything to remain the same. See inflammation
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Represents our ability to protect ourselves spiritually from, and manage the emotional effects of,
traumatic life experiences
Pericardial cancer
Fear that the protective spiritual wall we have built around our emotions will collapse, leaving us at
risk of experiencing the emotions of our traumatic childhood events once again
Pericarditis
Squeezing the joy out of life with never-ending thoughts about how circumstances or other people
are preventing us from enjoying life (blame). Could be our job, our past, fear of what the future
holds, or family members, friends, co-workers, or even complete strangers
Change the pattern: Learn to build stable self-esteem
Raynaud’s d isease
Pattern of responding to perceived threats in an exaggerated way to regain control of a situation. The
effect can be overt (like screaming at the mere sight of an insect or having a temper tantrum if not
getting our way) or covert (withholding expression of strong emotions or even flatly refusing to speak
[see cold shoulder]). See peripheral vascular disease
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Hernia
Represents trying too hard
Femoral
Feeling trapped and wanting to run away but unable to leave the current situation for fear of even
worse conditions elsewhere. Victim
Hiatal
Living in an overly controlled environment; too much pressure to follow rules and live up to others'
expectations. Anger, repression, suppression
Incisional
Stubbornly holding onto old emotional wounds (resentment) and feeling fully justified in doing so
Inguinal
Self-condemnation, trying to win over a tough critic
Paresophageal
Forcing self into believing what we know to be a horrific lie in order to maintain a relationship
Sports
Waiting for someone to see how hard we are trying, in spite of how much it hurts us. The hope is that
the more it hurts, the more sympathy, or compassion, or caring we will receive. See martyr
Umbilical
Trying to force someone into a co-dependent relationship
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HSV-1 (Cold sores, fever blisters, herpes whitlow)
Inaccurate beliefs about self, e.g., "I'm so bad" or "I'm so wonderful". Unable or unwilling to accept
that we are no better or worse than anyone else - we are just normal
HSV-2 (Genital herpes, herpes whitlow)
Belief that sex is bad, or belief that God says that sex is bad, but feeling powerless to stop wanting to
have it. Guilt, self-condemnation, shame. See HIV / AIDS, sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s)
HSV-3 (Shingles)
Childish reaction to a challenging life experience. Belief that there is no protection from the ugliness
and negativity in the world. Victim
HSV-3 - Ramsay Hunt syndrome (Herpes Zoster Oticus)
Desire to hide away from the ugliness and negativity in others, and either denying or not realizing that
it is also within self. It is within everyone in human form
HHV-4 - Epstein-Barr virus
Saying "No" but either being ignored or coaxed into agreement, or feeling that there is no way to get
out of commitments that we felt pressured into accepting because of a fear of saying, "No". And it
keeps happening. See mononucleosis
HHV-5 - Cytomegalovirus
Feeling like a victim of our own caring and concern
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Hips
Represent our comfort (or lack thereof) with letting go of the past. See pelvis
Issues that can arise
Arthritis
Unable to move forward for fear of leaving someone or something behind for fear of seeming disloyal,
of being left behind (fear of abandonment), or fear of becoming useless. Unable or unwilling to release
an out-dated belief
Broken
Anger that we are being forced to change because of changes that occurred that were beyond our
control. See victim
Bursitis
Anger and distress about the constant changes that life brings
Dislocation
Lack of spiritual stability and faith that we are doing what is right for us
Subluxation
Not knowing which way to turn or where to look for guidance or assistance
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Hoarding
Chronic, desperate emotional neediness and a stubborn refusal to allow anyone to help; choosing
instead to meet our own needs. The need to hoard items that are trash shows that we have
condemned self and feel worthless (victim), while the need to shop for new items shows the need to
be rewarded for all of our suffering (martyr). See addiction, avoidance, defiance, denial, greed,
insolence, isolation, manipulation, pathological lying, silent rebellion
Pet hoarding
Belief that “No one will care for this poor, defenseless animal except me." This expresses an
unresolved inner conflict-of having received what we think was too little or too much attention from
our caregivers
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Hormones
Represent our ability to regulate our emotional reactions to challenging life experiences. See glands
Issues that can arise
Andropause
Major physical life change that can create challenges to our self-esteem. Can show how well or poorly
we adapt to change. Can help us better understand the challenges facing adolescents as they
experience puberty, or the physical challenges facing females throughout life (see compassion).
Meditating to understand and resolve the spiritual component of the physical issues arising can reduce
frequency, severity and duration of symptoms
Imbalance
Unable or unwilling to adapt to changes that are seemingly out of our control. See victim
Lipedema
Attitude that says: "I am worthless and I have no redeeming qualities. There is no way to change who I
am so I'm stuck here, as is." This can lead to feelings of hopelessness and isolation, and can cripple any
desire to see ourselves differently. It can lead to a thought pattern that says, "Why should I even
bother trying anything. Nothing I do ever works for me." See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders,
legacy family pattern, victim
Menopause
Major physical life change that can create challenges to our sense of self. Can show us how well or how
poorly we adapt to change. Can help us better understand the challenges that face adolescents as they
experience puberty (see compassion). Like the flu and the menstrual cycle, menopause is often used as
an excuse when one needs a rest and yet is unable or unwilling to speak up for self. It is also used as an
excuse to under-perform or to be "bitchy". Those who have severe problems with menopause may
have a victim or martyr mentality, or unresolved inner conflicts. Pain or discomfort can often be
reduced or even eliminated, by just saying "No" without guilt. The uncomfortable effects of hot flashes
can be reduced by paying attention to our critical or condemning thoughts. The uncomfortable effects
of frequent urination (nocturia) can be reduced by decreasing worry
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Human immunodeficiency virus (HIV)
Belief that we do not deserve to have a happy, healthy life, or even to be alive. See AIDS, genital
herpes, tuberculosis, guilt, shame, victim
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Hypochondria
Chronic, compulsive need to receive focused, sympathetic attention from an authority figure, to steal
attention from others (see envy), avoid responsibilities0, to be in crisis, or to punish self by assuming
that we have a serious or life-threatening disease as a way to compensate for any success. Fear of
retribution for every mistake that one has ever made; or fear that one is not living up to her or his life
purpose and so will be punished; or fear that one has no value and no right to be alive, or at least
should be suffering. Worry, worry, worry. See Munchausen's Syndrome by Proxy, somatic symptom
disorder
Belief that one has (or will develop) a terminal disease
Obsessive thoughts that every twitch, itch, bump, lump or pain is a symptom of a deadly disorder.
Belief that every warning about foods, substances, diseases, possible side effects, etc. applies to self.
Belief that if our associates develop a disease, "it is only a matter of time until I will get it too". See
accident proneness, fear of death/dying, fear of invasion
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Hypothalamus
The brain is the soul’s wheelhouse during physical incarnation; the pineal gland is its helm, and the
pituitary and hypothalamus glands are its commanders. This gland stimulates or inhibits many of our
body's most important processes in accordance with our reactions to our life experiences
Issues that can arise
Diabetes insipidus
Hypopituitarism
Sheehan’s syndrome
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I don't feel like it syndrome
When given an opportunity to do something helpful or productive, we often use the old excuse of, "I
don’t feel like it". What we are really saying is, “No”. It is all about power and control, and doing as we
have been asked can be seen as a sign of weakness. Saying “I don’t feel like it” is the polite way of
keeping control and feeling strong. The challenge is to do as asked, even though we may not want to.
Instead of telling ourselves that we are already doing enough, make that extra effort. Be prepared to
work though, because once we get started, our mindset usually changes and enthusiasm sets in. Note:
This pattern is not a manifestation of laziness
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Immune system
Represents our ability to protect self. See adenoids | bone marrow | lymph nodes | mucous
membranes | skin | thymus gland | tonsils

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Antiphospholipid syndrome – primary
Feeling threatened by impending change
Antiphosph olipid syndrome – secondary
Chronic fear of invasion
Autoimmune deficiency syndrome (AIDS)
Many believe that this condition is a punishment sent by God. It is not (see unconditional love). Can
occur in the presence of utter despair or deep shame, or where there is a complete lack of self-esteem
or sense of self-worth. Can occur if one has been deprived of approval from our caregivers and/or
loved ones. Can occur when we are the victim of someone's selfish lack of regard for others. See
genital herpes, HIV, sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s), tuberculosis
Autoimmune diseases
Holding self to excessively high standards (perfectionism), but wondering why since no one else does,
and using this as an excuse to harshly criticise others. Involves vicious self-condemnation for the tiniest
infraction of those standards. Diseases can also arise if we have no way to know whether to expect
cruelty or kindness from those around us, and our system can over-compensate with self-protection -
just in case we are attacked. See Addison's disease | alopecia | ankylosing spondylitis |
antiphospholipid syndrome | autoimmune pancreatitis (IgG4) | celiac disease | Crohn's disease |
diabetes insipidus | diabetes type 1 | erythromelalgia | endometriosis | fibromyalgia | giant cell
arteritis | Graves' disease | Guillain-Barré syndrome | hidradenitis suppurativa | lupus | inflammatory
bowel disease | interstitial cystitis | Lyme disease | Ménière's disease | psoriasis | psoriatic arthritis |
restless legs syndrome | rheumatoid arthritis | Sjogren’s syndrome | stiff-person syndrome |
ulcerative colitis | vasculitis | vitiligo
Autoimmune disorders
Our immune system becomes out of balance due to not knowing whether to expect cruelty or kindness
from those around us, and it over-compensates with self-protection - just in case
Compromised
Chronic fear of being attacked, whether verbally, emotionally, physically or spiritually
Cytomegalovirus
Feeling like a victim of our own caring and concern
Giant cell arteritis
Always thinking "If I had known my life was going to turn out like this, I never would have allowed
myself to feel happy. Ever." See autoimmune diseases, polymyalgia rheumatica
Change the pattern: Time for some spiritual exercises. Try them all, but especially forgiveness,
grieving, guilt-buster
Mast cell activation syndrome
Over-reaction to reminders of previous traumatic events that have not yet been resolved
Spiritual components: Distress, distrust, fear of invasion, low or unstable self-esteem, stress
Physical components: See individual disorder or affected area of the body

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Polymyalgia rheumatic a
Tired... of life, of working hard but never seeming to achieve what we really want, of no longer
receiving the nurturing we used to receive. See giant cell arteritis (related condition), depression, hips,
shoulders, muscle pain
Sjogren’s syndrome
Habitually denying self of nurturing, and unable or unwilling to acknowledge our hurts
Spiritual components: Despair, grief, martyr, victim
Physical components: Autoimmune diseases, dry eyes, dry mouth, lupus, rheumatoid arthritis
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Impotence
Complex disorder caused by a combination of several physical and spiritual conditions. However, the
root spiritual component can be traced to a desire to withhold pleasure either from self or from our
partner
Spiritual components: Anxiety, depression, fear, revenge, spite, stress
Physical components: Addiction, atherosclerosis, bent penis, diabetes, heart disease, high blood
pressure, high cholesterol, multiple sclerosis, obesity/overweight, Parkinson's disease, sleep disorders,
spinal cord injuries
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Incontinentia pigmenti
This genetic condition (see birth abnormalities and genetic disorders) can result from a long-standing
family pattern of legacy guilt, blame and shame, and feeling like a victim due to not really knowing the
reason for it all and feeling unable to escape. See autoimmune diseases, skin, eyes, teeth, spinal
column
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the contributing thought patterns. Build a pattern of
forgiveness of self for past words spoken or unspoken and deeds done or not done
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Infection
Frustration that our desires are always being denied and belief that they will never be met. See
cellulitis, fungal infections, gangrene, HIV / AIDS, mastoiditis, osteomyelitis, parasites, respiratory
infection, sepsis, tuberculosis, victim, zoonotic diseases
Sounds like: "I never get what I want" or "When is it going to be my turn?"
Bacterial versus Viral infections: The difference between bacterial and viral infections is that some
bacterial infections can occur spontaneously. In such a case, the spiritual component is purely from
within self, that is, from our thoughts, and requires no input from the environment to manifest in
physical.
Communicable infections, whether bacterial or viral, are spread by contact with infected people or
contaminated surfaces, air, food or water. With these, the spiritual component arises from within self
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H. pylori infection (Helicobacter pylori)
See conditions that can arise with this infection to find the thought patterns that can contribute to its
development: bloating, burping (frequent), eczema (atopic dermatitis), idiopathic hives (urticaria and
cold urticaria), nausea/vomiting, peptic ulcer, stomach cancer, stomach pain
Sarcoidosis
Unable or unwilling to let go of past hurts, and obsessing about what we will do to get even. See
affected body part, resentment
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Infertility
Represents inability or unrecognized unwillingness to reproduce. See miscarriage, required life
experiences. Can result from any of the following:
Congenital adrenal hyperplasia
Results from parental inability or unwillingness to provide the child with the spiritual necessities of life
Delayed ejaculation
Self-condemnation to the point of denying self the pleasure of fulfillment. Often carries over into other
areas of life besides sex/reproduction
Endometriosis
Endometritis
Fallopian tube issues
Feeling that our progress in life is being blocked by unseen forces, often called "bad luck" or a belief
that “God must hate me”. See Can negative energies and entities harm us?
Genetic abnormalities
Conditions arising from our family ancestors’ unresolved traumatic life events. See birth abnormalities
and genetic disorders
Low sperm count
Unrecognized and/or unresolved anger with our father
Premature ejaculation
Feeling unworthy to experience the pleasure of the sexual act. See embarrassment, guilt, shame
Prolactinoma
Desperate for loving attention yet knowing it is unlikely to be given
Secondary infertility
Fear of seeming to be greedy
Semen allergy
Unrecognized or unresolved issue with our mate
Weight issues
Lack of spiritual stability. See eating disorders
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Inflammation
Unable or unwilling to let go of the past. See fear of change
Bladder
Anger (pissed off) and unwilling to express it because ‘they’ should already know
Chronic
Lack of forgiveness for those who have harmed us, including self
Gallbladder
Obsessively repeating thoughts about all the supposedly selfless deeds we have accomplished, to build
self-esteem where almost none exists or to justify our self-righteous arrogance
Joints
Overcompensating for spiritual deficits. See affected joint
Lipedema
Attitude that says: "I am worthless and I have no redeeming qualities. There is no way to change who I
am so I'm stuck here, as is." This can lead to feelings of hopelessness and isolation, and can cripple any
desire to see ourselves differently. It can lead to a thought pattern that says, "Why should I even
bother trying anything. Nothing I do ever works for me." See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders,
legacy family pattern, victim
Panniculitis
Holding onto self-hatred, believing that to not do so would be disloyal to those who taught us to do so.
See affected body part, sclerosing mesenteritis
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Insect stings or bites
Chronic fear of being an unsuspecting dupe; or fear of things that we cannot control. See anaphylaxis,
Lyme disease
Ant bites
Given that ants are social creatures and very hard-working, a bite from one could indicate it is time to
get to work on something we have been putting off doing, or it is time to connect with someone we
have been putting off contacting
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Jaw
Represents determination and perseverance
Issues that can arise
Broken
Fear that a recent decision or event is going to have disastrous results
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Unable or unwilling to stop obsessing about the reason for a recent injury, possibly blaming someone
for it. Forgiveness is key to easing the effects
Osteonecrosis
Unable or unwilling to stop complaining. Intense belief that others are not living up to their
responsibilities and that we are beyond reproach; that we have done nothing whatsoever to create our
current difficulties. See help-rejecting complainer
Subluxation
Not knowing which way to turn or where to look for guidance or assistance
TMJ Disorder
Displeasure with our emotional environment but feeling unable or stubbornly unwilling to do anything
about it. Wanting everyone else to change. Rigid, negative beliefs. See blame, victim
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Joints
Represent our ease and comfort, or lack thereof, with change. See broken bones, cartilage, ligaments,
muscles, tendons
Ankles | Elbows | Fingers | Hips | Jaw | Knees | Knuckles | Neck | Shoulders | Spine | Toes | Wrists
Issues that can arise
Arthritis
Over-compensating for a perceived weakness in a particular area. Often develops after a joint has been
injured, but releasing anger and blame over the injury can be help to prevent it from forming. See
affected joint
Bursitis
Represents unwillingness to 'go with the flow'. See affected joint
Cracking - Intentional
Feeling that we have no voice and are not worthy of receiving attention, so stealing it instead of
waiting to receive it. See affected joint
Cracking - Unintentional
Not acting on our desires, or not knowing them yet wanting some way to be recognized. See affected
joint
Dislocation
Lack of spiritual stability and faith that we are doing what is right for us. See affected joint
Ehlers-Danlos syndrome
Fear of abandonment that has manifested into the family's genetic makeup. Issues arising from the
syndrome can be lessened by believing that one is worthy of love and support. See birth abnormalities
and genetic disorders
Inflammation
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Unable or unwilling to stay committed to our chosen path, or living without a firm purpose and so
veering from one project to another without ever accomplishing anything and hating self for it
Pain
Unable or unwilling to do that which needs to be done. See affected joint
Subluxation
Not knowing which way to turn or where to look for guidance or assistance. See affected joint
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Kidneys
Represent our ability to know right from wrong
Issues that can arise
Ectopic
If acquired
Chronic pattern of avoiding taking responsibility for our choices, instead blaming our actions on
others. See vesicoureteral reflux
If from birth
Legacy family pattern of promising to do the right thing, but never really following through due to
the risk of getting into trouble. See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Gitelman syndrome
Unable or unwilling to nurture self, preferring instead to be dependent on others by using guilt trips
and manipulation
If acquired
See autoimmune diseases, Sjogren’s syndrome
If from birth
Legacy family pattern of co-dependent relationships, guilt trips and manipulation
Kidney problems
Unable or unwilling to discern truth due to having had dishonest caregiver(s) in childhood, relying on
dishonest authority figures in adulthood, and wanting to be treated like a child so as to avoid conflict
with them. Hating every minute of it but unable or unwilling to make any meaningful changes. See
victim
Kidney/renal failure
If due to:
Direct damage to the kidneys
Occurs as a result of a recent (within the previous 1-5 days) childish, petulant, mean-spirited
decision made purely to hurt self or others
Impaired blood flow to the kidneys
Habitually throwing a spiritual temper tantrum whenever an obstacle is met
Urinary obs tructions
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Polycystic kidney disease
Unable or unwilling to let go of blame and resentment over old hurts that we feel were unjustified and
therefore unforgivable. See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, legacy family patterns, cysts,
lumps and bumps
Proteinurea
Belief that our strength can only be used if someone gives us permission. Can result if a parent or
caregiver publicly shames a child for not being able to prevent making a mistake or for suffering an
injury. The child’s resulting anger and shattered self-esteem can set up a behaviour pattern whereby
the child becomes emotionally stunted and therefore overly reliant on others for emotional leadership.
See fear of failure/success, fear of looking stupid
Stones
Obsessing about what others think about us or our choices and believing that they think we are stupid,
because we believe we are stupid and therefore unworthy. Tendency to deprive self of the spiritual
necessities of life due to condemning self and feeling like a martyr or a victim
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Knees
Represent our ability to cope with learning that people and things are not as we believe or hope they
are
Issues that can arise
Arthritis
Distrust in our ability to recover from defeat or loss. Habitually living in victim mode, always fearing the
next offense. See fear of invasion
Baker's Cyst
Trying to protect self from crippling blows to our self-esteem
Broken
Always feeling at risk of being publicly humiliated
Bursitis
Angry about feeling unprotected
Dislocation
Lack of spiritual stability and faith that we are doing what is right for us
Effusion (inflamed or swollen
Angry about always feeling like we have to be the one to let other people have their way. When are
they going to thank me for it? When are they going to let me have my way for a change?
Floating kneecap
Trying too hard to protect self from unknown dangers or enemies. Living in constant fear
Inclusion body myositis
Terrified at the thought of the next challenge and the damage it will do to our life, and expecting it to
come in the very next moment
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Fear of being attacked from behind, or by an unknown, unseen enemy. Fear of becoming a victim and
being brought to our knees. See distrust, arrogance and/or ego
Knock-kneed
Fear, fear, fear and not having been taught healthy coping tools
Ligament damage
Unable or unwilling to stay committed to our chosen path, or living without a firm purpose and so
veering from one project to another without ever accomplishing anything and hating self for it
Meniscus pain
Feeling that we are under assault from a trusted source. They are telling us something we do not wish
to hear and there is no way to protect self from the ugly truth
Meniscus tear
A long-held belief has been found to be untrue, and the new truth feels like a blow to our ego
Osgood-Schlatter disease
Difficulty in processing rapid change; impatient to see what is coming next. Looking everywhere for
guidance as to what kind of person to be, but not knowing whose opinion to trust, or after whom to
model self
Subluxation
Not knowing which way to turn or where to look for guidance or assistance
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Knuckles
Represent our ease or lack thereof with expressing our hidden desires. See affected finger, toe, or joint
Issues that can arise
Thumb or big toe
Hidden desire to do what we want to do instead of what everyone else wants us to do
Index finger or second toe
Hidden desire to shush people
Middle finger or third toe
Hidden desire to tell someone how angry we are with them
Ring finger or fourth toe
Hidden desire to be in, or get out of, a close relationship
Baby finger or baby toe
Hidden desire to return to childhood and be free of responsibilities
More than five fingers or toes
See description for adjacent fingers or toes
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Lacrimal glands
These glands serve both physical and spiritual purposes. The physical purpose is to maintain the eye
surface via tears that cleanse and moisturize. Spiritually, these glands provide us with a release for
strong emotions (anger, fear, joy, relief, unconditional love) via tears released during crying. The act of
crying is a physical expression of our spiritual pain or pleasure
Issues that can arise
Blocked tear duct
Can result from habitually not allowing self to cry over important life experiences, whether they caused
us pain or pleasure. Stifling self-expression is a sure sign that we have suffered repression
Dry eyes
Lacking compassion, empathy for self. “No one cares about my hurts, so why should I?”
Prolapse
Unable or unwilling to change that we are overburdened and overstressed. We may find it difficult to
ask for help even when we are desperate
Pink eye
Sarcoidosis
Swelling
If acute, see Epstein-Barr virus, mumps
If chronic, see thyroid eye disorder, sarcoidosis and orbital pseudotumor
Tumour
Whether benign or malignant, a tumour can indicate that our thoughts are focused on painful issues
that need to be acknowledged, resolved and released. See Spiritual decluttering
Watery eyes or tearing
Negative - Purposely holding back tears as a punishment. Positive - Feeling unconditional love. See
signals
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Lactose (or food) intolerance
Can be any or all of the following:
o Unresolved maternal issues (anger, unresolved grief)
o A deep desire to receive attention that we know would be excessive, but wanting it anyway
o Angry with someone who over- or under-nurtures but afraid to ask them to change for fear of
abandonment
o Physical manifestation of intolerance of femininity or of expressing or displaying emotions. See
misogyny
Visit SciTechDaily.com and check out What Is the Difference Between a Food Allergy and a Food
Intolerance?
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Laziness (behaviour)
Unwilling to do that which needs to be done (see silent rebellion). Doing everything very slowly is
dawdling, not laziness (see passive/aggressive and/or aggressive/passive). Telling others that they are
lazy is judgment against others and can indicate self-righteousness. See procrastination
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Legs
Represent how we carry ourselves through life. See ankles, feet, hips, knees, thighs, toes, walk (gait)
Issues that can arise
Broken
Fear that a recent decision was horribly wrong or that a recent negative experience proves that we are
unable to make our way though life. See femur, fibula, tibia
Rotation of femur, fibula or tibia
Zigzagging through life due to searching everywhere for a solution but unable to decide on a particular
path in case it is the wrong one. See help-rejecting complainer
Shin splints
Trying too hard to get something distasteful over and done with, or trying to achieve too much, too
fast in order to win approval from a harsh critic, possibly self
Spider veins
Wishing we were someplace - anyplace - else, or with someone - anyone - else, and feeling stuck in the
planning process to make any changes
Varicose veins
Wishing we were someplace - anyplace - else, or with someone - anyone - else, but unable or unwilling
to do anything about it (victim)
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Ligaments
Represent ability to follow through on commitments. See cartilage, joints, muscles, tendons
Issues that can arise
Ligament damage
Unable or unwilling to stay committed to our chosen path, or just living without a firm purpose, and so
veering from one project to another without ever accomplishing anything and hating self for it
Fibrodysplasia Ossificans Progressiva
Fear that our foundation and support will be ripped away
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Lipoma
Physical manifestation of thought patterns that say it is not ok for me to live joyously. See cysts, lumps
and bumps, legacy guilt, and check out the affected body part for more information
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Lips
Represent how we express ourselves without words. See gums, mouth, teeth, tongue
Issues that can arise
Biting
Accidentally
Biting back words that, if spoken aloud, could cause trouble for us
Purposely
Wanting to show someone how badly we want to get it right
Chapped or burning
Burning to express negative thoughts, attitudes or emotions
Cheilitis
Holding onto hurtful beliefs even if we know they are false
Cleft lip or palate
See required life experiences
If environmental
Parental inability or unwillingness to grasp, or unfamiliarity with, the reality that our thoughts
manifest in the physical world
If genetic
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, karmic situations, legacy family patterns
Cold sores and fever blisters
Sudden idea that "I'm so bad" or "I'm so wonderful", and unable or unwilling to accept that we are no
better or worse than anyone else - we are just normal
Cracked
Unable or unwilling to allow others the dignity of making mistakes
Dry
Unable to satisfy our thirst for something that we know is better left untouched. Feeling deprived
Labial (median) tubercle
Represents our level of comfort, or lack thereof, with our physical appearance and attractiveness.
Issues may arise from blaming our physical appearance for our early childhood painful or traumatic
experience(s). However, children are not responsible for their caregivers' actions, so such a belief is
false or inaccurate and can contribute to inner conflicts
Pouting
Feeling sorry for self and wanting the world to know that we have been offended. See victim
Pursed
Keeping our judgment, criticism, and condemnation to self but hoping someone will notice our
displeasure anyway
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Liver
Represents our ability to express or process strong emotions
Issues that can arise
Liver diseases
Anger, envy, jealousy, revenge - just sitting there being relished and savoured, and unwilling to
acknowledge it all as being negative, harmful and hurtful
Cancer
Processing life experiences with an “everybody else is an idiot and has caused all my problems"
attitude (blame), or "I'm an idiot and everybody else is better than me" (self-condemnation). Deep-
seated, long-standing anger and feeling fully justified in holding onto it. Fear of abandonment. See liver
diseases
Cirrhosis
Stubborn refusal to see the good - in self, in others, in the world. "What's the point?"
Hepatitis
Tendency to blame anyone or anything but self for our problems. Failure to accept responsibility for
our shortcomings. Extremely difficult to please. See criticism, perfectionism, sexually transmitted
diseases (STD’s)
Jaundice
Bitter attitude toward life; nasty temperament; unkind. If a newborn baby, taking on the mother’s
attitudes. See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Non-alcoholic fatty liver disease
Easily offended and unable or unwilling to let go of the resulting anger that can easily turn into
resentment and the desire for revenge
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Losing one's belongings (behaviour)
Can happen when we are not concentrating on what we are doing in the moment. If it happens often,
can be a sign of living in victim mode, a need to live in chaos so as to avoid dealing with unresolved
issues, or an unrecognized need to be nurtured
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Lungs
Represent our ability to give ourselves breathing room, to feel free to make choices, express our
thoughts and live life as we would like. Lung disorders can manifest in our physical home as
heating/cooling system problems
Issues that can arise
Asthma
Habitually responding to the unknown with fear, confusion, distrust, agitation, anxiety - a reflection of
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Feeling forced into being the responsible one, and angry about it. Feeling under-appreciated
Cancer
If the individual smokes, look for the real reason for starting smoking. If the individual has never
smoked, look for a “smothering” attitude (could be smothering the truth, smothering a loved one,
being smothered by a loved one, etc.). Is the individual in a co-dependent relationship?
COPD
Always waiting for the next punishment that we know life will deal us. See upper respiratory infection
Collapsed
Belief that we have just suffered an intentional attack from a completely unexpected, fully trusted
source
Constrictive bronchiolitis
Chronic, silent, chilling, debilitating expectation of imminent death from no apparent cause
Cystic Fibrosis
Stifling, explosive emotional atmosphere in the home and wanting to put out the fire. See birth
abnormalities and genetic disorders
Emphysema
Unable or unwilling to let go of poisonous, stifling beliefs
Fungus (Aspergillosis)
Drowning in a swamp of sorrow. See grief and do the Grieving exercise
Legionnaires’ disease
Using others’ negative behaviour as an excuse to be mean, nasty or childish
Pleurisy
Reacting to a recent life lesson by rejecting or resisting it. If the lesson is accepted and absorbed, full
healing is possible. If it is not, a pattern may develop of reacting to future life lessons in the same way,
with the resulting pleurisy becoming chronic
Pneumonia
Extreme disappointment that an important opportunity has been missed, or extreme fear that we just
made a very large mistake. See COVID-19
Pontiac fever
Sickening feeling that we have been cheated out of the good things in life - again
Shortness of breath (Dyspnea)
Physical manifestation of any or all of anxiety, fear, fear of failure, fear of retribution, fear of the
unknown
Tuberculosis
Belief that we are weak. Feeling at the mercy of those who are strong and in a position of power.
Giving up on our ability to survive. See HIV / AIDS
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Misplaced or unearned trust in others, or in our ability to discern that which is safe for consumption
Whooping cough
HEAR ME!
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Lupus
Always waiting for the next attack (not of lupus). Anxiety, blame, self-condemnation, victim
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Lying
Unable or unwilling to reveal the truth for any of the following reasons:
o to get our way (see manipulation)
o to protect self from unpleasant consequences (fear)
o to give ourselves the upper hand in a given situation
o to appear kind and generous when greed is our real motive (see self-aggrandizement)
o to gain someone's approval
o to spare someone's feelings
o Low or unstable self-esteem
o Extreme guilt or shame over traumatic experience(s)
o Victim of chronic abuse, whether physical, sexual, emotional or verbal
Watch Lie detector, a TED Talks presentation by Pamela Meyer

Chronic
Making up stories in an attempt to hide or escape being held responsible, or to appear kind and
generous
Pathological
Purposely weaving a web of lies around a kernel of truth to keep everyone wondering and guessing, so
that we ALWAYS remain in control and at top-of-mind. When taken to the utter extreme, can become
Pseudo Munchausen's Syndrome by Proxy
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Lymphatic system
Represents our ability to defend self from threats, whether real or imagined. See bone marrow | lymph
nodes | lymphatic vessels | spleen | thymus gland
Issues that can arise
Lymphatic system cancer
Lymphedema
Afraid to let go of the hurt for fear that ‘it’ will happen again
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Represent our ability to release that which is no longer needed
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Lymph nodes
Represent our ability to defend self from verbal or emotional abuse
Issues that can arise
Cancer
Unable or unwilling to pay attention to signals due to feeling that no one really cares about us, or that
we are meant to suffer
Swollen
Feeling like a victim, unable to speak up for self. See self-esteem
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Mammary glands
Represent nurturing. See breast
Issues that can arise
Galactorrhea
Profound curiosity about breastfeeding, or an unmet desire to nurture or to be nurtured
Mammary duct ectasia
Wishing desperately to nurture someone of our choosing, rather than those who are currently in our
care
Mammary fibromatosis
Cluster of obsessive negative beliefs about womanhood, motherhood and nurturing
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Marfan syndrome
Whether from birth or developing later in life, a karmic situation in which the affected person either
experienced, or caused someone else to experience, what it is like to be at the complete mercy of
someone with a complete lack of empathy or compassion. Their challenge now is to learn, at soul level,
that all are equally worthy to be treated with dignity, respect, caring and compassion. See birth
abnormalities and genetic disorders
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Me too syndrome
Pattern of repeating words that someone else has just spoken, in effect stealing them from the person
who expressed the original idea. Can result from a fear of speaking our own thoughts (which we fear
might sound silly), or fear of being disagreed with and feeling incompetent to explain our viewpoint.
The person being repeated may feel as if they were robbed
Change the pattern
If someone does it to us
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about it with them. After all, they might not even know that they do this
If we do it
Stop! Visit WikiHow and learn how to speak well
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Measles
Belief that our emotional needs are being neglected, and fear that the situation will never improve
German (Rubella)
Wanting to prevent having to take the next step alone. Fear of abandonment, fear of the unknown
Red (Rubeola)
Wanting to permanently delay taking the next step of development. Fear of the unknown
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Medical or dental procedures including surgery
How to gain the best possible results
During the days before the procedure, at least once a day, take five or 10 minutes to:
o Get centred
o Set aside fear and worry
o Set aside any desire to remain unwell
Taking these steps will elevate your endorphins and prepare your body to accept healing. Then, just
before the procedure, mindfully repeat the above steps and repeat, "I'm in good hands" as it begins
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Memory
Energetic representations of our life experiences and our reactions to them. Here is a brief explanation
of its workings from a spiritual viewpoint.
An individual has an experience. A personal memory is created in the brain via the firing of neurons.
The memory contains every single detail of the experience, including informational input from the
experience itself (who, when, where, why, what, how) and sensory input from the physical organs
(sight, smell, sound, taste, touch and thought).
Each of the neurons consists of not only a personal, physical memory, but a spiritual or "quantum"
memory. The personal memory is stored in the brain, while the quantum memory is stored in the
Akashic or soul record. Upon physical death of the individual, the life experience is reviewed and the
soul is prepared for its next set of required life experiences. The records may be accessed during an
incarnation as well as during intervals between incarnations to review a soul’s spiritual progress
Issues that can arise
Alzheimer’s disease
Chronic self-deception. Habitually denying that we played any role in our negative experiences, yet
feeling guilt over choices we made that we know had devastating consequences, and/or a strong
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and escape being held responsible (see fear of retribution). The underlying guilt and shame can create
a victim mentality and a constant need to blame. See dementia
Dementia
Progressive inability to function within the boundaries of the lies we tell self and others about the type
of person we are or were. See Alzheimer’s disease, Creutzfeldt-Jakob disease, Huntington's disease,
Parkinson's disease
Forgetfulness
Often used as an excuse for obsessive/compulsive checking and rechecking. This is not forgetfulness
though. This is inability or unwillingness to be in the moment. Can be a means of bringing extra
attention to self, as a way of saying, “You are not important enough for me to bother remembering
anything about you" or as a way to cover up our mistakes or shortcomings. Habitually using
forgetfulness as an excuse can contribute to the onset of Alzheimer’s disease. See ADD / ADHD
Remembering everything
Constantly reminding self of events, losses, experiences, victories or hurts in case they are needed to
gain the upper hand in arguments (see guilt trips), or to give us a sense of superiority
Transient global amnesia
Occurs when we relax into a higher level of consciousness that enables our guide to present
information from a past or future life experience that has bearing on our current incarnation. See
Akashic records. Contact the author to discuss your experience to gain more clarity
Unable to forget
Can arise from traumatic events. See PTSD
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Menstrual cycle
Signifies the start of a new cycle, a new way of life, or a new opportunity. Can also represent
recognition of our limitations, or that we have a pattern of fighting any change suggested by others
(see defiance), refusing to go with the flow, or arguing just for the sake of being disagreeable. The cycle
can be a guaranteed week or two every month when we can blame our body instead of admitting that
we have needs. Like the flu and menopause, this process is often used as an excuse to under-perform
or to be mean.
Those who have painful cycles may have a victim or martyr mentality. Such pain, discomfort and other
effects can be reduced, or even eliminated, by not allowing self the luxury of using this as an excuse.
After all, the Universal Intelligence cooperates with our desires. Some lie and say they have painful
cycles even if they do not. This can arise from a desire to play on the sympathies of others, or to escape
responsibilities. See infertility, miscarriage, pelvis, uterine fibroids, uterus
Issues that can arise
Adenomyosis
Unresolved pain and agony over our childhood, and/or the children we have or have not had.
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If not caused by breastfeeding, pregnancy or menopause: Deep and possibly unrecognized fear of any
or all of the following: being an adult with responsibilities, being a female adult, attracting sexual
attention, becoming pregnant, giving birth, becoming a parent
Endometriosis
Endometritis
Menorrhagia
Results from a legacy family pattern of cyclic emotional and/or physical abuse toward the family’s
female members or its children. This creates an unrecognized belief that life as a woman is all about
suffering, with the body cooperating with our expectation. See premenstrual dysphoric disorder
Menometrorrhagia
Results from a legacy family pattern of cyclic, albeit unpredictable, emotional or physical violence
toward the family’s female members or its children. See bleeding nose
Metrorrhagia
Results from a legacy family pattern of cyclic, predictable, emotional or physical violence toward the
family’s female members or its children
Missed periods
Can be caused by pregnancy or breast-feeding, eating disorders, ovarian cysts, polycystic ovary
syndrome, premature ovarian failure or an "I give up" attitude, pelvic inflammatory disease, uterine
fibroids
Premenstrual dysphoric disorder
For some, menstruation is a thing to be dreaded. There can be no comfort because the next cycle is
just around the corner, waiting to hurt us. This can result from a family pattern of cyclic, albeit
unpredictable, emotional or physical violence toward the family’s female members or its children
Premenstrual syndrome
For some, the menstrual cycle is a reminder of all that is wrong in their life. The weight of such a
concern manifests as an emotional burden which in turn creates physical discomfort
Uterine fibroids and/or polyps
Represent stifled creativity along with a desire for a life-changing experience and yet a fear of the
unknown
Intramural
Pent-up desire for growth
Submucosal
Frustrated desire to shrink or grow our family
Submucosal pedunculated
Unmet desire to create something of lasting importance
Subserosal
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Mental illness
Reflects our inability or unwillingness to live life with a high enough level of emotional and behavioral
wisdom to prevent inner chaos and protect ourselves from harmful activities. It is important to
remember that, like behaviours, thought patterns can be modified.
Knowing whether we have had a spiritual experience or are suffering mental illness can help us stay on
track with our spiritual development. Check out “Is it a spiritual experience or mental illness?”, a CBC
Radio Canada presentation.

Aggressive anxiety disorder

Pattern of lashing out at others either physically or verbally when feeling unable to control a situation.
See intermittent explosive disorder, stress
Aggressive/passive behaviour
Obnoxious behaviour designed to force others into submission. This childish, abusive pattern results
from growing up in an extremely controlled household or an environment with no boundaries at all.
The aggressive phase can manifest as shouting orders, criticisms or guilt trips, throwing temper
tantrums, threatening physical or financial assault, or abandonment. When the victim submits and
becomes obedient and docile, the passive phase then begins. The aggressor shows mercy by showering
the victim with affection, warmth and praise, giving gifts or rewards and generally being sweet and
attentive... until the next time. The passive phase lures the victim into a false sense of security, and can
even create a guilty feeling for ever having doubted the aggressor
Spiritual effects: Pathological lying, greed, self-righteousness, distrust
Physical effects: High blood pressure, dental problems (can result in total tooth loss), laziness,
hoarding
Change the pattern: If this behaviour is an issue for you, either as aggressor or as victim, visit Section 2
to start changing your life
Avoidant personality disorder
Chronic avoidance of anything new or unknown due to extremely low or unstable self-esteem, fear of
failure, or fear of looking stupid. The pattern can lead us into co-dependent relationships so that we
can blame the other person's supposed need to be in control as an excuse to be silent, remain in the
background, and generally hide from life. Feeling like a powerless victim can lead to profound anger
and frustration and may result in passive/aggressive behaviour
Bi-polar disorder
Seemingly never-ending cycle of extreme self-approval and extreme self-hatred - usually in direct
response to another's words or actions that have been taken as either a reward or a personal attack.
Unable or unwilling to accept self as just another soul in human form, doing well at times and poorly at
other times. Chronically unmet need to receive loving attention, and so doing all that we can to receive
attention whenever possible by being either the very best or the very worst - at everything
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 Occurs after a perceived failure and thinking, “I give up.” “I'm useless and horrible and everybody
hates me.” “I'm not perfect and everyone sees it.” “I can't bear the shame.” “God hates me.” “I hate
me.”
Manic phase
Occurs after a perceived success and thinking: “I can do anything and everything.” “The rules don't
apply to me (arrogance).” The spiritual component of this sort of thinking can be the idea that "I
don't care what God - or anyone else - thinks about me."
Borderline Personality Disorder
Profound sense that one was, is, and always will be, a failure, and incapable of 'correct' thought or
action. Often comes as a result of a child having every choice controlled by others or of having no one
to provide guidance, in other words, no experience of what it is like to make right or wrong choices in a
safe learning environment. This can result in a nearly complete lack of self-trust, along with anger at
the imposed control of others and fear of having that control removed (fear of abandonment). See
inner conflict
Chronic confusion
Can be caused by habitual repetition of negative thoughts, or by believing the constant criticism from
our caregivers or loved ones. Too many people to please. See fear of looking stupid
Change the pattern: Check out spiritual decluttering and do the self-esteem exercise
Conduct disorder
Chronic feelings of intense rage and indignation over our life situation, along with a belief that it will
never change because those who are responsible for us, those who should care the most, are hurting -
not helping - us
Depersonalization -derealization disorder
Unable or unwilling to acknowledge that our choices, our actions, or our words, may have helped to
create our current dilemma
See abandonment, avoidance, blame, denial, despair, fear of retribution, guilt, stress, trauma, victim
Issues that can arise
Anxiety, chronic confusion, depression, memory issues, obsessive/compulsive behaviours
Depression
Depression is not a constant state , being more like waves on the ocean. Just as we are recovering from
a bout, a new experience can trigger another episode. Depression can become a reflex reaction to a
specific experience, like making a mistake (whether anyone else knows about it), disappointing
someone, or someone saying "no" to us. Until the root cause has been recognized and dealt with, the
condition can only be managed.
Depression is based in our self-worth and self-esteem. A wave of depression often occurs if we suspect
that we have lost the approval of someone who is very important to us. If our sense of self is
completely wrapped up in that individual, as can happen when living or working in co-dependent
relationships, we feel we will lose our identity without their approval. We will do almost anything to
cope with our sense of loss and deprivation. Usually this means doing any number of negative
behaviours in the hope of getting that person to help us recover and buy back into the relationship.
Then, we tell ourselves, everything will be ok again.
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And it will be, for a little while. Until, almost from out of the blue, another experience will trigger
another wave of self-hatred. Then we are right back where we started … punishing and hurting self ...
going on a binge of alcohol or drug usage, starving ourselves or overeating / purging, withholding
communication, shopping for things we do not need with money we do not have, cutting ourselves
until we bleed, contemplating or attempting suicide, stopping doing the things we truly love to do …
oh, the list is endless.
There is another way to live, but it means changing how we relate to others, and more importantly,
how we relate to ourselves. It means becoming aware of - and changing - our thoughts, attitudes,
emotions, beliefs and desires. If depression is hurting your quality of life, see choose a pattern
Depression - postp artum
Fear of losing our identity, fear that we might be overshadowed by the child. In its extreme, can
become Munchausen's Syndrome by Proxy
Dysphoria
Cycle of negative thought patterns triggered by perceived judgment, criticism, and condemnation from
others. See self-esteem
Gender dysphoria
Can result from familial and societal rejection, ridicule and public shaming for simply being different.
It has become a worsening crisis as more people feel entitled to foist their personal beliefs and
opinions onto those in a minority position in society. For the affected individual, see anxiety,
depression, distress, eating disorders, self-harm, substance misuse. For those doing the public
shaming etc., see bullying, hatred, prejudice, self-esteem, self-righteousness, tolerance,
unconditional love
Premenstrual dysphoric disorder
For some, menstruation is a thing to be dreaded. There can be no comfort because the next cycle is
just around the corner, waiting to hurt us. This can result from a family pattern of cyclic, albeit
unpredictable, emotional or physical violence toward the family’s female members or its children.
See premenstrual syndrome
Rejection sensitive dysphoria
Unable to tolerate the seeming loss of others' approval without falling into an emotional tailspin
that can trigger any number of negative behaviours. The perceived loss can result from the slightest
disagreement with our opinions, or any suggestion as to how we might improve something we have
done, or even a hint that we may have erred. See self-esteem
Help-rejecting complainer
Living from one catastrophe or heartache to the next and, although seeming to want help to change
their seemingly dire situation, resisting any suggestions that could help. They say things like "I've tried
that already." "That won't work for me because..." "Nothing ever works right for me." Exasperating for
us, but even more so for them. The spiritual component is being stuck in a feedback loop of craving
sympathetic attention and recognition for all of their suffering, but needing to keep on suffering to
justify their compulsion. See blame, victim
Note: Someone with this issue read this description and said, "This is dumb and it's not even accurate."
Exactly the pattern!
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn whose attention was lacking during and after a traumatic event.
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Intermittent explosive disorder
Behaviour that we feel fully justified in maintaining. Used as a means of keeping control in any
situation where we might lose the war. See aggressive/passive behaviour
Kleptomania
When our basic spiritual needs go unmet, our desperation can make us compensate by stealing objects
from others. Eating disorders can also manifest along with other obsessive/compulsive behaviours
Logorrhea
Seemingly unable or unwilling to stop talking, to allow there to be silence, or to allow someone else to
speak... to the point that we overload the listener with unnecessary or unconnected details. See
aphasia, babbling, bi-polar disorder, obsessive/compulsive disorder, traumatic brain injury. Visit
WikiHow and check out 3 Ways to Be Friends With Someone Who Talks Too Much
Midlife crisis
Feeling stuck and knowing that we cannot go on any longer as we have, and feeling a desperate need
to do something, anything, to relieve the craving for change. So we try a new job, or mate, or home, or
car, or whatever, but quickly find that nothing helps. The wise realize that the solution is not out there,
it is within ourselves... we need to change ourselves.
The craving can arise from having carried emotional and spiritual burdens for many years. The thought
of carrying them for another few decades is too much to bear. The solution? Check out Spiritual
decluttering
Multiple personality disorder
What it is not: It is not other souls inhabiting our mind or body
What it is:
o Behaviour done out of a profound need to protect self from the actions and/or opinions of others
o Fear of revealing our true nature, and protecting self by hiding within various acting roles
o Desire to “keep them guessing". The benefits are multiple: This can give us a sense of always
being in control , because since only "I" know the secret, others can never be sure with whom
they are dealing. If someone expresses displeasure with us, we can tell ourselves that it does not
really matter because it was not really me' that they condemned
Spiritual effects: Gradual loss of desire or ability to recall our true self, unwillingness to confront the
truth about our motives, unstable self-esteem
Physical effects: ADD / ADHD, pathological lying
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the initial reasons for choosing the behaviour
Narcissism
Belief that everything is all about Me, everyone is thinking about Me, Me is always correct, and anyone
who disagrees is a threat to be destroyed, shouted down or publicly ridiculed. Belief that it is not
enough to win - everyone else has to lose. Chronic refusal to give others a chance to speak. The pattern
often leads to isolation, as very few people want to be around someone who is unwilling to listen,
share the spotlight or give credit to another; however, if the narcissist happens to hold a position of
power or authority, many are only too eager to forego their personal needs and sell out in favour of
self-promotion. See self-importance
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Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
Hiding anguish and futile rage over being unable to change certain situations creates a chronic need to
do something, anything, to divert our attention from them. obsessive/compulsive behaviours result,
since doing a behaviour, even if self-destructive, allows us to feel as if we have at least a little bit of
control. See addiction
Obsessive Compulsive Behaviour
Unable to cope with life without doing certain routines when certain things have happened, or a
seemingly uncontrollable urge to repeat a behaviour, whether it is acted out. Often done in response
to repression or suppression of strong emotions, to gain some measure of control when we feel like a
victim. Form of addiction that can be as difficult to treat as chemical dependency; however, if
dedicated to healing self, tremendous change is possible. Before repeating any behaviour, it is
important to remember that we have the ability to choose. See free will, obsessive/compulsive
disorder, perfectionism
Physical effects: Self-soothing by using substances or behaviours to excess. Doing so can repel people
(sometimes that is the whole idea) and they can anger people (a side benefit). They often end up
creating the exact situation we think we are avoiding
Change the pattern: Meditate to identify and resolve inner conflict(s)
Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD)
Pattern of non-compliance with authority figures, plus angry, defiant, spiteful and/or vengeful
behaviour due to feeling traumatized or victimized, or to believing that 'nobody truly loves me'. See
silent rebellion
Paranoia
Certain that everyone (all sentient beings and the Universal Intelligence) and everything in the
environment that has been perverted by humans, is plotting against Me and watching and waiting for
Me to fail - to teach Me that I am powerless against them. My negative life experiences result because
of them, not because of Me. The pattern can result from too little or too much control by our
caregivers and/or positive versus negative attention, as well as parental failure to model balanced
responsibility. See anxiety, avoidance, child abuse, fear, self-esteem, self-importance, self-
righteousness
Passive/aggressive disorder
Unable or unwilling to stand up for self but resenting others' supposed lack of respect and supposed
need to be in control. Constant grumbling, griping and whining but unwilling to take responsibility for
our role in any negative situation (victim)
Looks like: Withholding communication, abandonment, extremely slow to act or react, to speak, to
move, to offer assistance. See dawdling, chronic lateness; chronic procrastination, habitual lying
Physical effects: Accident proneness, addictions, anxiety, dental problems, headache or migraine
headache
Persecution complex ( thought, attitude, emotion)
Feeling that everyone is out to get us, or is judging us, or is thinking about us, or wants us to fail (see
narcissism, self-importance, pity party, victim). Can stem from too little or too much favourable
attention in early childhood
Sounds like: They all think I am bad and they are making my life miserable to punish me
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Physical effects: Difficulty in building or maintaining close, satisfying relationships, covering the mouth
when communicating, hiding one’s face when speaking, mumbling or talking fast
Change the pattern: Do the Self-esteem exercise
Reactive attachment disorder
Results from a lack of forming healthy attachments with caregivers in early childhood, due to
caregivers' being unable or unwilling to connect emotionally with the child - not the other way around.
Can become a generational family pattern
Schizophrenia
Can result from the following chronic thought patterns and emotions: self-condemnation, guilt, shame,
futile anger, distress, distrust, anxiety; along with a childhood filled with chaos, chronic emotional
instability, trauma, and/or a lack of positive parental attention. Additionally, the condition may be a
karmic requirement, e.g., needing to learn compassion for those who are at the mercy of their
caregiver and lack self-determination
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MTHFR variant (methylenetetrahydrofolate reductase)
If issues arise, they may be due to a legacy family pattern of denying its children any sense of
individuality, or of receiving any special treatment, such that the children’s basic spiritual needs go
unmet. Feeling like we do not matter. See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, self-esteem
Issues that may arise
Spiritual effects: Anxiety, bi-polar disorder, depression, schizophrenia
Physical effects: Blood clots, colon cancer, chronic pain and chronic fatigue, heart attack, leukemia
(acute), migraine headache, miscarriages (recurrent), pregnancies with neural tube defects like spina
bifida, stroke
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Migraine headache
Feeling helpless and hopeless to resolve an ongoing issue, yet unable or unwilling to seek options or
ask for help. See headaches
Migraine aura
Unable to accept the truth about a troubling issue because it would interfere with our desired course
of action
Retinal migraine
Feeling blind-sided by the actions of someone we considered to be a friend
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Miscarriage
Represents an end to a developmental phase. Can be triggered by the spiritual or physical health
conditions of the mother or the fetus. Fetal failure for any reason may cause uterine infection (septic
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Ectopic pregnancy
Can occur if the channel opened for the incoming soul is closed due to the mother's self-esteem
suffering a damaging blow in the days just before conception, along with a fear that regaining it will be
impossible
Fetal issues
Blighted ovum
Situation in which the mother's stubbornly-held belief about self being unloved by God determines
the embryo's failure
Intrauterine fetal demise
A soul's first entry into human form, or re-entry after a traumatic prior life experience (see
reincarnation) may be done in gradually lengthening stages of time being spent in physical. The
same soul may or may not return to this mother
Molar or p artia l molar pregnancy
Paternal desire (unrecognized) to be the biggest and the best, at any cost
Maternal issues
Cervix problems
Uncontrolled diabetes
Hormonal problems
Infection - See cellulitis, gangrene, sepsis, victim
Thyroid disease
Uterus problems
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Mitochondria
Represent the body's ability to nurture and sustain itself
Issues that can arise
Mitochondrial disease
If acquired
See affected body part plus silent rebellion
If from birth
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
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Money problems
Represent inability or unwillingness to protect self and our property
Related to a lack of self-worth and/or self-approval. Such beliefs can result from family behavioural
patterns, which in effect say to the Universe that "I am not worthy to live in comfort" or "I deserve to
suffer" or "I am a horrible person". These beliefs can be related to chronic guilt or shame, or feeling
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recognized and resolved. If they are not, having money can actually create other self-destructive
behaviours like addictions, eating disorders, hoarding
Change the pattern: Do the Guilt-buster and Self-esteem exercises
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Mononucleosis
See adenovirus, cytomegalovirus, Epstein-Barr virus, hepatitis, HIV, rubella, toxoplasmosis
Sounds like: Leave me alone. I just want to sleep. I don't want to have to do what anyone else says
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Motor Neuron Diseases
Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis - ALS, adult onset
Denying our chronic, desperate need to avoid discussing painful issues or sensitive subjects, yet
yearning to bring them out into the open. The issue here is fighting with self over whether to discuss
something that is important to us or keep it hidden. Of course we all have reasons for wanting to avoid
discussing some subjects; often it is because we think others will react poorly when we raise topics
that they themselves wish to avoid.
This not knowing which topics are safe to discuss - the indecision - creates a push-pull effect on the
body. Nerves and muscles are unconsciously tightened and relaxed at a furious pace, creating
unimaginable strain on the systems. After many years of living with this pattern, damage occurs at
cellular level. The body is eventually unable to cope and ALS results.
Not everyone with this issue develops ALS (see Primary Lateral Sclerosis). For those with ALS, the
behaviour is severe, chronic and long-standing. It is not just one topic that is avoided - the indecision
manifests in all choices of topics to share or avoid discussing. Those that are discussed that meet with
negative responses or reactions cause us to judge, criticise, and condemn self for making trouble.
Those that are kept hidden remain in the thoughts creating further damage.
The challenge is to change the pattern, that is, to share and discuss what is important to us and to keep
hidden that which we do not yet wish to disclose, in the knowledge that we cannot control how others
react. Their reactions are just that - their reactions
If inherited - see birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, legacy family patterns and What is karma?
Kennedy’s disease
Maternal pattern of legacy resentment of male family members that manifests physically in her son(s).
The son feels extreme dissatisfaction with the way life is working out but is unable to express it
verbally, given the family dynamics. See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders and What is karma?
Post-polio syndrome (PPS)
Fear that the family unit is breaking up and not wanting it to change in any way. See polio. This is a
form of "empty nest syndrome" manifesting in physical
Primary Lateral Sclerosis
Denying our chronic, desperate need to avoid discussing painful issues or sensitive subjects, yet
yearning to bring them out into the open. The issue here is fighting with self over whether to discuss
something that is important to us or keep it hidden. Of course we all have reasons for wanting to avoid
discussing some subjects; often it is because we think others will react poorly when we raise topics
that they themselves wish to avoid.
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This not knowing which topics are safe to discuss - the indecision - creates a push-pull effect on the
body. Nerves and muscles are unconsciously tightened and relaxed at a furious pace, creating
unimaginable strain on the systems. Coming to peace with self-expression can ease symptoms and
potentially avoid the condition becoming Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis
If inherited - see birth abnormalities and genetic disorders and What is karma?
Progressive Bulbar Palsy
See Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis
Progressive Muscular Atrophy
Can also be slowly-progressing Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis
Spinal Muscular Atrophy
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders and What is karma?
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Mouth
Represents physical expression of our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires. See gums,
lips, teeth, tongue
Issues that can arise
Ageusia
Lack of sense of taste represents inability or unwillingness to discern the dangers that our negative
thoughts pose to our physical health, making us less able to protect ourselves. See COVID-19
Bad breath (halitosis)
Hiding the truth that we believe to be ugly and wish were untrue but thinking it does not matter what
we believe anyway because no one can hear our thoughts, right?
Being hit in the mouth
Fear that God is using someone or something to punish us
Burning mouth syndrome
Fear of retribution if we speak our truth because they might think that we are mean
Canker sores
Biting back poisonous words, even if we think they are true. To avoid infection and speed healing,
discover or acknowledge the real reason for thinking them and for not saying them
Covering the mouth when communicating
Shame or discomfort. If using the lips to cover the teeth while speaking, can indicate unresolved inner
conflicts or fear of being found out. See hiding behind one’s hair when speaking
Dry mouth - chronic
Living with constant low-grade fear
Dry mouth - occasional
Knowing that our words are false and/ or purposely divisive and are likely to meet with disapproval
Swollen salivary glands
Fear of retribution if others were to find out what we really think. See COVID-19, flu, mumps
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Movement disorders
Akathisia
Ataxia
Dystonia
Huntington's disease
Multiple system atrophy
Parkinson's disease
Progressive Muscular Atrophy
Restless legs syndrome
Stiff-person syndrome
Tourette syndrome
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Mucous membranes
Represent our ability to protect our self-esteem from being harmed by others’ negative opinions about
us. See immune system
Issues that can arise
Burning mouth syndrome
Mucous membrane pemphigoid (MMP)
Belief that we are 'bad' and therefore deserve to suffer
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Multiple Sclerosis
Deep need to be perfect - not so much to be a better person, but rather to make someone else see
how hard we are trying to win their approval. Feeling overburdened and hopeless that the burden will
ever be lifted, but unwilling to do anything to change it. See martyr, victim
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Mumps
Afraid of taking the next step, fear of failure or success
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Munchausen’s Syndrome by Proxy
Chronic need for sympathetic attention - from everyone. Failure to recognize that others have needs
and feelings too. Can manifest as a spouse murdering a pregnant mate or a child to kill a parent, sibling
or pet. See martyr, self-importance, jealousy
Munchausen's Syndrome by Proxy - Pseudo
Can occur with pathological lying with made-up lies about loved ones, sometimes claiming that one or
more of them has died. Why? To play on people's gullibility and sympathy, in the hopes of being
excused from obligations and responsibilities, because after all, they have to attend a FUNERAL!
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Muscles
Represent our ability to nourish, nurture, support and sustain self. See cartilage, joints, ligaments,
movement disorders, pain, signals, tendons
Issues that can arise
Atrophy
Contributing factors:
Aging process
Alcoholism
Broken bones
Burns
Injuries
Malnutrition - see digestion, eating disorders
Spinal cord injuries
Stroke
Charley horse
Sudden realization that we might be left alone and unsupported (fear of abandonment)
Cramp
Signal that we just had a negative thought, attitude or emotion. Was it about self? Someone else? See
condemnation, guilt, victim
Diastasis recti
Trying too hard to fix something on our own that we ourselves did not break
Dystonia
If acquired
Physical manifestation of rigid thought patterns. Meditate to learn the reason for suppressing
creativity and/or verbal expression
If from birth
Can be a reflection of the family's emotional environment. In this case, work to identify any tense
situations at home. Could be someone using silence as a punishment, or abandoning tense situations
by using various substances or behaviours. After identifying the situations, start to re-pattern them.
For example, a mate getting up and leaving the room to end a conversation is form of abandonment.
You can help to re-pattern that behaviour by allowing there to be a consequence for it. Start by sharing
how the behaviour makes you feel and encouraging verbal expression of feelings
Inclusion body myositis
Terrified at the thought of the next life challenge and the damage it will do to our life, and expecting it
to come in the very next moment
Pain
Aching to be nurtured or soothed

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Parkinson’s disease
Chronic, paralyzing need to either be in total control of, or completely not responsible for, everything
and everyone (what they are doing, thinking, feeling, saying and believing). Habitual judgment,
criticism, fear, perfectionism
Rhabdomyolysis
Represents a crisis of faith. Searching desperately for answers to profound spiritual questions... looking
everywhere except within for fear that we will get it wrong. Until we learn to connect with Source
directly through meditation, we will be at the mercy of information that comes through others, that
may not be based in Universal Truth
Spasm
Indecision about whether to hold onto, or let go of, the issue at hand, seeing that both options present
danger and unsure which is the safer choice
Sprain
Trying to force self into making an important decision, or regretting a recent choice and wishing a
different option had been available
Stiffness
Resistant to any change that we ourselves did not choose, or wanting things to remain as they were
before the thing happened that created chaos for us
Strain
Unable to choose the best course of action, or trying too hard to foresee all possible outcomes so as to
avoid mistakes
Tear
Wishing to undo a recent damaging error, or wanting things to be different without actually having to
do anything differently
Twitches or Tics
Need to get going or need to stay still. If unable to get going (for example unable to start a project), can
be due to fear of failure or success, or exerting control because of a desire to withhold action (see
passive/aggressive). If unable to stay still, can be due to a belief that we MUST always be doing
something productive, or else! Distrust of whatever is being said or thought
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love
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Muscular dystrophy
Legacy family pattern of holding faulty belief systems that prevent growth, forward motion and/or
fluid movement. Inability to follow through on decisions and condemning self for it. Can also result
from extreme over- or under-protective parenting. See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
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Nails
Fingernails
Represent our thoughts about our work

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Toenails
Represent our thoughts about how we are walking our path
Issues that can arise
Beau’s lines
Visible proof of an unrecognized traumatic event. See diabetes, scarlet fever, measles, mumps,
pneumonia, zinc (mineral) deficiency
Biting
Distress; hungry for positive attention and/or approval from loved ones or authority figures
Breaking
An act or role is disintegrating, and not knowing what to do about it. Can happen when we make
positive changes and our loved ones freak out. (Nothing has to be done. It is not up to the person
making the changes to fix the people who are unwilling to change)
Bruised
Fear that a recent action or choice is being or will be harshly judged
Clubbing
Feeling that our work needs to be protected, either from judgment or from theft. Easily offended, low
or unstable self-esteem, victim. See COPD, liver disease, HIV / AIDS
Fungus
Ugly thoughts eating at us (shame, embarrassment, guilt, condemnation)
Hangnails
Fear that we are not doing what really needs to be done
Ingrown
Feeling like we are always running late. See spite, revenge, blame. See affected finger for more
information
Lifting (peeling)
Fear that our flaws will be revealed for everyone to see
Pincer
Pattern of pretending that everything is always fine, that we never have any thoughts about how
someone or something is annoying us
Pitting
Feeling attacked over every little thing. See alopecia, psoriasis
Ridges (horizontal)
We have dismissed our traumatic event as being unimportant, so we do not feel justified in seeking
help to deal with it
Separation
Feeling extremely vulnerable or powerless. See allergic reactions, psoriasis, thyroid conditions, karmic
situation

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Split
Reminder that an inner conflict needs to be resolved. See affected finger for more information
Spoon
Frustrated that everyone else seems to get so much attention and appreciation - "What's wrong with
me?!" See anemia, liver, martyr, self-righteousness, victim, hoarding
Terry’s nails
Unable or unwilling to pay attention to our thoughts and feelings about what is going on around us.
See congestive heart failure, diabetes, kidney failure, liver disease
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Neck
Represents how we feel about our outlook on life and how we deal with different viewpoints
Cervical vertebrae
C1 Holding onto beliefs that we know to be false; for example, believing that our caregivers are (or
were) saintly, yet knowing that they were not
C2 Avoiding communication
C3 Stifling or smothering someone or something, or feeling stifled or smothered by someone or
something
C4 Feeling unsupported
C5 Unable or unwilling to do that which needs to be done
C6 Unable, or unwilling to try, to grasp an important concept
C7 Trying to control everyone and everything
C8 Unable or unwilling to meet commitments. See abandonment

Issues that can arise

Black neck
Cervical spondylosis
Over-compensating for a lack of belief, faith and trust in self
Congenital muscular torticollis
Reflects the parents' inability or unwillingness to agree on a fundamental belief system about the
purpose of life
Dislocation
Lack of spiritual stability and faith that we are doing what is right for us. See affected vertebra
Pain
Trying to avoid looking at a painful truth. Is someone close by, a pain in the neck?
Spasmodic torticollis
Beliefs about self and our place in the Universe that are not based in Truth

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Subluxation
Not knowing which way to turn or where to look for guidance or assistance. See affected vertebra
Whiplash
Occurs after learning that a loved one or an authority figure holds a shocking belief system with which
we heartily disagree
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Nervous system
Communication network through which our innermost thoughts manifest in the physical body
Central nervous system
See brain, spinal cord
Peripheral nervous system
Consists of two components, the autonomic and the somatic nervous systems
Autonomic nervous system
Controls involuntary activities. Manifests our spiritual sense of well-being into physical. See Why do we
get sick / suffer injuries / have accidents?
Divisions of the autonomic nervous system
Enteric nervous system
Represents our ability to absorb or take in information from our life experiences, make sense of, or
process, how it has affected us, and let go of, or excrete, that information which no longer serves our
best interests
Parasympathetic nervous system
Represents our ability or desire to motivate ourselves to meet our physical needs
Sympathetic nervous system
Represents our ability or desire to motivate ourselves to flee or fight, and enables our sense of self to
remain stable even when threatened. See abandonment
Components of the autonomic nervous system
Phrenic nerves
Represents our level of comfort within the environments in which we live, learn, play and work. See
hiccups
Vagus nerves
Manifests the state of our emotional health and our spiritual outlook on life. See grief, joy, and the
other strong emotions listed in Section 6, vasovagal syncope (fainting)

Somatic nervous system

Controls voluntary activities, enabling us to put our thoughts into physical action
Issues that can arise
Neurological disorders
Unable or unwilling to pay attention to our thoughts, and to honour our better intentions
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Contributing factors: Birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, brain trauma, brain tumour, infection,
spinal cord injury
Conditions that can arise: Alzheimer’s disease and other dementias | Certain immune system
disorders that can affect the body's tissues | Bell’s palsy | cerebral palsy | epilepsy | migraine and
other headaches | multiple sclerosis | Parkinson's disease | stroke
Neuroma
Self-imposed pressure to `Perform! Perform! Perform!’ no matter what. See Morton’s neuroma
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn exactly whose approval we are trying to win. See self-esteem
Neuropathy or Peripheral neuropathy
Conditions in our life are such that we feel powerless to create change. Feeling like a victim
Stiff-person syndrome
Indecision as to how to cope with an on-going traumatic situation that is infuriatingly beyond our
control. Should we fight or flee, and does it even matter what we do? See autoimmune diseases,
epilepsy, muscle spasms, muscle stiffness
Transverse myelitis
Can occur when we dread having to hold - or fear becoming incapable of holding - responsibility
Contributing factors: Coxsackievirus (see hand, foot and mouth disease) | Cytomegalovirus | Herpes
simplex viruses including chickenpox, Epstein-Barr virus, shingles | HIV | Polio virus | Influenza |
Hepatitis B | Measles | Mumps | Rubella | West Nile virus | Zika virus
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Neurotransmitters
Enable our body to respond to our thoughts
Neurotransmitter Issues that can arise

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Acetylcholine Deficiency
Denial that our actions have played any role in our negative or painful life
experiences.
See associated conditions: Alzheimer’s disease, dementia, myasthenia gravis.
See also blame, self-righteousness, victim, What is acetylcholine?
Excess
Unsure as to what, if anything, we want to bring into our reality. See associated
conditions: headaches, hives, insomnia. See also despair, fear of failure or of
success
Taurine Deficiency
Unable or unwilling to care for self, choosing instead to rely on others for
physical nurturing and spiritual support, and suffering profound
disappointment when they fail to deliver what we think they owe us
See associated conditions: depression, eye and vision issues, mineral or vitamin
deficiency. See also blame, victim, Depression linked to decreased taurine,
What is taurine?
Excess
Overcompensating for that which we feel we are being denied, and blaming
others for making us be responsible for their failures. See blame, spite, victim
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Nocebo effect
Chronic desire to prove everyone, especially the experts, wrong. Disagreeing with everyone and
everything. Unable to admire the good work of others. Uncooperative. If left unchecked, can lead to
the belief that everything wrong with the world is the result of conspiracies. See control, distrust, spite,
side effects
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Nose
Represents tolerance or lack thereof. See sinus cavities
Issues that can arise
Anosmia (lack of sense of smell)
Lack of sense of smell represents inability or unwillingness to discern threats and take steps to protect
ourselves
Congenital
Family pattern of withholding crucial information about the emotional / spiritual status of its
members from certain of its members. See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Temporary
Unable or unwilling to link our current emotional / spiritual state to a specific issue or life
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Worry, worry, worry. If at a funeral, unrecognized worry about the death or its consequences. Concern
that something that we need will not be provided
Broken
A recent experience left us feeling exposed and vulnerable because we did not act to protect self
Deviated septum
If acquired
Deep sadness over a recent choice and wishing that we had taken the other option instead
If from birth
Born into a family that stifles creativity and prefers that children do as they are told and expected to
do, rather than what they might prefer to do: "You should be a lawyer - not an actress.”
Hyposmia
Unable or unwilling to identify our emotional / spiritual condition accurately or honestly
Out-of-joint
Anger. Easily offended
Overly sensitive to s mells
Tendency to be judgmental and critical of self and/or others
Polyps
Feeling that our ability to thrive is being stifled
Post-nasal drip
Crying silently so that nobody can see or hear us, but hoping that someone will notice and offer
sympathy or at least ask us what is wrong
Red
Repressed or suppressed emotions
Bulbous
Habitual inability or unwillingness to express strong emotions like fear and anger. See addiction,
non-alcoholic fatty liver disease)
Rhinophyma
Fear that everyone is thinking we must be stupid if we think we are flawless
Sensitive to temperature
Holding onto unresolved regrets
Sneeze or tickling nose
Pay attention to your thoughts about what is happening RIGHT NOW. While it may not seem important
at the moment, the information will come into play in the near future. See signals
Snoring
Repressed or suppressed strong emotions. Feeling like a victim, tendency toward passive/aggressive
behaviour
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Stubbornly holding onto inaccurate beliefs and not wanting any argument about them, even though
gaining truth could change our life for the better. Finding and understanding the spiritual component
and releasing the faulty belief can re-enable blood flow to affected area. See blame, victim
Hip
Intense belief that we cannot move forward because they cannot manage without us
Jaw
Unable or unwilling to stop complaining. Intense belief that others are not living up to their
responsibilities and that we are beyond reproach; that we have done nothing whatsoever to create our
current difficulties. See help-rejecting complainer
Knee
Intense belief that we have no power and no voice
Shoulder
Unwilling to take responsibility due to an intense belief that they will not let go of it, or unwilling to
release responsibility due to an intense belief that they will do it all wrong
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Pain
The Universal Intelligence teaches that physical pain not related to illness or injury exists to show us
that we are in emotional or spiritual pain, or that we have unrecognized / unresolved issues. Also, for
some who are unable to express their emotional needs, telling others that they are feeling physical
pain is the only way to get some much-needed attention (even if not for the real reason). See affected
area, accident proneness, self-mutilation, signals
Issues that can arise
Addiction to pain
If unable to express our emotional needs, telling others that we are feeling physical pain is one way to
get some much-needed attention. This can be addictive
Chronic pain
Unresolved inner conflict or holding onto false beliefs
Dull ache
Longing to be comforted and so repeating false, hurtful beliefs to soothe self. Unresolved emotional
/spiritual pain and/or sorrow. Or... Really tired of doing the same thing(s) over and over again and
wondering how to jump off the hamster wheel without hurting anyone's feelings. Yes, there's a
diplomatic way to do that. Let everyone know that you are going to start doing things differently,
changing your schedule, reducing time spent with others so that you can focus on you, etc. It's not to
hurt them, but rather to help yourself. Let them know how much you appreciate their patience and
understanding as you navigate your new path
Sharp, stabbing
Signal that we just had a cruel, negative thought, like anger, envy, judgment
Stiffness
Rigid thinking
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Abdomen
See distress
Arms
Unable or unwilling to carry the load
Back
See skeleton, spinal column, individual vertebra
Up p e r
Fear of invasion or of what the future holds, distrust
Mid d l e
Unable to solve a current problem; feeling like a victim, distress
Lo we r
Fear of abandonment, chronic avoidance of dealing with painful issues, living a lie
Breasts
Aching to nurture or to be nurtured. Fear of being alone or having to fend for self. Signal that trouble
may be brewing within the family
Ears
Feeling trapped into listening to something you do not want to hear, or not hearing what you do want
to hear
Elbow
Knowing it is time to change our attitude toward our mate or career but stubbornly refusing
Eyes
Feeling trapped into seeing something you do not want to see, or not seeing what you do want to see
Face
Wanting to hide from what we fear will be a painful revelation, or fear of retribution
Feet
Walking our path with unresolved spiritual issues
Hands
Working too hard for the wrong reasons
Head
Wanting to avoid someone or something. See headaches
Hips
Trying to bring something into the future that would be better left in the past. Fear of leaving someone
or something behind
Joint
Unable or unwilling to do that which needs to be done. See affected joint
Knees
Hating what we are doing. Too much pressure to perform. Tired of always doing the same old thing
Legs
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Neck
Is someone or something a pain in the neck? Trying to avoid looking at a painful truth
Nerve
See affected body part
Shoulders
Needing to be in control of everything. Feeling like we have do to more than everyone else, or that we
are indispensable. Easily offended
Stomach
See distress
Teeth
Unrecognized hurt feelings or hurtful thoughts
Torn rotator cuff
Always wanting more but having no control over getting it
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Pancreas
Represents our ability to maintain our sense of self-worth, validity, identity, or our place in the
universe without the approval of others
Issues that can arise
Autoimmune pancr eatitis (IgG4)
Type 1
Desperate for someone in authority to recognize our true worth even though we know we are not
perfect. See bile ducts in the liver, salivary glands, kidneys and lymph nodes
Type 2
See inflammatory bowel disease
Cancer
Chronic need to control everyone and everything, and deep frustration with any imperfection - to
avoid losing anyone's approval. Always feeling second- or third-best. Fragile self-esteem
Pancreatitis
Poisonous beliefs about the reason that a negative or painful life experience occurred
Acute
Occurs within two or three days of receiving a devastating blow to one's ego, like someone
criticising us or suddenly withholding their approval for no apparent reason
Chronic
Occurs after repeated assaults on our ego, like being constantly criticised or never receiving
someone’s approval
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Parasites
Fear of being taken advantage of by someone to whom we cannot say no, either because we feel sorry
for them or their situation, or because we feel indebted to them. We know that this feeling of
powerlessness is a potent weapon that others use against us, but we feel it is impossible to change the
pattern that has developed. While we cannot change others, we can change ourselves. See zoonotic
diseases
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the reasons for needing other people's approval. See guilt, self-
esteem, victim
Ectoparasites
(includes scabies, common bed bug, fleas, and lice, including body, pubic and head louse)
Feeling like an unsuspecting victim of the things in our environment of which we are unaware and over
which we therefore have no control. See fear of invasion
Toxoplasmosis
Feeling like an unsuspecting victim of people or things that we feel should not be dangerous or
harmful. See fear of invasion
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Parkinson’s disease
Chronic, paralyzing need to either be in total control of, or completely not responsible for, everything
and everyone (what they are doing, thinking, feeling, saying and believing). Habitual judgment,
criticism, fear, perfectionism
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Pelvis
Represents the projection of thought into action
Issues that can arise
Lateral pelvic tilt
Condemning self for spending too much time doing what we feel is the wrong activity, but doing it
anyway
Paget’s disease
Pelvic floor dysfunction
Any or all of the following: unable and/or unwilling to let go of hurts (resentment). Needing approval
from an authority figure who withholds it. Living life without a routine or schedule, and using it as an
excuse to escape responsibility
Pelvic inflammatory disease
Inner turmoil regarding our creativity or choice of whether to have children
Pelvic organ prolapse
Bladder (Anterio r)
Not knowing when to hold onto or when to let go of emotional baggage and unable to stop thinking
about it all
Bowel (Pos terior)
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Uterus
Unable to release pain and anguish over the loss of our position or status
Vagina
Unresolved issue(s) over what we have - or have not - produced
Pelvic pain
(also known as Symphisys pubis dysfunction or Pelvic girdle pain)
Fear of taking the next step due to profound, unresolved grief or regret over past mistakes
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Penis
Represents impulse
Issues that can arise
Bent
Feeling like a failure at bringing our hopes and dreams into reality
Erectile dysfunction or impotence
Complex disorder caused by a combination of several physical and spiritual conditions. However, the
root spiritual component can be traced to a desire to withhold pleasure either from self or from our
partner
Spiritual components: Anxiety, depression, fear, revenge, spite, stress
Physical components: Addiction, atherosclerosis, bent penis, diabetes, heart disease, high blood
pressure, high cholesterol, multiple sclerosis, obesity/overweight, Parkinson's disease, sleep disorders,
spinal cord injuries
Male yeast infection
A new negative belief system has just formed. Recognizing it, along with treating the physical disorder,
can hasten healing. Frustration at never seeming to receive admiration, positive attention or
recognition for our many (supposedly) selfless acts. See martyr
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Persistent genital arousal disorder
See contributing factor(s): ADD / ADHD, anxiety, depression, obsessive/compulsive disorder,
overactive bladder, low or unstable self-esteem
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Physical body
Represents how we feel about where we have been, where we are now, and where we are going
Back
The direction from which we came (past)
Front
The direction in which we are going (future)

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Interpretations for the sides of our body are specific to the individual. Since we are all different, what
left or right means to each of us can be different. What do they mean to you? Ideas to consider: The
sides can represent male or female, spiritual or physical, strength or weakness, conscious or
unconscious, etc. As always, when seeking understanding about spiritual (or earthly) matters, we can
ask our guide, in meditation
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Pineal gland
The brain is the soul’s wheelhouse during physical incarnation; the pineal gland is its helm, and the
pituitary and hypothalamus glands are its commanders. From here, our life path is charted and
regulated, according to our reactions to our life experiences. It is the soul’s entry point into physical
life, and is the structure through which we receive information from the Universal Intelligence
Issues that can arise
Cyst
Obsessive, constant worry over a long period of time. See headaches, obstructive hydrocephalus,
thyroid, vertigo
Tumour
Obsessively holding onto, and even reliving, every painful experience we have had. See tumour
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Pins and needles
Worrying about getting stuck in a situation over which we have no control, feeling like a victim
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Pituitary gland
The brain is the soul’s wheelhouse during physical incarnation; the pineal gland is its helm, and the
pituitary and hypothalamus glands are its commanders. This gland monitors our physical body and
adjusts bodily processes and hormones as necessary to enable the functioning needed for the lessons
of this particular lifetime. Our guides use the issues that can arise as a signal to alert us to areas of our
lives that need our attention
Issues that can arise
Diseased
Feeling that we are at risk of being harmed by invisible enemies
Hypopituitarism
See the thought pattern(s) that contribute to deficiency of the following hormones:
Growth (GH)
Wanting to remain in childhood, reliant upon our caregivers
Luteinizing (LH)
Wanting no competition for our loved one’s attention
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one
Adrenocorticotropic (ACTH)
Desperate for sympathetic attention
Anti-diuretic (ADH)
Fear that disaster is right around the corner. See anxiety, distress, diabetes insipidus
Prolac tin
Unrecognized desire to be nurtured rather than to nurture others or fear of failure as a parent
Sheehan’s syndrome
The following conditions can arise: adrenal crisis, low blood pressure, unintended weight loss,
menstrual irregularities
Tumour
Obsessive thoughts about the healthy (or unhealthy) functioning of individuals within our family unit.
See tumour
If tumour is non -functioning
Obsessive fear and worry that we will lose our identity within the family because people will assume
that we are just like the rest of them; or obsessive fear and worry that we are just like the rest of
our family members
If tumour is functioning
“Flooding the zone” with overproduction of hormones to show everyone that we think we are ugly
and unlovable and that we are suffering. Fear that the Universal Intelligence must hate us. See
unconditional love
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Platelets
Represent our ability or willingness to protect ourselves from the ill effects of false belief systems by
seeking Truth. See blood, blood clots, bone marrow
Issues that can arise
Thrombocytopenia (low platelet count)
Wanting to challenge the beliefs with which we have been raised, but fear of angering those on whom
we are still dependent, in case they might be offended. See self-esteem
Thrombocytosis (high platelet count)
Stubbornly holding onto beliefs that we know are false, out of a sense of misguided loyalty. See self-
esteem
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Polio
Wanting the family to remain unchanged, fear of change
Post-polio syndrome
Fear that our family unit is breaking up but wanting it to stay the same
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Represent growth that we think will help us but that is actually harmful
Bladder
Trying to hide our strong emotions or our needs
Colon
Trying to hold in that which needs to be released
Ear
Trying to avoid hearing what others are saying
Gallbladder
Falsely soothing our hurt feelings with bitter untruths
Nose
Feeling that our ability to thrive is being stifled
Sinus
Living with chronic disappointment and overcompensating for our failure to stifle hope for better times
Stomach
Trying to hold onto every little bit of affection and/or kindness that we receive due to fear that they
will eventually figure out that we are not really worthy of receiving it
Uterus
Fear that having a baby would forever damage our chances of receiving the affection and/or kindness
that we crave and feel we deserve
Vocal cord
Condemning self for getting carried away with the emotions of a situation and saying too much, too
loudly
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Porphyria (intermittent acute)
Extreme distress over troubling issues that we are trying to resolve on our own for fear of being judged
for having them
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Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
Can arise after observing or experiencing terrifying events over which we had no control. Somehow we
feel that we should have been able to prevent them, or at least been able to fix them or prevent them
from ever happening again. The events need not have been life-threatening - they need only have
been frightening for us personally
Spiritual effects: If we feel we are responsible, we can take on anger, anxiety, guilt and shame. If we
feel others are responsible, we can take on a victim mentality and become passive or aggressive. See
blame, depression, low or unstable self-esteem, stress, traumatic experience(s), unable to forget,
worry
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Compassion fatigue can arise for those caring for someone who needs constant attention, or for those
whose job it is to care for victims of traumatic experience(s)
Change the pattern: The event(s) may seem impossible to forget, but it is possible to at least come to
peace with them. Do the forgiveness, grieving, guilt-buster and how to stop worrying exercises
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Posture
Represents our outlook on life and how we feel about ourselves
Slouching
Feeling hopeless or helpless. Can be a form of silent rebellion
Straight but relaxed
Confident, hopeful
Straight but taut
Waiting for the next assault or attack
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Powassan virus
Regretting the outcome of a recent endeavour and wanting to go back in time to either not do it, or do
it over again to get a different result
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Pregnancy
Represents the start of a new phase of life, a new identity, new possibilities. See blood clots,
gestational diabetes, missed periods, miscarriage, stretch marks
Issues that can arise
Amniotic fluid
Represents protection
Too much, or too little, amniotic fluid reflects the mother’s ability or willingness to provide the child
with balanced care and protection. For example, too much amniotic fluid represents a tendency to be
over-protective, while too little represents a tendency to be inattentive. Can also indicate that both the
incoming soul and the family require certain experiences for their learning. See birth abnormalities and
genetic disorders, legacy family patterns.
Breech position
If breech position occurs, can indicate the incoming soul's enthusiasm (if feet first) or lack thereof (if
bum first) for entering this incarnation
Hyperemesis gravidarum
Literally sick with worry; wanting the process to stop because of the fear of so many unknowns coming
up. Strong concern about whether our support systems will fail. What if, what if, what if
Morning sickness
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Profound, although possibly unrecognized, desire to stay pregnant
Placenta previa
Fear and uncertainty and worrying about everything... What if I'm with the wrong partner? What if my
partner doesn't want this child? Maybe I shouldn't have the baby. Maybe I'm not competent to have
this child. I can't afford to have this child. I don't want to have this child. God must hate me. This was
not part of my plan. ...
Preeclampsia (includes eclampsia and postpartum preeclampsia)
Fear of being overshadowed by the child and its needs, or of losing self in the new identity of
motherhood. See eye and vision issues, headaches, high blood pressure, kidneys, liver, lungs, nausea
and/or vomiting, PTSD, stress, stroke
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Proctalgia fugax (variant of levator ani syndrome)
Very strong, painful signal to let us know that we are finding it difficult to understand why others do
not just do what we are doing, when it is so clear, to us anyway, that our is the right thing to do. See
judgment, criticism, condemnation, control, self-righteousness
Sounds like: Why don't they just...? Can they not see that...?
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn that we are all souls in human form at varying stages of
development, sometimes doing well, sometimes doing poorly
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Prostate
Represents our sense of responsibility over that which we put out into the world, or that which we
create
Issues that can arise
Cancer
Refusal to accept responsibility for the negativity in our life (blame, victim)
Enlarged (Benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH)
Fear of loss of control over our personal affairs. The fear can manifest as stubborn resistance to
changing our behaviour in any way
Prostatitis
Asymptomatic inflammatory
Denying to everyone (including self) that we have any strong emotions, yet still feeling them, exhibiting
them and being affected by them, and hating self for having them or for being unable to control them
Bacterial - acute
Sudden and severe self-criticism over an action taken or not taken within the previous day or two, such
that it manifests in physical
Bacterial - chronic
Chronic and severe self-criticism over most actions taken or not taken, along with a stubborn refusal to
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Habitual self-criticism over every little thing, and belief that it is impossible to be good enough to win
the approval of someone important to us
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Psoriasis
Exaggerated wound-healing. Over-reacting to a perceived threat
Erythrodermic
Belief that we are at imminent risk of attack, but not realizing that the threat comes from within self
Guttate
Belief that any information that comes from self is invalid or untrue and will be ridiculed, so why say
anything at all?
Inverse
Hiding from the ugly thought or belief that we are unloved and unlovable
Nail
Belief that we are incapable and unworthy of protecting self from the many hidden dangers that exist
when in a relationship
Pustular
Belief that our life choices and work are at imminent risk of being harshly criticised and/or condemned
Psoriatic arthritis
Habitually alternating periods of self-condemnation with self-indulgence. Pattern stems from our
caregiver(s) having been alternatingly, and unpredictably, too harsh/too loving. Our immune system
becomes out of balance as a result of not knowing whether to expect cruelty or kindness from those
around us, and over-compensates with self-protection - just in case it is cruelty. See self-esteem
Scalp
Extreme concern that we are in imminent danger
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Radiation poisoning
Note: Does not apply to victims of mass radiation exposure
Holding onto old emotional injuries; always telling the same old unhappy story. See pity party, fear of
contamination, victim
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Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy (RSD) / or Complex Regional Pain
Syndrome (CRPS)
Failure of our caregivers / loved ones to acknowledge our pain after an injury, and failure to allow us
time to heal. They expect us to just pick right up as if nothing had happened, showing a complete lack
of sympathy or compassion for us. We are left feeling uncared for, unloved or even invisible, which
inevitably leads to feelings of unworthiness, deep sorrow and a need to medicate the pain. Start
building stable self-esteem
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Respiratory infections
Represents an unrecognized or unspoken need for any or all of the following: assistance, relaxation,
relief, rest, support
Issues that can arise
Lower respiratory infections
Feeling stifled, either because of choice or due to feeling forced into self-censorship. See bronchitis,
constrictive bronchiolitis, COPD, pneumonia, zoonotic diseases
Upper respiratory infections
Living in an emotionally cruel environment where no one offers comfort or support, and where no one
speaks of the family secrets, creates a desperate need for sympathetic attention. This chronically
unmet need for simple kindness can lead to addictions or even suicide ideation.
See common cold, sinus problems, sore throat (pharyngitis), strep throat, tonsillitis, zoonotic diseases,
plus:
Respiratory syncytial virus (RSV)
Feeling the need for some tender loving care and feeling there is no other way to get it than to be sick
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Ribs
Represent our ability to sustain and protect self. See thoracic vertebra, sternum
Issues that can arise
Broken
Too much self-imposed pressure to out-do all others
Removal (voluntary)
Desperate for others to focus on our physical appearance instead of our abilities or intelligence, which
we feel are not now, and will never be, good enough
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Salivary glands
Represent our ability to savour life. See mouth
Issues that can arise
Blockage
If due to:
Infec tion
Thinking ugly, hurtful thoughts. See dry mouth, stones
Stones
Constant criticism of self and others
Swollen
Fear of retribution if others were to find out what we really think. See COVID-19, flu, mumps
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Obsessing about how bad we are and believing that nobody really, truly loves us and never could
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Scarlet fever
Terror at the thought of an authority figure finding out that we have done something shameful, and
doing anything we can to hide the truth
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Sciatica
(Includes Piriformis syndrome) Intense ongoing feeling that we will be left alone or unsupported -
AGAIN, AS USUAL. See fear of abandonment
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Scleroderma
An emotional onslaught from a trusted and therefore unexpected source creates a desire to shrink
away or become invisible, in the hope of avoiding future assaults
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Seasonal affective disorder
Emotional symptoms arise as the anniversary date approaches of past traumatic events that have not
yet been resolved and released. See anniversary illnesses
Change the pattern: Meditate to find the triggering event(s) and then do the spiritual exercises in
Section 9
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Sebaceous glands
Represent our ability or willingness to protect ourselves, and recover from, the damages that can occur
in daily life
Issues that can arise
Cancer
Chronic fear that there is an as-yet-unseen threat to our life
Cyst
Fear that our (spiritual) flaws are on display for the world to see
Sebaceous hyperplasia
Feeling at the mercy of those with are unable or unwilling to give it
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Seizure
Feeling extremely vulnerable ("I want my mommy!"). Trying to "seize" someone's attention. Unable to
cope with being told, "No". Anger, fear. See epilepsy
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A silent plea for help or attention. Wanting to show our pain to the world, hoping that someone will
take pity on us. Chronic despair and distress. See obsessive/compulsive behaviours
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Self-soothing (self-gratification)
Includes hair-twirling, rocking back and forth, thumb-sucking
A silent plea for help or attention. Can be considered to be an addiction - but to a behaviour, rather
than a substance like food, drugs or alcohol. Such behaviours feed a need that is every bit as real as
hunger or thirst though... the need is to receive nurturing or attention, when we feel under stress or
duress... or bored, or if we are trying to avoid doing something, or looking for a solution to a problem
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Sepsis
Stubbornly-held toxic, negative belief that suddenly becomes destructively vicious. To initiate the
healing process from within, learn what triggered the sudden eruption. See anger, distress, ego,
infection, self-righteousness, shame
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Sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s)
Belief or fear that having or wanting sex is bad, and that it is only a matter of time until God punishes
us. See herpes simplex virus (HSV), Why do we get sick...?
Hepatitis
Any or all of the following: Taking responsibility for every little thing that is wrong in our life, or failure
to accept responsibility for our shortcomings, and a tendency to blame anyone or anything but self for
our problems. Profound guilt and shame for living a lie. Extremely difficult to please. See criticism,
perfectionism, liver
Human immunodeficiency virus (HIV)
Belief that we do not deserve to have a happy, healthy life, or even to be alive. See AIDS, guilt, shame,
victim
Human papillomavirus (HPV)
Belief that sex is shameful, or that our sexual history is shameful and we therefore need to be punished
Trichomoniasis
Feeling that we are not contributing to society, as if we are a parasite, and therefore require
punishment. A recent life experience has shown us that we are not fulfilling our true life purpose
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Shoulders
Represent our attitude toward work and our ability to perform
Issues that can arise
Arthritis
Belief that we are indispensable, or belief that we are carrying a heavier load than everyone else. See
bunions, bronchitis
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Trying to do anything and everything that is necessary to gain everyone’s approval
Dislocation
Lack of spiritual stability and faith that we are doing what is right for us
Frozen
Wishing that someone would share the chores, except they would probably do it all wrong
Subluxation
Not knowing which way to turn or where to look for guidance or assistance
Torn rotator cuff
Always wanting more but having no control over getting it
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Side effects
Unwanted reactions to the things that are supposed to help us be healthy can arise as a result of our
thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires about any or all of the following:
o That which has been prescribed or given as treatment
o The person who gave us the prescription or treatment
o Our desire to stay sick or to get better
o Our beliefs about our ability to heal
o Our beliefs about whether we deserve to be helped
o Our desire or lack thereof to be cooperative with authority figures
These are just a few of the possibilities that can affect the results of treatments / medications.
However, once we have recognized the spiritual components of the cause of our side effect(s), we can
start healing from within by really resolving the issue. Just think how our healing could improve by
doing the work of recognizing which of these issues applies and meditating to find and resolve their
root cause. See Why are there side effects from medications?
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Signals
Our guides give us reminders to pay attention either to our thoughts, or to something that is going on
around us. Here is the spiritual component of some of those signals:
Chills or shivers or goosebumps
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. The Universal Truth and correct understanding have been gained. Can
also be a signal for avoidance, fear, worry
Choking
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. We just had a judgmental thought, or our attention wavered from that
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Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. If not due to illness, this is a signal to let us know that we are resisting
saying words that need to be said, or that we just had a judgmental thought
Head bumps
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Seriously, pay close attention to whatever is happening around you and
especially to your thoughts about it. Something important needs to be acknowledged
Hiccups
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Wanting to change the subject of conversation in order to avoid talking
about something; or wanting to take back words that were just spoken
Itch
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Signal that we are anxious or nervous about whatever is happening in the
moment. Look to the affected body part for information
Muscle cramp
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Signal that we just had a judgmental thought. Was it about self?
Someone else?
Muscle twitch or tic
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Need to get going or need to stay still. If unable to get going (for example
unable to start a project), can be due to fear of failure or success, or exerting control because of a
desire to withhold action (see passive/aggressive). If unable to stay still, can be due to a belief that we
MUST always be doing something productive, or else! Distrust of whatever is being said or thought
Numb feet
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Belief that something we want to happen will never happen
Numb hand
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Belief that we will never find our ideal career or meet our soul’s purpose
Pain
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. If sudden, sharp or stabbing, signal that we are having or just had a cruel
thought. See affected body part
Sliver
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Signal that we harshly criticised either self or another, whether aloud or
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Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Signal from our guide to pay attention to our thoughts about what is
happening RIGHT NOW. While it may not seem important at the moment, the information will come
into play in the near future
Tearing eye(s)
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Holding back tears, or feeling unconditional love
Throat tickle
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Something needs to be said aloud
Tinnitus
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Unable or unwilling to confront what we know we are avoiding
Buzzing or humming
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of
universal truth and unconditional love. Signal to let us know that our guide has specific, timely
information for us. Ask and then pay attention to your thoughts, and to whatever is happening
around you
Ringing
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of
universal truth and unconditional love. Thinking we know best and not wanting any disagreement
about it. Irritation (anger)
Tired or listless (for no apparent reason)
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Signal from our guide that we are putting off doing something that we
would rather not do, yet have agreed to do. See chronic fatigue syndrome, depression, procrastination
Trembling or twitching chin
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Strong urge to express our thoughts or feelings
Twitching eye
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Examine more closely our thoughts about what we are seeing
Vibrating feet
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Signal from our guide during a stressful situation that difficulties may lie
ahead but the outcome will be favourable
Vibrating hands
Physical reminder to pay attention to your thoughts, and to act according to the principles of universal
truth and unconditional love. Signal from our guide to let us know that we are being guided, for
example, if we are shopping and our hand starts tingling over a certain object - either BUY it or BYE it -
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will come
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Sinus cavities
Represent our ability or willingness to go with the flow. See nose
Issues that can arise
Allergic fungal sinusitis
Unable or unwilling to acknowledge to others that we have suffered an incredibly painful experience,
and there are reminders of it everywhere, making us feel it will be impossible to forget. We have built a
spiritual dam to prevent our tears from flowing
Cancer
Knowing that others are suffering and that we could help, but withholding assistance because after all,
no one ever helped us. They deserve to suffer as we did
Chronic `
Constantly self-monitoring EVERYTHING we say or do, to avoid being surprised if someone criticises our
words or deeds. It is a way to maintain control over a fear of losing the approval of others, but does
nothing to bring joy into our lives. See victim
Change the pattern: Do the self-esteem exercise
Polyps
Overcompensating for our failure to stifle hope for better times, and living with chronic
disappointment
Sinusitis
Chronic fear that we are broken and need to be fixed, or that we will soon be caught and punished for
our mistakes (fear of retribution). See allergic fungal sinusitis
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Skeleton
Represents our spiritual infrastructure of belief systems. See bones, broken bones, skull, spinal column,
vertebrae
Issues that can arise
Arthritis
Bone cancer
Osteoporosis
Paget’s disease
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Skin
Represents self-protection
Issues that can arise
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Acne
Too much friction in our emotional environment and not knowing what to do about it. Chronic feelings
of embarrassment, guilt, perfectionism, shame
Pimples between the breasts
Irritation with our mother, even if not alive
Change the pattern: Next time you break out, try to recall what was happening for you during the
previous 3 or 4 days. Look for anything that might have upset you emotionally. Maybe there was an
argument, maybe someone suffered an accident or got sick, maybe something happened at work,
etc.
Unless you were personally responsible for whatever it was, resist the temptation to blame yourself,
and most importantly, do not accept blame from anyone else. If you were responsible, then you can
take steps to make changes. Also, check out the Self-esteem exercise. Building self-esteem will
lessen the severity of the breakouts and help your skin to clear up faster. The best part is that
gradually, the length of time between breakouts will get longer
Acne excoriée
(also known as acne excorie or pickers acne)
See acne, obsessive/compulsive behaviours, skin picking disorder
Actinic keratosis
Old emotional injuries we thought long-forgotten bubble to the surface of consciousness through life,
triggered by incidents that make us feel as we did when we were young and defenseless
Angioedema
Keeping our true emotional reactions secret but fearing that everyone will somehow know. See
embarrassment, birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Barber's itch
Irritation with an authority figure, distrust
Basal cell carcinoma
Holding onto a spiritual wound that we are unable or unwilling to acknowledge or deal with. See
affected body part, grief
Black neck (Acanthosis nigricans)
Feeling profound embarrassment, grief, guilt, and/or shame, and feeling like a victim - trapped with no
way to escape. Truly, we escape by changing our thought patterns. Not sure how? Review the
Introduction and read through (at least) Section 4.1
If acquired
See colon cancer, liver cancer, lymphoma or stomach cancer, type 2 diabetes, obesity/overweight,
polycystic ovary syndrome
If from birth
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, legacy guilt
Blisters
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Blood blisters
Self-inflicted wound from trying the same thing over and over and expecting different results. See
affected body part for more information
Boils and carbuncles
Too much friction in our emotional environment, and blaming others for it (victim), or feeling
responsible for it (martyr)
Cancer (Melanoma)
Covering self in a shroud of negativity, can be self-hatred or self-righteousness. Look to the affected
area of the body for understanding
Cellulite
Unresolved issues around our relationships with authority figures and their seeming unwillingness to
live up to the standards and expectations they place on us. Authority figures are just like everyone else,
with strengths and weaknesses, successes and failures; placing them on a pedestal can lead to futile
anger and disappointment, and to feeling like a victim. Note: While it can be unsightly, cellulite seldom
requires medical treatment
Cherry Angioma
(also known as red mole, senile angioma or Campbell de Morgan spot)
Red flag that we are obsessing about something but are unable or unwilling to do anything about it.
See affected body part and moles
Chilblains
Wishing to live in a different environment but seeing no way to get there, and feeling impatient and
frustrated. See affected body part (face, fingers, toes), lupus, Raynaud's disease
Dermatitis
Represents attitudes we hold that others see but to which we are blind. Chronic pattern of responding
to life's challenges (large or small) with impatience or intolerance
Contact
Unacknowledged irritation with someone or something. See denial
Eczema (atopic dermatitis)
Flaring antagonism but believing that a fight would be pointless, unwinnable. Thinking like a victim
Dyshydrosis
Belief that life is a never-ending war filled with constant battles and no periods of peace or rest in
between
Perinasal
Scornful attitude toward our authority figures either at home or in the workplace
Periocular
Holding onto negative thoughts about experiences that we feel could have been handled better -
constantly replaying them and constantly feeling irritated and frustrated that the past cannot be
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 Belief that our words will be judged criticised, and condemned by others, so withholding
communication out of spite or to protect self
Poison ivy
Rash occurs within two or three days after having interfered (even with the best of intentions)
where we ought not. Recognition of the impact of our actions can reduce symptom severity
Vein eczema
Extreme irritation or disappointment with self for being unable or unwilling to take any steps
toward changing our circumstances. See varicose veins
Dry
Craving meaningful spiritual experiences
Folliculitis
Unable or unwilling to express our thoughts and feelings about the true cause of our misery and
suffering. See barber’s itch, boils and carbuncles, infection
Eosinophilic
Profound shame due to believing that others are condemning us because they know our deepest,
darkest secrets and sins. See Is there a difference between crime and sin?
Frostbite
Unable or unwilling to do what is needed to protect self. May result from a belief that “God will protect
me”. We are spiritual beings in physical bodies, and that makes us subject to the physical laws. To
'expect' the universe to bend the laws for us is folly
Gianotti-Crosti syndrome
Extreme, profound fear of retribution. See life-ending trauma in a prior incarnation, and contributing
factors such as Coxsackievirus (hand, foot and mouth disease), cytomegalovirus, Epstein-Barr virus,
gastroenteritis, hepatitis B, respiratory infections, respiratory syncytial virus, viral meningitis
Granuloma annulare
Feeling like a target of someone's ill will.(victim). See insect stings or bites, infections such as hepatitis,
side effects of medications or treatments, trauma
Hidradenitis suppurativa
Too much friction at home or work and hiding our feelings about it. Chronic feelings of embarrassment,
guilt, shame, perfectionism
Hives (urticaria and cold urticaria)
Fear that our normal reactions to everyday life experiences will be criticised by an authority figure. See
allergens, autoimmune diseases and:
Genetics
Family pattern of seeming to be a completely different person when out in public compared to at
home. See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, prior incarnation trauma
Medications
See side effects
Underlying medical conditions

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 See cytomegalovirus, Epstein-Barr virus, lupus, lymphatic system cancer, thyroid conditions,
hepatitis, HIV / AIDS
Hyperpigmentation
Wanting to cover up flaws, or wanting to hide from our true identity
Hypopigmentation
Wanting to disappear into the woodwork, or belief that we will never be important or well-known. See
vitiligo
Ichthyosis vulgaris
Family pattern of keeping negative family information secret, a ‘veil of secrecy’ if you will, and
discouraging communication about anything even remotely connected with it. Children in the family
may not know exactly what the secret(s) is (or are), but the condition can be triggered when they begin
to understand the meaning of dishonesty, or if they happen to discover the secret. Keeping family
secrets can lead to unwitting shame and unstable self-esteem, along with obsessive/compulsive
perfectionism
Impetigo
Observing our loved ones and authority figures treating others cruelly / unkindly and fearing that it is
only a matter of time until they treat us the same way
Itching
See signals. See affected body part:
Abdomen
See anxiety
Back
“What am I missing?”
Breast
Unrecognized need to nurture or a sudden need to be nurtured
Feet or legs
Itching to get moving
Hands or arms
Itching to get to work
Head
Worry
Neck
Need to look somewhere else for a solution
Keratosis pilaris
Trying to protect self from the onslaught of our family's emotional turmoil, fearing that it will
eventually explode and consume all that is good in life
Lipoma
Physical manifestation of thought patterns that say it is not ok for me to live joyously. See cysts, lumps
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Fear that our deepest, darkest secrets will be revealed
Moles
Withholding communication. Wanting everyone to read our mind so we will not have to say anything
negative, ever. See cherry angioma, fear of confrontation, self-esteem, worry
Morgellons disease
Profound need for recognition for surviving all that we have suffered, and gratitude for making so
many sacrifices (note: it isn't a sacrifice if we expect something in return). See pity parties, self-esteem,
victim
Morphea
Feeling attacked by the people and things that help and support everyone else. See help-rejecting
complainer, victim
Pilar cyst
Nurturing worrisome or troublesome issues in our thoughts, rather than actually doing something
about them
Pityriasis rosea
Wishing to be pitied for all of the pain we have experienced, and wanting to cover self in a protective
blanket to prevent against further hurt. See pity parties
Rash
Unable or unwilling to express our emotions yet wanting others to know that we have strong feelings
about what is happening
Allergic reac tion
Adverse reaction to the intervention that was supposed to help the problem, so that the problem is
reduced but a new one is created - a vicious cycle that one feels powerless to change. The solution?
Find the root cause of the original issue and resolve it, thereby removing the need for the
intervention
Intertrigo
Irritation, possibly ongoing, with someone who gives us too little attention when we want it, or too
much attention when we do not want it
Abd o me n
Wanting to receive sympathetic attention, now
Ar mp it s
Trying to hide information, either from self or someone else
Br e as t s (u nd e r ne a th )
Wanting to be left alone
D i ap e r r a sh
Wanting to be cared for as needed, rather than on someone else’s schedule
Gen i t al a r e a
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Negative ideas that creep in and take hold
Jock itch
Placing excessive stress on self to excel in spite of conditions beyond our control
Of the body
Feeling that we were an unsuspecting target of someone we thought was an ally
Of the scalp
Unable or unwilling to acknowledge that we have the same issues as someone close to us
Rosacea
Chronic need to control others and feeling fully justified in doing so, yet knowing it is wrong , or feeling
that we have been harshly judged, or belief that we have been publicly ridiculed or humiliated. See
face, self-esteem, shame
Rhinophyma
Fear that everyone is thinking we must be stupid if we think we have any value
Scars
Result from acne or traumatic skin injuries. Is full healing possible? Unknown. A determined, consistent
effort to resolve the spiritual issues created by them would be needed. See Section 2
Scleroderma
An emotional onslaught from a trusted and therefore unexpected source creates a desire to shrink
away or become invisible, in the hope of avoiding future such assaults
Seborrheic dermatitis
Cradle c ap
Results from the parent(s) - or the child - wanting the baby to remain in babyhood. The parent(s) -
or the child - may seem to be very needy of attention
Dandruff
Chronic worry that someone in a position of power will judge, criticise, and condemn our work
Ears
Habitual griping in our thoughts due to feeling helpless against life’s many annoyances. Changing
our attitude is the key to reducing and removing the condition. See self-condemnation
Psoriasis
Exaggerated wound-healing. Over-reacting to a perceived threat
Seborrheic keratosis
Physical representation of our thoughts and actions for which we continually condemn self and for
which we fear God will condemn us
Skin picking disorder
Obsessive/compulsive need to appear perfect, usually to win someone's approval. See acne excoriée
Stevens-Johnson syndrome
Feeling deeply emotionally insulted or assaulted without even knowing that we were at risk, and
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abnormalities and genetic disorders, blood cancer, gout, immune system weakness, infection, karma,
pain, side effects
Stretch marks
Visible proof of certain life-changing experiences. When due to:
Pregnancy
Unrecognized negative feelings about our ability or desire to nurture the baby
Rapid weight changes
See addictions, eating disorders, obsessive/compulsive behaviours, patience
Sunburn
Unable or unwilling to do what is needed to protect self. May result from a belief that “God will protect
me”. We are spiritual beings in physical bodies, and that makes us subject to the physical laws. To
'expect' the universe to bend the laws for us is folly
Tags
Criticism, self-condemnation over every little thing
Ulcers
Feeling persecuted (blame, victim). Not recognizing our own power
Vitiligo
Fear of losing, or of never finding, our identity and role in life. Look to affected area for the specific
message
Warts
Belief that we are unworthy. If on the:
Feet (Plantar wart or Verruca)
Walking our path in a cold, heartless way and blaming someone for making us be that way. See HPV
Genitals
Belief that sex is shameful, or that our sexual history is shameful and therefore requires punishment
Hands
Fear that our work is bad or useless and/or unappreciated
Wrinkles
Represent our thoughts and attitudes about our life, resulting from repeating the same responses to
the same types of life experiences
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Skull
Represents our ability to protect our sense of self
Issues that can arise
Chiari malformation
Karmic condition resulting from extreme regret over a traumatic end to a prior life. See birth
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Fracture
A recent emotionally traumatic event has created the need to reassess our life, including relationships,
career, hobbies, education - in short, everything
Paget’s disease
Deep regret for not having done more in our life and wishing to go back and do it over
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Sleep
Represents self-acceptance
Issues that can arise
Sleep apnea
Stuck between wishing for independence yet fearing having to actually be responsible. See co-
dependent relationship, feedback loop, snoring
Central s leep apnea (inclu des Treatment -emergent central sleep apnea)
Feeling smothered by anyone who tells us what to do and wishing they would just let us make our
own decisions, yet terrified that we will fail to thrive
Obstruc tive s leep apnea
Feeling smothered by the pressures of life and wishing for someone to come and rescue us
Bedwetting
Chronic fear that an authority figure will hold us responsible for all that is wrong or that has ever gone
wrong. See fear of retribution
Insomnia
Trying to avoid thinking about something, trying to remember everything, or trying to figure out how
to win back someone’s approval (anxiety, fear, worry). Do the How to stop worrying exercise and check
out Wikihow’s Have good sleep hygiene
Klein-Levin syndrome
Wanting to escape into a fairy tale (abandonment)
Sleeping with mouth open
See contributing conditions: chronic congestion, deviated septum, sleep apnea, TMJ disorders, upper
respiratory infection
Narcolepsy
Living in a state of hyper vigilance and a nearly constant need to receive assurance from an authority
figure that everything is ok. Chronic need for loving or sympathetic attention, along with an inability or
unwillingness to give it to others. May occur with any/all of the following symptoms:
Excessive daytime s leepiness
Wishing everyone would, just for once, pay attention to us or, failing that, that they would just go
away and leave us alone. This is a form of abandonment
Hallucinations while falling asleep
Belief that our deepest, darkest fears will manifest upon falling asleep
Hallucinations upon waking
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Restless Legs s yndro me
Wanting to kick someone or something. Anger. Knowing that we need to get moving, but resisting
Sleep paralysis
Fear of losing control to an unknown and unknowable threat; fear of being held prisoner. See Can
negative energies and entities harm us?
Sudden loss of muscle tone (c ataplexy)
Can occur if we habitually suppress expression of strong emotions
Night terrors
Afraid, unable or unwilling to express what is really wrong; insecurity. May result from having met with
a traumatic end to a prior life. See prior incarnation trauma
Sleep-walking
Trying to run away (abandonment or avoidance)
Snoring
Repressed or suppressed strong emotions. Feeling like a victim, tendency toward passive/aggressive
behaviour
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Sleep positions
We tend to have a favourite sleeping position and, since we need to sleep in one position or another, it
is not that there is a problem with any of the sleeping positions. Rather, if we suddenly feel the need to
change from our normal position, that need may have been triggered by a recent significant event. It is
the event that needs to be identified and our feelings about it acknowledged and resolved. These
position descriptions may help with that identification:
Climbing a ladder
Trying to escape reality or always trying to improve self (never feeling quite good enough)
Lying on Back or Lying on Front
Represents trust issues
Natal
Feeling comfortable or needing to be comforted
Side
Avoiding looking at someone or something or unable/unwilling to change a point of view
Side with crossed ankles and/or arms
Fear that we are in danger or wanting to be left alone
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Somatic (or psychosomatic) symptom disorder
Habitual thought patterns that keep us trapped in a feedback loop of chronic worry about becoming ill
plus a fear of death/dying along with obsessive thoughts about our health or past traumatic events.
See anxiety, depression, hypochondria, suicide ideation
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Speech
Speech is the physical expression of our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires. Some of the
speech patterns below can be annoying for others to hear, but since we seldom hear what we
ourselves are saying, or how we are saying it, we may not realize how our speech is self-sabotaging.
Visit WikiHow and practice speaking well.
Quote from Unknown: “Aim to speak in such a way that others love to listen to you. Aim to
listen in such a way that others love to speak to you.”
Notes:
(1) These descriptions do not apply to those who have sustained, or are recovering from, illness or
traumatic injuries
(2) Although not a disorder as such, if one emigrates to a land where a different language is spoken and
fails to learn that new language, co-dependent relationships can result
Issues that can arise
Babbling
Deep need to be in the limelight. Chronic fear that if given the opportunity, someone else might say
what we are trying to avoid hearing (guilt, shame). Chatter can be used as a defense against a
perceived challenge. Can be a need to gossip. Unable or unwilling to express emotions. Can be a lack of
concern or interest in others. See arrogance, narcissism, self-importance. Visit WikiHow and check out
3 Ways to Be Friends With Someone Who Talks Too Much
Baby talk in adults
Wanting to avoid being taken seriously or held responsible, or held to a high standard. Can be used as
an excuse to under-perform. Trying to stay in childhood. Form of control and manipulation
Close talker
Sharing special information or secrets to make others feel that they are our only trusted confidant, and
that we have a special bond. The recipient then feels, possibly mistakenly, that they have a trusted
friend who would never harm them. Can be the foundation of unhealthy relationships. Trying to be in
control. See whispering
Cluttering
Fear that people do not actually want to pay attention to us, or that they are watching us closely and
waiting for us to fail
Delayed speech in children
Can be an early warning sign of co-dependent relationships within a family
Falsetto
Although not a disorder as such, speaking in a high, seemingly happy tone of voice can belie a deep
level of emotional pain or discomfort. Martyrs often use this tone of voice. See blame, guilt trips, victim
Fast talker
Guilt, shame. Wanting to hide. Fear of retribution
Foreign accent syndrome
If acquired
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respected and who will receive special considerations. See contributing factors: migraine
headaches, stroke, traumatic brain injury
If from birth
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
Hoarse
Reining in our voice to withhold communication about something important for fear of what might
happen if the truth were told. Can lead to more serious conditions like strep throat, bronchitis, etc.
Laryngitis
Withholding communication as a punishment either to self or another. See cold shoulder, revenge,
spite
Lisp
Trying to sound non-threatening. Wanting to remain in childhood
Loud talker
“LISTEN TO ME, LOOK AT ME!"
Mumbling
Strong desire to either receive special attention or divert attention from the matter at hand
Nasal
"Please don't pick on me". Lots of sob stories (blame, victim), even if not spoken aloud. May also
indicate a self-righteous attitude
Sibilance
“Please don’t be mean to me” or Please don't hold me accountable" attitude
Silent treatment
Withholding communication as a punishment. Childish, manipulative behaviour designed to punish,
hurt or infuriate someone who has offended us. See blame, cold shoulder, guilt trips
Slow talker
Strong desire to hold the attention of our audience so as to control the content or direction of a
conversation. Can be a way to anger the listener. Can come from low self-esteem or self-importance,
or an inability to think clearly. See chronic confusion
Smooth talker
Pretending to be in control of everything yet fearing being found out to be a fraud
Soft talker
Trying to come across as non-threatening, or a manoeuvre designed to force our audience into silent
submission
Stilted
Deep need to be seen as being wiser than everyone else, purposely using unfamiliar words when
speaking, being overly moral, considerate, polite and/or respectful, and therefore being entitled to
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Stuttering
Guilt, shame, self-condemnation
Tongue-tie
The child comes in to the family to illustrate the physical effect of a strong family pattern of
withholding communication as a punishment for those with whom the family members are displeased
Tourette syndrome
Desperate need to divert attention from someone or something. Shame, embarrassment
Up talking
Can come from a desire to appear cheerful, positive and non-threatening (martyr). This behaviour can
make our audience believe they are being given a chance to join the conversation, but since no
answers are really wanted, it seldom happens. It can manipulate the listener into giving her or his
approval after every sentence
Vocal cord polyps
Pattern of condemning self for getting carried away with the emotions of a situation and saying too
much, too loudly
Whining
Childish way to let others know that we are unhappy about something, or that we want them to do
something for us. Designed to get them to pity us and do whatever is needed to make the situation
better - so we will not have to do it ourselves. See manipulation
Whispering
Wanting to make someone think that they are a confidante, an ally. See close talker, soft talker
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Spinal column
Represents our spiritual infrastructure of belief systems
The brain is the first place in the human body to react physically to our thoughts, attitudes and
emotions. From there, signals are sent to the nerves in the spinal cord and from there, to the area of
the body that is affected by the particular thought, attitude or emotion that was just experienced.
Vertebral damage occurs when a specific spiritual tolerance threshold has been breached. See back,
bones, skeleton, vertebra
Issues that can arise
Arthritis
Fundamental belief that is based in untruth and illogic (and of course that means that everybody else's
belief is wrong, wrong, wrong)
Baastrup syndrome (Kissing spine syndrome)
Trying too hard and afraid to stop trying, for fear of something terrible happening. See affected lumbar
vertebra, self-esteem
Degenerative disc disease
Gradual or sudden loss of ability to handle traumatic events. Each new difficult experience creates
more and more pain and confirms our belief that life will never get better. See affected vertebra

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Lack of spiritual stability or faith that we are doing what is right for us. See affected vertebra
Herniated disc (or slipped, or ruptured)
Extreme difficulty in accepting compassion or mercy from others due to our burden of guilt. See
martyr, victim, affected vertebra
Change the pattern: Do the Guilt-buster and Self-esteem exercises
Scoliosis
Fear of the next attack from a loved one and wanting to avoid it, yet not wanting the loved one to
know that we are afraid of them and their power
Spina bifida
Karmic situation in which the affected person either experienced brutal physical harm at the hands of a
loved one, or caused a family member to experience same. See birth abnormalities and genetic
disorders
Spinal cord injury
See affected vertebrae, belief systems, What is karma?, Why do we get sick / suffer injuries / have
accidents?
Spinal stenosis
Impaired ability to feel compassion and a lack of desire to seek understanding about the reasons for it.
See arthritis
Subluxation
Not knowing which way to turn or where to look for guidance or assistance. See affected vertebra
Swayback or Lordosis
Feeling burdened by duties or responsibilities that we feel were forced on us without our knowledge or
consent. See back pain, posture
Vertebrae
See individual vertebra
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Spleen
Represents our ability to contend with, or fight off, spiritual threats
Issues that can arise
Bruised
See bruises, trauma
Enlarged
Feeling more and more threatened within a certain relationship. See contributing factors: anemia,
cirrhosis, leukemia, lymphoma, infection
Ruptured
Unable to withstand the spiritual pain of a recent event. See victim
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Stage fright
Paralysing condition arising from fear of failure/success, fear of looking stupid, due to a lack of
confidence in the message to be given. See anxiety
Physical effects: Dry mouth, nausea and/or vomiting, sweaty palms
Change the pattern: Spiritually: Meditate to find and resolve the underlying cause of the fear.
Physically: Prepare for your presentation by practicing as many times as needed to gain confidence.
Join a public speaking group like Toastmasters’ International or visit Wikihow to hone presentation
skills
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Sternum (breastbone)
Represents our ability or willingness to protect that which is most important to us... self. See ribs
Issues that can arise
Broken
Sudden alert that things cannot go on as they have been. See Why do we ... have accidents?
Costochondritis
Sudden realization that unwanted change is coming. See inflammation
Dislocated
Sudden realization that we purposely and needlessly failed to protect self
Separated
Unable or unwilling to acknowledge (to self or others) our limitations, even to the point of risking
personal injury
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Stomach
Represents our ability to use the spiritual food that we feed ourselves to nurture and sustain us. See
digestion, eating disorders
Issues that can arise
Gastritis
Unable to stomach all the negativity in our lives, but knowing what to do about it. See symptoms:
indigestion, inflammation, nausea and/or vomiting. See risk factors: cancer treatment, celiac disease,
Crohn's disease, diabetes type 1, excessive alcohol intake (see addiction), Hashimoto's disease, HIV /
AIDS, infection, sarcoidosis, stress
Acute
Look to recent events for something that was shocking or sickening, that triggered an extreme
response in us, even if we did not say it out loud
Chronic
Habitual judgment, criticism, and condemnation of someone nearby (could be self or others) for mean
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See distress
Peptic ulcer
Allowing negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions to eat away at, and destroy, self. See grief, spite
Polyps
Trying to hold onto every little bit of affection and/or kindness that we receive due to fear that they
will eventually figure out that we are not really worthy of receiving it
Sclerosing mesenteritis
Unable to stomach the constant hateful thoughts for self that we feel we are obliged to feel. See guilt,
self-condemnation, shame
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Sudden death syndrome
Sudden adult death syndrome (SADS)
Profound need to be in control of every single detail. See contributing conditions: arrhythmia, aortic
catastrophe, myocardial infarction, pulmonary embolism, stroke
Sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS)
Souls enter human form to reflect or amplify the spiritual condition of the family, in conjunction with
the individual's learning requirements. We may experience an extremely short or long life. We could be
sent in to become a physician to minister to those in need, just as easily as we could be sent in to
become one who is in need. Only the Universal Intelligence knows what is truly required for our
spiritual advancement. See What is a legacy family pattern?, Required life experiences, What is
karma?, What is reincarnation?
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Suicide ideation
Often thought to arise only from grief or desperation, suicide ideation can also be a form of
abandonment or an act of sacrifice. Suicide ideation can arise if:
o One's partner in a co-dependent relationship breaks free (either through choice or by passing
away). The survivor really cannot see that life is possible without the partner and feels hopeless
o One recognizes having made a mistake that she or he feels is unforgivable, or the damage of
which will be impossible to repair (see depression)
o One suffers a devastating loss or experiences profound trauma and feels recovery to an adequate
level of functioning is not possible
Suicide-related communication can be a form of control, spite or manipulation.
There are many forms of potentially lethal self-harm, but they all have one thing in common: the
individual loses any opportunity to change if the self-inflicted harm results in death. Non-fatal self-
harm may result in physical or mental challenges requiring incredible effort to overcome, and the
opportunity for profound spiritual advancement then exists.
Source sees the Universal Truth of all of the circumstances that helped to create the suicide ideation
for the individual, and it is Source who decides when it is time for an individual to come Home. The
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Sweat glands
Represent our ability or willingness to relax and trust that we are safe and secure, and able to handle
whatever comes our way
Issues that can arise
Anhidrosis
Look to contributing factors: addiction to alcohol, diabetes, Guillain-Barré syndrome, psoriasis
Hidradenitis suppurativa
Too much friction at home or work and hiding our feelings about it. Chronic feelings of embarrassment,
guilt, shame, perfectionism
Hyperhidrosis
Fear of our true thoughts and feelings being found out
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Teeth
Represent our ability or willingness to process life's experiences and to tolerate information that goes
against our beliefs or desires. See gums, lips, mouth, tongue

Individual teeth
Figure 19 The individual teeth
The table below shows the
spiritual component of
problems for each tooth in
the adult human mouth,
numbered 1 through 32,
starting with 1 on the upper
right and ending with 32 on
the bottom right - counting
counter-clockwise.

Table 5 The individual teeth

Upper mouth, right to left
Tooth Age of
Tooth name Spiritual aspect
No. entry
01 Third molar (wisdom) Lack of encouragement to follow our heart 19
02 Second molar Fear of the unknown 12
03 First molar Unrecognized trauma 6
04 Second premolar (bicuspid) Dreading change 11
05 First premolar (bicuspid) Feeling invisible and/or useless 10
06 Cuspid (canine) Unexpressed negative thoughts 11

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 07 Lateral incisor Belief that only “I” have this particular problem 8
08 Central incisor (front) Self-loathing, blaming self for EVERYTHING 7
09 Central incisor (front) Belief that everybody hates me 6
10 Lateral incisor Belief that only “I” have this particular problem 8
11 Cuspid (canine) Unexpressed negative thoughts 11
12 First premolar (bicuspid) Feeling invisible and/or useless 10
13 Second premolar (bicuspid) Dreading change 11
14 First molar Unrecognized trauma 6
15 Second molar Fear of the unknown 12
16 Third molar (wisdom) Lack of encouragement to follow our heart 19
Lower mouth, left to right
Tooth Age of
Tooth name Spiritual aspect
No. entry
17 Third molar (wisdom) Hiding from self 19
18 Second molar Distrusting self 12
19 First molar Trying to keep secrets 6
20 Second premolar (bicuspid) Unable or unwilling to change self 11
21 First premolar (bicuspid) Stuck in a cycle of pain and blame 10
22 Cuspid (canine) Hiding our true self from others 11
23 Lateral incisor Feeling trapped 7
24 Central incisor (front) Belief that everybody hates me 6
25 Central incisor (front) Self-loathing, blaming self for EVERYTHING 7
26 Lateral incisor Feeling trapped 7
27 Cuspid (canine) Hiding our true self from others 10
28 First premolar (bicuspid) Stuck in a cycle of pain and blame 10
29 Second premolar (bicuspid) Unable or unwilling to change self 11
30 First molar Trying to keep secrets 6
31 Second molar Distrusting self 12
32 Third molar (wisdom) Hiding from self 19

Issues that can arise

Abscess – Periapical
Unrecognized negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions over an injury that are eating away at our
self-esteem
Abscess – Periodontal
Negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions over an injury and saying/doing nothing to stand up for self
Broken
Unable or unwilling to process information that goes against our beliefs or desires
Cavities
Holding in judgment, criticism, and condemnation, but still thinking and believing the thoughts.
Withholding approval, low or unstable self-esteem, feeling unloved and unappreciated
Chipped
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Crooked
Feeling responsible for anything that is wrong and embarrassed for not being able to fix it
Cross bite
Chronic need for excessive nurturing
Crowded
Feeling trapped and belief that this condition will never change
Dry socket
See affected individual tooth or teeth
Gaps
Feeling exposed, like there is nowhere to hide
Grinding (bruxism)
Angry, and always waiting for the next injury or attack. See TMJ disorders
Hyperdontia
Overcompensating for a perceived weakness
Hypodontia
Feeling ill-prepared to live life successfully. Can result from a karmic situation
Impacted
Feeling hopeless that we will ever be free to be true to self
Missing or removed
Can show that a big change has happened or is about to happen. Can result from not dealing with our
issue(s) in a positive way. For example, if we feel trapped in life and do nothing to change the situation,
the likelihood of losing a tooth (or teeth) increases with each passing year, either through accident
(breakage), gum disease or decay. Can also result from not caring for self enough to seek help when in
pain and distress
Open bite
Lack of loving, nurturing guidance in childhood
Overbite
Convinced that everyone is right about us being no good. See shame
Pain
Unrecognized hurt feelings or hurtful thoughts
Peg laterals
Feeling unloved and unsupported
Pericoronitis
Feeling frustrated with always being treated like a silly child and not knowing what to do about it
Root canal (cracked tooth syndrome)
Feeling that our integrity has been compromised (self-condemnation)
Sensitive
Tired of trying too hard. Firm belief that we will never win or succeed
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Worry and fear that our flaws will be found out
Sweet tooth
Craving inner peace and harmony
Two rows of teeth
Inner desire to remain in childhood yet craving independence
Under bite
Wanting to prove that everyone is wrong about us
Wisdom tooth problems
Judging, criticising, and condemning self for not honouring our needs but fear of taking the time away
from others to tend to self
Yellowed
Unless there is a contributing physical ailment, there is no spiritual component because this condition
is not a disease. While they can be unsightly, yellowed teeth are painless. The physical factors that
contribute, like smoking, eating dark foods that stain the teeth (like red wine, coffee, tea, chocolate
etc.) could be consumed to excess which would hasten the yellowing, and the spiritual component of
such over-consumption could be addiction or obsessive/compulsive behaviours. While the effects of
aging cannot be helped (not yet, anyways), there are several, often free, methods of whitening/
brightening teeth
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Tendons
Represent ability to stand firm in the face of opposition. See affected area for more information and
cartilage, joints, ligaments, muscles
Issues that can arise
Rupture
Feeling unable to recover from a recent life lesson
Sprain
Regretting a recent choice and wishing a different option had been available
Strain
Trying too hard to foresee all possible outcomes so as to avoid mistakes
Tear
Wishing to undo a recent damaging error
Tendinitis
Feeling unable to regain self-esteem after a recent loss
Calcific tendinitis
Unable or unwilling to acknowledge the ugly truth about our reason(s) for holding onto resentment
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Thighs
Represent support
Issues that can arise
Broken femur
Terror at the thought of having to support oneself
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Throat
Represents communication
Issues that can arise
Cancer
Trying to swallow a false story, or trying to feed someone else a false story; living a lie. Feeling stifled.
Chronic choking back of tears or words. Wanting someone to meet our unexpressed emotional needs
Choking
Signal that the thought that we just had was judgmental
Cough
If not due to illness, this is a signal to let us know that we are resisting saying words that need to be
said, or that we just had a judgmental thought
Hoarse
Reining in our voice (can lead to more serious conditions like strep throat, bronchitis, etc.). Wanting to
withhold communication about something important for fear of what might happen if truth were told
Gag reflex - hyperactive or hypersensitive , overactive
Fear of being forcefully silenced or becoming unable to speak. Contributing spiritual factors: anxiety,
distrust, unrecognized distress, unresolved inner conflicts. Contributing physical factors: acid reflux
(gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD), post-nasal drip, oral stimulation from cutlery or dental
procedures
Laryngitis
Withholding communication to punish self or another. See revenge, spite, What is the cold shoulder?
Obstruc tive laryngitis or Croup
Unable to say what we really want to say, or unwilling to say what we really feel
Sore throat (Pharyngitis)
Frustrated at being unable to express our thoughts or feelings. Wanting to be heard above everyone
else
Bacterial infec tion
See spiritual component(s) of strep throat
Othe r contribu ting factors
See spiritual component(s) of allergens / allergic reactions, certain cancers, dryness,
Gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD), HIV infection, irritants like smoke, chemicals or certain
foods or beverages, throat muscle strain
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See spiritual component(s) of chickenpox, common cold, COVID-19, croup (obstructive laryngitis),
flu (influenza), measles, mononucleosis
Strep throat
Stifling the truth for fear it may reflect poorly upon us and get us into big trouble
Tickle
Something needs to be said aloud. See signals
Tonsillitis
Always being told we are wrong (and maybe even ridiculous) and believing it, yet wishing it were not
true. Feeling uninvited and unwelcome
Tonsil stones (tonsilloliths)
Pretending that everything is ok, due to a fear of not being believed (or maybe even being ridiculed) if
we tell the truth about how cruelly someone is treating us. See self-esteem
Vocal cord polyps
Condemning self for always getting carried away with the emotions of a situation and saying too much,
too loudly
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Thymus gland
Represents our ability and/or desire to defend ourselves from that which cannot be seen. See
autoimmune diseases, immune system, lymph nodes, spleen, ulcerative colitis
Issues that can arise
Cancer
Belief that all threats to our health come from outside of us
Hypogammaglobulinemia
Feeling like we are fighting a battle that we can never win. See victim
Myasthenia gravis
Unable or unwilling to protect self even from the minimal risk of self-harm from doing simple day-to-
day activities; or from meeting our personal needs. Feeling like a victim
Pure red cell aplasia
Unable or unwilling to protect self, feeling like a victim
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Thyroid
Represents our ability to regulate our emotional state
Issues that can arise
Cancer
Failure to monitor our spoken words to filter out judgment, criticism, or condemnation, because it is
acceptable to share hurtful information because we think it is truth and they need to hear it

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Feeling vulnerable and over-protecting self
Hypothyroidism (Hashimoto's thyroiditis)
Feeling responsible for everything and everyone yet wanting to be responsible for nothing and no one
Plummer's disease (goiter)
Trying to win impossible battles, made impossible through our refusal to accept or acknowledge our
responsibility
Thyroid eye disorder
Thyroiditis
Feeling that our power has been lost and not knowing where to turn for help
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Toes
Represent our thoughts about our past, present and future. See feet, knuckles, toenails
Individual toes
Big
Strong dislike of the direction that something important is taking
2nd
Condemning our or someone else's stupid choice for creating the current negative situation
3rd
Anger over our inability to foresee the outcomes of choices
4th
Distress over a relationship knowing that it is futile to continue in it, yet still wanting it to work anyway
5th
Childish reaction to a troubling situation
More than five
See description for adjacent toes
Issues that can arise
Broken or Bent toes
Sudden realization of a painful fact in a particular area. Habitually thinking, “Give me a break” (victim,
judgment, criticism, condemnation). Time for a break with the old days or the old ways but not willing
to let go of the past. See affected toe
Bunions
Avoidance - of our true calling, of truth, of desire. Habitually holding anyone or anything else but self
responsible for our problems and failures, yet always feeling responsible for everyone and everything.
Aggravated by having to carry someone else’s load or feeling that we are carrying the whole load alone
and not being appreciated
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 Unwilling to do a certain task and expecting others to do it for us because after all, it is easy for
them since they do not have our handicap, so they should not mind dropping whatever they are
doing to help us
Bursitis
Unable or unwilling to adapt to unexpected changes on our life’s path. See affected toe
Chilblains
Wishing to live in a different environment but seeing no way to get there, and feeling impatient and
frustrated. See affected body part (face, fingers, toes), lupus, Raynaud's disease
Claw toes
Hanging on desperately for dear life due to feeling unsupported by those responsible for caring for us
Dislocation
Lack of spiritual stability or faith that we are doing what is right for us. See affected toe
Gout
Denying our habitual anger with a parent or other authority figure
Hammertoe
Fear. Clenching. Living in dread. Feeling as if constantly walking on broken glass (can show that our life
path is filled with pain and needs to be swept clean). See affected toe
Ingrown toenail
Feeling like we are always running late. Spite, revenge, blame. See affected toe
Stubbed
Pay attention to your thoughts! See affected toe
Subluxation
Not knowing which way to turn or where to look for guidance or assistance. See affected toe
Toes - longer than average
Feeling unsupported and so feeling always responsible for everyone and everything (if I don't do it, it
won't get done) but wishing we could remain in the freedom of childhood where we never had to be
responsible for anyone or anything
Toes - shorter than average (brachydactyly)
Legacy family pattern of feeling 'less-than' or 'outcast', and fighting to overcome the deficits created by
the belief system(s), See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, karma
Syndactyly (webbed)
Legacy family pattern of feeling that we will never be given enough to meet our needs, so we must
take it for ourselves and if they think we are greedy for doing so, it is their fault that we are. See
affected toes, birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
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Tongue
Represents our ability to communicate, and to nourish, nurture and sustain self. See gums, lips, mouth,
teeth
Issues that can arise
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Wishing that we could say what we mean and mean what we say. Always.
Cancer
Obsessive/compulsive thoughts about how we communicate and connect with others. See HPV
Enlarged or big
If acquired
See amyloidosis, diabetes
If from birth
Karmic condition requiring the soul to undergo certain experiences. See Beckwith-Wiedemann
syndrome, birth abnormalities and genetic disorders, congenital hypothyroidism
Geographic
Chronic worry that something is wrong and unable or unwilling to be assured that everything is actually
all right
Hairy
Chronic worry that we are not doing enough. Period.
Gray
See eczema, peptic ulcer
White
See oral thrush
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Tonsils
Represent our ability to protect our self-esteem from being harmed by others’ negative opinions about
us. See immune system
Issues that can arise
Tonsil stones
Tonsillitis
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Ulcers
Skin
Feeling persecuted (blame, victim). Not recognizing our own power
Stomach (peptic)
Allowing negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions to eat away at, and destroy, self. See grief, spite
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Urine
Physical representation of our ability to cleanse and release that which is no longer needed spiritually.
See bladder, kidneys
Issues that can arise
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See diabetes, urinary tract infection
Dark
See kidney problems, liver disease
Frequent urination (nocturia)
Unable to relax and fully trust that all is well. See anxiety, bladder, diabetes, kidneys, pregnancy,
prostatitis, urinary tract infections, vaginitis
Urinary incontinence (loss of bladder control)
Unable or unwilling to let go of needing approval from others due to low or unstable self-esteem. See
constipation, urinary tract infections
Urinary retention
Holding onto the pain of a recent confrontation with someone whose approval we need, and fearing
we may have forever lost their favour due to our angry outburst
Urinary tract infection (UTI)
Extreme displeasure with the way things are turning out, and feeling helpless to change any of it.
Victim
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Uterus
Represents transition from spirit (creative urges) into physical form
Issues that can arise
Cancer
Obsessive/compulsive thoughts about our failure to create perfection (self-condemnation)
Double
Karmic condition resulting from a family line repeatedly nearing-extinction due to famine, natural
disasters or war, and barely surviving
Endometriosis
Endometritis
Infection
Self-hatred and/or contempt of others' intolerance of anything female
Missing or underdeveloped
If from birth
See birth abnormalities and genetic disorders
If surgically removed
See contributing condition(s) that created the necessity for removal
Prolapsed
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Genetic
Family pattern of treating the children as ‘less than’ or unworthy
Non-genetic
Personal pattern of blaming our failure(s) either on other people or on experiences we believe are
outside of our control
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Vagina
Represents transition
Issues that can arise
Cysts
Wanting to avoid or prevent intimacy, but feeling that our "No" is not a good enough reason, whereas
a health issue should be legitimate. See cysts, lumps and bumps, belief systems, self-esteem
Bartholin's
Desperate to prevent intimacy due to unresolved anger either with self or our partner. See infection
Inclusion
Dreading intimacy. See traumatic events
Double
Karmic situation resulting from a family line repeatedly nearing-extinction due to famine, natural
disasters or war, and barely surviving
Leukorrhea
Unrecognized or unresolved fears or regrets over being female
Inflamm atory
Regrets over our sexual activity. After delivering a baby, regrets over our behaviour during the
birthing process, or the results thereof
Parasitic
Wanting desperately to be as desirable as someone else seems to be
Physiologic
Fear that being female will present certain dangers or will limit our life choices
Vaginitis
Bacterial vaginosis
Allowing a specific, false negative belief to control us
Non-infectious vaginitis
Belief that girls are dirty or bad and serve no useful purpose except reproduction
Trichomoniasis
Feeling that we are not contributing to society, as if we are a parasite, and therefore require
punishment. A recent life experience has awakened a recognition that we are not fulfilling our true
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 Vaginismus
Unable or unwilling to trust
Yeast infection
A new negative belief has just formed. Recognizing it, along with treating the physical disorder, can
hasten healing. Frustration at never seeming to receive admiration, positive attention or recognition
for our many (supposedly) selfless acts. See martyr
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Vasovagal syncope (Fainting)
If due to:
Standing for long periods of time or Heat exposure
Unable or unwilling to look after our personal needs or feeling like a victim of an uncaring authority
figure. See self-esteem
Seeing blood or Having blood drawn or Fear of bodily injury
Unable to accept that we exist in physical matter
Straining (as to have a bowel movement or with extreme coughing)
Trying too hard to rid self of a negative repetitive thought because we secretly believe it, but wanting
to keep it for fear that not having it will weaken us
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Vertebrae
Represent the foundation upon which our reactions to our life experiences rest. See back, broken
bones, osteoporosis, skeleton, spinal column
Individual vertebrae
Cervical (neck )
C1 Holding onto beliefs that we know to be false; for example, believing that our caregivers
are (or were) saintly, yet knowing that they were not
C2 Avoiding communication
C3 Stifling or smothering someone or something, or feeling stifled or smothered by
someone or something
C4 Feeling unsupported
C5 Unable or unwilling to do that which needs to be done
C6 Unable, or unwilling to try, to grasp an important concept
C7 Trying to control everyone and everything
C8 Unable or unwilling to meet commitments. See abandonment
Thoracic (upper bac k)
T1 Angry about life's obstacles and challenges

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 T2 Unable or unwilling to be held responsible
T3 Unable or unwilling to reach out for help or to help
T4 Feeling betrayed
T5 Feeling trapped
T6 Feeling vulnerable
T7 Feeling powerless
T8 Feeling that there is not enough time for everything
T9 Feeling unfulfilled
T10 Feeling unloved and so seeking everyone's approval
T11 Feeling unproductive or fearing becoming useless
T12 Feeling bankrupt or fearing bankruptcy (of wallet or of spirit)
Lumbar (middle bac k)
L1 Fear of leaving someone or something behind
L2 Unable or unwilling to live in the moment
L3 Covering up traumatic experience(s)
L4 Feeling or fearing that we are failing in life
L5 Trying to hurry through life
Sacral (lower back )
S1 (Sacroiliac joint) Fear of our needs not being met can cause us to try to hold onto
everything and feel unable or unwilling to let go. See forgiveness, greed, hoarding
S2 Fear of abandonment
S3 Fear of the unknown
S4 Distrust
S5 Withholding approval
Coccyx (tailbone )
Co1
Represents how we feel about our personal history. If broken or bruised, Look back over the past week
or so to find the event that triggered a strong painful memory
Issues that can arise
Break
Deciding to believe that we are unworthy of respect, or of being treated with kindness or
consideration, or of having a happy life. See martyr, spite, victim

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Pain
Deciding to believe that we are unworthy of having a happy life because we are not doing what we
think needs to be done (condemnation, shame)
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Viral hemorrhagic fevers (VHF's)
Feeling impotent. Victims of this family of diseases are often victims of situations seemingly beyond
their control. The best protection is often the most difficult: believe - indeed, know - that one person
can bring profound change into her or his world. See zoonotic diseases
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Walk (gait)
Represents how we walk our spiritual path. See echo chamber, feet, legs
Bow-legged
Pretending that there is nothing wrong, even though it feels as if our world is going to fall apart. See
rickets
Dragging one’s feet
If elderly or infirm
Sense of balance has been lost and can create the need to shuffle our feet
If not elderly or infirm
Pattern of reluctance to do whatever it is that needs doing. See avoidance, dawdling,
procrastination, silent rebellion
Drop foot
Fear that we are incapable of living independently
Duck-footed
Feeling fully justified in taking more than our fair share. See greed, splayed feet
Fast
Deep need to be in control; avoidance of being in the moment
Knock-kneed
Fear, fear, fear and not having been taught the emotional tools with which to set it aside
Leaning forward
Habitual thought pattern that says, “My life is really hard. I’m trying really hard. See? Look how hard
I’m trying!”
Pigeon-toed
Self-righteous, victim
Pronation
Represents our ability or willingness to stand in the present moment
Overpronation
Wishing for our past to have been different, so that we could have been a different person today.
While the past cannot be changed, we can change our reactions to it. See fear of change, flat feet,
knock-kneed, forgiveness, pessimism
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Fear of being noticed. See hammertoe, life-ending trauma in a prior incarnation
Rotation of femur, fibula or tibia
Zigzagging through life due to searching everywhere for a solution but unable to decide on a particular
path in case it is the wrong one
Shin splints
Trying too hard to get something distasteful over and done with, or trying to achieve too much, too
fast in order to win approval from a harsh critic, possibly self
Slow
Deep need to re-assert our control over someone who wants to gain independence from us
Stiff arms
Arrogance with feigned humility. Trying to keep emotions hidden
Swaying
"Look at me!"
Tip-toed
Fear, walking on eggshells. Trying to meet someone else's expectations. Desire to sneak up on and
startle people (control). See hammertoes
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Wrists
Represent our ability or willingness (or lack thereof) to finish old tasks or to accept new ones
Issues that can arise
Broken
Wanting life to have new meaning yet fearing the unknown, and so wanting to delay the inevitable
changes that life brings
Bursitis
Self-condemnation over believing that we are failing at our chosen work and unsure what to do about
it
Carpal tunnel syndrome
Doing a job that we would rather not be doing, feeling unfulfilled, unappreciated and frustrated, and
resisting making any changes
Dislocation
Lack of spiritual stability or faith that we are doing what is right for us
Ganglion cyst
Pattern of denying our true calling, both to self and to anyone who will listen
Sprains
Resisting taking the next action with an important project. See fear of failure/success
Subluxation
Not knowing which way to turn or where to look for guidance or assistance
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Yawning
Trying to make someone notice us. Looking for a way to escape a dull conversation or situation
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Yeast infection
A new negative belief has just formed. Recognizing it, along with treating the physical disorder, can
hasten healing. Frustration at never seeming to receive admiration, positive attention or recognition
for our many (supposedly) selfless acts. See martyr
Nipple thrush
Fear that the nourishment we provide will be harmful rather than nurturing
Oral thrush
Belief in our intrinsic badness, such that nothing good can ever come from self. See self-condemnation
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Zoonotic diseases
Self-righteous beliefs that humans are separate from, and superior to, all other life forms; that other
life forms are here only to serve us. There are many such viruses that cause disease in both humans
and animals, including mad cow disease, SARS, MERS, the common cold and the latest Coronavirus
outbreak called COVID-19. See viral hemorrhagic fevers (VHF's)
Avian flu
Feeling trapped and wishing we could just fly away, but knowing that if even if we could, it would solve
nothing. See heart disease, kidney problems, pink eye, pneumonia, respiratory infection / failure
Chagas disease
See parasites, ectoparasites
Common cold
Can occur when we feel trapped into doing too much for others and our efforts are under-appreciated.
Getting a cold seems like our only escape
COVID-19
Feeling trapped in an environment that we know is neither physically nor spiritually healthy, that we
feel we had no part in creating. See oppositional defiant disorder, pneumonia, tinnitus, fear of
invasion, self-righteousness, silent rebellion, victim
Lisa D. asked: "I have a question pertaining to Corona virus. In the description [above] it is indicated
that there is a feeling of being trapped associated with the disease? My question is, which came first?
The feeling that manifested a disease that turned contagious and then we spread it? Did the disease
start with one person feeling trapped and then that mindset started spreading?"
A: "Since this condition is affecting millions of people worldwide, millions upon millions of people must
have been feeling trapped and helpless, in order for the disease to manifest. The disease manifested
into physical only once a certain threshold had been reached and breached, of the vibrational frequency
which this thought pattern emanates." 20211110
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Loss of sense of smell or taste, COVID toes (similar to chilblains), confusion, diarrhea, nausea and/or
vomiting, pink eye, pneumonia, rash
Change the pattern: Even if we cannot change our physical environment, we can change our thoughts.
We can also protect our physical being by following public health guidelines.
Note: Just as we are spiritual beings and subject to spiritual laws, so we are physical beings and subject
to physical laws. Failing to care for our physical body places us at risk of injury or illness - after all, we
bathe, brush our teeth, wash our clothing, clean our home and refrigerate our food, right? Why then
would we risk catching or spreading an extremely infectious disease by refusing to mask up or socially
distance or vaccinate, based on a belief that our faith in God protects us? Our choices have
consequences, and this disease is providing us with the opportunity to see free will in action in real
time: if we know we are infected and choose to ignore social distancing and self-isolation best
practices, we could cause the illness, suffering and even death of others. Such a choice can arise from a
desire for revenge or to defy authority figures. See mark of the beast
Dengue fever
Mild
See fever, headaches, muscle, bone or joint pain, nausea and/or vomiting, pain behind the eyes,
rash
Severe
See bleeding gums or bleeding nose, fever, severe pain, persistent vomiting
Ebola virus and Marburg virus
Pattern of feeling that we are in desperate need of something, but not knowing how to get it and fear
or belief that we will never receive it
Hand-foot-and-mouth disease
Chronically unmet need for positive, loving attention from a caregiver or authority figure
Hookworm
Self-righteous beliefs that we and our pets and property are clean and free of disease, and beyond
reproach
Lyme disease
Intense fear that we will be hurt by some unseen force for some unknown reason, possibly because
someone wished a curse on us. Can also result from a belief that God will take away everything good in
our lives because we are not worthy. See fear of retribution, autoimmune diseases
Malaria
Fear that sometime, when we least expect it, there will be consequences for all the mistakes we have
made - and keep making. See fear of retribution, blood, liver, parasites
Monkeypox virus
Belief that we are being, or will be, punished for a recent mistake that we thought we had hidden. See
fever, headache, muscle pain, swollen lymph nodes, rash
Change the pattern: Take the power away from the fear of being found out by being honest about the
mistake, both with self and others.
Obstructive laryngitis or Croup
Unable to say what we really want to say, or unwilling to say what we really feel
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Belief that we are weak. Feeling at the mercy of those who are strong and in a position of power.
Giving up on our ability to survive. See HIV / AIDS
West Nile virus
Mild
See fever, flu, insect stings or bites
Severe
See fever, flu, encephalitis, meningitis
Yellow Fever
Acute
Fear that a recent life choice that was made for the wrong reasons will backfire. See fever, flu
Toxic
Wanting to escape the inevitable negative results of that choice. See fever, flu
Zika Virus Infection
Feeling there is no escaping responsibilities, and something horrible will happen if we let down our
guard even for a moment
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Do you suffer from ... ?
This feature lists which thought patterns contribute to which physical ailments.
Guilt
Includes Guilt, Guilt trips, Legacy guilt, Survivor's guilt
Accident proneness | Acne | Alzheimer’s disease | Aphasia | Babbling | Binge-eating disorder | Bruised
eye | Bulimia nervosa | Burns and fires | Colitis | Cravings | Depersonalization-derealization disorder |
Falsetto voice | Fast talker | Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders (FASDs) | Finger fungus | Foot fungus |
Fungal infections | Genital herpes | Gestational diabetes | Giant cell arteritis | Hangover | Heart
disease | Herniated disc | Hidradenitis suppurativa | HIV | Incontinentia pigmenti | Lipoma | Lower
respiratory infections | Lying | Malaria | Menopause | Money problems | Muscle cramp | Nail fungus
| Obesity/overweight | Parasites | Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) | Premature ejaculation |
Progressive supranuclear palsy | Remembering everything | Rheumatoid arthritis | Schizophrenia |
Sclerosing mesenteritis | Self-inflicted hair removal | Sexually transmitted diseases (STD’s) | SIBO |
Sickle cell anemia | Silent treatment | Stuttering | Traumatic brain injury
Resentment
Breast cancer | Bursitis ( shoulder) | Calcific tendinitis | Gangrene | Incisional hernia | Kennedy’s
Disease | Lymphatic system cancer | Nausea and/or vomiting | Non-alcoholic fatty liver disease |
Pelvic floor dysfunction | Sarcoidosis
Low or unstable self-esteem
Ability to learn | Accident proneness | Andropause | Aphantasia | Autoimmune deficiency syndrome
(AIDS) | Avoidant personality disorder | Baastrup syndrome | Baker's cyst | Cannabinoid hyperemesis
syndrome | Chronic confusion | Chronic congestion | Chronic fatigue syndrome | Clubbing nails |
Collar bone | Cravings | Cuboid syndrome | Dental abscess | Dental cavities | Depression | Distal
clavicular osteolysis | Ear fungus | Ectopic pregnancy | Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorders (FASDs) | Flat
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feet (fallen arches) | Gallbladder inflammation | Hematoma | Herniated disc | Ichthyosis vulgaris |
Lying | Mast cell activation syndrome | Moles | Money problems | MTHFR variant | Multiple
personality disorder | Pancreatic cancer | Paranoia | Parasites | Pericarditis | Persecution complex |
Persistent genital arousal disorder | Proteinurea | Reactive arthritis | Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy
(RSD) or CRPS | Rosacea | Slow talker | Swollen lymph nodes | Tendinitis | Tonsil stones | Vaginal
cysts | Vasovagal syncope (fainting)
Worry
Baldness | Bleeding gums | Bleeding nose | Chills or shivers or goosebumps | Common bile duct
stones | Constipation | Dandruff | Dark circles under eyes | Dizziness/vertigo | Fibromyalgia |
Geographic tongue | Hairy tongue | Headaches | High blood pressure | Hyperemesis gravidarum |
Hypochondria | Itchy head | Insomnia | Menopause | Moles | Morning sickness | Pineal gland cyst |
Pins and needles | Pituitary gland tumour | Placenta previa | Poor outcomes for medical or dental
procedures | Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) | Small vessel disease - heart | Sucking teeth |
Vascular dementia

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Section 6 Spiritual glossary of Terms and their spiritual
aspect
This section gives the spiritual aspect of many human expressions (thoughts, attitudes and emotions),
some behaviours and a few commonly spoken words or phrases. Included are the spiritual and physical
effects that such expressions can create. If something does not resonate with you, ask the Universal
Intelligence about it during meditation or contact the author.
For purposes of this workbook, the following meanings are used:
Thoughts - ideas formed into language using words, images or symbols, that may or may not be spoken
aloud. Our thoughts produce attitudes, emotions, beliefs, desires and behaviours.
Attitudes - arise from our thoughts and belief systems.
Emotions - arise from our thoughts and attitudes, albeit at lightning fast speed. It can seem as though
we feel emotions first and then have a thought, but this is not so.
Belief systems (or ‘beliefs’) - are stories we use to justify our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, desires and
behaviours.
Desires - things we tell ourselves that we need or want, resulting from our thoughts, attitudes,
emotions and beliefs.
Behaviours - actions we take as a result of our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires.
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Abandonment (thought, attitude, emotion, behaviour)
Overwhelming desire to run away from a difficult situation. Can be a habitual response to our trigger
issues. Can take many forms:
o Withholding communication from people or our guide as a punishment (see cold shoulder,
isolation, rejection)
o Escaping a situation via the use of a chemical substance (food, drugs or alcohol)
o Doing things to exclude others (listening to loud music, reading a book, playing/working on
computer, talking on the phone, watching television or movies)
o Abruptly hanging up the telephone on someone with whom we have just had a disagreement or
abruptly turning our back or leaving the room
o Wishing that a disagreeable neighbour would just move away
o Refusing to have further dealings of any sort with someone after they have done something that
angers us (can come from resentment or a need for revenge)
o Having a death wish for anyone with whom emotional difficulties are encountered on a
somewhat regular basis (spouse, child, employer, teacher, colleague, etc.)
o Suicide ideation

Sounds like: I quit. I give up. Do it yourself. I don't care.

Spiritual effects: Unable or unwilling to complete projects and/or to persevere through difficult times
Physical effects: Addictions, obsessive/compulsive behaviours, bone spurs, hip or knee problems, heart
disease

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Origin of the pattern: Being physically or emotionally abandoned by parents or caregivers, getting lost,
not receiving help when we needed it, feeling unimportant, uninvited and/or unwelcome
Change the pattern: Instead of running away, state what is on your mind. Even if you think the other
person does not want to hear it or does not care what you think, or will be angry or hurt, say it, instead
of abandoning the person or the situation
Reverse abandonment (thought, behaviour)
Some people with a fear of abandonment react to it by seeming to have a nasty disposition, which
causes others to leave them - reverse abandonment. The fear prevents them from trusting enough to
form meaningful relationships. Being unkind or uncaring keeps them in control: "If I am mean enough,
or if they think I do not care about them, nobody will want to have anything to do with me and then
there will be no danger of anyone leaving (abandoning) me, or at least I will not be surprised when
they do". See isolation
Origin of the pattern: Blaming and condemning those who abandoned us or failed to protect or
support us, and using this as a reason to punish everyone for their failures. In actuality, we are
punishing ourselves though, due to a belief that there must be something intrinsically wrong with us
that caused them to abandon us
Change the pattern: Know that we create our own reality. Expectation equals result - having fear can
bring about that which is feared. Find the root cause of the fear. If it results from having been
abandoned as a young child, there needs to be a realization that children are not responsible for their
caregivers’ actions or choices
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Anger (thought, emotion)
Strong feeling of displeasure or hostility. If anger is not dealt with and released, if it is repressed or
suppressed, it can then become resentment. People can use the threat of an angry outburst to control
and manipulate others. If we allow our fear of someone's angry outburst to prevent us from speaking
Truth, we might be blaming her or him for our own behaviour. The fear of confrontation can prevent
us from expressing our true feelings, but we still feel them. The energy it takes to suppress them
creates stress and tension in the body, which can then develop into illness or create injury-causing
accidents.
Of course, the energy that arises from anger can also be used to bring about positive changes; it can be
channeled into finding creative solutions for problems that seem otherwise impossible to solve
Sounds like: Why can't you ever...? Why do you always...? When is it going to be my turn? How could
you do this to me?
Spiritual effects: A pattern can develop of always looking for an excuse to explode. In its extreme, can
become an inability or unwillingness to feel satisfied unless others are upset
Physical effects: Accident proneness, depression, heartburn/indigestion, liver diseases, migraine
headache, skin abnormalities, heart disease, stroke, and, ultimately, general systems failure
Change the pattern: Meditate to find the root cause for holding onto anger instead of expressing it.
Develop a habit of asking questions instead of assuming we already understand
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Anxiety (thought, emotion)
Intense feelings of dread, uneasiness or apprehension that arise for no apparent reason and become
so overwhelming that panic can set in. These feelings result from unrecognized or unresolved fearful
thoughts. Ignoring the feelings only provides short-term relief, and can contribute to becoming
addicted to constant turmoil and other obsessive/compulsive behaviours, and having unsolvable
problems requiring everyone's attention. See distress, dread, worry
Anxiety can become a family pattern that worsens with successive generations; however, with all the
help that is available nowadays, more and more people are resolving their anxieties and teaching their
children how to do so
Spiritual effects: Unable or unwilling to trust
Physical effects: The physical results of long-term anxiety can be heart disease, lung problems and skin
disorders, as well as nervous behaviours like shaky hands, hyperhidrosis, nail-biting, repetitive
scratching or skin picking, inability to concentrate or focus on the matter at hand, moving with sudden,
jerky movements
Change the pattern: Spiritually: Meditate to identify the underlying fear and its spiritual root cause.
Again in meditation, learn your reasons for choosing to react to life in this particular way. It is possible
to live without fear and anxiety. Physically: Visit WikiHow and Learn to breathe better
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Arrogance (thought, attitude)
Attitude that places self above all others, and a tendency to announce this superiority to others. Can
come from too much or too little self-confidence. Arrogance says that rules and laws apply only to
others. It shows a lack of respect for others and their possessions or their boundaries, and/or their
needs and feelings.
Arrogance can be seen in bullies, who tend to be loud, aggressive and controlling. Arrogant people feel
justified in whatever they are doing, yet make no attempt to understand or excuse anyone else's
behaviour. They act as if the world owes them a debt, or as if meeting their needs should be
everybody's top priority. Arrogant people are often late for, or miss entirely, appointments and
scheduled events. See passive/aggressive behaviours, narcissism
Sounds like: It's ok if I break the law. It's ok if I cheat. It's ok if I hold onto anger and resentment and
seek revenge
Spiritual effects: Difficulty in building and/or maintaining meaningful relationships, greed, low or
unstable self-esteem
Physical effects: Addictions, babbling, bi-polar disorder, bone spurs, gallbladder inflammation,
hoarding, hypothyroidism, knee problems, obesity, walking with stiff arms
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn who we are really trying to hurt and why
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At least I... (thought, attitude)
Saying “at least I...” to compare self to another shows that we have judged, criticised and condemned
someone. See self-righteousness
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Attribution bias (thought , attitude)
Holding others to a high standard of morals and ethics and being quick to condemn them if they fail to
live up to them, whilst happily excusing our own failure to do so - or worse, believing that we ALWAYS
live up to our standards
Looks like: Someone cuts us off in traffic and we immediately blame them for being a jerk, an
inconsiderate driver. We cut someone off in traffic and excuse ourselves by blaming other drivers, road
or weather conditions or our need to speed to make an appointment on time. We have no way to
know whether a driver habitually drives in such a fashion, so we cannot possibly judge their motives
Change the pattern: Be as generous with others as we are with ourselves. Extend to others the benefit
of the doubt that we would like to receive
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Authority figure
For children, an authority figure is one in whose care we are placed and whom we are taught to trust
and obey. For adults, this is anyone who has power and control over us. A spiritual breach of trust
occurs if authority figures abuse their position of authority at the expense of those in their care, and
this can be traumatic
Looks like: Can be any of the following: parents, teachers, caregivers, babysitters, person providing
professional services (doctors, lawyers, etc.), coaches, group leaders, employers, religious leaders,
government representatives, police, etc.
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Avoidance (thought, behaviour)
Pattern of wanting to postpone, indefinitely, decisions that need to be made or actions that need to be
taken. Can seem similar to dawdling, but avoidance is delaying doing something and dawdling is doing
it, but at a snail’s pace. Avoidance can affect every part of our lives, and annoy those with whom we
interact.
Fear failure or success can cause this behaviour, along with a fear of being held responsible. It is
infuriating for us if we are waiting for their decision, but those with this pattern feel imprisoned - they
are stuck right where they are, unable to move in any direction. Children not taught how to make
choices can grow up dreading making choices, and can find collaboration with others nearly
impossible. If we are not taught responsibility, we will find a thousand reasons to put off doing that
which we have been asked.
The term, "productive procrastination" has been coined for those who fool themselves into thinking
that they are so busy being productive that they cannot find the time to make seemingly momentous
decisions or to do that which they have agreed to do. See blame, victim
Sounds like: Not today. I don’t have time. I’m too tired. I don’t feel like it
Looks like: Pretending to be busy if someone wants our attention
Note: When working with the Universal Intelligence to resolve inner conflicts, the desire to avoid
resolution will be honoured unless we state to our guide that even though we might be afraid, we
really do want to deal with the past and change the pattern
Spiritual effects: Unable or unwilling to start or finish projects. Risk of becoming a victim of nagging.
Avoidance can create co-dependency between the one avoiding and the one nagging
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Physical effects: Hoarding, sensory problems or failure (hearing, seeing, memory, etc.). Sometimes we
can want so badly to avoid doing something that we wish for illness to escape our duties without
blame. The long-term result of such a wish can be chronic ailments or even hypochondria
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn what we are trying to create by avoiding actions and decisions.
Visit WikiHow and Practice making decisions
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Basic spiritual needs
In addition to certain basic living requirements, humans also have basic spiritual needs, which, if unmet
or purposely withheld, can cause negative behavioural patterns to develop. These in turn can lead to
injury-causing accidents and chronic disease. Some of those spiritual needs: compassion,
encouragement, forgiveness, kindness, leadership, patience, privacy, respect, understanding
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Belief system
We often make blanket statements to ourselves that reflect how we feel about self or the world in
which we live. They can result from our caregivers’ reactions to our early childhood experiences, or
from our caregivers’ explanations as to why they happened, or from trying to figure things out on our
own. We repeat our beliefs whenever there is a similar experience in later life, to justify our choices or
actions. They are most often founded not in truth but in biased or egocentric opinions:
o “I caused my parents to divorce because I was a bad child”
Repeated whenever we are about to succeed. Can result from a lack of communication from our
caregivers about important life events over which we as children had no control. Can create a fear
of abandonment, low or unstable self-esteem, unresolved grief
o “No one ever believes me or takes me seriously”
Repeated just before we are about to speak. Can result from authority figures repeatedly ignoring
us or saying we are silly or ridiculous. Can create chronic confusion. Prevents us from taking part
in meaningful discussions, and from speaking our truth
o “God hates me”
We tell ourselves this if we observe that no one except us seems to have bad luck, or have
failures, or experience traumatic events. Can result from our caregivers repeatedly failing to
prevent us from coming to harm. Creates distrust and prevents true joy
Learn more
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Blame (thought, attitude, emotion)
Blaming others
Thought pattern that prevents us from looking for the Truth about our part in our own misfortune and
contributes to the patterns of denial, guilt tripping, and feeling like a victim
Sounds like: You made me fail. You hurt me. It is your fault. It is their fault. It is not my fault.
Spiritual effects: Unable or unwilling to accept responsibility for less than positive results. See
perfectionism
Physical effects: Habitual blame contributes to Alzheimer’s disease, arthritis, eye and vision issues,
heartburn/indigestion, high blood pressure, kidney problems, thyroid problems, dental issues

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Change the pattern: Meditate to learn whose approval we are trying to gain by pretending to be
innocent of faults
Blaming self
Thought pattern that prevents us from looking for the Truth about others’ role in our painful life
experiences and prevents us from giving ourselves permission to live well
Sounds like: I brought this (painful experience) on myself. I let this happen. I do not deserve to be
treated well
Spiritual effects: Unable or unwilling to accept that others are responsible for their choices, constant
apologizing, feeling like a victim
Physical effects: Habitual self-blame contributes to anemia, arthritis, depression, eye and vision issues,
low blood pressure, hypochondria, sinus issues, poor posture, thyroid problems, dental issues
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn whose approval we are trying to gain by pretending to be
responsible for everything bad in our lives
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Bullying (thought, attitude, behaviour)
Using any force necessary to impose our will on another, especially one who seems likely to be easy
prey. In children, can result from the child's frustration with living in a dysfunctional family unit where
there is ongoing, yet unpredictable, physical and/or emotional abuse. In adults, can be continuation of
a childhood pattern that we feel fully justified in continuing
Spiritual effects: Chronic anger, arrogance
Change the pattern: Do the Grieving, Self-esteem and How to stop sniping exercises, and visit WikiHow
to learn how to stop bullying, how to stop being a bully, and how to be assertive, rather than
aggressive
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Child abuse (thought, behaviour)
Depriving a child of basic physical or spiritual necessities of life or withholding them as a punishment:
love, approval, attention, affection, privacy, emotional support, physical food, sleep, safe environment
to name only a few. Child abuse can occur when a caregiver treats a child in a negative way in order to
win the approval of another authority, whether it is a person or a thing (like a book). Child abuse and
neglect are seen as a failure of the caregivers to provide both physical nurturing and emotional support
for those who have been placed in their care. It is the caregiver's responsibility to find ways to teach
the child without being abusive. Some victims of child abuse never recover and develop addictions or
turn to crime, never finding peace
Looks like: Inflicting physical or emotional pain on a child, whether as punishment for a wrong-doing or
to teach discipline
Spiritual effects: Habitual self-condemnation, low or unstable self-esteem, chronic confusion, living in
chaos, potentially life-long emotional and spiritual pain
Physical effects: If you were a victim of child abuse, long-term effects can range from chronic pain to
various chronic diseases. See PTSD, visit Section 2. Watch "How childhood trauma affects health across
a lifetime", a TED Talks presentation by Dr. Nadine Burke-Harris

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Change the pattern: Meditate to see the truth that we are not responsible for how our caregivers
raised us; then begin to see self as a child of the Universal Intelligence rather than our caregivers' child
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Co-dependent relationship (thought, behaviour)
There are four main types of relationships, existing on a sliding scale: Dependent, Independent, Co-
dependent and Inter-dependent. We aim for inter-dependent. This is a relationship in which both
parties are content on their own and fairly confident within themselves. They are able to give help
when it is needed, and to accept help when it is needed. They appreciate that it can be beneficial to
have a companion, but one is not necessary in order to live a worthy or successful life. Of course,
almost any human relationship can become co-dependent. It stops being healthy or supportive when it
starts preventing independent thought and action, and shows a lack of trust either of self or for the
other person in the relationship
Spiritual effects: Extreme distress at the thought of losing the other person. Fear of abandonment;
jealousy; belief that the person is our soul mate and without them we cannot / will not survive, or that
without them, our identity will be lost. Unable or unwilling to be self-sufficient
Physical effects: Unable or unwilling to be out of communication with the other person; unable to
independently make decisions, appointments or fend for self; obsessive/compulsive need to share
literally everything with the other (clothing, food, experiences, secrets, etc.)
Change the pattern: Meditate to find the root cause of the need to be in co-dependent relationship(s).
Visit WikiHow and learn how to recognize co-dependent relationships
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Cognitive dissonance
Unable or unwilling to see that while we are quick to excuse our poor choices and self-destructive
behaviours, we tend not to allow others the same consideration. We know that overindulgence can be
harmful to our health, yet we cannot seem to make the connection between our negative thoughts
and our behaviours. See addiction, denial, hypocrisy, lying, self-esteem

Sounds like: I want to lose weight but... I know I shouldn’t smoke but... I know using alcohol and drugs
can harm my health but... I know I should do my homework but... I know my mate is abusive but...
Change the pattern: Meditate to find the root cause of the need to punish self
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Compassion (thought, attitude, emotion)
Haiku 5-7-5: Compassion

Feeling of deep concern and caring for those in pain or in need.

Wanting compassion from others yet withholding it from them or
withholding it from ourselves, is a pattern that harms us all, and keeps
us trapped in the cycle of karma and reincarnation on Planet Earth

Build the trait: Whenever you make a mistake - and before

condemning yourself - remember that we are all souls in human form,
sometimes doing well and sometimes doing poorly. Look at yourself in
a kinder light; give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Before long it will

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Complacency (thought, attitude)
Attitude that says, “I have this figured out. It’s easy.” This state of mind puts us on automatic pilot and
prevents us from being present, in the moment. It also prevents us from paying attention to our
thoughts, which places us at risk of accidents and injury
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Condemnation (thought, attitude, emotion)
Declaring a punishment for someone we have found guilty of something. Indicates that judgment and
criticism have taken place. See resentment, revenge
Sounds like: You are not as good as me (judgment and criticism), so you deserve to suffer
(condemnation); You’re so stupid (judgment and criticism), no wonder no one cares what you think
(condemnation); You’re too fat/too thin / the wrong colour / the wrong religion / the wrong sexual
orientation etc. (judgment and criticism) so you deserve to be treated poorly / ridiculed / punished
(condemnation)
Looks like: Rolling our eyes or looking down our nose at someone. See scorn
Spiritual effects: Difficulty showing appreciation or allowing others to receive recognition or praise
Physical effects: Chronic condemnation can result in lots of arthritis, choking, multiple sclerosis and
other neuro-musculo-skeletal disorders. It can also set up a fear of success that causes us to
unconsciously over- or underperform
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn why our self-esteem failed. Profound self-acceptance and
tolerance can be gained from learning that we are all just human, at varying stages of soul
development, with strengths and weaknesses, sometimes doing well and sometimes poorly. Do the
Self-esteem exercise
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Confirmation bias (thought, attitude)
Tendency to seek and interpret information that confirms our existing beliefs and excuses us from
changing harmful, negative behaviours. The pattern contributes to the development of chronic disease
and also inhibits spiritual growth. See echo chamber
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Contempt (thought, attitude)
Tendency to consider others or self unworthy of respect, patience, tolerance or compassion. The
pattern can prevent finding inner peace or contentment. Shows that judgment, criticism, and
condemnation have taken place. Occurs along with arrogance and scorn
Sounds like: You are not even worth the time it would take to explain
Spiritual effects: Unable or unwilling to acknowledge the efforts of others
Physical effects: Ear, eye, nose and/or throat issues, knee problems, neck issues
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn why our self-esteem failed. Profound self-acceptance can be
gained, based in the recognition that we are all just human, at varying stages of soul development,
with strengths and weaknesses, sometimes doing well and sometimes poorly
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Control (thought, attitude, behaviour)
Exercising our will over another, no matter how pure or impure the intention or the motivation.
Examples of control:
o Asking God for favours for someone else - after all - they might not want or need what we think
they want or need, even including healing (some people want to be sick - for them, their illness
meets some need)
o Forcing our help upon another when it has not been invited
o In disagreements, bringing up the past as a way to gain control (see memory)
o Adoptive parents can use guilt trips as a means of maintaining control over their charges, whether
child or adult. For example, "If not for us, you would be an orphan."
o Assuming that we know what another person is thinking
o Pretending that we know everything. Includes lying and saying we already know something that
was just told to us, when we do not
o Practical jokes are a form of control - it is just not funny to ridicule someone for not knowing what
we know
o Stealing someone's attention, no matter the motive, or a chronic need for validation from others.
See ADD / ADHD, self-esteem
o We allow ourselves to be controlled when we do what someone has told us to do even if we do
not want to do it. See blame, victim
Sounds like: Let me do it (perfectionism). Call me when you get home so I don't have to worry. You
should...
Spiritual effects: Not letting others have their way or do things their way can make them want to avoid
doing things with us (risk of becoming known as a ‘control freak’)
Physical effects: Bullying, nerve damage, high cholesterol, ALS, Parkinson's disease, multiple sclerosis,
fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the source of our need to be in charge. Before telling someone
else what to do, think how it feels when someone tells us what to do or how to do it
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Criticism (thought, attitude)
Giving an unkind comment about self or another, whether spoken aloud or not, whether invited or not.
Can be an offshoot of low self-esteem and/or perfectionism. We are often most critical of ourselves,
and some people use this to justify their harsh criticism of others
Looks like: Always looking to catch someone in a mistake
Spiritual effects: Chronic unhappiness and begrudgingly giving praise or positive feedback
Physical effects: Skin disorders, joint problems and autoimmune diseases
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the source of needing to make self or others feel inferior
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Defiance (thought, attitude)
Stems from unresolved issues with an authority figure. See silent rebellion
Looks like: Open resistance to agreeing with anyone, about anything, ever. Refusal to admire anything
that mainstream society appreciates. Argumentative just for the sake of being antagonistic
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the reason for wanting to prove everyone wrong
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Déjà vu (thought, emotion)
This experience is a bridge between physical reality and thought. It is given by our guide to let us know
that we are in the right place at the right time, and that everything is on track. Can also indicate that a
lesson is about to be presented, so pay attention to whatever is going on around you. Meditate to
practice hearing your thoughts
Real-time déjà vu
Seeing an image or hearing a phrase in our thoughts, that then occurs almost immediately in real time.
Could be a mental video clip of something, or seeing someone’s face, or hearing a song title or lyrics.
Meditate to practice hearing your thoughts
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Denial (thought, behaviour)
Denial prevents us from accepting responsibility for our words and deeds and creates a need to blame
any misfortune on anyone or anything else. Denial and avoidance go hand-in-hand
Sounds like: No. You're wrong. I would never say/think/do anything like that
Looks like: Unable or unwilling to face the Truth about self, our prior actions, painful experiences, or
our negative thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs or desires
Spiritual effects: Seeming to be beyond reproach can create stubborn self-righteousness
Physical effects: Addictions, back problems, co-dependent relationships, chronic confusion and
memory lapses (ultimately dementia or Alzheimer’s disease), ear and hearing issues, eye and vision
issues, irritable bowel syndrome
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the source of our need to make others feel that our motives are
beyond reproach, or that we have never had, or caused, a negative experience
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Despair (thought, emotion)
Feeling defeated and hopeless, and unable to admit that we are angry and frustrated over
circumstances that may be beyond our control. See victim
Sounds like: What's the point. Nothing i do will make any difference at all. I give up.
Spiritual effects: Able to feel only a narrow range of emotions. See distress, worry
Physical effects: Abdominal pain, addictions, digestion, skin or sleep disorders, obsessive/compulsive
behaviours
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the source of the underlying reason for feeling powerless
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Distress (thought, emotion)
Severe physical, emotional or spiritual discomfort, coupled with a feeling that something needs to be
done, but not knowing what it is or how to do it. Long-term distress can become anxiety, dread and
worry
Sounds like: I just know something horrible is going to happen
Spiritual effects: Inability to relax or feel comfortable
Physical effects: Abdominal pain, digestion issues, skin or sleep disorders, obsessive/compulsive
behaviours, headaches and/or inability to concentrate
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the source of the underlying fear
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Distrust (thought, attitude, emotion)
Lack of faith or confidence, in self, in others, in God. There is a fine line between trust and distrust. Too
much trust in others' goodwill can lead to disappointment and disillusionment. We can even place
ourselves in harm's way if relying too much on the goodness of others. Chronic distrust can isolate us,
prevent us from being able to work together toward a common goal, and lead to feeling persecuted.
Distrust can come from a blanket condemnation of humanity
Sounds like: I just know I’ll be the one to get hurt. Everyone is out for number one
Spiritual effects: Unsatisfying relationships, prejudice and/or contempt, legacy resentment, paranoia,
the need to blame others for any misfortune, jealousy, feeling like a victim, phobias
Physical effects: Can result in severe allergic reactions, hoarding
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the source of the desire to live in fear and isolation
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Double standard (thought, attitude)
Form of condemnation that punishes one person or group for a certain behaviour but allows or
rewards it for another, due to having judged the former as being less worthy than the latter
Spiritual effects: Arrogance, blame, hypocrisy, self-righteousness
Physical effects: Severe allergic reactions, dizziness/vertigo, fibromyalgia, upper respiratory infections
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn humility
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Dread (thought, emotion)
Fear that our life and everything that happens to us will be negative and painful. Can result from
suffering a prior incarnation trauma
Spiritual effects: Anxiety, distress, chronic pessimism, phobias, procrastination, worry
Physical effects: Dizziness, knee or leg problems, chronic lateness, nausea and/or vomiting, post-nasal
drip
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn that life is a learning opportunity rather than something to be
feared or avoided
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Echo chamber (thought, attitude)
We can be said to be living in a self-imposed spiritual echo chamber, if we instantly dismiss ideas about
spirituality that disagree with our own. How can we grow spiritually stronger, wiser, if we refuse to
look at new information?
Spiritual effects: Arrogance, defiance, fear, self-righteousness
Physical effects: Arthritis and rheumatoid arthritis, ear and hearing issues, eye and vision issues, leg /
foot / gait issues, neck problems, spinal column issues
Change the pattern: Decide to at least consider new options or viewpoints
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Ego (thought, attitude)
Sense of self. Overactive ego says, “It is always about Me”. Excessive thoughts of self-praise (pride) can
become self-importance or perfectionism
Sounds like: Excessive statement making or a lack of question asking. Can be thoughts like: I am so
good that everybody needs me; I am indispensable because only I know what is best. Can also be the
opposite attitude: I am so bad that nobody wants me or cares about me; I am useless and I will never
amount to anything
Spiritual effects: Lack of meaningful relationships
Physical effects: Bi-polar disorder, bloating
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the reason for believing that we are superior or inferior and
gradually find that the belief is not correct. This can enable a profound level of self-acceptance based
in the recognition that we are all just human, with strengths and weaknesses, sometimes doing well
and sometimes doing poorly
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Embarrassment (thought, emotion)
Uncomfortable feeling that we just got caught doing something wrong
Sounds like: I hurt someone and they will never forget it, so I can never forgive myself. I made a
mistake and got caught, and others will think I am stupid or bad. See shame
Spiritual effects: If chronic, can create a cycle of ever decreasing self-esteem
Physical effects: Acne, rosacea, rash, slouching
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the reason for believing it is not ok to err. Do the Forgiveness
exercises
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Envy (thought, attitude, emotion)
Feelings of unhappiness/discontent that come because someone has something we want, whether
friends, possessions, personal attributes or even just good luck. Can easily become resentment. Stems
from low or unstable self-esteem and a lack of self-worth
Sounds like: I wish I had your ...
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Physical effects: Liver diseases, breast or pancreatic cancer, digestive disorders, hoarding
Change the pattern: Meditate and do the self-esteem exercise, visit WikiHow and learn how to deal
with envy
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Evil (thought, attitude, emotion, behavi our)
Evil is not an entity or a force, and it does not make us do, or not do, anything (see Is there any such
thing as the devil?). Evil is a short way to describe our cruel, mean, nasty thoughts, words and deeds
that spring from our unresolved issues and traumas
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Faith (thought, attitude)
Deep sense of knowing that we are loved unconditionally by, and connected with, our Creator. Such
faith enables our core belief systems to be based on a firm foundation of self-worth. It informs us that
our earthly parents are simply the vehicle by which we enter life in human form; that we are children
of the universe always. Lack of such faith prevents us from fully accessing the creative forces that are
our spiritual heritage. Faith is a key component of trust
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Fake news (thought, behaviour)
What is fake news and why does it work?
Fake news is a form of gossip and a form of lying. Fake news starts as an act of malice against a
competitor or opponent, in an attempt to win others to our side. It is sneaky, underhanded and
cowardly, but it works. Why? Well, we just love to think the worst of someone who appears to be
doing better than us (envy, jealousy), and listening to gossip makes us feel as though someone is
sharing their secret, insider knowledge with us. Our gullibility makes us very easy to manipulate. Those
who spread hate know this, and use us to serve their purposes.
On the internet
We see gossip all the time on the internet, and most especially on social media platforms. Every day
there are fake news stories, so-called friendly warnings of various dangers or of what to do or what not
to do, and of course the inevitable “suggested” posts to read (i.e., paid advertisements). These are all
growing in number and frequency, because they work! If only we could ignore them and not click on
them, we could all help reduce this mass manipulation of our time, energy and talents.
Check the facts
Before clicking on, forwarding or sharing posts, check them for yourself at Snopes, Politifact or FullFact
(for the UK). If it is true, then it is not fake news. Just remember to verify the story for yourself. Sharing
a story or post that someone else verified is pointless, because we have no way to know for sure
whether they really did. If the information cannot be verified, then do not share it
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Fear (thought, emotion)
Intense feeling that something bad is going to happen. Fear can be our ally by alerting us to potential
danger, but all too often we allow it to prevent us from doing what we need to do to move forward in
life. If we allow our fears to immobilize us, we cannot walk our life's path with faith, trust and joy. Like
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Fear is often used as an excuse for not looking at our inner pain, for example, "I am afraid that if I start
crying, I will never stop."
Fear of God's wrath is pervasive in society and we often go to extremes to avoid it, either by
performing rituals or by avoiding doing certain things.
Fear reaches its tentacles into every cell of our being. It prevents us from making wise life choices and
from taking positive action in our lives, making us feel like powerless victims.
Sounds like: Gasp! I could never ... Gasp! What if ... (fill in the blank)?
Spiritual effects: Can become anxiety or dread, habitual avoidance of anything that we cannot control,
obsessive/compulsive disorder, phobias
Physical effects: Fear can affect all of our bodily functions and systems including:
bladder | blood | bones | brain | gait | gonads | heart | joints | kidneys | liver | lungs | muscles |
pancreas | skin | teeth
Contributes to accident proneness, allergic reactions, back pain, obsessive/compulsive behaviours,
sciatica
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn our fear triggers, and that we create our own reality. Check out
WikiHow's How to overcome fear
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Fear of abandonment (thought, emotion, belief)
Belief that we will be left alone and unsupported as a punishment for causing someone’s displeasure.
This fear can create a need to be dishonest about what we think and feel, and can make it very difficult
to form mutually satisfying relationships.
People with this fear will seem very nasty, or very sweet and meek. Seeming to be nasty keeps them in
control of their relationships. "If I am mean enough, nobody will want to have anything to do with me
and then there will be no danger of them leaving me" - or - "I will make you leave me so that I am not
surprised when you do" (see abandonment, reverse abandonment). Those who seem to be meek and
mild often apologize for every little thing, even if they are not responsible for it. They find it difficult to
express their thoughts, their true opinions or strong emotions. They loathe confrontation of any sort,
try to make themselves indispensable to others. They are prime candidates to develop co-dependent
relationships
Spiritual effects: Low or unstable self-esteem
Physical effects: Lower back pain, sciatica
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn that we are never really alone; our guide is with us always
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Fear of change (thought, emotion)
Feeling that if anything changes in any way, we will lose something that is important to us. Can result
from growing up in an extremely controlled or extremely chaotic environment. The challenge is to
accept that change is an inevitable part of life, so we need to develop positive coping skills
Change the pattern: See status quo bias. Visit WikiHow and learn How to deal with change
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Fear of commitment (thought, emotion)
Intense feeling that entering into any sort of arrangement or agreement with someone is an act of
weakness and a surrender of power and control. People with this fear may agree to a commitment yet
have no intention at all of meeting it. The pattern contributes greatly to feelings of guilt and/or shame.
See distrust, passive/aggressive disorder
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Fear of confrontation (thought, emotion)
This fear prevents us from speaking out if we feel we have been treated unjustly. It stems from a fear
of abandonment, and a fear of losing someone's approval. Can be a fear that the other person will
explode (or implode) in anger and the consequences will be unbearable. The fear of an angry outburst
is often used as an excuse for not standing up for ourselves or for those who are in our care. This fear
can make it painful to observe others arguing. See victim
Change the pattern: Visit WikiHow and learn How to be assertive instead of meek or weak
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Fear of contamination and/or disease (thought, emotion, belief)
Belief that coming into contact with certain things will create disease; for example, germs, insects,
animals, other people, sunshine, cell phones, microwave ovens, etc. Belief that we are victims of the
environment, or belief that we are "bad" and will be punished with disease.
Spiritual effects: Albeit unwittingly, young children can develop allergies to mimic their caregiver’s
fear(s), or to reflect spiritual imbalances within the family. See anxiety, blame, hypochondria, worry
Physical effects: Allergic reactions, obsessive/compulsive behaviours
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the original cause of the pattern. See phobias
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Fear of death and dying (thought, emotion)
It might sound ghoulish, but it’s true: as someone once said, “If you’re born, you have a 1 in 1 chance
of dying.” We may not know the timing or circumstances of our passing, but it's going to happen.
Without faith that we will return to Source when we die, we can live with suppressed dread (see fear
of retribution). A belief in "hell" can create a deep terror of the afterlife. Coupled with our fear of the
pain and discomfort that may be present when one is very ill or close to death, we can live in a state of
avoidance of life, rather than acceptance of all that life has to offer. Wishing for those who have
harmed us to be sent to hell is a form of control and revenge, because in effect, we are telling God to
condemn them. We might also fear for the fate of our loved ones, thinking they will be unable to
manage without us
Physical effects: Accident proneness, allergic reactions
Spiritual effects: Hypochondria, obsessive/compulsive behaviours, phobias, somatic symptom
disorder, worry
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the original cause of the fear and come to peace with the
nature of the material world
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Fear of failure or of success (thought, emotion)
Pattern that can prevent us from finishing projects. It may seem that we are lazy, but laziness is not the
issue. Fear of completing a task is the driving force. Fear of failure can stem from experiencing
extremely negative consequences for failures in childhood, while the fear of achieving success may
make us feel that the people who did nothing to help us may take the credit (see spite). May also be a
reluctance to outshine a sibling
Spiritual effects: Avoidance, obsessive/compulsive behaviours
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the origin of the pattern and the reason(s) for holding onto it
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Fear of intimacy (thought, emotion)
Can be a fear of having an intimate or sexual relationship, but can also be a fear of expressing self fully
and honestly. Can come from embarrassment or shame over our physical appearance or our innermost
thoughts
Spiritual effects: Fear of abandonment
Physical effects: Mouth, teeth and gum problems, lying, issues with gonads, penis, uterus, vagina
Change the pattern: Do the self-esteem exercise
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Fear of invasion (thought, emotion)
Can take many forms: extreme concern that: someone with ulterior motives will enter our space
without permission; everyone intends to steal our personal information and use it to harm us; our
body has been invaded by as-yet-undetected injury or illness; UFO's are real and they have malicious
goals and/or intentions for us; or our personal electronic equipment (computer, phone, etc.) is infected
with malware that cannot be detected
Spiritual effects: Unable or unwilling to fully relax or trust
Physical effects: Hypochondria, hyper vigilance, knee problems, mid-back pain, self-importance
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn how to gain a centred space of peace and calm. Do as the
Russian proverb says, "Trust, but verify"
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Fear of looking stupid (thought, attitu de, emotion)
Crippling belief that anything new presents a risk that we will fail and others will judge us, and we will
lose their approval
Spiritual effects: Unable to get or stay centred if challenged to try something new, distrust of our
ability to learn (see ADD / ADHD), chronic shame
Change the pattern: Acknowledge to self that no one person knows every single thing; we all have
strengths and weaknesses, and challenges to overcome. Accept that it is impossible to know how to do
a thing if we have not yet been taught how to do it. There is no shame in not knowing. Trust the
process and above all, trust self. Additionally, learn how to do whatever it is that we fear doing, or at
least have enough faith to trust that no matter what happens, we will be ok - we can deal with it.
Practice, because after all, practice makes progress
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Fear of negative energies (thought, attitude, emotion)
Deep concern that our failure to live up to religious expectations risks harm from negative energies
over which we have no control, like the devil
Physical effects: Accident proneness, allergic reactions, insomnia, severe constant negative life
experiences that make us blame and feel like a victim
Change the pattern: Practice meditation to attain a centred space of peace and calm, and then learn
that the Universal Intelligence is unconditional love
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Fear of retribution (thought, emotion)
Chronic concern that someone is going to punish us, and especially believing that God is making us or
our loved ones suffer because of something we have done or not done
Spiritual effects: Unable to allow others to be responsible for their actions, fear of death/dying
Physical effects: Obsessive/compulsive behaviours, unable or unwilling to act or make decisions
Change the pattern: Practice meditation to attain a centred space of peace and calm. Read about
unconditional love to see that the Universal Intelligence does not act out of judgment, criticism, or
condemnation
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Fear of telling the truth (thought , emotion)
Terror at the thought of being harshly judged. Often occurs when our early caregivers withheld their
approval from us. See pathological lying, fear of abandonment
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Fear of the unknown (thought, emotion)
Without faith that we are children of God, our path can be filled with constant doubt, distrust or
anxiety, of encountering anything we have not yet experienced. See asthma
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Feedback loop (thought, behaviour)
Thought pattern created by knowing that we have an unresolved issue, but feeling powerless to
change it and obsessively repeating "I wish (fill in the blank) was different. I could change it by doing
(fill in the blank) but I can't because (fill in the blank)." See status quo bias, victim
Effects: Repeatedly suffering the same emotional or physical injury
Change the pattern: Instead of saying “I can’t change it because …” say “I must change it because …”
Start by doing the Grieving and Forgiveness exercises. Then make a plan that will enable the change,
and do whatever is needed to free yourself
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Finally (thought, attitude)
This is a word of blame and condemnation, whether directed toward self, another human, events or
the Universal Intelligence
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Flat tire (experience)
Whether a motorized vehicle or any air-filled tire, this experience can occur within two or three days of
suffering a crushing disappointment. Reacting with anger, temper tantrums, feeling like a victim, or
believing that God must hate me (fear of retribution), makes this is an opportunity to start practicing a
new way to respond to life’s difficulties
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Forbearance (thought, attitude, behaviour)
Ability to stay true to our commitments no matter what others are saying or doing. Those who have
managed to get out of co-dependent relationships know the challenges of making changes when
others try to keep us tied into their “stuff”, but they also know that forbearance grows as our self-
confidence and self-esteem grow
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Forgiveness (thought, attitude, emotion, behaviour)
Forgiveness means not resenting those who have angered, harmed or failed us in some way; but
rather, seeking understanding before jumping to conclusions.
Knowing why something happened, or why someone has done or not done something can make it
easier to forgive, but it is possible to forgive without that information. Allowing for the possibility that
we do not yet understand can enable us to let go of injuries more easily.
It may not seem like much, but forgiveness is actually the first step in healing and in chronic disease
prevention. So how does that work? Holding onto old hurts is like putting them into a mental vault for
safe-keeping. Every now and then we open the vault and review them, just to refresh our pain. We
quickly lock our memories away again, for fear of losing them and placing ourselves at risk of being re-
injured. Forgiveness takes our memories out of the vault as we seek to gain understanding about the
traumatic events we have experienced. Gaining understanding enables the memories to be recalled -
and even shared - without re-inflicting emotional anguish.
Build the trait: Do the Forgiveness exercises, and read more about forgiveness. See Why do we get sick
/ suffer injuries / have accidents?
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Free will
Haiku 5-7-5: Sea change
Spiritual law that gives us the ability to choose,
both our beliefs and our attitude toward life. Free
will ensures that we experience the outcomes of
our choices.

Read more

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Gossip (thought, attitude, behaviour)
We use gossip to share our negative opinion of, or to make up lies about, a person or group who has
offended us so as to negatively affect others' opinions of them, and to make ourselves look better. We
participate in gossip when we spread, listen to, watch or read negative stories about others. See
control, fake news, judgment, criticism, condemnation, manipulation, perfectionism, revenge, reverse
abandonment, self-righteous, seeking understanding
Spiritual effects: Difficulty in building or maintaining friendships, chronic envy and/or jealousy, low or
unstable self-esteem
Physical effects: Obesity/overweight, teeth / mouth / gum issues, upper respiratory infections, lots of
choking
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the reasons for our low self-esteem; then do the Self-esteem
exercise
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Grace (thought, attitude, behaviour)
Tendency to be generous, helpful and forgiving toward self and others (does not mean allowing
abusive behaviour). The Universal Intelligence and our guides hold humanity in a state of grace
(unconditional love). See What is karma?
Note: Karmic debt we owe to others (and self) is forgiven as we treat others (and self) with mercy and
grace rather than anger, greed, hatred, resentment or revenge. We can release karmic debt owed to us
by others in the same way.
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Gratitude (thought, attitude)
Gratitude is an attitude of thankfulness and/or appreciation. Placing too much emphasis on thanking
God for every little thing can sound as if we are trying to prove something. The Universal Intelligence
knows what we think before we even think it, so missing an opportunity to say thank you does not
mean that we are ungrateful. Saying grace before a meal is a fine practice, but if used as a protection
against the wrath of God, or as a way to appear pious, then gratitude is not the real motive.

Thanking God
Thanking God for loving us is a concept borne of a fear of divine punishment for taking things for
granted, for being ungrateful. The fear is that God will think we feel entitled, and that it is a short step
from there to hell. This sort of fear can stem from our caregivers requiring our gratitude for their
having provided us with the basic necessities of life. Are we supposed to thank them for choosing to
have children, and then for enabling us to stay alive?
We praise God when things go our way and assume that we must have done something right, but what
happens when things go wrong? Do we assume that God has judged us as unworthy, or that he is
punishing us, or that he likes our opponent or enemy more than he likes us?

Thanking everyone for everything

There is a lot of hype out there about the importance of feeling grateful and expressing our gratitude,
but it is getting so that we can feel pressured into saying thank you for every little thing. This goes
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and saying thank you merely because it is expected. Expressing our gratitude is not a protection against
having negative life experiences.
We often rush out to buy a thank you gift for the thank you gift that someone gave us. It is far better to
allow the giver the pleasure of having expressed their gratitude to us, and leave it at that.

Gratitude?
Someone at a place of work threw a surprise birthday party for the boss. The guest of honour had
specifically asked that there be no party, as he feels uncomfortable in such situations. At the party, the
hostess proudly announced that she had decided that the boss really did want a party after all and so
took it upon herself to organize it. She then waited for his expressions of thanks and gratitude and was
offended (really offended!) when he said, once again, that he had not wanted a party
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Greed (thought, attitude, behaviour)
Seemingly irresistible need to withhold our possessions from others, whether money, material items,
relationships, love, or even simply knowledge (like a family recipe), to manage the pain of emotional
wounds, or as a form of revenge. Can also be feeling fully justified in wanting more than we can
possibly use.
Forms of greed:
Haiku 5-7-5: Greed

o Unwilling to share our belongings yet expecting others to share

theirs. We judge, criticise, and condemn them when they fail to do so
- it is easy to see their greed yet not our own
o Demanding approval from others yet selfishly withholding ours
o I promised to give you this, and I know you really want it, but I
am not going to give it to you until I feel like it (maybe I will never
feel like it)
o I will just hang onto this in case I ever need it again
o I will keep the best part of this set, but you can have the rest
o Someone gives you a gift and then tells you how to use it
o Receiving a gift along with a guilt trip - sounds like: "Here is your gift, and this is what I had to
sacrifice to get it for you."
o Taking something only to prevent someone else from having it: "I do not want it, but you cannot
have it."
o Free gifts offered by corporations are not free if the giver requires anything from the recipient
(see self-aggrandizement). The cost may be in surrendering excess personal information rather
than money
Origin of the pattern: Receiving too little (or too much) of the things we most wanted as a child
Sounds like: “My needs are more important than anyone else’s.”
Spiritual effects: Constant need for more of everything, chronic craving for an unknown "something",
corruption of our motives
Physical effects: Eating disorders, cluttered lifestyle (hoarding, pet hoarding)

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Change the pattern: Meditate to learn and resolve the reasons for feeling deprived, ignored or
neglected
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Grief (thought, emotion)
Deep unreleased sadness over what we feel to be an undeserved
loss. Along with the sadness can be unrecognized thoughts and
feelings of great fear, anger or even resentment toward God for
robbing us of the dreams that we had. Losing a life partner can
create anger and resentment toward both God and the loved one,
because change was forced on us
Physical effects: Diabetes, osteoporosis
Change the pattern: Do the Grieving and Forgiveness exercises
Poem by: Alison Joy Sanders
“Little rain cloud
Remind me again
How it feels to let go.”
Photo by: L Shivvaan Photography and Whyalla City
Project: Raining Poetry in the Regions
Anticipatory grief
See dread
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Guide/Angel/Teacher
Divine representative accompanying us throughout our soul’s voyages, and often referred to as our
inner voice. They are subject to different spiritual laws than us, and do not enter human form. They are
not dead spirits; they are not our family members (or pets) who have passed away, although often
when we sense our guide’s presence there is a feeling of unconditional love. The guides are entities
who assist souls in human form, and they communicate directly with the Universal Intelligence.
The guides lead us to the required life experiences that will present the lessons necessary for our soul’s
progression, and to help us achieve spiritual self-awareness.
Guides other than our personal companion guide do work with us, but the spiritual laws applying to
them are different again - they are with us only on a temporary assignment basis. For example, the
Archangels will assist in extreme situations by offering their energy and their profound wisdom, but
they do not stay with us for our entire lifetime.
Resources
Learn to meditate and connect with your guide.
Check out Why don’t our guides keep us from coming to harm?
External link: Does everyone have an inner monologue? | Live Science
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Guilt (thought, attitude, emotion, behaviour)
Feeling responsible for not meeting expectations, no matter whose they are - or - Excessive remorse
for deeds either done or not done. Guilt requires punishment, so those with guilt over a past
experience often meet negative experiences in the present - not because God wants to punish us, but
because we expect, and maybe even desire, punishment. Since the Universal Intelligence is responsive,
our expectation manifests the negative experience.
Guilt is just as hurtful and damaging to us as any of the other negative thoughts, attitudes and
emotions. It can cause us much pain, and can cause us to behave in ways that are potentially harmful
to many.
Guilt, condemnation, blame and remorse are interwoven, and keep us stuck in the past. It is well to
remember always that we cannot change the past. We can only learn from it and use it to change the
present. We can never be sure what the future holds; we only live now, and only now can be affected
by our behaviour. See survivor’s guilt
Parents may take on guilt for their children's actions. This can help no one; the parent suffers and the
child fails to learn responsibility. See legacy guilt
Sounds like: Constantly apologizing or taking responsibility for anything that goes wrong
Change the pattern: Do the Forgiveness and Guilt-buster exercises
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Guilt trips (thought, behaviour)
People often lay guilt trips to manipulate and to get their own way, that is, to control others. As we
know, guilt can make us do a lot of things that we would not normally do. It is a powerful motivator
Sounds like: “It is your fault”, or “If you do not do what I ask, you are mean or selfish or you do not
love me”, “Remember how you hurt me when you…?”, or “A true friend would…” Statements like this
are intended to make people feel that they have lost our approval so that they will struggle to regain it,
usually by doing anything whatsoever that we ask
Change the pattern: Be honest, and ask for whatever it is that we want
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Hatred (thought, attitude, emotion)
Strong dislike of or feeling of hostility toward someone or something. See contempt
Spiritual effects: Responding with hatred shuts down any desire to seek understanding. Hatred creates
intolerance, self-aggrandizement and, believe it or not, shame. Why shame? Because deep down inside
we know that it is wrong to hate
Physical effects: Arthritis, eye and vision issues, heartburn/indigestion, liver diseases, sinus problems
Change the pattern: If we feel hatred toward someone, strive to learn the reasons for doing so. There
are plenty of people out there who behave horribly, so there will be lots of “growth opportunities”.
Remember: that which we dislike most about others is often within ourselves
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Honesty (thought, attitude)
Ability to confront Universal Truth - about self, about our experiences, about others. Without Universal
Truth, we are left searching futilely for a way to explain why we have certain experiences or why we
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have certain behaviours. If we are dishonest with others, we are more than likely to be dishonest with
ourselves. See belief systems, lying
Build the trait: Get used to the idea that the Universal Intelligence loves us unconditionally, even
though we are not perfect. Next, meditate on this idea: if we cannot be honest with ourselves, why
and how would the universe be able to provide answers based in Truth? How would we be able to tell
the difference between Truth and fantasy?
When asking questions of your guide, be clear on what you want to hear... do you want to hear the
Truth, or do you want to hear what you want to hear? Unwillingness to hear the Truth about ourselves
and our motives blocks the flow of information that can help us grow.
Example: A person suffers from hypochondria, but wants to believe that they are really physically sick
and in dire need of medical intervention. They may meditate to find the reasons for their many health
problems, but do not even consider the idea that they may be suffering from hypochondria. They are
unable or unwilling to be honest that they actually want: someone to focus on them completely, to
nurture them, and to generally look after them and their needs. They want to be told why, after all
they have done and sacrificed, they do not receive the recognition and gratitude they feel they
deserve. These hidden desires lead to a feedback loop of anger and resentment that forces them to
continually seek validation, and this manifests in physical as their various medical symptoms.
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Humility (thought, attitude)
Humility allows us to accept that:
o We are all children of our Creator
o We are all in differing stages of development
o We are all capable of ANYTHING, given the proper circumstances
o We are all subject to the spiritual and physical laws in effect during our earthly sojourns
o We are all worthy to receive compassion, grace and mercy, even if we think we or others are not
o We are not in charge of everything
Build the trait: The challenge in learning humility is to practice paying attention to our thoughts not
only when others make a mistake, but when we make a mistake. If we do not treat both ourselves and
others with equal respect, we have not yet learned humility.
Treat others as you would like to be treated: Humility enables us to treat others with mercy and
grace, and also to accept mercy and grace when we ourselves need it
Not just ‘Murphy’s law: If we judge, criticise, and condemn others for any reason, we will soon be
given the opportunity to see how we treat ourselves under similar circumstances. This is not just
Murphy’s law - this is karma in live, real-time action
Make a mistake and observe how you react: Next time you make a mistake, and there will be a next
time, pay close attention to your thoughts. You might find yourself quickly and self-righteously
excusing yourself by blaming someone or something beyond your control. Humility strives to accept
that it is not easy for anyone to always get everything right. If we do not grasp this lesson, rest assured
that it will repeat
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Hyper vigilance (thought, attitude)
Those with this pattern have become a victim of their own fears, believing that they are in ever-
present danger. See fear of invasion
Spiritual effects: Chronic anxiety, unable or unwilling to trust or relax, to ever feel good enough, or to
set aside dread or fear. Victims of abuse may (unconsciously) monitor their spoken words to remove
any hint of independent thought or criticism of another so as to avoid punishment
Physical effects: Chronic shallow breathing, inability to concentrate, impaired ability to learn
Change the pattern: Practice meditation and visit Wikihow to Learn to breathe better
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Hypocrisy (thought, attitude)
Holding higher moral standards for others than for self. Hypocrites love to point the finger at authority
figures who lie, cheat, manipulate or abuse their power, yet happily excuse themselves. Until we
change our own lying, cheating, manipulation and abuse of power, our leaders will continue to do the
same
Spiritual effects: Arrogance, lots of blaming, judgment, criticism, condemnation, feeling like a victim,
self-righteousness
Physical effects: Severe allergic reactions, chronic flatulence and/or sinusitis
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn that we must not hold higher expectations for others than
ourselves
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Ignorance (thought, attitude)
Free will choice to believe that we already know so we require no further understanding. Spiritual
ignorance can cripple us and lead us to believe that there is only one place to learn about God, or that
God no longer communicates with his children in human form. This can leave us relying on others’
version of Truth
Spiritual effects: Prejudice, contempt, hatred
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn that the Universal Intelligence brought all life into existence - to
condemn self or another is to condemn Source
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Inner conflict (thought)
An inner conflict results when we believe information that disagrees with that which we know or fear
to be true. The beliefs may have come from our parents or other authority figures, or we may have
developed them on our own without input from anyone else. Either way though, there is likely to be
unresolved anger. Defiant behaviour can result, with often devastating consequences.
Example: A child suffers abuse by a sibling. The child tells their caregiver that the sibling "hates me" but
the caregiver says, "Don't be ridiculous. Your sibling loves you." The child knows this to be false, yet
feels compelled to believe the caregiver. An inner conflict results, along with a belief system that says
"love hurts" and/or "My feelings are ridiculous". The child grows up craving loving relationships yet
continually finds self in unhealthy relationships
Spiritual effects: Co-dependent relationships, low/unstable self-esteem, always distrusting self
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Physical effects: Addictions, chronic diseases, obsessive/compulsive behaviours
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn Universal Truth about core belief systems and see Resolve inner
conflicts
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Insolence (thought, attitude)
Belief that we know what is best while our authority figures are fools who do not have a clue. Can
come from having received too little or too much attention from caregivers when growing up. The
insolent person often suffers from a lack of self-worth, which contributes greatly to their need to be in
control of everything. They may use temper tantrums to get their way. See misanthropy
Sounds like: "I am smarter/better than everyone else", "Everyone should do whatever I want", "I can
do whatever I want", “I don't have to do what anyone else says."
Spiritual effects: Arrogance, lack of respect for self and others
Physical effects: Bullying, eating disorders, intermittent explosive disorder, nose or sinus issues
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn that the Universal Intelligence brought all life into existence - to
condemn self or another is to condemn Source
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Isolation (thought, behaviour)
Pattern of withholding communication as a punishment, without consideration for, or explanation to,
others. While it is meant to punish self, it also hurts others (side benefit!). We hope they will see how
much we are hurting and step in to soothe us. Can cripple our ability to have healthy relationships
The pattern says that we must avoid contact with anyone who has angered or hurt us or whose
approval we think we have lost, including our guide
Spiritual effects: Abandonment, cold shoulder, depression, rejection, always waiting to be a victim
again, lots of pity parties
Physical effects: Addictions, obsessive/compulsive behaviours, post-nasal drip, shingles, varicose veins
Change the pattern: Meditate to find the spiritual component of the behaviour. Do not allow self to
give up on communicating
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Jealousy (thought, attitude, emotion)
Deep fear of losing someone’s approval, attention or affection. Can come from low or unstable self-
esteem, a fear of abandonment and/or an inability to trust. Can begin in childhood from too little or
too much attention from our caregivers
Sounds like: You are mine so you can never have any other relationships or interests
Spiritual effects: Co-dependent or wrecked relationships, resentment. Contributes to our love of fake
news and gossip
Physical effects: Liver disease, some forms of cancer (breast, stomach, pancreatic), digestion issues,
hoarding
Change the pattern: Do the meditation and self-esteem exercises, and visit Wikihow for How to
overcome jealousy
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Joy (emotion)
Haiku 5-7-5: Joy

Feelings of pleasure and delight that arise from within,

especially when we have given unselfish service to another.
Can also come when we are doing something about which
we care deeply. Physically, joy can feel like a bubble in your
throat that almost tickles as it rises upward, and might
make you want to laugh out loud with delight
Haiku 5-7-5: No joy

No joy
We tell ourselves that an act of revenge will bring joy, but
any act that harms another cannot bring true joy. Joy is
often a casualty of stifling our strong emotions like anger
and fear
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Judgment (thought, attitude)
Forming negative or positive opinions, sometimes after consideration, sometimes instantly. Improve
the pattern by not assuming that we know others' motives
Spiritual effects: Prejudice, intolerance, hatred. Contributes to our love of fake news and gossip
Physical effects: All forms of arthritis, eye and vision issues, heartburn/indigestion, high blood pressure
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn that judgment leads to other negative thought patterns like
condemnation, contempt, control, criticism
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Manipulation (thought, attitude, behaviour)
Pattern of using negative behaviour to get others do what we want because they might say no if we
just ask. See control
One of the biggest issues facing humanity is our seeming inability to stop allowing ourselves to be
manipulated by those who have something we want. We are so easily swayed by the idea of reward
that we are unwilling or unable to just say “no”. Our desire (greed) for the reward makes us tell
ourselves that deep down inside they are really kind and generous souls, that they really care about us,
and that they want us to benefit from their position. Deep inside though, we know that we are simply
using them
Looks like: Dawdling, procrastination, temper tantrums
Sounds like: Withholding communication, allowing our children to behave poorly in public places, baby
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Spiritual effects and consequences: Two things can happen if we accept their gift: We can feel
gratitude, which compels a perverse loyalty, or we can feel guilt and shame for taking it. Either way
though, we end up being manipulated - by our own dishonesty
Physical effects: Bladder problems, kidney problems, urinary tract infections
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the source of fear of expressing our needs or desires. Visit
Wikihow for How to deal with a manipulative person
If we are doing it
STOP doing it! We are hurting others, but more importantly, we are hurting ourselves. Meditate to
learn the real reason for the inability to be honest about our desires
If it is being done to us
Just say "no". Make do without whatever it is, or find an honest way to get it besides selling out. We
need to accept the truth: They are trying to buy us. Meditate to learn the real reason for needing the
approval of others. Do the self-esteem exercise
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Martyrdom (thought, attitude)
Letting others know how much we have suffered and sacrificed in order to help them, or to serve God,
with the intention of making them feel indebted to us
Sounds like: Speaking in an artificially happy tone of voice
Spiritual effects: Habitual laying of guilt trips
Physical effects: Back pain or shoulder issues
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn that wanting others to be grateful for our help leads to other
poor spiritual choices like condemnation, contempt, control, criticism, manipulation, self-righteousness
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Meditation (thought, behaviour)
Meditation is communication - two-way communication - between us and the Universal Intelligence. It
is the act of asking questions and then paying attention to our thoughts hear the answers. Learn how.
See prayer
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Mercy (thought, attitude)
Tendency to be kind, forgiving and sympathetic to those in difficult circumstances (including self).
Being merciful does not mean rescuing someone by doing their work for them, because that can do
more harm than good. It means being a non-judgmental listener, or giving information when invited to
do so. See What is karma?
Note: Karmic debt we owe to others (and self) is forgiven as we treat others (and self) with mercy and
grace rather than anger, greed, hatred, resentment or revenge. We can release karmic debt owed to us
by others in the same way.
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Misandry (thought, attitude)
Loathing of males or dangerous creatures (by males or females), and believing that while they may
serve certain purposes, they cannot be trusted. See misogyny
Spiritual effects: Abandonment, addictions, blaming, bullying, greed, feeling like a victim
Physical effects: Semen allergy, infertility, lactose (or food) intolerance
Change the pattern: Do the Forgiveness and Tolerance exercises
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Misanthropy (thought, attitude)
Believing the very worst about self or humanity and doing nothing about it because it would be
pointless anyway, right? See distrust
Spiritual effects: Unlikely to have close, satisfying relationships
Physical effects: Chronic nose or sinus issues
If you know someone with this attitude: Have compassion, for they are not doing it because they are
happy
If you have this attitude: Gain inner peace with the idea that we are all in this school of life together,
sometimes teaching, sometimes learning, sometimes stuck
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn that the Universal Intelligence communicates with us, and do
the self-esteem exercise
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Misogyny (thought, attitude, emotion, belief)
Loathing of females or defenseless creatures (by males or females), and believing that they can serve
no useful purpose other than to reproduce. See misandry
Spiritual effects: Abandonment, addictions, blaming, bullying, greed, feeling like a victim
Physical effects: Impotence, infertility, lactose (or food) intolerance, prostate issues
Change the pattern: Do the Forgiveness and Tolerance exercises
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Obedience (thought, attitude)
Asking God for guidance, waiting around long enough to hear it and then following it. Obedience does
not mean doing what another human tells you to do, or doing what they say God says you must do - it
means following the instructions given to you by your own guide when you have asked for assistance
from the Universal Intelligence. See Section 11
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Observation mode (thought, attitude, behaviour)
State of consciousness in which we simply observe, and pay attention to, all that is happening around
us and within us, without judging any of it. Get there by practicing being centred
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Optimism (thought, attitude)
Thought pattern that says, "Things will get better." Results from choosing to live in the light of faith,
hope and trust rather than the darkness of despair, dread and gloom. Optimism raises our vibrational
frequency, thereby decreasing drag on our cells and enabling us to recover from traumatic events
more quickly and fully.
As this quote from ScienceDaily says, "After decades of research, a new study links optimism and
prolonged life. Researchers have found that individuals with greater optimism are more likely to live
longer and to achieve 'exceptional longevity,' that is, living to age 85 or older."
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Overview effect
Shift in spiritual awareness that occurs as we come to acknowledge certain truths. Chief among them:
we are spiritual beings intertwined with, and encased temporarily in, physical matter, with the primary
goal of learning the profound implications of unconditional love
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Patience (thought, attitude)
Ability to wait without having any negative thoughts, attitudes or emotions. In these days of almost
instant gratification, we see more and more outbursts of rage - on roads, in airplanes, or even simply
standing in a lineup. It seems like we get angry over having to wait any longer than 30 seconds for
whatever it is we are wanting. See self-importance

How to build patience: Next time you’re in a long line-up, press Pause on your thoughts. You’ll feel
better. After all, fretting and worrying doesn’t shorten the wait. Use this time to practice being centred
and focusing on what is happening around you, or within you
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Peace (thought, attitude, emotion, behaviour)
Inner
State of calm acceptance that becomes possible when we accept responsibility for our own choices or
allow others the same privilege. Such acceptance becomes possible when we are free of the human
desire to judge, criticise, condemn and control, because we recognize we can only change ourselves.

World
How exactly could world peace come about? Unless it is forced upon us (a contradiction in terms),
something will be required of us to bring it about. Many believe that a higher intelligence, or Jesus, or
extraterrestrials, or maybe even a powerful politician, will bring peace to the planet and save humanity
from the brink of destruction. How might it feel to have someone come along and tell us what to do?
Maybe that higher intelligence will just tell the government what to do, and then everything will be all
right. Then we ourselves will not have to do anything differently.
What if that higher intelligence said that in order to save ourselves, we would have to forgive all who
had harmed us in any way? Or that we would have to share our resources? How might we feel if that
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higher intelligence said we could not continue to hold onto contempt, greed, intolerance, prejudice
and/or resentment? What would - or could - we do? Would we be able to forgive completely? Who
would decide territorial, relationship, criminal, legal, family and neighbourhood disputes once and for
all? Think of it: every single dispute ON THE PLANET would need to be resolved for peace to exist.
Cause for hope: Although it may not seem so, the peoples of this planet are gradually evolving toward
democratic peace. It is a very slow process, because after all, we all want what we want when we want
it. As the knowledge and spirit of equality amongst we humans becomes more widespread though,
peace will continue to escalate
How to build peace: See tolerance, read about war. Do the Forgiveness exercises. Visit Wikipedia and
read about Restorative justice
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Perfectionism (thought, attitude, behaviour)
Unable or unwilling to accept any person or thing that does not meet overly rigid standards, and a
tendency to correct every little thing we say or do without a word of praise or appreciation. Nothing
we do is ever quite good enough. When we place these standards upon another person, we are
controlling, judging, criticising, and condemning them. It is control when we in effect say, “You must do
this my way, the right way, the only way.” It is judgment and criticism when we decide that they are
doing it wrong, and condemnation when we decide to punish them in some way for their failure to do
what we want, the way we want it done.
We use these standards to gain either our own or someone else's approval (even if they are not
present). The pattern can begin early in childhood as a response to constant criticism from our
caregivers for doing anything that does not meet their standards.
As annoying as the behaviour can be, try to feel compassion for perfectionists. After all, they are even
more critical of themselves than others. They have not yet learned that it is better to strive for
excellence than perfection
Looks like: “Fixing” what someone else has done just because we do not like the way it was done (It
has to be this way, my way, the right way.)
Sounds like: "If I don't do it, it won't get done right."
Spiritual effects: Always looking to catch others in an error; unable or unwilling to acknowledge that
we just learned something new (because of course we already know everything)
Physical effects: Acne excoriée, arthritis, bunions, liver disease, obsessive/compulsive behaviours
Change the pattern: Meditate and do the Tolerance exercises. Aim for excellence rather than
perfection
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Pessimism (thought, attitude)
Outlook on life that says, "What's the point - things will never work out the way I want anyway". Arises
from having judged, criticised, and condemned self, others, and/or the Universal Intelligence for failing
to reward our efforts or give us that which we desire or feel we deserve. Can begin as an act of spite or
revenge. See passive/aggressive disorder
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Physical effects: Obsessive/compulsive disorder, chronic lower back pain and/or sciatica, eye and
vision issues, insomnia and other sleep issues
Change the pattern: Know that we create our own reality. Expectation equals result
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Petulance (thought, attitude)
Childishly sulking to make everyone suffer for not giving us what we want. See blame, manipulation,
spite, victim
Sounds like: "If you will not let me make all the rules and be the star, I will take my ball and go home.
Then you will be sorry."
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn how this pattern developed. Read about greed, humility,
sacrifice
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Phobia (thought, attitude, emotion, behaviour)
Condition in which our fear of a particular experience is transferred onto one or more creatures,
objects or activities, because that is safer than acknowledging the real cause. Phobias can result from
having felt a complete loss of control in a situation, such that one feels compelled to avoid potentially
similar situations
Spiritual effects: Chronic dread and/or worry
Physical effects: Similar to the effects of long-term anxiety, but usually occurring upon encountering
the object of dread: heart, lung and skin disorders, nausea and/or vomiting, as well as nervous
behaviours
Change the pattern: Spiritually: Meditate to learn the underlying fear and its spiritual root cause, as
well as the reasons for choosing to react to life in this particular way. Physically: Visit WikiHow and
Learn to breathe better
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Prayer (thought, attitude)
Act of talking to the Universal Intelligence. It seems like we are always asking for favours, as if God
were a fairy godmother or a genie in a bottle; for example, heal me... heal someone else...keep
someone alive...let someone die...make someone die...punish someone for me...let my team win the
big game...let me win the lottery... Simply saying the words, "Thy will be done," can avoid much
needless worry and distress. Many use prayer as a protection from evil or from the wrath of God. This
is not prayer - this is ritual and superstition, which is nothing more than fear that has become habit.
Instead of telling God what we want, try asking in meditation what we can do to gain profound life
changes
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Prejudice
Accepting someone else’s judgment of another, rather than forming our own opinion based on our
own experiences. See fake news, gossip
Change the pattern: Do the Self-esteem and Tolerance exercises
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Pride
Represents sense of self-value
Positive aspect: Sense of pleasure in an achievement. See joy
Negative aspect: Puffed up sense of self and our abilities or accomplishments, and attributing them
only to self. See arrogance, ego, self-importance
Physical effects: Bloating
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Procrastination (thought, attitude)
We put off doing that which we have agreed to do, and then wonder why we are nagged. The
procrastination / nagging game can go on for years, with each person blaming the other for the
situation
Spiritual effects: Avoidance, dawdling, passive/aggressive disorder, laziness
Physical effects: Chronic fatigue syndrome, ear and hearing issues, eye and vision disorders, memory
problems, hypochondria
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn what we are trying to gain by avoiding doing that which we
have agreed to do
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Quantum entanglement
Commonly known as karma, this spiritual system of checks and balances ensures credit for all favours
given and debts incurred throughout each of our incarnations. Once souls in physical form have
interacted, they are connected across space and time until they understand - and forgive - their
motives and actions taken or not taken. This information is recorded in the Akashic records, so our
guides know exactly what is owed to whom. Repayment comes in the form of lessons, which are
presented by each soul’s guide in the appropriate incarnation at the appropriate time. The system
applies to individuals as well as groups, as can be seen in nations that continually battle one another.
Until there is forgiveness, the warring will continue. See legacy guilt and legacy resentment
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Rage
Seething, explosive anger and fury. Is often misdirected toward an individual or a group, but at its root,
is directed toward self. See contempt, hatred, judgment, patience, tolerance
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Rejection (thought, behaviour)
Dismissing someone or something because of inferiority or imperfection (see cold shoulder, isolation).
Used as a punishment when we have judged, criticised, and condemned someone or something.
Rejection of a person can be a form of abandonment. Rejection of an idea can be a form of denial.
When someone has rejected us, we can feel ashamed of our words, our actions or ourselves
Physical effects: Arthritis, nausea and/or vomiting
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn that rejection closes the door to communication
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Repression (thought)
Unable or unwilling to acknowledge that we have had a negative experience. This is a learned
behaviour that can begin in very early childhood as a conscious choice, but develops into a seemingly
unconscious reaction whenever experiencing strong emotions (denial)
Spiritual effects: Seemingly unpredictable explosive rages
Physical effects: Addictions, digestion issues, obsessive/compulsive behaviours
Change the pattern: Do the Forgiveness and Grieving exercises
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Resentment (thought, attitude, emotion)
Holding onto a deep-seated grudge against someone who has hurt or offended us. We can even get
addicted to the high that comes from allowing our hurt to excuse us from behaving responsibly. Can
become a habitual response to people or circumstances that do not meet with our approval
Sounds like: “I hate you and I will never forgive you”
Spiritual effects: Can create a chronic craving for revenge
Physical effects: Arthritis, bladder infections, digestion issues, heart disease, high blood pressure, high
cholesterol, lung problems, urinary tract infections
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn that resentment hurts self as well as others. Check out legacy
resentment
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Respect (thought, attitude)
Willingness to treat self and others with patience and tolerance, mercy and forgiveness, because we
are all children of God. We are all in varying stages of spiritual development and we are all capable of
greatness, or of making terrible choices. Being respectful helps us build healthy relationships; however,
there is no guarantee of receiving respect back.
Looks and sounds like: Using another's possessions and/or taking their property without their
permission, and then saying, "I didn't think you'd mind" is actually disrespectful and a manipulative
guilt trip, because it can shame the person into pretending not to mind. Failure to ask permission can
stem either from fear that it might not be given or from the belief that we are somehow "entitled". See
arrogance
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Restorative justice (thought, attitude, behaviour)
Quote excerpted from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Restorative_justice:
“…an approach to justice that personalizes the crime by having the victims and the offenders mediate a
restitution agreement to the satisfaction of each, as well as involving the community. This contrasts to
other approaches such as retribution, deterrence, rehabilitation, or incapacitation."

Check out forgiveness

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Revenge (thought, attitude, emotion , behaviour)
Deep need to retaliate against someone who has offended us by hurting someone/ anyone/ everyone
as badly as we have been hurt. Can be a desire to teach someone a lesson they will never forget.
It may feel like hurting others is the only way to deal with our pain, but there is another way …
forgiveness. However, forgiveness requires (and enables) us to stop allowing ourselves to react with
resentment. Sharing our feelings is a great start toward changing the pattern because often offenders
have no idea that their words or actions hurt us. At the very least, doing so can validate our
experience, and may even open the door to new understanding.
World peace will be impossible until we as individuals stop wanting revenge. So let us not leave it up to
the other guy, or the government, or other countries. Let us be the one to flex our forgiveness muscle
Sounds like: “I was hurt so it is okay for me to hurt anyone who gets in my way,” “What goes around
comes around,” “Serves you right,” or “God will get you for this" or "God will hurt you for me”
Spiritual effects: Abandonment, cold shoulder, depression, obsessive/compulsive behaviours
Physical effects: Digestion issues, heart disease, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, lung problems
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn that wanting revenge leads to other poor spiritual choices like
criticism, condemnation, contempt, control, war. Check out legacy guilt and legacy resentment
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Sacrifice (thought, attitude)
Being willing to set aside our needs or beliefs in order to be of service to the Universal Intelligence. We
often call it sacrifice if we help someone, even if we only do it because we are unable to say no. True
sacrifice means giving up what we want to do, in favour of what the Universal Intelligence (through our
guide in meditation) has asked, or not doing something we want to do because the Universe (through
our guide in meditation) has asked that we not. Sometimes this means not stepping in to help
someone unless we have been invited to do so
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Sarcasm (thought, attitude, behaviour)
Words, even if not spoken aloud, that are intended to ridicule or harm self or others - under the guise
of humour
Physical effects: Upper respiratory infections, speaking in a nasal tone of voice
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the reasons for the behaviour. Do the Self-esteem exercise
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Scorn (thought, attitude)
Treating someone as if they are not worthy of our respect. Results from having judged, criticised, and
condemned someone, and our scorn is the punishment. See contempt, self-righteousness
Looks like: Glaring at someone
Physical effects: Arthritis, heart disease, lung problems, eye or nose issues
Change the pattern: Do the Tolerance and Self-esteem exercises
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Seeking of Truth and Understanding (thought, attitude)
Being willing to confront Universal Truth about self, our experiences and our belief systems can lead us
to full understanding, which enables us to release the past fully and with love. When we resent others,
we can feel fully justified in not seeking understanding of their possible motives or intentions. All too
often, they are not even aware that they have caused injury, and that is one of the reasons that
forgiveness is so important
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Self-aggrandizement (thought, attitude, behaviour)
Using others to further self and our own interests, under the guise of it being for their benefit. Greed is
the true motivation
Haiku 5-7-5: Self-aggrandizement

Sounds like: Pretending that what we advise others to do is to help

only them, and may even hurt us. Selling a product under the false
pretense that the buyer will benefit because of it, or will come to
harm without it, when the only true reason is to benefit self
Spiritual effects: Chronic lying
Physical effects: Digestive issues, foot problems , heart disease
Change the pattern: See humility and do the Self-esteem exercise

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Self-esteem (thought, attitude)
Ability to accept our good, and our not-so-good, thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs, desires and
behaviours without judgment, criticism, or condemnation.
Healthy self-esteem goes hand in hand with self-respect. Low or unstable self-esteem prevents us from
approving of self unless and until someone (usually an authority figure) first gives us their approval.
Can also make us feel as if we must always do what others want us to do
Sounds like: Can be a constant fight with self: we do something and may think we did all right, but
have to wait for someone else to agree. If they tell us they do not like what we did, we immediately
judge, criticise and condemn self - not only for having done a lousy job, but for having had the nerve to
think it was ok. We feel they have attacked us and we respond with anger, usually (but not always)
directed at self. It is a short step then to a wave of depression
Spiritual effects: Co-dependent relationships, feeling like a victim, inability to say "no"
Physical effects: Ear and hearing issues, headaches, knee problems, nose and/or sinus issues, sciatica,
upper respiratory infections
Change the pattern: Do the Self-esteem exercise and check out this TED Talks video: Brittany Packnett
Cunningham: The power of confidence
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Self-importance (thought, attitude)
Belief that we are more deserving of attention than others, and that everything that happens to us is of
the utmost importance to everyone. Can be the belief that we are flawless, or that everything that
happens, be it an experience or even a conversation, is about us. Holding self in very high regard. Pride
and conceit are offshoots of ego and self-importance. Self-importance and self-condemnation often go
hand-in-hand, because even if we feel proud of some of our accomplishments, we may also be
ashamed of ourselves
Sounds like: What about me? Me, me, me. I want to tell you about me and my family, or friends, or
pets, or job, or hobbies, or experiences; anything, so long as I do not have to listen to anything about
you. See babbling, narcissism
Physical effects: Chronic flatulence, dizziness/vertigo
Change the pattern: Do the Self-esteem exercise
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Self-interest (thought, attitude)
Using others for our benefit, with regard only for self. See self-aggrandizement
Physical effects: Digestive issues
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn and resolve the reasons for feeling deprived, ignored or
neglected
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Self-righteousness (thought, attitude)
Belief that self is morally pure and beyond reproach, in comparison against someone whom we have
judged as being less than perfect. No one can escape life on earth without having harmed another,
either physically or emotionally, whether intentionally or accidentally. We are all souls in human form,
sometimes doing well and sometimes doing poorly
Sounds like: I would never hurt anyone the way you hurt me - or - God will punish you, but he will
forgive me - or - At least I am not like that person
Physical effects: High cholesterol, eye and vision issues, sepsis
Change the pattern: Do the Forgiveness exercises
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Shame (thought, emotion)
Feelings of embarrassment, guilt and remorse that come upon learning that we are not perfect
Chronic shame
Can result from child abuse or unresolved traumatic events
Sounds like: It is all my fault and I should be punished. I am bad and everyone knows
Spiritual effects: Addiction , chronic fear or even anxiety that we will be found out, habitual self-
isolation, obsessive/compulsive behaviours, PTSD, suicide ideation, survivor’s guilt, feelings of
unworthiness, self-doubt and/or low or unstable self-esteem
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Change the pattern: Do the Self-esteem, Grieving and Forgiveness exercises
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Should (thought, attitude)
Control word used to let someone know that we know what is best for them, and that they do not
have a clue. Before telling someone else what they should do, consider how it feels to be on the
receiving end of uninvited advice
Physical effects: Alzheimer’s disease, Bell’s palsy, epilepsy, fibromyalgia, high cholesterol, multiple
sclerosis, Parkinson's disease, sciatica, shingles, stroke
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn the source of our desire/need to be in charge. Asking questions
to help others find their own best options or solutions is a great way to start changing the pattern
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Silent rebellion (thought, attitude, emotion)
Actions taken when feeling completely powerless to improve our on-going emotional plight. The
actions need only have the effect of shocking, annoying or repelling others. Examples (in no particular
order): laziness, poor posture, wearing too much perfume, refusing to bathe, wearing dirty, ill-fitting or
revealing clothing, wearing garish makeup, getting visible tattoos and/or body piercings, styling one's
hair to be shocking, hoarding. These actions are satisfying by virtue of their ability to create emotional
chaos for others.
The alternative, addressing the issue directly, is not even a possibility because of the belief that it
would be pointless because "they" will always win, no matter what. The fear is that discussion could
even make things worse, if that were possible.
When someone feels so impotent that they resort to silent rebellion, they can feel that there is no
point in doing anything at all - and certainly no point in doing it well. They have lost hope that
conditions will ever change, and they have learned that nothing they do will ever have a positive
outcome. It may feel like a miracle to them that they are even able to get up out of bed each day. The
COVID-19 pandemic has provided a new opportunity for those wishing to defy authority figures. Anti-
vaxxers, anti-maskers, anti-"sciencers' seem to delight in their defiance, yet clearly they are not happy.
This complete and utter despair results from constant judgment, criticism, and condemnation from an
authority figure or loved one. No matter what they say or do, that person will never give their
approval, so of course they have no dreams, for what would be the point? They will just get dumped
on anyway, so they see no reason to even try.
The frustration continues until they finally figure out a way to get back at those they feel have created
the situation. Then they are on their way to repeating self-destructive behaviours. Since they have
finally taken action, their pain and anger seem to go away and that is all that really matters.
Change the pattern: As difficult as it can be to stop needing approval from others, that is exactly what
is needed to start changing the pattern. Start living for self, instead of living to hear from someone else
that what we are doing is good, and right, and important. Of course the loved one will not like this
change and may do everything in their power to make things go back to the way they were, so it is
important to be strong and know that we need no one’s approval but our own. The sooner we come to
peace with this truth, the sooner we can get on with our lives and become who we were meant to be.
Do the Self-esteem exercise
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Sniping
Taking every single opportunity to point out another’s flaws to make her or him feel bad and/or to
make self feel big and powerful, especially, but not necessarily, in front of others. Sniping is judgment,
criticism and condemnation, and a passive/aggressive act of revenge. It is not done out of a desire to
help someone
Change the pattern: Do the How to stop sniping exercise
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Soul mate
Belief that we are incomplete until we find the specific person whom the Universal Intelligence created
only for us. In fact, there is no such person. We were created as individual souls, whole and complete.
We each belong to a family of souls, and we may experience a feeling of familiarity when meeting
other members. This feeling can also result from past life associations with people, so check with your
guide if you are curious
Spiritual effects: Co-dependent relationships, feeling like a victim
Change the pattern: See confirmation bias, do the Self-esteem exercise and check out Will I ever find
my soul mate?
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Spiritual self-awareness (thought)
Ability to know why we think the things we think and believe the things we believe and, especially, why
we do the things we do. Beyond being aware of self as an individual person, spiritual self-awareness
also means being aware of self as an individual soul among countless trillions, each with an
unbreakable connection to Source. This includes awareness of our soul name, our soul’s purpose
during our current incarnation and our guide. See Section 11
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Spite (thought, attitude, behaviour)
Act of harming self in the hope that the one(s) who hurt us will notice and then feel guilty for what
they have done or not done (non-verbal guilt trip)
Sounds like: "I refuse to enjoy life because of the way you treated me"
Spiritual effects: Choosing to live life in misery or deprivation; returning a cherished gift to its original
owner; or thoughts of abandonment and/or suicide ideation
Physical effects: Digestive issues, heart disease, high cholesterol, lung problems, nose or sinus issues
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn that the desire for revenge leads to other poor spiritual choices
like condemnation, contempt, control, criticism. Check out legacy resentment
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Status quo bias (thought, attitude)
Needing to avoid any change, at any cost. It arises from a fear of change since no matter how
unpleasant our current situation, the fear says that changing anything might make matters even worse.
So we go on as we always have, wishing for change but seemingly unable to do anything to help
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Spiritual effects: Strong need to be in control, depression, chronic frustration, accident proneness,
unresolved grief
Physical effects: Anemia, unstable blood pressure, cancer, varicose veins
Change the pattern: Meditate to gain self-acceptance. Visit WikiHow and learn How to deal with
change
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Stress (thought, attitude, emotion)
Self-imposed punishment for having judged, criticised, and condemned self to be a failure. The
condemnation, the punishment, is harming ourselves in some way, either spiritually or physically. See
PTSD
Spiritual effects: Withholding from self whatever it is that we most want
Physical effects: Addictions, high blood pressure, insomnia, obsessive/compulsive disorder
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn your triggers
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Suppression (thought, thought)
Conscious choice to keep our thoughts, attitudes and emotions about painful experiences hidden from
others. Can begin as an act of spite to punish those who failed to protect us from harm. As with
repression, keeping everything bottled up inside can create the need for mood-altering substances or
habits. It can also prevent us from forming deep, emotional bonds or meaningful relationships
Physical effects: Contributes to ADD / ADHD, ‘brain freeze’ (inability to think or speak coherently),
obsessive/compulsive behaviours
Change the pattern: Do the Grieving and Forgiveness exercises, plus meditate to find and resolve the
root cause of the behaviour
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Survivor's Guilt (thought, attitude, emotion)
Crippling condition creating much pain, discomfort and negativity, to which we can become addicted.
Losing loved ones through death caused by any means can create survivor's guilt. Remaining healthy
when a loved one becomes unwell can also create it, as can growing up as the normal child in a family
with a special needs child. Also, some Christians believe that since Christ died on the cross for them,
they must prove their appreciation by inflicting pain upon themselves
Sounds like: Since finding enjoyment in life could be seen as a betrayal of the loved one, or of the
family, or as a failure to punish self enough, our thoughts might say, "I cannot/will not ever succeed.
Nothing of lasting benefit can or will come from me. There cannot/will not be any joy in my life. If
something good does happen, I cannot/will not celebrate. I cannot/ will not contribute to a society that
allowed (whatever) to happen."
Those suffering from survivor’s guilt may tell themselves (and others) that their deceased loved one
was much more worthy to be alive than they; however, being alive is not a question of worthiness; it is
not a reward. Coming into physical form is a part of the entire experience of those souls who do so.
Remember that God does not ever judge, criticise, or condemn us, and that our loved one's
experiences were a part of their path. We cannot walk their path for them. We must allow them the
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dignity of ownership. We must not use their experiences as an excuse for failing to live well, or for
holding onto resentment or for seeking vengeance, or for punishing self
Physical effects: Heart disease, lung problems, depression
Change the pattern: Meditate to learn that the Universal Intelligence is in charge of matters of life and
death. Then meditate to learn our true life purpose
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Temper tantrum (behaviour)
In adults, pattern of behaving like an undisciplined or spoiled child to get our way, to control others, or
to divert attention. Anger may or may not necessarily be triggering the behaviour. See
aggressive/passive behaviour
Looks like: Throwing objects, using violence toward self or another, ranting and raving, stomping
around, suicide-related communication, using the cold shoulder, refusing to abide by COVID-19 public
health best practices (see defiance, silent rebellion)
Sounds like: ``Why can’t you ever …” or ``Why do I always have to …” or `` I want …”
Change the pattern: Meditate to identify the cause of the pattern and resolve the inner conflict
creating it. Visit WikiHow and read about How to stop temper tantrums, If an adult is doing it, If a child
is doing it
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Tolerance (thought, attitude, behaviour)
Ability to observe people or to have certain experiences without having negative thoughts, attitudes
and emotions about them. Intolerance creates much of the turmoil on this planet. As souls in human
form, we face many spiritual challenges. Chief among them is the temptation to hate. If we as
individuals fail to grasp the lesson that all are equally loved by the Universal Intelligence, the spiritual
laws of reincarnation and karma will ensure that we return to try, try again. Failure of groups and
nations to “get it” creates negative societal patterns such as legacy guilt and legacy resentment. Until
the many issues dividing us are resolved, until we allow forgiveness into our lives, humanity will be
unable to meet our full potential
Change the pattern: Reduce intolerance by doing the Tolerance exercises
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Toxic relationship
This is a relationship in which neither person can thrive, and each claims the other is the problem.
Neither is prepared to let go of their position; neither will apologize and neither will forgive; both think
the other is infuriatingly stubborn and/or controlling; and, most of all, that they are just plain wrong.
Perhaps the biggest frustration in toxic relationships is that we are unable to fix them, or even get out
of them without being consumed with guilt, resentment and remorse. We tell ourselves that it would
be mean and cruel to leave, so we keep trying to get the other person to change; but of course,
nothing works. Since we cannot make anyone else change, or even want to change, change is up to us
Change the pattern: Do the Forgiveness and Self-esteem exercises. Let go with love. To fix a
relationship requires much work and dedication from both sides, and this is not possible when both
parties feel that it is the other who needs to change. In this case, it can be preferable to let the
relationship go. The challenge is to do so without holding onto any negativity; this means no guilt, no
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anger, and no regrets. It also means not repeatedly returning to the relationship to try, try again. God
does not condemn us for being wise enough to know when it is time to stop trying and let go. Here are
some steps to take that, while they may not fix a relationship, can help us to move on and begin living
in peace:
o Let go of the need to prove the other wrong (self-righteousness)
o Let go of the need to be apologized to (humility)
o Let go of the need for revenge (forgiveness)
o Let go of feeling fully responsible (guilt), yet acknowledge our part in the relationship, and forgive
ourselves as well as the other party
o Let go of the need to receive permission from anyone to make change in your life
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Traumatic events
Any event that causes physical or emotional pain is considered by the Universal Intelligence to be
traumatic. While some events are less traumatic than others, this does not lessen their impact,
especially for children or those reliant on others to provide understanding about what has happened.
Without understanding, grieving and forgiveness, resolution is not possible. Unresolved trauma can
affect us throughout our entire lifetime by contributing to addictions, obsessive/compulsive
behaviours and chronic disease.
Here are just a few childhood events that are often trivialized by caregivers: becoming lost, suffering
sibling abuse, having to vie for caregivers’ attention, new child entering the family without advance
notice or preparation, being falsely accused of wrongdoing, being criticised for having normal human
emotions or bodily functions. See PTSD. Watch "How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime"
- a TED Talks presentation by Dr. Nadine Burke-Harris. Check out this article from SciTechDaily
"Childhood abuse linked to higher risk for high cholesterol..."

Prior incarnation trauma

When those who experience life-ending trauma reincarnate, conscious (or unconscious) memories of
prior life trauma can manifest as diseases or conditions or even as night terrors. Their caregivers have
the opportunity to help them resolve issues carried over from the past life
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Trust (thought, attitude)
Knowledge that our Creator loves us unconditionally, that everything required for our learning will be
provided, and that each and every experience is given to help us learn how to love ourselves and
others unconditionally
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Unconditional love
Acceptance without conditions, and a lack of negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions. We are loved
unconditionally by the Universal Intelligence. There is nothing we have to do, nothing we have to
change, in order to be loved by God. Universal energy registers in us as unconditional love. Believing
that God judges us is to believe that the love is conditional, and this is impossible and untrue because
judgment, criticism and condemnation impose conditions. Unconditional love can be seen as "tough
love", because it allows us to experience all things. It tests us by allowing physical consequences for
our spiritual choices. It allows us to feel pain; it allows us to cause pain. See free will
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What can it feel like?
Unconditional love, for me anyways, feels like a warmth coming up from within the depths of my soul
that brings a tremendous feeling of happiness, comfort and pleasure, and brings tears to my eyes. It is
an enveloping, all-encompassing feeling that is unmistakably positive and wonderful. I strive to exist in
that mode, but alas, daily life tends to take our focus away from that. It is an on-going practice that is
hugely rewarding.

How to practice it
Get centred and connected with your guide, and KNOW that you are accompanied and held in high
regard by our as-yet-invisible friends.
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Universal intelligence
Although called many names by humans (Universal Intelligence, The Universe, Creator, Source,
Singularity, God, Allah, Yahweh, Heavenly Father or Mother, Great Spirit, They, It, Her or Him), it is
itself nameless because no one created it. It manifests as the Source of everything. It is vast energy:
deeply intelligent, responsive, creative, unconditionally loving, energy. When connecting with it, we
may feel an upwelling of emotion that literally brings tears to our eyes. We know then that everything
is ok; there is nothing we need to do or change. We are loved unconditionally. Nothing exists in
physical without first having existed in thought. Think about it
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Universal truth
Information that is free from negative thoughts, attitudes or emotions, and that is logical and
straightforward. As we grow in spiritual understanding, it becomes easier to recognize the differences
between Universal truth and our human truth. Problems arise when belief systems based in human
truth collide with universal, truth. See confirmation bias, echo chamber
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Vibrational frequency
Every atom in the universe, including each and every soul, vibrates at a specific frequency. It was set at
the time of creation but is not static - it rises or lowers during physical incarnation, according to our
negative or positive reactions to our life experiences. Our aim as souls is to return to our original state
of profound spiritual awareness and unconditional love. Reducing and refining our negative thoughts
enables this. See Section 11
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Victim (thought, attitude)
Thought pattern that says that we have no power to change our life situation, or to protect self from
others' negative words or actions, or that anything negative in our life has been caused by anyone or
anything but self, or that there is no protection from all the dangers that exist in the world. While we
cannot change past events, we can change our reactions to them and thereby change our future. This
pattern can often be traced to a traumatic childhood experience that has not been understood or
resolved, which prevents it from being released. The pattern can also result from caregivers being
over- or under-protective. Feeling like a victim means that we are blaming others and giving away our
power. Being a victim of a crime can also be a required life lesson. It is important to work through our
thoughts, attitudes and emotions surrounding the event, seeking understanding and practicing
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forgiveness. While we cannot change past events, we can change our reactions to them and thereby
change our future
Pity p arties
Chronic need to tell anyone who will listen, how everyone has hurt us, everyone is better off than us,
nothing ever works out for us, nobody likes us, everyone is always taking advantage of us, etc. See
denial, martyr, narcissism, aggressive/passive behaviour, passive/aggressive disorder
Physical effects: Anemia, athlete's foot, cancer, Crohn's disease, HIV / AIDS, hypochondria, knee
problems, rheumatoid arthritis, varicose veins
Change the pattern: See What is our spiritual diet? and do the Grieving and Self-esteem exercises
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War (thought, attitude, behaviour)
To fully understand why war exists, we must acknowledge the negative thoughts, attitudes and
emotions within self, and know that they cause us to behave in negative ways. Holding a grudge
against someone for failing to live up to our standards, or for not giving us what we want, is the first
step toward war on a personal level. We justify our feelings by saying that those we resent deserve it
because somehow they are less than human; they do not deserve our respect; they deserve to suffer.
Like bullies, corrupt political leaders want what they want when they want it, and they take it. War on
a larger scale begins when someone stands up and says they cannot have it. The population is then
dragged into their temper tantrum, along a path of wanton fury. The leader says it is for the citizens’
benefit (self-aggrandizement). Another society may then be forced to take on the role of parent to stop
them
Sounds like:
On a personal level
Stealing from a corporation by making false or inflated insurance claims, using someone's possessions
or property without their permission, etc.
On a national level
Subjecting segments of a population to various forms of control or extinction
On an international level
Forcibly taking over the lands of another domain, subjecting its inhabitants to various forms of control
or extinction
Change the pattern: Read about legacy guilt and legacy resentment. Do all of the spiritual exercises in
Section 9. Visit Wikipedia and read about Restorative justice
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Worry (thought, attitude)
Busy thoughts: wondering how everything will turn out; trying to plan everything; wondering what
others are thinking; wondering how others will react to our actions. Worry is often used as a means of
control over our loved ones, and indicates that judgment, criticism, and condemnation have taken
place. For example, saying we are worried about someone is like saying that we think they are
incapable of doing the right thing, or that we think they will come to some harm if they continue doing
whatever it is they are doing.

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Those in co-dependent relationships often worry about their partner. They say they are concerned that
their loved one will come to some harm, but the real worry is about self. This is not love - this is control
Sounds like: What if... If I do this, then he/she will do... If I do this, then he/she will think...
Spiritual effects: Anxiety, distress, dread
Physical effects: Alopecia, baldness, digestive issues, ear and hearing issues, insomnia, nail biting, nose
bleeds, chronic pain
Change the pattern: Do the How to stop worrying exercise
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Section 7 Frequently asked spiritual questions
The questions
1. About God
1.1 Does God really exist? Does he have a plan for me? How can I find out what it is?
1.2 If God IS, why is there pain, suffering and sickness in the world? Why is there war?
1.3 Is God angry or disappointed with humanity?
1.4 Isn't it time that God gave us some new rules of conduct?
1.5 Are thoughts powerful?

2. About the guides

2.1 What is my inner voice, and how can I hear it?
2.2 What is my guide's name? How many guides are working with me?
2.3 Why don't our guides keep us from coming to harm?
2.4 Is mental telepathy between people possible?

3. About spirituality, healing and genes

3.1 What is spirituality?
3.2 What are some of the spiritual gifts?
3.3 What is 5th dimension state of being?
3.4 What are the spiritual laws?
3.5 What is “free will” and how does it affect us?
3.6 Is there any such thing as miraculous healing?
3.7 How could God allow someone who was miraculously healed to become sick again with the same
disease?
3.8 Is there hope that I won't develop any of the diseases that my parents had?
3.9 Why do we get sick / suffer injuries / have accidents?
3.10 Why are there side effects from medications?
3.11 Are evil spirits are causing our pain / disease / life problems?
3.12 Why does God allow so-called evil people to come to power?
3.13 Is there a magic pill?
3.14 What are the chakras and what role do they play in our healing?
3.15 Do physical ailments come from not hearing our thoughts or from having negative emotions?

4. About souls
4.1 What is a soul?
4.2 What is an old soul?
4.3 What is my soul name and what is my soul's purpose?
4.4 What am I here to learn?
4.5 Why are we here?
4.6 Will I ever find my soul mate?
4.7 What belief systems do I have that prevent me from moving forward in life?
4.8 How can I get past the guilt for causing a motor vehicle accident that took someone's life?
4.9 What are the Akashic Records?

5. About life, death, reincarnation and karma

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5.1 Why do souls enter human form?
5.2 Is there any such thing as a near death experience?
5.3 What happens when we die?
5.4 What is reincarnation?
5.5 If reincarnation is real, why can't I remember any of my past lives?
5.6 What is karma?
5.7 Why do some people I meet seem so familiar to me?
5.8 What is a walk-in?

6. About religion and sin

6.1 Why do religious cults exist?
6.2 Is it true that I need a church leader to intervene on my behalf with God?
6.3 Is there a difference between crime and sin?
6.4 Is it a sin to take someone's life?
6.5 Is homosexuality a sin?
6.6 How can I know which foods to eat and which ones to avoid?

7. About the devil, hell and negative energies

7.1 Is there any such thing as the devil?
7.2 Is it possible to accidentally receive the mark of the beast, namely the number 666?
7.3 Is there such a place as hell?
7.4 Can negative energies and entities harm us?
7.5 Have you been visited by a spirit and felt frightened by the experience?
7.6 Can someone steal my energy? Can someone give me theirs?
7.7 What are the “Sons of Darkness”?

8. About the end times

8.1 Will Jesus come alone to save humanity?
8.2 Are we living in the end times?
8.3 Why are there so many disasters lately?
8.4 Why is there so much terrorism in the world?

9. About human behaviour

9.1 What is our spiritual diet?
9.2 What is the "cold shoulder"?
9.3 Why do people withhold their approval?
9.4 Why do people play practical jokes?
9.5 Why are people superstitious?
9.6 Why do people steal credit for work that others have done?
9.7 Why do people judge, criticise and condemn work that others have done?
9.8 Why do people lie?
9.9 What if nothing is wrong, but I still feel awful?
9.10 What is legacy guilt?
9.11 What is legacy resentment?
9.12 Why do we give gifts?
9.13 About the passage of time
9.14 More about forgiveness
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9.15 Why do we think that everyone else is the enemy?
9.16 What is the spiritual component of revolution?
9.17 Why is the business of politics so nasty?
9.18 What can we do to fight terrorism?
9.19 Does the moon affect our emotions?
9.20 Why is it so difficult to make positive changes in our lives?
9.21 What is a know-it-all?
9.22 What is legacy contamination?
9.23 What planet are you from?
9.24 What is a legacy family pattern?
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The answers
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1.About God
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1.1 Does Go d really exist? Does he have a plan for me? How can I find out what it is?
Yes. God really exists. Yes, God has a plan for you. Find out what it is by meditating in the new way.
Any question directed toward our Creator will bring a response that is in accordance with the spiritual
Law of Free Will. Get centred and ask your question as simply as possible; then listen for the answer. If
the answer does not come immediately, there may be other information needed first. In that case,
start to build a pattern of regular mediation with the Universal Intelligence, work through inner
conflicts and learn belief systems that are based in Universal Truth.
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1.2 If God IS, why is there pain, suffering and sickness in the world? Why is there
war?
The gift of free will enables us to choose how to think, how to behave, and even what to believe. These
spiritual choices determine our physical reality and, in fact, the condition of life on the planet. We are
not judged for our choices; nor are we punished, but the Universal Intelligence allows us to experience
their logical consequences. That is, if we judge, criticise, condemn, control, blame, hate, seek revenge
and so on, it is we ourselves who must deal with the physical results of these negative spiritual choices.
Our physical body rests upon the foundation created by our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and
desires; our planet and its life forms are experiencing the results of countless thousands of years of
their outcomes. The world is becoming a better place as we begin to grasp this idea, and as we do the
work required to bring profound change into our lives.

War, genocide, crimes against humanity and acts of terrorism continue to occur, just as they have
throughout history. They are caused by our negative thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires.
Of course we must be ready, willing and able to stand up to bullies and aggressors; pacifism is not
enough to stop those on a path of wanton destruction. We must be willing to defend our way of life,
yet we cannot sink to barbarism when meting out justice to offenders. Doing so only perpetuates the
cycle of karmic debt. It is far better to employ Restorative justice.
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1.3 Is God angry or disappointed with humanity?
No. God is neither angry nor disappointed with humanity. Disappointment implies that judgment,
criticism, and condemnation have taken place, and since the Universal Intelligence is unconditional
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love, disappointment is not possible. We are living in accordance with the Universal spiritual Law of
Free Will, experiencing all that there is to be experienced, and we will ultimately learn our way back to
Source. That is the way, the truth and the life.
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1.4 Isn't it time that God gave us some new rules of conduct?
Yes, and here they are:
o Do not judge, criticise, and condemn - either our fellow humans, or self, or the Universal
Intelligence
o Do not control our fellow humans
o Do not rescue our fellow humans from despots and dictators
o Forgive others as we would like to be forgiven
o Strive for excellence rather than perfection
o Seek guidance from the Universal Intelligence, for it is always available
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1.5 Are thoughts po werfu l?
For your consideration: Nothing exists in physical without first having existed in thought
If the above statement is true, then this universe was thought of before it came into existence:
someone or something considered all the necessary components and processes for it to grow and
thrive before releasing it. That may sound like a thinking Intelligence created everything, but
personally, I do not see another way for this universe to have come into existence. Not a being with a
great long beard sitting on a throne, dictating to all the little cherubs and angels what needs to be done
by whom, and where, and when, but a Creator, the Source, all-powerful, all-knowing, and, most
importantly, unconditionally loving - to the point that it endowed many of its creations with free will.
On Planet Earth, each life form and process is bounded by certain limitations, with those in human
form having the fewest.

Fe we r th ou gh t s
The more we reduce and refine our thoughts, the easier it becomes to communicate with our guide ,
and with the Universal Intelligence. As more and more of us do this work, we will edge closer to the
next step in human evolution: that of becoming ready, willing and able to seek - and follow - guidance
from the Universal Intelligence in all of our daily affairs. Free will allows humans to choose to ignore
this wisdom and ignoring it has gotten us into considerable trouble, but what better way to learn?
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2.About the guides
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2.1 What is my inner voice, and how can I hear it?
Our so-called inner voice is the wisdom of the Universal Intelligence, given to us by our guide. By
learning to meditate in a new way, you can begin communicating consciously with your guide.
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2.2 What is my guide's name? How many guides are working with me?

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When in a centred state, ask your guide her or his name. (Although the guides are not female or male,
they tend to respond to us in ways that seem either feminine or masculine.) If you hear more than one
name, there is more than one guide with you. In that case, ask for the name of your personal
companion/teaching guide. One guide accompanies us on our life's voyage and other guides travel
with us for as long as God feels it is necessary. In truth, the number of guides working with us does not
make us any more or less worthy than any other human, nor does it mean that God has higher
expectations of us than of others.
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2.3 Why don't our gu ides keep us from coming to harm?
Sometimes they do, and sometimes they do not - it all depends on what is required for our soul's
learning. The guides abide by the guidance of the Universal Intelligence and its spiritual laws. Only they
know what lessons are required for us during a particular lifetime. Although some experiences harm
the physical body, the soul gains wisdom from the experience, even if not until the soul is "at home".
Unfortunately, it is often through the more painful and difficult experiences that we learn the more
difficult spiritual lessons.

Whether we come to harm also depends upon whether we are paying attention to our thoughts. Very
often we are warned to do or not do something (in our thoughts of course, for the guides
communicate with us telepathically), or to go or not go somewhere. It is our choice whether to heed
the warning. We may never know how many people have met with harm who chose to ignore their
guide’s suggestion, but we are hearing of more and more people who do pay attention, who live to tell
the tale.
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2.4 Is mental telepathy between people p ossible?
No. Telepathic communication is a reality, but only between a person (a soul in physical form) and the
Universal Intelligence via our guide. Of course, our guide can cooperate with our beliefs and desires
and let us think we are reading someone's mind: we may sometimes guess what someone is thinking,
or we may have a premonition that a loved one is having some sort of extraordinary experience; but it
is our guide letting us know - not our loved one. At this point in human evolution, we hardly even hear
our own thoughts, never mind someone else's. So long as we judge, criticise, and condemn and try to
control one another, mental telepathy will not be possible.
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3.About spirituality, healing and genes
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3.1 What is spirituality?
Spirituality is knowing that we are children of the Universal Intelligence, and therefore loved
unconditionally. It is knowing, deep within, that we are much more than our physical bodies - that we
are spiritual beings dressed in human form, learning our way back to Source. Spirituality is knowing
that this holds true for each and every human being - not just the fortunate few. Being a spiritual
person does not mean having to forsake family, friends, sex, wealth, luxury, food or drink, or even
work or play. We need not deprive ourselves of the joys of life, and we certainly need not inflict pain
on ourselves to prove our devotion to God. After all, the Universal Intelligence hears our every
thought, so there really is nothing to prove.
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3.2 What are some o f the spiritual gifts?
These are not so much gifts as they are skills or abilities learned in previous lifetimes that the Universal
Intelligence may or may not activate in the current existence. Any spiritual ability that we have while in
human form is there because the Universal Intelligence has enabled it. We become better able to use
them to help others after we have worked through our unresolved issues and inner conflicts. Here are
some of the spiritual gifts, along with some newer information about them:

Th e ab il it y t o h e al o t h er s
This is a myth. Healing is given at the discretion of the Universal Intelligence - sometimes working
through another human, sometimes not. See miraculous healing.

Me d ic al in tu it i on
This is the ability to hear our guide tell us what is happening physically with another individual. Of
course, the clearer our thoughts and the fewer our inaccurate belief systems, the more readily we may
hear Universal Truth.

Th e ab il it y t o s e e au r a s
This is the ability to see the energy emanating from another individual. Of course, the only way to
really know what the various colours mean is to ask our guide in meditation. Remember to ask for
whom the message has been given. See What are the chakras and what role do they play in our
healing?

Ps ych ic ab il i t ie s
These are becoming more well-known and widely accepted as being a possibility. Foreseeing future
events, finding missing people, channelling, communicating with the dead, seeing entities who are not
in physical form, interpreting dreams; these are all thought to be the result of psychic intuition. The
Universal Intelligence says that they are the result of our guide giving us information along with,
sometimes spectacular, special effects.

The psychic is willing to tune in and listen to what the Universe has to say, and then to share the
information. However, and here is what can damage the credibility of psychics, the information is
filtered through their belief systems, so the message may or may not come through intact. This is one
of the reasons that the information in the Bible may not completely contain Universal Truth - it may
have been influenced by the prevailing social norms of those olden days.

Given that all souls come from Source, we all have an inherent sixth sense and it is possible to develop
it. Doing so requires practice and dedication to become a clear channel, else we risk presenting less
than accurate information. Start becoming a clear channel through Spiritual decluttering. Doing this
work sets us firmly on the path of profound soul development and enables us to truly serve God, and
thereby humanity.

As t r al p r o je ct i on
Seeming to leave our physical body. This can occur when we are in a meditative state and therefore
more open to allowing our imagination to roam freely. It can also happen during a near death
experience to show us that life truly goes on after death of the physical body (a driving force in the
human struggle to recall our divine nature). In either case, the importance of asking our guide
questions about the experience cannot be overstated.
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Bi -l o c at i on o r ‘p h a s in g ’
Seeming to be in two different places and times at the same moment. This can occur if an individual
has attained a level of spiritual enlightenment that enables consciousness to separate from ego in
order to gain information (see What is 5th dimension state of being?). The individual is physically
present in one place and time and energetically present in another.

Th e gi ft of t on gu es
This is indeed a gift and has been widely misunderstood for centuries. It has been taught that when
this gift is bestowed upon an individual, she or he will speak words that sound like no language on
earth, yet seems familiar. Further, that a human interpreter is required to explain what God has said. In
truth, when this gift is enabled, the words of the speaker will be automatically interpreted by the guide
of each listener and transmitted telepathically to each listener in his or her preferred language.
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3.3 What is 5 t h dimension state of being?
This is a label for a level of spiritual self-awareness. Just as there are dimensions of the physical plane
of existence, so there are dimensions of the spiritual. See Characteristics of the dimensions of spiritual
awareness
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3.4 What are the spiritual laws?
This information may seem to be at odds with much of what is out there, but it is simple and
straightforward. It is free of the fear-based ideas that are currently widely accepted, and it presents
the concept of the profound equality of all souls. There is no such thing as sin. There is no judgment, no
criticism, no condemnation - all are free and able to experience whatever their soul needs in order to
find its way back to Source. It is important to note that each and every individual soul was created,
whole and complete, just before the instant of the big bang.
o All souls entering physical form have been granted free will.
o There is one soul for one physical body per lifetime, beginning approximately at birth and ending
approximately at death of the physical body.
o Whatever lessons are required for the soul’s ultimate spiritual advancement will be presented.
We will be tested, relentlessly. See What is karma?
o All souls entering into physical form are accompanied by, and entitled to communication with, a
personal companion/teaching guide.
o The guides abide by the wisdom and guidance of the Universal Intelligence and by the spiritual
laws.
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3.5 What is free will and how does it affect us?
Free will is the most important of the spiritual laws affecting humankind. This means that we have free
will to make our own choices - in fact, Planet Earth is often called the free will planet. But free will goes
far beyond simply being able to choose which action to take and when. It is the ability to choose what
to think, what to desire, what to feel and how to react; even more importantly, it is the freedom to
believe whatever we want to believe. God, the Universal Intelligence, the Creator, whatever you
choose to call Source, helps us maintain and even strengthen our belief systems even if they are not
based in Universal Truth. Whatever our beliefs, the Universe will allow us to experience, in physical,
the outcomes of them. That is free will in action, and that is partly why it is so important to be aware of

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our core belief systems: they are the foundation upon which our physical body rests, and upon which
our life experiences depend.

Free will is also our opportunity to choose between doing what we want and doing that which the
Universal Intelligence requires of us. There is only one way to find what God requires of us, and that is
to ask God, through our own personal teacher/companion guide. Only they have the Universal Truth of
what God requires of us as individuals. If we do not ask what is required of us, the information will not
be given (because it would interfere with our belief(s). If we rely upon another person to tell us what
God wants us to do, or upon information that is presented in a book (any book) or on television, or on
the internet, we will not find God’s Truth of what is required for us as individuals - we will find only
what someone else suggests; thus the importance of communicating with our own guide.

The flip side of the free will coin is unconditional love. We are all children of God and we are each
loved unconditionally at all times; therefore, we are never judged, criticised, or condemned by God or
his representatives. However, God does not excuse us from responsibility. He allows there to be
consequences for our choices and our thoughts, attitudes and emotions. The consequences may not
always be pleasant - they may even be painful - but we are entitled to communication, guidance,
teaching and unconditional love throughout our entire life experience, whether we think it is deserved.
However, just because we have free will does not mean that we are in charge: our lessons will be
presented according to God’s timing and in whatever way He sees as best for our spiritual growth and
he will test us relentlessly to make sure that the lessons are learned.

If this does not make sense, think of a toddler who is learning to walk. If the parent prevents the child
from falling, how will the child learn to get up? So it is with the Universal Intelligence. We are allowed
to make choices, to err, to fall, or to excel, to soar. Yes, we may be hurt - others may even be hurt by
our choices - but ultimately, all will benefit.
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3.6 Is there any such thing as miraculous healing?
Yes. There are three key components: (1) the Universal Intelligence initiates the healing process in
accordance with our desire to heal, (2) our faith - via the placebo effect - enables healing to occur (may
or may not be instantaneous) and (3) the source of the offer of healing must be credible, or at least
plausible, to us. A limiting factor is the spiritual Law of Free Will, as healing will not occur if we prefer
to remain unwell - yet another reason to become aware of our thoughts. Read about free will and how
it impacts our lives. See ability to heal others.
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3.7 How could God allow someone who was miraculously healed to become sick again
with the same diseas e?
It all comes down to free will. Since we are free to think whatever we wish, and since illness starts in
the thoughts, it is logical that repetitive negative thoughts will have a negative impact on our health.
While a physical disease may be healed, the thought patterns that contributed to its creation may not
change, thereby enabling the condition to recur.
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3.8 Is there hope that I won't develop any of the diseases that took my parents ' lives ?
Yes. While the current understanding of inherited risk factors says that we are born with an arbitrary
blend of the genes of each of our parents and of their parents before them and so on - and that it
cannot be changed without medical intervention, the newer understanding says that the blend is
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neither arbitrary nor static. The Universal Intelligence creates the blend to reflect the spiritual makeup
of the family unit and to meet the spiritual learning needs of the soul who is about to incarnate;
further, the blend adapts to reflect the spiritual condition of the soul as it progresses through life. In
other words, our genes are dynamic. So even if we are born with the genetic predisposition that goes
along with, for example, Alzheimer’s disease, as long as we do not have the thought patterns that go
along with it, the disorder will not develop - another good reason to become aware of - and reduce and
refine - our negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions.
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3.9 Why do we get sick / suffer injuries / have accidents?
Disease is not a punishment sent from God. See free will, unconditional love
Our ancestors had no way to explain why we get sick other than to blame the devil, or curses, or
sometimes even God. Modern medicine has provided us with the process of, and treatments and cures
for many conditions and disorders, but we still have no explanation for their cause. We know “what”
happens, but not why. I believe that our thoughts are the “why”. It is the mind-body-spirit connection
that creates illness, including chronic and communicable diseases, inherited and congenital conditions,
anniversary illnesses, and even injuries, whether accidental or intentional.

Th e Mi nd - B od y-S p ir i t co nn ec t i on
For every human illness, injury or accident, there is a spiritual component that comes from within self.
The “Spirit” and “Mind” components of a condition result from our thoughts, attitudes, emotions,
beliefs and desires (TAEBSD). It is these that make us who we are - they create our physical reality -
they either raise or lower our personal vibrational frequency.

You may be wondering how our thoughts could possibly affect our physical bodies. After all, our
thoughts are invisible and nobody hears them, right? While it is true that no other humans hear our
thoughts (unless we actually say them out loud) our body pays attention to them, and our body reacts
to them. How? Our central nervous system, housed within our spinal column, controls the various
areas of the body. Not only does it coordinate and control all of the body’s organs and structures; it
also transmits our thoughts throughout the body.

Each and every time we have a certain type of thought, like love or hate, joy or anger, or a particular
desire or belief, the message is transmitted via the spinal column and outward from there to the
vertebra responsible for the area of the body that is affected by the particular thought, attitude,
emotion, belief or desire. Sometimes the result of having a particular thought is almost immediate;
other times the outcome may not happen for days; and some habitual thought patterns can take years
to manifest in physical. Eventually though, our TAEBSD will catch up with us.

For example, the first cervical vertebra (C1) is linked to blood supply to the head, pituitary gland, facial
scalp bones, brain, inner and middle ear and sympathetic nervous system. The spiritual component of
problems with C1 is having belief systems that disagree with one another; for example: believing that a
person is or was a saint, yet knowing that she or he really is or was not. The effect of a constant flow of
energy of a belief creates imbalance in the vertebra, ultimately creating a number of physical ailments.

C oi nc id en ce ?
Many people get sick or have an accident at the same time of year, every year. Is it just a coincidence,
or is there something more meaningful at work? Incredible as it may seem, our unresolved issues can

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trigger physical symptoms and/or cause additional traumatic experience(s) around their anniversary
date.

Ho w c a n th is be ?
We do not pay attention to most of our thoughts, but trust me; we think about our unresolved issues
much of the time. We just keep replaying them, looking for some solution as to why our painful life
experiences happened. We know when they happened; we remember where we were, what we were
doing, others who were present or absent, anyone who helped or harmed, sounds, tastes and smells. It
should come as no surprise then, that as the anniversary date approaches, we begin to feel more
stressed than usual, without really knowing why. This additional stress creates an extra load on our
immune system, until we catch a virus or have a painful accident that we would normally be able to
avoid. This goes on year after year, and we soon start to dread that time of year.

B ad n ew s/ G o od ne w s
Unfortunately, until the inner conflict is resolved, we are doomed to repeat what has become a
seemingly uncontrollable thought pattern. Fortunately, we can change - we can resolve these issues
once and for all, by practicing meditation and doing the spiritual exercises in Section 9.

An ex amp l e f r om m y o wn l if e
When I was about 7 years old, I had a severe ear infection that resulted in mastoiditis. Surgery
removed the damaged portions and the infection healed, but the affected ear ended up with
“moderately severe” hearing loss. The condition was diagnosed as being untreatable and I remained
deaf for 35 years. This is the “Body” component of our health. It consists of our physical environment,
which is our bodies as well as the world in which we live.

In 1995, a health crisis motivated me to begin meditating, and that's when things started changing. I
met an amazing woman, Fay, who told me that along with eight energy treatments, restoration of my
hearing would be in direct relation to the amount of work I was prepared to do upon myself. I took this
information to heart and began to work on me, and Fay began work on my ear. A few weeks later,
after the full course of energy treatments and much belated grieving, forgiveness, meditation and soul
searching on my part, my hearing was restored. I call this miraculous healing because even though it
was not instantaneous, there was no medical intervention.

Once I realized that my deafness resulted from my own thoughts and desires, I resolved to learn
everything I could about the spiritual component not only of illness, but of healing. My deafness began
because the Universe cooperated with my wish to not hear my parents' constant arguing and my
sister's constant babbling, and it ended because of an even deeper desire to change my life.

Whenever my parents argued (which was almost every day), and whenever my sister babbled (which
was every day), I would think to myself, “Please oh please oh please stop!” This is the “Mind”
component of our health. It consists of our thoughts, attitudes and emotions.

The infection happened because I had no way to defend myself from the arguing and babbling, and I
hated having to hear it all. This desire to not hear is the “Spirit” component of our health. My deafness
occurred when the Spirit and the Mind worked together to provide the Body with the circumstances
under which my desire could be met. My desire came first, then the infection, then the mastoiditis and
surgery, then the deafness. Healing became possible once I realized that I no longer needed to not
hear the arguing and the babbling. I was able then to find forgiveness not only for my family’s chaos,
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but also for myself. After all, in truth, my deafness sprang from within myself, so I really did need to
forgive me.

While it is challenging to accept responsibility for our health, recognizing and changing our negative
thoughts, attitudes and emotions improves / heals / cures our physical ailments beyond belief. By
using our mind in conjunction with our will, and combining resolution of our inner conflicts with
medical treatment, we can release ourselves from needless suffering.

As we begin to accept the reality of the spirit-mind-body health connection, humanity will benefit in
many ways. It may take some time though. After all, no one likes to hear that their belief system is not
based in Truth, and no one likes to hear that they themselves have any negative thoughts, attitudes or
emotions. In the meantime, we will continue to learn and grow, and eventually, I believe, come to the
realization that our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires are co-creators of conditions on
Planet Earth. Then the real work begins.
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3.10 Why are there s ide effects from medications?
Each and every individual soul has a specific vibrational frequency (VF), set when the Universal
Intelligence created us. The VF changes according to the spiritual outcome of each lifetime lived. The
spiritual outcome is the net gain or loss that is made each time we either learn or do not learn the
lessons presented in a particular lifetime. (Needless to say, there is someone monitoring us, for we
simply do not have the vast intelligence required to administer such a program.) Our VF also fluctuates
in accordance with our daily TAEBSD . It is this daily fluctuation that impacts our health. So…why do we
suffer side effects from the very treatments and medications that are supposed to heal us?

Scenario: We receive a medical diagnosis for our ailment, along with a prescription to help us heal. The
prescription may be for medications or for steps to take to aid in the healing process. We start taking
the medicine and following the recommended actions, and then, just when we should be starting to
feel better, the side effects start. Maybe it is hives or a rash, maybe it is muscle aches and pains…could
be just about anything that happens after the medicine or treatment is introduced, and we
immediately blame that.

There is definitely something at work here, but I believe that the explanation involves more than just
the physical aspect. The Universal Intelligence explains it thusly: side effects also result from our
TAEBSD about the following:
o That which has been prescribed or given as treatment
o The person who gave us the prescription or treatment
o Our desire to stay sick or to get better
o Our beliefs about our ability to heal
o Our beliefs about whether we are worthy of being helped
o Our desire or lack thereof to cooperate with authority figures (like healthcare providers)

Since our TAEBSD are complex and intertwined, the above are just a few of the possibilities that can
affect our results. However, once we recognize the spiritual components of our side effects, we can
start healing from within by really resolving the issue. Then the treatments/medications can start to do
their job. Just think how our health could improve by doing this sort of work.
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3.11 Are evil spirits are c ausing our pain / disease / life problems?
No. This belief comes from having no other way to explain why bad things happen to good people.
Many go to great lengths to hire someone to expel the demon(s) and will pay huge amounts of money.
The scientific method brought us modern medicine, which has provided humanity with many
treatments and cures, but no explanation beyond their physical cause, of just why they happen. While
it is challenging to accept responsibility for our thoughts, I am here to tell you that recognizing - and
changing - our negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions can improve our physical health beyond
belief, especially when done in conjunction with medicine.
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3.12 Why does God allow so -called evil p eople to come to power?
Adolph Hitler serves as an example of someone widely regarded as evil, who rose to a high position of
power. As he reported to G. Ward Price after World War I, Hitler was a soldier in the trenches during
the war. He claimed to have heard a voice telling him firmly to "Get up and go over there", so he did. A
few moments later, a shell burst over the trench he had just left. Had he remained, he would have
been killed along with the soldiers who remained there. So, had the Universe not intervened, World
War II might have been avoided.

This raises the question of why God could allow someone like Hitler to come to power. While we may
not be able to fully understand all the reasons, we must at least allow for the possibility that the
Universe knew that Hitler's eventual choices would provide for the creation and/or resolution of
karmic situations for millions of souls. Such people as Hitler are instruments of change. Their words
and deeds fulfill a vital service in the evolution of humanity, by showing us, graphically, that our
thoughts really do matter. How long will we delay accepting the truth that it is we ourselves who must
change - not just one individual or group - we ourselves, all of us? If we change, society changes.

It is important to note that there is no such thing as an evil person. There are negative thoughts that
cause negative behaviours, but the soul inside the person is not evil. We are all capable of great
kindness or great cruelty, depending on our life experiences and the choices we make. The Universe
knows each of us intimately, at soul level, and knows what is needed both for the individual, as well as
humanity as a whole, to advance spiritually.

We are on the brink of another vast learning opportunity, and there will be choices to be made. Will
we choose to side with kindness, generosity, compassion? Will we choose to side with intolerance,
fear, greed, hatred? It is our choice. We can either be an instrument of love, or of hatred. We can use
the upcoming challenges to learn and improve ourselves, or as an excuse to behave poorly. But choose
we must, for as Elie Wiesel said: "We must take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim.
Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” See more Brainy quotes about neutrality.
See Why don’t our guides keep us from coming to harm?
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3.13 Is there a magic pill that would enable us to heal all diseases and stop, or at
least slow, the aging process?
While it is possible to clear the negative thought patterns at the root of disease, it is very difficult to
stop the negative thoughts that happen every day, that affect the aging process. The negative thoughts
seem to occur without any effort on our part, yet they do occur. Try waiting in a long line-up without
being impatient, or watching a video without judging someone.

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At this point in time, I have no proof that it is possible to be in human form and be permanently and
completely free of negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions, but does that mean we should stop
trying to improve ourselves? Of course not, but we can avoid much unhappiness by honouring our
need for rest, rejuvenation and joy.
o Feeling tired? Ask for help. Allowing others to help gives them a chance to make a meaningful
contribution. Of course this could mean having to share everyone’s praise of our efforts, but is it
not worth it?
o Feeling over-stressed? Allow self the dignity of taking some time to pause and reflect. Of course
this could mean not getting everything done, but what is more important … being healthy … or
having everything “perfect”?
o Too busy to feel joy? Set aside some time to honour yourself by doing something that is just for
you. Of course this could mean having to let others fend for themselves for a short time, but why
not give it a try?

Doing these things strengthens us so that we can better be of service to others. Running ourselves
down may make us unable to help anyone at all. Remember that when on an airplane, passengers are
advised to secure their own oxygen mask before assisting others. So it is with life: make sure that we
ourselves are happy and healthy; then we may assist others without feeling overburdened.
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3.14 What are the chakras and what role do they play in our healing?
The chakras are energetic expressions of our current spiritual / emotional / physical state, emitted at
our personal vibrational frequency. They play no role in our healing.
Table 6 The chakras

Physical
Chakra What it reflects Key word
representation
Zenith Ability to maintain trust that all is well Faith Cord
Crown Desire for spiritual enlightenment Seek Drawbridge
Brow Willingness to trust that which cannot be seen Observe Door
Throat Desire for two-way communication Communicate Gateway
Heart Ability to adapt to life’s changing rhythms Frequency Pendulum
Solar plexus Willingness to process life lessons Digest Mill
Sacral Desire to release that which is no longer needed Cleanse Throne
Root Health of foundational beliefs Support Pillar

C h a k ra s and th e au r a
The energetic emissions from each chakra register as colour and create what is known as our aura. The
emissions swirl and blend, similar to smoke, to create our aura’s overall colour. The emissions result
from, and vary in accordance with, our thoughts, attitudes and emotions. (Some people have been
given the ability to see auras.) The chakras of other intelligent life forms (plants, other animals and
even the planet itself) vary in type, number, purpose and capability, and are also visible to some
people some of the time. Read more
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3.15 Do physic al ailments come from not hearing our thoughts , or from having
negative emotions?
Both. Our negative thoughts create our negative emotions, and together they lower our vibrational
frequency. They can get us stuck in a feedback loop, whereby the worse our thoughts, the worse we
feel. Injuries and illness can then occur.
Sounds like: "I wish I had their (money or luck or fame or family or whatever)" and just wallowing in it
instead of taking positive action. Much illness and injury can be avoided by recognizing what such
thoughts actually mean, and then working to change them.
Actual meaning: The statement above reveals that we think God does not love us as much as someone
else, or that God is punishing us for some unknown reason, or that we are such a horrible person that
we do not deserve anything nice. These thoughts are judgment, criticism and condemnation - not only
of self, but of our Creator. They may also express jealousy or show that we are thinking like a victim.
Change the pattern: Meditate to recognize and come to peace knowing that we all have unique gifts,
talents and challenges. We are all here to experience certain life lessons. The kinder we are to
ourselves, the more likely we will be able to live up to our soul's potential.
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4.About souls
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4.1 What is a soul?
Each soul is a ‘drop of light’ that is an element of Source. Through its travels and its experiences in
material form, it develops personalities that will ultimately be set aside in order that it may return to
Source with complete understanding of unconditional love. See Section 11.

A soul intertwines with the life form in which it resides for each incarnation. Access to our soul’s
experience, knowledge and wisdom is usually unavailable to us, and that is one of the many reasons
we need to rely upon our guide.

There are numberless trillions of souls in the universe. We were all created at the same instant, at
what is commonly called The Big Bang. Many have come into physical form, while others have not yet
done so. Groups of souls inhabit each galaxy in the universe to experience the lessons provided by that
particular galaxy. Our galaxy, the Milky Way, has a fellowship of leaders who, by virtue of their vast
travels and experiences, embody unconditional love and possess profound wisdom. They exist in both
the spiritual and physical realms, and oversee the development of the souls engaged in the cycle of
reincarnation here. These leaders guide us and ensure that we experience whatever our soul needs for
its ultimate benefit.
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4.2 What is an old so ul?
This is what people call someone who always seems to do the right thing, who seems to be a source of
strength in difficult times or who seems to be very wise. Some people say it about themselves (see
ego), while others may try to escape responsibilities by calling themselves young. While some souls
may have come into human form more times than others, we are all the same age. Since our soul
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memories are mostly veiled from us when in human form, we are all capable of anything, positive or
negative, given the right circumstances.
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4.3 What is my soul name and what is my soul's purpose?
At the moment of creation (the Big Bang), we were each given a name, our soul name. Knowing that
we have a name can give us a sense of belonging to something larger than ourselves. Our Creator
identifies each of us as individual parts of itself.

The guides know our soul name; however they use it only in extraordinary circumstances. In fact, on a
day-to-day basis, they rarely address us by name at all - their communications sound like our own
thoughts. Rest assured though, if they need to get our attention, they can call our name (our current
earth name) so loudly (in our thoughts) that it sounds as if someone actually said our name out loud.
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4.4 What am I her e to learn?
There are many lessons to be learned during the course of one's life. Besides learning to love
unconditionally, we are here to have experiences, and to go "home" with no regrets (see forgiveness).
And before you say, "Oh, I already do love unconditionally," be sure that you know the full meaning of
unconditional love. See Section 11
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4.5 Why are we here?
It is an age-old question: Why are we here? The Universal Intelligence explains it thusly: In our native
spirit form, we travel the physical universe observing the many wonders therein. As spirit, we are able
to move in and out of physical matter at will to experience the laws governing all matter, for example
the laws of gravity, of motion, of cause and effect and so on. That is, until we enter into physical form
on Planet Earth. Here things are a little different. Here there are additional laws with which to contend.
One is that there is only one way in - physical birth - and only one way out - physical death. See Section
11. While there are countless other planets in the physical universe with various life forms into which
souls may enter, they are a topic for another time.
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4.6 Will I ever find my soul mate?
Many people spend a lot of time bemoaning the fact that they have yet to meet their soul mate. They
live in a state of impatient frustration, and worry that they will not - or cannot or - be happy until they
do. Although it may not seem like it, the good news is that there is no such thing. The Universal
Intelligence created us as individual souls, whole and complete. As humans we may feel incomplete,
but that is a reflection of unresolved inner conflicts. Consider this though; if we wait for someone to
complete us, are we not placing huge expectations on that person?

When we feel very connected to certain other souls, it is because there are specific lessons to be
learned or taught (see karma). We can also feel connected if we recognize the person “at soul level”, as
being someone we know without having actually met. Everything about them can seem eerily familiar.
This is a member of our soul family. There are countless soul families, each of which has a purpose to
fulfill in a particular field of interest; for example, education, healing, artistic expression, revolution,
etc. These families formed when souls with that particular interest, and similar vibrational frequency,
gathered to help one another express their field of interest in physical reality. It is members of our soul

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family who greet us upon our return home from an incarnation. Each soul family is overseen by
numerous entities known as archangels.
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4.7 What belief sys tems do I have that prevent me from moving forward in life?
This question is best asked while in a centred state. The answer is likely complicated and may take
several meditation sessions to fully comprehend. By all means, take pencil and paper with you into
meditation. Learn about interpreting meditation and dream symbols. Learn about core belief systems.

Even a seemingly simple belief system like, "I will not be complete until I find my soul mate” can
prevent us from ever feeling wholly complete, so just imagine how believing that, "I caused something
terrible to happen", could keep us stuck. For example, we might constantly experience poor service,
shoddy repairs, cancelled or missed appointments, accidents, injuries, equipment failures, etc. This
could well be the result of believing that we are guilty of something. Since guilt assumes responsibility,
we learn that guilt requires punishment, and so that is exactly what we experience. The Universal
Intelligence cooperates with our beliefs, even if we are not consciously aware of them.
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4.8 How can I get past the guilt for causing a motor vehic le accident that took
someone's life?
In the hours before the accident, my thoughts kept telling me to linger over breakfast (I didn't because I
was in a hurry to be finished), then to have a nice hot bath instead of a shower (I didn't because I just
didn't feel like waiting for the tub to fill), then to do a little window shopping before my appointment (I
didn't because I just didn't feel like wasting any time) - well, you get the picture. I just got right into my
vehicle and headed out, ignoring my inner voice. As I was making a turn, a cyclist slammed into my
vehicle, was critically injured and died. If I hadn't been there, it wouldn't have happened. Does God see
me as a murderer and will he condemn me to hell?

Instead of an answer to this very difficult question, here are some questions to ponder:
o Are you sure that your inner voice wasn't letting you know that something out of the ordinary
was going to happen - giving you a warning, so to speak?
o Are you sure that you weren't being used as an instrument to help the cyclist along his or her
soul's journey?
o Do you know what you are to learn from this experience?
o Do you know what was required for the cyclist's life experience
o Do you know what was required for the cyclist's family's experience?
o Do you think that God didn't know what was going to happen?
o Do you think that God didn't know the likelihood of your responding to your inner voice?
o Are you sure that the cyclist did not intend to self-harm? (How can we ever be sure of what
another person is thinking? Just because the cyclist's family members may say that the person
loved life and would never abandon them willingly, does not mean that they knew what was in
her or his thoughts.)
o Are you sure the so-called victim in this accident didn't receive similar warnings from his or her
inner voice? Do you think that God didn't know the likelihood of him or her responding to it?

Given all these unknowns, holding onto guilt can almost seem like an ego trip. Yes, you played a role in
the experience, but so did the cyclist and so did God. If this experience has helped you to be more
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aware of the importance of paying attention to your inner voice, then God's purpose for you has been
furthered. Perhaps the most important thing to do to get past the guilt is to forgive - not only yourself,
but the cyclist and God. See Is it a sin to take someone's life?
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4.9 What are the Akashic Records? Who has access to them?
The Akashic records contain all that has occurred in this version of the Universe since the Big Bang,
along with all that has been thought, felt, spoken, and/or done by all components of the Universal
Intelligence, including souls. See memory to learn how the records are created.

Only the guides can access the records. It is they who provide us with information from the records
when we are seeking to move forward spiritually. The information is not recorded in an Earth
language, so the guides interpret and convey the information to us. Since the guides have no ego, they
will allow us to think we are doing it ourselves even though we are not (see free will), so it is important
to be in a centred state and to ask specific questions designed to find Universal Truth.
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5.About life, death, reincarnation and karma
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5.1 Why do souls enter human form?
We are sent in to experience and to learn. See Section 11
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5.2 Is there any such thing as a near death experience?
Yes. This has been happening for as long as humans have existed. The experience is provided to show
us that (1) the soul continues to live even if the physical body does not and (2) even in such a profound
experience, our guides adhere to the spiritual Law of Free Will. If we believe in hell, they will present
visions of hell. If we believe that our deceased loved ones are waiting for us on the other side, that is
who will appear to us. If, instead, we simply have an open mind and trust that we are loved, we will be
presented with Truth in an atmosphere of all-encompassing unconditional love. Near-death
experiences created the need for spiritual expression, which led to the development of religion.
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5.3 What happens when we die?
We return to our natural state by shedding our physical body and become, once again, energy. We
may achieve attunement with the Universal Intelligence. We have been taught that God judges us
when we go Home and either rewards us by allowing us to spend eternity in heaven, or punishes us
with eternal damnation. Nothing could be further from the Truth though. When we go Home, we are
entitled to observe our life (with the help of our companion/teacher guide) to see the truth, the
Universal Truth, of whether we learned the lessons that were presented for us. If we learned them, we
will be sent back again for the next level of study, or to serve as spiritual teachers. If we did not learn
the lessons, we will of course be sent in to try, try again. This is not punishment - it is simply learning. It
is the way of growth. It is the way of unconditional love.
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5.4 What is reincarnation?

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Reincarnation is the cycle of a soul entering into human form approximately at birth, remaining until
the physical body dies, leaving for a time and then repeating the process innumerable times. Inherent
in this idea is that the Universal Intelligence created all souls - humans create the physical body only.

All souls desiring to make the plunge into physical existence are prepared beforehand by learning
about certain spiritual laws to which they as physical beings will be subject.

Many believe that the soul is born into human form time and time again in an attempt to attain
perfection, and that by reaching perfection the soul will earn the right to no longer incarnate; however,
the Universal Intelligence says that there is no such right since there is no such thing as perfection. The
newer information says that having once entered into human form, the soul becomes subject to
experiencing a vast array of required life experiences over many, many lifetimes. This is one of the
reasons that Planet Earth is likened to a school.

It is not the soul who chooses whether, when and where to reincarnate, but Source. When the
appropriate learning conditions for the soul arise, the soul is sent in. This may be five minutes, five
years or five centuries past the soul's previous incarnation, so we cannot assume that our deceased
loved one(s) will remain "at home" waiting for us to die and then join them for all eternity. All matters
concerning birth (and rebirth) into human form are decided by Source and our guides. See Section 11
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5.5 If reinc arnation is real, why can't I remember any of my past lives?
While there is a veil placed over our soul memory when we enter an incarnation, portions of it may be
available to us when we first enter an incarnation. As we become more enmeshed in our new life
though, we begin to accept the current reality as the only reality. One exception to this is those who
suffered life-ending trauma in a prior incarnation. If you have Netflix, check out “Surviving Death -
Episode 6 Of 6 - Reincarnation”.

Many condemn themselves for being unable to remember a past life, but this is simply not within
human control. However, if we have a true desire to learn about self, our guide can share certain
information with us to help us advance spiritually. We may also use past life regression/progression
through hypnosis, but we run the risk of being influenced by the hypnotist. Meditation as taught by the
Universal Intelligence can be more reliable but it is always imperative to be clear of desires and
preconceived ideas, for our guides cooperate with them in accordance with the spiritual Law of Free
Will.
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5.6 What is k arma?
Karma is a dynamic system of checks and balances, created by the spiritual/physical entity “Halaliel” to
assist souls in their efforts toward returning to Source. Our actions in life show that our thoughts,
attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires are either in or out of alignment with unconditional love.
Karma (quantum entanglement) is the sum total of life lessons needed to produce realignment. Karma
is not punishment or retribution, since human experience is considered by our Creator to be learning -
not good, not bad - just learning.

Note: Karmic debt we owe to others (and self) is forgiven as we treat others (and self) with mercy and
grace rather than anger, greed, hatred, resentment or revenge. We can release karmic debt owed to us
by others in the same way.

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This is an often immediate outcome of doing a good deed for the wrong reasons, or for being
intentionally unkind. Then we wonder why we suffered an injury, or had a nasty disagreement. This is
our guide’s way to let us know that our thoughts are out of alignment with unconditional love.

Ju s t if ic a ti o n
We tend to use our beliefs to justify committing unkind or even criminal acts. When we hold onto
resentment and seek revenge against someone, we somehow feel justified in doing so. When we
understand completely why we want revenge and call it by its real name, we begin to let go of it - we
begin to change the pattern and start to forgive - both others and ourselves.

Acc ep t r e sp o n si bil i ty
Many believe that past life experiences cause our problems in this life, sometimes even including
health or relationship issues. To blame our current situation on some past life limits our potential for
change and growth, and makes victims of us “Oh, I cannot change that pattern - it is from a previous
lifetime”. The newer teaching says that change is always possible. Accepting that we are given all of the
tools and every bit of information necessary for our growth in our current lifetime enables us to make
great spiritual strides forward, when we choose.

Gen e ti c d i so rd e rs an d b i rth is su es
Birth abnormalities and genetic disorders or sudden death syndrome are not necessarily the result of
so-called bad karma: souls enter human form to reflect the spiritual condition of the family, in
conjunction with the individual's learning requirements. Even if in a lifetime we committed mass
murder, the Universal Intelligence takes all our lifetimes and all that we have not yet learned into
consideration when sending us into an incarnation. We could be sent in to become a physician to
minister to those in need, just as easily as we could be sent in to become one who is in need. Only the
Universal Intelligence knows what is truly required for our spiritual advancement. See required life
experiences

C h a ng i ng th e k ar mi c c ycl e
Strive toward forgiveness, patience, tolerance. Seek Universal Truth. Forsake greed, resentment, the
desire for revenge, self-righteousness. build self-esteem

Who is owed the karmic debt in this scenario?

Scenario: For no apparent reason, someone harms (or helps) our loved one. Since karmic situations
arise only between the individuals directly involved, neither case involves us. Our loved one’s karma is
theirs to meet, for better or for worse.

How can we tell if someone has paid a karmic debt owed to us?
Scenario: For no apparent reason, someone does something really kind and generous for us, and there
is no way for us to show them our appreciation. Rather than feeling an obsessive debt of gratitude, the
newer understanding says that we may go in peace, trusting that all is well. A karmic debt has been
repaid.

How can we tell if we have paid a karmic debt?

Scenario: Someone harms us either physically, emotionally, or even economically. We have repeatedly
reviewed the experience and forgiven the offender for their actions, yet feel that we should somehow
have been able to protect ourselves. There is no way to prevent such offenses, but spiritual
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enlightenment can help us to recognize them. Know that in this situation, a karmic debt has been
repaid. Go in peace and trust that all is well; the situation has been resolved.

How can we tell if we have incurred a karmic debt?

Scenario: If we habitually treat others without regard for them or their feelings or needs without
feeling remorse, karma is accruing against us. Resolving the issues causing us to behave in such ways
will help to prevent further accrual, at least from this particular pattern.
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5.7 Why do some people I meet seem so familiar to me?
This is a recognition, at soul level, of someone with whom we have been associated in a past life.
Sometimes even the person's words and mannerisms can seem familiar. Like déjà vu, the feeling is
given to show us that we are in the right place at the right time, and that everything is okay. Can also
indicate that there are lessons to be learned or taught.
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5.8 What is a walk -in?
There is no such thing. It is wishful thinking that a highly developed soul can take over when the
original owner/inhabitant gives up on life. The owner may give up, but the incarnation does not end
until the required life experiences have been met. The individual is here to stay as long as the physical
life form is viable: “One soul, one body per lifetime, beginning approximately at birth and ending
approximately at death”. (Besides - when we are at home we are all highly developed souls. It is only
when we are in physical form that we forget our true nature.)
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6.About religion and sin
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6.1 Why do religious cults exist?
For every religious cult, there is an individual who has come along and said, “I will show you the way,
the one way”, and a corresponding group of people only too ready to jump on board. Few of us dare to
trust our own inner voice, so we happily surrender our power, our free will, to that person in the belief
that their inner voice is somehow stronger / better / wiser / more reliable than ours. We tell ourselves
that they have a connection with the Creator that we are lacking, and any direction that comes
through her or him must be divine will. This eagerness to follow is, I believe, a fine spiritual quality, but
it is misdirected. It would be far better to follow our own inner voice - our own spiritual guide - than
another human. After all, how can any human being possibly know what is best for another individual?
How can handing over our power lead to anything but our ultimate victimization?

The instant we choose to follow someone other than our guide, we set up the conditions under which
dictators thrive. We open ourselves to being told what to do, how to do it and when to do it - and, of
course, we have to pay them to provide us with this ‘direction’. What great incentive to change
ourselves! Of course we still need to abide by the laws of our society, but communicating with the
Universal Intelligence to find the Truth about the questions we have, will enable us to find what is right
for us, what is best for our soul’s development. Because of the spiritual Law of Free Will though, the
Universe is obliged to tell us what we expect to hear. Therefore, we need instruction in order to be
able to tell the difference between our human truth and Universal Truth. Since we are not taught how
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to do this as young children, we must learn the skills later in life. This workbook contains the
information needed to do just that. See meditation and How can I be sure I am receiving Universal
Truth?
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6.2 Is it true that I need a c hurch leader to intervene on my behalf with God?
No. If you can hear your thoughts, you can hear your guide, who is one of God's divine representatives.
Learn to meditate the new way.
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6.3 Is there a difference between crime and sin?
Yes. Crime is the breaking of human laws, and so-called sin is the breaking of divine laws. The human
laws defining criminal behaviour and the legal consequences for breaking those laws are evolving over
time. For example, where the punishment for stealing a loaf of bread used to require public shaming
and torture of some sort, it has softened considerably in many parts of the world as humanity evolves.

Likewise, we now understand more about the spiritual reasons for our behaviours, that is, actions we
take against ourselves or others occur as a result of our negative thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs
and desires. While these may have been considered sinful in the past, the newer understanding of
spiritual laws reveals that such actions are not cause for us to be judged, criticised, and condemned.
The Universal Intelligence views all human experience as learning, so logically there can be no such
thing as sin in our Creator’s eyes.

We are God’s children, and God bestows the gift of free will upon us as we enter human form. We
have been taught that humans are born into sin because of Eve's and Adam's choice to do what they
wanted instead of what God had asked; however, just like Adam and Eve, free will gives us the
opportunity to choose to follow God's guidance, or to ignore it. There is no sin in either choice. Every
time we make a choice, we are using this gift from God. Every choice we make comes down to this: we
choose to do as we wish, or we choose to do as God asks. So-called punishment for our, shall we say,
less than positive choices comes as a logical outcome of our feelings of guilt or shame, with which our
Creator is spiritually bound to cooperate by providing logical consequences.
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6.4 Is it a sin to take someone's life?
No. While murder is a criminal act, calling it a sin is another matter. Many believe that abortion, birth
control, murder, self-harm and euthanasia are sins, crimes against God. Why? Because the Bible says
so. When the Bible was written, it seemed very important for humans to be fruitful and multiply, which
also ties in with the Bible’s condemnation of homosexuality. Interestingly, the Bible says it is ok to
murder, so long as it is one of God's "enemies"; but since we are all God's children, logically, how can
any of us be his enemy?

The Universal Intelligence is in charge of which soul goes into which existence and when, and our
Creator knows when (and why) an individual will leave an incarnation - however short or long that
lifetime may be. The Universe knows when a woman becomes pregnant the likelihood of her carrying
that pregnancy through to completion. Why would our Creator allow a pregnancy to begin, knowing it
would end in abortion, if he were merely going to condemn the woman to burn in hell, and the unborn
child to be prevented from entering any future incarnations?

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If birth control and euthanasia go against God's will, then who can say that prolonging life is in
agreement with God's will? Death is every bit as much a part of life as living - only God knows how long
he wants a person to live. If one believes that God wants medicine to prolong or protect life, would it
not follow that He might also want medicine to help take away life? Likewise, if one believes that God
wants no human intervention in preventing pregnancy, would it not follow that He would want no
human intervention in prolonging or protecting life? The point is that we will never know what God
really wants for us personally, unless and until we ask for his Truth, wait around long enough to hear
his answer and then do as he has asked.
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6.5 Is homosexuality a sin?
No. We have been taught that homosexuality is a sin, but since God created each and every one of us,
and since it is the Universal Intelligence who decides which soul is sent into which existence to learn
which lessons, how can any existence be sinful? Is it labeled sin because people believe that our sexual
preference is a matter of choice? Is it because homosexuality goes against the belief that God expects
us to procreate? Is it because the Bible condemns homosexuality? The Bible condones slavery - does
that mean that we should keep slaves?

People will use almost any reason to hate those who are different. The important thing is that no one
is ever judged, criticised, or condemned by God, for God knows all of the circumstances that create a
particular experience for an individual. We are all children of God, and loved unconditionally. There is
nothing wrong in having a loving relationship with another consenting adult - no matter what the race,
creed, colour, religion, gender, sexual preference or any other criteria humans use to distinguish one
from another. We are all children of God, and loved unconditionally.
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6.6 How can I know which foods to eat and which ones to avoid?
There are many mixed messages out there about what to eat and what not to eat, which supplements
to take and which ones to avoid, what to drink and what not to drink - and the list changes all the time!
The Universal Intelligence teaches that our spiritual diet is at least as important as the physical food we
eat. No physical food that we eat can be a sin or a crime against God. The many restrictions that are
placed upon humanity are placed upon us not by God, but by humans and their desire to control
others. To enjoy good physical health, eat a spiritual diet that is low in negative thoughts, attitudes and
emotions and rich in positive ones. And here is something for vegetarians to consider: Plants are
intelligent life forms, so ripping a vegetable out of the ground is every bit as cruel as killing an animal -
their cries are just at a higher (inaudible to us) frequency. Unfortunately, there is no escape from the
fact that life must consume death in order to live. Check out this video, “Smarty Plants
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7.About the devil, hell and negative energies
For those who wish to believe that negative energies actually exist and actually influence us or harm
us, please know this:

I almost - almost - wish you were right, because it is much easier to blame our woes on someone or
something that is seemingly beyond our control. The Truth is though, this amazing universe provides all

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that we seek, and if we wish to believe in something, Source will confirm it for us. This is the very
foundation of the spiritual law of free will.

It is up to us, we ourselves, to stop blaming, and come to accept that the only negative energies in the
world, in the universe, are within our own thoughts. Believing that we are not responsible for our
experiences makes us into victims... victims ripe for the picking by those people with nefarious
intentions like greed - for money, power, fame, followers, and the like. Perpetuating this out-dated
belief helps humanity not at all, except of course for those who would capitalize on it.

Withholding or hiding this information serves humanity not at all... and that would be evil. If you
disagree with the information in my website, that's ok. Censoring the information from others though?
Now that would be the stuff of book-banning or -burning... and that would be 'evil'. The Truth is that
the belief in negative energies perpetuates the woes facing humanity. It merely delays the inevitable
decision society must take, that we must put concerted efforts into helping those who need help the
most.
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7.1 Is there any such thing as the devil?
No. The only evil or negativity in the Universe is in the negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions of
souls in physical form. The idea of the devil came from our need to explain the reason that bad things
happen. Bad things do happen, all the time; however, this is not because of an evil entity or force.
Natural disasters occur as a result of the laws of physics; unkind acts occur as a result of the negative
thoughts, attitudes and emotions of our fellow humans. Getting in nature’s way could be avoided,
were we to seek guidance before choosing where to build or live. Avoiding getting in the way of
someone’s ill will is a little more complex. The important thing to remember though is that ill will is the
result of human negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions. The moment we cast blame instead of
accepting responsibility for our words and actions, we become powerless victims.
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7.2 Is it possible to accidentally receive the mark of the beast, namely the number
666 and be sent to h ell for it?
No. First of all, let it be said that the mark of the beast is not any of the COVID-19 vaccines, nor is it any
vaccine at all.

The mark of the beast will be a physical sign of our conscious choice to surrender to a person who
embodies evil. It may not feel like we are making a choice, yet that is exactly what we do when we
decide to abandon reason and instead follow this entity who embodies the most despicable aspects of
human thought and behaviour. This person will want us to be sick, weak, frightened, desperate, angry
and confused, so that we will be easier to manipulate.

As children of God, and make no mistake, we are all children of God, is it not our responsibility to
overcome these base tendencies of fear, hatred and resentment?

We must watch for and beware of anyone in the public eye who embodies deceit. She or he will lie to
confuse us and make us unable and unwilling to tell the difference between fact and fiction. The beast
will intentionally plant seeds of doubt to make us afraid to trust any source of information but her or
him. The beast will lie about and cast blame on those who would help us, she or he will steal from
those of us who are easily tricked or misled, act as if the law does not apply to her or him, spew hateful
ideas designed to make us angry and to hate anyone who is different, pretend to be a poor defenseless
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victim yet bully those who would help us, claim to be our saviour yet do nothing to actually help us,
and most of all, the beast will pretend to serve us with undying loyalty to make us willing to sacrifice
anyone/ anything/ everything that we know and love in order to support her or him, even if it means
our poverty, suffering or death.

The beast represents the darkest, most negative aspects of human behaviour. There are many leaders,
in both the public and private sectors, who are selfish, self-aggrandizing, greedy, power-hungry,
murderous, authoritarian - and worse. There are also plenty of regular people, just like you and me,
with those same behaviours. Since we all have negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions, we could all
be considered to have received the mark. Any soul in human form has the potential to behave in
negative ways (see free will).

Whether there is a physical mark to show our choice, since God hears our every thought, there is no
way to escape being held accountable. The main result will be a clear need to continue our soul
development through further incarnations into physical form. We will remain stuck in the cycles of
karma and reincarnation until we learn that each of us is an emanation of the Universal
Intelligence.and loved unconditionally.
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7.3 Is there such a place as hell?
No. There is no need for such a place because there is nothing a soul can do to cause our Creator to
banish us; after all, the worse the crime, the greater the need to receive unconditional love. Rather
than punishment, souls continue their learning journey by attending spiritual classes before and after
each incarnation in physical form. We may wish for those who have harmed us to suffer eternally (see
revenge), but that is simply out of step with the unconditional love.
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7.4 Can negative energies and entities harm us?
No. Curses, negative entities, ghosts, hobgoblins and other such figures exist only in the negative
thoughts of humans. We may be frightened at the thought of them, but since they do not have
physical form, they have no power over us - only our fear has power. The same holds true for
witchcraft, black magic, voodoo-ism, and curses (or blessings for that matter). Additionally, vampires
and/or re-animated dead people do not, in fact cannot, exist - dead is dead. When a physical entity
dies, the soul who inhabited it leaves to continue on its journey, to its next incarnation. It does not /
cannot re-enter because, just as we cannot turn rust into iron, dead tissue cannot be re-animated, at
least not yet.
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7.5 Have you been visited by a 'spirit' and felt frightened by the ex perience?
These entities are the spiritual guides. They are messengers of the Universal Intelligence. We each
have at least one guide with us at all times, 24/7. Sometimes they make their presence known, and
these are opportunities for us to raise our consciousness and gain access to profound understanding.

Next time it happens, instead of just being afraid and telling the entity to go away or doing some ritual
to make it go away, try asking some questions: "How can I help you?" "What is your name?" "Why
have you made your presence known to me?" "Do you have a message for me?" If the answer is yes,
ask for the message. After asking, pay attention to your thoughts, for it is there that the answer will
appear.
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7.6 Can someone s teal my energy? Can someone give me their s?
No and no. The human body is a closed environment. Besides our own thoughts, attitudes, emotions,
beliefs and desires, only the Universal Intelligence and our guide can affect our energy. This may be
hard to believe, but what this really means is that we are safe and protected.

Thoughts we have and emotions we feel in someone else’s presence are not caused by them. We can
be afraid of others, or be angry with them, but these thoughts and feelings come from within
ourselves. Blaming the mere presence of someone else for making us feel bad or weak, angry or afraid
- or even happy - can make us into a victim.

Giving so much power to another can only lead to negative life experiences, yet we do it all the time.
Whenever we blame someone for our having a bad day, we are holding onto negative thoughts about
them. If we praise someone because we are having a great day, we have given away our ability to feel
good within ourselves.

No matter what is happening around us, we need to take responsibility for ourselves and recognize
that we are in charge of our thoughts, attitudes and emotions.

Since the human body is a closed environment and only the Universal Intelligence can affect our
energy, it follows that if we receive an energy treatment from someone, it is not their energy being
used. They are simply the middle man between the Universe and us. The Universe complies with their
desire to be of service, and with our desire to receive assistance. If the healer believes that a certain
level of energy is required, that is what the Universe will send - whether it is the correct amount and
whether it is beneficial (see free will).
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7.7 What are the "So ns of Darkness"?
This is a biblical reference to some humans. It infers that some of us (Sons of Light - the good ones)
come from God, while the rest of us (Sons of Darkness - the bad ones) come from Evil. The newer
understanding is that this is a reference to human behaviors, and not to our actual nature. In Truth, we
are all children of the Universal Intelligence; within each of us is the capacity for great good (light) and
great evil (darkness). Because of free will, we can, each of us, choose to behave well or poorly, given
the circumstances of the moment.
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8.About the end times
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8.1 Will Jesus come alone to save humanity?
Maybe. Matters of birth and rebirth into human form are in God's hands. If the Universal Intelligence
sends the souls who were Jesus and the disciples back into human form during this time in history,
either as males or females, they will each live life and learn lessons. When the time is right for each of
them, they will be presented with the choice to do what God asks of them. The choice will be theirs to
make, for God does not force anyone with free will to do anything. Others will also be called who may
or may not have served in a similar way in previous lifetimes. Each may choose to serve - or not.

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It is fairly well-known that 2,000 years ago, Jesus surrendered his free will to God. In all likelihood,
some or all of the disciples made the same commitment. If they did, and if they were given a similar
choice in this time period, it may well strike a chord within them that would inspire them to choose to
serve once again. See Section 11
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8.2 Are we living in the end times?
Haiku 5-7-5: End times
End Times (or End of Days) refers to prophesies of a time of God’s
judgment of humans following a period of wars, famine, pestilence,
terrorism; a time of utter despair. Many believe that we are living in
those times, and current events suggest that this is so.

Is th i s p u n ish me n t f r om G od ?
God, the Universal Intelligence, is energy - vastly intelligent, creative,
responsive energy. This energy registers in us as unconditional love.
We are emanations of it. As unconditional love, the Universal
Intelligence does not, in fact cannot, judge, criticise, or condemn us.
Therefore there will be no punishment from God. In fact, it is God’s
divine representatives who will intervene to prevent the earth from being utterly destroyed.

Is th i s p u n ish me n t f r om th e d ev il ?
Will it be the devil who unleashes the horrific things predicted for us? No, because there is no such
thing as the devil. What there are though, are human negative thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs
and desires. No one and nothing except ourselves makes us do the things we do - we have free will,
and nothing is stronger than that. We cannot blame anyone else - including the devil - for the events
that are unfolding, because they arise from our choices. There will be no punishment from the devil.

Tu mu l tu ou s ch an g e f o r h u m a ni t y ?
Besides describing horrific physical events, some prophecies state that the next step in human
evolution will occur during the end times. Many have proposed the idea that technology will change us
by giving us greater mental and physical capacity and abilities; others suggest that a saviour will come
and magically transform us. I believe though that the next step in human evolution will result from the
refinement of our negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions. Needless to say, this will not be a fast or
easy process. The transformation will be gradual, but its onset will be triggered by a single event.

We are effectively lost in the playground that is Planet Earth, having forgotten our true nature. The
transformation will be our journey back toward oneness of purpose with Unconditional Love.
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8.3 Why are there so many dis asters lately?
Disasters of all sorts have taken thousands of lives for thousands of years, yet we continue to be
surprised. Are there more disasters occurring now though? Well, there are more people alive now than
ever in this current life cycle on earth, so yes. However, the real tragedy continues to be that people
fail to heed warnings. We may never know how many premature deaths might be prevented were
people paying attention to their inner voice telling them to run away, or stay home from work, or take
a different route to the store, or whatever. We may never know how many lives and how much

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developed property might be spared if we asked for (and followed) Universal guidance before buying
or building.

So why do we not just pay attention to our inner voice? Our lives would be so much easier. We learn to
distrust it though, or we assume it is just our own thoughts, or we decide on a course of action without
seeking guidance. These are all choices, and each is made with our very own free will. It is ironic,
because by not using it, we run the risk of becoming victims of circumstances seemingly beyond our
control. Victims appear to have mysteriously lost their free will, yet it is free will that gets us into
situations that we could not have foreseen or about which we were warned but chose to ignore.
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8.4 Why is there so much terrorism and violence in the world nowadays?
Terrorism and violence have existed - in one form or another - as long as humans have existed, and will
continue to exist so long as we choose to strike out physically instead of communicating with one
another. One has only to look at the many billions of dollars being spent by countries around the world
on protection against invasion of any sort, to see that we humans have a tremendous fear of being
attacked without warning. That fear also manifests in illness and injury-causing accidents.

So long as we hold onto grudges against those who have harmed us or our loved ones, so long as we
feel the need for revenge, so long as we feel the need to control others, terrorism and violence will
continue to exist. These horrors are not caused by the devil - they are caused by our own negative
thoughts, attitudes and emotions. That means that we have the power, indeed the responsibility, to
change the world.

Praying or meditating for world peace is pointless, so long as violence is a viable option to meaningful
communication. Society will only change once violence has been outlawed. So how do we change?
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9.About human behaviour
Human behaviour is complex. It happens as a result of our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and
desires, so it follows that we can improve our behaviour by changing them - via the process of spiritual
decluttering.
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9.1 What is our spiritual diet?
Our thoughts, attitudes, emotions, behaviours, belief systems and desires form our spiritual diet. They
are what we feed ourselves throughout our life's journey. Paying attention to our thoughts enables us
to find the hidden meanings wrapped inside our everyday experiences, which in turn enables us to
identify those needing refinement.
Wh o , m e ? N e g at iv e ?
It is easy to just deny that we ever have negative thoughts - we blame someone or something other
than ourselves for our predicaments and continue on as we always have. It is not so much that we
intend to have negative thoughts though; they just seem to happen, almost like a reflex. These habitual
thought patterns easily slip by unnoticed. Constant repetition of such negative messages can only harm

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us, yet we say them to ourselves (and others) day in and day out. It is not that we are "bad" for having
negative thoughts; rather, it is up to us to recognize and change them.

We al l th in k , al l th e ti me
Our thoughts, attitudes and emotions (either positive or negative) are the great equalizer, for we all
have them - no matter who we are, or where we live, or what we do for a living. Many people become
frustrated when they make repeated attempts to change their physical appearance or surroundings so
that they will feel better, and then find that nothing really changed. To truly change our lives requires
changing our thoughts. In other words, we need to improve our spiritual diet. We need to search for
Universal Truth and full understanding about our thoughts, attitudes and emotions, and about our own
part in our experiences. The reward - clarity of thought - will make our efforts worthwhile, because
then we may gain a sense of our soul’s purpose in being alive on Planet Earth at this particular point in
human history - and then the real work begins.
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9.2 What is the "cold shoulder"?
It is withholding communication from someone as a punishment for a wrong-doing. It occurs as a result
of our judgment (you did something I disliked), criticism (it was a mistake) and condemnation (your
punishment is that I will not talk to you for an unspecified length of time, or until you grovel). It is a
passive/aggressive form of bullying. It is a punishment for going against our will, and the purpose is to
manipulate the wrongdoer into begging forgiveness and never again daring to challenge us. Other such
punishments can include physical abandonment, isolation, rejection.

Note: My Mom taught me how horrible it feels to be punished with the silent, or “cold shoulder”,
treatment. She would use it on anyone who dared displease her, including me. Can you imagine my
shock (and shame) when I realized that I was doing the exact same thing? I had sworn as a child that I
would *never* do that, but there you go; that’s how powerful our childhood learning can be... we
learn by what we see and experience, more than by what we are told. Course, recognition of the
problem was just my first step on the long road toward changing the pattern.

Change the pattern: If we are doing it: STOP doing it! Only communication can resolve differences,
leading to growth and understanding. Refusing to speak freezes a relationship and can create
resentment. Additionally, if we withhold communication from people, then we are likely to withhold it
from our guide too. This can make it even more difficult to learn new information about ourselves. If it
is being done to us: STOP allowing it! Responding in the same old way gives them what they want,
which is to be in control. Do the Self-esteem exercise
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9.3 Why do people withhold their approval?
It does not matter how good a job we do - some people will never let us know that they like or approve
of our efforts. There is always a comment to let us know we failed to do well enough. While they may
like to think that they are helping us to become better, the behaviour can actually undermine any
desire we might have to improve, since we know that they will really never be happy no matter what
we do. For these people, nothing they experience ever meets - nor can ever meet - their expectations
or desires

Spiritual effects: Living in a nearly constant state of unhappiness, disappointment and frustration,
always wondering why no one ever does anything right - except for self of course. For those on the

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receiving end of this behaviour, there can be very low self-esteem and chronic under-performance,
along with a constant feeling of inferiority

Change the pattern: If we are doing it: STOP doing it! We are hurting others, but just as importantly,
we are hurting ourselves. Meditate to learn the real reason for our perfectionism. If it is being done to
us: STOP allowing it! We can change our need to receive others’ approval. It is far better to do our
best, without expectation of thanks or recognition from others. Meditate to learn the real reason for
needing others’ approval. Do the Self-esteem exercise
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9.4 Why do people play practic al jokes?
People with low self-esteem often appreciate seeing others placed at a disadvantage. Somehow they
feel better about themselves, thinking that they alone know what is happening. This is a form of
passive/aggressive bullying with only one desired outcome: to make someone feel inferior

Change the pattern: If we are doing it: Our self-esteem may need some a boost. Do the Self-esteem
exercise. If it is being done to us: We may have a victim mentality. Meditate to discover the root
cause, for only then can we change the pattern.
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9.5 Why are people superstitious?
We perform superstitious rituals to influence the gods to either give us that which we want or to
protect us from that which we do not want. We also fear certain things in the belief that they may
cause something bad to happen, even though we may know within ourselves that it is silly to do so.
The Universal Intelligence neither punishes nor rewards us - it simply allows there to be consequences
for our thoughts and desires. Feeling a need to be punished can actually create accidents, injuries, or
losses

Spiritual effects: For some, the rituals can become obsessive/compulsive behaviours, even making it
impossible to make it through the day without performing the rituals

Change the pattern: Meditate to identify and resolve the root cause(s) of needing to be punished
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9.6 Why do people s teal credit for work that others have done?
This behaviour results from having very low or unstable self-esteem, such that the thought of someone
else receiving appreciation or recognition for any reason is terrifying and/or sickening and/or
infuriating. Can result from our caregivers behaving this way, or from their withholding approval from
us

Spiritual effects: The lack of self-worth is such that that we hardly even know that we have this
pattern, yet we hate it if someone steals our credit (a sure sign that there is a problem)

Physical effects: The craving for positive attention is a form of addiction that compels people to do
whatever they can to gain it - even if it means cheating, or that those who really did the work will go
without acknowledgement

Change the pattern: Until we recognize that there is a problem, there is not much that can be done to
change it. However, this inner child issue can be identified and resolved through practicing meditation
in the new way. Do the Self-esteem exercise
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9.7 Why do people ju dge, critici se and condemn work that others have done?
If they like the product, they will steal credit for it. If the work threatens their position though, they
may pretend to like something about it to make their critical opinion seem more valid - then their true
motive shines through. What they really want is for others to believe that they are the expert. This
compels them to find fault, but all they really accomplish is to show their own unresolved issue(s)

Spiritual effects: Lack of self-worth makes us desperate for others’ approval

Physical effects: Craving others’ approval is a form of addiction that compels us to do whatever we can
to gain it

Change the pattern: Until we recognize that there is a problem, there is not much that can be done to
change it. However, this inner child issue can be identified and resolved through practicing meditation
in the new way. Do the Self-esteem exercise
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9.8 Why do people lie?
There are as many reasons for lying as there are people. Here are just a few though:
o Low or unstable self-esteem
o extreme guilt or shame over a traumatic event
o victim of chronic abuse, whether physical, sexual, emotional or verbal
o fear of retribution

Long-term effects: Lying can be addictive, since it gives us a false sense of power and control. We can
become unable to function without lying. It can become pathological, such that we feel compelled to
weave a web of lies around a tiny kernel of truth into any conversation. This keeps everyone
wondering and guessing, so that we ALWAYS remain in control and at top-of-mind.

Habitual lying can become Pseudo Munchausen's Syndrome by Proxy. This condition can appear in
pathological liars who make up lies about their loved ones, sometimes claiming that one of them has
been hospitalized or has even died. Why? To play on people's gullibility and sympathy, in the hopes of
being excused from their obligations and responsibilities.

Change the pattern: This inner child issue can be identified and resolved through practicing meditation
in the new way. Do the Self-esteem exercise
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9.9 What if no thing is wrong, but I still feel awful?
Feeling tired or just generally unwell for no apparent reason is a signal from the Universal Intelligence
(via our guide) to let us know that we have an unresolved issue(s). We usually know what the issue is,
and we usually know what we need to do about it; the problem is that we are unable or unwilling to do
what is needed, and so we continue to avoid it. This is the time to seek information from our guide
about other possible options than the one we are resisting. Practice meditation in the new way
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9.10 What is legacy guilt?

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This is the pattern of a family or group of people holding onto guilt over actions taken (or not taken) by
their ancestors, handed down through the generations. Like low self-esteem, legacy guilt can make us
believe that we have no right to expect to be treated well or fairly or as equals. It is imbued in our
offspring just as surely as genetic traits like hair or eye colour. The pattern can create a co-dependent
relationship between the offenders’ offspring and those of their victims, such that neither side is
seemingly able or willing to let go of their position. The hurt, the offence, becomes their identity - for
both sides.

We need look no further than Canada’s horrific treatment of Indigenous peoples over hundreds of
years, to see this playing out in current times. The government - the perpetrator - is seemingly unable
to get rid of its burden of guilt; the Indigenous peoples - the victims - are seemingly unable to stop
needing to be appeased.

It can become a perverse point of honour to hold onto legacy guilt, and an addiction to hold onto
feeling victimized. Each succeeding generation sentences its children to a burden that is not theirs to
carry. Each new generation’s family or group members experience group karma as a result.

Programming an innocent child to feel guilt and shame for an ancestor’s actions can also create
feelings of frustration, anger and resentment for the child; after all, this child did not commit the act.
Such feelings can, if unchecked, cause us to behave like a powerless victim, or at the other extreme, as
an aggressive bully.

Releasing the destructive pattern of legacy guilt can be challenging, but it is not impossible. We can
make meaningful reparations (visit Wikipedia and check out Reparations (transitional justice), and we
can forgive all concerned, but bravery is also needed. Bravery, because being the only person in our
family to disagree with the way things are done risks our being isolated or abandoned. See fear of
change, status quo bias

Change the pattern: Do the Apologizing and Forgiveness exercises. See Restorative justice
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9.11 What is legacy resentment?
World peace? Not likely, so long as people are unwilling to release legacy resentment. This is a pattern
of holding onto resentment over issues that began with long-dead family members in the distant past
and then handed down through the generations. It becomes a perverse point of honour to hold onto it;
it taints each succeeding generation and sentences the descendants to a burden that is not theirs to
carry.

Re al l i fe ex amp l e
The province in which I live has set aside one day each year to honour one of the key people
responsible for bringing about the confederation of Canada, Louis Riel. Of course at that time, around
1870 AD, there were those who fought against the principles for which this man stood - equality and
justice for all. They felt that the Indigenous and mixed race inhabitants should be subjugated,
banished, or killed, and their lands taken for future sale to newly arriving immigrants.

Honouring this man was a contentious and controversial decision, but it was taken, and the first annual
Louis Riel Day was held in 2008.

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Recently someone made a public comment about the holiday: Since her great, great grandfather was
married to a woman whose father fought against the so-called rebels, this person and her family do
not celebrate the holiday as a matter of "honour". In other words, not only was this not her personal
grievance; it was not her father’s, nor her grandfather’s or great grandfather’s, nor even her great,
great grandfather’s. It may not even have been her great, great grandfather’s wife’s personal
grievance, yet this entire family is holding onto this grudge. Their reasons for doing so are unknown to
me, but may include feeling that to release the resentment would be a betrayal of their ancestors. I
can tell you that this pattern is one of the reasons for the deep, wide rift between the peoples of this
province. Those on each side of the rift continue to resent those on the other and all feel fully justified
in doing so.

Releasing this destructive pattern can be challenging, but it is not impossible. It requires finding
forgiveness for all concerned, and it requires something even more - bravery. Bravery, because being
the only person in our family to disagree with the way things are done risks our being isolated or
abandoned. See fear of change, status quo bias

Change the pattern: Do the Apologizing and Forgiveness exercises

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9.12 Why do we give gifts?
Gift giving can be a wonderful expression of affection and appreciation; it stops being wonderful when
it starts creating undue stress and financial burden, or when it is used to alleviate guilt. It is important
to understand our motives for giving gifts, and especially, for wanting to give lavish gifts.

Wh y d o w e d o it ?
Besides the obvious reasons for giving gifts, guilt can be a powerful motivator, especially when giving
lavish gifts. We usually know if we have treated someone unfairly or unkindly, and it is our victims to
whom we feel most obligated. We run the risk then of using gift-giving as a way of buying permission
to continue behaving poorly. If we have to give a gift to show that we are really sorry, or that we really
do care, then we need to understand why we rely upon material items rather than on our own words
or deeds.

A b et t er w ay
It is far better to show in everyday actions how we feel about our loved ones. Give them positive
attention and feedback, help them to live with joy; let them know they are loved unconditionally.
Rather than giving gifts to assuage guilt, consider making donations (of money, clothing, food, toys,
toiletries, etc.) to a local charity of choice
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9.13 About the passage of time
Why does time seem to speed up as we get older? For the most part, the speed of time is constant
when we are in human form on planet earth. So why is it that when we are young, one minute can
seem like an hour, yet when we are older, an hour can seem like a minute, or even a second?

To try to shed some light on this common experience, let us compare drivers of automobiles to
humans walking their life path. Like drivers in normal road conditions with many points of reference
guiding them as to their rate of speed, young children have many visible points of reference to provide
them with a sense of the passage of time. Children tend to notice everything because it is all new; we

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are learning Everything. Almost every moment is full of new information and every experience new
and exciting, so there are many points of reference.

Drivers in whiteout conditions often speed up - unwittingly - because there are no visible points of
reference; there is nothing to be seen except white, to tell us our speed. We speed up in an effort to
find points of reference. As we age, we become more like drivers in whiteout conditions. Because
exciting or new experiences occur less often, there are gradually fewer and fewer points of reference.
We increasingly lose sense of the present moment and every moment seems to blend into one long
moment - like whiteout conditions on the road. Unceasing repetition of the same old experiences can
make us almost numb.

We can get so caught up in the search for new points of reference that we unconsciously ‘speed up’,
thereby losing our innate ability to live in the moment. Inevitably, our search for points of reference
takes us into the realm of worry.

Sp i ri tu al asp ec t o f t i me
This is the duration of a soul's journey away from, and back to, Source. When in physical form, time is
experience / perception-based and can seem to be elastic, depending on our location and activity. If
you have ever watched and waited for a kettle to boil, you know this well.

To the Universal Intelligence, time is both elastic and non-elastic; it is both eternal, and yet a brief flash
of existence. While we measure time based on duration of events and the intervals between them, the
Universal Intelligence sees time more as the duration of its creations and the intervals between
creation of new universes.

One more thing... while scientists agree that nothing travels faster than the speed of light, there is
actually one exception: thought. Thought travels instantaneously. Our guides hear all of our thoughts,
even if they are millions of light years distant from us.

Visit SciTechDaily.com and check out How long is the present?

“How long is the present? The answer, Cornell researchers suggest in a new study, depends on your
heart...”
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9.14 More about forgiveness
Forgiveness is a gift we give ourselves so that we can leave the past in the past, and so that our
spiritual and emotional wounds can heal. It is a behavioural pattern that becomes stronger with
practice. We can choose whether to forgive or to resent those who have hurt us. Even if no one ever
taught us how to forgive, it is not too late to build it into our lives. Forgiveness has nothing to do with
the offender, and everything to do with us. We can forgive others without their knowing that they hurt
us, just as easily as we can resent them without their knowledge.

Forgiveness seeks understanding about why our painful life experiences happened. We can forgive
without that information, but knowing why something happened or why someone hurt us, can make it
a lot easier. Assuming that we already understand (saying for example “I just know they did what they
did to hurt me”) makes us hold onto grief, guilt, hatred, resentment, shame, or even the desire for
revenge. We can begin to end this grief and pain by journaling our feelings of anger or disappointment.
This validates our emotions and helps us release both the offender and the experience. Check out the
Forgiveness exercises
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9.15 Why do we think that everyone else is the enemy?
There is strength in our differences, yet we cannot seem to accept that it is okay for people to look
different, or to have different beliefs. Do we think that we are weakened by diversity? Do we believe
that God will punish any who stray from (sometimes) centuries-old teachings? Do we think that it is up
to us, the ‘righteous’ ones, to attack anyone with a different opinion? All in defence of God’s cruel,
vindictive nature, of course.

The Universal Intelligence has no ego to bruise, no axe to grind. There are as many ways to have a
relationship with God as there are his children, and certainly no need for everyone’s life choices to be
the same. As God’s children, we have been given the gift of free will. We can choose to do as we
please, or we can choose to do as God asks. It is not sin and there is no punishment if we choose the
former, because the spiritual Law of Free Will mandates us to do just that - make choices. There may
be negative outcomes if we choose to do what we want, but they do not result because God is
punishing us - they result because we do not always know what is best for us and sometimes, we make
lousy choices.

How long will we continue to judge, criticise, and condemn, sometimes to execution, anyone with
different beliefs than ours? It is beyond unreasonable to think for a moment that God wants any of his
children to kill any of his other children. God will continue to exist, no matter what we do. God will
continue to love his children, all of us, unconditionally, no matter what we do. We will all return Home
eventually, to share our vast lifetimes of experiences with him. After all, that is our purpose … that is
the reason for this particular reality being created.
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9.16 What is the s piritual component of revolution?
Wherever there is revolution there has been oppression: oppression literally breeds it. Revolution
erupts because people dislike being told what they may or may not do and then suffering punishment
if they happen to disagree with those in power. We all dislike being controlled, and that is the key
spiritual component of revolution: feeling that our free will has been stolen, and then taking action, at
any cost, to take it back. Humanity runs the constant risk of greedy, power-hungry, narcissistic
psychopathic personalities taking complete control over their particular sphere of influence. They are
clever, they are determined, and they simply will not stop until someone with even more
determination and power makes them stop.

As ab o ve , s o b el o w: A s w it h n a ti on s , s o w i t h i nd iv id u al s
The pattern starts in families, extends to neighbourhoods and cities, and, finally, to countries. Time and
time again, children who are abused, or who are treated as poor, defenceless victims, can grow up to
think that the world owes them a living. As adults, these people go out into society, where they bully
others, commit crimes and become despots and dictators. Millions have died because no one stood up
to these people before they arose to a position of real power. We take the path of least resistance in
the hope that someone stronger or braver than us will stop them. The only way to stop their quest for
dictatorial power is to provide children with the tools they need to live as respected, respectful,
contributing members of society. This may be just a dream today, but one day it will be a reality.
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9.17 Why is the business of politics so nasty?

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There are at least two sides to every political issue: Each party thinks that their view is correct and the
other wrong, and maybe even evil. Our greed for more power and more money and more prestige has
created an atmosphere in which it has become acceptable to behave like little children who have not
yet learned self-control.

More and more often, election campaigns are being won by one side employing disturbing tactics. It
goes a little something like this: One party’s candidate refuses to allow the other to speak during a
debate. She/he does not allow the other to be right. She/he interrupts to prevent the opponent from
offering their opinion. She/he refuses to back down in the face of truth. She/he refuses to apologize for
errors, and absolutely will not admit to having outright lied about something. She/he insults, insinuates
and generally disparages the opponent at every opportunity. She/he accuses the opponent of lying,
not necessarily because they have, but so that the observer’s attention is diverted/deflected away
from the matter at hand, or to sow seeds of doubt about the opposing candidate.

This sort of behaviour changes a debate into gainsaying (yes you did / no I didn’t). It is designed to shut
down any meaningful dialogue by fueling anger and rage, or to make the audience turn away in pure
frustration. The practice spreads untruth, discontent and outright fury, and is a disservice to society
and the democratic process. It is rude and arrogant, and shamefully manipulative. The sad part is that
we are tricked by such behaviour. We cast our vote for, and then flock to, the “winners” in the
hope/wish/belief that they are behaving this way in order to serve us.

Wil l we e v er l e ar n ?
Now, not all campaign candidates employ these tactics, but those who do may well not have society’s
best interests at heart. While it can appear so for a time, eventually their true self-serving interests
become clear. Society is then left to pick up the pieces and pay their debts. Hopefully we all will learn
to identify those who aim to serve self at the expense of others before electing them. We have to be
wary and watchful though, because it is very easy to get sucked into their spin. Check out Lie detector,
a TED Talks presentation by Pamela Meyer.
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9.18 What can we do to fight terrorism?
We must not give in to hatred, even though giving in is easier than seeking to understand terrorists'
motives for committing hateful acts. We must not use fear as an excuse to hate those who are
different. We must work to change the conditions that allow poverty and prejudice, inequality and
injustice to exist in our corner of the world. We must be willing to defend our way of life, yet we
cannot sink to barbarism when meting out justice; doing so only perpetuates the cycle of karmic debt.
It is far better to employ Restorative justice.
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9.19 Does the moon affect our emotions?
No, not directly. Since our thoughts create our emotions, seeing the moon in a certain phase might
trigger certain thoughts, and it is these that can trigger certain emotions.
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9.20 Why is it so difficult to make positive changes in our lives?
Much of the turmoil in our lives results from our behaviours, which in turn result from our thoughts,
which - although without physical form - can seem to be made from concrete. Profound change
requires paying close attention to our thoughts and learning their source. We need to break them

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down into the smallest bits and bytes possible. This can be achieved by including focused, purposeful
meditation in our daily lives.
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9.21 What is a know it all?
This term describes people who are always right - at least in their opinion. They present themselves as
an expert at everything, and cannot admit that they do not already know something. They need to be
right and in control, and feel criticised if someone has a better answer, suggestion or solution than
theirs, which can trigger obsessive/compulsive behaviours, depression or temper tantrums. See
narcissism, perfectionism, stilted speech
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9.22 What is legacy contamination?
This pattern is an actual thing. It starts when we fail to rid ourselves of the pain of our traumatic
experience(s). It then spreads like an oil spill, seeping into every aspect of our lives. The legacy part is
that our thought patterns are handed down from generation to generation, even such as these, so is it
any wonder that so many families are in anguish?
Change the pattern: Learn how to resolve inner conflicts
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9.23 What planet are you from?
Do you feel like you are from another planet besides Earth? Do you laugh about it, or minimize the
importance of that intuition? Given that we souls are billions of years old, doesn't it make sense that
we would have entered physical form innumerable times before ever coming to Planet Earth? After all,
the universe is approximately 14 billion years old, while earth is a mere 4.5. In all likelihood, we have
ALL lived on other planets besides Earth. This might help to explain some of the difficulties we face
here. Check out tolerance
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9.24 What is a legacy family pattern?
A legacy family pattern is one that repeats throughout the life span of the family. It could last hundreds
or even thousands of years. Some of these patterns are beneficial to the family while others are not.
The ones that are not can take many forms, but the one that we will look at here affects the overall
mental, spiritual and physical health of family members. See Why do we get sick?) and Scientists Show
Transmission of Epigenetic Memory Across Multiple Generations (scitechdaily.com)

Hu n t in g to n' s Di se a se
At the spiritual root core of Huntington's disease lie five key thought patterns that contribute to a
number of negative thoughts and behaviours, which in turn contribute to degeneration of nerve cells
in the brain. The fact that it is an inherited condition helps to explain why this is called a legacy family
pattern.

Negative thought patterns cannot help but change the brain, and literally everybody has negative
thought patterns. So what's so different about this condition? Together, these five thought patterns
are as potent as a chemical compound. Together, their individual vibrational frequencies damage and
deteriorate the brain's nerve cells.

If we could go back in time to the first instance of it in the family (could have been hundreds or even
thousands of years ago), we would find a person who displayed the key patterns of Huntington's...
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control, greed, lying, revenge and spite. That person lived these patterns to the extreme, creating ill
will and distrust in whosoever she or he met. Somehow the person managed to have a child, and this
child took on that parent's thought patterns. (Big challenge for children to resist the urge to seek a
parent's approval by mimicking them!) By the third or fourth generation, the pattern had manifested in
physical as Huntington's. There was no longer any choice for children with the faulty gene as to
whether to act out like the affected parent. If they had the gene, sooner or later the condition would
present. Eventually, they would default to that parent's behaviours as a way to deal with life.

Some souls choose to enter such a family to ‘learn their way out’ so to speak, so that the family can be
freed of this devastating condition. Some may have succeeded while many others may not, but until
someone actually undertakes the research, well, we are not likely to know. The Universe says that our
genes are dynamic, and that our thought patterns modify them throughout our lives. It is entirely
possible that, if someone with the affected gene were to start at an early enough age to learn about
human thought patterns and their potential effects, they may well be able to avoid developing the
disease.

We can live in hope of brighter days for the many families affected by Huntington's. Hooray for science
for giving us so much hope. Hooray for the Universe for providing such profound information.
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Section 8 Spiritual questionnaire
Click here to download fillable version

This questionnaire will help you recall your childhood experiences and, hopefully, how you reacted to
them. These reactions formed the very foundation of your life, that is to say, they became your
thoughts, attitudes, emotions, belief systems and desires (TAEBSD). Learning your negative TAEBSD
reveals the thought patterns and behaviours that hold you back in life and make it hard to have healthy
relationships; they might even cause you health concerns.

There are many difficult questions within this form; they need to be directed to the Universal
Intelligence, preferably while in a meditative state, along with your specific request for Universal Truth
for each answer. Without that, your guide will be obliged to tell you what you want to hear or what
you already believe. If we really want to grow and become self-aware though, only the Truth will serve.
See free will and How can I be sure I'm receiving Universal Truth?

It is not enough to just recall our experiences and our memories about them and leave it at that. We
also must identify and resolve the inner conflicts and beliefs that arose from them. This gradually
refines and reduces our chaotic, negative thoughts as well as our negative behaviours. See Spiritual
decluttering.

As you search your memories, try to pay attention to your body for signals.

There are five areas to examine:

Part 1 - Childhood
Part 2 - Education and Employment
Part 3 - Family
Part 4 - Marital Status
Part 5 - General

This search through your memories will help you to see where change is really needed, and why. The
next step is to make those changes by doing the spiritual exercises set out in Section 9.
Note: Be sure to save your work to your personal device.
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Part 1 – Childhood
This section asks questions designed to help find painful issues that may have been forgotten or
buried, but that continue to affect our lives in negative ways. Recognizing these issues enables us to
begin changing ourselves at soul level.

Click a button to select or deselect it. Click in a box to enter text.

1.1 Who raised you?

☐Birth family ☐Adoptive family ☐Foster family ☐Extended family ☐Other
Describe your feelings about this:

1.2 Did your parents:

☐Remain together ☐Separate ☐Divorce
Describe your feelings about their decision, and if it still impacts your life:

1.3 What was the emotional environment of your childhood home like?
☐Pleasant ☐Unpleasant ☐Lots of laughter ☐Lots of arguing ☐Lots of silence ☐Lots of
abuse (of any sort)
Describe your feelings about this, and if your home life now is similar:

1.4 Was your childhood home:

☐Perfection ☐Clean but messy ☐Dirty, messy, cluttered, things falling apart
Describe your feelings about this, and about organization and cleanliness in general:

1.5 How many children are or were in your family?

☐One ☐Two to four ☐Five to nine ☐10 or more
Do you wish there had been more? Or fewer? How have you dealt with your parents’ decision
to have the number of children they had?

1.6 If one or more of your siblings has passed away, how did you deal with their passing?

1.7 Describe your feelings about:

a. If you were adopted or a foster child:

b. If any or all of your siblings were adopted:

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 c. If you were the only “natural” child in a family of adopted or foster children:

d. If you were the only adopted or foster child in a family of natural children:

e. If there were half- or step-siblings:

1.8 If you were adopted:

a. Describe how you felt when you first found out:

b. Were you told not to tell anyone about it?

c. If so, how did that make you feel?

d. Did your adoptive family encourage you to seek your birth family when you became an
adult?

e. How did that make you feel?

1.9 If you were a foster child:

a. Describe your feelings about your experiences:

b. Describe your feelings about your birth family:

1.10 How much attention did you receive as a child?

☐Too little ☐Enough ☐Too much
Describe your feelings about the amount of attention you received:

1.11 Were you allowed privacy?

☐Yes ☐No
Describe your feelings about whether you had privacy:

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1.12 List the painful events of your life, describing how you dealt with them and your current
feelings about them:

a. Were you made to feel responsible for their occurrence?

☐Yes ☐No
b. Have you fully grieved these events?
☐Yes ☐No
1.13 If you have been or are being abused (physically, sexually, mentally, emotionally), describe how
you have dealt with it, noting whether counselling was provided for you and your current
feelings about all of it:

If the abuse is still occurring, describe your thoughts and feelings about this, and why it has not
stopped:

For each traumatic experience of your life, ask your guide which of the following negative
thoughts, attitudes and emotions you have and listen for the answer. Instead of trying to figure
it all out, simply ask your guide, “Does this one apply?” and listen for the answer. (Your guide
may give you a physical signal for yes or no, so try to pay attention to your body as well as your
thoughts. Continue in the same manner for each item. Place your cursor in each appropriate
box and left click to record the one(s) that your guide feels applies. To change a choice, click it
again.
☐Abandonment ☐Criticism ☐Greed ☐Resentment
☐Anger ☐Distress ☐Grief ☐Revenge
☐Anxiety ☐Distrust ☐Guilt ☐Self-importance
☐Arrogance ☐Ego ☐Jealousy ☐Self-righteousness
☐Avoidance ☐Embarrassment ☐Judgment ☐Shame
☐Blame ☐Envy ☐Perfectionism ☐Victim
☐Condemnation ☐Fear ☐Pessimism ☐Worry
1.14 What was your part in the traumatic events of your life? Do you feel that you played a part in
them, or do you feel that it is the other person/people who need to seek the understanding,
because you have done nothing wrong?

a. Describe the beliefs you have today because of them:

b. Make a list of all the people you have fully forgiven:

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 c. Make a list of all the people you have not forgiven and why:

1.15 If you or any of your family members are or were addicted to food, alcohol, tobacco, drugs,
gambling, what sorts of problems did this create?

a. Has anyone sought rehabilitation?

b. What opinions do you have now about people who are addicts (including yourself)?

c. List all of your addictions, including substances and behaviours.

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Part 2 - Education and Employment

Part 2(a) - Education
This section deals with education. Many belief systems are formed during these very important years
and they contribute to one’s current issues.

The importance lies not in the amount of schooling you have had, but in what you think and feel about
your education. What belief systems have developed because of your schooling experiences?
Remember to consider:
o Yourself, your intelligence and your academic abilities (e.g., do you often say that you are
stupid or a slow learner?)
o Your level of schooling (Do you have regrets that you accomplished too little or too much?)
o Your classmates (When you think of them, are you remembering good or bad experiences?)
o Your teachers (Were they helpful, or critical, too busy, aloof, abusive in any way, etc.?)

2a.1 Were you an overachiever? If so, what were your motives?

2a.2 Were you a bully, or a victim of bullying? Were you just invisible?

2a.3 Were you often (or never) late or absent for classes?

2a.4 Were you sent away to boarding school?

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2a.5 Were you encouraged and helped to excel?

2a.6 Were you encouraged to think and speak?

2a.7 Did you receive any training in music, sports, the arts, etc.?

2a.8 Were you encouraged to "follow your heart" at home or at school?

2a.9 When you meet people who remind you of people from your school years, what characteristics
do they have in common, and what are their differences?

2a.10 Ask your guide which of the following applies as you consider the above questions. Listen for
the answer and record it in the appropriate box:
☐Abandonment ☐Criticism ☐Greed ☐Resentment
☐Anger ☐Distress ☐Grief ☐Revenge
☐Anxiety ☐Distrust ☐Guilt ☐Self-importance
☐Arrogance ☐Ego ☐Jealousy ☐Self-righteousness
☐Avoidance ☐Embarrassment ☐Judgment ☐Shame
☐Blame ☐Envy ☐Perfectionism ☐Victim
☐Condemnation ☐Fear ☐Pessimism ☐Worry

Part 2(b) - Employment

Since about a third of our life is devoted to earning an income, our thoughts, attitudes and emotions
about our career can have a huge impact on our quality of life.

2b.1 If you are employed:

a. What is your profession?

b. Do you feel it's your true calling in life?

c. How do you feel about your supervisor, your boss, and your co-workers?

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 d. Do you feel appreciated by your employer?

e. Do you feel fulfilled in your profession?

f. Do you look forward to going to work?

g. What do you do when you get home from work?

h. Do you ever make your dependents (or your mate) feel responsible for "making" you work,
or for not "allowing" you to work?
☐Yes ☐No
i. Which of these apply as you consider your job?
☐Abandonment ☐Criticism ☐Greed ☐Resentment
☐Anger ☐Distress ☐Grief ☐Revenge
☐Anxiety ☐Distrust ☐Guilt ☐Self-importance
☐Arrogance ☐Ego ☐Jealousy ☐Self-righteousness
☐Avoidance ☐Embarrassment ☐Judgment ☐Shame
☐Blame ☐Envy ☐Perfectionism ☐Victim
☐Condemnation ☐Fear ☐Pessimism ☐Worry

2b.2 If you are unemployed, how does it affect your self-esteem?

a. What are your thoughts and feelings about being unemployed?

b. What are your thoughts and feelings about others who are unemployed?

c. What are your thoughts and feelings about those who are homeless?

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Part 3 - Family
Our family’s physical genetics, along with portions of our spiritual genetics, determine much of what
we will face in life. No matter who raises us though, we have the power to overcome the challenges
presented by our genetic inheritance.
Part 3(a) - Parents
3a.1 If your parents are still living:
a. Are they able to look after themselves?

b. Have you become responsible for one or both of them? (Have you always felt responsible for
one or both of them?)

c. Describe your feelings about their limitations:

3a.2 If either or both has/have passed away:

a. Have you dealt with your grief?

b. Do you feel responsible for his or her passing?

c. If the death(s) was a relief for you, do you feel guilty for feeling that way?

d. What issues remain unresolved?

3a.3 If one parent has passed away:

a. How well is the survivor spouse coping?

b. If you have become a "replacement spouse", how does it make you feel?

3a.4 Do you now, and/or did you as a child, feel you can talk to both of your parents about anything
without fear?

a. If not, why?

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 b. If so, did you feel obligated to tell them everything?

3a.5 What are your thoughts and feelings about how you were raised?

3a.6 Do you often find yourself defending your parent(s)' choices?)

3a.7 List your parents' positive and negative characteristics:

List the ones that you have “inherited”

3a.8 If you are responsible for someone today (human or otherwise), do you carry your
responsibilities the way either or both of your parents did? Describe:

3a.9 Once again, ask your guide which of the following applies to you as you think of your parents
and your relationship with them, listen for the answer and record it in the appropriate box.
☐Abandonment ☐Criticism ☐Greed ☐Resentment
☐Anger ☐Distress ☐Grief ☐Revenge
☐Anxiety ☐Distrust ☐Guilt ☐Self-importance
☐Arrogance ☐Ego ☐Jealousy ☐Self-righteousness
☐Avoidance ☐Embarrassment ☐Judgment ☐Shame
☐Blame ☐Envy ☐Perfectionism ☐Victim
☐Condemnation ☐Fear ☐Pessimism ☐Worry

Part 3(b) - If you have children

3b.1 How many are there? Include any children who may have been surrendered for adoption:

3b.2 If one or more of your children predeceased you, how has this been dealt with by each family
member?

What services were provided for each family member to help them through their grief? If there
were none, describe why:

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3b.3 Describe the physical, emotional and spiritual health of each of your children:

3b.4 If all members of your family are not treated with respect by each other, describe why this may
be so:

3b.5 If certain family members argue constantly, describe why this is tolerated:

3b.6 What steps are taken to resolve differences within the family setting?

3b.7 How are the children disciplined?

3b.8 If one parent is always "the bad guy" when it comes to discipline, describe why:

3b.9 To whom do the children go when they need assistance and why?

3b.10 If your children have negative behaviours:

a. What do you believe causes them to behave poorly?

b. What have you done to teach the children positive behaviours?

c. Which of your negative behaviours are your children simply copying?

d. If your children are constantly vying for your attention, describe why you believe this is so
(and don't blame it on "sibling rivalry"):

3b.11 Do you believe that your children would speak to you about anything, without fear?

a. Have you asked them if that is how they feel?

☐Yes ☐No
b. If someone from outside the family asked them, what do you think your children might say?

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3b.12 If one of your children is expected to be responsible for the others:
a. Why is this so?

b. Does this create difficult situations for any or all of the children?

c. If one of your children is always trying to "keep the peace" in the family, describe why you
believe this is so:

3b.13 What are your thoughts, attitudes and emotions regarding your parenting skills?

Are they similar to those you hold for your parents' parenting skills?

3b.14 What are your thoughts, attitudes and emotions regarding your children?

Are they similar to those your parents hold or held for you?
☐Yes ☐No
3b.15 Are any family members estranged?
☐Yes ☐No
a. If yes, whose choice is it to remain out of contact?
☐Their own ☐Someone else’s
b. If their own, why? If someone else’s, whose and why?

Part 3(c) - If you have no children

3c.1 Was it a conscious decision made by you and/or your partner?
☐Yes ☐No
3c.2 Was it an infertility problem?
☐Yes ☐No
3c.3 What are your beliefs about being childless?

3c.4 Which of the following does your guide feel you hold regarding your lack of children? Ask your
guide whether each thought, attitude and emotion is within you as you think about it, and
listen for the answer:
☐Abandonment ☐Criticism ☐Greed ☐Resentment
☐Anger ☐Distress ☐Grief ☐Revenge

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 ☐Anxiety ☐Distrust ☐Guilt ☐Self-importance
☐Arrogance ☐Ego ☐Jealousy ☐Self-righteousness
☐Avoidance ☐Embarrassment ☐Judgment ☐Shame
☐Blame ☐Envy ☐Perfectionism ☐Victim
☐Condemnation ☐Fear ☐Pessimism ☐Worry

Part 3(d) - Extended Family Members

This includes aunts, uncles, cousins, or close family friends with whom you have a close bond.

3d.1 List those who have played an important part in your life:

3d.2 Ask your guide whether each thought, attitude and emotion is within you as you think about
each person named on your list, and listen for the answer:
☐Abandonment ☐Criticism ☐Greed ☐Resentment
☐Anger ☐Distress ☐Grief ☐Revenge
☐Anxiety ☐Distrust ☐Guilt ☐Self-importance
☐Arrogance ☐Ego ☐Jealousy ☐Self-righteousness
☐Avoidance ☐Embarrassment ☐Judgment ☐Shame
☐Blame ☐Envy ☐Perfectionism ☐Victim
☐Condemnation ☐Fear ☐Pessimism ☐Worry

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Part 4 - Marital status

Whether married or not, in a committed relationship or not, in a business partnership or not, it is
important to look at why we do or do not get along well with others.

4.1 What is your marital status?

4.2 What are your belief systems about marriage?

4.3 Do you fear that God judges, criticizes and condemns us for our lifestyle choices?

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4.4 Which of the following does your guide feel you hold regarding your marital status? Ask your
guide whether each thought, attitude and emotion is within you as you think about it, and
listen for the answer:
☐Abandonment ☐Criticism ☐Greed ☐Resentment
☐Anger ☐Distress ☐Grief ☐Revenge
☐Anxiety ☐Distrust ☐Guilt ☐Self-importance
☐Arrogance ☐Ego ☐Jealousy ☐Self-righteousness
☐Avoidance ☐Embarrassment ☐Judgment ☐Shame
☐Blame ☐Envy ☐Perfectionism ☐Victim
☐Condemnation ☐Fear ☐Pessimism ☐Worry

Part 4(a) - Committed relationship

If you are in a committed relationship, describe your relationship with your mate. Keep in mind that
what you believe to be the truth and what your guide knows to be universal truth may be somewhat
different. Be sure to state your willingness to set aside your belief systems in order to find universal
truth.

4a.1 Who really seems to be in control, and how do you feel about that?

Is one of you always having to make amends to the other?

☐Yes ☐No
If so, what causes this?

4a.2 Do you live in fear of your mate's temper (or they of yours)?
☐Yes ☐No
a. How does that make you feel?

b. Does it remind you of someone in your own family background?

☐Yes ☐No
c. If so, who?

4a.3 Do you appreciate one another?

☐Yes ☐No
a. Do you tell the other that this is so?
☐Yes ☐No
b. If not, why?

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4a.4 Do you support one another emotionally, equally?
☐Yes ☐No
If not, why?

4a.5 Is one of you always supportive and the other, never?

☐Yes ☐No
How does this make you feel?

4a.6 Is one of you in charge of keeping the relationship going?

☐Yes ☐No
a. Is one of you always making sure that you do things together as a couple?
☐Yes ☐No
b. What do you fear would happen if that stopped?

4a.7 How are disagreements handled?

Does one of you usually "win"?

☐Yes ☐No
4a.8 Who takes care of the finances, and why?

4a.9 Who makes the major decisions, and what happens if the “correct” choice is not made?

4a.10 How are losses handled (financial losses, physical injury, deaths, emotional and spiritual
injuries)?

4a.11 Are household responsibilities shared equally?

☐Yes ☐No
a. Is one person always doing everything to keep the home running smoothly?
☐Yes ☐No
b. If so, who and why?

4a.12 What issues do you have as a couple that consistently remain unresolved?

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4a.13 As you ponder your relationship, what negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions arise?
☐Abandonment ☐Criticism ☐Greed ☐Resentment
☐Anger ☐Distress ☐Grief ☐Revenge
☐Anxiety ☐Distrust ☐Guilt ☐Self-importance
☐Arrogance ☐Ego ☐Jealousy ☐Self-righteousness
☐Avoidance ☐Embarrassment ☐Judgment ☐Shame
☐Blame ☐Envy ☐Perfectionism ☐Victim
☐Condemnation ☐Fear ☐Pessimism ☐Worry

Part 4(b) - Single (not in a committed relationship)

4b.1 If you made a conscious decision to remain single, list your reasons for doing so:

4b.2 If you habitually develop relationships with people who are unable or unwilling to commit to
you, describe why you think this might be so:

4b.3 If you have been unable to find the "right" person to whom to commit, describe why you think
this might be so:

4b.4 If you are not completely at peace with being single, which of the negative thoughts, attitudes
and emotions do you have about it?
☐Abandonment ☐Criticism ☐Greed ☐Resentment
☐Anger ☐Distress ☐Grief ☐Revenge
☐Anxiety ☐Distrust ☐Guilt ☐Self-importance
☐Arrogance ☐Ego ☐Jealousy ☐Self-righteousness
☐Avoidance ☐Embarrassment ☐Judgment ☐Shame
☐Blame ☐Envy ☐Perfectionism ☐Victim
☐Condemnation ☐Fear ☐Pessimism ☐Worry

Part 4(c) - Divorced/Widowed

4c.1 If you are divorced with no children, describe the break-up of the relationship and the property
settlement. List any unresolved issues.

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4c.2 If you are divorced with children, describe the break-up of the relationship, the property
settlement, custodial rights, timeliness and fairness of support payments, visitation rights. List
any unresolved or contentious issues.

4c.3 If you are widowed, what were the circumstances of the death of the loved one?

a. Do you feel that the spouse's death is a punishment from God?

☐Yes ☐No
b. Was the death a relief for you?
☐Yes ☐No
c. Do you feel that the death solved (or created) all of your problems?
☐Yes ☐No
d. Do you feel guilty for having these thoughts and feelings?
☐Yes ☐No
e. Do you feel devastated by the loss?
☐Yes ☐No
f. Do you have survivor's guilt?
☐Yes ☐No
g. Were your financial needs planned for?
☐Yes ☐No
h. List any unresolved issues in your relationship, whether divorced or widowed:

i. Which of the negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions do you have regarding your divorce
or widowhood?
☐Abandonment ☐Criticism ☐Greed ☐Resentment
☐Anger ☐Distress ☐Grief ☐Revenge
☐Anxiety ☐Distrust ☐Guilt ☐Self-importance
☐Arrogance ☐Ego ☐Jealousy ☐Self-righteousness
☐Avoidance ☐Embarrassment ☐Judgment ☐Shame
☐Blame ☐Envy ☐Perfectionism ☐Victim
☐Condemnation ☐Fear ☐Pessimism ☐Worry

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Part 5 – General
By looking at our faith and religion, friends and associates, hobbies, home, pets and self we can see
how our thoughts create our reality

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Part 5(a) - Faith and religion
5a.1 ☐Believe in Universal Intelligence ☐No such thing ☐May exist, but I need proof
5a.2 What are your thoughts, attitudes and emotions as you ponder the idea of God?
☐Abandonment ☐Criticism ☐Greed ☐Resentment
☐Anger ☐Distress ☐Grief ☐Revenge
☐Anxiety ☐Distrust ☐Guilt ☐Self-importance
☐Arrogance ☐Ego ☐Jealousy ☐Self-righteousness
☐Avoidance ☐Embarrassment ☐Judgment ☐Shame
☐Blame ☐Envy ☐Perfectionism ☐Victim
☐Condemnation ☐Fear ☐Pessimism ☐Worry
5a.3 What do you believe happens when we die?

5a.4 If you obsess about your health, what do you believe causes it?

5a.5 If you obsess about how you will die, what do you believe causes the obsession?

5a.6 If you pray, why and how often?

If not, why?

5a.7 If you meditate, why and how often?

If not, why?

5a.8 If you attend church, synagogue, mosque etc. services, why and how often?

If not, why?

5a.9 If you respect / admire the leader and the congregation members, why?

If not, why?
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5a.10 What belief systems are held and taught by your religion?

Part 5(b) - Associates

5b.1 List all the important people in your life. Describe how you feel about each of them, and state
whether you feel (or felt) worthy, loved and appreciated by them. Include parents,
grandparents, siblings, friends, aunts, uncles, cousins, teachers, your spouse (or ex-spouse(s)),
children (both yours and other people's), boss, co-workers, in-laws and any other people who
have played any important part in your life (even if they were absent):

5b.2 List anyone with whom you are no longer in contact due to disagreements:

5b.3 Which of the negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions does your guide feel you hold for each
of your associates (whether you like them or love them or not)?
☐Abandonment ☐Criticism ☐Greed ☐Resentment
☐Anger ☐Distress ☐Grief ☐Revenge
☐Anxiety ☐Distrust ☐Guilt ☐Self-importance
☐Arrogance ☐Ego ☐Jealousy ☐Self-righteousness
☐Avoidance ☐Embarrassment ☐Judgment ☐Shame
☐Blame ☐Envy ☐Perfectionism ☐Victim
☐Condemnation ☐Fear ☐Pessimism ☐Worry

Part 5(c) - Hobbies

5c.1 What are your hobbies?

5c.2 Why have you chosen them?

5c.3 If you regularly begin new projects and abandon them before completion, describe why.

5c.4 If you finish your projects but then hide them or throw them away, describe why.

5c.5 If you have no hobbies, describe why.

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Part 5(d) - Home
5d.1 What is the condition of your home?
☐Perfection ☐Clean but messy ☐Dirty, messy, cluttered, things falling apart
a. Who is responsible for the state of your home?

b. If you live alone and your home is not clean and tidy, describe why.

c. If you do not live alone and your home is not clean and tidy, describe why.

d. If you have not done your part to contribute to making it a healthy environment, describe
why.

e. If you avoid entertaining at home, describe why.

Part 5(e) - Pets

5e.1 If you have pets, how many are there?

a. List kind of animal, name of each and state of health of each. Remember to include the pet's
emotional behaviour in your description.

b. What purposes do your pets serve for you?

c. What areas of your life are neglected because of your pets?

d. If you have pets and children, how do you make sure that they each receive all the attention
they need to satisfy their needs?

e. If any / all of your pets create havoc in your household, or if they create uncomfortable or
fearful situations for you, your family or visitors, why do you keep them (the pets, that is)?

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 f. If you have more than the legal number of pets, describe why. (If you often find yourself
rescuing animals, this could be because of an unrecognized need of yours to be rescued.)

5e.2 If you have no pets, describe why:

Part 5(f) - Self

5f.1 What are your greatest joys in life?

5f.2 What are your biggest regrets in life?

5f.3 What are your strengths?

5f.4 What are your weaknesses?

5f.5 What kind of person do you think you are?

5f.6 Do you feel that you are meeting your soul's potential and fulfilling your life's purpose?

5f.7 What are some of the phrases you repeat most often? (e.g., "I'm sorry," or "Thank you," "How
dare you!", "I don't feel like it", "I never" or "You always", "I hate..." or "What else is new..."?)

5f.8 Are you defiant / argumentative?

☐Yes ☐No
5f.9 What are you avoiding that you know really needs to be done?

5f.10 List your negative behaviours, along with what your guide thinks triggers them:

5f.11 What purpose(s) do your negative patterns serve?

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5f.12 How do they prevent you from being the best person you can be?

5f.13 Which of the negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions continue to affect you today?
Recognizing them can help to reveal negative behavioural patterns; for example, if one holds
onto resentments that formed in years past, it is highly likely that each new unfavourable
experience will create that same emotion. In other words, "resentment" will have become a
habit - a negative behavioural pattern:
☐Abandonment ☐Criticism ☐Greed ☐Resentment
☐Anger ☐Distress ☐Grief ☐Revenge
☐Anxiety ☐Distrust ☐Guilt ☐Self-importance
☐Arrogance ☐Ego ☐Jealousy ☐Self-righteousness
☐Avoidance ☐Embarrassment ☐Judgment ☐Shame
☐Blame ☐Envy ☐Perfectionism ☐Victim
☐Condemnation ☐Fear ☐Pessimism ☐Worry

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Section 9 Spiritual exercises
Food for thought | Heal your inner child: heal your life.
These exercises are designed to enable and promote spiritual healing. Start with learning to meditate
in a new way. After you have practiced for a week or two, you will be able to get centred fairly easily.
Being centred will help your work to be more effective and meaningful.
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Apologize Guilt-buster Forgive Grieve Self-esteem Stop sniping Build tolerance Stop worrying
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Apologizing
Apologizing, along with making amends (check out Wikipedia’s Restorative Justice), removes guilt.
After doing the Apologizing exercises, proceed to Guilt-buster.

How can we tell if we are feeling guilty about something?

Pay attention to our thoughts and words. Habitually saying words like, "I am so bad" or "I do not
deserve nice things" can indicate guilt. Another way to find out is to get centred and ask your guide,
"What am I feeling guilty about?" Then listen to your thoughts - the guides can replay long-forgotten
experiences that continue to affect us negatively.

Exercise 1
How do we get rid of guilt?
The goal of this exercise is to apologize meaningfully, to face up to our role in whatever happened.
Apologizing is a tool to help us regain respect - both from others and from ourselves. To do it, simply
be willing. Sounds too simple, right? But it really is just that easy.
o Ask for assistance.
o Get centred.
o Think of someone we have harmed. This should only take a moment or two; any longer than that
can indicate an attitude of self-righteousness or feelings of shame.
o Ask our guide to help us understand our behaviour and our choices, that is, why did we do - or not
do - whatever it was that caused harm?

What does it feel lik e to offer a sincere apology?

Sometimes it can feel as though a great weight has been lifted from our shoulders. We might feel like
laughing or crying, or maybe like dancing, or maybe as though we have a new source of energy. Aches
and pain can stop, sometimes immediately. Note: Saying "I'm sorry" for anything that ever goes wrong
is not meaningful apologizing.

How often shou ld this be don e?

Apologize and make amends whenever we fail or harm someone (including self), before shame and
despair set in and before the need for self-punishment becomes irresistible.

Self-test
Think of the person to whom we are apologizing. Try to picture them in our mind's eye. Do we feel
differently than we did before this exercise? If not, then this exercise is not yet complete. Meditate to

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learn more about the situation. The exercise is complete when we can think about the person and the
situation without having any negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions.

Action
After apologizing to several people in meditation, advance to Apologizing - Exercise 2. Whatever
happens, try to record the experiences in a journal.

Apologizing - Exercise 2
Now that we know how to apologize
Now that we have apologized in our heart, it is time to put it on paper. Write down whatever we feel
needs to be said to express our regret to the person we have harmed, and tell them that we would like
to make amends.

If the person is no longer in our life but do not wish to re-open a toxic or co-dependent relationship,
hold a private ceremony to dispose of the letter. Just be sure about the reasons for not wanting them
in our life; try to be sure that it is not because we are still angry. If the person is still involved in our life,
and if we feel right about doing so, mail the letter to them or call and read it to them.

Action
Leave it up to them to decide what to do about our apology. It is their choice whether to forgive us. If
they choose not to forgive, that is okay. We have done what we need to do to move forward, so let it
(and them) go. Be sure to record your experience in a journal. Remember, apologizing is like a muscle,
and exercising it will help to ensure strong spiritual health. Holding onto guilt helps no one. Refusing to
apologize can create all sorts of health problems for us.
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Apologize Guilt-buster Forgive Grieve Self-esteem Stop sniping Build tolerance Stop worrying
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Guilt-buster
Do this exercise in conjunction with the Apologizing exercises.
Feeling guilty?
Wouldn’t it be great to live life free of guilt and shame? Is that even possible? Yes, but it takes practice.
Find the source of guilt
The first step toward living a guilt-free life is to identify the exact cause of our guilt. Was it something
we did or did not do, or something we said or did not say?
Get centred and in a state of listening. Ask for assistance from the Universal Intelligence. From that
centred space, think of someone we think we have hurt - could even be ourselves. Ask the Universe to
help us understand our reasons for making the choices we made. They likely formed in early childhood
as our particular ways of dealing with life. Understanding our actions along with apologizing to the
injured party should enable the release of guilt and shame.
What can happen when we do this?
Our pain can stop, sometimes immediately. Changing our automatic responses is likely to take some
time though, so patience with self is crucial. Sometimes we will behave in the new way, sometimes the
old, but the frequency of responding the old way will gradually decrease.

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How often should this be done?
This should be done as soon as we find out that we have failed or harmed someone, before shame and
despair set in; before the need for self-punishment becomes irresistible. Understanding why we feel
guilt can enable us to come to terms with our so-called failures. If we really did cause harm to someone
or something, then we need to acknowledge our role in the experience and do what we can to make
amends. Sometimes apologizing is sufficient, but we should also be prepared to provide restorative
justice. The final step toward living guilt-free is to admit our mistakes and make amends before we
start to feel that we are “bad” and deserve to be punished.
Notes
Sometimes we might apologize to someone who chooses not to forgive us. What then? Does that
mean we should hold onto guilt? No. Choosing whether to forgive us or not is up to them, just as
choosing whether to forgive ourselves or others is up to us.

Sometimes we feel guilty even though we were not responsible for something that happened. This
happens all the time, especially with young children. In that case, we need to find out or figure out who
really was responsible and then let the experience go. Grieving and forgiveness are critical if we are to
find our true selves, our true life path and profound spiritual awareness. See Section 11. Whatever
happens, try to record the experiences in a journal.
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Apologize Guilt-buster Forgive Grieve Self-esteem Stop sniping Build tolerance Stop worrying
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Forgiveness
Forgiveness is like a muscle, and exercising it regularly will help to ensure strong spiritual health.
Apologizing, letting go of guilt and forgiveness are crucial if we are to find our true selves and our true
life path, but being trustworthy is just as important in building strong, healthy relationships. Visit
WikiHow and learn How to build trust

Feelings of anger or sadness must be released before forgiveness can grow. In this case, go to the
Grieving exercise before proceeding with forgiveness.

What does it feel like to forgive?

When we forgive, it can feel as though a burden has been lifted, or as if someone has put out the fire
inside of us. The challenge is to see that holding onto negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions and
directing them at whoever hurt us does nothing to hurt the other person. Non-forgiveness can create
all sorts of health problems, even obsessive thoughts, but not for the other guy.
Exercise 1
How do I do it?
Simply be willing. Sounds too simple, right? But it really is just that easy.
o Ask for assistance.
o Get centred.
o Look at yourself in a mirror and from your centred space, think of someone who makes you angry,
or who has failed or harmed you in some way. Ask your guide for some understanding about the
person and the situation to help see their humanity.
o Say the words, "I forgive you" and mean it.

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What can happen when I do it?
The pain can stop, sometimes immediately. There may be an overwhelming urge to cry.

How often shou ld this be done?

Practice forgiveness whenever someone fails us, hurts us or makes us angry, before resentment sets in
and before the urge for revenge becomes irresistible.

Action
Think of the person we have forgiven. How do we feel when we imagine their face? Is it different to
how we felt before this exercise? If not, then the exercise is not yet complete. Ask the Universe for
more information about the situation. The exercise is complete when we can think about the person
without having any negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions. After forgiving at least five people,
move on to Exercise 2. Whatever happens, try to record your experiences in a journal.

Forgiveness - Exercise 2 - Now that we know how to forgive

Now that we know how to forgive others, it is time to start forgiving self. For this exercise, begin by
asking questions, for example:
o Am I angry with myself? If so, why?
o Do I have unrecognized anger or resentment? If so, why?
o Am I holding onto old, painful issues? If so, what are they?
o Do I often feel the need to punish myself? If so, why?
Remember to ask for assistance while getting centred and before asking any questions. Listen to your
thoughts for at least 15 to 30 seconds after each question, and pay close attention to your body too,
for your guide may use physical signals to communicate with you.

Action
What happened? Were our questions answered? Be sure to record your experiences in a journal.

Forgiveness - Exercise 3 - Forgive everyone

Now it is time to forgive everyone. Think of anyone, from any time in our life, for whom we are holding
a grudge. Forgive them - now - because not doing so would be like holding onto a rotten apple and
storing it with the good ones.

It may seem like a small thing, but forgiveness is actually the crucial first step in healing chronic
disease. So how does that work? Holding onto old hurts is like putting them into a mental vault for
safe-keeping. Every now and then we open the vault to review them, or every now and then a current
experience triggers memories of them. Our pain is refreshed, and it is almost like picking a scab too
early. The pain makes us re-justify our reasons for keeping any unhealthy habits that we developed to
cope with the hurt. These habits can be spiritual, like holding onto negative emotions, or they can be
physical, like having addictions, living in co-dependent relationships or acting in self-destructive ways
(see obsessive/compulsive behaviours).

This never-ending cycle of reliving old pain takes a physical toll on our system, because our thoughts
are transmitted throughout our entire body. After all, we are spiritual beings inside physical bodies. As
we think, so do we feel.

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Mental exercise
Pretend that someone has raised a hand to slap you.
How does your body react to your fear?
What are you thinking?
(There are no wrong answers)

Next, pretend that someone has publicly humiliated or embarrassed you.

How does your body respond to your shame?
What are you thinking?
(There are no wrong answers)

These physical reactions to spiritual thoughts of fear or shame create disease by damaging our physical
bodies at cellular level. As the years go by, the damage builds up and, once a certain threshold has
been breached (everyone’s threshold is different), diseases develop. Disease is rooted in a lack of
forgiveness, because when we withhold forgiveness, we hold onto negative thoughts, attitudes and
emotions and it is these that make us sick.

The good news is that we can short-circuit the disease cycle. Forgiveness takes painful memories out of
our mental vault. Our curiosity and desire to learn Truth raise us beyond pain as we search for
understanding. We see that it is safe to look, and to feel, and we find that it is ok to let go. Forgiveness
enables these memories to move to a different location in the brain from where they can be recalled,
and even shared, without re-inflicting anguish.
Forgive the dead?
Sometimes it is necessary to forgive someone who is no longer alive. Just because people have died
does not mean that God expects or requires us to automatically forgive them, or that we need not
consciously forgive them. We have free will, and we can forgive or resent - the choice is ours.

It is not speaking ill of the dead to acknowledge that they hurt us. In fact, not doing so denies our true
feelings and can leave us feeling guilty for holding onto the pain that we experienced. Magically
elevating someone to sainthood upon their passing, when we know that they were anything but
saintly, creates additional suffering and anguish for us. It can also give others the false impression that
we are kind and forgiving. Without forgiveness though, true joy simply cannot be felt.
Forgive ourselves?
Just as important as forgiving others, is the need to forgive ourselves. Since self-hatred is one of the
most common spiritual components of disease, addictions and negative life patterns, does it not make
sense that if we can find some way to forgive ourselves, that we might finally find peace and healing?

We cannot live our lives wishing and hoping that someone will forgive us for something we have done
or not done, or that they will give us permission to forgive ourselves. It is up to us to forgive us. It is up
to us to be the best that we ourselves can be.
An example from my own life
When I first started working with the Universe, the how-to of forgiveness was unknown to me. Oh
sure, I had heard of it. I went to Sunday school and learned that Jesus taught that we should forgive,
and keep forgiving - seventy times seven times if need be. But what is it? How do you actually do it?

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Forgiveness comes down to just letting go
A good place to start is with our first hurt. I started by trying to forgive my birth parents for giving me
up for adoption. It took a while, but I finally got the hang of it. Next came my adopted sister, the bully
in my kindergarten class, the mean neighbour boys; I kept going all the way up through the years of my
life. Let me just say I had A LOT of forgiving to do, so I got a lot of practice. The more I did it, the easier
it became. Now I know I have fully forgiven someone when I can go over the experience in my mind -
see their face, remember the words, everything - and not feel any anger or hatred or desire for
revenge. I know that I have forgiven myself when I can look in the mirror without cringing or wincing.
Forgiveness is like a muscle - the more we use it, the stronger it gets. With regular practice, it becomes
an almost unconscious habit.
Dilemma
Of course all this forgiveness creates a dilemma: How do we forgive others, yet protect ourselves from
toxic relationships? Does God expect us to stay in relationships with “repeat offenders”? To solve this
dilemma, we need to know what forgiveness is not.
What forgiveness is not
Knowing what forgiveness is not, is just as important as knowing what forgiveness is. Forgiveness is not
a bargaining chip, for example, saying to someone, "I'll forgive you if you ...” Forgiving others does not
mean that we have to allow their abusive or negative behaviour, nor does it mean that we can trust
them to change their behaviour. Most importantly, it does not mean that we must stay in toxic
relationships. In fact, sometimes it is necessary to completely limit contact with those who have
harmed us. Doing so does not mean we have not forgiven them - it means that we are honouring,
respecting, and protecting ourselves. It means that we are trusting God to provide for them the lessons
that they need to move forward spiritually.
Forgiveness from God?
Since the Universal Intelligence sees all human experience as education, there can be no such thing as
sin. Since there is no such thing as sin, there is nothing to forgive. The Universal Intelligence does not
ever judge, criticise, or condemn us, but we will experience the logical outcomes of our choices.
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Grieving
Grieving is the process of coming to terms with life's difficult losses and traumatic events. No matter
what the experience, if we are ever to find peace, we must find some way to let go of that which was
lost. It is holding on that keeps us stuck in a feedback loop of sorrow and self-pity, or of anger and
hatred. If we look at staying in that loop as a behaviour, we can start to peel away the layers and get to
its root cause.
If we are ever to escape the pain, we must change the responses we learned as young children and
learn to grieve in a new, healthy, productive way. Before we can change anything though, we must first
understand how we are currently grieving, and whether it is keeping us stuck.

Exercise
In meditation, recall the first experience of loss that was ignored or minimized by our caregivers
(usually in early childhood) along with the thoughts we had at that time. If we can manage to recall our

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real reaction to the loss, along with that which we were taught, we can begin to understand why we
behave the way we do whenever we experience a loss. Then can we begin to change the pattern.

After learning and practicing the new way of grieving, it becomes gradually easier to let go of our losses
at ever-deeper levels, thereby letting go of the need to endlessly replay our memories and repeat the
old patterns. Changing the way we grieve is a process that takes time. It does not change just because
we want it to. We learned how to respond to losses when we were young and have kept on repeating
the learned behaviour, so it is going to take time to adapt. We have to be patient with ourselves, or we
will just keep on creating more reasons to keep stuck in the old ways.
How do I do it?
In your centred space, start by looking at the first negative experience that was ignored (usually in
childhood) along with all the thoughts that we had when it happened. This could be the experience
that you think about most often, that causes you the most pain. By remembering it and under what
circumstances it happened, we can begin to understand why we do certain things, and we can begin to
validate our experiences. Do this until all of your thoughts, attitudes and emotions surrounding it have
been recalled, recognized, and released after gaining full understanding.
Again, in meditation, gain full understanding of why it was ignored and/or written off as being
unimportant. As adults, we can look at our childhood experiences and find understanding that is not
possible for young children. This is not to place blame, but to recognize that everyone who was a part
of the experience played an active (or passive) role in it.
Next, feel the emotions and think the thoughts that were suppressed or repressed at the time of the
event. Grieve the losses that were felt as a child by saying the angry thoughts out loud, if possible. Cry,
cry, cry. Let it all out, as scary as that may sound, for crying is an important part of the healing process.
Acknowledge the pain or cruelty that we suffered, without understating the importance of it. The
events were important, for they have made us who we are today. It does not matter whether anyone
else thinks that our experiences were easier or worse than theirs were. What is important is that they
happened to us, and they hurt us. All of our experiences have helped to create all the thoughts,
attitudes and emotions, beliefs and inner conflicts that we have now.
Then it is time to forgive. Forgive self for developing the behaviour - forgive others for making us do it -
forgive God.
After all this, it becomes gradually easier to let go of the experiences at ever-deeper levels, thereby
letting go of the need to endlessly replay one's memories and repeat the cycle.
What can happen when I do it?
We might feel pleasure or satisfaction. If you feel guilt at the thought of releasing a person or an
experience, let it go. Holding onto guilt or remorse will only keep us stuck.
How often should this be done?
Do this as often as needed until all thoughts, attitudes and emotions surrounding the experience have
been recalled, recognized, and released after gaining full understanding.
Action
Practice, practice, practice. Whatever happens, try to record your experiences in a journal.
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How to raise self-esteem
What is it?
Self-esteem is the ability to accept our good - and not-so-good - thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs,
desires and behaviours without judgment, criticism and condemnation. Self-esteem and self-respect go
hand in hand. Believe it or not, we are born with these qualities, but we can lose them all too easily.
The challenge then, is to regain them. Good news! We can learn how to do just that. Once we learn the
spiritual component(s) of why we withhold self-esteem and respect from ourselves, we can begin to
earn them back. How? By accomplishing small tasks that help us to see our worth. Gaining self-esteem
and respect is not a quick process, but, as with apologizing, forgiveness and tolerance, can be learned
and strengthened by practicing.

Here are some of the spiritual components of low or unstable self-esteem:

o Blaming
o Lying
o Not following through on commitments
o Constant criticism from self or a loved one

Low or unstable self-esteem can lead to feelings of guilt and shame, and guilt and shame can lead to:
o Chronic feelings of self-doubt, fear and/or anxiety and worry
o Co-dependent relationships
o Depression
o Addictions to behaviours or substances
o Being easy for others to manipulate

How do I build self -esteem?

Start small: Set a goal for yourself that is easily achievable. Could be something like, "I will not
complain today." Throughout the day, every time you have the urge to complain, remember your
commitment. Do not let go of it, no matter what happens. At the end of the day, meditate about how
it felt to achieve your goal and record your experiences. Record all of the experiences that made you
want to complain along with the root cause(s).
What can happen when I do it?
There may be a feeling of pleasure or satisfaction. As each day without complaining passes, we might
feel a little less angry. (If you find yourself feeling more angry, then there is an inner conflict that needs
to be resolved.)
How often should this be done?
Every day for a month, live up to the commitment. After that month, set a new goal for the next
month. The goal needs to address some negative behaviour within self. Maybe we are always running
late, maybe we are always making excuses for not doing something we have agreed to do ... could be
just about any behaviour at all that affects your life negatively. Try choosing one that bothers our
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Next step
Continue setting goals for yourself that are gradually more challenging to meet: Today I will complete
one of the tasks I have been avoiding (even if it is only for 15 minutes) → Today I will not judge myself
harshly → Today I will pay attention to my thoughts → Today I will not criticise others and so on.
Action
Practice, practice, practice. Whatever happens, try to record your experiences in a journal.
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How to stop sniping
Verbal sniping is the pattern of taking every single opportunity to point out someone's flaws to make
them feel bad and/or to make self feel big and powerful is verbal sniping. It is judgment, criticism, and
condemnation, and it is a passive/aggressive act of manipulation. It is NOT done out of a desire to help
someone.
What if I do it?
Meditate to find out which thoughts, attitudes or emotions make you want to strike out.
o Ask for assistance.
o Get centred.
o Listen to your thoughts.
o Ask your guide to show you a recent occurrence to help you understand the root cause of the
behaviour, or what triggered you. Once that understanding has been gained, it becomes easier to
let go of the need to react in such a way. Remember: No one deserves such treatment.
What can happen when I stop?
At first? Probably not too much. There might still be the desire to strike out verbally, but resisting the
temptation really can be its own reward. A feeling of pleasure arises when we take the moral high
road. Self-worth grows along with self-esteem. As those traits strengthen, the need for the old
behaviour decreases - often dramatically. Eventually, we will find it hard to believe that we ever
sniped. Note that you may become sensitive to hearing it from others.
What if someone does it to me?
First of all, look within to see which of our words or actions might have caused the individual to react in
such a way. Check with our guide to see whether we have some negative beliefs about self. Do others
often treat us disrespectfully? Do our thoughts continually repeat past negative experiences? If so, the
root cause may well be an inner conflict. Once the issue has been resolved, new behaviours and beliefs
become easier to adopt.

Next time, call them on it. Let them know what they did was hurtful. Whatever happens, try to record
your experiences in a journal.
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How to build tolerance
What is it?
Tolerance is the ability to observe people or to have experiences without having negative thoughts,
attitudes and emotions. When we see something we do not like, the tendency is to have a negative
thought about it. Sometimes the dislike can even become an obsession if we focus on trying to make
that thing change, when, in reality, changing it is completely beyond our control.

Tolerance is like a muscle, and exercising it regularly helps ensure strong spiritual health. Having
negative thoughts, attitudes and emotions harms us all. Intolerance creates much of the turmoil on
this planet, because we usually try to change the things we dislike - and when we try to change
someone else, we get into trouble. Why? Well, we all know how it feels when someone tries to
"correct" us. It feels like control, right? It feels like we have been judged, criticised, and condemned.
We then get angry - maybe with self, but more likely with the one who is trying to change us. So maybe
an argument erupts, or worse, communication ceases. It is far better to focus on our own negative
thoughts, attitudes and emotions - things we can actually change.

Becoming tolerant is neither simple nor quick, but, as with apologizing and forgiveness, can be learned
and strengthened by practicing.
Tolerance - Exercise 1
How do I do it?
o Ask for assistance.
o Get centred.
o Look in the mirror (full length if possible).
o Listen to your thoughts. Pay attention to every single negative word. Ask your guide to help you
understand the root cause of each of those thoughts. (The guides have the ability to seemingly
turn up the volume of our thoughts. It can be a little unnerving at first since we are not used to
hearing ourselves think, but this will help to raise our self-awareness.)
What can happ en when I stop judging myself ?
Our thoughts become clearer. A feeling of pleasure arises.
How often shou ld this be done?
Start with once a day and keep practicing until we can observe self with loving eyes. The goal is to have
no negative thoughts about self - the ultimate goal is to have no negative thoughts at all, about
anyone, but this is a work-in-process. It may sound impossible, but keep practicing.
Action
Look at self in the mirror and listen carefully to your thoughts. When you can watch for 15 seconds
without having any negative thoughts at all, it will be time to lengthen the duration of watching and
listening. Increase to 20 seconds, then to 25 and then to 30. (Until we have become adept at staying
focused on hearing our thoughts for any longer than that, the exercise becomes difficult to self-
monitor.) Practice, practice, practice. Whatever happens, try to record your experiences in a journal.
Tolerance - Exercise 2
Now that you are getting used to looking at yourself with love, or at least without cringing, it is time to
enlarge the picture.
o Ask for assistance.

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 o Get centred.
o Turn on the television or streaming device.
o Watch.
o Listen to your thoughts.
The urge to change channels while watching is a clear signal to focus on hearing your thoughts. Might
sound like: "That's terrible. He/she should/shouldn't wear that colour. He/she is ugly. That's beautiful.
How can they make crap like that? That's stupid. What a mess. How can people treat one another that
way? That hairstyle is ridiculous on him. Those people should know better than to let themselves get
so fat.” These statements indicate that judgment, criticism and condemnation have taken place, and
show what goes on in our thoughts almost all the time. The challenge in this exercise is to watch
without having any negative thoughts at all.

When you can watch for 15 seconds with no negative thoughts, it will be time to lengthen the duration
of watching and listening to your thoughts for negative statements. Increase to 20 seconds, then to 25
and then to 30. The longer, the better. Practice, practice, practice. Whatever happens, try to record the
experiences in a journal.
Tolerance - Exercise 3
Now that we are accustomed to looking at our physical appearance and others’ without negative
thoughts, it is time for the next step - learning to observe our negative behaviours without having
negative thoughts.
How can I possibly do that?!
As always, by practicing. Whenever you hear yourself say something like, "I should have/ shouldn't
have done that", ask your guide what the motivation was. Find the root cause. With full understanding,
it gradually becomes easier to let it go. The benefits of doing so are twofold: Firstly, the pattern
gradually reduces until it is no longer is repeated. Secondly, understanding our own behaviours enables
us to better understand those of others. When we understand something, it becomes easier to
observe without condemning it or wanting it to change.
Action
Think of one of your negative behaviours. Maybe it is having a constant need to check and recheck that
we have done something. Maybe it is a chronic need to spend money - could be almost anything. Think
about the behaviour and listen carefully to your thoughts about it. We are becoming more tolerant
when we can think about our behaviour without any negative thoughts. Whatever happens, try to
record your experiences in a journal.
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How to stop worrying
“Worrying’ means having busy thoughts; trying to figure out how everything is going to turn out; trying
to plan everything; trying to figure out what others are thinking or how others will react (or are
reacting) to your action(s). Habitually reliving past experiences and trying to make them have a
different outcome is another form. Worry is not necessarily thinking that something bad is going to
happen; it can just be going over and over an idea in your thoughts.

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Stopping worrying is neither simple nor quick, but, as with all the spiritual exercises, can be
strengthened by practicing. Worrying is like a muscle, and exercising it regularly has helped it to
become strong. Releasing it will take much dedication and practice.
How do I do it?
o Ask for assistance.
o Get centred.
o Listen to your thoughts for about 15 seconds. Pay attention to every single thought you have
about something that has not yet happened, or that has already happened. Ask your guide to help
you understand the root cause of why you are thinking about them. Once that understanding has
been gained, it becomes easier to let go of the need to obsess about it.
What can happen when I do it?
The thoughts become clear. A feeling of pleasure or relief might arise.
How often should this be done?
Start with once a day and keep practicing until you can hear the worry thought, understand the source
of it and then resolve it before it is even completed. The ultimate goal is to be worry-free. While that
may sound impossible, the important thing is to keep practicing.
Action
Listen carefully to your thoughts. When you can listen for 15 seconds without having any worrisome
thoughts, it will be time to lengthen the duration of listening. Increase to 20 seconds, then to 25 and
then to 30. Until you become adept at staying focused on hearing your thoughts for any longer than
that, the exercise becomes difficult to self-monitor. Practice makes progress! Whatever happens, try to
record your experiences in a journal.
Notes
Anyone who has quit using an addictive substance will know how our thoughts keep returning to the
idea of using it. It is the same with giving up worry (the Universe calls worry "mental turmoil"). The
worry is the addictive substance. Whether we are thinking about home, work, money, mate, future,
past experiences, etc. the challenge is to hear ourselves. Once we hear a thought, we can set it aside in
the knowledge that, right here, right now, there is nothing that can be done for it. Decide to deal with
it when the time is right, rather than in your every waking moment. Just gently set it aside...tell
yourself that you can return to it tomorrow, or the next day, or whenever ... write it down on paper so
that you do not have to worry about forgetting it. But for right now, trust that it is ok to leave it alone.
Do the same for each separate thought that comes. Of course it takes lots of practice, but the results
are worth the effort.

After we become somewhat comfortable with not worrying, and with having quieter thoughts, it
becomes easier to communicate with the Universe. We become able to ask a question to which we
genuinely do not know the answer, and then just let it go ... we can wait for the answer instead of
endlessly repeating the question or making suggestions as to what the answer might be.
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Section 10 External resources
o A Class Divided - a PBS Frontline presentation
"The day after Martin Luther King, Jr. was killed, a teacher in a small town in Iowa tried a daring
classroom experiment. She decided to treat children with blue eyes as superior to children with
brown eyes. FRONTLINE explores what those children learned about discrimination and how it
still affects them today."
o All in the Family, a CBC Radio production about Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE's)
"Cardio-vascular disease. Obesity. Alcoholism. Diabetes. These conditions may have one
surprising factor in common: childhood trauma -- according to a massive study called "Adverse
Childhood Experiences", or ACE. ... "
Part 1 Part 2 Part 3
o (Babbling friend?) 3 Ways to Be Friends With Someone Who Talks Too Much - WikiHow
"If you have a chatty friend, you may notice yourself making statements like “Yea, but what I was
trying to say earlier was…” quite often. This person may totally dominate your conversations and
make it impossible to get a word in edgewise. A friend who talks too much can be a handful. But,
you can learn to manage their chattiness, by using strategies to limit their talking and give
yourself the opportunity to participate. In addition, it may be useful to tell your friend about their
problem and set boundaries if they are not willing to change."
o Childhood abuse linked to higher risk for high cholesterol as an adult in new research -
SciTechDaily
"A new study discovered that risk factors for heart disease and stroke were higher among adults
who said they experienced childhood abuse and varied by gender and race. However, those who
described their family life as well-managed and had family members involved in their lives during
childhood were less likely to have increased cardiovascular risk factors as adults, according to new
research published today (April 27, 2022) in the Journal of the American Heart Association, an
open access, peer-reviewed journal of the American Heart Association."
o The power of confidence - Brittany Packnett Cunningham - a TED Talks presentation
How to build your confidence -- and spark it in others
“ ‘Confidence is the necessary spark before everything that follows,’ says educator and activist
Brittany Packnett Cunningham. In an inspiring talk, she shares three ways to crack the code of
confidence -- and her dream for a world where revolutionary confidence helps turn our most
ambitious dreams into reality.”
o Food allergy or food intolerance? What Is the difference between a food allergy and a food
intolerance? - SciTechDaily
"Many people confuse food allergies and food intolerances, but they’re two different things.
Understanding the difference is important if you experience allergy-like symptoms after eating
certain foods."
o Genetic scars - a CBC News | Health presentation
"Your life is leaving genetic scars that might show up in your child's genes: Growing evidence that
life experience can be passed genetically from one generation to the next"
o Hidden plant SOS - SciTech Daily
“Global breakthrough: for the first time in the world, researchers at Tel Aviv University recorded
and analyzed sounds distinctly emitted by plants...”

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 o Indigenous stories lead scientist to discover that plants can hear, a CBC Radio production
"Do you talk to your plants? Well, science suggests they might be able to hear you. An Australian
scientist was inspired by stories from Indigenous people around the world about how they
communicate with plants."
o Does everyone have an inner monologue? - Live Science
"Some people process thoughts and feelings differently. The "little voice in your head" can be
your worst critic and greatest supporter. It's been known to help with directions, give advice,
rehearse tough conversations and even remind you to put pesto on the grocery list."
o The melodies of matter - SciTech Daily
“A recent college graduate has used data sonification to convert the visible light emitted by
elements in the periodic table into complex sounds, taking the first step towards an interactive,
musical periodic table...”
o Music suggestions for Going Home
Youtube - Ambient music
Youtube - Anugama - Healing
Youtube - Anugama - Shamanic Dream
Youtube - Tibetan Monks Chanting Om
o How childhood trauma affects health across a lifetime - A TEDMED Talks presentation by Dr.
Nadine Burke-Harris
"Nadine Burke Harris reveals a little-understood, yet universal factor in childhood that can
profoundly impact adult-onset disease."
o Lie detector - a TED Talks presentation by Pamela Meyer
How to spot a liar: "Pamela Meyer thinks we’re facing a pandemic of deception, but she’s arming
people with tools that can help take back the truth."
o Restorative Justice - Wikipedia
"Restorative justice is an approach to justice in which the response to a crime is to organize a
facilitated dialogue or meeting between the parties involved, including the victim and the
offender, and sometimes with representatives of a wider community present as well. The goal is
for the parties to share their experience of what happened, to discuss who was harmed by the
crime and how, and to create a consensus for what the responsible party will do to repair the
harm from the offense. This may include monetary restitution given from the offender to the
victim, apologies and other amends, and other actions to make things as right as possible for
those affected and to prevent the offender from causing future harm."
o Scientists Show Transmission of Epigenetic Memory Across Multiple Generations
(scitechdaily.com) - SciTechDaily.com
"Changing the epigenetic marks on chromosomes results in altered gene expression in offspring
and in grand-offspring, demonstrating ‘trans-generational epigenetic inheritance.’ "
o Smarty Plants
"Is it possible that plants are smarter than we think? They are among the world's oldest and most
successful organisms and represent some of the strangest and longest living life forms on the
planet. Stunningly diverse, plants have served us in many critical ways, from providing food,
shelter and clothing to life-saving medicine. And yet we know very little about them.

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 "A luscious exploration of the natural world, Smarty Plants effortlessly integrates pioneering
science with a light hearted look at how plants behave, revealing a world where plants are as
busy, responsive and complex as we are. From the stunning heights of Utah's Great Basin Desert
to the rainforests of Canada's west coast, Smarty Plants follows lead scientist and ecologist JC
Cahill as he treks the green world and discovers that plants are a lot more like animals than we
ever imagined. The world he reveals is one where plants eavesdrop on each other, talk to their
enemies, call in insect allies to fight those enemies, recognize their relatives and nurture their
young." (description from DocuWiki)”
o Sonifications - NASA
“Ever wondered what the music of the spheres would sound like? Hubble brings us cosmic sights,
but these astronomical marvels can be experienced with other senses as well. Through data
sonification, the same digital data that gets translated into images is transformed into sound.”
o Is it a spiritual experience or mental illness? - A CBC Radio presentation
"Shawn Lucas calls it a transcendental assessment tool. Lucas is the manager of Spiritual Care at
CAMH, the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health in Toronto. The new comparison tool is
designed to help clinicians answer a difficult question: What is a spiritual experience … and what's
mental illness? "We're hoping this tool will help … to differentiate between what is a delusion as
part of psychosis and what might also be part of a transcendent experience, or what William
James called a mystical experience." - Shawn Lucas, manager of Spiritual Care at Toronto's CAMH"
o Strict Parenting May Hardwire Depression Into a Child’s DNA - SciTechDaily.com
“The way the body reads the children’s DNA might change as a result of strict parenting. These
alterations may become ‘hard-wired’ into the DNA of children who perceive their parents to be
harsh, raising their biological risk for depression in adolescence and later life.”
o Suicide prevention - List of international suicide crisis lines at Wikipedia
o Time: How long is the present? - SciTechDaily.com
“How long is the present? The answer, Cornell researchers suggest in a new study, depends on
your heart...”
o WikiHow - Find out how to do almost anything

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Section 11 The path
Food for thought | No one can push us up a ladder; we must climb willingly.
Figure 20 No one can push us up a ladder

Walking the path of spiritual development is similar to

climbing a ladder, the rungs of which are the chakras.
Free will factors into our progression, since we choose
whether and when to ascend. As we climb, we become
more spiritually aware and able to feel greater peace,
joy and unconditional love. Our physical needs come to
feel less important. Time takes on new meaning as we
gain understanding of the roles we have played in
human history throughout our many incarnations.

Progression does not happen just because we desire it, or because we think we are ready for it. Rather,
it is achieved gradually. We grow into more profound awareness by becoming adept at hearing our
thoughts, as we think them. This helps us to refine and reduce our negative thoughts ever further. This
workbook has set out the procedures - the path - for doing so.

What are the planes of existence?

The physical and spiritual planes of existence are different types of reality. As souls in physical form,
we live in both planes; we are subject to the laws governing each.

The physical plane

Our body is physical; we experience space and time, have physical needs, and suffer the effects of
aging.

The spiritual plane

Our soul is spirit; we have thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires.

The soul has only one escape route from the physical plane - death of the physical body. There is no
escape from the spiritual plane though, since we are spirit. Spirit is our essential nature. We were
created as emanations of spirit (Universal Intelligence) to go forth and experience, and then,
eventually, to return Home.

Characteristics of the dimensions of spiritual awareness

Just as there are dimensions of the physical plane of existence (space, time, etc.), so there are
dimensions of the spiritual. There are (at least) eight dimensions of spiritual awareness which
correspond with the chakras.

There are certain characteristics associated with the dimensions, or levels, of spiritual awareness. The
characteristics indicate our focus of care and interest, as well as the level at which we currently reside.
We tend to become more open-minded and tolerant and less self-serving as we learn to accept and
embrace the spiritual aspect of life.

First, second and third dimensions

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In the first, second and third dimensions of spiritual awareness, we have thoughts, attitudes, emotions,
beliefs and desires; we accept them as the only reality.
o First corresponds to Root, Second corresponds to Sacral and Third to Solar plexus chakras
o Basic awareness of self existing in the here and now
o When in this phase, nothing short of spiritual dynamite (near-death experiences, or profoundly
traumatic or joyous events) may open the mind to new possibilities
o The effects of the first cusp are felt as transition to Fourth dimension begins

Fourth, fifth and sixth dimensions

In the fourth, fifth and sixth dimensions of spiritual awareness, we are awakening to the idea that our
negative thoughts can be changed, that the behaviours created by them can be re-patterned, and that
our physical condition is interwoven with our thoughts.
o Fourth corresponds to Heart, Fifth corresponds to Throat and Sixth to Brow chakras
o Growing awareness that our guide is giving us physical signals to help us learn to pay ever-closer
attention to our thoughts
o Growing awareness of self, our impact on others and our place in history
o The effects of the second cusp are felt as transition to Seventh dimension begins

Seventh dimension
In the seventh dimension of spiritual awareness, we have very few negative thoughts, attitudes,
emotions, beliefs and desires because they have been refined and reduced to the point that if they
occur, they are recognized, understood and released almost instantly. Our negative behavioural
patterns have been largely eradicated.

We are able to recognize old issues that may arise and we work diligently to understand them more
fully. The Universe will use our past experiences to teach others, so we must be willing to share them.
Doing so also helps to ease any physical signals our guides may have provided to draw our attention to
the issue.

Brief instances of awareness of the Eighth dimension occur. You may find yourself wondering then,
“What is this? What do I need to do to experience more of it?”
o Applies to Crown chakra
o It is easier to pay attention to our thoughts since they seem to have become almost audible
o Sense of ego is diminishing

Eighth dimension
At humanity’s current stage of development, awareness of the Eighth dimension is possible to achieve
only for fleeting moments during profoundly traumatic or joyous experiences. Maintaining it afterward
is the challenge, due to our physical needs overtaking our conscious connection to Source. "I need" and
"I want" trick us into thinking that our need or want is the only reality that counts. We get caught up in
everyday concerns that take us out of observation mode.

Gradually working our way up to the eighth dimension of spiritual awareness though enables us to
exist there - in observation mode - for gradually longer, more frequent, periods of time. This is a state
in which we see what is happening around us without any thoughts of fixing or changing anyone or

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anything. We have become mostly free of negative thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires,
except in the case of extraordinary events in the physical plane. In such events, after observing, we
seek, and follow, Universal guidance. Note that achieving this level of spiritual awareness is not a
guarantee of freedom from future incarnations.

Developing the ability to maintain this state while going about the activities of daily life requires
extreme dedication to building trust in, and obedience to, Universal guidance.
o Applies to Zenith chakra
o Also referred to as “divine consciousness”
o Also referred to as attunement or “at-one-ment” by Edgar Cayce
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The journey
Doing the work described in this book has taught you how to work consciously with the Universal
Intelligence. You will have brought positive change into your life and begun to sense your soul’s
potential. You will have gained at least Fourth dimension awareness. Further work is needed to
continue advancing along the path, by resolving inner conflicts at an ever-deeper level, and refining
and reducing your thoughts. After all, we are complex creatures, so there is always another level of
self-understanding to be gained.

It may be challenging to release certain old beliefs or inappropriate attitudes, but we cannot move
forward until we do - we will remain at our particular level of development. It is when we are stuck
that we crave change of almost any sort - a new job, or mate, or home, or furniture, or whatever. We
know within ourselves that something is needed - we just cannot quite put a name to it. It is then that
we are presented with opportunities to advance.

Of course there are benefits to doing this work. By the time we reach the Seventh level of spiritual
awareness, our overall health improves and we become less needful of others’ attention and approval.
We have a better understanding of our true purpose for incarnating in this particular lifetime. Past life
issues affecting us in this lifetime can be recognized and resolved. Heightened spiritual awareness
brings recognition of our desire, and even a sense of responsibility, to be of service to the Universal
Intelligence.

Gaining increased awareness does not release us from either the spiritual or the physical laws. It does
not give us free licence to leave our body and go exploring the universe. It is not necessary to take an
oath of poverty either to advance spiritually, or to receive guidance.

The chakras, cusps and transitions

Certain attitudes, beliefs, characteristics and traits are common to each chakra, and we can use this
information to identify our current level of spiritual awareness. As we progress through each level, our
thoughts are gradually reduced and refined. Some might call this a purification process. The process
enables us to embrace concepts that are gradually more concerned with unconditional love, and less
with earthly needs and wants.

The chakras are energetic expressions of our current spiritual / emotional / physical state, emitted at
our personal vibrational frequency. Figure 21 below lists the dimensions of the spiritual plane and the
chakras with which they correspond, the spiritual quality each reflects, a key word association and a

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physical representation, and the two cusps with a key word to describe them: (click to see full-size
image)
Figure 21 The dimensions, chakras and cusps

The chakras
Which chakra’s traits resonate most with you? Read through the descriptions of the chakras and cusps
below. It is recommended to be familiar with your habitual thoughts and beliefs, and to have
developed a solid working relationship with your guide. Only complete honesty will enable a clear
understanding of self and of the changes that we need to make. Ask your guide for the Universe’s
input, because it is very easy to have an unrealistic opinion of self, for better or for worse. We are who
we are, and hiding from the truth only serves to keep us stuck. Appendix B is provided as a reference
tool for measuring progress.

Root chakra beliefs and traits (First level)

o No such thing as God. There is no intelligence higher than that of humans
o We humans can do anything we want. We are in charge
o No such thing as a soul. Humans are children of their parents
o No such thing as spirituality
o Spiritual awareness is a myth. Everyday consciousness is all that there is
o Who cares what anyone else thinks

o Evil entities exist, they are powerful and they are out to get us
o Demons and curses cause negative life experiences like accidents, injuries and illness
o No such thing as angels
o There is only one life to live. No such thing as reincarnation or karma
o Intense fear of change, or of anything that makes us question our beliefs
o Tendency to prefer co-dependent or authoritarian relationships

o Humans are members of separate tribes. The others want our stuff, so we must protect ourselves
and our property.

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 o There is never enough of anything
o Tendency to squabble and live in chaos
o Prefer one genre of music and one art form, if any. Others are disturbing, dangerous or just plain
annoying
o Tendency to feel persecuted if questioned about anything
o Averse to seeking guidance from anyone about anything

Sacral c hakra beliefs and traits (Second level)

o If God exists, he does not talk to us
o We humans can do anything we want. We are in charge
o No such thing as a soul - humans are children of their parents
o No spiritual meaning in anything, except maybe angels and demons
o No such thing as spiritual development or dimensional awareness
o Comforting to convince others that evil entities exist

o We are powerless against evil

o If God exists, he would not allow accidents, injuries and illness to happen
o Angels are real but no longer help humanity
o Reincarnation and karma trick us into thinking we can be irresponsible
o Becoming able to accept that others’ beliefs are not a threat to ours
o Easily controlled by anyone whose approval we crave

o Our group is superior so we are entitled to control others. They probably want our stuff, so we
must protect ourselves and our property
o Tendency to rely on violence to teach discipline and/or to solve issues
o Prefer one or two genres of music. Some art forms are okay
o Tendency to feel threatened by questions from others
o Uncomfortable if others find out that we do not already know something

Solar plexus chakra beliefs and traits (Third level)

o God created heaven and hell and everything therein. Good people go to heaven and bad people
go to hell
o We have free will. It is ours to do with as we please
o Souls are created when human babies are born. Our parents create us
o Maybe there is something to spirituality. Traumatic or joyous events open the mind
o Maybe there is more to life than we think
o Enjoy discussing spiritual matters with like-minded people only. Unable to accept disagreement

o Performing certain rituals can protect us from evil and from the ill wishes of others
o We are not responsible for accidents, injuries and illness and we have no control over them

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 o Angels are real, but they do not always protect us from evil
o Reincarnation and karma may be possible
o Learning that diversity enriches us all
o Growing self-confidence yet still seeking approval from authority figures

o God favours our group over all others

o Learning that chaos and violence prevent progress
o Becoming able to appreciate many genres of music, although some are still disturbing. Other art
forms are just entertainment
o Tendency to feel challenged by questions from others
o Comfortable asking others for guidance

Heart chakra beliefs and traits (Fourth level)

o There is more to the universe than we currently know
o We have been given the gift of free will. It is ours to do with as we please
o Souls are created when human babies are born. Our parents create us
o Near-death experiences or traumatic or joyous events make us curious about spiritualty
o Becoming able to connect with others on a deeper level than we ever thought possible
o Enjoy discussing spiritual matters and eager to learn more

o Evil entities hurt us and make us hurt others

o Accidents, injuries and illness are just a part of life
o Angels are real and they can help us if we are good
o Reincarnation is a possibility, but we choose whether, when and into which family to enter
o It physically feels better to be kind than cruel
o Becoming more able to work either alone or with others

o Becoming open to the idea that the human race is indeed just one race, and all are entitled to
basic human rights
o Learning to approach daily life with optimism rather than dread
o Enjoying most genres of music and some other art forms, and finding that some seem to have a
deeper meaning
o We cannot grow without communication
o Guided by our higher self and maybe our deceased loved ones who watch over us and wait for us
in heaven

Throat chakra beliefs and traits (F ifth level)

o A higher intelligence must have created the universe and everything in it
o Our free will is permanent and unchangeable. We are free to do as we please
o We each have a soul that pre-exists humanity and we are all imbued with Spirit

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 o Open to exploring spiritual matters
o Showing others we are spiritually advanced by wearing certain clothes, eating (or avoiding)
certain foods or praying in public
o Learning the importance of finding Universal Truth

o Evil exists only in our negative thoughts

o Accidents, injuries and illness probably do not just happen, but there is no way to prevent them
o Wondering if we can communicate with our personal angel
o Gaining a sense of at least one past life
o Negative thoughts can enable unpleasant physical signals
o Seeking mutually satisfying relationships. Will our loved ones recognize our improvements and
join us?

o Freedom of thought enables us to explore spirituality at our own pace and in our own way
o Sharing our experiences of growth and improvement with others
o Wanting to express self in new, positive ways
o Developing stronger, more effective communication skills
o Becoming willing and able to seek information from the Universe

Brow chakra beliefs and traits (Sixth level)

o A higher intelligence created the universe and everything in it
o Having free will may not be a permanent situation. Is it possible to “give it back”?
o We each have a soul that pre-exists humanity and we are all imbued with Spirit
o Things that used to entertain us may now seem boring or childish or barbaric
o Having spiritual experiences like déjà vu, feeling as if we are not alone, recalling dreams
o Learning to discern Universal Truth

o Evil exists only in our negative thoughts and it is up to us to resist our baser urges
o There may be a spiritual component to accidents, injuries and illness
o Developing a working relationship with our guide
o Reincarnation and karma help us to better understand human behaviour and experience
o Starting to recognize just how negative our thoughts can be
o Finding that we meet self in others, and using the information to improve ourselves

o Starting to see the results of our efforts to heal our lives

o Seeing that cooperation benefits everyone
o Recognizing that we feel better when our thoughts are positive
o Interested in hearing what others have to say. Sharing helps!
o Recognizing that our “higher self” is a misnomer and guidance actually comes from the Universe

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Crown chakra beliefs and traits (Seventh level)
o A higher intelligence is the Source of all that was, is, and ever shall be
o Free will has limits. We are not in charge of everything
o All souls were created by the Universal Intelligence when this universe came into existence
o Wanting to spend more time studying spiritual matters
o We cannot judge others’ level of spiritual development
o Only Universal Truth enables us to move forward spiritually

o Evil exists only in our negative thoughts, and we can change our thoughts
o Our thoughts create accidents, injuries and illness. Changing our thoughts changes our physical
reality
o Our guide ensures that we meet our required life lessons
o Entering physical form places us in the cycle of reincarnation and karma
o Positive thoughts enable pleasant physical signals
o Seeing that we are all here to learn from, and teach, one another
o We must do what is right for us

o Clarity of thought makes it easier to recognize our relationship with the Universal Intelligence
o Learning that whatever we give comes back to us
o We feel better when our thoughts are relatively clear. It is getting easier to clearly express our
innermost thoughts
o Comfortable with waiting to speak until invited to do so
o Finding that free will can get in the way of receiving clear guidance

Zenith chakra beliefs and traits (Eighth level)

o We are all one with the Universal Intelligence
o Surrendering free will enables us to serve God in the best way possible
o All souls are in varying stages of development and Planet Earth is a vast place of learning
o Seeking profound enlightenment. Love seeks understanding
o Personality traits diminish and vibrational frequency rises as thoughts are reduced and refined
o Universal Truth is the way, the truth and the life

o Reducing and refining our thoughts enables us to resist negative intentions

o Our thoughts emanate from us; our body responds to them, and they attract certain experiences
o Our guide works with us to achieve our soul’s purpose
o Aiming to be karma-neutral
o Trusting that the Universe will let us know if something is required of us
o The Universal Intelligence responds to our learning requirements

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 o Rising desire to serve humanity by serving God. All that is required will be provided
o Working toward clarity of thought and inner peace
o Vibrational frequency stabilizes and enables us to endure trauma and chaos without concern
o At peace while waiting for answers
o The Universe, via our guide, provides the information we need

The cusps
The cusps are intervals in which the thoughts, attitudes, emotions, beliefs and desires of the previous
levels are further refined and reduced before advancing to the next level. Our guide attunes our
vibrational frequency to the new equilibriums accordingly.

First cusp (between Third and Fourth levels)

o Effects of the transition begin to be felt upon ascension to Heart chakra
o Sensing that there may be more to experience in life beyond our physical senses
Traits
o Growing curiosity about spiritual matters but relying on others to confirm truth
o Changes in digestive, reproductive, heart, lung and circulation systems are being felt
o Maybe, just maybe, we have a soul that exists even if we are not in human form
o Feeling that there is much more to the universe than our five senses can tell us
o Belief that those who are more advanced are responsible for making others move forward
o Becoming more curious about spiritual matters and how they might affect humanity

o Sensing that ‘evil’ is a misunderstood concept

o Is there something we can do to prevent accidents, injuries and illness?
o Everyone has a personal guide
o Open to learning more, yet disappointed with self for not already knowing
o Noticing that physical signals seem to happen for no apparent reason
o Co-dependent relationships are disintegrating. Our loved ones may try to pull us back into their
reality

o We are all spiritual beings in human form, at differing levels of spiritual awareness
o Striving to develop new coping skills and strategies
o Able to enjoy many forms of expressions of the human condition
o Learning to ask meaningful questions and listen for answers
o Learning that guidance is always available from the Universe

Second cusp (between Sixth and Seventh levels)

o Effects of the transition begin to be felt upon ascension to Crown chakra
o Increasing sense that we are on the verge of profound enlightenment
Traits

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 o Rising awareness of our personal connection with the Universal Intelligence
o Free will gets in the way of finding the Truth of how we can best serve God
o All souls are an expression of the Universal Intelligence
o Decreasing interest in matters over which we have no control
o General mood tends to be level. Feeling pleasure in life, without wild mood swings
o Relying less on others and more on our guide to provide Universal Truth

o The Universal Intelligence responds to our desire to improve our thoughts

o Physical signals help us recognize and change our thoughts
o Our guide responds to our thoughts and desires
o Holding onto regret s keeps us stuck in a loop of reincarnation and karma
o More emphasis on refining our thoughts. Physical signals are also being refined
o More emphasis on building a relationship with our guide. Knowing we must each walk our own
path

o Seeing that we are each unique yet connected

o Striving toward further resolution, reduction and refinement of chaotic thoughts and inner
conflicts
o Reducing and refining our thoughts raises our vibrational frequency
o Striving to gain deeper understanding
o Seeing the wisdom of following guidance

The transitions
As we progress through awareness of each level and each cusp, we find that transitions can be
challenging and unpredictable; they can be painful, tumultuous, traumatic and exhilarating, all at the
same time.
o Can be triggered by remarkable life events that awaken our minds to the possibility of a larger,
more meaningful reality
o Can occur at any time throughout our lives, but often occur as we move through stages of
physical development. We choose whether to pay attention to the clues for further development
provided by our guides
o The lure of preceding levels can be strong, and we are likely to take two steps forward and one
step back until we are firmly established in the new level
o Cheating our way into the next level is not possible because the guides hear our every thought
o Our guides do not advance us to the next phase of development until we are fully attuned to the
current one according to our progress toward refining and reducing our thoughts

Transition to zenith dimension

o As we move into awareness of this level, we find that our sense of reality is changing. This is due
to the refinement and reduction of our thoughts, which enables us to literally see and feel chaos
leaving us, and peace and calm becoming more easily sustained

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 o Since our early, developmental years are spent in other levels, we have gained first-hand
experience of what it means to live within the spiritual limitations imposed by life in physical
form. Those in this transition are permitted to communicate in their old habitual ways without
risk of slipping backward, to allow for more meaningful communication with others
o Relationships that worked for us in the past have been left behind because we no longer need
anyone’s approval or permission in order to thrive spiritually. We no longer seek recognition for
our efforts
o This transition is marked by new dental, hearing, sinus, vision, or concentration changes, and
occasional headaches or dizziness are possible. Longer periods of sleep may become necessary
o Improved short term memory results from reducing obsessive thoughts about the past
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Freedom to choose
Every day, we make choices - dozens, or maybe even hundreds of them. We are free to choose what to
think, feel, express, do, believe, and desire, without being judged, criticised, condemned or controlled
by the Universe or our guide. There is a cost for making all these decisions though. Every moment not
spent pondering options, is a missed opportunity to seek guidance. Are we making the best choice
possible? Are we aware of all of the options open to us, and have we considered each of them? Have
we pondered their potential outcomes? We may not be able to recognize all of the options, but the
Universe does. Our guide knows exactly what we need to be doing, and when and where we need to
be in any given moment. We spend our lives making best guesses and often end up in serious trouble
because of unforeseen outcomes. Our lives could be so much simpler, were we to seek, and follow,
Universal guidance; conditions for all life forms on planet earth, and even for the planet itself, could be
vastly improved.

Surrendering free will

We have two options to consider after our thoughts have been refined and reduced and our
behaviours re-patterned. We can choose to stay where we are, or we can choose to surrender our free
will. Staying where we are means that we will be happy and healthy, and we will treat others as we
would like to be treated. We will have a good working relationship with our guide and with the
Universal Intelligence.

Surrendering free will requires that we seek guidance from the Universal Intelligence via our guide
when making decisions - any decisions. After we receive it, there is yet another choice to make: follow
it, or do as we wish. After surrendering free will, each choice to do as we wish is considered to be
“control”. The control is dealt with swiftly and appropriately, according to our current level of
understanding, so as to enable us to remain true to our commitment.

We become accustomed to making snap decisions … what to wear, what to eat, which products to use,
where to live, work and play - our choices are endless1 . We make these decisions based on our life
experiences, our beliefs and our desires. Take the example of choosing what to eat. We consider what

1
My friend arrived home one day and debated where to park the car. A voice in her head said, “Let’s put it in the garage.”
She considered for a moment and then decided to park on the front street instead. Within 15 minutes of going in the
house, a thunderstorm arrived with heavy rain, strong winds and hail. Her vehicle suffered extensive damage and she was
quite angry with herself for having ignored such good advice.

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food is in the cupboard, what we believe to be healthy, our desire (or lack thereof) to be healthy,
whether we can afford to buy nutritious food, whether to allow ourselves the reward of eating well, or
to punish ourselves by eating junk food or even withholding food entirely. All of these factors and more
affect our decision. We have spent our lives making such decisions, so it takes time to unlearn the
pattern of independence and replace it with seeking input from our guide. Complacency is an ever-
present concern. If we slip into auto pilot mode, we risk reverting to making snap decisions rather than
seeking guidance. Our guide will step in and present us with a ‘wake-up’ challenge. Triggers will be
presented to test us, in accordance with the spiritual Law of Free Will.

How do I do it?
Tell your guide that you wish to return the gift of free will. Saying the words out loud - preferably
privately - establishes this commitment within your very being.

What happens then?

The process begins by asking for assistance. The words “Please guide me” or “What would you like me
to do?” are effective because they are free of judgment and control. Say the words aloud or in your
thoughts and then listen for, and follow, instructions. Aim toward following guidance in all things, at all
times.

Sounds simple enough, right? It is easy, but only until the Universe asks something of us that interferes
with our wishes or beliefs. Then we start finding out how deeply entrenched our patterns have
become.

Why follow guidance ?

The benefits are multiple. Think about it: our guide knows where we need to be and when we need to
be there. If our guide says, “Please leave now”, they mean it. By following guidance, it becomes
possible, depending on the required lessons, to avoid situations with negative consequences. We can
miss getting stopped by a train that would make us late for an appointment, or we may avoid getting
into an accident. It also becomes possible to arrive at the store in time to get that perfect parking spot,
or to buy the last available sale item.

Most importantly, making this sacrifice lifts some of the restrictions placed on our guides by the
spiritual laws, and enables them to work with us in a more collaborative way. In addition to
communicating with us telepathically with words and/or symbols, the guides will also use physical
signals to alert our attention to our unrecognized negative thoughts. This can be quite jarring at times;
however, it is done to honour our request for guidance.

There is no way we will get it right 100 percent of the time. No way. The process of learning to seek
and follow guidance is a gradual, on-going effort, enabling us to learn more about ourselves and even
about human behaviour in general. The process develops our patience, tolerance, humility and trust
and enables us to re-shape, old, negative behavioural patterns.

Special no te
Surrendering our free will to the Universal Intelligence opens the door to a larger, more meaningful
reality. Doing so enables our guide to work with us in ways that are, quite frankly, incredible. It is this
gift of divine assistance that enables us to raise our consciousness to new levels, and helps us find our
way home to Source.

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Walking the walk
If this idea resonates within you, you may have followed this path in previous lifetimes. If you decide to
undertake this journey, please contact me directly.
Process of entering life in physical
Soul groups wander the universe, exploring, experiencing, learning. They come upon planet earth and
are drawn in by its beauty and by its inhabitants. They desire to experience physical existence here.
Before doing so, classes, led by specially trained entities, are presented to prepare them for what is to
come. Souls are taught the meaning of, and consequences for, the following:
o Free will and the other spiritual laws governing life in human form
o The potential challenges posed by the cycles of karma and reincarnation
o The veil placed over our soul memory when incarnating with its resulting loss of spiritual self-
awareness, and the process of regaining same
o The privacy envelope that will be placed around the soul’s physical and spiritual form

Required life experiences

Before entering physical form, the soul agrees to experience a program of required life experiences
over the course of multiple incarnations. These include, but are not limited to, the following:
o wealth / poverty
o privilege / slavery or servitude
o being responsible for another / being reliant on another
o war / peace
o being a criminal / being a victim of crime
o being famous / living life in obscurity
o being spiritual / living life without spirituality

These experiences are provided so that we may learn our way back to Source. We cannot know where
we are in the process until we are in spirit once again and awaiting incarnation into our next lifetime.
Further preparatory classes are attended during intervals between incarnations.

Leaving a lifetime at a particular level of development is not a guarantee that we will enter our next
incarnation at that level, or be any more or less likely to achieve that level again, or advance further;
neither is it a limitation of our potential. Awakening depends on the life lessons presented in the
current lifetime and our reactions to them. Achieving each level of spiritual self-awareness, and
desiring the next, ensures presentation of the challenges of the next level.

Astrological connection
The astrological signs provide an agenda of spiritual tendencies that incarnating souls will experience
as part of their development. The day, time and location of birth enhance specific traits, both positive
and negative. The soul’s challenge is to overcome the negative tendencies and strengthen the positive.
The soul’s reactions to its life experiences determine its next phase of spiritual development and
required experiences.

The time, place and circumstances of the soul’s human birth are the result of our reactions to our
previous incarnations. It is not that we choose a particular sign; rather, it is set out for us. We

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voluntarily accept it knowing that overcoming the challenges will bring us closer to recognizing that we
are all, each and every one of us, a divine element of the Universal Intelligence.

Guides’ c lasses
If its charge has not yet experienced physical existence, the guide is taught the parameters and
limitations imposed by the spiritual Law of Free Will on communicating with its charge while in
physical.

Classrooms
The students and their guides are energy, so no physical location is needed for the classes. The
students observe humans, either as individuals or in groups, going about their daily lives. Their guides
are permitted to communicate with the guides of those in physical to obtain answers for their charge’s
questions. The privacy envelope mentioned above protects against invasion of the soul’s thoughts by
anyone other than their personal guide.

Declaration of Universal Citizenship

Our spirit is of “That Which Has No Name”. As we travel throughout this spiritual and material universe
over billions of years, we come to learn that we are its children. We are all connected through it. We
are loved unconditionally, we are entitled to certain considerations, and there are certain limitations
placed on us. Visit Wikipedia to see full-size image
Figure 22 Local group and nearest galaxies

Whereas:
o The Universal Intelligence is unconditionally loving, profoundly intelligent, responsive energy
o The Universal Intelligence created each of us as a part of itself at the instant of the creation of this
particular Universe
o As children of the Universal Intelligence, we are loved unconditionally
o The Universal Intelligence hears every thought

Be it unders tood that:

o Souls who enter physical form ("travellers") have been endowed with free will

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 o Souls who serve as personal companion/teacher guides abide by the will of the Universal
Intelligence and the spiritual laws, and are each assigned to accompany one specific traveller
o Travellers entering physical form are entitled to communication with their guide in every moment
o Travellers' purpose is to go forth and learn, and, ultimately, to return to Source
o One traveller is permitted to enter one physical form at a time, beginning approximately at
physical birth of, and remaining approximately until physical death of, that physical form
o There are required lessons for each soul's spiritual development on Planet Earth, and:
o lessons will be presented during physical incarnations, and travellers will be tested
relentlessly to ensure that lessons are learned
o while in physical form, we cannot know our progress
o Quantum entanglement (karma) ensures that travellers:
o present one another with lessons
o are given the opportunity to repay, or be repaid, spiritual debts. While in physical form,
we cannot know whether we are creditor or debtor in any given situation

Traveller record
All details from each entire incarnation are added to traveller’s Akashic record. This includes all sensory
input along with our reactions to our experiences, plus our improvements, failures, successes, karmic
debt accrual and payment, progression towards purity of thought, and much more. Traveller and its
guide review and assess the record after each incarnation is complete and before the next begins.

Who we are
Here is a short presentation (22 slides). In it, I show our physical location in this version of the
Universe, and describe the history of how we came to be here. I’ve presented the idea that we are
spiritual entities wrapped in physical matter for the duration of our current lifetime. We are not alone
while we are in human form; we are accompanied by entities whose job it is to ensure that we meet
the experiences that will help us advance spiritually.

Visit my website to download the presentation:

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Section 12 Passages
Check out these passages that give the practical side of changing our thoughts.
Figure 23 Forgiveness

With tears in their eyes, fully-grown adults tell me how

their parents or siblings hurt them when they were very
young - and it literally sounds as if it just happened
yesterday.

Nope, emotional wounds don’t heal without the

conscious act of forgiveness.

Check out the Forgiveness exercises

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Figure 24 It is not what we fear

It is not what we fear, but that we allow fear to stop us

from action, or from doing what we want (or need) to
do.

Visit Wikihow and Learn 3 ways to stop living in fear

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Figure 25 Mental telepathy

Telepathy at this point in human development is pretty much

a non-starter. We don't even hear our own thoughts most of
the time, so how could we possibly discern someone else's
thoughts mixed in with ours? Of course our guides
communicate with us telepathically, and do give us limited
information about others (for example between mother and
child or other close, intimate relationships), but the voice' is
usually attributed to one's intuition or similar. We assume or
believe that 'the voice' only comes at times of extreme urgency or importance.

Re Akashic records... The universe has sent information through me that is from the records, but i am
not one who actually sees the records or goes to what Edgar Cayce called "the hall of records". For me,
if someone asks me a direct question, the universe will provide the answer. Also, if someone is asking a
question (in their thoughts), my guide can send the info through me to share aloud. I remember once
my girlfriend had a friend who seriously did not believe in God or a higher intelligence or anything like
that. The first time we met (ever), I asked him, "Who is Esmeralda?" His jaw dropped open and he said,
That's my mother's name!". The best part was that he had not yet told my girlfriend anything about his
family. He was from out of town and knew literally no one here. This gave him something to ponder,
for sure.

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Whether we ourselves can access the records or it is our guides giving us the required or requested
information, depends on what is needed for us at our particular stage of development. I've known one
person who was able to go to the Hall of Records, so there is at least one other person besides Edgar
Cayce who had that ability. There must be others, but my there is that same old issue with Truth. If we
don't do the work to purify our thoughts and motives, the information we bring can be tainted with
our own issues or beliefs. Besides, at this point in human evolution we hardly even hear our own thoughts,
never mind someone else's.
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Figure 26 Motivate yourself

Wayne Dyer said “Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has

to be done, it's always your choice.”

Now that’s free will in action.

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Figure 27 Spiritual word search puzzle

Check out this spiritual word search puzzle. Free to download and print - yes,
print. Use it to get to know some of the words described in Section 6.

See full size image

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Figure 28 Spiritual bingo card 01

Use this handy bingo card to track your spiritual progress. Free to download
and print - yes print. It lists positive actions and affirmations to help ourselves
and others.

See full size image

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Figure 29 Spiritual bingo card 02

Check out this handy bingo card. Free to download and print - yes print. It lists
excuses we may use to justify abandoning a person or a situation. How many
times per day do you hear yourself think or say these phrases?

See full size image

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 Figure 30 New Year's resolutions

Ever made a New Year’s Resolution and promptly given up on it the

very next time you’re triggered? ... And then condemned yourself? One
of the most-often-repeated resolutions is “I’m going to quit (insert any
addiction or negative behaviour), and I’m never going to do it again."
You may have noticed already though... changing a harmful habit needs
more than just a mere statement.
Our thought patterns drive our behaviours, and just saying, “I’m not
going to {fill in the blank} anymore” doesn`t really change anything at
all. Until we actively change our thoughts, our behaviours cannot, and
will not, change. Such profound change requires profound self-work
aimed at learning why certain people, places or things trigger us.
Sorry to say, there is no quick way to do this.

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Figure 31 Retrain your brain
The brain is the soul's wheelhouse during physical incarnation. Our
oft-repeated thoughts and reactions to our life experiences imprint on
the brain, quickly forming neural pathways.
If you’ve ever tried (but failed) to stop from having a thought, you’ll
know what I mean when I say that the pathways can seem impossible
to resist. It's not impossible though. We can retrain our brain.

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Figure 32 Spiritual decluttering

Spiritual decluttering is a process that enables us to think

more clearly, communicate more effectively, and even to
sleep better. And who doesn't want a more restful sleep?!

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 Figure 33 COVID-19 - The spiritual aspect
The spiritual component of COVID-19 and its variants (and
disease in general). is not often considered to be a contributing
factor either in the development of the virus itself, or of the
fact that it is so highly contagious.
Where did it come from?
The virus arose from millions upon millions of people feeling
trapped in an environment that they know is neither physically
nor spiritually healthy, yet feel they had no part in creating -
the very definition of feeling like a victim. The virus may well have been given a helping hand by
humans with nefarious intentions, but those intentions too would have arisen from thought patterns
such as fear or greed or revenge.

Other negative thought patterns can arise when we feel like a victim, such as oppositional defiant
disorder combined with silent rebellion. These are major factors in people refusing to follow public
health guidelines, most especially in refusing to be vaccinated, if for no other reason than to defy and
flout advice from authority figures (see contempt, scorn).

Vaccine hesitancy
While some fully-vaccinated people are still getting sick, and yes, dying, the numbers of unvaccinated
folks becoming seriously ill and dying are vastly greater than those vaccinated. Protecting ourselves
from a potentially deadly virus seems to make much more sense than fearing the government and
medicine. Granted, governments and medical scientists are not perfect by any means (like all of us), so
it's wise to be cautious about following anyone's orders blindly. As the saying goes, "Trust, but verify".
In this case, verify with accredited sources... the same ones you would seek if you or a loved one were
to become injured or ill.

Just as we are spiritual beings and subject to spiritual laws, so we are physical beings and subject to
physical laws. Failing to care for our physical body places us at risk of injury or illness - after all, we
bathe, brush our teeth, wash our clothing, clean our home and refrigerate our food, right? Why then
would we risk catching or spreading an extremely contagious disease by refusing to mask up or socially
distance or vaccinate, based on a belief that our faith in God protects us? If we know we are infected
and choose to ignore public health guidelines, we could cause the illness, suffering and even death of
others. If we believe that God will protect us from this virus, I provide the following Bible quote, here
taken from Wikipedia:

"Matthew 4:7 is the seventh verse of the fourth chapter of the Gospel of Matthew in the New Testament.
Satan has transported Jesus to the pinnacle of the Temple of Jerusalem and told Jesus that he should
throw himself down as God in Psalm 91 promised that no harm would befall him. In this verse Jesus
quotes scripture to rebuff the devil. In the King James Version of the Bible the text reads: Jesus said unto
him, It is written again, Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God."

For anyone who fears getting the vaccine in case it is seen as a lack of faith or even as a betrayal of
God, consider also the story, “I sent you a rowboat”. There are many variations, but the moral is that
tempting fate - or Mother Nature - or God - whatever your belief - holds real risk. There are many
variations of the story, but this one is quite good.
Now, why trust this particular vaccine? Why not? COVID-19 vaccines are every bit as trustworthy as
vaccines for other contagions, and are no less effective than other life-saving vaccines. The vaccines

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were developed by people who have devoted themselves to serving humanity. Granted, I cannot verify
that someone has not figured out a way to inject a tracking device of some sort into COVID-19
vaccines, but logic says that it is highly unlikely. It seems far more likely that crypto currency would suit
better as the mark of the beast.
Is it not wise to follow the wisdom and guidance of people who have dedicated their lives to learning
about disease? Thanks to these scientists and medical researchers, COVID-19 health guidelines arose.
They found ways for us to protect ourselves... masking, hand-washing, social distancing, isolation,
testing. (Of course the only way they work is if we use them, and use them as instructed.) The vaccines
arose because these dedicated professionals devoted themselves to finding a way to prevent
contracting the disease. Is it not wiser to trust those who work to protect us, than to trust individuals
with possible self-aggrandizing motives?

Change the pattern

Even if we cannot change our physical environment, we can protect our physical being by following
public health guidelines. Importantly, we can also change our thought patterns.
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Figure 34 Misconceptions about forgiveness
What forgiveness is not
It is not a bargaining chip. Using the promise of forgiveness to
manipulate others is not forgiveness at all. It is bribery.
One common misconception is that if we forgive someone,
they will change their behaviour. Not true. Likewise, many
people believe that forgiving someone means that we must
allow abusive treatment. Again, not true. Forgiveness does
not mean that we must stay in toxic relationship. In such
relationships, nobody thrives. Everyone claims everyone else
is the problem. Ne one is prepared to let go of their position; no one will apologize and no one will
forgive; all think the other guy is infuriatingly stubborn and/or controlling; and, most of all, that they
are just plain wrong.
Perhaps the biggest frustration in toxic relationships is that we think will be stuck in them forever -
unable to fix them and unable to get out of them without being consumed with guilt, resentment or
remorse. We tell ourselves that it would be mean and cruel to leave, so we keep trying to get the other
person to change; but of course, nothing works. Since we cannot make anyone else change, or even
want to change, clearly, change is up to us.
Forgiveness does not mean repeatedly returning to an abusive relationship to try, try again. God does
not condemn us for being wise enough to know when to let go.
Doing the Forgiveness and Self-esteem exercises may not fix a relationship, but they can help us move
toward inner peace.
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Figure 35 Are we on the brink...?

Lots of talk about the idea that we are living in the End Times. Lots of talk
too about humans being on the brink of a leap in evolution. Even more
talk about the idea that this leap will somehow miraculously happen after
the long-prophesied "Final Battle" of World War III. Many believe that our

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new technologies will transform us into 'super humans', or that magical powers will suddenly awaken
in us. Further, it is said that this change will begin an era of true world peace and with it, the end of
human suffering on Planet Earth.

We can only hope - and trust - that the many prophecies of intervention will prove accurate. In the
meantime though, there are steps we can take to prepare ourselves for what have been described as
tumultuous times and changes.

We can start by changing ourselves before we have to. My spiritual decluttering process prepares us for
a new way of thinking by changing our old, negative thought patterns. Resolving our painful life
experiences enables us to stop rehashing painful events and memories, and free to be alert and in the
current moment. This is really important since the Universal representatives who intervene will
communicate with us telepathically. How will we be able to hear them clearly if our thoughts are
cluttered with old, unresolved issues?
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Figure 36 Spiritual self-assessment tool

Our thoughts nourish our spirit, for better or worse, and they
determine the course of our life. Use the checklist below to assess
your spiritual diet, noting any item that applies to you. If three or
more apply, then your spiritual diet may be placing your physical
health at risk.

Knowing the thought patterns that apply to us is the starting

point, the doorway into learning how our thoughts affect our lives,
and this enables us to start resolving the issues most affecting us.

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Figure 37 World peace?

We wish for world peace, without realizing that we ourselves are

preventing it with our lack of inner peace. This lack causes turmoil
not only for ourselves personally, but, since we are all connected,
for the entire planet. Wouldn't it make sense then, for us all to
gain inner peace?
Inner peace is a state of consciousness gained through purifying our thoughts via inner child work and
spiritual decluttering. These two processes together raise our vibrational frequency, promote the
shedding of karma, improve our spiritual and physical health, and enable us to meet our soul's
purpose.
Shedding karma
Every time we forgive, or seek understanding, or show mercy, we shed, or clear, karmic debt. Each
grudge we nurse and each resentment we hold, earns karmic debt. Karmic debt keeps us locked in the
cycle of reincarnation until we voluntarily choose to change.
Changing our negative thought patterns is truly life-altering, and as more and more people do this
work, we will see positive changes for the entire planet.

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Figure 38 Abundance vs. unrecognized beliefs
To a very large extent, our beliefs determine our
successes and failures, as well as the outcomes of
our desires.
In this example, the desire is to receive abundance.

The belief statement “Nothing ever works right for

me” confirms the underlying, likely unrecognized,
belief that “The universe hates me”.

Change your thoughts, and your life will change.

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Figure 39 Lunar eclipse, if Earth were flat?
Conspiracy theorists manipulate us into distrusting
science and technology, yet use tools created with
science and technology to spread their fanciful,
despicable tales. They deceive us into distrusting our
own senses, so we’ll think it’s fun - and smart! - to
defy their (not our) enemies. They want us to feel
foolish if we trust anyone but them. And it’s working.
Yes folks, we are just that gullible. Galileo must be like
SMDH

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 Figure 40 Karma

The most powerful tool with which to avoid incurring karmic debt is this...
Release with love. Whoever it is. Whatever it is.

The most powerful tool with which to reduce karmic debt is this...
Forgive. Whoever it is. Whatever it is.

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Figure 41 What makes us, us
Ever wondered why we humans are so hard
to figure out? Well, if you think of
everything that goes into making one of us,
it’s no wonder. Not only do we have the
physical body to consider, but all of the
spiritual components too.

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Figure 42 Karma, a poem
Ever wondered what the term 'karma' actually means, and the
consequences, if any, it holds for us?

Check out What is karma?

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Figure 43 Still alive?
Everyone talks about forgiving others, yet not not
themselves. Forgiving ourselves literally frees us from
the past. Not doing so eventually harms our spiritual
and physical health, so check out the Forgiveness
exercises in Section 9.

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Figure 44 How to decide whether to forgive someone else
Who is hurt when we don’t forgive? Well, not the
other guy for sure. No, we only hurt ourselves by
nursing old grudges. Check out the spiritual aspect
of Forgiveness in Section 6.

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 Figure 45 How to decide whether to forgive yourself
Who do we hurt when we hold grudges against
ourselves? Ourselves! Instead, let’s use our past
mistakes to inform our current choices. Check
out the spiritual aspect of Forgiveness in
Section 6.

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Figure 46 We are our own worst enemy
We are our own worst enemy, if we think the Universe has
it in for us just because we’ve made mistakes. The Universe
doesn’t hold grudges against us... karma is not punishment
or retribution. Check out What is karma?

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 Figure 47 What gives people feelings of power
Toxic family relationships can be the
most difficult ones to change.
Sometimes they're not 'fixable' though,
and we need to just say, "No". Check
out toxic relationships and see the
steps we can take to find peace

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Figure 48 Unhappy People
Nothing can stop those who really
want to change themselves.

Nothing can motivate those who do

not.

That’s it, that’s the story.

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Figure 49 Your emotions
Emotions are a product of our thoughts, so the emotions
we feel are nobody’s but our own. Changing our thoughts
will change our emotions.

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 Figure 50 Top reasons we don't forgive

We all have reasons to hold onto old hurts, but that really only hurts ourselves because eventually, our
pain manifests as physical illness or injuries in *our* body. Then what?
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Figure 51 Top reasons I feel guilty
When we make a mistake,
we can just feel guilty
about it and use it as an
excuse to beat up on
ourselves, or as incentive
to improve ourselves.
What an inspiration we can
be for others if we choose
the latter.

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 Figure 52 Chaos rescue
Do your thoughts get all jumbled and chaotic if you feel threatened or
challenged by someone whose approval you want or need? Such ‘brain
freeze’ can be eased by following these steps.

Breathe
Take a deep breath in through your nostrils and exhale slowly through
your mouth as if you were blowing out a candle. Do this a couple of times
until you’re able to ...

Focus on your thoughts

Pay attention to your thoughts to see what is triggering your chaos. Is it a
fear of saying “No” to someone? Is it fear of abandonment? Or of
punishment? Maybe a fear of death or dying, or of serious illness?

Seek guidance
Ask your higher power to lead you to a helpful, respectful resolution.
Trust that an answer will be given, and pay close attention to your
thoughts to hear it. This may take some practice sessions, but once you
learn the technique, your self-esteem will soar.

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Figure 53 Haiku 5-7-5 Keep your nose on your face
How often do we interfere in matters that are
simply not our concern, and end up creating
issues, not just for us but for those we “thought
we were helping”? Far better to ask if they would
like our help, or wait to be invited.

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 Figure 54 Top reasons to forgive
Forgiveness: The gift we give ourselves so
that we can take on the future, free of the
past.

Our health will thank us, we’ll feel happy,

and our karma will be reduced. Win, win,
win!

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Section 1
Back to Section 1 Self-test
1. What are the five components of our spiritual diet?
Thoughts, attitudes, emotions, belief systems, and desires.
2. What are the steps in becoming spiritually self-aware?
o Pay attention to our thoughts.
o Acknowledge the negative ones.
o Meditate to learn their root cause(s).
o Resolve the issues causing them.
3. What thoughts, attitudes and/or emotions are expressed by the following statements?
o At least I'm not like that person - Self-righteousness
o I'm mad at you so I'm not talking to you - Abandonment
o It's ok if I break the rules. Rules are for everybody else - Arrogance
o I don't want or need this, but I'm keeping it anyway - Greed
o It's good, except ... - Criticism
o It has to be done this way, my way, the right way - Perfectionism
o I hate you and I will never forgive you - Resentment
o I will make you pay for hurting me - Revenge
4. Define each of the following:
o Thoughts: Ideas formed into language, either words or symbols
o Attitudes: Products of Thoughts and Beliefs
o Emotions: Products of Thoughts and Attitudes
o Beliefs: Stories to justify Attitudes, Emotions, Desires and Behaviours
o Desires: Products of Thoughts, Attitudes, Emotions and Beliefs
o Behaviours: Products of Thoughts, Attitudes, Emotions, Beliefs and Desires
Section 2
Back to Section 2 Self-test
1. What is needed before beginning inner child work?
We need to build a loving, supportive relationship with our inner child, as well as a
functioning relationship with our guide.
2. What are the four steps of inner child work?
o Identify a negative behaviour or physical condition
o Find its root cause
o Grieve
o Forgive
3. How do our belief systems impact our lives?

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For better or for worse, our belief systems determine how we interpret and experience life
Section 3
Back to Section 3 Self-test
1. What is “Going Home”?
This is a new form of meditation that practices two-way communication.
2. What are the goals of this form of meditation?
o Pay attention to our thoughts
o Communicate with our guide
o Build a working relationship with our guide
3. What is “spiritual self-awareness”?
Ability to know why we think the things we think and believe the things we believe and,
especially, why we do the things we do. Beyond being aware of self as an individual person,
spiritual self-awareness also means being aware of self as an individual soul among
countless trillions, each with an unbreakable connection to Source. This includes awareness
of our soul name, our soul’s purpose during our current incarnation and our guide
3. What is "centred space"?
This is a place of calm within where we can better pay attention to our thoughts.
4. Why is it important to ask questions?
The spiritual Law of Free Will requires the Universal Intelligence to tell us what we want to
hear, or what we already believe to be truth, so it is up to us to make the conscious choice
to set aside our preconceived ideas and belief systems before inviting communication.
Section 4.1
Back to Section 4.1 Self-test
1. What keeps us lost in the playground?
Holding onto the pain of unresolved traumatic events creates negative patterns that keep
us stuck in a cycle of karmic debt.
2. What is the best way to learn how to meditate?
Practice, practice, practice.
3. How do the guides communicate with us?
Telepathically, with ideas, words and pictures, as well as with physical signals.
4. Why is it so important to ask questions?
The vast number of possible explanations for the meditation / dream symbols, along with
the fact that our guides will tell us exactly what we believe, unless we specifically ask for
Universal Truth rather than what we want, expect or fear to hear.

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Table 7: The chakras and their traits
Third / fourth dimensions Fourth / fifth dimensions Fifth and
Third dimension Cusp transition effects begin upon Fourth dimension Cusp transition effects begin higher
ascension to Heart chakra upon ascension to Crown chakra dimensions
Root Sacral Solar plexus Heart Cusp 1 Throat Brow Crown Cusp 2 Zenith
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are children of are children of babies are born. babies are born. soul that exists exists humanity exists humanity Universal the Universal of development
their parents their parents Our parents Our parents even if we are not and we are all and we are all Intelligence when Intelligence and Planet
create us create us in human form imbued with imbued with Spirit this universe Earth is a vast
Spirit came into place of
existence learning
No such thing as No spiritual Maybe there is Near-death Feeling that there Open to exploring Things that used Wanting to spend Decreasing Seeking
spirituality meaning in something to experiences or is much more to spiritual matters to entertain us more time interest in profound
anything, except spirituality. traumatic or the universe than may now seem studying spiritual matters over enlightenment.
maybe angels Traumatic or joyous events our five senses can boring or childish matters which we have Love seeks
and demons joyous events make us curious tell us or barbaric no control understanding
open the mind about spiritualty
Spiritual No such thing as Maybe there is Becoming able to Belief that those Showing others Having spiritual We cannot judge General mood Personality
awareness is a spiritual more to life than connect with who are more we are spiritually experiences like others’ level of tends to be traits diminish
myth. Everyday development or we think others on a advanced are advanced by déjà vu, feeling as spiritual level. Feeling and vibrational
consciousness is dimensional deeper level than responsible for wearing certain if we are not development pleasure in life, frequency rises
all that there is awareness we ever thought making others clothes, eating alone, recalling without wild as thoughts are
possible move forward certain foods or dreams mood swings reduced and
praying in public refined
Who cares what Comforting to Enjoy discussing Enjoy discussing Becoming more Learning the Learning to Only Universal Relying less on Universal Truth
anyone else convince others spiritual matters spiritual matters curious about importance of discern Universal Truth enables us others and is the way, the
thinks that evil entities with like-minded and eager to learn spiritual matters finding Universal Truth to move forward more on our truth and the
exist people only. more and how they Truth spiritually guide to life
Unable to accept might affect provide
disagreement humanity Universal Truth

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Third / fourth dimensions Fourth / fifth dimensions Fifth and

Third dimension Cusp transition effects begin upon Fourth dimension Cusp transition effects begin higher
ascension to Heart chakra upon ascension to Crown chakra dimensions
Root Sacral Solar plexus Heart Cusp 1 Throat Brow Crown Cusp 2 Zenith
Evil entities We are Performing Evil entities hurt Sensing that ‘evil’ Evil exists only in Evil exists only in Evil exists only in The Universal Reducing and
exist, they are powerless certain rituals can us and make us is a misunderstood our negative our negative our negative Intelligence refining our
powerful and against evil protect us from hurt others concept thoughts thoughts and it is thoughts, and we responds to thoughts
they are out to evil and from the up to us to resist can change them our desire to enables us to
get us ill wishes of improve our resist negative
others thoughts intentions
Demons and If God exists, he We are not Accidents, injuries Is there something Accidents, There may be a Our thoughts Physical Our thoughts
curses cause would not allow responsible for and illness are we can do to injuries and spiritual create accidents, ailments are emanate from
negative life accidents, accidents, injuries just a part of life prevent accidents, illness probably component to injuries and signals to help us; our body
experiences like injuries and and illness and injuries and do not just accidents, injuries illness. Changing us recognize responds to
accidents, illness to we have no illness? happen, but and illness our thoughts and change our them, and they
injuries and happen control over there is no way to changes our thoughts attract certain
illness them prevent them physical reality experiences
No such thing as Angels are real Angels are real, Angels are real Everyone has a Wondering if we Developing a Our guide Our guide Our guide
angels but no longer but they do not and they can help personal angel can communicate working ensures that we responds to works with us
help humanity always protect us us if we are good with our personal relationship with meet our our thoughts to achieve our
from evil angel our guide required life and desires soul’s purpose
lessons
There is only Reincarnation Reincarnation Reincarnation is a Open to learning Gaining a sense Reincarnation and Entering physical Holding onto Aiming to be
one life to live. and karma trick and karma may possibility, but we more, yet of at least one karma help us to form places us in regret s keeps karma-neutral
No such thing as us into thinking be possible choose whether, disappointed with past life better understand the cycle of us stuck in a
reincarnation or we can be when and into self for not already human behaviour reincarnation and loop of
karma irresponsible which family to knowing and experience karma reincarnation
enter and karma
Intense fear of Becoming able Learning that It physically feels Noticing that Negative Starting to Positive thoughts More emphasis Trusting that
change, or of to accept that diversity enriches better to be kind physical signals thoughts can recognize just can enable on refining our the Universe
anything that others’ beliefs us all than cruel seem to happen enable how negative our pleasant signals thoughts. will let us know
makes us are not a threat for no apparent unpleasant thoughts can be Physical signals if something is
question our to ours reason signals are also being required of us
beliefs refined
Tendency to Easily controlled Growing self- Becoming more Co-dependent Seeking mutually Finding that we Seeing that we More emphasis The Universal
prefer co- by anyone confidence yet able to work relationships are satisfying meet self in are all here to on building a Intelligence
dependent or whose approval still seeking either alone or disintegrating. Our relationships. Will others, and using learn from, and relationship responds to our
authoritarian we crave approval from with others loved ones may try our loved ones the information teach, one with our guide. learning
relationships authority figures to pull us back into recognize our to improve another. We Knowing we requirements
their reality improvements ourselves must do what is must each walk
and join us? right for us our own path

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Third / fourth dimensions Fourth / fifth dimensions Fifth and

Third dimension Cusp transition effects begin upon Fourth dimension Cusp transition effects begin higher
ascension to Heart chakra upon ascension to Crown chakra dimensions
Root Sacral Solar plexus Heart Cusp 1 Throat Brow Crown Cusp 2 Zenith
Humans are Our group is God favours our Becoming open to We are all spiritual Freedom of Starting to see the Clarity of thought Seeing that we Rising desire to
members of superior so we group over all the idea that the beings in human thought enables results of our makes it easier to are each serve humanity
separate tribes. are entitled to others human race is form, at differing us to explore efforts to heal our recognize our unique yet by serving God.
The others want control others. indeed just one levels of spiritual spirituality at our lives relationship with connected All that is
our stuff, so we They probably race, and all are awareness own pace and in the Universal required will be
must protect want our stuff, entitled to life our own way Intelligence provided
ourselves and so we must
our property. protect
Never enough of ourselves and
anything our property
Tendency to Tendency to rely Learning that Learning to Striving to develop Sharing our Seeing that Learning that Striving toward Working toward
squabble and on violence to chaos and approach daily life new coping skills experiences of cooperation whatever we give further clarity of
live in chaos teach discipline violence prevent with optimism and strategies growth and benefits everyone comes back to us resolution of thought and
and/or to solve progress rather than dread improvement inner conflicts inner peace
issues with others

Prefer one genre Prefer one or Becoming able to Enjoying most Able to enjoy Wanting to Recognizing that We feel better Reducing and Vibrational
of music and two genres of appreciate many genres of music many forms of express self in we feel better when our refining our frequency
one art form, if music. Some art genres of music, and some other expressions of the new, positive when our thoughts are thoughts raises stabilizes and
any. Others are forms are okay although some art forms, and human condition ways thoughts are relatively clear. It our vibrational enables us to
disturbing, are still finding that some positive is getting easier frequency endure trauma
dangerous or disturbing. Other seem to have a to clearly express and chaos
just plain art forms are just deeper meaning our innermost without
annoying entertainment thoughts concern
Tendency to feel Tendency to feel Tendency to feel We cannot grow Learning to ask Developing Interested in Comfortable with Striving to gain At peace while
persecuted if threatened by challenged by without meaningful stronger, more hearing what waiting to speak deeper waiting for
questioned questions from questions from communication questions and effective others have to until invited to do understanding answers
about anything others others listen for answers communication say. Sharing so
skills helps!

Averse to Uncomfortable Comfortable Guided by our Learning that Becoming willing Recognizing that Finding that free Seeing the The Universe,
seeking with others asking others for higher self and guidance is always and able to seek our “higher self” will gets in the wisdom of via our guide,
guidance from finding out that guidance maybe our available from the information from is a misnomer and way of receiving following provides the
anyone we do not deceased loved Universe the Universe guidance actually clear guidance guidance information we
already know ones who watch comes from the need
something over us and wait Universe
for us in heaven

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Appendix D Spiritual Bingo Card - 01

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Appendix E Spiritual Bingo Card - 02

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Appendix F The dimensions, chakras and cusps
Figure 21, p.330

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Illustrations
Preface
Figure 1 Ripples
Introduction
Figure 2 Components of our spiritual diet
Figure 3 Thought manifesting in matter produces physical life
Figure 4 We all think - all the time
Section 1
Figure 5 Steps in becoming spiritually self-aware
Figure 6 Spiritual decluttering
Table 1 This phrase...is this pattern
Section 2
Illustration - Knee-jerk reactions
Figure 7 Chaotic thoughts, attitudes and emotions
Figure 8 The process of inner child work
Figure 9 Fitting all my pieces together through inner child work
Section 3
Figure 10 Meditation is two-way communication
Table 2 Reduce these...Increase these
Figure 11 A new form of meditation
Haiku 5-7-5: Connecting
Haiku 5-7-5: Whispers
Figure 12 Use a notepad
Figure 13 Use a dictionary
Figure 14 Buddha listening
Section 4-1
Figure 15 What our thoughts can sound like
Figure 16 Dream and meditation symbols the guides use
Figure 17 Guidelines for asking questions
Figure 18 Problem...Analysis...Solution
Section 4-2
Table 3 Spiritual meaning of the colours
Section 4-3
Table 4 Numerical value of the letters in the English alphabet
Section 5
Illustration 1 Pink flowers (Seasonal hay fever)
Figure 19 The individual teeth
Table 5 The individual teeth
Section 6
Haiku 5-7-5: Compassion
Haiku 5-7-5: Sea change
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 Haiku 5-7-5: Greed
Haiku 5-7-5: Joy
Haiku 5-7-5: No joy
Haiku 5-7-5: Self-aggrandizement
Section 7
Table 6 The chakras
Haiku 5-7-5: End times
Section 11
Figure 20 No one can push us up a ladder; we must climb willingly
Figure 21 The dimensions, chakras and cusps
Figure 22 Local group and nearest galaxies
Section 12
Figure 23 Forgiveness
Figure 24 It is not what we fear
Figure 25 Mental telepathy
Figure 26 Motivate yourself
Figure 27 Spiritual word search
Figure 28 Spiritual bingo 1
Figure 29 Spiritual bingo 2
Figure 30 New Year’s resolutions
Figure 31 Retrain your brain
Figure 32 Spiritual decluttering
Figure 33 COVID-19 - The spiritual aspect
Figure 34 Misconceptions about forgiveness
Figure 35 Are we on the brink of the next step in human evolution?
Figure 36 Spiritual self-assessment tool
Figure 37 World peace
Figure 38 Abundance vs. unrecognized beliefs
Figure 39 Lunar eclipse, if Earth were flat?
Figure 40 Karma
Figure 41 What makes us, us
Figure 42 Karma, a poem
Figure 43 Still alive
Figure 44 How to decide whether to forgive someone else
Figure 45 How to decide whether to forgive yourself
Figure 46 We are our own worst enemy
Figure 47 What gives people feelings of power
Figure 48 Unhappy People
Figure 49 Your emotions
Figure 50 Top reasons we don’t forgive
Figure 51 Top reasons I feel guilty
Figure 52 Chaos rescue
Figure 53 Haiku 5-7-5 Keep your nose on your face
Figure 54 Top reasons to forgive

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About
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Mission statement
My aim is to enable people to build a personal connection with the Universal Intelligence.

Vision
I envision a day when all humanity works consciously with the Universal Intelligence.

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About the author
When I was about 7 years old, I became deaf in one ear. The condition
was diagnosed as being untreatable and I remained deaf for 35 years. In
1995, a health crisis motivated me to begin meditating, and that's when
things started changing. I met an amazing woman, Fay, who told me
that, along with eight energy treatments, restoration of my hearing
would be in direct relation to the amount of work I was prepared to do
upon myself. I took this information to heart and began to work on me,
and Fay began work on my ear. A few weeks later, after the full course
of energy treatments and much belated grieving, forgiveness,
meditation and soul searching, my hearing was fully restored. A miracle!

Thus my spiritual education began. By continuing the practice of

focused, attentive meditation, I learned that the Universal Intelligence
hears our thoughts, hopes, desires and fears - and cooperates with
them. My deafness began because the Universe cooperated with a deep
desire to not hear my parents' constant arguing or my sister's constant
babbling. It ended because of an even deeper desire to bring profound
Sheila A. McBeath change into my life. Once I began to become "the real me", it was clear
that I needed to share this incredible gift of healing. It is information - the Universal Truth - that has
the power to heal our ills.

“Success comes to those who know and apply the law. Truth will triumph over all adversaries.
Each one must learn by dear bought experience the difference between ‘human opinions’ and
'divine truth’, between 'human leading’ and ‘divine guidance’. ... So long as we get rid of
selfishness, ignorance, envy, self-seeking and self-praise, the advance and prosperity of the
movement is assured. But our duty is to be loyal to the Spirit of Truth, which commands us to
sacrifice the personal for the Universal and our own selfish interests and opinions for the one
Divine Center of truth and love, within each one where unity and harmony alone can obtain.”
Excerpt from MELCHIZEDEK
OR The Secret Doctrine of the Bible
J. C. F. Grumbine

Change your thoughts ... Change your life

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