Bowlby 1970
Bowlby 1970
Bowlby 1970
F AMILY DOCTORS, priests and perceptive laymen have long been aware
that there are few blows to the human spirit so great as the loss of some-
one near and dear. Traditional wisdom knows that we can be crushed by grief
and die of a broken heart, and also that a jilted lover is apt to do things
that are foolish or dangerous to himself and others. It knows, too, that
neither love nor grief are felt for just any other human being but for one,
or a few, particular and individual human beings. The core of what I am
terming an affeetional bond is the attraction that one individual has for
another individual.
Until recent decades science has had little to say about these matters.
Experimental scientists in the physiological or Hullian learning theory tradi-
tions of psychology have never shown interest in affeetional bonds, and have
sometimes talked and acted as though they do not exist. Psychoanalysts, by
contrast, have long recognized the immense importance of affeetional bonds
in the lives and problems of their patients, but have been slow to develop
an adquate scientific framework within which the formation, maintenance
and disruption of bonds can be understood. The void has been filled by
ethologists--starting with Lorenz's (1) classical paper on The Companion
in the Bird's World, progressing through a multitude of experiments on
imprinting .(2, 3) to studies of bonding behavior in sub-human primates (4,
5), and inspiring psychologists to make similar studies of humans (6,7).
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permission of Oliver & Boyd, Ltd., The Eugenics Society of London, Eng-
land and the editor of Canada's Mental Health.
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criterion an absence of mother for six months or more before the sixth
birthday, these researchers found an incidence of 41 per cent for the socio-
paths and 5 per cent for the remainder.
When the criterion is made broader, the incidence rises. Thus Craft
and others (18) took as their criterion absence of either mother or father
(or both) before the child's tenth birthday. Of 76 male inmates of the special
hospitals for aggressive psychopaths, no less than 65 per cent had had such
an experience. In a study of several comparison groups Craft shows how
the incidence of this type of childhood experience rises with the degree of
antisocial behavior shown by a group's members.
Amongst others who have reported similar sorts of statistically significant
findings for groups of psychopaths and persistent delinquents are Naess (19),
Greet (20), Brown and Epps (21); and for alcoholics and addicts, Den-
nehy (22). Also, in psychopaths, the incidence of illegitimacy and a shunting
of the child from one ~ome' to another is high.
Suicides
Another psychiatric group which shows a much raised incidence of
childhood loss is that of suicidal patients, both those who attempt it and
those who succeed.* The losses are especially likely to have occurred during
the first five years of life and to have been caused not only by the death
of a parent, but also by other long-lasting causes, notably illegitimacy and
divorce, In these respects suicidal patients tend to resemble sociopaths and,
as will be seen later, to differ from depressives.
Of the many studies reporting a very high incidence of childhood loss
in attempted suicides (23, 24, 25), a recent study by Greer and his asso-
ciates (26) is among the best controlled. A series of 156 attempted suicides
were compared with similar sized samples of non-suicidal psychiatric patients
and of surgical and obstetric patients without a psychiatric history. Both
comparison groups were matched with the attempted suicides for age, sex,
class and other relevant variables. Taking as his criterion of loss the con-
tinuous absence of one or both parents for at least 12 months, Greet finds
that such events have occurred before the fifth birthday three times as often
in the group of attempted suicides as in either of the comparison groups--
an incidence of 26 per cent against 9 per cent for each of the others.
(Table 1)
Furthermore, the losses in the attempted suicide group tended more
often to involve both parents and to have been permanent, whereas in the
other groups they more often concerned only one parent and were temporary,
due to such exigencies as illness or work.
* Athough any group of suicides and attempted suicides will contain
some sociopaths and some depressives, a majority are likely to be diagnosed
as suffering from neurosis or personality disorder (26) and so constitute a
fairly distinctpsychia~e group.
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TABLE 1
Incidence of Loss or Continuous Absence of One or Both
Natural Parents for at Least 12 Months Before the 15th Birthday (26)
Non-Sulcldal
Age at loss Non-Psychiatric Psychiatric Attempted
Patients Patients Suicide
% % %
0-4 years 9 9 26
5-9 year~ IZ 10 fl
10-14 y e a r s 7 7 11
Doubtful 0 2 1
0-14 Z8 28 49
Depression
Another condition which is associated with a significantly raised incidence
of childhood loss is depression. The type of loss experienced, however, tends
to be of a kind different to the over-all family disruption typical of the
childhoods of psychopaths and attempted suicides.
First, in the childhoods of depressives, loss is likely to have been due
to the death of a parent rather than to illegitimacy, divorce or separation.
Second, although in depressives the incidence of bereavement tends to be
raised during each quinquenium of childhood, losses tend to have occurred
especially frequently in patients aged ten to fifteen. Third, the incidence of
loss is apt to be most raised for the parent of the opposite sex--mother in
the case of boys, father in the case of girls. Findings of this sort have been
reported by Brown, (28), Munro, (29) Dennehy, (22) and Hill and
Price (30). These studies indicate that loss of a parent by death between
the tenth and fifteenth birthdays tends to have occurred about twice as
frequently in a group of depressives as it has in the population as a whole.
TABLE 2
Number of Separated and Non-Separated Children Showing
Detachment During First Three Days
After Reunion (or During Equivalent Period) (31)
No Detachment 10
Detachment for One Day Only
Detachment Alternating With
Clinging
Detachment Persistent For
Three Days
10 10
one hand, it helps to organize data and to orient further research; on the
other, it provides guidelines for the day-to-day management of these kinds
of people.
To advance our knowledge in this field it would obviously be invaluable
to conduct a long series of experiments to investigate the short and long-
term effects on behavior of disrupting an affectional bond, taking into account
the subject's age, nature of the bond, length and frequency of disruptions,
as well as many other variables. It is equally obvious, however, that any such
experiments on human subjects are ruled out on ethical grounds. For these
TABLE 3
Number of Separated and Non-Separated Children Showing
Strong and Persistent Hostility to Mother
After Reunion (or During Equivalent Period) (31)
(P = 0.01) I0 10
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