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Clinical Guidelines for Working with Clients Involved in Kink

Richard A. Sprotta, Cara Herbitterb,c , Patrick Grantd, Charles Mosere and
Peggy J. Kleinplatzf
a
Human Development and Women’s Studies, California State University, East Bay, CA, USA; bSchool of Medicine,
Veteran Affairs Boston Healthcare System Boston University, West Roxbury, MA, USA; cDepartment of Psychiatry,
Boston University Chobanian & Avedisian School of Medicine, Boston, MA, US; dClinical Psychology, Michael E.
Debakey Veterans Affairs Medical Center, USA; eDiverse Sexualities Research and Education Institute (DSREI.org),
San Francisco, CA, USA; fFaculty of Medicine, University of Ottawa, Ottawa, Ontario, Canada

ABSTRACT
People involved in kink (BDSM or fetish) subcultures often encounter stigma
and bias in healthcare settings or when seeking psychotherapy. Such indi-
viduals typically encounter well-meaning clinicians who are not prepared to
provide culturally competent care or who have not recognized their own
biases. Over a two-year period, a team of 20 experienced clinicians and
researchers created clinical practice guidelines for working with people
involved with kink, incorporating an extensive literature review and docu-
mentation of clinical expertise. This article summarizes the guidelines and
discusses relevant issues facing clinicians and their clients, as well as impli-
cations for clinical practice, research and training.

Dominant cultural mores stigmatize an array of sexual and relationship styles, identities, orien-
tations, behaviors, and interests. The purpose of this article is to introduce and summarize a
new set of guidelines to assist clinicians to provide culturally competent care for clients who
identify with or practice kink. Over a two-year period, a team of 20 experienced clinicians and
researchers created these clinical practice guidelines for working with people involved with kink,
incorporating an extensive literature review and documentation of clinical expertise. In this
paper, we define kink as Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism (BDSM)
and Fetish practices. We recognize that there is a sizable overlap between kink and CNM,
including open marriages, non-exclusive relationships, and polyamory. Although this paper is
not focused specifically on CNM, some of the same principles apply (Vaughan & Burnes, 2022).
Estimates of the prevalence of individuals involved with kink vary depending on how the
population is sampled, how kink is operationalized, and whether it is interest/fantasy, behavior,
or identity that is measured. In terms of fantasies, approximately 45–60% of the general public
report having fantasies that incorporate dominance and submission (Joyal, Cossette, & Lapierre,
2015; Jozifkova, 2018), and approximately 30% report having fantasies that involve whipping or
spanking (Herbenick et al., 2017; Joyal et al., 2015). In terms of behavior, approximately 10–12%
of the general population has engaged in kink behaviors at some point in their lives (Janus &
Janus, 1993; Joyal & Carpentier, 2017; Masters, Johnson, Kolodny, & Bergen, 1995). A smaller
percentage of the population build identities and participate in kink subculture activities on a
regular basis (Sprott & Berkey, 2015).

CONTACT Richard A. Sprott [email protected] Department of Human Development and Women’s Studies,
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How are we to conceptualize of interests in kink? Some scholars argue that kink is serious
leisure, others argue that kink identities resemble or actually constitute a form of sexual orien-
tation (Newmahr, 2010; Sprott & Williams, 2019). There have been limited systematic attempts
to measure the prevalence of kink identities in the general population. Based on the size and
number of social clubs, advocacy organizations, community events, and participation in social
media platforms, it is estimated that 1–2% of the general population holds an identity centered
on kink (Sprott & Berkey, 2015). A study that examined a representative sample of the Belgian
population (n = 1,027) found that nearly half (46.8%) of the participants had engaged in
BDSM-related activities at least once in their lifetimes, 12.5% had engaged on a regular basis,
and 7.6% had identified as “BDSM practitioners” (Holvoet et al., 2017).
Some surveys have asked kink-identified participants about a variety of behaviors in order
to gauge the prevalence of kink activities. Such studies usually ask whether the participants have
engaged in particular activities (e.g., flogging, use of restraints). Although the lists of activities
are lengthy, they still provide only a partial picture of the variety of behaviors that could be
labeled potentially as kinky (Joyal & Carpentier, 2017; Rehor, 2015; Rehor & Schiffman, 2022;
Richters et al., 2003; Sandnabba, Santtila, Alison, & Nordling, 2002).

Mental health and kink sexualities

There is substantial research on whether kink fantasies and interests or involvement in kink
behaviors constitute mental disorders, indicate symptoms of other mental disorders, or suggest
vulnerability to other mental disorders. Among representative samples, Richter and colleagues
(2008) found that Australian males (but not females)1 who reported kink behavior showed sig-
nificantly less neuroticism on the Big Five personality scales than the general population.
Wismeijer and van Assen (2013) found less neuroticism for both men and women among a
self-selected, non-representative sample. Cross and Matheson (2006) conducted a study comparing
93 self-identified sadomasochism (SM)-involved participants and 61 non-SM participants, admin-
istering several measures of psychopathology, feminist attitudes, and escapism, to test several
theoretical proposals concerning kink behavior or interests. They found no differences between
the SM and non-SM groups on measures of psychopathology, measures of anti-feminist beliefs,
or escapism. Connolly (2006) conducted a study of 132 self-identified BDSM practitioners, using
a battery of seven commonly used self-report measures of psychopathology. BDSM participants
scored in the normal range for depression, PTSD and borderline and paranoia symptoms. There
was some indication of lower anxiety than in the general population; Connolly did find higher
levels of dissociative symptoms and narcissism. She noted that dissociative symptoms were not
clearly related to any specific type of psychopathology in the study (Connolly, 2006); narcissism
measures may include personality strengths and/or pathology but overall, the findings did not
find psychopathology at higher levels than in the general population.
The hypothesis that BDSM interests or behaviors result from childhood abuse or trauma can
be found in many theories and studies in psychology and psychiatry (e.g., Abrams, Chronos, &
Grdinic, 2022; Abrams, Milisavljević, & Šoškić, 2019). In a study of 186 SM practitioners in
Finland, Nordling, Sandnabba, and Santtila (2000) found that 7.9% of male and 22.7% of the
female participants had childhood sexual abuse histories, which they reported as higher than
the national prevalence in Finland. However, the national prevalence data were based on the
findings of Sariola and Uutela (1994), a sample of 15–16-year-old adolescents (n = 7,349), which
raises some questions about the appropriateness of this comparison, given the difference in
sample size. A later meta-analysis of the prevalence of child sexual abuse found rates comparable
to those found by Nordling et al. (2000), Pereda, Guilera, Forns, and Gomez-Benito (2009). In
contrast, The Australian Study of Health and Relationships (ASHR) examined psychological
distress and sexual functioning in a national, representative sample in 2001–2002. This study
found that 2% of sexually active men and 1.4% of sexually active women had engaged in BDSM
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activities within the past year, and found no difference in past sexual abuse history, or levels
of psychological distress (Richters et al., 2008). Results from the 2016 National Kink Health
Survey (Randall & Sprott, 2022, unpublished), which included questions about Adverse Childhood
Events (ACEs), found that 9.6% of a sample of 980 kink-identified participants had high ACE
scores, indicating elements of childhood neglect, emotional abuse, physical abuse, or sexual
abuse. The national prevalence for high ACE scores is approximately 16% (Centers for Disease
Control and Prevention, 2019). These studies find no strong empirical evidence to support the
notion that kink interests and behaviors represent a response to trauma or abuse (de Neef,
Coppens, Huys, & Morrens, 2019).

Evidence of stigma in society and mental healthcare

Although peer-reviewed research on discrimination experienced by kink-identified people
remains nascent, the evidence available from both the scientific literature and advocacy group
reports suggest that kink-practitioners confront stigma and discrimination in multiple arenas
(e.g., Kolmes et al., 2006; Wright, 2008; Yost, 2010). The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
(NCSF), an advocacy organization for individuals involved in BDSM or CNM, has conducted
surveys of kink-involved individuals reporting their experiences of violence and discrimination.
The 2008 survey (N = 3,058) found that a quarter of the sample (26%; 804 of the 2,995 who
responded to this question) reported discrimination (Wright, 2008). Of particular relevance,
more than one in ten (11%) had experienced discrimination from a health professional, a
category that included mental health providers. This type of widespread stigma, including but
not limited to experiences in healthcare, can be conceptualized as minority stress (Meyer, 2003).
Although the negative effects of this stigma have not been well-documented, there is evidence
of elevated suicide risk among NCSF members (Cramer et al., 2017) and an association between
internalized stigma and suicidality among BDSM practitioners (Roush et al., 2017).
A handful of studies have focused on stigma in mental healthcare and its impact on clients
involved in kink. In one study of kink-involved individuals who sought care from mental health
professionals (n = 175), respondents described the types of bias they experienced personally or
learned about from others. The types of bias reported ranged from practitioners pathologizing
kink and even requiring clients to discontinue their kink activities to be in therapy, to placing
the burden on clients to educate the professionals (Kolmes et al., 2006). In a qualitative study,
Hoff and Sprott (2009) found that biased therapy experiences affected the therapy process neg-
atively, resulting in patient non-disclosure, negative interactions in which therapists over or
under-emphasized BDSM, and even termination.

Lack of disclosure statement may belie actual frequency

Given the number of people who fantasize about or engage in kink, or identify with kink, it is
important to note that many people do not disclose involvement in kink to their therapists.
Several factors can affect whether clients choose to disclose or come out to therapists regarding
a marginalized identity when that is not visible. In an interview study with 38 gay-identified
men, Cain (1991) noted that respondents often concealed their identities as gay men because
they felt the disclosure was not relevant, wanted to honor the wishes of a significant other to
maintain secrecy or privacy, or were concerned that disclosure would have negative repercussions.
This last motivation is an example of anticipated stigma: Patients often do not disclose their
sexual practices to healthcare providers out of fear of being judged negatively or rejected
(Klitzman & Greenberg, 2002; Waldura, Arora, Randall, Farala, & Sprott, 2016). Approximately
25–30% of clients who practice kink will not disclose this, even after a lengthy time in therapy
(Sprott & Benoit Hadcock, 2018). In a survey of 175 kink-identified people, Kolmes et al. (2006)
reported that 65.1% had disclosed their interests in BDSM. Respondents reported two main
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reasons for nondisclosure: either they were not aware of their BDSM interests at the time, or
they regarded their BDSM practices as irrelevant for the concerns that brought them into therapy.
Anticipated stigma was reported by 4.6% of the sample at some point in their relationships with
their therapists.
Because of this lack of disclosure, mental health professionals are likely to assume that the
number of people engaged in kink is lower than it actually is. This assumption is reinforced by
several factors: (1) this aspect of sexuality is rarely covered in graduate or clinical training
(Kelsey, Stiles, Spiller, & Diekhoff, 2013); (2) the anticipated stigma on the part of people involved
in kink leads to lack of disclosure (Waldura et al., 2016); (3) past negative experiences with
therapists or counselors who pathologize kink or fail to perform a comprehensive sexual assess-
ment (Sprott, Randall, Smith, & Woo, 2021).

Clinical practice and kink sexualities

Although there are very few studies of the therapy experiences of clients/patients involved in
kink, the existing studies do suggest a few possible trends. Kink is often not a central issue in
therapy, but often simply another factor to which a therapist should attend when relevant
(Lawrence & Love-Crowell, 2008). Concerns around stigmatizing responses from therapists may
affect whether clients choose to disclose their kink involvement. Kolmes et al. (2006) found that
75% of respondents in their survey reported that the concerns that brought them into therapy
did not pertain to their kink interests, while 23% thought that their kink interests were related
or tangentially related to their presenting issue. Of note, 35% of respondents never disclosed
their kink interests or activities to their therapists. Hoff and Sprott (2009) conducted a content
analysis of interviews with 32 heterosexual couples who engaged in kink activities regarding
their experiences in therapy. Five therapy dynamics pertaining to disclosure of kink interests
were identified: termination of therapy (by therapist or client); prejudicial statements on the
part of the therapist but no termination of therapy; neutral reactions by therapists to disclosure;
knowledgeable interactions on the part of the therapist after disclosure; and clients not disclosing
kink at all. The study participants were asked what advice they might have for psychotherapists
who work with clients involved in kink. A common theme was to recommend that psychother-
apists should treat BDSM sexuality as one of several factors to address in therapy.
Lawrence and Love-Crowell (2008) interviewed 14 therapists who had experience working
with kink-identified clients. Results suggested that kink was typically not a central issue in
therapy and that therapists often approached working with kink-identified clients as a cultural
competence issue. Kelsey et al. (2013) conducted a survey of therapists’ attitudes and experiences
with clients involved in kink (N = 766). Over three-quarters (76%) had treated at least one client
involved in kink, but only 48% believed they had competence in this area. Nearly two-thirds
(64%) of the therapists reported no training on kink in their graduate education, and therapists
with no training about kink had less accepting attitudes. Helfer (2022) surveyed 326 therapists
about their graduate education training and current attitudes regarding kink and found that,
while the sample had generally somewhat positive attitudes toward kink, those participants who
had taken human sexuality courses during their graduate education (51%) indicated higher
perceived competency in working with kink. However, only 28% of those who took human
sexuality courses reported that the coursework included information specific to kink, and this
group had significantly higher perceived competency than those whose human sexuality course-
work did not include information about kink.
Taken together, the evidence suggests that there is a need for culturally competent ther-
apy for kink-identified practitioners. People often have concerns, questions and sometimes
distress about these fantasies or behaviors. The lack of training and education in the mental
health fields about the full range of human sexualities, and the stigma attached to kink
sexualities, can result in ineffective care, and in some cases, harm from mental health
professionals.
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Kink clinical practice guidelines project

The Kink Clinical Practice Guidelines were developed in an iterative process from 2018 to 2020,
incorporating a comprehensive literature review, initial drafting of guidelines and reflection. This
process was followed by feedback from stakeholders (educators, clinicians, researchers and BDSM
advocacy groups) and then further refinement of revisions. The initial Guidelines text was based
on an article published in 2004 in Contemporary Sexuality, the American Association of Sexuality
Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) newsletter, that presented a first attempt at
specific clinical practice guidelines for working with BDSM clients (Kleinplatz & Moser, 2004).
Model practice guidelines were also consulted for developing the initial text: The APA Guidelines
for Psychological Practice with Transgender and Gender Nonconforming People (2015); the APA
Guidelines for Psychotherapy with Lesbian, Gay, & Bisexual Clients (2011); the APA Multicultural
Guidelines: An Ecological Approach to Context, Identity, and Intersectionality (2017); the APA
Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Girls and Women (2007); and the APA Guidelines
for Psychological Practice with Older Adults (2014). Practice guidelines from other professional
organizations, such as NASW and ACA, were consulted as well. The complete Guidelines (Kink
Clinical Practice Guidelines Project, 2019) are available at www.kinkguidelines.com.

Guidelines
The guidelines are summarized in Table 1. The guidelines are organized into four areas: (1)
Foundational Knowledge, Skills, and Attitudes; (2) Life-Span Developmental Issues; (3) Assessment
and Intervention; (4) Professional Education, Training, and Community Care. Each area is
described briefly and includes several sub-areas that each relate to one or more of the guidelines.
In the discussion below the guidelines are discussed thematically rather than individually, and
they appear outside of the original numerical order. The original order from the community
release of the guidelines is noted below for consistency.

Area 1: Foundational knowledge, skills and attitudes (Guidelines 1–9)

This area provides an overview of the key foundational skills providers should strive to demon-
strate when working with kink clients. These approaches may be considered essential for all
providers, as any provider may encounter kink clients. This area includes fundamentals such as
developing a basic understanding of kink identity from an affirmative lens, recognizing that
kink can promote personal growth, how other identities may shape how kink is expressed, and
understanding the impact of societal stigma.

An affirmative understanding of kink identity

Guideline 1: Clinicians understand that kink is used as an umbrella term for a wide range of
consensual erotic or intimate behaviors, fantasies, relationships, and identities.
Guideline 3: Clinicians understand that kink fantasies, interests, behaviors, relationships and/or
identities, by themselves, do not indicate the presence of psychopathology, a mental disorder or the
inability of individuals to control their behavior.
Guideline 4: Clinicians understand that kink is not necessarily a response to trauma, includ-
ing abuse.
Guideline 5: Clinicians recognize that kink intersects with other identities in ways that may shape
how kink is expressed and experienced.
Guideline 8: Clinicians understand the centrality of consent and how it is managed in kink inter-
actions and power-exchange relationships.
A definition of kink must be clarified to understand kink behaviors, practices, individuals,
and relationships. Kink currently serves as an umbrella label that encompasses various niche
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Table 1. Summary list of kink clinical practice guidelines.

Area 1: Foundational Knowledge, Skills and Attitudes (Guidelines 1–9)
Guideline 1: Clinicians understand that kink is used as an umbrella term for a wide range of consensual erotic or intimate
behaviors, fantasies, relationships, and identities.
Guideline 2: Clinicians will be aware of their professional competence and scope of practice when working with clients
who are exploring kink or who are kink-identified, and will consult, obtain supervision, and/or refer as appropriate to
best serve their clients.
Guideline 3: Clinicians understand that kink fantasies, interests, behaviors, relationships and/or identities, by themselves, do
not indicate the presence of psychopathology, a mental disorder or the inability of individuals to control their behavior.
Guideline 4: Clinicians understand that kink is not necessarily a response to trauma, including abuse.
Guideline 5: Clinicians recognize that kink intersects with other identities in ways that may shape how kink is expressed
and experienced.
Guideline 6: Clinicians understand that kink may sometimes facilitate the exploration and expression of a range of gender,
relationship, and sexuality interests and identities.
Guideline 7: Clinicians recognize how stigma, discrimination, and violence directed at people involved in kink can affect
their health and well-being.
Guideline 8: Clinicians understand the centrality of consent and how it is managed in kink interactions and
power-exchange relationships.
Guideline 9: Clinicians understand that kink experiences can lead to healing, personal growth, and empowerment.
Area 2: Life-Span Developmental Issues (Guidelines 10–13)
Guideline 10: Clinicians consider how generational differences can influence kink behaviors and identities.
Guideline 11: Clinicians understand that kink interests may be recognized at any age.
Guideline 12: Clinicians understand that there is a wide variety of family structures among kink-identified individuals.
Guideline 13: Clinicians do not assume that kink involvement has a negative effect on parenting.
Area 3: Assessment and Interventions (Guidelines 14–19)
Guideline 14: Clinicians do not assume that any concern arising in therapy is caused by kink.
Guideline 15: Clinicians understand that reparative or conversion therapies are unethical. Similarly, clinicians avoid attempts
to eradicate consensual kink behaviors and identities.
Guideline 16: Clinicians understand that distress about kink may reflect internalized stigma, oppression, and negativity
rather than evidence of a disorder.
Guideline 17: Clinicians should evaluate their own biases, values, attitudes, and feelings about kink and address how those
can affect their interactions with clients on an ongoing basis.
Guideline 18: Clinicians understand that societal stereotypes about kink may affect the client’s presentation in treatment
and the process of therapy.
Guideline 19: Clinicians understand that intimate partner violence / domestic violence (IPV/DV) can co-exist with kink
activities or relationships. Clinicians should ensure their assessments for IPV/DV are kink-informed.
Area 4: Professional Education, Training and Community Care (Guidelines 20–23)
Guideline 20: Clinicians strive to remain informed about the current scientific literature about kink and avoid misuse or
misrepresentation of findings and methods.
Guideline 21: Clinicians support the development of professional education and training on kink-related issues.
Guideline 22: Clinicians make reasonable efforts to familiarize themselves with health, educational, and community
resources relevant to clients who are exploring kink or who have a kink identity.
Guideline 23: Clinicians support social change to reduce stigma regarding kink.

pleasurable or erotic interests, behaviors, practices, relationships, and identities. Kink may include
sexual arousal/pleasure from painful sensations and power dynamics, eroticizing body parts and
inanimate objects (known to many as “fetish”), enacting or exaggerating erotic situations, and
participating in erotic activities that involve intensifying or altering states of consciousness (e.g.,
“subspace”, that is, one of many possible psychological states emerging during erotic peaks rather
than drug-induced changes in mental state).
Many kink practitioners report combatting kink-related stigma on both personal and insti-
tutional levels (Nichols & Fedor, 2017; Sprott & Benoit Hadcock, 2018). Due to external stigma,
some kink practitioners have internalized the belief that their kinky desires are evidence of
psychopathology (Pillai-Friedman, Pollitt, & Castaldo, 2015). These beliefs may need to be clar-
ified in therapy. It is imperative that clinicians engaging with kink practitioners be committed
to affirming and uplifting their identities and behaviors.
Automatically classifying kink behaviors as psychopathology is an example of the institutional
stigma experienced by many kink practitioners, which is one reason for the reluctance among
many kink practitioners to disclose their identities to the psychotherapist (Pillai-Friedman et al.,
2015). People of color, women, and gender diverse individuals may be told that their interests
are politically incorrect, men may be told that their kink interests are sexist or even mask
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impulses to rape. However, these commonly held negative beliefs about kink are not supported
by the scientific literature.
Kink interests, for example, are commonly believed to stem from some experience of trauma.
These beliefs have become so pervasive that some clinicians are inclined to explore trauma
experiences before attending to the presenting complaint. Clinicians should understand that kink
interests might not stem from or relate to any form of trauma or abuse (Hopkins et al., 2016;
Nichols & Fedor, 2017). It is recommended that psychotherapy focus on goals other than resolv-
ing or “fixing” the kinky interests. Clients who request help with eliminating their kinky interests
should be approached analogously to someone who requests the elimination of their same-sex
interests.
The Australian Study of Health and Relationships, which investigated psychological distress
in a nationally represented sample, found that 2% of sexually active men and 1.4% of sexually
active women were involved in BDSM activities within the past year (Richters et al., 2008).
When this cohort was compared to non-BDSM practitioners, no difference was found in history
of past sexual abuse or reported levels of psychological distress (Richters et al., 2008). These
and other studies empirically refute the idea that interest and participation in kink serve as
responses to traumatic experiences (Cruz, 2016; Nichols & Fedor, 2017; Pillai-Friedman et al.,
2015). Such findings are important for clinicians hoping to offer an affirming space to their
kink clients. These data may assist kink clients who are struggling with stigma to reframe how
they experience their identities and behaviors.
A kink-affirming approach encourages clients/patients to identify and to explore their interests
in an informed and safe manner. This might include selective referrals to local or online kink
support groups.

Understanding kink as part of healing and exploration

Guideline 6: Clinicians understand that kink may sometimes facilitate the exploration and expression
of a range of gender, relationship, and sexuality interests and identities.
Guideline 9: Clinicians understand that kink experiences can lead to healing, personal growth, and
empowerment.
Several studies have noted that non-heterosexual persons are more likely to report involvement
in BDSM and kink than heterosexuals (Connolly, 2006; Cross & Matheson, 2006; Pitagora, 2016;
Sprott & Benoit Hadcock, 2018; Waldura et al., 2016). It is unclear whether this indicates some-
thing about the dynamics and qualities of sexuality per se (van Anders, 2015), or if this phe-
nomenon is a result of stigma processes affecting sexual minority and sexual majority populations
differently (Damm et al., 2018). However, research highlights that kink allows for the exploration
and expansion of sexuality and gender (Baker, 2018; Cruz, 2016, 2020; Sprott & Benoit Hadcock,
2018) and presents numerous examples of how heterosexual and non-heterosexual people alike
have used kink practice to explore and perform gender and sexual identities to which they
would not typically ascribe. Such practice has also been known to facilitate unions among com-
munities that may not typically interact sexually, such as gay men with straight, cisgender women.
Clinical frameworks have frequently been developed and studied with cisgender, heterosexual,
and White communities. Awareness and consideration of other cultural identities is necessary
for meaningful and engaged treatment with a wide range of clients. Assessment and evaluation
of all cultural influences is imperative for effective treatment. For example, there is a perpetuated
stereotype that women of color involved in kink are often living with experiences of trauma.
However, researchers have highlighted that there are intersectional identities that might benefit
from kink exploration. For example, Cruz (2016) describes how Black women can engage in
kink practices as an avenue for Black female empowerment. With broadened understanding,
clinicians will be able to engage with intersectional kink populations with a nuanced stance that
facilitates increased comfort around disclosure and psychological and emotional processing
around kink.
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Clinicians should offer a supportive stance toward clients who report using kink as a tool
for personal identity exploration and psychological growth. Kink-affirming therapists are able
to engage clients/patients on how kink interacts with other areas of their lives. The clinician
provides appropriate levels of encouragement for clients’/patients’ development.

Providing stigma-informed care

Guideline 2: Clinicians will be aware of their professional competence and scope of practice when
working with clients who are exploring kink or who are kink-identified, and will consult, obtain
supervision, and/or refer as appropriate to best serve their clients.
Guideline 7: Clinicians recognize how stigma, discrimination, and violence directed at people
involved in kink can affect their health and well-being.
Stigma has been associated with poorer mental and physical health outcomes in general and
specifically, for other groups marginalized due to their sexual identities or practices (e.g., King
et al., 2008; Lick, Durso, & Johnson, 2013). Limited research has been conducted to assess how
minority stress and stigma might operate in the context of individuals involved in kink and
potentially be relevant clinically (e.g., Cramer et al., 2017; Roush et al., 2017). However, given
the significant discrimination faced by people involved in kink (see Wright, 2008), clinicians
should include stigma and its effects within their case conceptualizations. Specifically, if clients
present with ambivalence toward their kink identities, it will be important to assess whether
this is the result of internalized stigma. It will be important to consider how stigma may be
affecting individual and relationship well-being among clients involved in kink.
Given the context of minority stress and stigma experienced by many individuals exploring or
involved in kink, it is important for therapists to seek out training to provide affirmative therapy.
Due to the limited availability of training in routine graduate settings (Kelsey et al., 2013), it will
likely require proactive efforts by clinicians to seek out such supplementary training and/or consul-
tation. If providing affirmative therapy falls outside of one’s scope of practice, it may be appropriate
to make an appropriate referral if it is not feasible to seek out adequate training or consultation.

Area 2: Life-span developmental issues (Guidelines 10–13)

Certain developmental factors may affect clinical work with kink-involved or kink-identified
people, including age of first awareness of kink interests, family of origin or chosen family issues
and parenting. Kink can be expressed differently depending on age and generational cohort,
including the age at which the individual began to explore kink. Acceptance of identities or
lifestyles that are focused on kink may be challenging to families of origin, partners, friends,
children, and larger family systems. Some kink identified individuals find support in chosen
family and consensual relationship structures (e.g., leather families). Parenting may present unique
challenges, given the absence of affirmative models, and there is very little empirical research
on parenting among kink-identified people. The assumption that kink interests, behaviors or
identities impair parenting in a way that is dangerous or detrimental to children has been a
stereotype often used against kink-identified people in divorce or child custody proceedings (see
Klein & Moser, 2006). Several guidelines attempt to address developmental areas of a person’s
life, affecting issues such as coming out, relationship dynamics, and family law.
Kink affirming therapy recognizes the importance of a sense of belonging to individuals’
quality of life and sense of self and therefore supports multiple configurations and structures of
families of choice.

Generational and lifespan issues

Guideline 10: Clinicians consider how generational differences can influence kink behaviors and
identities.
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Guideline 11: Clinicians understand that kink interests may be recognized at any age.
Research on people involved in kink, spanning the 1970s to the present, demonstrates gen-
erational shifts involving sources of information and education about kink (Sprott et al., 2019),
but little change across generations in the age of awareness of kink interest (Holvoet et al., 2017;
Moser & Levitt, 1987; Spengler, 1977). A study of a representative sample of the Belgian pop-
ulation found that 61.4% of people who indicated an interest in BDSM developed initial awareness
of this interest prior to the age of 25. An earlier study conducted in the United States (primarily
New York City and San Francisco) in the late 1970s found that 57% of a sample of 178 men
reported their first kink experience before the age of 25 years. A 1977 study of among a sample
of West German (n = 237) found that 77% first became aware of their kink interests before the
age of 25 years (Spengler, 1977). However, although first awareness may tend to occur in late
adolescence or emerging adulthood, some people have discovered or explored kink interests at
later stages of life, whereas others have begun in childhood (Holvoet et al., 2017; Moser &
Levitt, 1987; Spengler, 1977).

Family and parenting

Guideline 12: Clinicians understand that there is a wide variety of family structures among
kink-identified individuals.
Guideline 13: Clinicians do not assume that kink involvement has a negative effect on parenting.
In considering family and parenting among kink communities, some have noted the creation
of chosen families similar to those found among LGBTQ + populations (Hammack, Frost &
Hughes, 2019). This includes a wide range of relationship and family structures, involving poly-
amory as well as more traditional family and relationship structures. Although there is a dearth
of research on parenting among kink-identified people, there have been clear cases where people
lost custody of children because kink was considered a mental illness or a character problem
(Klein & Moser, 2006; Wright, 2014). More recently, changes to the Diagnostic and Statistical
Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) in its fifth edition (APA, 2013) and DSM-5-TR (APA, 2022),
clarified that involvement in alternative sexualities like sadism, masochism or fetishism are not
grounds for automatic diagnosis with a paraphilic disorder (Wright, 2018). Despite this change
in the DSM-5 and DSM-5-TR, clinicians who were trained on earlier versions of the DSM may
nonetheless retain their biases regarding kink and parenting.
Kink affirming therapy supports clients’/patients’ rights to parent, regardless of their
sexualities.

Area 3: Assessment and interventions (Guidelines 14–19)

As noted in several reviews of the literature (e.g., Brown, Barker, & Rahman, 2020), a primary
concern regarding assessment has been identifying mental disorders as an explanation for kink
interests, behaviors and identities. In addition, given the societal stigma attached to kink interests
and behaviors, clinicians need to consider the impact of internalized kink stigma, anticipated
stigma, and experiences of discrimination and prejudice when assessing the mental health needs
of people involved in kink. Research that has examined the therapy experiences of people
involved in kink have also highlighted areas that are common pitfalls in the therapeutic process
from the client’s point of view (Dunkley & Brotto, 2018), such as overemphasizing BDSM
involvement when irrelevant to the presenting concern.

Recognizing the impact of enacted and internalized stigma

Guideline 15: Clinicians understand that reparative or conversion therapies are unethical. Similarly,
clinicians should avoid attempts to eradicate consensual kink behaviors and identities.
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Guideline 16: Clinicians understand that distress about kink may reflect internalized stigma,
oppression, and negativity rather than evidence of a disorder.
Guideline 17: Clinicians should evaluate their own biases, values, attitudes, and feelings about kink
and address how those can affect their interactions with clients on an ongoing basis.
Guideline 18: Clinicians understand that societal stereotypes about kink may affect the client’s
presentation in treatment and the process of therapy.
Negative stereotypes about people involved in kink include unsubstantiated assertions, such
as that the person is out of control, dangerous and anti-social (Turley, 2022). Equating BDSM
between consenting adults as violence or abuse is a common theme when there is a negative
stereotype. Part of viewing people involved in kink as suffering from mental disorders or prob-
lems includes assuming that such individuals are alone, isolated, and cannot function at higher
levels of psychological maturity. Negative stereotypes also include messages that people who are
interested in kink are hedonistic and narcissistic, which is why they indulge in these interests
and behaviors. The negative messages about kink also often communicate that people involved
in kink are easy to identify because of their anti-social, disordered and deviant interests and
behaviors. We have little information on how extensively these negative stereotypes are shared
in the general population (Stockwell, Walker, & Eshleman, 2010), nor on how many mental
health providers hold onto specific stereotypes.
People who live with stigmatized sexualities can often internalize rejection or shaming mes-
sages from their cultural group, or experience acts of violence and aggression which lead to
heightened distress—a key feature of sexual and gender minority stress (Hendricks & Testa,
2012; Meyer, 2003). This dynamic is well established empirically with LGBTQ populations (e.g.,
Lick et al., 2013; McConnell et al., 2018; White Hughto, Reisner, & Pachankis, 2015) and can
be applied to conceptualizing the impact of stigma on individuals involved with kink. Some
clinicians and kink community members use the phrase “internalized kink-phobia,” as a parallel
to internalized homophobia, to describe when individuals are distressed by their own interests
and activities in kink. Clinicians should assess carefully as to whether heightened levels of dis-
tress are emerging from internalized stigma or from some other disorder that might be present
rather than assuming automatically that kink per se causes psychopathology or disorder. It is
possible that the pathology and the client’s kink sexuality, or how it is expressed, have no rela-
tion; the kink might be the cause of the problem; or the problem has affected how the client’s
kink is expressed. It is possible that it could have elements of all three.
Clinicians operate under a professional ethic that calls for supporting health and well-being
for individual clients instead of enforcing society’s agendas around sexuality or relationships.
This ethic is part of the stance against reparative or conversion therapies, wherein the goal of
therapy is to change or suppress a person’s sexual orientation (Anton, 2010). Instead, clinicians
are to focus on the stress of a mismatch between society’s views and values versus the client’s
views and values, as well as the stress of living as a member of a stigmatized minority group
with social exposure to rejection and violence.
It remains unclear whether kink could be considered a sexual orientation (Moser, 2016; Sprott
& Williams, 2019). Therapeutic approaches attempting to change or suppress sexual orientation
have been harmful to sexual and gender minority clients. Similarly, it is important to support
a clinical approach that would avoid the harm to some clients who are kink-identified or
kink-involved which is caused by trying to change their sexuality. It may be that through cul-
turally informed therapeutic processes, clients may be invited to alter their kink practices to
better align with their values if there is a mismatch identified by the clients. Clinicians may use
harm reduction frameworks around kink behaviors that pose physical risks, but it is critical that
clinicians not attempt to eradicate kink interests altogether.
Ongoing consultation and continuing education workshops around kink are vital to evaluating
biases, values and attitudes, even for clinicians who have extensive experience working with kink
communities. Several clinicians and researchers have noted different levels of knowledge or
experience and have articulated these differences. Therapists may be seen as: “kink-friendly”
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which refers to a minimal level of general knowledge about kink and openness to working with
clients without automatically pathologizing kink behaviors or interests; “kink-aware” as a level
where clinicians have specific knowledge of concepts and practices that are important to the
kink subculture, and experience working with more than one or two kink-identified clients; and
“kink-knowledgeable” which refers to a more advanced level of knowledge and affirmative care
(Shahbaz & Chirinos, 2017). Sprott and Benoit Hadcock (2018) also noted that therapy with
clients involved in kink can call for different levels of awareness or knowledge, depending on
whether the presenting issues and treatment need to focus on specific kink interests, behaviors,
identities or relationships as central to treatment or whether kink is peripheral to presenting
issues and treatment.
Kink affirming care goes beyond being minimally aware of kink or even “value-free” to
identifying and confronting clinical shortcomings.

Providing kink affirmative care that differentiates between Intimate Partner Violence (IPV)
and kink
Guideline 14: Clinicians do not assume that any concern arising in therapy is caused by kink.
Guideline 19: Clinicians understand that intimate partner violence/domestic violence (IPV/DV) can
co-exist with kink activities or relationships. Clinicians should ensure their assessments for IPV/
DV are kink-informed.
It is a key clinical skill to distinguish abuse from consensual BDSM or power exchange
interactions; however, it is also important for clinicians to be aware that intimate partner vio-
lence can occur within the context of kink activities or relationships (Pitagora, 2016). For
example, in a large online survey of kink practitioners in 2012 (n = 5,667), 14.9% of respondents
had a scene where a safeword or safe signal was ignored, and 30.1% had a pre-negotiated limit
ignored or violated (Wright, Guerin, & Heaven, 2012). In about one-third of these incidents,
the transgression was an accident, came from a miscommunication or was the result of a lack
of knowledge and skills—but two-thirds involved abusive behavior (Wright, Stambaugh, & Cox,
2015). In a study of 146 self-identified slaves in 24/7 power exchange relationships, 27% had
left a previous power exchange relationship because they felt unsafe, and about a third of this
subgroup left due to concerns about risk of bodily harm or death (Dancer, Kleinplatz, & Moser,
2006). It is important to note that ignoring a safeword or safe signal, or enacting risky or
reckless kink behavior, is not the equivalent of intimate partner violence, but the two can
co-occur.
There are some challenges to the clinician in the discernment of IPV in kink activities or
relationships. One factor is the anticipated stigma around kink: Given that society already views
all consensual kink behaviors as inherently abusive, there might be fear and reluctance on the
part of the target of abuse to report or discuss abuse within a kink relationship with a clinician
or service provider. They may anticipate being blamed or dismissed (e.g., “you must have wanted
that” or “you must have liked it”). They may fear that their reports will just confirm and inten-
sify the stigma around kink, thereby confirming the viewpoint of the larger society, thus causing
additional harm to their community.
Another factor is the ambiguity and confusion that can arise when someone is new to kink
and just learning about safe, sane, and consensual kink. A case example is presented in Pitagora
(2016, p. 2):

It took time for A to recognize that he was emotionally abusing her, and it took even longer to realize that
the physical abuse she received was likewise not aligned with the premise of a healthy, consensual D/s
dynamic. The atmosphere of fear that she had initially enjoyed in the context of a consensual scene was
pervading the relationship; actual fear and discomfort replaced the connection she had felt with him when
they met, and were enforced without regard for her pleasure or consent. Eventually A was able to distin-
guish between BDSM interactions that were enjoyable, and those that she did not enjoy but tolerated out
of confusion and denial.
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This confusion, of course, can also occur for people with more experience and knowledge
about kink. A clinician can consider some “red flags” when trying to identify abuse in the
context of kink: issues of “bleed-through” when stress, anger, and frustration are expressed within
BDSM; statements like “real slaves…” or “real Masters…” being used as justifications for certain
problematic behaviors such as repeatedly pushing boundaries without discussion or negotiation
or refusing to listen to a partner’s fears or concerns; and restrictions on access to money, people,
or safer-sex decisions (Nichols, 2006).
The most important point is that discernment of abuse needs to be evaluated in context,
with a full picture of the kink dynamics involved and in light of the standards of safety and
consent that have developed in the kink community. Simple screening questions about abuse
are not likely to be helpful in the context of kink.
Kink affirming care offers screening that is conscious of the kink community’s ideals of Safe,
Sane and Consensual (SSC) or Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) (Williams, Thomas, Prior,
& Christensen, 2014) and which would thereby provide the type of discernment recommended
by these Guidelines.

Area 4: Professional education, training and community care (Guidelines 20–23)

This area encompasses guidelines regarding the role of clinicians in pursuing relevant training
and shaping the field to provide these opportunities on a more routine basis. This area also
addresses more broadly the potential role of clinicians as agents of change to promote greater
inclusivity. These changes will be critical to implementing the other guidelines and ensuring
that the foundational skills are widespread among clinicians.

Commitment to continuing education

Guideline 20: Clinicians strive to remain informed about the current scientific literature about kink
and avoid misuse or misrepresentation of findings and methods.
Guideline 22: Clinicians make reasonable efforts to familiarize themselves with health, educa-
tional, and community resources relevant to clients who are exploring kink or who have a kink
identity.
Clinicians should demonstrate a commitment to professional training to insure nonjudgmental
and culturally competent care for clients involved in kink. Given the lack of standardized training
in sexual issues (Burnes, Singh, & Witherspoon, 2017; Miller & Byers, 2010) and the apparent
lack of training on kink in particular (Kelsey et al., 2013), it is important for clinicians to seek
out foundational information regarding clients involved in kink, such as via literature reviews
and online training. For those who wish to provide more specialized care, it will be necessary
to engage in more ongoing training as well as seeking out appropriate consultation. Clinicians
should seek to familiarize themselves with community resources that can provide support to
kink-identified clients, such as connecting clients to other community members. Community
norms and terms are constantly evolving, so that even those who have significant experience
working with clients involved with kink might benefit from ongoing training and resources
produced by kink community educators and organizations (e.g., NCSF). Finally, it may be useful
for clinicians to incorporate tenets from a cultural humility framework (Hook, Davis, Owen, &
DeBlaere, 2017) to acknowledge the limits of their knowledge and their respect for clients’
experiences.

Advocacy for change and education

Guideline 21: Clinicians support the development of professional education and training on
kink-related issues.
Guideline 23: Clinicians support social change to reduce stigma regarding kink.
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Clinicians seeking to affirm clients involved with kink must consider acting beyond their
individual spheres to effect change on a more systemic level. For example, in addition to seeking
to educate themselves, clinicians should also participate in larger advocacy efforts to increase
undergraduate and graduate education in sexuality, inclusive of kink, as part of an ethical obli-
gation to develop the field and increase effectiveness. Clinicians can also support continuing
education opportunities, such as by demonstrating support for the inclusion of relevant proposals
at professional conferences. Clinicians can also advocate for having stronger sexuality training
requirements, inclusive of kink as a topic, in accreditation standards by regulatory bodies that
assess and approve health professional curricula. Another avenue is to address standards for
undergraduate and graduate curricula regarding psychology and sexuality so that they are inclu-
sive of kink as a topic (Graham, Kirakosyan, Fox, & Ruvabalca, 2023).
Similarly, in addition to affirming individual clients, kink affirming clinicians can also be
part of larger efforts to destigmatize kink and point out inadvertent stigmatizing of kink within
their spheres of influence. For example, they can include kink within their areas of interest in
therapist listings, joining the Kink Aware Professionals List (http://www.ncsfreedom.org/
key-programs/kink-aware-professionals-59776), or presenting relevant workshops at professional
conferences.

Recommendations for research and training

Several recommendations for clinical training and research practice emerge from the clinical
guidelines and are discussed in depth below.

Trainings recommendations
We recommend utilizing these guidelines in the context of training to familiarize undergraduates,
graduate students, interns and postdoctoral candidates and practicing clinicians with best prac-
tices for serving clients who engage in kink. This type of training can occur as standalone
training with a focus on kink, but also should be incorporated more broadly into trainings on
addressing stigma toward other marginalized groups. Currently, trainings about stigma to mar-
ginalized groups typically focus on more recognized issues of sexual diversity in the context of
sexual orientation, but do not attend to kink as another important facet of human sexuality that
may be associated with stigma and marginalization. For those who are interested in more
advanced training and consultation, we encourage the creation of peer consultation groups with
clinicians who are more experienced in working with this population.
We recommend that training providers take responsibility for their own education while
collaborating with advocacy organizations for the kink community to understand their perspec-
tives. Notably, seeking out training is one way that practitioners can take responsibility for
educating themselves rather than placing the burden on their clients involved in kink. Trainees
are to engage in a dynamic process of development rather than striving to achieve a static end
goal of “competence.” This type of approach invites providers to recognize and take responsibility
for their growth edges as an ongoing process.

Research recommendations
In reviewing the literature that supports the guidelines for working with people involved in
kink, we note several areas where more research is needed. How do people’s identities around
kink develop, and how does that affect their relationships or their health? What are the issues
and challenges around identifying and addressing intimate partner violence in the context of
BDSM or kink relationships? How do people use kink or BDSM for addressing past trauma or
injury, and for personal growth and self-actualization?
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There are research areas that are specific to clinical practice that need to be incorporated, as well.
What is entailed in becoming kink-affirmative in clinical practice? What kinds of training practices
are effective in reducing bias among clinicians, when it comes to kink interests, behaviors or iden-
tities? Are measures and scales used in general clinical research valid for use with a kink-identified
population? For example, are measures of relationship functioning valid and reliable for people whose
relationships are built around kink/BDSM behaviors and identities? Are the standard screening
inventories for intimate partner violence reliable and valid for use with a kink-identified population?
We also need to identify how minority stress is experienced by people involved in kink. How
is anti-kink stigma similar, or different, from other sexuality-related stigma? How does the legal
status of kink behavior affect the evaluation of kink behavior?
Answering these questions would further the effectiveness of clinical work with a kink-involved
population, and refine the clinical guidelines discussed in this paper.

Conclusion
The therapeutic process is often conceptualized as a “voyeuristic” engagement in which the ther-
apist is studying the client objectively. This often contributes to the perpetuating of unbalanced
power dynamics in treatment and can influence how clients present their identities in the ther-
apeutic space (Berendt, 2017). In order to protect against this dynamic, therapists should be
intentional about understanding the explicit and implicit factors that may influence feelings of
stigmatization in their clients. It is incumbent on the therapist to uncover personally held stigma
and biases toward kink culture that may have an adverse impact on the therapeutic process. For
example, therapists should explore their own reactions to accounts of kink interests, fantasies,
behaviors and relationships. Such introspection will also assist the therapist in understanding
whether working on kink issues, or with practitioners of kink, is within their scope of practice.
The field is moving in a direction of greater recognition of the particular needs and challenges
which kink-involved individuals bring to sex and marital/relationship therapy. The American
Psychological Association’s recently revised Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Sexual
Minority People (2021) affirms the importance of developing knowledge of and recognizing the
impact of stigma on kink behavior and relationships for clinicians serving the broader sexual
minority population (see Guideline 9 and Guideline 10). Continuing education trainings are
now being offered more frequently, and research on kink has grown. The greater recognition
calls for some type of agreement in the field about minimum, standard competencies for working
with clients who engage in kink. We hope the Clinical Practice Guidelines for Working with
People with Kink Interests helps in coming to that agreement in the field, for the sake of the
health and well-being of this sexual minority group.

Author note
This manuscript represents original work but is adapted from a longer version of Guidelines that are publicly
available: https://www.kinkguidelines.com/the-guidelines.

Note
1. Some studies used gender classifications that do not reflect the full range of gender identities, or who have noted
gender diversity but due to low frequencies, did not report on findings relevant to gender diverse or transgender
people. We have kept to the language of the original research reports to represent accurately the reported findings.

Acknowledgements
We wish to thank the 20 members of the Kink Guidelines Project team for their work over the course of two years
to produce the clinical guidelines discussed in this paper.
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Disclosure statement
The authors report there are no competing interests to declare.

Funding
CH is supported by the Office of Academic Affiliations, US Department of Veteran Affairs. The view(s) expressed
herein are those of the authors and do not reflect the official policy or position of the affiliations, the Department
of Veterans Affairs, or the U.S. Government.

ORCID
Cara Herbitter http://orcid.org/0000-0002-5019-0442
Charles Moser http://orcid.org/0000-0002-5120-6362
Peggy J. Kleinplatz http://orcid.org/0000-0003-0886-4869

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