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HOT GIRL
PSYCHOLOGY
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Hey, it’s Mike Haines, and you’re watching Godlike Power. Welcome to Module 1.
First things first, what is this course? What is Godlike Power? What are the
benefits you’re going to get out of it?
This course has been engineered over nearly half a decade, to produce one very
specific result for: to get you in a relationship with your ideal woman within 6
months.
That’s fundamentally what I want for you, and that’s what this course is designed to
get you.
This is the first and only course which teaches you specifically how to attract,
seduce and build a sexual relationship with 9s and 10s.

WHAT IS A 10?
Now, let’s define our terms here because this is a big point of misunderstanding.
When I say this course will teach you how to get a “10”, I’m talking about a girl
who’s a 10 to you.
There is no such thing as an objective “perfect 10”. I used to think there was, but
funnily enough when I got into teaching guys what I knew about game and
seduction and how to get laid, and I started actually talking to a lot of other men
about what they preferred in women, I realized that there’s a huge difference in
what different guys actually consider the ideal woman.

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When I was about 21 getting into learning this, my ideal girl was blonde, skinny, big
boobs, and I kind of just assumed everyone was into that. And obviously many guys
are. But there are guys who would consider a blonde skinny girl unattractive
compared to a Brazilain chick with a fat ass, and so on.
So, if it’s all subjective, and there’s no such thing as a real perfect 10, there’s just
different types of highly attractive women, then why have I decided to focus this
course around that goal: attracting 9s and 10s?
Well, the reason why has to do with a really painful problem that you have probably
faced before, and which is a hidden cancer in our community — that is, the
community of guys online who are learning how to improve themselves, get laid
more, get girls etc.
And that problem is what I call Desire Paradox.

THE PARADOX OF DESIRE

Simply put the Desire Paradox refers to commonly observed phenomena whereby
the more you want a girl, the harder it is to seduce her.
I’ll give you a few examples of the Desire Paradox. These are messages I got from
various different guys, when I asked them what their biggest problem in pickup and
dating is:
[Comments on screen]
So, although there are no “real perfect 10s” that every guy would agree is a 10, it
doesn’t actually matter. Because the problem is, so long as YOU see that girl as a
10, you’ll be too scared to approach her. And if you do approach her, you’ll often be
so intimidated by her that it prevents you from behaving in the naturally attractive,
masculine way that women are aroused by.
Either you chase too hard, or not hard enough, or you try to overcompensate by
using too many pickup techniques or something like that. And the result is that you
lose that girl — who’s legitimately perfect for you— and you never get another
opportunity at her.
And let me tell you from experience, man, does that suck.
So, what’s the SOLUTION to the problem of the Desire Paradox.

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Well, I’ve been studying and doing cold approach pickup for about five years now
— and I’ve been teaching it for 3 years.
And what I’ve found to be the case is that the way to get over this problem, the way
to get that girl who is a perfect 10 to you, is POWER.

Power is the key

Now what do I mean by power?
Power:
1. the ability or capacity to do something or act in a particular way
2. the capacity or ability to direct or influence the behavior of others or the course
of events
That’s the strict definition of power in the dictionary, and I think that serves as a
good description. To put it in different terms, there are two elements of power.

The two aspects of power

There is INNER POWER. And there is OUTER POWER.
INNER POWER is the ability to get yourself to TAKE ACTION.
An example of strongly developed inner power is, you see a beautiful woman, and
you start feeling nervous and excited and scared — but you FORCE YOURSELF to
walk up to her and say hello. That’s a manifestation of INNER POWER.
For 99% of people, inner power is a complete illusion. They think they could
approach a girl, if they wanted to. The reality is they cannot. They are slaves to all
their petty desires and weaknesses.
It takes a tremendous amount of work on your self, and changing yourself, to have
the inner power required to approach a hot girl. This type of work — this process of
self-change and self-strengthening — is one of the two elemental aspects we will
be covering in this course.
OUTER POWER is the ability to influence the emotions, thoughts and
behavior of another person.
The study of outer power refers to the acquisition of a deep, intuitive understanding
of the principles of influence, persuasion, seduction, propaganda, “mind control”,
hypnosis, NLP, and “PUA/game tactics” as they are classically understood.

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We will be covering the most salient of these principles and techniques of
persuasion is depth in this course.
Now, it is very important to make a distinction between the two kinds of power here.

INNER POWER > OUTER POWER

Inner power and outer power are NOT EQUAL.
Inner power is GREATER than outer power.
And this is because unless you have inner power, there is no way to attain outer
power.
This applies to all aspects of life in which the pursuit of power is the primary
objective — whether in business, politics, war, but especially in relation to the topic
currently under discussion which is seduction.
So let me tell you what I mean by that.
Inner power, as I’ve already said, is the ability to FORCE YOURSELF TO TAKE
ACTION.
Outer power is skill in the art of persuasion and influence.
You cannot attain skill in seduction unless you’re able to get yourself to take
action.
You cannot attain seduction skills without taking action.
This is because skill in this field is dependent upon UNDERSTANDING, not
knowledge alone.
And you can only gain understanding from practical real-life experience.
So although you need both inner power and outer power to seduce a 10, and
although both are indispensable, inner power is more important in the sense that
without it, you cannot gain outer power.
And this is paradoxical, because the vast majority of guys who are trying to learn
about seduction online are doing it EXACTLY BACKWARDS.
The average learning about game will spend hours sitting in front of his computer or
phone, reading articles and blog posts, watching videos, and trying to internalize
and digest all of the principles and techniques of seduction which he’s being given
by his teachers. He is following a strategy of pursuing outer power — that is,
technical persuasion knowledge.

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He believes that once he acquires enough technical knowledge of “what to do”,
then he will have the confidence to get himself to take action, approach that girl he
likes and seduce her.
Here’s what actually happens in reality.
The average guy learning game reads and watches so much material, without
taking any action, that when he finally puts himself in a position to approach a girl
he likes, he becomes overwhelmed with conflicting thoughts and emotions and
theories about how to go about it — to the point that he is literally PARALYZED and
unable to approach.
Everybody who starts learning about game has this experience at some point. I had
it. You will have it. It’s inevitable.
And this is because we’re all men here, and the male mind loves theory. Men love
theory. In fact, I sometimes say that theory ensnares the mind of man like the
spider’s web ensnares the fly
And the reason we love theory — especially when it applies to game — is that
learning more theory is a way to rationalize not taking action, which we’re scared to
do, because taking action by approaching a girl is always a step into the unknown,
and the unknown is the greatest fear of all humanity — possibly even greater than
the fear of death.

Fire, ready, aim

So, one of the fundamental principles I would like you to internalize is that you need
to cultivate INNER POWER before you cultivate OUTER POWER.
And the way you do that is actually rather simple.
Take action. Approach girls. Don’t even TRY to “get it right”. Just go out and
approach. That’s it. The game is played in the field. Not online. Not in books. In real
life. That’s where the game is played and that’s the one arena of learning.
And when you run into obstacles like you keeping rejected or something, THEN go
and look at the information and figure out where you’re going wrong and try again.
But the way you learn is NOT by study, but by ACTION.
Now write this down. This is the best way to go about doing this.

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1. You should be going out and approaching women at least two times a week —
ideally more. Or an alternative here is to set yourself a standard like, you vow to
approach one girl every day.
2. Make approaching your only criteria for success. Make approaching your only
criteria for success. In other words, if you go out, and you approach 5 girls that
night, and every one of them is non-responsive or rude to you, when you walk
home that night, your mindset should be “I approached, therefore this night was
a complete success.” That is your only criteria for success.

And the reason I’m so insistent on this is a few reasons. First of all, you can’t
control other people’s behavior towards you. You can only control your own
behavior. Therefore, the fact that you got yourself to take right action or didn’t is the
only reasonable measure of success or failure.
Eliminate rejection from your vocabulary. It doesn’t exist. There’s no rejection.
There’s only results.

Approaching a lot of women is how you get the “10”

Eventually if you approach enough girls, your brain will start to sort out what works
and what doesn’t, and you’ll start to succeed automatically. This is largely an
unconscious process.
And the only way to get there is by TAKING A LOT OF ACTION all the time.
And what will happen is this. When you’re approaching girls on a regular basis,
then when you see that ONE girl you really like — approaching her and attracting
her is not as hard. Because you’ve programmed your body and brain to know what
to do under these circumstances.
Same way as how if you’ve rehearsed for a play, or a concert or something like that
dozens of times — then when you get on stage on the big night, your performance
just happens effortlessly.
And people might look at you on stage and think “Wow, he’s got huge balls, I could
never go up there and play in front of all these people and keep my cool.”
But in reality, what’s happened is not that you’re any better, it’s just that you did SO
MANY PRACTICE sessions on the stage when there was no one there, that on the
night of the big show when you go up it just feels like ANOTHER PRACTICE
SESSION. And so you succeed naturally and effortlessly.

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This is fundamentally how you get your dream girl.

So to sum up before we continue: Godlike Power is about becoming a

POWERFUL MAN.
And Power, I define, as the ability to make yourself TAKE ACTION.
That is the TRUE meaning of the word power. All other powers flow from the ability
to take action — from the ability to “do” .
And 99% of people in modern life do not have the ability to “do”. Their belief that
they can “do” is an illusion.
People are asleep. Godlike Power is about waking up. And when you wake up, and
you access your latent ability to TAKE ACTION, you will have enjoy more sex, more
beauty, more power and influence than you ever thought possible.

HOW TO CONTROL THE REALITY IN WHICH OTHER PEOPLE LIVE

So, this program is about power. But why did I decide to call it “Godlike Power”?
Why “god like”? What does that mean exactly?
The myth of God (or if you’re a religious person, the reality) is that God is the
CREATOR. God is the creator of everything. God creates reality.
Godlike Power, therefore, is about being the creator of your own reality — and of
other people’s reality too.
As we already said, most people are asleep. And one of the main properties of
“sleep” is that you’re in reaction to your environment. An ordinary man is controlled
entirely by external conditions and influences.
A powerful conscious man, on the other, is the creator his environment. And by
extension, he’s the creator of the environment which is inhabited by sleeping,
unconscious people.
“I don’t want to be a product of my environment. I want my environment to be
a product of me.” — The Departed
”If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone
else's plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” — Jim
Rohn

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The Illuminati Principle
Godlike Power is the ability to create your own reality, just as in the religious
myth, God created the world.
You’ve probably heard the statistic that something like 40% of the world’s wealth is
owned by 1% of the people.
Well, I’d go even further than that, and say that there is a tiny nucleus of people on
this earth who CREATE THE REALITY which the majority of other people live in.
That small elite has some measure of what I call Godlike Power. In other words, the
elite create and decide on what gets to be regarded as “reality” — while the masses
live in the reality that was created for them by the elites.
But anyone can become a Creator of Reality if they so wish. It takes immense labor
and persistent work but you can do it. And it’s worth doing.
By taking action, you can change the reality around you and totally alter it. It’s
almost like lucid dreaming. If you’ve ever been in a dream, and you realized you
were in dream, and you were able to control the dream and do whatever you
wanted.
That’s kind of what life can be like when you develop this power of taking right
action. It’s like discovering the source code to the matrix so that you can manipulate
the world around you at will.
I’ll give you a personal example of that. And then I’m going to give you quick and
very fun little exercise which is really going to take your results with women to the
next level.

Sexual voodoo: a strange story

So this story is very weird. What I’m about to talk about is extremely strange, and
almost unbelievable.
A few years ago, I was sitting in my room, and I had not had sex with a woman in a
long time. I think it had been almost 10 months, maybe more.
I’d had a few semi sexual experiences in that time. I’d made out with different girls
in the club, I’d gone on a few dates. But I hadn’t been laid in a long time, and I was
starting to get really, really frustrated.
And what was bad about it, was that I was actually legitimately trying very hard to
get laid and find a girlfriend. I wasn’t just complaining on internet forums. I was

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going out to nightclubs and approaching girls two nights a week. I was approaching
girls in the daytime in my college. I was probably approaching anywhere between
20-40 women a week.
But I wasn’t getting anywhere. I was in a dry spell, and as anyone who’s ever been
in a dry spell will tell you — it has this weird way of becoming self perpetuating. It’s
like women can smell you’re in a dry spell, and they don’t want anything to do with
you.
So anyway I’m sitting in my room, and I come across this weird exercise. And the
premise of the exercise is that you just write down exactly what you want, in detail,
and then you lay back, and in a couple of months, you look around and you realize
you got exactly what you asked for.
And my reaction to that was: what a load of bullshit.
But I had nothing to lose and I was bored, and I kind of like writing lists, so I gave it
a shot. And I took out a pen and notepad, and on the top of the page I wrote, “my
ideal woman”, and I underlined it. And then I wrote out a numbered list of different
qualities she would have if there was absolutely no limitations and I could have
anything I wanted.
And I went extremely detailed with it. I described how she was in her mid twenties,
beautiful and elegant, slim athletic body, and the face of a supermodel. I described
her hair color, and her eye color, and even the exact type of clothes she would
wear. I described what she did with her life — the fact that was entrepreneurial and
ambitious, and I described the exact type of relationship we would have. How she
would be totally in love with me, and how she would make a huge effort to please
me and be attractive to me. And I wrote about 5 or 6 pages of this. I wrote a LOT.
And then I took the exercise further, and I opened up another page, and I wrote “my
ideal interaction”. And I underlined it.
And here, I described exactly how I would meet women if there were no logical
limitations or constraints. So in other I described exactly how I would like to
approach women if I was God — if I could completely shape reality however I
wanted it to be.
And I wrote down things like, how I would see a girl I was incredibly attracted to,
and I would over to her with zero hesitation, and no fear whatsoever, no approach
anxiety, no nervousness.
And I wrote down how, after I approached her, she would just spontaneously be all
over me. If you’ve ever seen one of those Axe body spray commercials — that’s

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pretty much what I described. Me standing there, and some absolute babe just
completely drooling over me, touching me, trying to kiss me, trying to grab my
crotch. And I described how almost instantly, this perfect 10 would take my hand
and just lead me out of there to go home and have sex — that was how
unbelievably irresistible she found me.
And so I did the exercise, I put the notepad away and I forget about it.
And the next week I went out to the club, like I’d been doing, to chat up some girls
and get laid. And because none of my friends wanted to go out that night, I actually
went out to the club alone.
And if you’ve ever done that before, you’re probably aware that it’s not as easy as it
looks. It’s actually kind of terrifying to go to a nightclub on your own and try to
approach girls. I certainly never gotten laid while in a club on my own, but I figured
fuck it, if my friends aren’t going out, I’m not just going to spend Friday night at
home. I’m gonna go out, I’m gonna approach girls, work on my game, have some
fun, have a few beers, let loose, have a dance. And I probably won’t get laid, but
fuck it, what else are you gonna do.
Well, long story short, I’m at that club for about an hour. And I get talking to these
two really pretty girls who look like models. Turns out they’re visiting Ireland (where
I live) and they’re from Hollywood, California, and it’s just the two of them there.
And I’m talking to them, I’m playing it pretty cool, and they tell me, how you want to
leave her and get some food? We’re hungry. So I say, uh sure.
So here I am, I’ve arrived at the club alone like a loser (many would say), and now
I’m walking out of there with two model-tier girls literally on each arm, hugging me
on either side, and I’m pretty god damn good about myself.
Well, we get some food, I bring them back to my place for a drink, one leaves
because she has a flight in few hours, the other one stays and we have sex. Pretty
cool. Dry spell over, right?
And what’s funny is — the approach was almost exactly like the one I’d described
just a week before in “ideal interaction” exercise. In other words, I didn’t chase the
girls at all — I just approached them, and they kind of just dragged me out of there.
I didn’t have to game them, I didn’t do anything impressive. They were just
automatically into me, hugging me, all over me almost the moment I approached.
And it was even cooler — because that was the first time I’d ever gone to a club on
my own and pulled a girl for sex. Which at the time was a big milestone for me,
because I finally got that sense that I could just leave my house pretty much

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whenever I wanted to and get laid if I so desired. I knew that was possible now —
which was a big deal, in terms of my self confidence feeling of self efficacy.
But the story isn’t finished.
The next weekend, I go out alone again, I go to a different club. And within about an
hour of entering the club, I’m leaving with a beautiful girl on my arm, who’s about 18
years old and turns out to be a virgin. And she comes home with me and we fool
around and things get sexual, I decided I didn’t want to take her virginity, but she
gives me some of the best head I’ve ever had. And that was a lot of fun.
So now — picture this, for the last 10 or 11 months or so I’ve basically been celibate
in a dry spell. But now, after doing this exercise, I pull two of the hottest I’ve ever
been with up to that point in two consecutive weeks — and both times I do it from
simply wandering into the club alone.
Pretty cool, right?
But wait — there’s more.
Because not only was my dry spell now over, but within about 3-4 months of doing
this exercise, I end up dating a girl who is exactly like the girl I described in the ideal
girl exercise except possibly even better.
I mean like spooky — she dresses the same, looks the same, we have the same
kind of sex life and relationship I had described. It was literally like writing down the
type of girl I wanted actually manifested her into existence and attracted her into my
life.
Very weird.
Now, was doing that “ideal girl” exercise and the “ideal approach” exercise
responsible. I don’t know. But if it’s a very weird coincidence that I was in a dry spell
for 10 months, did the exercise not expecting ANYTHING to happen, and within two
weeks I had not only had sexual relations with extremely beautiful women, but
pretty soon I would go on to meet and date the exact I’d described as my ideal girl if
there no limitations.

So before we go further into Godlike Power, I’m going to pause the video now, take
out a pen and notepad and I’m going to ask you to do:
(1) The ideal girl exercise
(2) The ideal interaction exercise

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It’s very important you do these exercises now.
And I’m going to make a promise to you, ok. This is only time throughout this
course I’m going to ask you to WRITE anything.
There’s no other “homework” or writing exercises. This is the only one I’ll give you.
And it’s the only one you need.
But trust me, when I say, you NEED to do this exercise. Or, to be more accurate,
you need to do BOTH of these exercises — perfect girl and perfect interaction.

THE MIND AS “SERVO-MECHANISM”

And the reason why is that your mind is a servo-mechanism.
Your unconscious is constantly looking for ways of getting what you want. This is
happening all the time under the surface of your awareness.
The problem is that very few of us actually take the time to (1) figure out and decide
EXACTLY what we want, and (2) to program that aim into our unconscious mind, so
that it can get to work figuring out how to get it.
When you gain TOTAL CLARITY about what your exact aim is, it will set in motion a
a whole process that will bring about getting it without you even being aware of
exactly how.
It’s like the moment you actually write down EXACTLY what it is you want, it puts
into motion this gigantic invisible machine. And through all kinds of mysterious and
not so mysterious mechanisms, within a few months or a few years, you’re looking
at what you wrote down, and you’re looking at your life, and you realize — wow, I
actually got EXACTLY what I asked for.
You don’t have to believe me. Just do this as an experiment. And see what
happens.
It’s very important to making the rest of this course work.

DO THIS EXERCISE NOW

So,
(1) you’re going to take a notepad, you’re going to pause the video and you’re
going to write down a description of your ideal girl, if there were no absolutely
no limitations or consequences.

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Describe everything about her. The more detail the better. I want you to describe
her in so much detail that she becomes vivid — you can almost see her as if she
was right in front of your face.
Describe exactly how she looks physically, her style, her body, her face, hair color,
etc. Describe what kind of person she is — what kind of energy she has. Is she
artistic and trendy, stylish. Is she athletic, a gym girl, whatever. Is she glamorous
and young, or more mature, etc.
Little tip here — try to write more about her non-physical attributes than you do
about her physical ones. What do she does she do for work? Does she work? Is
she a supermodel? Is she so hot that she gets paid for it? Or maybe that’s not
important to you and something else is. But whatever it is, describe it and be
HONEST.
If you want a really sexy girl, a girl who looks she could do porn, make that
absolutely clear. Write it down. Don’t be ashamed or embarrassed of what you
really want — no one has to see this sheet of paper except you.
What are her life aims, her dreams? Does she want to be successful and
independent? Does she want to be a mom, live a more traditional life? What are
her values? What does she do for fun? What are her friends like? What’s her
relationship with them like?
What’s her relationship with her parents like? Does she like children? Animals?
Does she exercise and diet? Is she into self-improvement? Music? Art? Is she
highly intelligent, academic, intellectually curious? Is she submissive? Or is she
more of an active, alpha female type of personality?
What kind relationship do you have together? What are some activities she and you
enjoy doing together? What’s the sex between you like? What’s she like in bed?
What do you do for fun when you’re not having sex? Maybe you love independent
films and so does she, and so you go to the movies together a lot. Or you both love
great coffee, and you have it together each morning as you watch the sunset.
Really drill down into the details. The more detail, the more vividness, the better.
The first objective is to describe the girl. And then you want to really describe the
LIFE you want to have with her, the relationship you have with each other.
And again — be 100% honest here. Maybe you don’t want a relationship yet.
Maybe you want to date multiple women. And in that case, describe the types of
girls you’d like to be with, the kind of open relationship you’d like to have with them.

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No limitations. That’s the key. Let yourself daydream. Let yourself go wild. It’s
important to let your imagination roam free and be totally unrestricted when doing
this exercise.

Now, #2, is I want you to describe your ideal interaction with women if there no
limitations or consequences.
Again, emphasis on: no limitations.
Really get wild here. Don’t hold back at all. Now — the one caveat, your ideal
interaction with women has to be something you would be happy with every day of
your life for the rest of your life.
So, you know, being chased around the street by naked supermodels — that’s
great, but after a few weeks it would probably start to get kind of weird.
Just describe exactly how it would go if you could SCRIPT OUT the girl’s reaction to
you every time you approached one.
For me personally, when I did this exercise, I was very into the idea of the girl
chasing me, and making it very obvious that she was sexually attracted to me, even
to the point of grabbing me and being overtly sexual.
Now — that doesn’t seem like a realistic option. And yet shortly after doing this
exercise, that’s exactly what happened. A really hot girl did actually kind of “seduce”
me without me doing anything.
And after that, I sort of started to figure out how to get to that happen at will with
other girls — using techniques and principles you’ll learn more about in this course.
Of course, when I first committed that to writing, I just viewed it as being totally
unrealistic. But you’d be surprised about what you can achieve if the AIM itself is
actually clear. Because what happens is that by writing it out, you’re communicating
that goal to your unconscious mind.
And your unconscious — or as some call it, your servo mechanism — then starts
working around the clock even when you’re asleep to figure out exactly what you
have to do to achieve the goal you programmed into it.
So that’s exercise 2. Describe your ideal approach. Describe exactly how women
react to you when you approach them.
Do those exercises now. When you come back, we’re going into the psychology of
attracting the most beautiful women.

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Pause the video and do those exercise now.

HOT GIRL PSYCHOLOGY

WHAT 9’S AND 10’S REALLY WANT BUT WILL NEVER ADMIT

Welcome back to Godlike Power, the first and only course which teaches you how
to build sexual relationships with 9s and 10s.
In the last video, I got you to do an exercise where you described your perfect 10 —
your ideal girl.
If you’ve done the exercise properly, you now have a very clear idea of EXACTLY
what you’re looking for in a woman.
And that’s going to help you in so many ways. The most important one being that
from doing that exercise, you’re going to find that you almost effortlessly connect
with women who are right for you.

THE SUPREME IMPORTANCE OF INNER CONGRUENCE

You see, women are attracted to men who are honest about their desires.
But until you know what you want, you cannot be honest about your desires. Same
way as how I can’t tell you — honestly — how long the Brookyln bridge is, because
I don’t know. There’s literally no way for me to “honestly” give you an answer to that
question.
Well, likewise, if you’re not 100% clear about what you want from women, then you
cannot express your desire for them honestly and congruently.
And that’s a big problem — because women have “antenna” on their heads for
detecting dishonesty…. incongruence… uncertainty… any internal
misalignment a man has, and it sets in motion a rejection mechanism which is
hard coded into their DNA.
This point really bears repeating: in fact, it’s very rare for a woman to reject a
guy based on how he looks. 99% of rejections are due to the man being
incongruent. In other words, he lacks internal clarity about who he is and
what he wants. And this lack of inner clarity, inner unity, causes him to

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behave in a weak-willed, timid way which triggers instant rejection from
women.
So it’s really important you do the exercises outlined earlier, so you know exactly
what you want from women, exactly what type of woman you want, and exactly
what kind of relationship you want from her.
But now there’s a second thing we have to cover.

Hot Girl Psychology 101

We have to talk about WHAT WOMEN WANT. If you know your own deepest
desires, and you know the woman’s deepest desires, then you cannot fail.
You will effortlessly communicate with her and be attractive to her, without even
trying.
So in this section we’re going to talk about what I call HOT GIRL PSYCHOLOGY.
The reason there even is such a thing as “hot girl psychology” is because very
beautiful women tend to be socialized differently. While it is true that even the most
attractive woman is simply an ordinary human being like everyone else, it is also
undeniable that extremely beautiful have a different lived experience from other
human beings.
And it follows that if you want to attract the most beautiful women, you must have
an accurate idea of what their lived experience and how you can best fit into that.
So what does a girl who’s a “9 or 10” want? What is she looking for in a man?

#1: YOU MUST BE “ON HER LEVEL” IN TERMS OF LOOKS.

Now. That being said, what you think being on her level means is usually very
different from what she thinks it means.
Let me explain.
You might see a girl in the street who’s absolutely gorgeous, well-dressed,
fashionable, stylish, sexy. And you’re consciously or unconsciously thinking “a girl
like this would never be interested in me. She looks like she could on a magazine
cover. So obviously she only goes for guys who are 6ft 2 with abs and a square
jaw,” and so on.
Rarely the case. Rarely the case.

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I’ve known a lot of really beautiful women in my life. If you take any given 9 or 10.
And if you got all her ex boyfriends in a room and lined them up against the wall,
you would see one or two who look like male models or athletes. But most of them
are simply variations on a regular, average type of guy of different physical types.
At this point in my life I’ve been doing game for a long time and I’ve slept with many
very attractive women, including women who get paid for their looks like models
and exotic dancers and so on, as well as really smart, educated girls who go to
college or work in professional fields who just also happen to be extraordinarily
beautiful.
What I have found is that women like this almost never select guys for their
looks.
As a rule, the hottest women are usually jaded about hot guys. Throughout her
life, the average really hot girl has gotten to have her pick of any man she wants.
And particularly when she was younger — like from the age of around 14 to 18 or
so — those were the guys she generally selected, the hottest guys, the best looking
guys.
Well, what happens, is that having access to a lot of really attractive guys, these
girls quickly learn that if a guy is hot but boring, they absolutely don’t want to be
around him.
Very, very common among the hottest girls which you’ll find out once you start
sleeping with them and getting to know them.
You would assume that uglier girls are more forgiving about looks, but it’s
actually the opposite. See, an ugly girl has never had that “fantasy” of having
a “hot” boyfriend and so she hasn’t yet become disillusioned with it.
Whereas the hot girl actually has had “hot” boyfriends and lovers but ended
up being unsatisfied and disillusioned in the end.
Looks are almost NEVER the primary criteria on which a 9 or 10 judges you as a
potential partner. What these girls are searching for above all else is not looks
but a CONNECTION.

Nevertheless — looks ARE important and should be optimized as much as

possible
Now, this is not to say that you shouldn’t take of your looks.

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As I said, being “on her level” in terms of looks is necessary to get your foot in the
door. It’s necessary to get on her radar.
If you’ve got a neck beard, you’re out of shape, you’re not wearing clothes that fit
you, you don’t have a haircut that suits you, or you have body posture and body
language — you’re just not going to get on her radar. Sorry to tell you.
There’s too much of a VALUE CONFLICT. This girl probably spends several hours
a day and hundreds of dollars a month making herself look beautiful — putting her
best foot forward in terms of looks.
If you don’t make any effort to look after yourself, it would just be incongruent for
her to date you. It wouldn’t make sense. Your values are too different.
It’d be like a person who is a devoutly religious Christian marrying an atheist radical
feminist who doesn’t want to live a traditional lifestyle at all. It just doesn’t make
sense — it’s not going to work.
So looks matter in the sense that if she values looks (which if she’s beautiful, by
definition she does), then you need to value presenting yourself well to be in
alignment with that. Looks will get you in the door, and if you get skilled at
optimizing your looks and making yourself look good — it can help you get on her
radar.
She may see you and think you’re looking handsome and stop and think “hm, he’s
kind of hot.”
That’s when you get those approaches where you walk over to the girl and she’s
already totally into you, laughing and smiling, because she already saw you and
kind of decided in her mind beforehand “he’s hot”
So optimizing your looks is great for that.
It can only take you so far, but it’s absolutely worth doing. You want to get every
edge you can — and looking sexy will definitely give you an edge.

Lifting weights will solve almost all other problems

You should work out, get into great shape. If you’re skinny, eat a ton of healthy food
and lift weights build muscle, bulk, get a great physique. If you’re overweight, cut
out carbs, and replace them with lots of protein and healthy fats and lift weights.
If you get into great shape, it fixes almost all other physical problems.

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Being bald looks bad — if you’re in bad shape. But if you’re great shape, and you’re
bald, and you’ve got a nice sleek aerodynamic close cut — that’s actually a VERY
attractive look to many women. Some women actually have a preference for guys
who are bald and well-built.
Any skin problems you have will tend to go away if you’re lifting heavy weights and
eating healthy. Your face will look better. Everything kind of just sorts itself out if you
lift weights and eat well.
Dress well. Go to a stylist and get advice on what clothes are most flattering to you.
That being said, if you’re in good shape — whatever you wear will generally tend to
look pretty good. While if you’re in bad shape, no matter how good your clothes are,
they won’t look great on.
Get a nice haircut. Again, talk to a professional here — a hairdresser. Ask them
what they would recommend for your face, and then get that.
Get nice shoes. A nice watch. Women judge a man by his shoes. If you need help,
invest in paid advice from a stylist.

Posture
It seems like a simple thing but changing your posture will make you seem much
better looking.
Stand up straight, chin up, eyes looking straight ahead at all times.
Here’s something I learned recently: even if you think you stand up straight, you
probably don’t.
What you should do right now is go to a mirror. And turn sideways so you get a
side-view of yourself.
Look at the “ridge” that extends from your neck to your shoulder. If you’re wearing a
shirt, this will be the seam of your shirt going from your neck to your sleeve.
You’ll probably notice that the seam is slanted forward. So move your shoulders
back until the seam is completely straight — from your neck to your shoulder.
Well that’s the position you should hold your shoulders in.
And you’ll know you’re doing this right if it’s actually uncomfortable and feels weird
for the first couple weeks of standing like this.
This is good posture.

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I can’t emphasize enough how important this is. I’ve always had pretty good
posture, but about a month ago I read Mark Manson’s book Models where I found
out about that mirror trick, and I started making an effort to have perfect posture,
and I’ve been amazed by the difference in how women respond to me. Just that
simple trick for walking with perfect posture I think I now get about 50% more
attention from women. It’s really fascinating.
Perfect posture will also add about an inch to your height. You can verify this
yourself by looking at how much taller you are in the mirror when you stand the way
I’ve just shown you vs. how you were standing before.

HOT WOMEN WILL HAPPILY DATE ALL KINDS OF PHYSICAL TYPES OF

GUYS. BUT THEY WILL NOT WOUND THEIR OWN SELF-RESPECT BY BEING
SEEN WITH A GUY WHO DOESN’T MAKE AN EFFORT TO LOOK GOOD AT
ALL.
For women it’s not really about you being “hot”. It’s more about the fact that you do
everything you can to maximize what you’ve got.
For women, the “sexiness” of a man has more to do with presentation and
personal presence than it does with bone structure, facial symmetry, ethnicity,
race, height, or other genetically predetermined factors.
If you think about it from her perspective, she doesn’t want to walk around with a
guy on her arm who isn’t even trying to look good. Because that ultimately just
signals that she must be of low value.
Imagine going to a party with your friends, and bringing a date along, and your date
is a woman who’s wearing sweat pants, hasn’t put on any makeup for the occasion,
greasy hair, hasn’t showered.
How would you feel about that? You’d feel pretty embarrassed and ashamed
because it reflects poorly on YOU.
So… You don’t have to be perfect in looks to get with beautiful women. But
you do have to TRY.
She has to be able to say to herself, “Wow, my man looks good today in that shirt.
He looks good with that haircut. I’ve got such a handsome man.”
Now you might not really be objectively handsome — but you work out, you dress
well, you’ve optimized how you look as much as possible, it allows her to have a
sense of “pride” for being with you.

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The “sexual value hallucination effect”
Now, with all that being said, something interesting which you’ll start notice if you
get out there and start approaching… is that when a woman finds you attractive,
because you behave in an attractive masculine way, and you have an attractive
vibe, she will very often “hallucinate” that you’re physically hotter than you actually
are.
Women will “make excuses” for you / hallucinate that you’re hotter than you
actually are if they’ve decided they like you
And I’m not exaggerating about that.
For example, I’m around 5 ft 11. My girlfriend insists I’m 6 ft 1. We’ve been dating
for nearly 5 years. It doesn’t matter how much I try to tell her I’m 5 11 and even
show her the tape measure. She believes I’m 6 ft 1 because she WANTS to believe
it.
Think about that. This is a girl who went to my country’s equivalent of an Ivy League
school. But you see, it doesn’t fit her self-image to be dating a guy who’s under 6
foot — and so she has tricked herself into sincerely believing I am over 6 foot.
Very interesting. There’s a lot to that principle. And it explains a lot of otherwise
puzzling phenomenon in game and seduction.

“They’ll believe because they want to believe.” — Demosthenes

If a girl likes you, she’ll believe you’re hot and actually SEE YOU AS HOT, because
she wants to believe you’re hot.
Women are very good at seeing reality in whatever way they want to see it. In
fact, I would say women actually have superpowers when it comes to this particular
skill.
The result — which is kind of nice and very cute — is that if you’ve done a good job
at sparking a woman’s interest, she will literally “distort” the reality to see you as
more attractive than you actually are. And she’ll really believe that you are.
This is why you’ll quite often see exquisitely beautiful women dating objectively ugly
or below average guys. And initially, the guy usually got her attracted because he
was very dominant, or very masculine. But as she develops affection for him, she
starts to honestly see him as “hot” and to believe he’s hot.

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Because no one wants to believe they’re lowering their standards physically.
The girl’s unconscious thought process is: “I’m only attracted to hot guys —
because settling for less would make me low value. But I’m attracted to Mike.
Therefore, Mike must be hot.” Q.E.D.

#2: A HOT GIRL WILL OFTEN BE ATTRACTED TO YOU FOR SURPRISING

REASONS — INCLUDING FOR THINGS YOU THINK OF AS “NEGATIVES”
You must not project your values of what is “attractive” onto the girl. They
may not be her values.
You may think that what makes a man attractive is how tall he is, or how muscular
he is. That’s not necessarily what’s she attracted to. Just because you have been
socialized to have that expectation tells you nothing about what she has been
socialized to like.
So any kind of internal chatter about “I’m not tall enough for her”, or “I’m too old for
her”, or “she probably only dates athletic white guys and I’m a skinny Asian”.
All of this shit has got to go. And the reason it’s gotta go is because it’s based on a
cognitive bias called the mind projection fallacy.
And what the mind projection fallacy is, is a belief that YOU know what’s going on in
ANOTHER person’s head — all the time. It’s basically an irrational belief that you
have telepathic abilities, you know exactly what other people are thinking, and
you’re never wrong about it.
And that’s irrational. You don’t know what other people are thinking. You have
absolutely no idea what reality looks and feels like to them. And you never will.

This is a very important point.

What you think has value to a “9 or 10” is not necessarily what actually has
value to her.
Sexuality and sexual attraction is complicated.
Girls will be attracted to you for reasons that you would never expect. Likewise,
they will also be turned off by things you think are actually a positive.
An example I frequently talk about because it’s kind of funny is: one of the first girls
I ever slept with was this really hot, slim blonde girl who I used to go to high school

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with. She had been a bitch to me in school and was one of the popular,
unattainable, out of my league type of girls.
But later I ran into her at a party, we hooked up and ended up being fuckbuddies for
a while.
And I remember we were talking about sex in bed one time, and she was telling me
how she had always had this weird thing for our geography teacher.
And this guy was maybe in his late fifties, balding grey hair, fat, ugly, just basically
“gross”. And what was more he was kind of a perv, a little bit of a creep. This was
guy was basically what — at the time — I would have considered the exact
OPPOSITE of what a woman was attracted to, particularly a hot teenage girl.
And yet this girl — this attractive blonde teenager — told me how she would be in
class with him and she’d literally be wet as she fantasized about this gross older
guy keeping her after class then having his way with her on the desk.
Why does this happen? Well, there’s an element of the “forbidden”. Maybe a
thought like this momentarily occurs to her — of sucking this teacher’s dick for
example. And she’s disgusted by it. And the very fact that it disgusts her makes her
focus on it — the way people will turn their heads to look at a car crash, or will find
themselves morbidly captivated by gruesome pictures online.
And the very fact of trying to resist this image, of being seduced and corrupted by
this gross older teacher, actually makes her turned on by it — because of that old
saying “whatever you resist persists”. And in this way this came to be one of this
girl’s primary fantasies.
So what’s the point here?

YOU HAVE IDEAS IN YOUR HEAD ABOUT WHAT A “PERFECT 10” IS

ATTRACTED TO WHICH ARE NOT BASED IN ANY KIND OF OBJECTIVE
REALITY.
Here’s another example of this that I learned about recently. It turns, some hot
girls are actually turned on by being with an ugly guy. Because the idea of
fucking a an ugly guy who will worship her and be so grateful to touch her as
if she’s a goddess — actually hold an erotic fascination for many girls.
That’s hard to believe but it’s true.
Recently, a company called Whatsgoodly did a poll of 4,950 college age girls asking
them about various aspects of sexuality. And one of the questions they asked these

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girls was this: “Are you turned on by the thought of being way out of a guy’s
league but hooking up with him because you know he’ll think you’re hot as
fuck?”
49% said yes. 20% said maybe. And the remaining 31% of girls said no.
So that’s kind of interesting, right?
As much as 69% of women said they are either turned on or potentially turned on
by the idea of having sex with an uglier guy — a guy who’s below their league —
just because they get off and how hot he would find her.
I think if you asked most people to guess based on common sense they would not
tell you that — but that’s the scientific answer. (And 5,000 is a large sample size,
too — much bigger than you’d get in most scientific studies)

#3: HAVING THE BALLS TO APPROACH HER

Often, women who wouldn’t look twice at you in the street, will “give you a
chance” just because you were ballsy enough to approach them and be
honest about your interest.
Sometimes, it actually takes very little effort to get a girl attracted. The very fact
that you approached at all — where other guys are afraid — is in itself a
demonstration of power and confidence, which women find innately sexy.
If the girl is a true 10 — the type of woman who is unbelievably intimidating to most
men — she almost NEVER gets approached. And if you are ballsy enough to do it,
she’s potentially attracted automatically.
This is particularly true in environments where she doesn’t EXPECT to get
approached — such as: the street in the middle of the day, a coffee shop, a library,
a college campus.
Very, very rare for women to get approached in these kinds of environments. And if
you do, you’ll stand out A LOT in a very good way.

As a general rule, I tend to find that the hottest girls are actually nicer to you
when you approach them than the less attractive women.
Hard to believe, because a lot of these 9s and 10s have “resting bitch face”.
But it’s been my experience again and again.
They are very often NICER than less hot girls.

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And I think this is due to a few things:

#1 which we’ve already covered, is that they get approached LESS. And the guys
who DO approach them tend to be very confident, and very smooth.
And what this means is that they actually have (a) not that many past experiences
of being approached, (b) the experiences they DO have are often very positive —
because being intimidaitely hot is kind of like a moat which means that only the
coolest, chillest guys have the balls to approach them.
So she sees you approaching, and she categorises you along with all those super
cool, chill dudes she’s been approached by in the past.
By contrast, who do mediocre girsl attract? They attract mediocre guys, creeps and
drunk guys who go for them because they seem like “easy targets”.
And so the less attractive girl gets approached more, gets approached by less
confident guys and is likely to have a lot of NEGATIVE REFERENCE
EXPERIENCES of being approached, causing her to act bitchy and defensive to
you when you do approach her.

#2: The second reason I think many really beautiful women are actually nicer to you
when you approach them is simply that they’re just more self-confident. They’re not
as insecure as other girls. This makes them RELAXED. They’re not as reactive.
9s and 10s are often extremely CHILL. If you’re not prepared for this, it can actually
throw you off your game, because it can LOOK LIKE she has no interest in you,
due to the fact that she’s giving you very little feedback.
In actuality, it’s just that she’s a calm, self-confident, chill person — and for this
reason she doesn’t become extremely insecure and reactive to guys who show
interest in her.
This is obviously not true for every perfect 10. I’ve met plenty of hot girls who
WERE actually very insecure and kind of all over the place.
So to sum up: often, very hot women are rarely approached because guys are
intimidated by them. When you approach, they will often respond extremely well
and are very friendly because you actually had the balls to approach them.
This is especially true in environments where women don’t expect to be
approached like daygame, the library, coffee shop etc.

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If the girl is single and hot, she’ll often LOVE that you approached her,
demonstrated interest honestly while being normal and chill.

IT’S MORE IMPORTANT TO BE DIFFERENT THAN BETTER

Being the guy who approached her is a key differentiator. It makes you an
“interesting event” in her life.
You may not even be her type, but she will be attracted to you because she will tell
herself a story about “this is the guy who approached.” It’s new. It’s different. It’s an
experience.
Dating you is an EXPERIENCE which is unfamiliar to her. This is NOT normally
how she meets guys.
Maybe she’s only been meeting guys on dating apps — and it’s boring to her now.
Maybe she only meets guys through her social circle — and for all the benefits of
that, it’s not exciting.
Or maybe she’s in a rut where she just hasn’t gone on a date with a guy in months.
So now, meeting you through this completely different way — being approached —
and going on a date is an experience. It’s new. It’s interesting. It’s a little bit nerve
wracking even (which is a big hidden reason girls will sometimes on plans with you
— they’re actually too nervous).
But overall, differentiating yourself by approaching her is VERY GOOD. It works in
your favor. It allows you to be kind of a fantasy in her mind — to be part of a story
she wants to tell herself.
And as I said, even if you’re not the “type” of guy she would normally go for, she will
often make excuses for you and kind of “want” you to succeed simply because you
had the balls to approach, and so dating you now becomes this interesting and
exciting and kind of scary thing.

“BABE MAGNETIC” LOCATIONS TO FIND AND APPROACH BEAUTIFUL

WOMEN
1. Dance classes (salsa, etc)
2. Yoga classes

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3. Rock climbing gyms
4. Farmer’s markets
5. Charities and charity events
6. Any kind of volunteering (non-profits, political organizations, etc)
7. Amateur sports leagues (co-ed volleyball, frisbee, etc)
8. Training courses and self help seminars (public speaking, etc)
9. Church or religious events (in alignment with your particular faith)
10. Classes (tech skills, accounting, management training, etc)
11. Bars
12. Nightclubs

A few points should be mentioned here before we continue.

#1: Choose a place to meet girls which is alignment with your own actual
interests and hobbies.
If you go to any of these places and have zero desire to be there except to meet
girls, it will come across to people and not be attractive.
Congruence is important. Try to figure out what your hobbies and interests are, or
things that you’d like to get involved in, and then go with that. Obvious example: if
you’re an atheist, don’t go to church to meet girls.
That being said, doing any of these things is going to require you to get out of your
comfort zone a little bit — in the sense that you have to get over fear of the
unknown. So don’t just rationalize it in your head that you’re not interested in any of
these and therefore you’re just going to stay at home. Do something.

#2: It’s ideal if you can bring a friend to whatever of these activities you
choose — ideally a male friend who also wants to meet girls. This will give
you much needed moral support.

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This is a little tip I got from Mark Manson in his book Models, and it’s worth its
weight in gold. If you really want to excel, don’t just participate in these activities,
become an ORGANIZER of them.
An example. If you like going to clubs to meet women, become a club promoter in
your spare time. It’s not much work, and you will immediately position yourself as
being part of the dominance hierarchy of that environment. At that point, getting the
hot girls at the club becomes almost an afterthought — because they’re naturally
going to gravitate towards the men with the authority in that environment.
Likewise, if you take up salsa dancing or yoga and you get fairly good it — become
a teacher or instructor of it. Now you’re basically getting PAID to do what you were
already doing while being in a position of power to magnetically attract the many
smoking hot women who do yoga, or salsa dancing, or rock climbing or whatever.
If you spend a lot of time in the gym lifting weights and getting in shape, ask them if
you can stick a note on the window outside advertising your services as a personal
trainer.
Again — boom, instant authority in that environment, and lots of opportunity to chat
up pretty girls. If you’re religious, and you like traditional values types of women,
volunteer at your church in your free time once a week. Become a leader there —
someone who contributes.
If you’re into politics, volunteer at a political organization. They’ll always accept
volunteers. Get sort of good at it, you’ll be given more responsibility, more
leadership to direct people. Women will inevitably flock to you.
These are just some ideas, but it’s definitely something you should think about.

#4: Bars and clubs hold a special place as “ideal practice zones”.
A lot of guys are very resistant to going to bars and clubs to meet women. And I
understand this, and I get how it can seem brutal. One thing to bear in mind
however is that the big advantage bars and clubs have — is that they have a high
density of hot girls in a small environment.
This makes them ideal places to practice talking to hot girls, getting comfortable
with hot girls, and meeting hot girls.

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#4: BASELINE THEORY AND THE LAW OF POLARITY
Hot women become attracted to you simply because you’re a man and she’s
a woman, and therefore attraction is inevitable.
Baseline Theory states that every heterosexual male has some baseline level of
masculinity, and that therefore every man is potentially attractive to every woman.
Baseline Theory also states that every woman has some baseline level of
femininity, and is therefore potentially attractive to every man.
The exceptions here are: people who are physically ill, people who are elderly, and
children.
Normal healthy human beings don’t become attracted to members of the opposite
sex who are ill, elderly or children.
Everyone else, though, is on a spectrum of being potentially attractive sexually.
So to understand attraction, you need to understand the idea of sexual polarity —
that is, masculinity, and femininity.

The law of polarity

Everything in this universe is split up into pairs of opposites — positive and
negative electrical charges, light and dark, masculine and feminine.
Opposites attract.
Femininity and masculinity are opposite poles. They are equal and opposite
energies.
When the feminine and the masculine are united through sex, it produces new life.
The union of opposites is the deepest creative principle in the universe. And
for this reason, there is a continuous attraction between the opposite and equal
polarities of masculinity and femininity.
Translated into plain English, what this means is that women are attracted to men
with masculine qualities and a masculine nature, and always will be.
And likewise, men are attracted to women with feminine qualities, and a
feminine nature, and always will be.
And yes — there are of course exceptions to this rule. There are plenty of men out
there who are attracted to masculine women. And there are obviously people of
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But even in most homosexual relationships, there is usually one partner who’s more
masculine and one who’s more feminine. And this manifests itself in who “wears the
pants” in that relationship, who makes the decisions, who’s the more dominant one
in bed, etc.
Polarity is everywhere — even in those places where people are actively trying to
resist it. And that’s because the universe naturally organizes itself into polarities. It
is the default structure of reality.

Women are attracted to MASCULINITY above all else

So fundamentally, women are attracted to you because of your masculinity. And you
are attracted to women because of their femininity.
Women are attracted to your inherent “male-ness”. Same as you are drawn to their
“female-ness”.
Now, here’s the key thing to know about attraction and about masculinity.
You are already attractive to women, because you are a man — and therefore
you have some baseline of masculinity.
There have actually been studies done in which women smell men’s sweaty t-
shirts, and it changes the chemistry of their brain and actually makes the women
more relaxed and calm.
So, in other words, what this means is that simply being a man, having
testosterone, causes you to release chemicals in your sweat (called pheromones)
that actually make women feel good just being around you.
It’s similar to how you may notice that if you’re in bed with a girl, not having sex but
just cuddling, laying there together, she has a smell that makes you relaxed and
happy just being with her.
That’s her pheromones — which are a chemical of her fundamental femininity as a
woman.
Men are attracted to the female pheromones, as women are attracted to the male
pheromones.
So you are already attractive to women — on some level.
This doesn’t mean that women are going to approach you and give you
compliments. It doesn’t mean that when you do approach a woman she’s going to
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That’s not what attraction looks like.
It simply means that when you have the balls to walk up to a pretty girl and
introduce yourself, while being normal and chill and not creepy — she is potentially
attracted to you from that moment.
You’re potentially attractive.
And the longer you spend time with her, and the more she gets to know your
personality and become comfortable around you, the more you become actually
attractive to her.
So…

Getting it through your head that the girl can and does like you.
Very, very important.
If you work out, you dress well, you make moves and you have the balls to
approach her, she will be potentially attracted to you — no matter how hot
she is.
And that’s because women are attracted to men, and you’re a man.
It doesn’t need to be any more complicated than that.

THE INNER GAME OF APPROACHING STUNNINGLY BEAUTIFUL WOMEN

When you’re starting out learning game and success with women, it’s going to be
natural for you to put really hot women on a pedestal.
If you’re out at the club, and you see a girl who looks like she could be on a
Victoria’s Secret runway, it’s natural for you to feel, intimidated, overwhelmed,
nervous.
All of these emotions are completely natural. And it’s normal that you feel that way
around a woman of incredible beauty.

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You may feel a strong tendency to NOT approach her, based upon thoughts like
“she wouldn’t be interested,” “she probably has a boyfriend”, “she looks like she
can’t be bothered,” and so on.
It’s likely that when you’re around a woman who you really like — who you’re really
attracted to — there’s a tremendous internal “resistance” that stops you from
approaching her.
How do you get rid of this resistance, so that you can TAKE ACTION and
approach that beautiful girl and turn her into your girlfriend?
Well, it starts when you get rid of the aura of “magical fairy dust” that exists
around so-called 9s and 10s.
The “halo effect” of assuming that these girls are in some way above you and
superior and that you’re an inferior being compared to them.
That has all got to go.
Guys who have sex with beautiful women know a SECRET, that other guys don’t
know.
The SECRET is that there’s no such thing as a quote unquote 9 or 10.
In reality, every woman is a 6.

EVERY GIRL IS “6”

Girls who look incredibly beautiful are that way because they know TRICKS that
make them look that way.
That’s not actually what they look like when they’re in their natural environment.
To a large extent, what is called “beauty” is artificial and manufactured. It’s not
natural. It’s an unreal fantasy image that the girl projects, using artifice like
cosmetics, makeup, padded bras, padded panties, high heels, strategically
revealing clothing, and in some cases surgery and other enhancements.
I don’t care how hot the girl is. Take away her makeup, take away all her cosmetics
and tricks, and put her in sweat pants and a t-shirt, and she’s a 6 — at best.
Now, you’re going to start to see this yourself, when you get your first really hot girl
— and the next morning, if you see her without her makeup in the harsh light of day,
you’ll realize “oh, ok, yeah she’s just a regular girl. She’s not some kind of goddess.
She’s not even that pretty. She’s still feminine and cute, but she’s not one of these
Victoria Secret angels like I thought she was.”

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No girl is. No girl is.
That’s the key.
If you want evidence for this right now, spend an hour or so on Google images
looking up pictures of all the hottest celebrities when they’re not wearing
makeup and not air brushed — the kinds of pictures taken by paparrazi while
she’s on holiday or something.
What you’ll find is that when these women aren’t done up for the cameras, they’re
just regular hairless monkeys like the rest of us.
Remember, human beings are a species of ape.
Which means that women are apes.
And that’s what you’ll find. Take the most devastatingly gorgeous porn star
pleasure goddess you can think of.
But now strip away all the clothes and the makeup and the positioning — and
put her in her natural state, without makeup, without blowdried hair, without any of
this shit — and she’s basically just going to look like a hairless little monkey.
Because that’s what she is — an animal. That’s what we all are.
Think about what a woman actually looks like in the state of nature.
What’s so interesting about the human animal is that we have developed an
incredibly complex system of “make believe”, by way of which we attempt to raise
our individual value.
So imagine for a moment, you went to the zoo, and there’s this weird species of
ape. And these apes do some strange stuff — they put paint on their face, and
they put fabric on their bodies, and they walk around on little stilts.
Well, if you saw that in the zoo, you would laugh at those monkeys.
But that’s basically what the females of our species do.
And yet instead of laughing at it, we actually fall for it. And when we see a female
ape of our species with just the right amount of paint on her face, and wearing just
the right combination of colored fabric on her body, we become overwhelmed with
lust and fear and our emotions start going crazy.
And it’s a joke. Really, if you think about it, it’s hilarious.

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And if you think this through, and you think about the fact that all a hot girl is, is an
ape who happens to be wearing some paint on her face and to have done just the
right amount of manipulation to different parts of her body (like curling her eye
lashes and waxing her moustache and plucking her unibrow and shaving her legs)
— and then you think, there are MEN out there —
Honest to god MEN who have faced down gunfire in live combat in the Middle East
— but they are AFRAID of this painted ape — because she is a quote unquote
“ten”.
It’s a little bit absurd, isn’t it?
And I’m not saying this because I’m anti-women. Or because I’m anti-hot girls or
anything like it.
I love women. I actually enjoy the company of women more than I enjoy the
company of men. And I love hot girls — I absolutely love a girl who makes herself
sexy
I’m simply saying that if you actually stand back and look at what’s happening
OBJECTIVELY — with a bit of distance — then you’ll get a much healthier
perspective on the whole topic of approaching and having sex with attractive
women.
The hottest girl you can think of is simply a hairless ape who is clinging to a
rock which is hurtling through space at 67,000 miles per hour.
And so are you.
Both of you were born alone. Both of you will die alone. And both of you are
scared, tired and confused — most of the time.
This is the REALITY of our shared experience on earth.

Femininity as performance
So. A big part of being able to get hot girls comes from the understanding that there
is no such thing as a hot girl, and that the concept of a hot girl is just that — a
concept, an ideal. It’s constructed. It’s socially manufactured.
Hotness is a performance.
To a large extent, femininity itself is a “performance” — as are many aspects of
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This is something which doesn’t occur to a guy who hasn’t had any sexual
experience with really hot girls yet.
He still believes in the “myth” that there are these unicorns out there called “10s”
who are actually 10s.
It’s not the case.
The reality of a 10 is that she makes herself a 10 and it takes a lot of time each day
and often a lot of money spent on makeup, high heels, clothes, accessories,
cosmetic enhancement, surgery, etc.
So “10s” don’t exist. “Hot girls” don’t exist. And the idea that they do is a fantasy.
Now here’s the key:

The master key to Godlike inner game with hot girls:

You can enjoy the fantasy, while knowing it’s a fantasy.
Same way that you can go to a movie and enjoy the movie, even though you know
that it’s not real.
I appreciate all the little tricks and techniques girls use to make themselves hot.
When I see a quote unquote “hot girl”, and she’s spent hours getting ready, doing
her hair, doing her makeup, putting tan on her, putting on a hot little skirt that shows
off her body and makes her sexy — I love that.
I love that she’s made an effort to be visually appealing to me and to other people.
It’s about appreciation and awareness.
You can compliment girls and tell them they’re absolutely stunning.
You can tell them “oh my god, you’re so fucking stunning. you literally took my
breath away, I have to meet you”. It’s coming from a place of appreciation.
You realize that they’re imperfect and physically not the best, but you like giving
compliments to make them feel good and make them feel validated.
Get used to expressing yourself and your feelings towards women. Be more
expressive about how she makes you feel, how hot you find her, how your heart
is racing in your chest as you talk to her, all these things are great so long as
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 “A lot of times I had no idea what I was doing, I had no idea what to
say, and I was nervous as hell — but I’d see this woman and be
enthralled by her beauty and I just had to go for it. And I just put
everything into it, and it worked out. And I think it was because I was
fueled by a genuine passion, a genuine love […]
There are people who say ‘make women smile’ [to attract them]. But I
think of it as, women make me smile. And people talk about ‘state
control’ and ‘how do I get in a good state before I talk to women’. Well,
the woman puts you in the state. She’s a woman. You walk up to her,
and you’re happy to be there, because hey, I’m talking to a girl, this is
cool.
But I know there’s obviously a lot of anxiety involved but just remind
yourself, ‘I’m doing this, I’m working on this, not to control anything,
not to get validation, but just because I love femininity, I love women, I
love their bodies, I love their energy, I love their personalities.’” —
Brian Burke (Vin Dicarlo Coaching), interviewed by Jordan Harbinger,
The Art of Charm Podcast

THE APPRECIATION FRAME

What takes time and practice is simply being COMFORTABLE around these
girls and being yourself.
And in my experience, the fastest way to get comfortable around approaching
hot girls, is by viewing it through the Appreciation Frame.
In other words, just like Brian Burke said, when you’re thinking about success with
women, why are you doing it? Because you “love women, you love their
femininity, you love their personalities, you love their bodies”.
That’s what you’re in the game for.
And when you view it through this filter, and you continually remind yourself of that,
then simply talking to the girl is in itself a reward — it’s a form of play — a way to
relax and refresh yourself.
It doesn’t matter whether she likes you or not, or whether she decides to sleep with
you, date you or whatever.
All of that is irrelevant to you, because you simply love being in her company
and spending time with her because she’s a girl.

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“NERVOUSNESS” AS A POSITIVE
So when you see that woman you really like — who you’re really attracted to and
who makes you nervous — there’s two ways to think about that.
The first way to view that is, “Wow, she’s sooo hot, and because she’s hotter than
the girls I’m used to talking to, now my emotions are going crazy and I can’t
approach her.”
That’s the way you’re probably approaching it now — consciously or unconsciously.
But there’s a completely different way to view that, and that is, when you see a
really hot girl, you think, “Wow, she’s absolutely stunning. My emotions are going
crazy and I’m nervous and excited — and that’s a GOOD thing. That means I
should approach her, because if I feel this attracted to her, then we would probably
have chemistry.”
Do see the power of that reframe?
From one perspective being nervous is a bad thing. But I actually LIKE it when a
girl makes me nervous.
What that means is that I’m so affected by her femininity that it’s caused me to have
a physical response — to get butterflies in my stomach, heart racing, etc.
I like that. I love the fact that she’s made me feel strong emotions.
So for me, that nervous feeling in the pit of my stomach is actually a REASON
to approach. It’s excitement. It’s exhilarating.
Every woman I ever made my girlfriend — I started off being more nervous and
excited than usual to talk to her. That’s actually a sign that she could be great for
you.
You want that feeling of butterflies in the stomach when you approach her.
It’s fuel. It gives you energy. And very often, it improves your performance and
makes your game sharper.
If you’re NOT feeling butterflies in your stomach — what’s that an indication of?
Well, usually it’s an indication that you won’t have much chemistry.
This is what many performers say. People who play music in front of large crowds.
People who speak in front of large crowds.

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What performers say is that the larger the crowd, the more nervous you feel —
even to the point of being sick before going on stage — the better your
performance usually ends up being.
Nervousness that gives you an edge — it gives you a charge — that actually
increases your powers of awareness and perception and gives you faster reaction
times. So it’s the same thing with approaching women.
Nervousness is good. Feeling butterflies in your stomach around her is good.
This will actually make your game tighter, because you’re more aware of your
environment, more sensitive, and more attuned to what she’s feeling.

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