Being Liked or Being Unliked: A Study On Social Media Exclusion On Pre-Adolescent
Being Liked or Being Unliked: A Study On Social Media Exclusion On Pre-Adolescent
Being Liked or Being Unliked: A Study On Social Media Exclusion On Pre-Adolescent
Journal of Adolescence
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A R T IC LE I N F O ABS TRA CT
Keywords: Introduction: Social-media can contribute to building up adolescents' relationships, but they
Social-media might also bring negative exclusionary experiences. Being excluded is a subtle yet hurtful form of
Social exclusion relational aggression, which affects people's psychological wellbeing, especially during devel-
Adolescents opmental stages. In this study, we (1) analyzed the effects of social-media exclusion adapting the
Ostracism
Ostracism Online paradigm to a cohort of Italian preadolescents (Mage = 11.47, 53% girls) and
Social bonds
(2) tested the efficacy of two potential recovery strategies (i.e., social bonds vs. social surrogate).
Method: Inclusionary status was manipulated through the number of “likes” participants received
on a fictitious online social network. In the exclusion condition, participants received fewer likes
than everyone else. In the inclusion condition, participants received a similar number of likes of
other users. Then, all participants were asked to think of a significant positive relationship with a
family member (social bonds), a celebrity (social surrogate), their present moment thoughts
(control).
Results: Preadolescents who received fewer likes than others reported higher levels of need threat
(i.e., belong, self-esteem, meaningful existence, but not control) and negative emotions.
Moreover, the social-bonds strategy generally brought a faster psychological recovery from so-
cial-media exclusion than the control condition. The efficacy of social-surrogates strategy was
greater for boys than for girls, probably due to different choices in their favorite celebrities.
Conclusion: These findings show how offline life offers compensatory opportunities for adoles-
cents’ online life. When the lack of “Likes” signal exclusion on social-media, thinking of an ex-
isting social relationship help adolescents to cope with this negative experience.
Human relationships, especially with peers, are fundamental parts of adolescents' life and wellbeing. Friends provide social
support and give a sense of belongingness and protection in a phase where identity is still developing (Del Valle, Bravo, & López,
2010). However, peer relationships can be troubled. They can flourish and dissipate quickly, in a whirl of confederation and hostility.
Negative dynamics can arise, with detrimental consequences for adolescents’ wellbeing (Rigby, 2003); exclusion is one of these. In
the present work, we build on research on social exclusion (Riva, 2016) to examine - for the first time experimentally - the effects of
ostracism in online interactions among adolescents and the efficacy of coping strategies to restore their threatened needs. In a recent
review, Timeo, Riva, & Paladino, (in press) have outlined the potential effectiveness of some psychological and behavioral coping
strategies against the detrimental effects of exclusion in the developmental age. Among others, and based on previous research on
adults (see Riva, 2016), making new social connections or cultivating old bonds was identified as one of the strategies to deal with
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Corresponding author. Present address: University of Padova, Italy.
E-mail address: [email protected] (S. Timeo).
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Received 30 January 2019; Received in revised form 9 February 2020; Accepted 16 February 2020
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exclusion and mitigate the hurt feelings derived from it. In the present study, we tested this strategy by asking preadolescents to recall
a significant social relationship with a close other (social bond) – or with their favorite celebrity (social surrogate) in an experi-
mentally created social media exclusion context.
Social exclusion has been broadly defined as the experience of being kept apart from others physically (e.g., social isolation) or
emotionally (e.g., being ignored; Riva & Eck, 2016). In this view, social rejection—being explicitly told one is not wanted—and
ostracism— being ignored—represent the two core experiences of social exclusion. Exclusion hurts, and the unpleasantness it causes
has been associated with that of physical pain (Eisenberger & Lieberman, 2004). Being excluded threats an individual's psychological
needs such as belonging, self-esteem, sense of control, and meaningful existence and elicits negative emotions (including sadness and
anger; Williams, 2009). Most importantly, following ostracism, children and adolescents seem to suffer greater threat compared to
their adult counterparts (Abrams, Weick, Thomas, Colbe, & Franklin, 2011; Sebastian, Viding, Williams, & Blakemore, 2010).
Adolescents appear to be particularly sensitive to the evaluation of their peers with significant consequences on their self-identity
construction (Harter, 1999). As a consequence, being exposed to prolonged exclusion during childhood or adolescence has been
linked to internalizing problems like depression and anxiety (Gazelle & Ladd, 2003), conduct problems and diminished capacity to
self-regulate (Barkley, Salvy, & Roemmich, 2012; Baumeister, DeWall, Ciarocco, & Twenge, 2005; Ladd, 2006; Salvy et al., 2011),
lower cognitive performance (Tobia, Riva, & Caprin, 2017) and poorer academic achievement (Buhs, Ladd, & Herald, 2006; Hawes
et al., 2012). Exclusion can also trigger aggressive behavior (Reijntjes et al., 2010; Reijntjes, Stegge, Terwogt, Kamphuis, & Telch,
2006) and, when prolonged over time, lead some individuals to desperate acts (Leary, Kowalski, Smith, & Phillips, 2003).
2. Social-media exclusion
Contexts in which kids and adolescents report experiences of exclusion are school, sports team, religious groups (Ladd &
Kochenderfer-Ladd, 2016), and, more recently, online interactions (Allen, Ryan, Gray, McInerney, & Waters, 2014). This is not
surprising given the role that the Internet, and particularly social media, plays in our social interactions. Social media have changed
the time and space in which people connect with each other, increasing the potential number of contacts, but not necessarily their
quality (for a recent review see, Allen et al., 2014). For instance, Ahn and Shin (2013) found that social media use is linked to
connectedness, but only face-to-face interactions go hand in hand with a reduced feeling of social isolation. In addition, because the
online world creates the conditions - anonymity and physical distance - for moral disengagement, negative behaviors are frequent
(e.g., cyberbullies or haters, Pornari & Wood, 2010; online relational aggressions, Zweig, Lachman, Yahner, & Dank, 2014; Morelli,
Bianchi, Chirumbolo, & Baiocco, 2018). Considering that in the European Union 93% of 9–16 year-old users go online at least weekly
(60% almost daily) and 59% have a social media profile (Livingstone, Haddon, Görzig, & Ólafsson, 2011), the risk to come across
negative experiences online is particularly high.
Social exclusion can manifest in the social media context in a variety of ways, with people being left out from instant-messaging
groups, not being included in online conversations, or receiving no or few requests of contacts. A prototypical experience of social
media exclusion is feeling ignored when few, or no one, react to one's own profile or contents posted with comments or with a “Like”
(Reich, Schneider, & Heling, 2018; Wolf et al., 2015). Considering the relevance of social media among adolescents and that ado-
lescents seem to be more vulnerable to the effects of ostracism (Abrams et al., 2011; Pharo, Gross, Richardson, & Hayne, 2011),
studies investigating cyberostracism in this population are especially needed.
Most relevant to the potential adverse outcomes of social media exclusion (e.g., receiving fewer likes), is how adolescents respond
to it. They can cope with being excluded in functional or dysfunctional ways. The latter is likely to promote a vicious cycle of
exclusion and maladaptive responses (e.g., becoming passive or aggressive; Riva, 2016). Therefore, there is a need to explore psy-
chological strategies to functionally cope with everyday instances of social media exclusion. To date, few studies tested the efficacy of
coping strategies to deal with exclusion in adults and even fewer did so with adolescents (Timeo et al., in press), to the best of our
knowledge, none in the context of social media ostracism.
The present research aims at extending current work at least in three respects. First, we considered the phenomena of social media
exclusion in a preadolescent population. Groups and more generally social interactions with peers play a fundamental role in ado-
lescents' social and emotional development (Brown & Larson, 2009; Rubin, Bukowski, & Parker, 2006). In contemporary in-
dustrialized societies, a significant part of social interactions occurs in the virtual world. Therefore, there is a need to investigate
adolescents' reactions to peers’ exclusion in the context of social media. Accordingly, in the present research, we relied on the
Ostracism Online paradigm (Wolf et al., 2015) - that simulates the environment of a social network platform, where the inclusionary
status is conveyed through the number of Likes received by the profiles. This paradigm has been successfully used with adults,
showing that receiving few (vs. average) “like” can thwart fundamental needs. Thus, the first goal of the present research is to test, for
the first time, the effects of the Ostracism Online paradigm with young participants (11–14 years). As anticipated this is especially
relevant as the social network environment is becoming a pervasive reality for young populations, but also as it may bring convergent
evidence of the effects of exclusion amongst different experimental procedures (e.g., Cyberball; Williams, Cheung, & Choi, 2000).
Secondly, we tested and compared the effectiveness of two psychological strategies (i.e., social bonds and social surrogates) to
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cope with social exclusion. The recall of a close relationship (social bond; e.g., McConnell, Brown, Shoda, Stayton, & Martin, 2011) is
a strategy that has been tested on adults, showing promising results. Reminders of social relationships as photographs of friends
(Gardner, Pickett, & Knowles, 2005), Facebook icons (Knausenberger, Hellmann, & Echterhoff, 2015), or memories about family
members or friends (McConnell et al., 2011; Twenge, Baumeister, Tice, & Stucke, 2001) buffer against the adverse effects of ex-
clusion. Another potential strategy to cope with social exclusion involves recalling of an imagined relationship (social surrogate)
people may have with a celebrity (e.g., a favorite actor or singer). Previous studies involving adults have shown some positive effects
of social surrogates, expressed as parasocial interactions (Knowles, 2013), nature (Poon, Teng, Wong, & Chen, 2016) and spiritual
connectedness (Hales, Wesselmann &Williams, 2016). These strategies were already tested - at the same time - in a previous study
with the adult population focusing on the downstream behavioral, interpersonal consequences of exclusion, that is aggressive be-
havior (Twenge, Baumeister, et al., 2007, Study 3). It was found that social bonds reduced aggressive tendency in socially excluded
participants, and that social surrogates produced a similar, although weaker, effect likely because the relationship was only imagined
(Twenge, Baumeister, et al., 2007, Study 3). In this respect, we aimed at extending the findings from the adult population, as we
cannot directly assume that an effective strategy with adults (i.e., recalling a family member as a social bond) would be suitable also
for preadolescents. Moreover, celebrities and models are especially important during adolescence (Raviv, Bar-Tal, Raviv, & Ben-
Horin, 1996), this opens up to the possibility that - differently from adults - social surrogates are as useful as social bonds to overcome
adversities in this population.
Finally, although previous studies (Twenge et al., 2001; 2007) have brought evidence of the efficacy of these strategies on the
behavioral outcome (i.e., aggression), they did not test their effects on the affective and psychological responses. In this perspective,
we aim at expanding previous findings obtained in adults to new outcome variables. We measured the psychological reaction of
participants (needs threat and emotions) according to the different stages of the Need-threat model (Williams, 2009). This model
predicts that reactions to exclusion unfold during time. In the first phase, the person feels the painful, yet functionally adaptive, effect
of exclusion (reflexive stage). In the second phase, the individual can start to elaborate and cope with the exclusionary experience
(reflective stage). In line with William's model (2009), we hypothesized our strategies to be effective only in this second phase. In our
research, we measured needs satisfaction and negative emotions in relation to an exclusionary event (reflexive stage) and subsequently
again after the induction of a psychological strategy (reflective stage). To assess the efficacy of each strategy, we focused on recovery,
that is, the improvement of the threatened needs and negative emotions in the reflective compared to the reflexive stage. Nonetheless,
we explored the possible effects of social-media exclusion and coping strategies on behavioral intentions, focusing on two primary
constructs. The first construct regards the desire to affiliate with a bully classmate. Indeed, excluded participants might accept less
selectively their friendships, as they want to replenish their need to belong, thus affiliating with antisocial profiles (Hales &Williams,
2018). The second construct regards prosocial and antisocial behavioral intentions, as past research suggested that ostracism can
increase both prosocial (Maner, DeWall, Baumeister, & Schaller, 2007) and antisocial behaviors (Twenge, Baumeister, et al., 2007).
4. Method
4.1. Participants
The research project - approved by the Ethics Committee of the University of Trento – was presented to eight schools in an urban
area of north-east of Italy. Two public middle schools agreed to collaborate to the research. Participants were 167 preadolescents (78
males, Mage = 11.47 years, SD = 0.63; Age Range 10–14) recruited among their students. Their parents were adequately informed
about the methods and aims of this survey and gave consent to research participation.
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In a pre-experimental session (a week before the experiment), we assessed some individual and contextual variables, which are not be discussed
in the present paper. The scales used were the Social Subscale from the Italian adaptation of the Multidimensional Self-Concept Scale (TMA;
Bracken, 2003), the Bullying and Ostracism Screening Scale (BOSS; Saylor et al., 2012) and the child version of the Cognitive Emotion Regulation
Questionnaire (Garnefski, Rieffe, Jellesma, Terwogt, & Kraaij, 2007; CERQ-k).
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Table 1
Means and standard deviations (in brackets) as a function of the of the Inclusionary-status manipulation.
Inclusion Exclusion
Manipulation check
Number of Likes 4.85 (1.14) 1.66 (1.23) p < .001
Excluded 1.05 (.22) 2.27 (1.86) p < .001
Ignored 1.08 (.27) 2.30 (1.88) p < .001
Popular 3.05 (2.01) 2.22 (1.54) p = .006
Needs (Reflexive stage)
Belong (α = .75) 1.43 (.53) 2.42 (1.45) p < .001
Self-esteem (α = .70) 3.48 (1.27) 4.26 (1.40) p = .002
Control (α = .68) 4.69 (1.28) 5.11 (1.36) p = . 089
M. existence (α = .81) 1.22 (.63) 2.06 (1.37) p = .002
Emotions (Reflexive stage)
Sadness 1.08 (.47) 1.65 (1.26) p = .005
Pain 1.00 (.00) 1.62 (1.35) p = .004
Anger 1.03 (.16) 1.41 (1.12) p = .031
Happiness 5.15 (1.78) 4.42 (1.88) p = .030
Anxiety 2.43 (1.78) 2.95 (1.84) p = . 11
two arrays of different profiles, and for each array, we created two versions counterbalanced for the order of appearance on the
screen. Profiles were matched to the age of the participants. Participants in the inclusion condition received approximately 5 “likes,”
a number that was in line with what was received from the other profiles, whereas participants in the exclusion condition were the
only person to receive one “like”.
Subsequently, participants were randomly assigned to a coping strategy condition. Participants in the social bonds condition and in
the social surrogates condition were asked to recall their favorite family member and their favorite celebrity, respectively, and to and
write down why they appreciate this person. In the control condition, participants were asked to write down their present-moment
thoughts and feelings (see Hales et al., 2016). In each condition, they had to write at least 200 characters. Participants in the inclusion
condition only completed the control strategy, so that the combination of the inclusionary status and coping strategy manipulation
led to an independent variable with four levels (Exclusion-bonds, Exclusion-surrogates, Exclusion-Control, and Inclusion-Control).
Data were analyses with the linear model (lm) function from the R Stats Package, running on the R environment (RStudio Version
1.1.383, 2009–2017). Two analytic strategies were followed. To examine the effects of online exclusion, the linear models included
the between-subjects factor Inclusionary-status, coded at two levels (inclusion vs. exclusion). To test the effects of the psychological
strategies (i.e., social bonds and social surrogate), the between-subjects factor Condition variable with four levels (Exclusion-bonds,
Exclusion-surrogates, Exclusion-Control, and Inclusion-Control) was considered in the linear model. Exploratory, the role of parti-
cipants sex was examined; if statistical significant, participants’Sex was included as factor in the analyses and results were reported.
One participant was excluded from the analyses because s/he reported having received a number of “Likes” that largely exceed the
maximum of possible Likes (100 vs. max 8).
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6. Results
Means in function of the Inclusionary-status manipulation are shown in Table 1. Participants who received fewer likes were aware
of it, F(1, 161) = 208.29, p < .001, reported feeling more excluded, F(1, 163) = 17.21, p < .001, ignored, F(1, 163) = 16.99,
p < .001, and less popular, F(1, 163) = 7.62, p = .006, than their counterpart. Moreover, excluded participants were less likely to
say that the other participants on the online platform received their same number of “likes,” Nex = 77vs47; Nin = 4vs36,
χ2(1) = 30.79 p < .001. Further analyses contrasting all four experimental groups (Exclusion-bonds, Exclusion-surrogates, Ex-
clusion-Control, and Inclusion-Control) showed no differences between the three exclusion conditions (all ps > .30). Therefore, the
paradigm successfully created a situation of social-media exclusion (vs. inclusion).
Table 2
Means and standard deviations (in brackets) as a function of the Conditions.
Inclusion Exclusion Exclusion Exclusion
Control Social Bonds Social Surrogates
Need threat reflexive 2.04 (0.55)a 2.79 (1.24)b 2.99 (1.26)b 2.95 (1.05)b
Need threat reflective 2.03 (0.7)a 2.33 (1.13)a 2.12 (0.82)a 2.26 (0.95)a
Need recovery 0.01 (0.59)a 0.47 (0.93)b 0.87 (0.92)c 0.69 (0.94)cb
Need recovery (Male) −0.04 (0.66)a 0.27 (0.81)ab 0.76 (0.75)bc 1.03 (1.04)c
Need recovery (Female) 0.06 (0.52)a 0.58 (0.99)bc 0.99 (1.08)c 0.34 (0.75)ab
Choice of schoolmate 31.52 (29.55) 29.27 (31.38) 29.39 (31.15) 25.46 (27.98)
Prosocial/antisocial 5.85 (5.02) 5.39 (5.43) 6.65 (4.25) 5.76 (4.26)
Note. Means in the same row with a different subscript are significantly different p < .05.
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Need recovery
1.4
1.2
1
0.8
0.6
0.4
0.2
0
-0.2 Inclusion-Control Exclusion-control Exclusion-bonds Exclusion-surrogates
-0.4
Fig. 1. Mean levels of need recovery, calculated as the subtraction of need threat at the reflective stage from the need threat at the reflective stage,
for the four treatment conditions.
1.5
1
Need recovery
0.5
Male
Female
0
Inclusion-Control Exclusion-control Exclusion-bonds Exclusion-surrogates
-0.5
-1
Fig. 2. Mean levels of need recovery depending on the treatment condition and the gender of the participant.
(158) = −2.63, p = .009, but similar to the Exclusion-bonds condition, t(158) = −1.04, p = .30. Instead, for girls, Exclusion-bonds
condition produced a significantly better recovery than the Inclusion-Control, t(158) = −3.59, p < .001, and the Exclusion-
surrogates condition, t(158) −2.44, p = .016, even though there was no difference with the Exclusion-Control conditions, t(158)
−1.64, p = .102.
Following up on this finding, at an exploratory level, we looked at the choices of the social surrogate (i.e., the preferred famous
person) made by boys and girls. We found that all boys in the social surrogate condition (N = 21) chose a social surrogate of the same
sex, whereas girls were equally divided into choosing same-sex (N = 8) or other-sex surrogates (N = 9).
Overall, participants tended not to accept the invitation by a bully classmate and acted prosocially (see Table 2). This tendencies
did not vary across Conditions (Exclusion-bonds, Exclusion-surrogates, Exclusion-Control, and Inclusion-Control), F(3, 162) = 0.29,
p = .84, and F(3, 162) = 0.54, p = .65, for the choice of schoolmate and prosociale/antisocial intentions respectively.
7. Discussion
The present findings extended current knowledge in several respects. First, we tested for the first time the effects of the Ostracism
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Online paradigm (Wolf et al., 2015) on preadolescents. This paradigm has been previously used only with adults and university
students (Fossati, Somma, & Borroni, 2017; Schneider et al., 2017). Our results are coherent with previous studies (Schneider et al.,
2017; Wolf et al., 2015): receiving fewer “Likes” than others poses a threat to all fundamental needs except control. The need for
control seems not to be affected by this paradigm, differently from other experimentally created experiences of exclusion (e.g.,
Cyberball; Williams et al., 2000). Here, in this virtual environment, excluded participants are still able to act (e.g., they can keep
adding “likes” on other profiles, while, in the Cyberball task they cannot throw the ball when they do not receive it).
Nevertheless, our results show how little signs of acceptance and appreciation, as the “Likes” on a social media page, can be
effective cues in conveying a sense of belonging or exclusion in the developmental phases. Preadolescents potentially can go through
similar experiences many times; it becomes therefore essential to equip them with coping strategies in order to better handle possible
psychologically-threatening situations they may encounter in the virtual context.
No effect of exclusion on behavioral intentions (i.e., the choice of the ambiguous schoolmate and the prosocial/aggressive task)
was found. This null finding could be attributed to some specificity of the study design, as the poor validity of the measures (e.g., an
excessively extreme profile of a bully for middle school students to express the desire to affiliate with). Alternative, these null effects
might be attributable to participants having fully recovered from the exclusion situation when responding to these measures at the
end of the survey (see Williams, 2009). Another explanation might refer to the notion that aggressive behavior may be linked with the
victim's decreased need for control (see also Gerber & Wheeler, 2009), which was not threatened by our paradigm. Note however that
this is the first study to investigate the behavioral consequences of the Ostracism online paradigm in a sample of preadolescents.
Future studies are needed to investigate the consequences of the online exclusion on the behavioural reactions and the possible
moderation of control on the aggressive intentions, to disentangle these alternative explanations.
The other main contribution of the present study concerns the efficacy of the psychological strategies - recalling a close re-
lationship vs. a social surrogate - to recovery from the negative effects of social exclusion. Both strategies were minimal (i.e., writing
for a few minutes about a person of one's own family), as they were designed as a fast remedy to contrast daily episodes of exclusion.
The results seem promising. Whereas some recovery occurred spontaneously (see the Exclusion-control condition), recalling of a close
relation had a greater effect on the threatened needs. This findings add to previous studies showing that thinking of social bonds
diminishes aggressive behavior (Twenge, Baumeister, et al., 2007) and preserves mental health in excluded adults (Aydin et al.,
2012). Our results have a twofold implication. They suggest that preadolescents are able to implement this strategy and that re-
minders of social bonds (specifically family as prompted in the experiment) influence how they react to negative experience on social
media. We can speculate that this strategy works as it does not require high-order cognitive abilities, that may be still lacking at this
developmental age, but relies on an affective process. By thinking of a close social connection, the need to belong is fulfilled, leading
to a recovery. Another possibility is that, by thinking of a pre-existing social bond, the victim relativizes the ostracism experience and
put it into a broader perspective. The single episode may be more easily disregarded as just a negative moment amongst other positive
relationships. Future studies should better account the mechanism through which this strategy works.
Recalling a favorite famous person (social surrogate) showed results in between the Exclusion-control and the Exclusion-bonds
condition. Also, the social surrogate strategy seemed to help the need-satisfaction recovery of boys significantly more than for girls.
One explanation for this difference involves the type of celebrity participants chose. Boys selected only same-sex characters (e.g.,
famous actors, YouTubers or sports players), instead girls equally selected same-sex and other-sex characters. We speculate that the
choice of a same-sex character might be guided by some resemblance or modeling mechanisms (i.e., “I like this character because is
similar to me” or “I like this character because I would like to become like him/her”). Instead, the other-sex choice might have
involved some attraction mechanism (i.e., “I would like him to be my boyfriend”), increasing, in turn, feelings of exclusion, as the
relationship is unreachable. However, these considerations should be taken with caution because of the limited number of female and
male participants in each condition. Finally, our findings suggest new insights into the influence of celebrities, and the virtual
relationships they create, on adolescent's wellbeing. Research (Giles & Maltby, 2004; Greene & Adams-Price, 1990) has pointed to the
role of these parasocial connections, referring to them as a secondary attachment, which provides a pseudo-friends group during a
period of adolescents' progressive emancipation from parental support. The present research suggests that, they may also represent a
resource (at least for male) adolescents to bounce back the exclusion threats.
Some limitations concern the external validity of the study, as this was carried out using a controlled experimental procedure, so
that the exclusion situations were simulated in a safe and confined environment, to preserve the psychological wellbeing of parti-
cipants. The manipulation was minimal (being based on a difference of a few likes), with just one clue of exclusion, happening in a
context of privacy, with unknown people that were not salient for participants. Also, the recovery strategy was designed to be
minimal, with just a few instructions and minutes to be implemented. In a real-life environment, however, such factors could differ,
for instance, social exclusion could be publicly acted, carried out by significant others (e.g., classmates), and prolonged over time
(Riva, Montali, Wirth, Curioni, &Williams, 2017).
8. Conclusion
Overall, this research speaks of the effects of exclusion on social-media in preadolescents. In effect, the virtual world and, most
importantly, social networks, are becoming more and more pervasive in preadolescents’ life and their construction of social re-
lationships (Common Sense Media, 2009). Accordingly, social media have become new environments where children and adolescents
may encounter exclusion, amongst others, like school, sport and activity groups. Our research has shown - for the first time in a
controlled setting – that receiving few “Likes” elicits the feeling of being ignored and excluded and threatens fundamental needs and
emotional well-being. However, thinking of a close one helps to restore the needs.
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Besides engaging in social activity to prevent exclusion from happening (Unit & Britain, 2001), it is crucial also to equip children
and adolescents with coping skills. In perspective, considering that during adolescence, abilities to self-regulate after exclusion are
still emerging (Vijayakumar et al., 2017), it is particularly important to identify strategies that can be used by these populations to
cope with exclusion. In this sense, our findings add a piece into this quest by testing a psychological strategy to help preadolescents
overcome the adverse effects of exclusion on social media.
Author notes
This work was supported by a Grant from the CARITRO Foundation (2583/16).
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