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JESUS-CENTERED
THE

LIFE

The life you didn’t think was possible,

with the Jesus you never knew

RICK LAWRENCE
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The Jesus-Centered Life
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Table of Contents
Dedication5

Acknowledgments6

Introduction7

—Part One—
The Stockdale Way
Introduction15

Chapter 1—Embracing Our Brutal Realities 21

Chapter 2—Exploring the Lombardi Effect 39

Chapter 3—Rejecting the Culture of Should 49

Chapter 4—Living a Sheep’s Life 59

Chapter 5—Living a Pig’s Life 71

Chapter 6—The First-and-Only

Question That Really Matters 89

Chapter 7—The Second-and-Only

Question That Really Matters 97

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The Beeline Practices
Introduction105

Chapter 8—Entering the Thicker Life 113

Chapter 9—Paying Ridiculous Attention to Jesus 123

Chapter 10—Wallowing in Mud Puddles 131

Chapter 11—Asking the Oprah Question 137

Chapter 12—Remembering, Not Imagining 143

Chapter 13—Noticing What Jesus Did & Didn’t Do 149

Chapter 14—Practicing the Jesus Pushback 157

Chapter 15— Redefining Truth 163

Chapter 16—Redefining Love 169

Chapter 17—Needing Him to Know Him 177

Chapter 18—Experiencing More, Automating Less 185

Chapter 19—Scaring Yourself for Good 191

Chapter 20—Asking ‘Where Would Jesus Be?’ 197

Chapter 21—Waking Up to Metaphor 205

Chapter 22—Fearlessly Engaging 211

Chapter 23—Ignoring Funhouse Mirrors 217

Chapter 24—Playing Sherlock 223

Chapter 25—Offering Your Inexplicable Belief 229

Chapter 26—Living Out of Your True Name 237

A Closing Imperative
Determining to Know Nothing 245

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Dedication
To the thousands of ministry people who’ve experienced my eight-hour
“Jesus-Centered Ministry” training, and who’ve urged me for years to write
something that’s focused on all of life, not just ministry settings.

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Acknowledgments
In this season of my life, I’m indebted to so many who have fueled both
my passion for Jesus and the completion of this work. I’m first grateful for
Andy Brazelton, who was determined to make “Jesus-centered” our defining
mission as we engaged ministry people with resources and events, and
who offers me inexplicable belief every day. For Thom and Joani Schultz,
who not only went to the mat in support of this book but also have been
evangelists for its message for a long time. For Tim Gilmour, my longtime
boss, for looking out for the readers of this book by highlighting words
in the manuscript that perplexed him. For Carl Medearis, who has been a
kindred spirit and a prophetic presence in my life at just the right time. For
Tom Melton, who continues to be the most catalytic person in my life, apart
from my wife. For Bev, who knows me better and loves me more deeply than
anyone in my life. For my beloved girls, Lucy and Emma, for making me
an insufferable homebody. For Jeff Storm, who designed the J. logo, which
was first used on Jesus-Centered Youth Ministry and then the Jesus-Centered
Bible—brilliant. For Rob Cunningham, whose last official responsibility was
to edit this manuscript before he left for the choppy waters of a freelance
life. For my community of co-workers at Group Publishing, who have
fueled my own growth in too many ways to count. For the community
represented by the Simply Jesus Gathering, who have generously offered
their own personal “beeline practices” throughout this book.

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Introduction
Human beings are pretty good at lots of things. There’s that whole
invention-of-the-light-bulb thing, and sometimes people bowl a strike
in every frame, and a few of us know how to throw people in the air and
catch them again while we’re ice skating. But, universally, maybe the best
thing we do as humans is worship. We’re hard-wired for it. In fact, we can’t
stop ourselves from worshipping the people and things that surround us,
because worship is as autonomic as breathing. All of us worship a god of
some kind—it’s just a question of whether the “g” is uppercase or lowercase.
Celebrated writer David Foster Wallace says it well: “In the day-to-day
trenches of adult life, there is actually no such thing as atheism. There is
no such thing as not worshipping. Everybody worships. The only choice
we get is what to worship.”1
Some of us worship God-alone, and some of us worship something else
(the something-elses are bottomless possibilities). And a whole lot of us live
in the vast middle of this bell curve—we worship “God-plus.” I mean, we
mostly say we believe in or think highly of the big-G God, but we like to
add a little something-something to our God-worship, such as…
• God-plus-the-American-Dream or…
• God-plus-social-media or…
• God-plus-family-values or…
• God-plus-high-achievement or…
• God-plus-hip-hop-culture or…
• God-plus-sexual-fulfillment or…
• God-plus-the-NFL/NASCAR/Golf-Channel or…
• God-plus self-improvement or…
• God-plus-Starbucks or…
• God-plus-year-round-sports-leagues or…
• God-plus-shopping…
You get the idea. The overwhelming majority of us are God-plus people,
because God-only people often seem extreme. I mean, they can come off
creepy and intense and something-other-than-normal. So we like our God-
worship diluted with other kinds of worship, just to take the creepy edge off

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of it. Another way to describe the God-plus life is the compartmentalized

life—we generally like God to stay where he belongs, in the spiritual/religious
compartment we’ve built just for him. It would be rude and awkward for
him to wander away from his compartment and camp out on the couch
in, for example, our girls/guys-night-out compartment. We love all our
compartments and want those walls to stay up. So, broadly speaking, we
feel more comfortable telling people we believe in God than telling them
we follow Jesus. And we certainly wouldn’t feel relaxed describing our
relationship with Jesus using extreme language: People who say things like
I’m ruined for Jesus, for example, tend to make people back up a step. That
kind of description seems awkward, vaguely negative, and (certainly) overly
intense. So it’s out of the question for all of us, except for the creepy ones…

Now my soul has what you might call an open

floor plan. Jesus has permission to walk around
in my de-compartmentalized life, messing with
my stuff and showing up at all hours of the day,
in all situations.
But about a decade ago I had a tipping-point experience that signaled
a deep shift in me—it profoundly changed the way I describe myself and
redirected my purpose in life. I was like a passenger on a train, crossing a
country’s border at night while I slept. When I awoke, I discovered that
I’d traveled a great distance from the God-plus territory I’d always known
and entered into the Jesus-only, ruined-for-him landscape where I now
live. The country around me was littered with debris—a hurricane named
Yeshua had leveled my compartment walls. Now my soul has what you
might call an open floor plan. Jesus has permission to walk around in my
de-compartmentalized life, messing with my stuff and showing up at all
hours of the day, in all situations. And because this de-compartmentalization
feels deeply congruent with who I really am, I rarely come off creepy. I’m
sticking with that self-assessment.
Here’s what happened to me…

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The Beauty of Boredom

I’m a Christian ministry leader and a writer and editor and speaker, so
I get invited to lead workshops and deliver keynotes at conferences. Ten
years ago I was asked by the organizers of a large ministry conference in
the Midwest to lead a two-hour session for leaders—they wanted me to do
something a little experimental with this group. At the time, I was toying
with a way of engaging people that focused every aspect of life and ministry
on a deepening relational attachment to Jesus. It was an attempt to explore
what life would look like if it was “Jesus-only” instead of “Jesus-plus.” I
started calling this way of living life and impacting others “Jesus-centered.”
I’d been speaking around the country for years, drawing from a broad menu
of what I’d call the “tips-and-techniques” of ministry. But slowly, subtly, I’d
lost my enthusiasm for all of that stuff—people liked hearing something
practical that they could write down in their notes, but I realized that my
own freedom from captivity had nothing to do with tips-and-techniques.
I had experienced transformation through a deepening relationship with
and dependence on the person of Jesus, not by trying harder to be a better
Christian.

I had experienced transformation through a

deepening relationship with and dependence
on the person of Jesus, not by trying harder to
be a better Christian.
So as I led this small group of ministry leaders through my half-conceived,
seat-of-the-pants spiritual adventure, the room crackled with electricity.
We all thought we were merely learning how to morph conventional ways
of studying the Bible and praying and serving others into practices that
more intentionally focused on Jesus. But what happened, in fact, was that
a roomful of people unconsciously moved into a closer orbit around the
most magnetic person in the universe.
By the end of those two hours, that little band of 30 or so leaders had
barreled into a runaway worship-train. We were crying and laughing and

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hungry for more of Jesus. And some people in the room, with many years of
Christian ministry on their résumés, waited in a long line after the session
to tell me a startling revelation: They’d never really tasted this deeply of
Jesus before, and had never appreciated his height and depth and breadth.
I understood exactly what they were trying to say.
When I emerged from this catalyzing experience, my appetite for knowing
Jesus more deeply was voracious. And with my leadership responsibilities
completed, I was free to roam the rest of the conference, popping into
as many workshops and general sessions as I could cram in. I listened to
many of the best ministry experts in the country that day—all of them
brilliant, and many of them longtime friends. But by the end of the day,
I felt a growing restlessness, even an anxiety. My experience in and out of
workshops all day, listening to succeeding lists of spiritual imperatives—the
perfectly reasonable tips-and-techniques of the conventional Christian
life—had deadened my soul.
As evening crept up on me, that deadness spread into a kind of depression.
I wandered around the vast, crowded atrium of the conference center in a
daze, finally sinking into an overstuffed chair that sat like an island in the
middle of a rushing river of people. I needed to pray, to retreat into myself,
and it wasn’t hard to get lost in the throng. In my little cone of silence, I
pleaded with Jesus: “Why, why, why am I feeling this way?” Tears streamed
down my cheeks, and my face contorted with pain. I sat quietly weeping,
gripped by an inexplicable despair. And then, in one of those moments
when the voice of Jesus is clear enough that it’s nearly audible, these words
cut through my fog:

“You’re bored by everything but me now.”

Startled, I knew Jesus was telling me the truth as soon as I heard it—his
words had the same impact that a sunburst has after a rainy day. My eyes
brightened and the weight I felt on my shoulders was suddenly gone. Jesus
had explained the mystery of my sadness perfectly, releasing me from
my dulling captivity. The “try harder to get better” strategies for spiritual
growth I’d been working at my whole adult life now seemed like annoying

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background noise. As I’d been tasting the intoxicating presence of Jesus

more deeply, my conventional God-plus habits seemed worse than bland in
comparison. If you showed up at a cooking class that promised a mystery
celebrity chef and then discovered Oprah was teaching it, you’d probably
be less impressed with her recipes and more interested in her.
I’d always defined discipleship as a progression that looked a lot like doing
well in school—studying hard, growing in knowledge, doing well on tests.
But those things, I realized, now paled in comparison to the undeniable
truth: True disciples, people who follow Jesus and live out his mission, are
captured and carried away by him. They are so stuck on him that the natural
outcome of their attachment to him is a perpetual willingness to give over
their lives to him. They can’t help themselves anymore—their path of retreat
away from Jesus now seems blocked by their driving fascination with him,
and their undeniable passion for him. The old building they once called
home—constructed by the do’s and don’ts of the normal Christian life—has
been demolished by a wrecking ball forged in Nazareth. And now…They
are ruined by Jesus and ruined for Jesus.
And they are bored by everything but him…

Everyday Awe
In his excellent book Jesus Mean and Wild, author Mark Galli describes
what happened when a group of Laotian refugees asked if they could become
members of the church he was pastoring. Since these Laotians had little
knowledge of Jesus or the Bible, Galli offered to lead them through a study
of Mark’s Gospel. When Galli got to the passage in Mark 4 where Jesus
calms the storm, he asked the refugees to talk about the “storms” in their
lives—their problems, worries, and struggles. The people looked confused
and puzzled. Finally, one of the Laotian men asked, “Do you mean that
Jesus actually calmed the wind and sea in the middle of a storm?”Galli
thought the man was struggling to accept this over-the-top story, so he
said: “Yes, but we should not get hung up on the details of the miracle. We
should remember that Jesus can calm the storms in our lives.” After another
uncomfortable silence, another man spoke up: “Well, if Jesus calmed the wind
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excitement and worship. And while these newbie Christian refugees were
having a transcendent experience with a Jesus they’d only just met, Galli
realized he’d so taken Jesus for granted that he’d missed him altogether.2
As I’ve been living my new reality for more than a decade now, I’ve
accidentally discovered this truth: When the living, breathing Jesus is the
center of everything in our lives, fruit happens. That’s just the way things
work. Good things grow in our soul, and we can give to others out of our
abundance. We don’t have to spend all our energy trying to produce that
fruit anymore than a shriveled, neglected tree—dying from thirst—has to
work to produce fruit once its roots have been watered and fertilized. Jesus
promised “living water” for a reason—he knows we are created by God to
live fruitful lives, but we can’t grow a thing if we don’t know how to abide
in him. Abiding in him means drinking deeply from his well of living water,
and that water is like Miracle-Gro® for the soul.

I’ve accidentally discovered this truth: When

the living, breathing Jesus is the center of
everything in our lives, fruit happens.
“Apart from me, you can do nothing,” Jesus says, delivering a blunt
diagnosis and an unbelievable invitation in the same breath. The implication
is that when we abide in him, we can do anything.
We are meant to live in everyday awe with Jesus. As he becomes the
consuming focus of our worship, we discover the last number on our life’s
combination lock, and we taste true freedom and purpose for the first
time. Jesus’ life and energy flows through us, transforming our life into a
“moveable feast” that nourishes the hungry people who enter our orbit. I
met David, a vibrant 70-year-old man with eager eyes, at a friend’s party,
and discovered he’d lived an incredible life. In his spare time, for example,
he’d climbed Denali, the tallest mountain in North America, and all 53
of Colorado’s “14ers.” When I learned he’d been a passionate follower of
Jesus all his life, I asked what the key to his “long obedience in the same
direction” was. And he didn’t miss a beat: “It’s all about worship.” I waited
for more…but he said no more.

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We are meant to live in everyday awe with

Jesus. As he becomes the consuming focus of
our worship, we discover the last number on
our life’s combination lock, and we taste true
freedom and purpose for the first time.
Do you long to find the well of living water David drinks from?
Do you hear a quiet voice inside you asking: “Is this all there is?”
Has the “normal Christian life” left you discontent and bored?
Do you gravitate toward God-plus pursuits because he often doesn’t seem
big enough to handle all the problems and challenges you face in life? Or,
simply, he’s not as compelling as all those other pluses?
Well, what if you discovered that a life of everyday awe is possible and
sustainable for everyday people who will never climb Denali? What if the
small, manageable, comfortable, and dulling God you’ve been disciplining
yourself to follow is actually bigger, more beautiful, and more thrilling
than the normal Christian life has led you to believe? What if Jesus seems
so familiar to you that you’ve stopped experiencing him as he really is?
It doesn’t matter, really, what your current reality is. The only thing that
matters is your curiosity—the desire to walk a little further into the “deep
magic,” as the Chronicles of Narnia author C.S. Lewis calls it.3
You’re already worshipping something(s) in your life—that’s a given.
And one of those somethings is probably some version of God, along
with your own stockpile of pluses. What if, instead, you gathered all your
worship-chips into one big pile and shoved them into the middle of the
table, to the spot marked “Jesus”? What if you decided to go all-in with
him—to take the biggest risk of your life on the safest bet in the universe?
Well, I don’t think you should do that just because I think it’s a good idea,
or because the church says you should. No, I think you’ll end up shoving
all your chips onto that Jesus-spot when you discover, maybe for the first
time, that you can’t help yourself.

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Endnotes
1 David Foster Wallace, This Is Water: Some Thoughts, Delivered on a
Significant Occasion, About Living a Compassionate Life (New York, NY: Little,
Brown and Company, 2009), 96-101.
2 Mark Galli, Jesus Mean and Wild: The Unexpected Love of an Untamable
God (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2006), 112.
3 C.S. Lewis, The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe (New York, NY:
HarperCollins, 2008), 83.

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The Stockdale Way
Vice Admiral Jim Stockdale was one of the most highly decorated officers
in U.S. Navy history. At the outset of the Vietnam War, he piloted an F-8
Crusader during the aerial attack of three North Vietnamese torpedo boats
in what was later called the Gulf of Tonkin Incident. Later, in 1965, his
fighter was hit by enemy fire and he was forced to eject. He parachuted into
an enemy village, where he was captured and severely beaten. Dragging
a shattered leg from the beating, he was taken to the infamous “Hanoi
Hilton,” where he was imprisoned for nearly eight years—the highest-ranking
prisoner of war in the U.S. Navy. While there, he led a prisoner resistance
movement and created a secret code of conduct that all prisoners pledged
to uphold, including the proper response to torture. Because of his rank
and his involvement in the resistance, he was relentlessly and ruthlessly
tortured. Eventually, he and nearly a dozen other prisoners were taken to
a nearby holding facility dubbed “Alcatraz,” where Stockdale lived in a
3-foot-by-9-foot cell with a light bulb that burned around the clock. He
and the other prisoners at Alcatraz were locked in leg irons every night.
Remarkably, Stockdale survived this horrific experience. He was released
in February 1973—his body so broken that he could barely walk. After he’d
recovered from his injuries enough to live a more active life, he finished
his naval career as president of the Naval War College. He went on to a
distinguished career in public service and politics: He was Ross Perot’s 1992
vice presidential running mate when Perot won 19 percent of the popular

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vote—the best showing by an independent ticket in modern U.S. electoral

history. When bestselling author Jim Collins was later introduced to Stockdale
at a social gathering, he was quickly mesmerized by the war hero’s story.
Collins asked Stockdale how he managed to not only make it out of the
Hanoi Hilton with an unbroken spirit, but how he’d been able to live a
productive, vigorous life after he was released. Stockdale responded: “I never
lost faith in the end of the story, I never doubted not only that I would get
out, but also that I would prevail in the end and turn the experience into
the defining event of my life, which, in retrospect, I would not trade.”1
Stockdale’s response was so profound that Collins made it the center
of one of the most popular business-leadership books of all time: Good to
Great. Collins translated the vice admiral’s key to surviving and thriving
in the midst of unendurable circumstances into something he dubbed the
“Stockdale Paradox”:

“You must never confuse faith that you will

prevail in the end—which you can never afford
to lose—with the discipline to confront the most
brutal facts of your current reality, whatever
they might be.” 2
As a P.S. to this paradox, Collins later asked Stockdale about those who
didn’t make it out of the Hanoi Hilton alive, as he had. Collins wanted to
know what was different about those who didn’t survive. “Oh, that’s easy,”
replied Stockdale, “[they were] optimists. Oh, they were the ones who said,
‘We’re going to be out by Christmas.’ And Christmas would come, and
Christmas would go. Then they’d say, ‘We’re going to be out by Easter.’
And Easter would come, and Easter would go. And then Thanksgiving,
and then it would be Christmas again. And they died of a broken heart.”3
Optimism offers false hope because it is not married to brutal reality. To
experience true freedom, it’s necessary for us to embrace both our brutal realities
and our prevailing hope at the same time. Jesus, it turns out, operates all of the
time in the tension of the Stockdale Paradox. He is always and everywhere
exposing brutal realities while pressing forward into prevailing hopes. He

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blows the lid off the scandalous and humiliating secret life of the woman
at the well and then offers her the living water her soul is desperately
thirsty for (John 4:7-29). He responds to the Canaanite woman, desperate
for Jesus to release her daughter from demonic bondage, by calling her
a “dog” and refusing to help, but then quickly gives her what she wants
when she rises to his challenge (Matthew 15:21-28). After his resurrection,
he asks his closest friend Peter three times if he really loves him; he follows
each painful question with a life-giving invitation: “Feed my sheep” (John
21:15-18, NLT).
Following Jesus wholeheartedly means facing the “most brutal facts of
our current reality, whatever they might be” while holding onto our absolute
certainty that we will “prevail in the end” through his love and grace. Many
are familiar with the preamble to theologian Reinhold Niebuhr’s famous
“Serenity Prayer,” but few know well the payload portion of the prayer that
follows. Here’s how it begins…

God grant me the serenity

to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

A pithy quote that reads well taped to the refrigerator door, no doubt.
But Niebuhr, one of the great intellectuals in Christian history, is no
lightweight. He’s exploring deeper territory—Stockdale Paradox territory—in
the conclusion of his prayer…

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Living one day at a time;

enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
forever in the next.
Amen.4

Do you sense the tension in Niebuhr’s confluence of brutal reality and

prevailing hope? True serenity, we learn, lives in the liminal space of this
tension. We cup our hands to hold both truths—the truth of how things
really are, and the truth of how things really will be—and drink deeply.
This is the living water Jesus offers us.

And so, in the first section of this book,

we’ll lean into some brutal realities while
simultaneously embracing some prevailing
hopes that will fuel our journey.
And so, in the first section of this book, we’ll lean into some brutal
realities while simultaneously embracing some prevailing hopes that will
fuel our journey.
In the second section, we’ll explore the everyday rhythms and simple
practices that will draw us into a deeper relationship with Jesus, who is
the embodiment of our prevailing hope. We’ll discover that the Stockdale
Paradox is so much more than a survival technique or a foundation for
great leadership—it’s God’s circadian rhythm.

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Endnotes
1 Quoted from a keynote address by Jim Collins at the “Drucker
Centennial” event on September 1, 2010, in Claremont, California.
2 Jim Collins, Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap…and
Others Don’t (New York: HarperCollins, 2010), 13.
3 Ibid, 83-85.
4 From the “Queries and Answers” column in The New York Times Book
Review (July 2, 1950), 23.

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Embracing Our Brutal Realities

“I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain
in my love.”
—Jesus

Jesus is the most-known, least-known person in human history.

There has never been a more widely recognizable name on earth. But,
in turn, there has never been a more widely misunderstood, misquoted,
mischaracterized, miseverything-ed person than the homeless rabbi
from Nazareth.
Every year since 1927 Time Magazine has named a “Person of the Year”
on its January cover. In 2013 Time’s editors decided to one-up themselves
and name the most significant person in history. So, after an exhaustive
analysis that ranked historical figures just as Google ranks Web pages, Jesus
won out—it wasn’t even close.
Of course, Jesus is the single most influential person in history—it doesn’t
matter whether you worship him as God or mark your birthday by the year
of his death or repeat something he said without even realizing he said it
(“Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you” or “He sends
rain on the just and the unjust” or “Tomorrow will bring its own worries,”
for example). His words and his deeds have done more to shape our world,
and our everyday lives, than any other single force.
So it’s a little ironic that just before Time put Jesus on its “Most Significant
Person in History” cover, editors at Newsweek recruited the University of
North Carolina’s resident Jesus-skeptic Bart Ehrman to write an article
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professor skewers a handful of contradictory details surrounding Jesus’ birth

and soft-peddles the historical reality of Jesus with this summation of the
Gospel accounts of his life, death, and resurrection: “These are books that
meant to declare religious truths, not historical facts.”1
Sure, we know Jesus. But the way we’re still wrangling over the details
of his existence exposes a blunt reality: We don’t know Jesus. And I wish I
was merely describing a dynamic that exists outside the church, the place
where we often assume everybody knows and believes in Jesus. But those
who identify themselves as Christians seem just as confused. Well over a
third of churched people (39 percent) believe there’s a good possibility that
Jesus sinned when he walked the earth. More than half (58 percent) say the
Holy Spirit, who’s identified in Scripture as “the Spirit of Jesus” (Acts 16:7;
Philippians 1:9) is merely a symbol, not a living entity.2 A Jesus who sins,
and a Jesus who concocts elaborate lies about the Spirit, is a scam artist,
not the Son of God, worthy of worship. Posers and fakers and liars do not
meet the stringent job requirements for “God.”
In one way or another, a lot of us believe in a Jesus who’s not Jesus at all.

No More Mr. Nice Guy

I was talking with a junior high girl who’d just served as a leader in a
church-wide worship experience during Holy Week. She’d spent several
days leading people from her congregation into a deeper relationship with
Jesus through an interactive devotional experience. The girl was giddy with
excitement about the whole thing. I told her I like to ask people to describe
Jesus to me—just because I’m curious about how they see him.
“So,” I asked, “what are some words you’d use to describe Jesus to someone
who’s never heard of him?”
She scrunched her forehead and tried to wrestle that question to the
ground. Finally, she offered this hopeful response: “Well, I’d have to say
he’s really, really nice.”
She was ready to leave it right there, so I asked: “Remember that time
Jesus made a whip and chased all the money changers out of the Temple?
Does that story change the way you’d describe Jesus?”

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She scrunched her forehead again. The smile disappeared from her face.
I’d created a kind of intolerable dissonance in her. Finally, with a tone of
desperation, she landed on this: “Well, I know Jesus is nice, so what he
did must have been nice.” I nodded politely and thanked her for thinking
through her response. And then I got an idea. What if I asked people all over
the country the same question? Maybe I could find some common threads
in their responses. So I recruited videographers in five major metropolitan
areas to stop young people randomly on the street and ask them a simple
question: “How would you describe Jesus?”
When I got all the raw footage back, I quickly discovered my experience
with the junior high girl wasn’t an aberration. Without fail, the first and
favorite descriptive word Millennials choose for Jesus is always nice.3 And, it
turns out, people of all ages use similar words to describe him. Search online
list-surveys and you’ll find these one-word descriptions of Jesus popping
up most often: loving, peaceful, forgiving, peacemaker, meek, forgiving,
revitalizing, pure, gentle, and humble.4 “Nice” is a perfect umbrella for
these sweet descriptions.

There’s nothing wrong with “nice,” except it

completely misses the ferocious and disruptive
impact Jesus had on almost everyone he met.
There’s nothing wrong with “nice,” except it completely misses the
ferocious and disruptive impact Jesus had on almost everyone he met. He’s
the original bull in a china shop. Is Jesus nice? Yes, of course, but when
he is, he’s scandalously nice. He’s nice to all the wrong people, and he’s
offensive to all the wrong people. Jesus is nice to the people he heals or
feeds or rescues. But he’d never be voted Mr. Congeniality. He’s definitely
un-nice when he’s blasting (over and over) religious leaders or calling his
lead disciple “Satan” or an innocent Canaanite woman a “dog” or telling
the rich young ruler to sell all his possessions and follow him if he intends
to inherit eternal life. In Matthew 23 (The Message), Jesus tells the Pharisees
they are “hopeless”—not once, but seven times in a row—and then he plants
three exclamation marks at the end of that diatribe, calling them “manicured

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grave plots,” “total frauds,” and “snakes.” The good doctor Luke describes
Jesus as the social equivalent of a live grenade:

When Jesus had finished speaking, a Pharisee invited him to eat with him;
so he went in and reclined at the table. But the Pharisee, noticing that
Jesus did not first wash before the meal, was surprised. Then the Lord said
to him, “Now then, you Pharisees clean the outside of the cup and dish,
but inside you are full of greed and wickedness. You foolish people! Did
not the one who made the outside make the inside also? But give what
is inside the dish to the poor, and everything will be clean for you. Woe
to you Pharisees, because you give God a tenth of your mint, rue and all
other kinds of garden herbs, but you neglect justice and the love of God.
You should have practiced the latter without leaving the former undone.
Woe to you Pharisees, because you love the most important seats in the
synagogues and greetings in the marketplaces. Woe to you, because you
are like unmarked graves, which men walk over without knowing it.” One of
the experts in the law answered him, “Teacher, when you say these things,
you insult us also” (Luke 11:37-45, NIV).

This awkward, scandalous scene barrels toward disaster after verse 45,
with Jesus essentially responding, “Yes, I’m aware I’m insulting you, and
I’m just getting started.” Wow, someone get Jesus a plate of pasta and a
glass of red wine—quick! I’m guessing word spread quickly and the A-listers
in the Pharisee’s social set scratched Mr. Woe off their dinner-party lists.

Rejecting Lesser Gods

The point here is that a merely nice Jesus is no Jesus at all—and it’s
impossible to have an intimate relationship with a person who doesn’t
really exist, with a fake Jesus. In his foreword to Jesus Mean and Wild, Eugene
Peterson writes: “Every omitted detail of Jesus, so carefully conveyed to us
by the Gospel writers, reduces Jesus. We need the whole Jesus. The complete
Jesus. Everything he said. Every detail of what he did.”5 And the reason we

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need the “complete Jesus” is that our false caricatures have relegated him
to the wallpaper of our lives. Because we have nice-ified him, he’s not all
that interesting to us. We habitually diminish Jesus from shocking to average.
Philosophy professor and C.S. Lewis scholar Dr. Peter Kreeft once told his
class of Boston University students:

Christ changed every human being he ever met…. If anyone

claims to have met him without being changed, he has not met
him at all. When you touch him, you touch lightning…. The
Greek word used to describe everyone’s reaction to him in the
Gospels is “thauma”—wonder. This was true of his enemies, who
killed him. Of his disciples, who worshipped him. And even of
agnostics, who went away shaking their heads and muttering “No
man ever spoke like this man” and knowing that if he didn’t stop
being what he was and saying what he said that eventually they
would have to side with either his killers or his worshippers. For
“Jesus shock” breaks your heart in two and forces you to choose
which half of your heart you will follow….6

We habitually diminish Jesus from shocking

to average.
If the Jesus you’re trying to know and follow is more like an adult version
of Barney, the cuddly children’s show dinosaur, than “the lion of the tribe
of Judah” or the shocking person that Kreeft is describing, your connection
to him will devolve into a compartmentalized, Jesus-plus transaction, not
a real relationship with a real person. The false Jesus of our conventional
narratives—our Fifty-Shades-of-Nice Jesus—arouses no passion in us. Our
latent passivity toward him is a natural result of the milquetoast descriptions
we’ve embraced about him and the tips-and-techniques bastardizations of
the things he said and did. It’s as if, again, we’ve become fixated on Oprah’s
recipes, waxing poetic (and on and on) about them while neglecting to

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pursue an intimate friendship with the fascinating person who created the
recipes in the first place.
And a declawed Jesus doesn’t seem strong and fierce and big enough to
walk with us into the fiery furnaces of everyday life. We’re all facing big
challenges and struggles, and we’re looking for someone or something to
help us overcome or give us the courage we need to survive the blows we’ve
endured and the difficult situations we must find our way through. The
Tonight Show’s Jimmy Fallon is a nice, likeable, relentlessly upbeat guy—he’d
be No. 1 on your dream birthday-party list. But you wouldn’t choose him
as your “wingman” if you were walking into a dark alley in a bad part of
town. Nice Jesus isn’t hard enough or tough enough or fierce enough to
journey with us into our own dark alleys of life—and that’s exactly why we
need to have a deeper, more real experience of him. If the only Jesus we’ve
experienced in the church is a cardigan-wearing, lullaby-loving Mr. Rogers
knockoff, then we’ll naturally go all-in with lesser gods that promise better
results in the real world.

A declawed Jesus doesn’t seem strong and

fierce and big enough to walk with us into the
fiery furnaces of everyday life.
The documentary The Armstrong Lie explores the Lance Armstrong
doping scandal from an unusual perspective. Instead of rehashing the
facts of Armstrong’s long and persistent deception—the legendary cyclist
who denied using performance-enhancing drugs was later exposed as a
serial cheater and stripped of his seven Tour de France victories—the film
explores why people for so long refused to accept the bitter truth about
him. In the face of overwhelming evidence of his guilt, many refused to
believe his accusers and defended him as a hero who’d overcome testicular
cancer to power his way to the top of the cycling world. Armstrong was a
“lesser god” to many, and it’s very hard to give up on those in whom we
invest our hope and belief. The film is really about our relentless pursuit
of lesser gods and our passionate enmeshment with them. We’ve always
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Armstrongs” promise that we can have a more concrete connection with

a god who will give us hope while requiring almost nothing of us but our
trust and belief.7
We don’t have to dig too deeply to find evidence that proves this
uncomfortable reality. In the aftermath of Nelson Mandela’s funeral, for
example, a young South African spoken-word artist named Thabiso Mohare
wrote a poem in honor of the great anti-apartheid leader. Here’s a portion
of “An Ordinary Man”:

And we watched the world weep

For a giant bigger than myths
A life owned by many
Now free as the gods8

“Worshipful” is the best way to describe the tone that infuses this poem,
and all the other tributes that framed Mandela’s death and funeral. And
that makes sense, because Mandela was an amazing man who sacrificed
his life, over and over, to win his people their freedom. Our hearts long for
heroes to worship. And it’s simply easier, and more socially acceptable, to
worship lesser gods like Nelson Mandela (or Mother Teresa or Bill Gates or
Lady Gaga or Warren Buffett) than it is to worship the rock of offense—the
one called “Scandalon”—who is Jesus. We like our lions to be transcendent
and bigger-than-life, but also fully human. The “fully God” aspect of Jesus
is what unnerves us.

We like our lions to be transcendent and

bigger-than-life, but also fully human. The
“fully God” aspect of Jesus is what unnerves us.

Our Mid-Marriage Malaise

We have all the evidence we need that our fragile cultural commitment
to churchgoing, dragged down by the relentless way we’ve diminished the

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real Jesus into an exceptionally well-behaved Middle Eastern philosopher,

may not survive the next decade. According to a landmark Pew Research
Center survey of 35,000 Americans, the percentage of people who identify
as Christian has dropped a whopping 8 percentage points (from 78.4
to 70.6) in just seven years, from 2007 to 2014. This steep dive is over-
represented by young adults in the massive Millennial generation (18- to
34-year-olds). Mainline Protestant churches and Catholic churches are also
over-represented in the decline. Meanwhile, during the same time frame,
the percentage of people who identify as atheist, agnostic, or “nothing in
particular” rocketed up by almost 7 points, from 16.1 to 22.8. Pew’s associate
director of religion research, Greg Smith, who was also the lead researcher
on the new study, says: “We’ve known that the religiously unaffiliated has
been growing for decades. But the pace at which they’ve continued to grow
is really astounding.”9
Yes, the U.S. church is in trouble—more than 200,000 congregations are in
decline. Every year, more than 4,000 of them close their doors for good. The
people who’ve managed to stick with the church have a higher average age
than the general population; and if you backtrack through the generations
you’ll find that the younger we are, the less likely we are to be connected
with a church. Of course, the U.S. continues to be a religious nation—95
percent of Americans believe in God. But the weekly church attendance
figure hovers around 15 percent (the number pegged by researchers who
actually count Sunday attenders).10

Those who name themselves “Christian” just

aren’t getting who Jesus really is.
It’s clear that despite the best intentions of the Western church—all of
our Bible studies, our men’s prayer breakfasts, our women’s candlelight
dinners, our Christian living books, our three-point sermons that load a
half-dozen new imperatives onto our backs, our “positive, encouraging”
Christian music, and our accountability relationships—those who name
themselves “Christian” just aren’t getting who Jesus really is. Or we’re not
getting enough of who he really is, or we’re getting, literally, a fake Jesus.

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And a half-hearted commitment to a Jesus who doesn’t really exist won’t

fuel a lasting connection to the body of Christ. If we were feasting on the
real Jesus, as he implored us to do over and over in the sixth chapter of
John’s Gospel, we’d have the same problems we’ve always had with the
institutional church, but we’d feel compelled by our ruined-for-Jesus love to
stick it out together—to live together under the umbrella of our passion for
him and to change the things that don’t reflect the true goal of the church,
which is fueling a growing intimacy with Jesus. “Ruined for” means you
stay, even when you’d like to go.
Here’s what this dynamic looks like. The Barna Research Group says
that 6 out of 10 young-adult Millennials (born between 1984 and 2002)
who’ve been raised in the church will leave it sometime during the first
decade of their adult lives. The cultural commitment to the church that
has characterized American society from the beginning has fizzled, like
a pop-bottle rocket reaching its zenith. A mere one-in-five Millennials
believes “going to church is important.” But those who affirm that they’re
actually growing spiritually point to their relationship with Jesus as one of
their top-five drivers. And those who’ve bucked the generational trend and
have stayed connected to church say there’s one overriding factor in their
ongoing commitment: “Jesus speaks to me in a personal and relevant way.”11
When Rachel Held Evans, one of the top 10 Christian bloggers online and a
New York Times bestselling author, wrote “Why Millennials Are Leaving the
Church” in July 2013, the piece sparked more than 100,000 social media
reactions in its first week. The crux of her commentary is simple: “We’re
not leaving the church because we don’t find the cool factor there; we’re
leaving the church because we don’t find Jesus there. Like every generation
before ours and every generation after, deep down, we long for Jesus.”12

A deep, ongoing, intimate relationship with

Jesus changes everything.
But when we are caught in the slow downward spiral of a tips-and-
techniques mentality, a passionate relationship with Jesus is reduced to
something a lot more transactional—something like a mid-marriage malaise.

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We all know couples just like this—the current that flows through their
union is carrying them, inexorably, into the Dead Sea:
• They eat together, but they chew in silence and stare off into space.
• Their eyes are no longer fixed on each other—the little screen in their
hand is more fascinating.
• They’re pleasant to each other, most of the time, but seem quick on
the trigger when one or the other does that irritating thing they’ve been
told a million times not to do.
• When one of them starts to tell a funny story, one that’s been told one
too many times, the other is quick to shoot the “not again” look.
• They sigh a lot around each other, and hardly ever touch each other.
• He heads down to his man-cave for poker or pay-per-view with the
guys; she finds new and creative reasons to go shopping or drink wine at
a watercolor painting party with the girls.
• They’d never admit it openly, but they believe there’s nothing really
new to learn about each other.
• The age of wonder is over, replaced by the age of resignation and
disappointment: “Darling, I want you to know that I’m committed to continue
pacing the perimeter of the holding tank that is our relationship.”

We’d never say all we want out of our

relationship with Jesus is a comfortable,
predictable, unobtrusive way to live more
happily, but we sure act like we do.
And with Jesus we say: “You have your space and I have mine—let’s
keep our relationship…manageable.” We read the Bible, sometimes, but
only when we feel guilty that we haven’t read the Bible for a while. We
feel a little better after we volunteer to serve meals at the homeless shelter
for our church’s “Service Saturday” outreach, but we quickly settle back
into benign disinterest with Jesus a week or so later. Something the pastor
says during his sermon blows on the embers of our relationship and we
pray for the first time in weeks, but that emotional moment is quickly
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the way home from church, the bills we just remembered that we forgot
to pay, and the season finale of our favorite reality show. Our “marriage”
to Jesus is stuck in the rut of rote—we’re just going through the motions.
And, unconsciously, we’re resigned to settle for our mid-marriage malaise
with him. We’d never say all we want out of our relationship with Jesus is
a comfortable, predictable, unobtrusive way to live more happily, but we
sure act like we do.
But the Spirit of Jesus who lives in our hearts will not settle for this. He
doesn’t want the kind of relationship that slowly descends into tolerance,
rote politeness, and comfortable deadness; he wants an epic romance that’s
full of daring risks, remarkable sacrifices, permeating joy, and long stretches
of soul-satisfying intimacy. And that explains the unsettled feeling most
of us have—something in the soul longs for the intimacy it was created to
enjoy, and it is unwilling to acquiesce to a transactional relationship with
God. We were created for something more, and Jesus’ eccentric, passionate,
and sometimes mystifying behavior points to it:
• He tells us that we must “eat his body and drink his blood” if we want
“any part of him” (John 6).
• He describes the relationship he wants with us, metaphorically, like a
branch abiding in a vine, like a groom’s intimate relationship with his bride,
like a sheep’s desperate and dependent relationship with its shepherd, like
two lovers who can’t take their eyes off of each other.
• He has no problem asking his followers to give up everything for him,
including their very lives.
• He expects many people will outright reject him—that’s why he’s
ecstatic over those who go all-in with him. But he can’t stand playing it
safe; when people go halfway with him, he metaphorically spits them out
of his mouth (Revelation 3:14-16).
Like any passionate lover, Jesus speaks the language of epic romance—a
kind of raw intimacy that’s embarrassing to talk about in polite company.
When Christian songwriter John Mark McMillan wrote “How He Loves,”
one of the most popular worship songs of the last decade, he included this
eye-opening stanza:

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So heaven meets earth like a sloppy wet kiss

And my heart turns violently inside of my chest,
I don’t have time to maintain these regrets,
When I think about the way…
He loves us
Oh! How He loves us…

Of course, if you’ve ever sung this song in church, that first line in the
stanza may take you aback. It’s in McMillan’s original, but not in the version
that’s popular in most churches today. McMillan gave his permission to
David Crowder, the renowned and respected singer/songwriter, to cover
his song with this replacement line: “So heaven meets earth like an unforeseen
kiss…”—and Crowder’s edited version is now the one most people have
heard. The reason he requested the lyric change, Crowder told McMillan,
was “because he knew that there are literally thousands of people who would
never hear the song the way it was.” McMillan admits: “I knew it was only
a matter of time before someone recorded a version with a different line.”
The reason, of course, is that “sloppy wet kiss” is a description that seems
way too sexual for a worship song. McMillan wrote the song the day after
his close friend was killed in a car accident—that’s why his lyrics are so raw
and intimate. Great pain produced a line in a worship song that frames our
“heaven meets earth” relationship with God with a metaphor that suggests
raw intimacy, and it made a lot of people uncomfortable.13
Switching genres and eras, an old Frank Sinatra song perfectly describes
the cadence inside the heart of Jesus:

All or nothin’ at all

Half a love never appealed to me
If your heart, it never could yield to me
Then I’d rather, rather have nothin’ at all14

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It is not how we describe the relationship

that matters—what really matters is how Jesus
describes it.
The Bible is many things: historical record, poetry, an ongoing narrative
of redemption, and even a handbook for life. But what it is, centrally, is
a firsthand account of an epic romance between God and his creation. In
Love and War, authors John and Stasi Eldredge condense the meaning of life
into one sentence: “We live in a great love story, set in the midst of war.”15
This romance, the way Jesus described it and lived it out, is far closer to a
sloppy wet kiss reality than our church-ified standards typically allow. But
it is not how we describe the relationship that matters—what really matters
is how Jesus describes it.

You Will Go Free

Clearly, Jesus has ambitions for his relationship with us that obliterate
our nice, pleasant descriptions of him. He wants it all—rather, he wants
us all, down to the grime under our dirty fingernails. And when we respond
to his longing by living a life that is more and more centered around
him, we find release from the prison of our malaise and an invitation
into an epic life that orbits around him the same way our attention stays
fixed when we see for the first time Niagara Falls or the Grand Canyon or
the Eagle Nebula or the inviting flutter of our beloved’s eyelashes. Jesus’
intentions fit well in the bedroom, not in a Rotary Club meeting. He’s the
reality behind the mythic poet/warrior our hearts have always longed for.
And rebel singer/songwriter Tonio K’s song “You Will Go Free” captures
the missional purpose of that original Poet/Warrior, its message drilling
down to the bedrock of our hearts:

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You’ve been a prisoner, baby,

Been a prisoner all your life,
Held captive in an alien world where they hold your need for love to your
throat, like a knife,
And they make you jump,
And they make you do tricks,
They take what started off such an innocent heart, and they break it, and break
it, and break it until it almost can’t be fixed.
Well, I don’t know when and I don’t know how,
I don’t know how long it’s gonna take,
I don’t know how hard it will be, but I know you will go free.
Now you can call it the devil, call it the big lie,
Call it a fallen world, whatever it is, it ruins almost everything we try,
It’s the sins of the fathers, yeah, and it’s the choices we make,
It’s people screaming without making a sound, from prison cells in paradise
where we’re chained to our mistakes.
And I don’t know when, and I don’t know how,
I don’t know how much it’s gonna cost you, probably everything,
I know you will go free.
You can’t see a jailer, you can’t see the bar,
You can’t turn your head around fast enough, but it’s everywhere you are,
It’s all around you,
Everywhere you walk, these prison walls surround you.
But in the midst of all this darkness, yeah, in the middle of this night,
I see the truth cut through this curtain like a laser, like a pure and holy light,
And I know I can’t touch you now, yeah, and I don’t want to speak too soon,
But when we get sprung from out these cages, baby, God knows what
we might do.
But I don’t know when and I don’t know how, yeah,
I don’t know if you’ll be leaving alone or you’ll be leaving with me,
But I know you will go free,
I know the truth will set you free,
The truth about who you are,
Truth about who you were always meant to be,
Yeah,
You will go free.16

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We are all captives—some of us have made peace with our jailers, sprucing
up our cells as best we can and distracting ourselves from our sometimes
bleak or boring reality by using media, money, and momentum to self-
medicate. But some of us can’t stop hungering and thirsting for freedom.
Some of us have been yearning to discover what life could look like if we
“get sprung from out these cages,” because “God knows what we might
do.” Some of us feel like sheep in desperate need of a shepherd, or broken
branches pining for the life of the Vine, or lovers who stay awake into the
heart of the night, longing to see the familiar outline of our beloved walking
through the darkened doorway.
It’s not possible to understand and embrace the heart of Jesus if our
approach to knowing him is characterized by casual interest or benign
pursuit. The only practical way to understand and love Jesus is to go all-in
with him. I can describe what water feels like until I’m as blue-in-the-face
as a swimming pool, but you won’t truly understand it until you take the
plunge. True understanding is always experiential. And, in the case of Jesus,
a little doesn’t go a long way. In fact, a whole lot of Jesus doesn’t even scratch
the surface. He’s the most fascinating, unpredictable, remarkable person
who ever walked the earth. It’s going to take time—a glorious lifetime—to
probe his depths. But that’s what we do when we’re invited into relationship
with fascinating people.

The conventional understanding of Jesus as

a mystery that we’re not meant to know in full
is hogwash.
The conventional understanding of Jesus as a mystery that we’re not
meant to know in full is hogwash. Jesus came to be known, and to reveal
the heart of his Father. In John’s Gospel, the “disciple Jesus loved” makes
this declaration: “No one has ever seen God. But the unique One, who is
himself God, is near to the Father’s heart. He has revealed God to us” (John
1:18, NLT). Jesus’ intention is to invite us into knowing him at the deepest,
most intimate levels we humans can achieve. He’s not hiding from us.
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he longs to be pursued with similar passion—it’s that kind of pursuit that

unlocks his mysteries. Wholehearted pursuit is intrinsic to all great loves.
We don’t make epic films about people who make measured commitments
to pursue their milquetoast lover with halfhearted caution.

In a life that is centered on Jesus, the

gravitational pull of his orbit, at some point,
feels like a tractor beam.
In a life that is centered on Jesus, the gravitational pull of his orbit, at
some point, feels like a tractor beam—we can’t escape it, or him. If, as the
Apostle Paul asserts, everything in the created world is a metaphor for “His
invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature” (Romans 1:20),
then maybe black holes exist to help us understand the magnetic effect of
drawing near to Jesus. Just as a black hole’s overwhelming mass creates a
gravitational pull so strong that even light cannot escape it, the passionate
pursuit of the real Jesus is our “event horizon”—as we draw nearer and
nearer to him, we will cross an invisible boundary of his black-hole presence,
from which no escape will be possible. We will be like Peter before us, who
answered Jesus’ plaintive question to his disciples: “You do not want to go
away also, do you?” with his own black-hole response: “Lord, to whom
shall we go?”(John 6:67-68).

Endnotes
1 “What Do We Really Know About Jesus?” by Bart D. Ehrman in the
December 17, 2012, issue of Newsweek.
2 From a survey report by the Barna Group titled “Most American
Christians Do Not Believe That Satan or the Holy Spirit Exist,” published
April 10, 2009.
3 From the raw footage of videotaped interviews of young adults
across America, commissioned for a segment in the Group Magazine Live
workshop tour.

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4 You can get a good cross-section of these synonyms for “nice” in

the entry “Famous People Describe Jesus,” posted on JesusCentral.com—
jesuscentral.com/ji/life-of-jesus-modern/jesus-famous.php.
5 Eugene Peterson, from the foreword for Jesus Mean and Wild: The
Unexpected Love of an Untamable God by Mark Galli (Grand Rapids, MI:
Baker Books), 11.
6 From my own transcription of Peter Kreeft’s lecture “The Shocking
Beauty of Jesus,” given at Gordon-Conwell Seminary on September 20, 2007,
and later expanded upon in his book Jesus-Shock (St. Augustine’s Press, 2008).
7 The Armstrong Lie is a film directed by Alex Gibney, distributed by Sony
Pictures Classics and released in 2013.
8 The entire text of “An Ordinary Man,” by Thabiso Mohare, is reprinted
as part of an “All Things Considered” report on December 13, 2013 (National
Public Radio).
9 Results from the Pew Research Center’s second U.S. Religious Landscape
Study (released on May 12, 2015), a follow-up to its first comprehensive
study of religion in America, conducted in 2007. Quote from CNN.com
post “Millennials Leaving Church in Droves, Study Finds,” by Daniel Burke
(posted on May 12, 2015).
10 Scott Thumma, “A Health Checkup for U.S. Churches” by Hartford
Institute for Religion Research (from a presentation at the Future of the
Church Summit at Group Publishing, Loveland, CO, October 22, 2012).
11 From the Barna Research Group report “5 Reasons Millennials Stay
Connected to the Church,” released on September 27, 2013 (barna.org).
12 Rachel Held Evans, “Why Millennials Are Leaving the Church” blog
entry posted on CNN.com’s Belief Blog on July 27, 2013.
13 John Mark McMillan describes this story on his blog The Promenade,
in a post titled “How He Loves, David Crowder, and Sloppy Wet Kisses,”
posted on September 14, 2009.
14 “All or Nothing at All” lyrics written by Dennis Matkosky, Jack
Lawrence, Arthur Altman, Bobby Caldwell, and Dennis Matkowsky.
Copyright: Universal-MCA Music Publishing, a Division of Universal Music
Corp., Matkosky Music, Geffen Music, MCA Music Publishing A.D.O.
Universal S.

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15 John and Stasi Eldredge, Love and War (Doubleday Religion, 2009), 39.
16 Tonio K., “You Will Go Free,” from the Romeo Unchained album (Gadfly
Records, 1996), full song lyrics reprinted with permission.

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