Brief Therapy
Brief Therapy
Brief Therapy
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It is commonly assumed that the role of the psychologist is to help people with their
problems. Lodged in the backs of our minds is the image of the patient on the couch,
talking with a Freudian analyst. In reality, applied psychology has come a long way
from its beginnings as a "talking cure". Indeed, many of the newer approaches,
which have been extensively studied and validated through research, do not
emphasize talking at all.
Nonetheless, old assumptions die hard. People assume that you need to have "a
problem" in order to see a psychologist. In fact, insurance companies will not
reimburse visits to psychologists and psychiatrists unless they are provided with a
"diagnosis" of the problems being "treated". Little wonder that the stereotype persists
that there's something wrong with you if you need to see a "shrink".
The reality is that the good psychologist is not a shrink, but instead expands
people's minds and horizons. The goal is not to treat problems, but to make
changes. Psychology is about making changes in life. Sometimes these are changes
in relationships; other times, they are changes in the ways we think, feel, or act. To
benefit from psychology doesn't require that you have a problem. It does require a
desire to make changes.
A group of methods known as brief therapies are extremely promising, because they
accelerate the process of change. I refer to the brief therapies as therapies for the
mentally well. There are individuals who have chronic mental health problems. They
are not the ones for whom brief work is appropriate: lifelong, severe problems often
require ongoing assistance, including medication help. The mentally well, however,
are not beset with such problems. They are simply interested in making changes.
Sometimes those changes are simply to expand their strengths: to become even
better at what they do.
A trader who made 2 million dollars last year--and more the year before that--
recently insisted on meeting with me before New Year's Day to identify areas for
improvement and set goals--and a path for meeting those goals--for 2007. His goal
was to enhance his performance, not rid himself of personal demons. That is an
excellent use of therapy for the mentally well.
So how do you know if you can benefit from such brief work? Here's a guide:
Behavior is patterned. How we think, feel, and act have a pattern to them, and that
patterning is what makes us who we are. The sum total of our patterns is our
personality.
Sometimes our patterns interfere with our goals in life. They prevent us from being
who we want to be or accomplishing what we want to accomplish.
Perhaps there are times when you say to yourself, "I don't know why I keep [fill in the
blank]. I wish I would stop."
You could fill in the blank with any of the following--and more:
"losing my temper"
"going into slumps"
"winding up in bad relationships"
"overeating"
"beating myself up"
"making stupid trades"
"procrastinating"
"pushing people away"
"worrying"
"choking under pressure"
In each of these situations, we're recognizing that there is some pattern of behavior
that is not fully in our control. The pattern has ossified: it's hardened into a habit. If
you can identify a pattern that is getting in your way, you can benefit from short-term
applications of psychology.
Brief therapy is about changing the patterns that no longer serve us well. The
second step in such therapy for the mentally well is to ask yourself: What is the one
pattern that is most holding me back from my goals, from being who I want to be?
So what's the first step? To know what our goals are. To know who you want to be.
Many people never travel the right path, because they never formulate their
destination.
So that's where we'll begin in the next post in this series: Figuring out where you
want to go in life. Then we'll take a look at what might be holding you back.
But first things first. Solving a problem will not give you a goal. Furiously climbing the
ladder of success won't help you if it's leaning against the wrong structure.
Brief therapy doesn't start with problems. It starts with goals--and a vision for the
future. Without such vision, we're walking blind through life. The therapy for the
mentally well begins with the recognition that it's time to open our eyes and develop
our vision.
Brief Therapy – Part Two: The Vision and the Goals
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I also mentioned in that earlier post, however, that these techniques are not
the first steps in a change process. Rather, it is crucial to establish goals for
change: to know what it is you want to change in the first place.
So the first question to address in a change process is, "What do you want to
change?" Or, stated otherwise, "How would you like your life to be different?"
The absence of concrete, actionable goals--and a clear vision for the future--is
a main reason we stay submerged in daily minutiae, getting by but not
necessarily getting ahead.
If your life is a canvas and you are the painter, what will the finished work look
like? Will it be a work of art, with a theme and integrity of its own, or will it be a
random assemblage of colors and shapes without meaning or significance? A
painter captures his or her vision on a canvas. What is your vision for your
life's canvas?
Here's a useful exercise that might help you answer that question:
Imagine your death. You have died, and on the gravestone is inscribed an
epitaph. What is written on that stone? What does it describe of what you've
left behind and the impact you've had during your life? Imagine very
specifically what you would like that stone to say.
Now imagine that you've received the results of medical tests from your
physician. No doubt about it: you've got five years at most left in your life.
There is no possible cure or remission for your disease. Within five years, your
epitaph will have been written.
What would you do during those five years? Would you make radical changes
and do things very different from what you've been doing, or would you simply
continue on your existing path at perhaps a more urgent pace? What would
you need to do during those five years to earn the epitaph you want at the very
end of your life?
If what you would do to earn the epitaph is very different from what you're
doing now, you quite likely are on the wrong path. You'll find your proper
goals in the activities you'd stuff into those remaining five years: those, most
likely, would contain the essence of what you would find meaningful, what you
would like to accomplish, what you would want to leave behind.
Learning the techniques to make life changes is really the easy part. The
harder part is knowing which changes you truly want to make and keeping
those topmost of your mind. Mark Twain once advised people to never let their
schooling interfere with their education. Similarly, it's important to not let life
interfere with living.
You don't want to be that person, regretful at the end of life, hurting and
having hurt others. A canvas and a rich array of paints lies in front of you. All
that matters is what you make of that opportunity: to face the end with pride,
fulfillment, and the sense of having made a work of art of the life you'd been
given.
Brief Therapy – Part Three: Becoming the Playactor of Your Ideals
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I was sitting in a waiting room reading a popular magazine, when I came across an
interesting quote from actor/director Mel Gibson. The interviewer pointed out that
many of the actors in his latest film, Apocalypto, had no acting experience. Was it
difficult, the interviewer asked, to work with them as a director?
Gibson's response was that it wasn't all that hard. To teach someone to act, he
insisted, what you need to do is show them how to breathe the emotions they are
trying to portray. If actors can shift their breathing, Gibson implied, they can enter
into the emotional states demanded by their roles.
To be sure, I haven't agreed with all of Gibson's comments of late, but this one
struck me as particularly perceptive. There are approaches to short-term therapy that
purposely increase a client's anxiety, by confronting patterns of avoidance,
resistance to change, and defensiveness. Under conditions of heightened emotion--
particularly anxiety--individuals gain access to memories, insights, and perspectives
that they didn't have when they first walked in the door. By shifting a person's state
of mind and body, the psychologist also shifts their awareness.
Think about the phenomenon of test anxiety. A student can study hard for a test and
know the material cold. Under conditions of performance anxiety, the student tenses
up. Muscle tension increases, negative thoughts intrude, and breathing becomes
more shallow. In Gibson's terms, the student is literally enacting a panicked mode by
adopting the mindset and physical state of the anxious person. Once the state has
shifted, the student no longer has access to what he or she already knows.
This illustrates that the state we're in either facilitates or blocks access to what we
know. Stated otherwise, what we know is relative to the state we're in. Without
realizing it, we are like actors, altering our breathing, our posture, our movement
patterns, and our thought processes to create a convincing enactment. Actors and
actresses, however, shift their states intentionally to generate their portrayals. When
we shift states, it is most often without our conscious awareness.
I submit that access to our implicit knowledge about markets and trading
patterns is mediated by the states we're in during our decision making. If our
bodies are relatively immobile, our breathing is shallow, and our thoughts are
worried, we are hardly creating the conditions by which we would normally
experience ourselves as powerful, confident, and controlled. We fail because,
unwittingly, we enact the role of the ineffective individual.
What if we tracked the states of mind and body that we're in when we're
trading effectively and then consciously made efforts to access those states
through the trading day? What if we followed Gibson's dictum and enacted the
mental and physical processes associated with success? Quite a while ago, a social
psychologist named Kelly invented a therapy in which he encouraged people to act
out their ideals: to play-act the person they wanted to be. He even had them make
up a name, personality, and history of the role that they were to portray.
What he found was that, as people played out their ideal roles, they began to get
positive feedback. This, in turn, encouraged them to continue the role enactments,
which in turn provided more good feedback. After a while, the roles became more
natural: Kelly's clients internalized the roles that they were playing.
We often think that we have to change ourselves internally (our thoughts and
feelings) in order to change our behavior. But what if we adopted very different
behavior and *then* generated new sets of thoughts, feelings, and experiences?
What if, to paraphrase Nietzsche, we became the play-actors of our ideals--and
thereby moved closer to those ideals?
For those who have developed trading skills, perhaps success is just a matter of
finding the mental, physical, and emotional state in which access to those skills can
be maximized. There is much room for self-experimentation for traders inclined to
work on themselves.
Brief Therapy – Part Four: Programming Our Own Experience
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The problem is not that some of the spots on our personal radio dials are
programmed with negativity. Rather, the problem is that we lack full, intentional
control over the dial itself. We change stations, so to speak, without intending to.
What the brief therapies accomplish is a greater control over selecting our own
frequencies: they give us a hand to turn our dials. The idea, after all, is to become
our own trading coach: to develop our own ability to reach our goals.
What creates the "radio stations" that make up our dial of consciousness? Two
things: repeated experience that becomes habit patterns and powerful emotional
experience that is processed as a trauma. Just as some radio stations on our car
radio dials are faint and others generate a powerful signal, some of our states are
weak and some dominate the dial. The more repeated the experience--and the more
powerful the experience--the more it becomes part of your spectrum of
consciousness.
For instance, let's say your desired behavior is to hold onto winning trades longer.
You might mentally rehearse market scenarios of holding onto trades--emphasizing
how excited, happy, and profitable you'll be by achieving this goal--while you are
pushing yourself during a strenuous treadmill exercise. By setting the treadmill at an
incline and a good speed, you will be jogging at a brisk pace and elevating your
heart rate. With repetition, you will begin to associate the goal--and its emotional
benefits--with your body's pumped up state. It will become an increasingly powerful
signal on your radio dial. Then, before trading and during trading breaks, all you
have to do is get back on the treadmill. Triggering your body's shift in state will
trigger the desired shift on your dial of consciousness. You will access the
behavior you desire by intentionally triggering the cues associated with the behavior.
Making changes entails far more than simply engaging in positive thinking or getting
positive images in your head. If you don't change your state of consciousness--and
your ability to shift your own consciousness--you'll be listening to the same
programming day after day. Learning how to shift out of negative states is a huge
achievement. Where dramatic growth occurs, however, is in learning how to create
new, positive states: in becoming the programmers of our own experience.