Unlock Your Motivation - TeensWithADHD
Unlock Your Motivation - TeensWithADHD
Unlock Your Motivation - TeensWithADHD
- Kelly
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Understand
After coaching countless teens with ADHD, I’ve found that their #1
challenge is staying motivated to do the work and finish the entire
academic year strong.
See, throughout the school year, motivation ebbs and flows. Teens
start strong with great intentions of staying organized, on task,
focused, and up to date with their schoolwork.
Then, halfway through the fall, motivation takes a dive, and the
systems and routines they had in place are nowhere to be seen!
Over the holidays, they take a much needed break that gives them
the will-power to reset and try again.
But just like that, spring arrives, and their systems and routines fall
apart at the seams.
Many of my teen clients think they know how long each assignment will take; but in
reality, they don’t.
Getting them past their misconceptions about how long it will take them to study, clean
their room, or do their homework is more than half the battle. That’s why this is #1 on
my list!
If we can help them understand how long this “busy work” actually takes, there is a
high probability they will get it done in less time than they’ve spent ruminating on it.
Client Story
I had a student who was on the verge of failing history because he had 10 “busy work”
assignments worth 5 points each. After we walked through the assignments, I asked him
questions about the work, and he realized those 10 assignments would only take him 20 minutes
or less!
I asked him, “Is 20 minutes worth a passing grade and no summer school?”
He had been stuck in a state of unmotivated anxiety because he thought it would take him
HOURS to get caught up. Lack of specific details + worry + procrastination depleted his
motivation and cost him precious time.
The next day, he turned in ALL OF THE ASSIGNMENTS, and it immediately raised his grade!
Is it worth understanding how things take? This client was a definite YES!
Breaking down work and learning how to chunk it into smaller, more do-able pieces is
critical for motivation. The goal is to make the “hard” work or the “a lot of work”
easier.
For example, writing a research paper seems like a huge task, but it’s actually just a
handful of small tasks that do not have to get done all in one sitting.
They can chunk it up into smaller tasks and start checking them off one by one.
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For those with ADHD, waiting for chore money at the end of the week can be very
unmotivating. 6 days until payday feels like an eternity! Good luck getting your
bathrooms cleaned!
The same principle applies to school work. It is SO important that they get a win as
they check things off their to-do list. And it’s super important that THEY learn to
reward THEMSELVES.
Neurologically, I like to refer to this reward system as their dopamine “menu”. Each
of my teens clients knows what I mean when we talk about how dopamine affects
their motivation and how to get themselves back on “track”.
I always ask them, “How will you reward yourself to begin the work and get it
done?”
Client Story
A teen decides to study Spanish vocab for 30 minutes. It is not his favorite subject, and it
doesn’t come naturally for him. In order to get motivated to do it, he has set his reward as one
game on NBA2K. Do you think the teen will complete his 30 minutes of a Spanish quizlet?
Of course!
The payoff is immediate and appropriate. This small reward is just enough of a dopamine
rush to keep him focused and on track.
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