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Coping With A Breakup

Counselling and Psychological Services (CAPS) provides guidance on coping with a breakup. It notes that breakups involve intense feelings like denial, anger, grief, fear and confusion. It recommends seeking support from friends and family, self-reflection to learn from the experience, maintaining a daily schedule, pursuing new interests, and prioritizing self-care through healthy activities and nutrition. CAPS emphasizes that coping is an ongoing process without a timeline and the most important things are using helpful strategies and not judging oneself for normal emotional reactions to loss.

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Coping With A Breakup

Counselling and Psychological Services (CAPS) provides guidance on coping with a breakup. It notes that breakups involve intense feelings like denial, anger, grief, fear and confusion. It recommends seeking support from friends and family, self-reflection to learn from the experience, maintaining a daily schedule, pursuing new interests, and prioritizing self-care through healthy activities and nutrition. CAPS emphasizes that coping is an ongoing process without a timeline and the most important things are using helpful strategies and not judging oneself for normal emotional reactions to loss.

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Counselling and Psychological Services (CAPS)

Coping with a breakup

Like any major loss, the end


of a relationship is often
accompanied by intense
feelings and grief. Everyone
experiences and moves on
from a breakup differently.

Dealing with the end of a relationship?

The following are typical emotional reactions to the loss of a relationship:


−− Denial – It may be difficult to −− Anger – It is common to feel −− Confusion – Life may feel
accept that the relationship angry towards the person who strange or incomplete after a
is ending or that your partner has caused pain by initiating or break up. You may question
seems to care so little about the contributing to the breakup. who you are, and the meaning
relationship and your feelings. of life without your partner.
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−− Self-blame - It is common to
−− Grief and Despair – It is normal feel responsible for a break up −− Relief – You may feel some
to feel sad and lonely, and to and seek to “bargain” continually sense of relief from the negative
cry after a break up. Times with yourself about what went feelings associated with the
during the day when you are wrong and what could have been relationship if fighting, insecurity,
alone with your thoughts done to salvage the relationship. or boredom was present. It
may be especially difficult. −− Guilt –If you initiated is important to accept that
−− Fear – It may be frightening the breakup, you may ending a relationship will
and difficult to imagine life feel guilty about causing cause some distress and to
without the relationship. You pain to your partner. not judge yourself. All these
may fear that you will never feelings are normal. The more
−− Jealousy – You may
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find love or feel happy again. you struggle with them, the
experience jealousy about
longer it will take to adjust.
your partner possibly being
with someone else.
What can I do to help myself to deal with the breakup?

Self-care following a breakup is very important. Here are some are some strategies to help
you cope after a break up:

Seek support Discard the timeline


Reach out to people who care, and who Coping with a breakup is an ongoing process,
will listen to your feelings and provide and you’ll probably have good days and bad
encouragement. Spending time with others days (or even weeks or months). Remind
may be difficult at first, but will help you to yourself that there’s no deadline for ‘moving
realise that there are other people in your life on’ and that you don’t need to compete with
who care about you. your ex-partner there are no real ‘winners’
in a breakup.
Self reflect
Make a note of what you have learned Look after yourself
about yourself, and what you value in Plan to do activities you enjoy. Get the
relationships for your own self development basis of exercise and nutrition right. It
and confidence. is important to use helpful and healthy
strategies to manage.
Make a daily schedule
Structure your time each day, to help
you redirect your mental energy towards
accomplishing meaningful projects and tasks.
This can boost your feelings of control and
competence, and help to fill the time that you
used to spend with your partner.

Find new interests


Often in a relationship, you’ll share your
activities and friendships with your partner.
While you shouldn’t necessarily give these
all up, it’s a good idea to also develop
new interests and relationships that are
independent of your ex-partner.
Coping with a breakup
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Counselling and Psychological Services (CAPS)


Crisis contacts
1117/CAPS16

+61 2 8627 8433 Level 5, Jane Foss Russell Building Ambulance/Fire/Police: 000
[email protected] Opening hours: 9am to 4.30pm, Lifeline (24 hours): 13 11 14
sydney.edu.au/counselling Monday to Friday Mental Health Access Line: 1800 011 511

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