THE HOLY

MYSTERY OF SEX

Faith A. Oyedepo
THE HOLY MYSTERY OF SEX
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 Contents

Introduction 6

1. God’s Will For Us 7

2. Sex And Marriage 10

3. Sexual Expression Outside Marriage 13

4. Sexual Defilement and its Consequences 16

5. Maintaining Sexual Purity 20

6. Setting Boundaries With The Opposite Sex 27

7. Benefits of Maintaining Sexual Purity 31

8. A Call To Repentance 34

Conclusion 35

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Dear Reader,
I want to congratulate you for downloading this e-book.
This book is intended for both the singles and married, as
the subject of sexual purity addresses both groups. Purity
applies to your singleness and then to your married life;
it applies to a teenager and also to an adult; it applies to
both male and female.
The essence of this book is to help you live a sexually
pure life while you are still single and subsequently when
married.
God designed sex for our benefit. It is not meant to snuff
out our fun, but rather to maximise full intimacy and also
protect us from harm. God designed sex to be enjoyable,
but He also placed limits around sexual behaviour, just as
there are limits around all proper behaviours.
In this book, you will understand God’s design for
marriage and the ways to maintain sexual purity.
I pray that as you read this book with a sincere heart,
you shall be empowered to walk in purity and your life
shall please God indeed.

Remain Ever Blessed!

 Introduction

S
ex is a holy mystery. It is a powerful bonding agent
that shapes and affects the relationship between
husband and wife as nothing else can.
The Bible clearly states that sex belongs in marriage,
between husband and wife. Sex in marriage is unique,
exclusive and wonderful (Hebrews 13:4). It is not just
casual fun. It is not just a feel-good way of expressing
mutual love. It is about two people becoming one flesh.
In today’s world, sexual immorality is spreading like
a wild fire; sadly, this is fast creeping into the Church.
Today, many think that sexual purity is outdated and
archaic and as such, allow all forms of sexual defilement
to overtake them. May you not be overtaken!
 CHAPTER 1
God’s Will For Us

S
ex was designed by God to be engaged within the
confines of marriage. Many relationships (between
singles) get terminated the moment they begin to
engage in sexual activities. Most relationships with great
potentials would have resulted in marriage if the partners
had not exposed themselves to pre-marital sex.
Sex was created by God for husband and wife; not for
boyfriends and girlfriends; or fiancé and fiancée. It is
so disturbing that even Christian singles don’t see it as
sacred anymore.
God clearly states His will for each of us in
1 Thessalonians 4:3 (NIV) saying, it is His will that you
should avoid sexual immorality. There is no ambiguity
in that: God wants you to be morally pure. He doesn’t
command moral purity to deprive you of fun, but rather
to increase your ultimate pleasure in Him for at His right
hand are pleasures forever (Psalm 16:11). He designed
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the sexual relationship in marriage for our pleasure in

Him. So, any violation of moral purity goes against God’s
good and perfect will for your life. Any form of sexual
immorality will hurt God’s name, hurt you, and hurt
others. As the One who created sex, God tells us in His
Word, how sex can either bless us or harm us. His clearly
stated will is that we abstain from sexual immorality.
Please understand that: sex does not equal love, any
partner that requests for sex to prove that you love him or
her is an unbeliever who you should not be unequally yoked
with. You don’t express love by having sex in an unmarried
relationship. God never defines love as the sexual relationship
between a man and a woman. So, don’t be deceived!
A formal introduction or engagement is not a licence
to start having sex. So, even if you have had a family
introduction ceremony, do not be deceived into having sexual
intercourse together. If the two of you have not been joined
together in holy matrimony, it is still termed pre-marital sex.
Sex outside marriage is immoral, and the Bible prohibits it.
So, for Christians, sex outside marriage is not an option.
Understand that, you have what it takes to live above
pre-marital sex and maintain sexual purity. Scripture
says, God brought salvation to everyone through His
grace. You have been given that grace to turn and say
NO to ungodliness and worldly passions. You have been
engraced to live a self-controlled, upright and godly lives
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(Titus 2:12-13).
You have been called, chosen and set apart to serve
God. Every vessel that will serve God must be holy as
Christ is holy (1 Peter 1:16). Your life (spirit, soul and
body) must be presentable as a living sacrifice worthy of
acceptable service unto God. You belong to God, bought
with a price, and adopted into the family of God. This
calls for yielding all you are and all you have to the One
who created you.
God dwells where purity abounds. You cannot be living
in sin and expect God to dwell inside of you. Mother
Theresa said, ’To be pure, to remain pure, can only come
at a price, the price of knowing God and loving him
enough to do his will. He will always give us the strength
we need to keep purity as something as beautiful for him’.
God is very clear in His Word, which is why He said,
you must be holy (1 Peter 1:16). If He wills for you to be
holy, then He has given you the ability and the power to
be what He has called you to be.
Only those who obey God’s commandments can be said
to truly love Him. You cannot claim to love God if you do
not set yourself apart for Him and put your sexual desires
under control. To carry the presence of God, you must care
enough to keep yourself holy so that He can reside in you.
If you truly love God, then obey His command to
remain pure!
 CHAPTER 2
Sex and Marriage

A
ccording to Scriptures, Marriage is honourable
in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers
and adulterers God will judge (Hebrews 13:4).
God designed sex for the sacred union of marriage
between a man and a woman, and reserves it for that
union. Marriage is the only God-ordained way your
sexual needs should be fulfilled.
Sexual intimacy was created by God for the husband
and the wife to enjoy and bring them closer to each
other than they could be with any other person. This is
why it is a bond. It is a blood covenant that binds both
the husband and wife as I explained in my book titled,
Marriage Covenant.
Sex is not marriage, but sex is part of marriage. It is one
of the most powerful gifts God created that is designed to
bring a man and woman together in a physical, emotional
and spiritual bond that would create pleasure, intimacy
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and procreation. Sex in marriage is not dirty or sinful. It

is integral to the marriage relationship.
Healthy sex in marriage builds your relationship,
and a strong relationship will also build the individuals
involved. To find mutual sexual fulfilment, you must learn
to communicate openly about this part of your marriage.
Your spouse will never know your feelings, needs, and
desires if you don’t express them. To experience sexual
oneness as a couple, there must be open communication
about sexual matters.
Sex in marriage should never feel demeaning,
controlling, manipulative or abusive. Never deprive each
other sexually. Some women use sex as a manipulative
tool to get material things from their husbands. This
ought not to be. Only a prostitute gives sex to get money
in return. A husband and wife should only abstain from
sex when they both agree to do so; which should be for a
defined time; for the purpose of spiritual exercise.
Marriage makes it easy to live a holy life without battling
with the guilt of sexual sin. In case you were involved
in negative sexual dealings before you got born again,
you don’t need to live with guilt for the rest of your life.
Some people, even after getting married, feel guilty due to
their past negative sexual dealings. This should not be.
Remember that, so far you are born again, redeemed and
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remain so, you have been cleansed, washed and your past
no longer defines you (2 Corinthians 5:17). Therefore,
free yourself from the bondage of guilt.
The marriage bed can be an accurate picture of what
else is going on in a marriage. God expects married people
to give sexual satisfaction to each other. For instance,
Isaac was found sporting with his wife unashamedly on
the field (Genesis 26:8).
God created sex, don’t leave Him out of your sexual
dealings with your spouse. He is everywhere and He
sees everything. He would not shut His eyes and look
away because you are having sexual intercourse with
your spouse. God expects couples to satisfy each other
sexually and procreate via this engagement.
God is not only interested in your spiritual life; He
is interested in every aspect of your life including your
sexual relation with your spouse.
 CHAPTER 3
Sexual Expression
Outside Marriage

S
exual impurity is one of the major weapons the
devil uses to trap and truncate destinies, both of
the young and the old. God designed sex and set
the rules for it. Engaging in sex outside marriage is stealing
and the Bible clearly states: ‘Stolen waters are sweet, and
bread eaten in secret is pleasant. But he knoweth not that
the dead are there; and that her guests are in the depths of
hell’ (Proverbs 9:17-18). Therefore, caution!
God’s stand on sex is very clear; if engaged outside
of marriage, it is a sin which has consequences. It is
corrosive, and an abuse of God’s gift. Many destinies
have been truncated because such individuals engaged in
sex outside marriage.
Sexual expression includes three factors, namely sexual
behaviour, sexual communication, and sexual identity.
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One of such sexual expression is Pre-marital sex.

Biblically, this is called fornication, which means, a form
of sexual expression that involves two unmarried people.
It is a sin against God, yourself, family and destiny (1
Corinthians 6:18). It erodes great destinies. Rather than
live with the frustration of pre-marital sex, why not make
a choice to remain pure and holy in reverence to God and
in accordance with His Word. Stop it, before it stops your
destiny!
Another form of sexual expression outside marriage is
extra-marital affair. In Biblical term, it is adultery, which
means, voluntary sexual relations between a married
person and someone other than that person’s spouse.
Some Christians try to justify their infidelity by saying
there are Biblical examples of people that had more than
one wife. If you study these examples very well, you will
realise that each of these people suffered the consequence
of their actions. As was the case of David, when he slept
with Bathsheba. He regretted it (Psalm 51:1-3, 10-11).
Also, a proclamation was made on him which transferred
to His descendant, God told him through prophet Nathan
that the sword will not depart from his house (2 Samuel
12:10). What a tragedy!
Sin has consequences. Adultery can place a curse on
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the person involved in it. It is an act of unfaithfulness

that violates your marital vows. The cost of committing
adultery in any form is high. You have to decide if it is
worth it. One of such consequences is, it could lead to the
destruction of your marriage.
However, the good news is that though it has
consequences, it is forgivable. God seeks repentance and
a total forsaking of that sinful act (Psalm 51:17). It is
wisdom to flee from every temptation that may want to
lead you into falling into this sin. Trust God and sin no
more. May you not be trapped!
 CHAPTER 4
Sexual Defilement
and its Consequences

S
exual defilement, as stated in the Scripture, means
to debase the pureness of or to corrupt the act of
sex.

What Then are Some of The Types of Sexual

Defilement?
Premarital sex: This is sexual intercourse between two
unmarried people. This can result in soul ties formed
with the parties involved. It can also lead to unwanted
or pre-marital pregnancy which can cause delay in all
spheres of that individual’s life and alter the destiny of
its victim. Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) can also
occur as a result of premarital sex.

Extra-marital Sex: This is a sexual relationship outside

of one’s matrimonial home. It can also mean an illicit
romantic friendship or attachment outside of marriage.
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This can totally destroy a marriage or break the trust

between partners if ventured into, and many more.

Masturbation: This is the practice of sexually self-

stimulating one’s genitals for sexual pleasure.

Pornography: This is the act of watching sexually

stimulating pictures and/or videos.
Homosexuality: This entails engaging in sexual acts
between same sex individuals. In most countries, it
has been legalised for individuals of the same sex to
get married, and this clearly goes against Scripture
(Romans 1:26-27).

DANGERS OF SEXUAL SINS

It is Destructive

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth

is without the body; but he that committeth
fornication sinneth against his own body
1 Corinthians 6:18

Sexual sin has the capacity to destroy one’s life and future.
Reuben was the first son of Jacob and a very promising
young man, but he laid with his father’s concubine and
was cursed (Genesis 35:22; Genesis 49:4). Samson also
suffered destruction because he defiled himself with the
Philistine woman, Delilah (Judges 16)
From Scriptures, sexual defilement is a sin against your
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own body. It could lead to sexually-transmitted diseases

including gonorrhoea, syphilis, and HIV; Unintended
pregnancy and emotional pain are too often the price paid
for sex outside of marriage. It tears from inside out.
It can cause psychological damage to its victims,
including but not limited to depression, fear, anxiety,
distrust, suicidal thoughts and even death.
It can also lead to interruption of schooling especially for
females as victims are often forced to drop out of school.

It is Addictive and Torments

Many become sex addicts, and unfortunately, then become
hyper-sexual. If not stopped, it has the capacity to hold
its victim captive and manipulates their thoughts. Just
like every other sin, sexual defilement torments anyone
who indulges in it. It constantly torments with guilt, fear,
anxiety and disdain.

Danger of Unholy Soul Ties

Binding yourself in sex to someone you are not married
to is a form of spiritual bondage. For instance, if you have
sexual intercourse with someone that has a demonic
spirit, you could end up with a transference of the same
spirit tormenting that person. It is not unlikely that
some battles that some people are confronted with are as
a result of sexual engagement outside marriage.
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Separates you from God

Scripture states: The wages of sin is death…
(Romans 6:23a). Sexual sin pulls us further away from God.
The good news is: You can live free! Daniel purposed in
his heart not to defile himself with the king’s rich food,
drink or lifestyle and the end result was that he became
ten times better than his mates, and he had clarity of
vision which led to his greatness in Babylon, even as a
slave (Daniel 1:8). The four daughters of Philip were
virgins (portraying sexual purity) and were used by God
in the area of prophecy (Acts 21:8-14).

Feeling of Guilt and Self-Condemnation

When you go against the will of God, your conscience

pricks you. This could lead to withdrawal from God or
withdrawal from spiritual activities. This can be seen in
the life of Adam and Eve when they disobeyed God, they
hid themseleves from God as a result of shame and guilt.
They began to blame each other for the sin committed;
Adam blamed Eve, and Eve in turn blamed the serpent.
However, God does not want us to wallow in guilt and
self-condemnation. He is ever willing to receive every
repentant heart and He wants you to be free to fellowship
with Him rather than withdraw from it.
In case you have been caught in this web, now is the
time for you to return to God before it is too late!
 CHAPTER 5
Maintaining
Sexual Purity

T
he best way to combat sexual defilement and
maintain sexual purity is to flee lustful passion!
Lustful passions refer to cravings, longings
and desires of lust. These fleshly sexual lusts wage ‘war
against the soul’ (1 Peter 2:11b).
As a Christian, even though you are indwelt by the
Spirit of God, you still live in a mortal body surrounded
by worldly amusements.

WAYS TO FLEE:
Spiritually

Let not sin… reign in your mortal body…

Romans 6:12a

• Exercise your dominion over sexual sin.

• Rebuke thoughts of sexual sin when they come.
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• Command your body and say things such as: ‘My

body is God’s temple; I will not defile it.’
• Rule over your desire and do not let your desires rule
over you.
• Nurture your spirit daily with the Word of God and
prayer, and the flesh would gradually die.
• Fast, pray, and follow after righteousness.
• Cease from every habit or thing that defiles your
spirit man.

The power of sin was broken on the cross. Jesus said …

it is finished (John 19:30b). You have the ability to refuse
sexual sin from reigning in your life.
There is a testimony of one, Mr. Adepoju O., who was
held captive by the spirit of immorality for 12 years, even
though he was born again. He desired a change, prayed,
fasted and meditated on the Word of God daily, and then
he was totally delivered. You too can and surely will if you
follow same steps.
Mentally

In this advancing age of technology and gadgets, be

mindful of what you watch, read, see and indulge in.
David committed adultery with Bathsheba because he
saw her naked while walking on the roof of his palace.
As a result, the sword never departed from his house
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(2 Samuel 12:10).
Therefore, flee from corrupt stimulus. Take your eyes
away from sexual images, videos or other sex-stimulating
materials. Avoid lustful imaginations or materials which
contain corrupt and sexually defiling contents.
Unguided or uncontrolled browsing on the internet
can expose you to pornography. People are exposed to
and hooked by sex or sexual images and related matters
through the media such as television, social media and
certain magazines, amongst others.

Physically

• Run away from tempting situations and places.

Joseph fled from defilement when he was enticed
by Potiphar’s wife. In the end, he was gloriously
enthroned; he became Prime Minister in a foreign
land where he was sold as a slave (Genesis 39:6-23).
• Don’t go to the house of someone of the opposite
sex alone and say ‘Nothing would happen, I have
prayed.’ Something very well could; so, flee such
temptations!
• Flee from immoral friends and associates. Amnon
was one of the sons of David but laid with his sister
Tamar because of the advice from his friend Jonadab,
which incurred the wrath of her brother Absalom and
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led to his death (2 Samuel 13). Dissociate from people

who you perceive can lead you to sexual sins. Dinah
disobeyed and went to visit the women of the land.
Shechem saw her and raped her (Genesis 34:1-2).
‘Evil communications corrupt good manners’ (1
Corinthians 15:33b).
Move with people with the same vision, who can
help you flee fleshly lust and pursue Christ. Stay
away from friends who encourage sexual immorality
or feel that sexual sin is okay. Associate only with
godly people. You determine your circle of influence.
• Beware of peer pressure!
• There is a growing trend amongst young people these
days to think that it is old-fashioned if they do not
experiment with sex before marriage. Listen: Don’t
exchange your dignity for popularity!

There is a common saying from ungodly minds that,

‘Everyone does it’. Majority of young people get involved
in premarital sex due to peer pressure. Some think that
it is part and parcel of modernity to engage in sex before
marriage and therefore want to familiarise themselves
with matters concerning sex before they get married.
Some engage just to avoid being laughed at or to receive
affirmation from their peers. Don’t be deceived; Don’t
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blend in, stand out; stay pure!

• Drug and alcohol abuse. There is a high correlation
between alcohol and sexual defilement. Lot’s two
daughters committed an abomination by getting their
father drunk and lying with him; at the end they were
cursed (Genesis 19:30-38). A number of youngsters
tend to become involved in drugs and alcohol.

Truth is: It is very difficult to control your sexual drives

when under the influence of drugs and alcohol.

A brother shared a testimony of how God delivered him

from addiction. He was addicted to hard drugs for five
years and as a result, he lost his job, his apartment and
his car. But when he rededicated his life and found God’s
Word in Matthew 11:28 and Acts 6:1-7, he was delivered
and the desire to take any drug disappeared. Addiction to
anything can truncate destinies. If he had not found his
way back to God and gone for light, the devil would have
made a mess of his life.
• Fashions in clothing. Trending fashion, especially
in clothing, can also lead to sexual perversion.
These days, it is difficult to find clothes that are
not revealing or tight-fitting. This makes females,
especially young ones, flaunt their bodies which
makes them vulnerable to sexual predators that are
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willing to buy them expensive clothes in exchange

for sexual favours. Beauty is displayed in character,
not in clothes. Wear clothes that respect your privacy.
Your outward appearance is an index of your heart!

Steps Towards Maintaining Sexual Purity

i. Ask for forgiveness. First, understand that no sexual

sin is beyond God’s forgiveness (1 John 1:9). The
Scripture record the case of the prostitute woman that
Jesus forgave her sin. However, you have to go to God
in total surrender and He being a merciful Father has
His arms wide open to receive you and wash you pure,
as white as snow.

ii. Embrace God’s grace and power to help you overcome

all forms of defilement (2 Peter 1:3-4). According to
2 Corinthians 12:9, you need the grace of God not
the energy of the flesh to remain pure. Therefore,
rely on God’s saving grace and power to overcome all
weaknesses and temptations of the devil.

iii. Avoid everything unedifying completely (Titus 1:5).

Such things as unedifying textual, visual or audio
material should be completely avoided.
iv. Dress the way you want to be addressed. The way
you appear determines the level of respect people will
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accord you.
v. Go to places dignifying, behave appropriately, watch
your words and actions (Philippians 4:8).
vi. Have an accountability partner. Regardless of your
past sexual dealings, it is necessary to have someone
you are accountable to. But be sure that such a person
also has the same sexual purity goal so as to guide you
positively.
vii.Set boundaries with the opposite sex.
 CHAPTER 6
Setting Boundaries
with the Opposite Sex
Let your moderation be known unto all men.
The Lord is at hand.
Philippians 4:5

H
umans are relational beings; we were not
created to be in isolation but to relate positively
with one another. God created both male and
female to co-exist. Male and female created he them…
(Genesis 5:2a)
Whether you like it or not, you have to relate with the
opposite sex at work, business places, neighbourhoods, social
gatherings, religious gatherings, etc. There is no separate
world for men and women, so you must learn to successfully
relate with the opposite by setting the right boundaries.
God wants you to have friends, and it is not a sin to
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be friends with the opposite sex. The Bible records that

women were among Jesus’ followers during His earthly
ministry. For instance, Mary Magdalene, Joanna, and
Susanna, all accompanied Jesus during his ministry.
Being kind and friendly is Christ-like, but there are
acceptable limits to every friendship. Scripture says,
whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the
enemy of God (James 4:4b). It is important to know how
to relate with everyone, especially those of the opposite
sex. Just as in every other relationship, there must be set
rules or boundaries.
Boundaries are limits; do’s and don’ts. It’s important to
set boundaries that represent who you are and want to be.
A relationship cannot be healthy until clear boundaries
are set and respected. You must define the no-go areas. Set
boundaries firmly, clearly and respectfully and communicate
the same. Be courageous enough to wave ‘bye bye’ to anyone
who does not respect them. Don’t put yourself in a position
where the enemy will be able to prey on you.
Someone said, ‘Lack of boundaries invites lack of
respect.’

Areas to set Boundaries

• Spiritual boundaries: There must be what is
exclusive to God in your life that you should not let
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anyone tamper with. Don’t let any relationship or

thing take you away from God, your faith or damage
your conscience as a Christian (Proverbs 1:5;
Ephesians 4:16).

• Emotional intimacy: In your relationships, be careful

not to be emotionally attached to anyone except your
God-ordained spouse (Proverbs 4:23).

• Personal boundaries: These are the things that

you feel are inappropriate and as such, inhibit your
Christian faith (Matthew 7:12)

• Sexual boundaries: Don’t be sexually involved with

anyone; first, no one of the same sex and only one
person of the opposite sex – your spouse (Note:
not intended spouse). The marriage bed must be
undefiled and you must give no place to the devil
(1 Corinthians 7:1-10).

• Words and Promises: Avoid completely what is

unedifying. Don’t say what you don’t mean or make
promises that can’t be kept (Matthew 5:37).

Setting healthy boundaries may not come easy but you

must keep working at it and not compromise. Don’t set
yourself ablaze in a bid to keep others warm. You must get
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to a point where you make a covenant with God never to

involve yourself in any unhealthy relationship. Boundaries
are all about respect – respect for God, respect for yourself
and respect for others. Someone said, ‘boundaries are a
part of self-care. They are healthy, normal and necessary.’
Remember, what you allow is what will continue.
 CHAPTER 7
Benefits of
Maintaining
Sexual Purity

T
hose who seek to honour the Lord and look
to Him for grace to withstand temptation are
entitled to benefits. These include:

Honour from God

Honouring God with our bodies is not just a motivation

for sexual abstinence for the Christian single, but it is
also the greatest benefit of sexual purity. We receive the
honour of God as we live our lives to honour Him. Our
bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit. We glorify Him
when we live sexually pure. All other benefits of sexual
purity come second to this.
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Living out the Testimony of the Power of Jesus

Christ

Many Christian singles get into sexual sin and make it

look like sexual purity or abstinence is an impossibility.
That is not true. God’s power is available to help the
willing single to live above fornication. Sexual purity,
therefore, is a testimony that the power of Jesus Christ
can help you honour Him with your body.

A Life Free of Shame or Guilt

This is probably one of the most known benefits of sexual

purity. And that is understandable because illicit sex
usually breeds shame, guilt, and low self-esteem. Your
sexual purity is a priceless possession. Guard it with all
your heart.

No Fear of Venereal Infections, Unwanted

Pregnancy or Unholy Soul Ties

After a sexual encounter, people worry about catching

infections, getting pregnant or developing soul ties. You
won’t have to bother about any of these when you live
sexually pure.

Enjoyment of the Honour of Sex in Marriage as

God Designed It

God designed sex and limited it to a marriage union

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between a man and a woman. One benefit of sexual

purity is that you honour God’s design and therefore can
enjoy the full benefits of sex in due course. What better
motivation to run away from fornication! Wait to have
sex when you’re married.

A Life of Integrity, also Making One a Role Model

of Christ

Sexual purity is attractive; it’s beautiful. If you want a life of

integrity, being a role model to others, then pursue sexual
purity. Many people today are surprised to find virgins
or to hear someone admit to being sexually abstinent for
many years. You can be a role model to those, winning
them over with this strength made available in Christ.

Trust in your relationship

Dating or engaged couples trust each other more when

they fight the temptation of illicit sex. When you indulge
in sex before marriage, it can negatively affect your
relationship, even in marriage.
 CHAPTER 8
A Call To Repentance

S
exual purity is God’s will and His demand for every
creation, but it is unattainable without salvation.
If you are not born again, or you once were but
turned back from the Lord and now want to rededicate
your life to God, from your heart, please say this prayer
of faith aloud:
Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a
sinner, and I cannot help myself. Forgive me
of my sins and cleanse me with Your precious
Blood. Deliver me from sin and satan to serve
the living God. From today, Lord Jesus, I accept
You as my Lord and Saviour. Thank You Jesus
for saving me! Now, I am Born Again.

Congratulations! You are now born again and a child

of God. He loves you and will never leave nor forsake
you. Find a Bible-believing church and start attending
regularly so that your faith can grow.
 Conclusion

A
t this point, I want to say categorically, that
sexual purity is attainable and possible, if you
allow the Holy Spirit to take control of your
affairs and relationships. Honour God by living in sexual
purity. If you do, you will experience His blessing and
rewards throughout life, and unto eternity. Therefore,
receive grace to live in such a way as to hear your Lord
say to you at the end of your journey on earth, ‘Well done,
my good and faithful servant’. We shall make it together!
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YouTube

Watch related Youtube videos on the Faith A. Oyedepo

channel. Find Times of Refreshing videos on this channel
such as those titled,
• The Benefits of Marriage
• Maximising Single years
• Flee Sexual Defilement
• Setting Boundaries with the Opposite Sex
• Stand Out, Not Blend In

Books

Read books written extensively on this topic for your

profiting. Titles by Pastor Faith A. Oyedepo, available in
any Dominion Bookstores around the globe and online
on Amazon (https://www.amazon.com/stores/author/
B07MX9D77R), include:
• Single Not Entangled
• Growing in Grace
• Marriage Covenant
• Making Marriage Work
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