Republic of the Philippines

BOHOL ISLAND STATE UNIVERSITY

Candijay Campus

Vision
A premier Science and Technology university for the formation of a world class and virtuous human
resource for sustainable development in Bohol and the Country.
Mission
Committed to provide quality and innovative education in strategic sectors for the development of Bohol
and the Country.

LEARNING NOTES

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GMRC

LORELLE S. CAGANDE
Instructor 1

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Module 3: FORMING THE HEART AND MIND OF GMRC TEACHER
Lesson 3: Me, My Family and the Social Institution

Learning Outcomes:
At the end of the lesson, the student must be able to:
1. identify the positive and negative influences of social institutions on the self;
2. develop awareness of how the different institutions contribute to self-development
and
3. demonstrate appreciation of teacher’s role in self-awareness and self-development.

Introduction

After exploring your values and their importance in guiding you towards the right path,
you will now continue to discover more about yourself and this time you will look into your
family and the other institutions that have contributed to your becoming into the person that
you are now. It is through knowing your roots and striving to be your best that you can become
an instrument to help others become the person that they want to be.

ABSTRACTION

The Family as the Natural Institution

A family is usually made up of a husband, a wife, and children. Nature intended it this
way because when a child is born, it takes many years under the guidance of parents before
he can get along by himself. The most natural thing for the parents to do is to take care of their
children with an abundance of love and affection.

Nature has designed human beings to experience a strong familial bond because
parents inherently desire to see a reflection of themselves in their offspring. You come into
existence as the result of your parents' love, and this is why both your father and mother go
above and beyond in looking after you. They make sacrifices and willingly forego many
pleasures, such as their time, finances, and energy, all for your well-being. They toil tirelessly,
endure exhaustion, meticulously plan, and save diligently, all with the intention of providing
you with a superior education and better healthcare. Nobody instructs them to do so; it arises
naturally from their deep love for you, as you are an integral part of their own flesh and blood.
Therefore, as their children, it is a perpetual responsibility to express gratitude towards your
parents.

The family is the primary and natural school of life (Esteban, 1990). It is in the family
where you learn to practice patience and forgiveness. It is there that the true meaning of
authority and trust is learned. It is there that you learn to serve and give of yourself, to help
and to participate, to listen to others and to appreciate the worth of sacrifice. It is also in the
family that a man learns the art of giving and sharing, of appreciation and dignity, of respect
and affection. Every mother and father work hard to give their children the opportunities to
grow and mature into capable and lovable members of society. Through procreation and
education, the family contributes to the development of society.

If the good of the family is fostered, promoted and protected by society, the individuals
are in a position to grow up to their fulfillment in the best possible environment, conducive to
the development of the social virtues of a good citizen.

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The School

In school, the professional educator is challenged to help prepare the student for life;
to give him ideals; to offer him an "objective measuring rod" or set of criteria upon which to
base his thoughts, words, deeds; to instruct him in an objective standard of morality which
must be upheld and defended under all circumstances. It is said that education is a lifelong
process, schooling is the process of being taught in a school. It forms the habit of learning and
provides the means for continuing to learn after all schooling is completed. Schooling is an
adventure into a larger and more complex environment outside of the home.

Schooling is also a social encounter with peers, with other youngsters of different ages,
temperaments and abilities, and with adults and authority figures other than familiar family
members. It is an opportunity to share and exchange, to give and receive. Schooling is likewise
a testing ground in which you are exposed to ideas and conduct which may agree or conflict
with your own moral values and ethical behavior.

As future GMRC educator, it is best to bear in mind that the best way to inspire the
learner is to let them see the example of a respected teacher. You should never underestimate
how the student scrutinizes your lessons, teaching style, mannerisms, moods, virtues and
personality. The student observes, absorbs impressions, talks about, and remembers his
teachers.

Religion

Religious teachings discuss human destiny, how people can rise above their
limitations, the idea of humans making mistakes and finding forgiveness, and the concept of
Grace, a special gift from God that helps individuals grow spiritually and find salvation. Religion
also values endurance through difficult times, provides guidance on facing challenges with
dignity and positivity, explains mysteries and extraordinary events, including both good and
bad things happening, and encourages people to develop good qualities. Overall, religious
teachings give life meaning, a sense of purpose, and guidance.

The teachers of religion instruct in their lessons and homilies through their example
and the advice that they give; as they console and when they guide in periods of conflict and
suffering. They serve as a noble and powerful force in the education of moral values when
they bring the intellect in contact with Truth, inspire the will to do Good and bear what must be
borne for the love of God and neighbor.

Peers

A child's day is mostly divided between home and school, where they observe and
learn from the behavior of parents and teachers. But, we shouldn't forget the impact of their
friends, who can also have a significant influence on the child. At this stage of growing up,
kids are very attuned to the opinions and pressures of their peers because they really want to
be accepted, especially by kids their own age. They want to participate in group activities, be
included, feel valued, connect with their friends, and be part of the group. This helps them
build self-assurance and a sense of their own worth.

"Show me who your friends are, and I will tell you what you are." Choice of friends
does reflect an individual's values and in the crucial teen years, peers do teach each other.
More often than not, peers influence each other positively; they may even have clearer and

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stronger convictions than adult role models; or they may be more effective in advising each
other to abide by moral principles than parents and teachers who have relinquished their
ethical standards for less noble ideals. On the other hand, they may exert such strong pressure
on a peer to join illicit conduct, that even a confident and morally upright child may find it hard
to resist.

Mass Media

According to Kid's Health, children and teenagers spend four or more hours a day
watching television. That's about 28 or more hours a week. Today, media has come to be a
big part in our society and it seems television shows and movies have become more violent
and racy.

The problem is not television in general but how much time and what kids are watching.
Children and teenagers need to limit how much television they watch and media needs to
enforce who can and cannot watch their entertainment.

According to American Academy of Children & Adolescent Psychiatry study, children

will see over 200,000 violent acts before they are 18. Specifically, children programming
displays about 20 violent acts every hour. These studies have shown behavioral problems
among young kids have increased over the years because of watching violent television.
Some children will imitate the acts they see and use them against other kids. University of
Maine study shows watching too much television can lead to childhood obesity. Obesity in
America have been increasing especially in young children and television is a major factor.
Since kids are spending their time watching television they are not getting physical activity.

In another study (Zafar et al, 2003) it was found out that media can influence social
components of human personality. It focuses on how human feelings and emotions can be
altered or changed. Mass media especially the electronic media and internet are making
young people aggressive and materialistic, promote fashion phobia and vulgarity. On the other
hand, it demonstrated that media increased awareness about political, social, and
environmental issues. It also contributed to the promotion of business and improving
standards of living.

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