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Trauma and Transformation:
A 12-Step Guide
Rivka A. Edery, M.S.W., L.C.S.W.

Psychotherapist, New York City,
U.S.A.
www.rivkaedery.com
The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous as an adjunct for trauma-
recovery.
• 1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable.
• 2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
• 3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
• 4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
• 5. Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
• 6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
• 7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
• 8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
• 9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or
others.
• 10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
• 11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood
Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
• 12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to
alcoholics and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
STEP ONE: “We admitted we were powerless over
alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable.”
CLINICAL APPLICATION:
The end of denial, or the beginning of an

awareness of one’s denial.
Fully understanding how powerless (NOT weak)

the survivor was over the trauma, provides
freedom of the constant need to blame oneself for
it.
STEP TWO: “Came to believe that a Power greater
than ourselves could restore us to sanity.”
Believing that the survivor can get better,
and will be responded to, when seeking
help.
The effects of trauma cannot be

overcome by the survivor alone. Help is
required and is available. This is a step
about hope and possibility for
Step Three: “Made a decision to turn our will
and our lives to the care of God as we
understood him.”
Establishing a primary spiritual connection

to any self-identified source of strength.
What is also taking place here is an
exploration of the survivor’s internalized
Object Relations, and as it pertains to their
personal Higher Power, and by extension to
early childhood caregivers.
Step Four: “Made a searching and
fearless inventory.”
• How far will you go to make peace with your past?
• Towards a reduction of anxiety and depression.
• A personal inventory illuminates one’s shortcomings
and empty spaces inside, so current problems
stemming from these shortcomings do not continue.
• Obsession, worry, and fears contain a lot of energy
that can be turned into positive action: “How did I
get the ball rolling in this situation? What is my part
here?”
• NOT about judgment, shame or guilt; about honest
evaluation for a corrective action plan.
Step Five: “Admitted to God, to ourselves, and
to another human being the exact nature of our
wrongs.”
Sharing personal patterns and “secrets”,

to have them “normalized” by a trusted
person, relieves the burden of secrecy
and shame.
Towards a new intimacy, maybe for the

first time
Step Six: “Were entirely ready to have God
remove these defects of character”.
Considering change.
Letting go of things not needed.
Revealing assets, strengths, skills and

true emotions to be more fully integrated.
Step Seven: “Humbly asked him to remove our
shortcomings”.
• Asking for help, based on an honest,
realistic personal assessment, that also
includes neutral, external feedback.
• Consideration: What is the “payoff” for
holding on to a shortcoming?
• Everyone has shortcomings, and
recovery will have a large void if one is
unwilling to give them up.
Step Eight: “Made a list of all persons we had
harmed and became willing to make amends to them
all.”
Everyone has harmed others at some point in their life.
This is the internal discovery process, for a more

realistic sense of responsibility.
Preparing for interpersonal resolution.
Releasing the burden of falsely-held responsibilities.

Step Nine: “Made direct amends to such people
wherever possible, except to do so would injure
them or others”.
• A personal corrective action plan.
• No longer practicing the same
dysfunctional behavior/character defect
• Empowerment through personal
responsibility for choices and actions that
were harmful.
• The past cannot be undone.
• Responding differently from a new
personal understanding.
Step Ten: "Continued to take personal
inventory and when we were wrong promptly
admitted it".
• Cognitive and behavioral self- supervision.
• Promptly admitting mistakes and achievements,
appreciating growth and making amends when
a harm was committed.
• An alternative to dragging guilt around like a

heavy burdensome duffel bag.
• Clearing out unwanted attitudes.

Step Eleven: “Sought through prayer and meditation to
improve our conscious contact with God, as we
understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for
us and the power to carry that out.”
• Conscious contact with self-identified
sources of strength and empowerment.
• Uncertainty is not a fault, but an

opportunity to contribute to understanding
and growth.
• Asking for guidance where needed.

Step Twelve: “Having had a spiritual awakening as a
result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to
alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our
affairs.”
A promise for a road map for living, not just “surviving trauma”, that
leads to a spiritual awakening and beyond.
How is this done?
By taking one step at a time,
Examining the original wound and giving up inappropriate
responsibility for it,
Owning up to mistakes, character defects, assets, gifts and buried
emotions,
Correcting mistakes by applying a personalized corrective action plan
and finally
Moving forward in growth, love, acceptance, and personalized
recovery.
THANK YOU FOR YOUR
INTEREST!
For more information please contact me:
Rivka Edery, M.S.W., L.C.S.W.
Tel: (646) 691-7771
E-mail: [email protected]
Website: www.rivkaedery.com
Author of: “Trauma
and Transformation: A 12-
Step Guide” (Edery, R. 2013) – Available

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Rivka A. Edery, M.S.W., L.C.S.W.

• 4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.

• 7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.

The end of denial, or the beginning of an

Fully understanding how powerless (NOT weak)

The effects of trauma cannot be

Establishing a primary spiritual connection

Sharing personal patterns and “secrets”,

Towards a new intimacy, maybe for the

Letting go of things not needed.

Revealing assets, strengths, skills and

Everyone has harmed others at some point in their life.

This is the internal discovery process, for a more

Preparing for interpersonal resolution.

Releasing the burden of falsely-held responsibilities.

• An alternative to dragging guilt around like a

• Clearing out unwanted attitudes.

• Uncertainty is not a fault, but an

• Asking for guidance where needed.

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