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 Chapter 1: If Only
I’m sure every one of us goes through a stage in life where we begin to wonder
if we are normal, and what normal really means. Being a geeky, zit faced twig of
a man, I often found myself at odds with the world around me, especially in my
younger years.

Everywhere I looked, everyone seemed to blend so perfectly into the world

around them, and here I was, popping fat zits in the mirror, wondering if anyone
other than my mother would ever love a face this ugly.

I wasn’t trying to be different, or weird, or ugly. I just was. Yet, every fiber in my
being wanted so badly, to NOT be the guy that I was.

“If only I could have huge rippling muscles, and smooth tanned skin”, I’d think.
There were many “if only’s” I wished, dreamed, and even begged God to have a
taste of, yet somehow each and every single time I found myself denied, like a
fork being put into an electrical socket.

Now I write this here and now, because I know that you’ve sat down at some
point in your life; HECK, maybe you are even sitting down right now thinking “I
just want to be normal”. Or maybe you are just wanting to fit in, to belong, or to
have somebody finally see beyond your flaws.

Like you, I spent a great deal of my life looking for ways to blend in, and just be
more like the ideals that I had in mind, for a man that I imagined women must
want, or desire. The fact that you are here, right now, reading this report, tells
me that you too have wondered about what it is that truly makes a desirable
man.

You have probably tried to change yourself more times than you could ever
count, only to find rejection, confusion, and anger greeting you in the process
as failure after failure pounded down on your eager dreams.

But that’s the funny thing. In fact, I am extremely glad that you are here today,

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because while you might not realize it just yet, there’s a reason why you keep
on getting denied, rejected, and flat out pushed around!

This might sound absurd, but I promise you this will all be in your favor by the
end of this report, but there’s actually absolutely NOTHING wrong with you.
Now I know you will deny this, and you will think of 10,000 reasons why this
isn’t true.

You even have a plethora of examples of real life circumstances to back those
truths up. But the thing is, those truths are not your own, and secondly those
truths don’t actually remain true.

Are you the exact same person you were when you were 6? How about when
you were 10?

Probably not.

Why not?

Well, we grow. We learn. We adapt.

You were in stages of adapting, learning, and growing when you got rejected,
when you got turned down, and when life slammed its doors in your face. The
thing is though, that in those stages, you were trying to go against the current.

There is an unwritten rule in life, which many are not aware of. This rule is in
constant motion, regardless of whether or not we actually know it’s there. The
rule is simple.

When the traffic is coming at you, you’re in the wrong lane.

Ever heard that saying?

Well, this saying refers to the ‘resistance’ we feel and experience in life. Now
here’s where everything comes together, because that past I spoke of…the
same past that all of us have, the one of self doubt, crushed hopes, and

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extreme desires to become a completely different person in hopes of being able
to be accepted….

That past is usually what leads to the MOST resistance we will ever experience
in our entire lives…and the irony is that it’s not coming from outside. It’s
actually coming from within.

You might now realize it yet, but you are actually the biggest obstacle standing
in your own way. There’s a reason the traffic is all coming at you, ready to knock
you over as if you were a feather in the wind.

There’s a reason why everything feels so hard. Why you can’t seem to get
women to notice you no matter what you do.
There’s a simple explanation for all of this. It all starts with you.

I’m going to ask you a funny question.

Who are you exactly?

No, seriously, who are you?

You may think you know, but you’d probably be 100% incorrect. You see, most
men I’ve encountered, especially in coaching, believe they are someone they
are not.

Most people, actually have an unrealistic view of themselves. To help you

understand, I am going to take you back to my own story.

Remember how I told you earlier, that I was a dorky, pimple faced twig?

Well, I was, only that’s how I thought I was to everyone else.

When I saw myself in the mirror, and when I thought about myself, I never
actually thought of myself as I was. I actually thought of myself, how I imagined
other people saw me.

In my mind, I imagined people around me judged me, hated me, and just
downright couldn’t stand me. I gave myself all sorts of reasons, physical and

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emotional to explain why people just couldn’t like me. I’ll guiltlessly admit, even
know, that I especially did this with the girls around me.

I took one look at myself in the mirror, and I was disgusted. NO woman would
EVER want me…. I’d think to myself.

No woman would find me attractive. Just look at me…. So pale. So thin…. So

ugly.

The funny thing was, though, no woman at this point had ever told me this. No
woman had walked up to me, looked me straight in the eye, and said “you’re an
ugly, pimple faced loser!”.

Yet, here I was, thinking that this is what women thought.

Of course I thought that because no woman had ever approached me anyway.

In fact, I felt invisible. I felt like no woman would notice me.

So then I started to wonder why. I’m sure you’ve been there too. When
something is going as you want it to, you start to ask why.

But that is where the biggest mistake is made, in HOW you ask. You’ll learn very
quickly, actually how the simple manner in changing how you ask, or even
removing the ‘asking’ part completely, can make a MASSIVE difference in your
life.

But for me, like many of us, it all started there. “Why don’t women notice
me?”… and then it started.

….. “Am… am I ugly?”….

….. “Am… am I to thin?”…..
….. “Am I not outgoing enough?”.

With each new question, there came an answer….

If I’m ugly…. I’ll just work really hard to look better. New shoes, better clothes,
new hairstyles….

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If I am thin, I’ll just work really hard to be bigger. I went to the gym, I worked
harder than anyone I’d ever seen at the gym. People would give me high fives
and tell me I was awesome, yet I still felt like that wasn’t enough.

Well I am not outgoing enough. So I joined a sports team, I started heading out
to bars more.
Yet, the more I did, the more distant women seemed to be from me. I was more
outgoing, I was working hard on myself, Iwas changing in every way I could
possibly imagine. In fact, I was MORE confident than ever. I looked better than I
had ever looked. I even felt more confident than I had ever felt in my entire life.

This lead to me becoming more outgoing in other areas. I decided that I would
not wait for women to notice me, and come to me… but I’d go to them. I’d show
them what it was that they were truly missing.

Now I know that sounds cocky, but I was trying to ‘fool’ myself into getting
everything I wanted, and WOMEN were definitely one of my biggest desires at
the time. I felt like I would truly be a real man, if I could win over a few women.

I felt like I’d be powerful, I’d be everything then…and that even though I was
looking better and feeling better, it all truly meant nothing unless I could use
those new found changes to get the attention of the women I desired.

So out I went. I began hitting up the bars, clubs, coffee shops. I flirted with
countless women. But, much to my surprise, each and every time I got turned
down.

Now I’ll admit the way I was turned down was not the same way as it was
before. Women WERE noticing me, and they were willing to listen to me talk….
But none of them wanted to date me.

Quite a few women gave me fake phone numbers, and the others scrambled to
come up with excuses. I could see they almost felt sorry for me, and looked at
me as though I were some kind of lost puppy walking into the middle of a busy
highway.

Frustrated and confused, I decided it must be the money. Maybe I was too
‘poor’ for them. Maybe they only wanted guys with money.

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I had the looks, I had some confidence building…the only thing left to do now
was to get a good job. That would win them over.

So out I went again, this time, hunting down jobs as feverishly as a starving
madman in search of food. I sent out application after application.

Yet, to my dismay, I got no calls. Employers weren’t interested in me either.

So I sent out even more applications, thinking that maybe I just hadn’t done
enough yet. Finally after months of persistently trying, calling employers, and
more, I eventually started to get called in to interviews.

Many of the interviews actually went well, and I found myself feeling extremely
confident that I’d get a call back. Yet to my utter dismay, once again, no calls.

I started to grow frustrated. I started to wonder WHO the heck it was that was
getting chosen for a job, time and time again, over me.

Who were these people?

What were they like?

Why were they being picked?

That’s when I did something that will probably shock you. I posted an ad online
one day, taking bits and pieces from previous job postings I had once applied to.

I made the offer juicy, I made it almost irresistible. I posted a phony job posting.

Now I know that sounds shocking, and you might even hate me for it, but I just
had to know….who were these people?

What were they doing… what were they saying…that I wasn’t saying?

I got over 50 applications in the first week, but what shocked me, was that
every single one was so bland, so boring, and so dull. Many applications were
put together so poorly that I wondered if some of the people just smashed their
hands onto the keyboard as drool fell out of their mouth, onto their chin.

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Yes, some of them were that bad.

I was shocked.

Then I was mad.

“THESE people are getting hired?!”. My insides were raging.

I couldn’t believe, after all the effort, time, and even money I had put in, to try
and find a job…that slobs like these were getting picked. Some of these people
even had NO previous job experience.

It baffled me. I couldn’t wrap my head around it.

I couldn’t accept it. I couldn’t even BELIEVE IT.

I had seen it, but something inside of me was raging like a thousand hell fires.
Something inside of me wanted to fight.

So in my list of wrongs, I decided that I would go after these employers. I

decided, that if they wanted a completely carefree person, like these other
bozos seemed to be in their applications that I could easily be like that too.
Heck, I could be sarcastic, and as good as a stick on a log too, if that’s all they
needed to hire me.

That’s when I did something even MORE devious. I created the “mother-load”
of all resumes. I kid you not, the headline of my resume, had nothing to do with
who I was, or what I was about.

It read one of the cockiest things I could think of at the time….

“Hire Me Now- HECK? Why Not?”

That was how my resume started… and it didn’t stop there. All convention was
thrown out the window. What started out as a vengeful venture, suddenly
became an outlet for all of my anger, and frustration.

I actually laughed creating the resume- something I had never had the luxury of
doing before. In the past I was always so serious, so determined, so

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concentrated on specific details.

This time, I only had one thing in mind: I was going to mock everybody.

SCREW THEM, I thought.

By the end of it all, I had created the most ridiculous resume that has probably
ever come into existence. Now I am not just saying this. To give you a little
perspective, the words on my resume were shaped like a belly dancers body.
Curved.

Yes, that’s right. Curved.

GONE, were the formal attempts to space, line, and adequately present myself
in a professional manner. Gone were the eloquent verbiages that represented
my comprehension of myself and the world around me in an educated way.
AND, gone were any manners, or attempts to even portray myself in a detailed
and useful manner.

It was hilariously chaotic, and most of the resume involved me bragging about
strange things that I could do, or was capable of. I wasn’t including details of my
job history anymore. I wasn’t formally including the scrupulous details of my
education. If anything, I was leaving a lot to the imagination.

When it was all done, I had submitted this ridiculous bastardization of a resume
anywhere I possibly could think of. In fact, I singled out as many high end jobs
as I could possibly find, and submitted it there too.

I wasn’t going to follow any rules anymore. I had followed the rules before, and
had gotten nothing out of it but sheer disappointment.

I felt like I had finally gotten back at them, mocking them for the absurdity that
was the working world. Surely nobody would ever take me seriously. I knew
that nobody would be calling me for sure, now, but I was ok with it this time.

The next day, however, the phone rang at 9 AM sharp. I picked it up expecting
my Mom’s voice to ring through, asking to see how I was, when much to my
surprise a young female voice beamed through the phone. “Is this Alex

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Carter?”…

“Uh… …yes?”, I hesitantly replied.

“Oh, I am Sarah, a recruiting agent for the marketing agencies sales firm. We
absolutely LOVED your application. The company heads have been raving about
it since last night. Are you available to do a phone interview right now?”.

I stood there, dumbfounded, half naked in my bedroom. “Uh, sure, absolutely!”,

I responded, as shocked and surprised as ever.

And that was just the beginning. Over the course of the next week I received
over 100 phone calls, asking to schedule me in for interviews, to come in and
meet the executives of all kinds of companies, even corporations.

The funny thing was, every single time I came in person for an interview, the
very first thing I heard was “Are you that crazy resume guy? I LOVED your
resume! So refreshing!”.

At first, I couldn’t quite understand it. Here I was, very clearly, mocking the
whole application process in my resume. Heck, the very first line of my resume
was so absurd. Why would so many people be THIS pleased to interview me
after I submitted a resume like that?

It didn’t take long for me to learn why. Many of the employers told me of the
boring candidates, the losers, the duds, the ‘sheeple’ who tried to come
through their company. They had never seen a person with as much ‘initiative’
as I had, and apparently that’s exactly what these companies were looking for.

Turns out, they were looking or something different, and they were more than
happy to welcome that kind of ‘difference’ into their best positions. They didn’t
want duds. They didn’t want average.

Turns out, they wanted something better. Something unique. Something that
stood out.

And, even though my resume was first created to punch these very same
people in the gut, I have to shamelessly admit now that I actually felt happy,

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relieved, and even proud by the end of it all to see that I had FINALLY gotten
through, even IF I had to do it unconventionally.

Now you’ll notice earlier that I said I even had fun creating that resume-
something I was NEVER able to do before, when I was trying to be serious about
it. I could never do that, because I was trying to live up to the expectations that
I imagined other employers had of me.

I was trying to ‘become’ the person I imagined they wanted. BUT, here’s the
key…. In doing that, I stopped being ‘me’, and had become a “sheeple”. I
became just like every other Mary, Dick, and Jane out there.

And it turns out, people HATE that. Forget employers, I quickly learned that
most people hate it when everything is the same. I want you to imagine, for a
minute, now, that every single woman on the planet looked the same.

But I want you to imagine, that all of these women, only look “OK”. They are not
spectacular. They are not overly beautiful. They just look… ‘ok’. Decent.

Now I want you to imagine that these women also talk and act the same way,
but the way they talk and act is extremely dry, and pretty boring. If you try to
talk to them, they just respond with blank statements like “yeah” or “sure”.

So ultimately, you find yourself in a place where you are pretty bored, and even
lonely. Sure there are lots of women around, but they are ‘OK’ at best, and you
find it really hard to connect with them.

Does that sound like the kind of life you want to have?

Does that sound like the kind of CHOICE you want to have?

Probably not, right?

You might not realize this, but employers, are JUST like women. They get all
kinds of applications, proposals, and more thrown on their desk… but most of
those applications are dry, bland, and they all start to look the same.

Worse yet, is what they are seeing is an extremely toned down, dull, and boring
version of a person, that leaves much to be desired.

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The most valuable lesson I ever learned, like I said, is that when the traffic is
coming at you, you are in the wrong lane.

I was literally trying to please others, by becoming what I thought they wanted.
I became a bland, dry, robot. I tried to blend in, by doing things that I thought
would get me accepted.
I played by the rules, yet I got rejected time and time again, not only with
women, but even in the working world.

It was only when I submitted that ridiculous resume, that I realized what works,
and what doesn’t.

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 Chapter 2: What Works
What truly works in life, which includes work, women, and anything in-
between, they are ALL interconnected, is this: your own uniqueness.

Most of us throw away the very parts of ourselves that made us the best, in lieu
of trying to be like others, or at least in lieu of trying to be like the kind of
person that we imagine others must need, want, or desire.

In all my years teaching and helping people, I’ve found that most people
actually do this the MOST when it comes to dating, and relationships. What’s
even worse about this fact, is the reality that most people never come to learn
why it is that they can’t attract a partner into their life.

They end up going through this vicious “changing” cycle, just like I did, as they
try to become the kind of person that they think would please others, and
attract others into their life.

Now it doesn’t just stop here. Like I said, this behavior carries on throughout all
aspects of life. I had this same problem trying to find a better job, which I only
started to do, because I couldn’t figure out why women kept rejecting me, after
I had worked hard to get buff and had boosted my confidence.

I specifically notice that a lot of men are stuck in this cycle, and many men
never get out of it. The problem with this cycle, is that any time you are in it,
the traffic, once again, will always be coming at you.

It will never be going the same direction as you are. So you are always at risk of
being hit hard.

Now the reason, again, that the traffic is always coming at you- any time that
you find it does, in ANYTHING you are doing, whether that is trying to find a
better job, trying to get fit, trying to attract a gorgeous woman into your life
etc…it’s always because you’ve submitted to becoming a robotic being.

It means you’ve given up on the individuality and the uniqueness that WORKS
for you.

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Inside every single one of us, there are aspects that specifically make us
brilliant, make us useful, make us stand out, make us desirable, make us helpful
etc….
Unfortunately, any time you are trying to fulfill the ideals of what you ‘think’
other people want you to be like, you will ALWAYS be suppressing your best
qualities.

And this, is exactly why you face rejection time and time again. This is exactly
why it feel so hard all the time. This is why you struggle to see your dreams,
goals, and desires become a reality.
You struggle, because you try to become more like a human robot. You try to
perfect qualities that aren’t true to your nature. You try to learn new things,
that weren’t a part of you. You try to become a person that was completely
outside of who you are.

I only realized this was true, and that I too was in this cycle, when I sent out that
resume. That resume changed a lot of things for me, and it’s about to change a
lot of things for you.

You see, I didn’t just stop at the resume. After hearing so many employers rave
about how refreshing my resume and application was, a huge realization swept
over me.

That resume was REALLY what I wanted to say. That resume was REALLY who I
was. That resume was REALLY how I felt. Only… with a twist. I added a little
sarcasm and got a bit cocky, as you saw, but it WORKED.

People responded, and not ONLY did they respond, they ACCEPTED. They
APPLAUDED. They LOVED it!

I even had employers fighting over me, when they learned that I had applied
elsewhere. I was getting even better job offers from employers as they
attempted to lure me in, and snag me for themselves.

Suddenly I was more than just some random employee who could do a job, or
fill a position. Now I was something they absolutely HAD to have. I was
something they couldn’t AFFORD to ignore.
This got me thinking. I started to wonder WHY such a rudely sarcastic, and even

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minimalistic resume worked. It was the EXACT opposite of what I had been told
employers wanted. It was the EXACT opposite of everything I even knew,
imagined, or could ever have anticipated employers wanted.

Yet, here I was, standing in one of the best positions life could have ever
afforded me: the choice to pick any dream job, with the best employers in my
city, AND get paid handsomely.
Nothing like this had ever happened to me before, so naturally I laid awake
night after night trying to pick apart WHY it worked. Sure, employers had told
me that my application was refreshing. I got that it was different, but something
was eating away at me from the inside out.

What exactly did I do?

Well, I knew I had done the opposite of what was expected, and that too, in
spite. But why was it working? Why did people respond so well to the unusual?

All my life, I had believed that if you were unusual, if you were strange, or if you
were weird, you would suffer. I’m sure we’ve all prescribed ourselves to that
kind of thinking at one point or another in our life, that ‘strange’ simply gets
denied.

That ‘weird’… doesn’t work.

That ‘odd’…. Has no place.

I of course, will be one of the first to admit that I too once stood in the same
shoes, where I believed that being a weirdo, or being a complete oddball was a
DISADVANTAGE.

I thought about it more. When I was an oddball before, nobody paid attention.

Heck, I had a zitty face, lankly body, and was a complete dweeb. I couldn’t think
of a much better way to stand out, and be different than that, at least, as a
young man trying to attract the ladies.
So why wasn’t it working then? Why was that kind of ‘different’ (the old me),
different from the new ‘different’ that I was presenting in my resume?

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What exactly ‘made’ different work… I wondered.
Armed with a loaded question, and few details to reason with, I decided I would
try another little experiment, only this time, I was EXPECTING the results I got.

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 Chapter 3: The Secret Script
Remember when I said that I had a lot of fun creating the most evil resume I
could ever conjure up? Well, that’s nothing, honestly, compared to what I did
next.
Over a period of the next 6 months, I meticulously plugged away, working on
creating the most ridiculous online dating profile I could ever possibly come up
with. This time, I wasn’t targeting employers.

I was targeting women. I was targeting the kind of women who would NEVER
think twice about talking to me. In fact, if any thought these women would have
any thought about it, it would be to run in the other direction.

But this time, I was going to create a way to get them to desire me in the same
kind of way that employers now saw me: as an irreplaceable opportunity.
I reasoned that if I could impress a city of serious business brutes, that I had
faced the worst of it all. Women, after all, were not as rigid as they seemed;
that much I KNEW.
How did I know this?
Well, I had seen some of the most gorgeous women in my life, tagging along,
hand in hand with some of the ugliest slobs I could equally ever imagine to see
next to a woman like that.

Case in point: women don’t always ‘go’ for what we think, and if anything,they
will surprise and shock us.

I’m sure at some point in time you’ve also seen a woman lovingly swept off her
feet by a guy who made your blood boil, and your toes curl. We’ve all been
there, and while I feel for you, we’ve got places to go, and even better women
for you to meet, so allow me to continue on with my story…..

In the span of those 6 months, I carefully perfected what was to become my

‘secret script’. Sure there were some hits and misses, but I began to see a very
strange pattern emerging in that time frame, as I created my script.

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The script was simple enough, in itself, although an untrained eye might not
understand its true power immediately.
Taking the same principles that worked so well in my resume, I simply switched
everything I said in my resume, to now become applicable in my online dating
profile.

At the start of my profile, for example, I would admit something absolutely

shocking, and socially contradictory about myself. In my resume I had done the
same, I asked employers to hire me- without even telling them anything else
about me yet. It was a ballsy move, but it paid off, both in my work life, and in
my dating life.

Just as the employers had their assistants calling me as soon as they could the
next day, I had women APPROACHING me, for the first time in my life. Yes, you
read that correctly.

Now I don’t know if you know anything about online dating, or if you’ve been
through the trials and tribulations of that realm, but online dating for a man is
extremely hard. Most men never get any replies from the women they do
attempt to reach out to, and most men never EVER have a woman approach
them, and wanting to get to know them.

The online dating world is cold and devious, because it allows women to
crudely and directly turn men down in ways that they would never be afforded
in real life. The whole idea of almost anonymously chatting up a guy online, and
having the ability to choose between thousands of men all pooled into one area
turns some women cold.

It means that until, or unless you stand out in a way that gets a woman truly
interested, and in a way that makes a woman no longer even CAPABLE of
ignoring you or passing you by as she usually would, you will be buried amongst
a slew of anonymous men, all of whom the majority of women would never feel
inclined to notice.
Now while that might sound scary, or hard, IT IS, until or unless you see the
mistakes you were making. As I pointed out with my resume story, and with
every minute leading up to my huge revelation, I had all the effort being put in,
that I possibly could… only…. With all the wrong ideas.

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As I said before, it wasn’t until I saw the power of my contradictory and ‘in your
face’ resume style, that I learned what it is that people are truly looking for, and
I found that this rule was especially true with women, and dating.
In the past, I might have started my dating profile with an opener like “HI”, or
“just looking”, or “I love dogs”, but as you will learn soon, that was the WORST
way to go about attempting to get the attention of women.

It made me blend in. It made me appear to be one of the most boring and
emotionally ‘dry’ men that a woman could ever encounter.

One of the biggest revelations I left with, after my ‘resume’ and online dating
profile experiments, using this controversial technique I had been creating, was
this: I wasn’t who I was portraying myself as.

In other words: the guy that employers, or women saw on paper, wasn’t who I
really was.

I wasn’t this “just looking” guy. The “just looking” guy, on paper, sounded
boring. That was a guy who liked cars, had a steady job, and was just looking to
meet some new women.

Sure, I did like cars. I had a steady job, and I would have killed to meet new
women, but that was the problem. On paper, I sounded about as warm as the
ice caps themselves. I sounded dry, dull, and boring. It wasn’t until I tried
another surprising experiment, actually, that I realized this.

In my attempts to create a ‘secret script’ that I could use to attract and meet
women, I found myself at a standstill. My headline was getting lots of views on
my profile, that was for sure, but I noticed that women were still hesitating to
talk to me, and many still were responding in dry manners as I tried to get to
know them better.

That’s when I started to ask these women about their experiences online, and
even offline. What was it like to be a woman in the modern era, trying to find a
guy that made them feel alive?

Quite a few women didn’t even want to tell me the truth, but some, frustrated

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from the years of disappointment in meeting man after man who failed to
impress them, started to dish out all kinds of revelations, many of which
shocked me to my core.

I began to learn, that for most women, it was a completely different ball game.
On their end, they would see man after man, who all looked the same. On their
end, they would get the same types of approaches, messages, and even some
unfortunate sexual advances that would make our mothers cringe.

On their end, they saw robotic responses. Robotic efforts. Robotic personalities.
They saw what appeared to be a gigantic mass of ‘sheep’ men, who all
appeared to be as useful as a doorknob that was jammed.

Now to help give you some perspective, I’m going to let you in on EXACTLY what
it is that these women had major issues with, and exactly what it is that turned
them off.

True to my curious personality, it wasn’t enough to hear what these women

were going through. I had to SEE it for myself. Some of the stories were so
shocking, that I just couldn’t believe it was true. Were men really ‘like’ this
picture that was being painted by the women I was meeting?

Were we really that bad in our approach?

I HAD to know. Something inside of me was aching to know and understand if I

too was making these grave errors, but to truly know, I’d have to see it in action.
So I set out to create another ‘test’. Only this time, I was going to do something
even MORE devious, and I will apologize in advance, but trust me this
information will HELP you today.

I created a ‘fake’ girl profile, on a popular online dating website. Now, while I
am not proud of myself on principle for being one of ‘those’ people for a short
period, it was all being done in the name of science.

Thankfully I didn’t have to take some poor girls pictures, because I had a sister
who willingly obliged, after I offered to help her find a good guy.

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I put all the usual bells and whistles in, even getting my sister to help add bits
and pieces to her profile, to make it seem as real, and normal as possible. Now
my sister, just for the record, is what some men would consider to be a bit of a
‘tease’. She’s a yoga instructor, and while I can’t say too much more, because
this is my sister, let’s just say she’s always had guys chasing her, ever since I can
remember.

So there we were, with the most typical, girly online dating profile created,
pictures and all, waiting like a shark in the ocean, for our first prey.

That’s when it happened. The truth was confirmed. Message after message
began to pour in, as I began to see what it was that women, women just like my
sister, were truly up against.

For a quick tally, my sister must have received at least 200 “HI”, “Hey”, or
“Wassup” messages…. And that’s all those messages said. There was nothing
else there.

Now you might not realize it, but after the 100th…. “hey” message being sent
over, and nothing else being said, it gets hard to respond. It gets hard to
‘imagine’ a conversation, or to come up with something to say, in return. This is
especially true, when you think of conventional dating guidelines, and
relationship rules which still adhere to the man as the leader.

Here, I was seeing men attempting to lead, but their leads were leaving much to
be desired. I will admit I was guilty of the same thing, in my past as well. I’d lead
with what I thought was appropriate, only, if everyone is doing the same thing,
no one stands out anymore.

To help put this into true perspective for you, I want you to imagine, that every
day in your life 200 different people are talking to you. I want you to imagine,
however, that these people only ever say the same 5 lines each day, and
nothing else?

I want you to imagine this now, for the next 365 days of your life, with no
change, or alteration in this pattern.

Would you grow sick of it? Would you get tired of it?

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Would you eventually become desensitized, and possibly even annoyed by it?

What if you had to do this for the next 10 years of your life?

How about the next 50 years?

I know it might sound farfetched, but this is exactly what goes on inside of a
woman’s mind, when she is approached by men, the majority of the time. This
is especially true, the more attractive, ‘hot’, or beautiful that a woman
physically is.

You might not realize it, but we live in a society where we are trained to act in a
robotic nature, and many of us never actually realize how strange and bizarre
that nature truly is, as we consider that nature to be ‘polite’ and ‘social’.

The problem, however, starts when you are considering any intimate
relationship aspect, because being formally polite and social, will no longer
work. In our everyday lives, ever since birth, most of us have been taught that
we need to greet people with a “hello”, or a friendly “hi”, and that’s how we
start a conversation.

Of course, most of us were also taught that we need to ask how the other
person is doing, as that is the basic social equivalent of brownie points in our
modern world. If you’ve ever worked a job in your life, I’m sure that you’ve
encountered this phenomenon where fellow employees greeted each other
with a “good morning”, and “how are you” every day, as common courtesy.

So where am I going with this exactly?

Well, like I said, it’s all robotic. Most people never get past the same old 5 lines.
“Hi. How are you? How’s your day going? Do you have any plans for the
weekend? That’s nice.”
Rinse and repeat. Sure there are different variations, but for most of our life, we
actually live out the exact same conversation over, and over, and over, and
over… and over to the point where we are almost beating a dead horse with it.

Most of us also never realize that we are stuck in this cycle, or that we are
reliving this monotonous conversational pattern with everyone around us. We

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usually never realize it, because we were taught very strictly, by our parents,
our teachers, and our peers that this is how the world works, and that it would
be RUDE to deviate from the norm.

But the norm, as you are starting to see, starts to get awfully repetitive. It starts
to become robotic, and cold. Most of us never TRULY want to ask everyone
around us how they are, and we certainly don’t always want to greet every
single person around us with a “HI”. But we put on this robotic mask any time
we step into a social circumstance, and pretend to be these socially perfect
sheep.

The problem, again, is that it leaves much to be desired. The same questions
day in and day out, are hard to answer in an interesting way. They become hard
to lead into more juicy, interesting, and valuable conversations.

If anything, this manner of social interaction inhibits us all, especially in a

relationship situation, and ESPECIALLY when it comes to picking up women.
This same manner of interaction can be seen in how we speak about ourselves
as well, and how we portray ourselves to those around us.

For example, how many times, when asked ‘how you were’ by another
individual, did you AUTOMATICALLY, and robotically answer “good”? Every
single one of us is guilty of this. We’ve all blandly answered that we were fine,
doing ok, or were good. That’s what we are supposed to do.

We’re supposed to tell people that we are ok, right?

But the problem again, with this system, is that it leaves little room for response
or real interaction. What is a person really supposed to say, after you tell them
that you are doing “good”? Most people would respond with something like
this: “Well, that’s nice.”, and now the conversation has turned into a robotic
outline of ‘common courtesies’.

Nobody is really saying what is going on. Nobody is REALLY talking. Everybody is
just saying what they were told, and taught was ‘polite’ to say when they were
5 years old.
You can get BY with this method, of using social courtesies in your
conversations. You can get by being a ‘robot’ of society, saying and doing what

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you feel is appropriate… but that’s about it.

You’ll only get by. You won’t really get anything you want, doing this. It’s ONLY
when you step outside of the robotic template that you actually begin to get
results, especially when it comes to reaching people, and WOMEN on another
level.

The major take away of the ‘robotic condition’ we all work within is simple: you
can only EVER reach people, and get to them on a deeper level, essentially,
when you step away from, and outside of that condition.

People simply cannot open up or respond adequately to a robotic set of

circumstances, and women, especially, being highly trained emotional masters,
will NEVER open themselves up to a man who is stuck in the robotic social loop.
There’s one simple reason for that: robotic responses feel like walls to women.
They feel like it’s now unjustified ‘work’ to talk to you.

On their end, it feels like they have to dig and try really hard to REALLY get to
know you now, and if they’ve only just met you about 5 seconds ago, they won’t
be able to justify putting the effort in, thus they ignore you, or simply move on.

To best illustrate this, I want you to understand that every single time you tell
people you are “good”, when they ask how you are, you are not opening
yourself up to them. You are actually closing yourself off. Such an abrupt and
dry, DETAILLESS answer, is simply a blanket statement in disguise, designed to
resolve the question as quickly as possible, and that’s it.

The key, once again, is in the details. A quick, one word response that tries to
cover every basis, such as “I’m doing GOOD”, leaves absolutely no details to go
off of.
Essentially what you are doing when you tell someone that you are good, is you
are shutting down the opportunity to talk about how you are actually doing
further. You are putting up an invisible conversational wall.
Women experience the exact same thing when meeting men, only it doesn’t
just stop with the “hello’s”, and “how are you’s”.

While most men stink at opening up conversation with a women, they are even

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worse at introducing who they are, in a positive light, to those very same
women.

The good news is, it’s all caused by the exact same reason. Just as we are
trained to be robotic in how we interact with others in conversation, we are
also trained to be robotic in how we talk about ourselves to those around us.

Coming back to my story earlier, of creating a fake online ‘female’ profile, using
my sister as bait, I’d like to reveal another reality that women are up against
when trying to meet men that ties in perfectly with this robotic reality.

Now while many men have openers that are severely lacking when trying to
speak to women (1000 “hey’s” later, women are yawning from boredom), what
stood out even more in my experiment was how the men were portraying
themselves.

The interesting thing about online dating, is you are given the opportunity to
represent yourself in your profile. Nowhere else are you allowed such a
phenomenal circumstance to really showcase who you are, what you are about,
and what you mean, than in online dating.

In offline (real life) dating, a woman has to discover that over a period of time, if
she feels so inclined. But the beauty of online dating, however, is you are given
the chance to really impress a woman, BEFORE she even meets you.

Even though the above is true, that you have a huge opportunity to create a
masterpiece of a profile, that would really show women what they absolutely
need from you…. Ironically…. I found that most men failed to do that, and failed
miserably too.

Just as their messages to women were dry, and dull… leaving much to be
desired; their profiles were a CATASTROPHE!
Profile after profile detailed very plainly, in the most boring fashion possible,
the same thing over and over again.

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I can almost guarantee that at least 50% of the online dating profiles that exist
for men online right now, look something like this:

An extremely Generic Headline (it’s the first thing women see, by the way):
Most men said something like this:
· Just Browsing
· Looking for friends
· Just Moved
· M/(age)
· Looking for a great girl
· Something about being horny
· And so forth.

Again, applying the principle you are learning here today, there is much to be
desired, but worse: women don’t have a response to that, except to run far, far
away.

There’s no REAL conversation that is going to happen from a profile that is

saying “just browsing”, or “looking for friends”. A woman takes one look at that,
and assumes that the guy is closed off, or just wants to play games (another
form of being closed off, to a woman).

The worst offender, was of course, the ‘horny’ admittance. Most guys, honestly
speaking, cannot pull off that kind of direct reality, and WIN. The reason for
that, again, is what I’ve been saying all along- it shuts the door to any real
interaction, and women just move on, and ignore those men.

Now, I want to make one thing extremely clear here, right now. Women are NOT
unlike men. Women love intimacy too. Women love to get intimate. But they
are SELECTIVE in who, where, and why they do.

Women have to be selective, because one wrong choice, they could end up
with serious consequences, such as being used, risks of pregnancies, or worse.
Many men do not realize this either, but women have to be selective in opening

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themselves up in an intimate manner, as well, because their ultimate goal is not
to just have ANY guy. Their ultimate goal, is to find THE guy. THE one.

Any guy who ignores that reality in a woman, will almost automatically be
turned down. Any man who does not acknowledge and respect this fact in a
woman, will have hell to pay, honestly speaking. Even if he can make his way
into bed with such a woman, he will end up regretting it later when she comes
after her with the fires of 1000 hells if she feels he wasn’t ‘worthy’.

Then again, most men who ignore this reality, never end up in a situation where
they can even get that far with a woman to begin with, because once again, if
you appear to be a dull, robotic formation of a man, who seemingly blends in
with your surroundings, women will find themselves uninterested, and unable
to notice you properly.

It’s not their fault either, like I said. Usually it’s just the approach that is to
blame.

You see, what made things worse during my ‘fake girl’ profiling days, wasn’t
even the fact that every Tom, James, and Harry was saying the same thing in
their approach, and it wasn’t even the fact that their openers left much to be
desired. What really killed ALL hope, and all chances of these men ever getting
anywhere with a woman, was actually their main profile.

Like I said before, when you are working with online dating, or any kind of
dating- the way you present yourself to a woman, especially when it comes to
first impressions, is crucial.

Most men, however, unfortunately, are as robotic in introducing who they are,
as they are in trying to talk to women.

Most of the profiles I encountered, I could easily recreate here and now,
because every single profile began to show a disastrous pattern.

I’m sure you’ll find this pattern very familiar.

The first few lines of the profile would always talk about their age, name, and

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usually what they did for a living, or one of their strongest hobbies.

So, for example,

“Hi guys, I’m Jason 32 years old, and I work in the oil industry. I’m an
easygoing, fun loving guy who loves to barbecue, hang out, and have a good
time. I love to go camping, and hang out with my friends.”

The next few lines, would usually be dedicated to what the guy was looking for.
So here’s where I’d see guys coming in directly saying what they were after, such
as…
“I’m definitely a romantic person, and I’m looking for a relationship, no hook
ups.”
And most guys left it there, short and sweet. Some guys decided to try and add
depth, but it was all the same by the end. Generic statements about who you
were, that although they appear outgoing, and interesting to you, to write it, or
say it…. They actually are all forms of those “closed doors”, and “barrier walls” I
spoke of earlier.

Essentially, every profile, one after another- didn’t even matter what the guy
looked like, what he did for a living, how much money he had or didn’t have….
Became the same generic statement. Every guy started to look the same after a
while, and their profiles…. The ONE area where they were given the chance to
really hit the ball out of the park on who they were, and what they were
about…. Fell flat on its face.

You might not realize it, but any man who describes himself using common
adjectives, such as “fun”, “easygoing”, “funny”, or basically anything that leaves
NOTHING to the imagination, and doesn’t prove itself immediately, is a man
who will struggle to find quality leads with women.

Because you are telling rather than showing. You are making claims about
yourself and not proving it with enough proof.

Okay, now that I’ve done a fairly good job of describing what a bad profile looks

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like and what doesn’t work, let me get to the good bit and give you the exact
script I used online which worked like gangbusters.

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 Chapter 4: I’m A Weirdo

Okay, without any further babbling, I’ll just share the exact script I used and
break it down into why it worked later. Here you go…

Headline – I am a weirdo
I bet my headline caught your attention. So let me first lay it all out for you...

I am kind of an weirdo...How do I know? Women in the past told me that,

women in the present tell me that & you will probably tell me that in the near
future (If we ever date that is).

Q 1: Why am I here & what am I looking for?

____________________________________

Good question...I am here to potentially find a mate, partner, girlfriend or

whatever other fancy term you can think of.

Q 2: Why would a girl date a jerk?

____________________________________

How do I know? Ask yourself. Why are you even reading the profile of a guy
who calls himself a weirdo? Jeepers.

Q 3: You probably just want sex.

____________________________________

Not exactly. I do not have sex with a girl until 97 days have passed since I've
known her. It's an absolutely strict rule. Why 97 days? Well it's a long story...

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If you are sane enough to message a real weirdo here are some rules to follow -

Rule 1- All my conversations will either make you awfully joyful or painstakingly
mad. Only contact me if you can handle it.

Rule 2- I am like a real life "Energizer Bunny" so I expect a lot of energy in

return. I can't stand lame, boring responses such as Hi, How are you, How's life,
What's up? Well the sky is up...Go figure.

Rule 3- Do not talk about sex. Don't ask me why, but it's a rule is strictly follow.

Rule 4 - Don't contact me to tell me I am weird. I already know that, no need to

remind me again.

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IMPORTANT - DO NOT CONTACT ME IF...
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1- If you currently own or have owned a dog in the past.

2- If you have been on a date with more than 3 men from this website.

3- If you are a stalker.

4- If you got a boob job done and have a picture flaunting your tits on your
profile.

5- If you dress up like a barbie with a lot of makeup.

---------------

If you have properly read the above instructions & feel you meet the required
criteria. You may message me any time & I'd welcome you like a fat kid
welcomes a cheese cake.

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Okay, I bet you’re already chuckling after reading that profile and so far, I don’t
think it should be a big surprise as to why this profile worked so well.

Before I used this script, I used to message a ton of women and barely one or
two used to respond. However, after using this script, I didn’t even have to
message any woman and each time I’d log in, I had tons of messages from quite
a few women telling me that I am the most interesting guy on the entire dating
site and many similar compliments.

So why did this script work so well? Well I used a psychological formula which
intrigued them so extremely that they were forced to message me. Let me
break it down into steps for you…

Step #1: I used the shock factor to get their attention -

As I’ve already talked about how robotic most guys are online and how their
profiles are bland/boring at best. What I basically did was go in the other
direction and do something no guy was willing to do.

So, I used something called the shocked factor which forced every woman to
pay attention. I mean, it’s not daily that you get a profile where a guy is openly
calling himself weird. So that basically interrupted the pattern women are used
to on a dating site.

This simple thing made me stand out and got instant attention from every girl
who came across my profile.

Step #2: I psychologically forced a question to erupt in their minds –

As you read some of the initial statements in my profile, you’d see that I’ve
made some statements which instantly lead to a “why” question in the mind of
anyone reading it.

I got a ton of women asking me why I wasn’t going to have sex with them for 97
days and plenty more asking me what’s wrong if a girl has a dog or owns a dog.

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You see, statements like these made most women feel an extreme level of
intrigue and that made them message me.

However, now you must be wondering how I respond to those questions? Well,
for the sex one, I just tell them that it’s a very long story and I’d like to talk
about it with them when I get to know them a little more. Next, I ask them to
give me their number, so that I can tell them some of this story.

I usually open a loop by telling them that I met a very nice girl a few months
back and sex completely ruined the deal between me and her. However, I would
never tell them the complete story. This kept them engaged even longer.

And for the dog one, I’d usually tell them that my ex had a dog and the dog
became a reason for our breakup. When they ask me why, I’d respond by saying
– Well, because she started to love the dog more than she loved me.

I used to twist it even further by saying that girls get dogs because they want
unconditional love, so indirectly they are saying that men aren’t capable of
offering such love.

This used to get me well on my way to a very deep conversation with them and
sometimes even an argument. However, this would always used to get me
started on the right foot to take things further.

Step 3 – I tricked them into thinking that I am in the chooser position –

The last 5 questions of the profile are the qualifying tests. I am basically letting
women know that if they don’t match my standards, then I won’t even respond
to their messages.

So in a way, I am making them prove their worth to me even before they

message me. I mean, I don’t think I’ve ever seen a guy doing this on a dating
website. It’s usually the guys doing all the chasing, hoping that a girl would
message them back.

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But just by flipping this and turning the odds in my favor, most women went
absolutely crazy. You see, women aren’t used to getting this kind of treatment
online. No guy ever bothers to challenge them the right way.

However, by operating in this fashion, their intrigue level goes through the roof
and they literally chase after you, because they aren’t going to find another guy
who has the guts to do such a thing.

Okay, now that you’re at the end of this report, I hope you got a lot of value out
of this and I seriously hope that you give this a shot as fast as possible and get
the same kind of results that I got using this script.

Good luck.

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