BDSM CHECKLIST
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Name: (Examples: John, Sally, Sir Domly Dom, Kitty)
Role Identified As: (Examples: Submissive, Dominant, Switch, Sadist, Masochist, Fetishist)
Specific Fetishes: (Examples: Foot Fetish, Leather, Pain, Medical, Shibari)
Pain Tolerance: (Examples: 0=no pain, 5=medium, 10=extreme pain)
Experience Level: (Examples: In Months / Years, Beginner, Extensive)
Sexual orientation: (Examples: Straight, Gay / Lesbian, Bi-Sexual, Bi-Curious)
Any Medical Conditions? (Examples: Heart problems, Peanut Allergy, Diabetic, STDs)
Any Physical or Mental Limitations? (Examples: Bad Knee, Abandonment Issues)
Note for Interest Ratings: Mark as applicable such as if you identify as submissive it is not necessary to declare you do not enj
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SEX
EXPERIENCE INTEREST (R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=
SEX
NONE, BEG, INT, ADV Hard Limit Tolerate
Vaginal Sex
Anal Sex
Oral Sex
Breast Sex
Genital Stroking / Rubbing
Fingering
Fisting
Kissing
Licking
Rimming / Anal Licking
Vaginal Toys
Anal Toys
Teasing
Massage
Petting / Stroking Hair
Sexual Body Fluids - Wearing
Sexual Body Fluids - Consuming
Spitting - external
Spitting - In mouth
Double Penetration - Human
Double Penetration - Toys
Triple Penetration - Human
Triple Penetration - Toys
Threesome - M, F, F
Threesome - M, M, F
Threesome - All same Sex
Gang Bang
BONDAGE
EXPERIENCE INTEREST (R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=
SEX
NONE, BEG, INT, ADV Hard Limit Tolerate
Full Body
Mental
Restraint 0-1 hour
Restraint 3+ hours
Restraint full day or overnight
Leather Restraints
Metal Restraints
Rope
Intricate Rope / Shibari
Suspension - Upright
Suspension - Horizontal
Suspension - Inverted
Genital Bondage
Mummification
Containment (Caging / Cells)
Predicament
Gags
Sensory Deprivation
Chastity Devices
S&M
EXPERIENCE INTEREST (R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=
SEX
NONE, BEG, INT, ADV Hard Limit Tolerate
Spanking
Face Slapping
Biting
Nipple Torture
Genital Torture
Punching / Beating
Bruising
Scratching
Hair Pulling
Pinching
Choking - Windpipe
Choking - Arterial
Breath Play
Water Torture
Smothering
Trampling
Fire Play
Bastinado (feet torture)
Abrasion
Cupping / Suction
Needle Play
Piercing
Knife Play (non-cutting)
Cutting
Electric Play
Ice / Cold Play
Hot Wax Play
Tickling
Wrestling
Humiliation (private)
Public Humiliation
Dilation - Vaginal
Dilation - Anal
Verbal Abuse
Branding
Cell Popping / Micro Branding
Injections
Scarification
Tattooing
Enemas
Catheterization
Urethral play (includes sounding)
Gagging (fingers or similar means)
Gagging During Oral
POWER PLAY - D/S
EXPERIENCE INTEREST (R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=
SEX
NONE, BEG, INT, ADV Hard Limit Tolerate
Begging
Housework
Orders
Body Pose / Position Protocol
Behavior Restriction
Eye Contact Restriction
Speech Restriction / Protocol
Bathroom Use Control
Crawling
Forced Exercise
Forced Masturbation
Forced Orgasms
Clothing Chosen
Forced Nudity
Food Chosen
Collar and Leash
Dirty Talk
Lecturing
Hypnosis
Boot Blacking
Public Play
Discreet Public Play (less obvious to others)
Orgasm Control / Denial
Struggling / Resistance
Feet / Leg Worship
Genital Worship
Manicures
Competition
Journal / Blogging Duty
Body Weight Control
Serving as Furniture
Serving as Art
Serving as Ashtray
Serving as Toilet
Forced Bi-Sexuality
Symbolic Jewelry
Sleeping Conditions Chosen
Chauffeuring
ROLE PLAY
EXPERIENCE INTEREST (R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=
SEX
NONE, BEG, INT, ADV Hard Limit Tolerate
Boss / Secretary - (Employee)
Teacher / Student
Damsel In Distress
Kidnapping
Doctor - Nurse / Patient
Parent / Child (Ex: Daddy / Daughter)
Interrogation
Age Regression
Adult Baby
Prison Scenes
Serving as Maid
Prostitution / Given Away
Initiation / Ritual
Punishment Scenes
Religious Scenes
Vampire Scenes
Rape Scenes
Puppy Play
Cat Play
Pony Play
Furries
Cosplay
Living Doll
Cuckold Scenes
Auction Scenes
Breeding / Impregnation
FETISH
EXPERIENCE INTEREST (R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=
SEX
NONE, BEG, INT, ADV Hard Limit Tolerate
Leather
Latex / Rubber
PVC
Lingerie
Feet / Shoes
Boots
Gloves
Smoking
Oral Fixation
Uniforms
Voyeurism
Corsets
Medical
Cross Dressing
Forced Feminization
Strap-On Play
Lolita
Mature
Fur
Lactation
Food Play
Menstruation
Being Recorded
Exhibitionism
Fear / Threatening Play
Crying / Being Brought to Tears
Abandonment
Acrotomophilia (amputees)
Barosmia (smells)
Shaving
Shibari
Erotic Dancing
Piercings
Tattoos
Body Modification
BodyBuilding
Bukake
Zentai
Diapers
Golden Showers (urine)
Blood Play
Vomit
Scat (bowel movements)
BDSM - GEAR
EXPERIENCE INTEREST (R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=
SEX
NONE, BEG, INT, ADV Hard Limit Tolerate
RESTRAINT / RESTRICTIVE
Belts / Leather Straps
Hemp Rope
Nylon Rope
Cotton Rope
Chains
Collars
Posture Collars
Leather Cuffs
Handcuffs
Metal Shackles
Thumb Cuffs
Toe Cuffs
Stocks
Spreader Bars
Locks
Blindfolds
Hoods
Masks
Earplugs / Ear-muffs
Gas Masks
Body Bags / Sleepsacks
Vacuum Beds
Chastity Belts / Devices
Harnesses
Plastic Wrap
Bandage / Medical Wrap
Casts
Single Armbinder
Bondage Opera Gloves
Cockrings
Sex Slings
Leashes
Straight Jackets
Cages / Cells
Gags - Ballgag
Gags - Cloth
Gags - Tape / Bandage
Gags - Bit
Gags - Penis
Gags - Open Mouth / Ring
Gags - Inflatable
Gags - Dildo
Gags - Muzzle
Nose Leashes
Nose Hooks
IMPACT / SENSORY
Clothespins
Canes
Paddles
Slappers / Straps
Crops
Floggers
Single Tail Whips
Cat-O-Nine-Tails
Dragon Tails
Clubs
Violet Wands
E-Stim Kits
Nipple Clamps - Adjustable
Nipple Clamps - Clover
Nipple Weights
Labia Clamps
Genital Weights
Ball Crushers
Scrotum Parachutes / Stretchers
Anal Hook
Vaginal Hook
Vibrators - Insertable
Vibrators - Wands
Dildos
Anal Plugs
Animal Tail Anal Plugs
Anal Beads / Balls
Speculums
Urethral Sounds
Wartenberg Pinwheels
Bells
Strap-On Harnesses
Feathers / Ticklers
Guns
Knives
Claws
Mirrors
Sex Machines - Handheld
Sex Machines - Stationary
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Curious Enjoy Love
BONDAGE
R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=Partner, M=Myself)
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Curious Enjoy Love
S&M
R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=Partner, M=Myself)
NOTES
Curious Enjoy Love
WER PLAY - D/S
R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=Partner, M=Myself)
NOTES
Curious Enjoy Love
ROLE PLAY
R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=Partner, M=Myself)
NOTES
Curious Enjoy Love
FETISH
R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=Partner, M=Myself)
NOTES
Curious Enjoy Love
DSM - GEAR
R=Receiving, G=Giving, P=Partner, M=Myself)
NOTES
Curious Enjoy Love
TRAINT / RESTRICTIVE
MPACT / SENSORY
NOTES - DECLARATIONS
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