Be Bold
Be Bold
Be Bold
6. Enter a state of
strong positive emotion.
To become receptive to new ideas, you must first get positive.
From this place, you can begin repeating your desired
characteristics in your mind, or aloud like a mantra.
Lady Gaga describes it like this: “And it’s not yet; it’s a lie. You’re
saying a lie, over and over and over again. And then one day the
lie is true.” Initially her circumstances did not reflect what she
was saying, and that’s how it’s going to be when you start doing
this kind of work. You have to live in that faith. You have to
believe it and know it. There has to be a certainty behind the
beautiful lies you keep repeating to yourself every day, the ones
about what you want your life to be.
7. Forgive yourself.
If your confidence is down, you might beat yourself up for not
being stronger, for the role you played in the toxic situation, or
for choosing a relationship with someone who hurt you. Aim to
understand the roots of your actions and forgive yourself. It’s only
human.
8. Recognize confident
role models.
The best way you can pinpoint positive role models is to think about
the people you know who embody positive behaviors. These are
people who are credible, accountable and service-oriented, who
have solid character and seem trustworthy.
Once you identify the people in your own life who exhibit spark
behavior, you have to develop and nurture these relationships.
Engage the people you admire and respect on a consistent basis,
whether through conversations over coffee or ongoing email
exchanges. One colleague of ours makes it a point to schedule two
lunches each month with different people she admires. Her
conversations with them don’t hsve an agenda; this is simply her
way of maintaining the relationships she’s worked so hard to build.
So recognize that your memory does not always provide you with
accurate information. For example if you have low self-esteem,
your brain tends to store information that confirms your lack of
confidence. That will be all you remember about a specific event.
How to make it work for you: Revisit the facts of a memory loaded
with self-limiting beliefs and try to gain a more accurate
perspective on the event. Talk with others that might have a
different perspective.
Sometimes all you need is a jam to pick you up out of your rut.
Start with this playlist—we’ve mixed a little new with a little old,
some upbeat tunes with some smooth jams.
The fact is, most of your comparisons are unfair because you have
a tendency to compare…
How to Be Bold
“Begin, be bold and venture to be wise.”
Horace
If you're shy, hesitant, or passive, you run the risk
of leading a boring life marked by routine and
unfulfilled goals. Most progress has been led by
people who were bold–scientists, political servants,
artists, and others who didn't wait for opportunities;
they created opportunities. So if you want to be bold
and unstoppable, here are some ways to kick start
your momentum.
1. Pretend you're already bold.
If you were to switch places with somebody who is as
bold as bold can be, what would they do in your
shoes? If you already know someone who's bold,
imagine how they'd act. If you don't know anyone like
that, think of a character from a movie or book
who's daring and brave. Spend one hour a day or one
day a week pretending to be them.
When you do this, go somewhere that people don't
know you and won't act surprised when you do things
that are out of character. Go through the motions
and see what happens — you might discover that
amazing things happen when you're bold, and you
might be convinced to carry this bold behavior into
your everyday life.
expected of you.
5. Take risks.
There's a difference between being reckless and
accepting risks. Reckless people don't accept risks…
they don't even think about them. A bold person, on
the other hand, is well aware of the risks, and has
decided to go through with the decision anyway,
ready and willing to accept the consequences if things
don't work out.