OPENING ACTIVITIES

MANAGEMENT BOX

PHOTO LANGUAGE
a.How did you feel while sharing your past and
present experiences in life?

b.What were the common challenges/ life issues

which the members of your group are currently
facing/ undergoing?
c. Based on your experiences, what would you say
is your group’s guiding philosophy on:
1. Life 3. Happiness
2. Work 4. Success
d. Based on your experiences, what would you say is
your secret to success?
 Often, what you bring to
work, not just what your
work brings you that makes
your role exciting,
meaningful and challenging!

Inner influences leaves

imprint on you and your
entire life…
 4 KEY DIMENSIONS OF THE INNERWORLD OF MANAGEMENT :
EFFECTIVENESS

Manage your own Manage your need for

SELF-ESTEEM DIRECT CONTROL
• Derive satisfaction from • Over people and results
the things you are
supposed to do

Manage your own Manage your

need to be LIKED CONSTRUCTED SELF
• Does not interfere with • Build on and optimize
performing you role strengths and work
through limitations
 ISSUE 1: MANAGING SELF-ESTEEM
Sense of liking yourself, liking
Inner attitude of self-respect, a how you relate to others, feeling
sense of personal worth, and a personally secure and not
state of valuing yourself having to prove yourself with
external displays or symbols

SELF-ESTEEM
Involves not allowing others to
diminish your personal sense of
self-worth
 Remember…
“Other people’s reactions towards you, tell you
more about themselves than about you. It
reveals to you their values, standards,
expectations and priorities.”

Another way of managing self-esteem is by

feeling OK
4 LIFE POSITIONS
 What do you think?

“First impression is lasting!

Primacy Effect is based on
initial perceptions of your self
projection.
1.APPEARANCE
2. BEHAVIOR
3. NON-VERBAL
COMMUNICATION
L – Listen
I - gnite a positive interaction with a welcoming smile,
a handshake or a warm greeting.
K - now people and call the by name.
E - xpress genuine interest in people
A - lways think before you act
B - uild positive relationships
L - end a helping hand, whenever possible
E - xpress more appreciation than criticisms & objection
 KNOW DON’T KNOW

1 3
Open Area Blind Area
(Public Self) (Blind Spot)

2 4
Hidden Area Area of Potential
(Private Self) (Unknown)
 The amount of control
you are able to exercise
over your environment
defines how “powerful”
you are.
 Managing your own need for
control requires you to accept a
“decreasing degree of direct
control over how work is
accomplished” as well as
decrease in your desire “to be
involved in everything”
Six (6) Ego
States of a
Person
Nurturing Parent (P)
The Adult (A)
The Critical Parent
“Not everybody is going to like you
no matter how hard you try…
• You cannot please everybody…

“The measure of your performance is

not so much popularity as much as
effectiveness in attaining results…this
however, should not be used as an
excuse to be abrasive, arrogant and
overbearing”
 CONSTRUCTED SELF
INCLUDES YOUR ATTITUDE ABOUT
YOURSELF AND YOUR PERCEPTIONS
ABOUT SEVERAL ASPECTS OF YOURSELF.
 FACTORS INFLUENCING
CONSTRUCTED SELF

P • PARENTING STYLE

I • INTERACTION

E • EDUCATION

C • CULTURE

E • EXPERIENCES

S • SELF-TALK
 1. Parenting Style
• Your first teachers are your own parents and
other significant others in your environment.
Your personality and how you carry yourself
reflects how they influenced you.(perceptions &
values)

• Children learn to act or behave like an adult by

looking at or observing their elder’s behavior
 2. INTERACTION
•Interaction with others and our experiences
shapes our - -

ATTRIBUTIONS SELF-EFFICACY

• Our perceptions • Our belief in our

of the causes capacity to
and effects of perform in a
our failures specific situation
or to do a
specific behavior
“We are shaped by those
who love us and those
who refuse to love us”
 3. Education

Your education
shapes who you
are and how
you think and
view the world.
 4. Culture
• Refers to patterns of behavior, attitudes,
values, beliefs, and traditions that occur
within an organization or group of people.

The culture
of our group
who we are
and what we
become.
 HE WORKS, SHE WORKS
BUT WHAT DIFFERENT
IMPRESSIONS THEY MAKE
 DOUBLE STANDARDS AT WORK
SITUATION MEN WOMEN
A solid Hmmm, her
Family Picture
responsible family will come
on the Desk
man! 1st

Obviously a Obviously a
Desk is cluttered hard worker and disorganized
a busy man scatter-brain

Talking with co- Discussing the Must be

workers latest deal gossiping

Not at the Must be at a Must be at the

desk/table meeting ladies room
 HE WORKS…SHE WORKS
SITUATION MEN WOMEN
Not in the Meeting with Must be out
Office customers shopping

Must be
Lunch with He’s on his
having an
the BOSS way up!
affair!

He’ll improve
Boss She’ll be very
his
criticizing upset!
performance.

Did he get
Unfair deal Did she cry?
angry?
 HE WORKS…SHE WORKS
SITUATION MEN WOMEN
She’ll get
He’ll get more
Getting married pregnant and
settled.
leave

She’ll cost the

He’ll nee d a office money in
Having a baby
raise. maternity
benefits

Going on It’s good to his What does her

business trip career. husband say?

He recognizes a
Leaving for a Women are
good
better job undependable.
opportunity.
 5. Experiences
• PAST & PRESENT EXPERIENCES (Knowingly or
unknowingly) have a significant influence on
your constructed self.
• If you experienced a lot of difficulties in your
growing up years, any problem you meet is
just another challenge; failures become mere
setbacks and opportunities for learning
 6. Self-Talk
• What we expect, believe and tell ourselves
what we can accomplish.
 6.1. Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
• Break away from the destructive effects of
negative feelings, thoughts, ideas or
perception

• Reshape outlook and create a positive self-

fulfilling prophecy that will enhance your
image, strengthen confidence and support
your goals.
 Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
• Nobody is perfectly competent. There are
times when your actions, plans, decisions are
bound to be less successful.

• Mistakes and failures can happen, but these

are part of our investment in continuous
learning and improvement.
 6.2 Self-imposed Limitations
PROGRAM YOU FOR FAILURE OR FOR LIMITED
SUCCESS

Example:

I will only aspire for ________ because I am only

a __________; I will never be able to _________
because I am only a _____________.
 WAYS TO CHANGE NEGATIVE
LIMITING BELIEFS

Imagineering
Experimenting
Affirming
 Imagineering
• Generate the mental picture of what you want
to be or do, condition your inner-self to
accomplishing and fulfilling these goals.

• MENTAL “PSYCHING UP”

 Experimenting
• Do not stop at imaging what you can do.
Proceed to put it immediately to a test.
– Help you to select ideas to improve what you are
wishing for
– Help you present new procedures of doing things
– Make you realize more satisfying effects of the
freedom that lead you to discover new ways of
doing things
 Affirming
• Consists of positive statements or self-talk
which inspire, encourage and energize you.
 To be personally effective
you have to be like an
ARCHITECT
continuously enhancing and
strengthening your
constructed self.
Use ARCH as your daily guideline…
 Accept failures and mistakes and
bounceback
• Your failures can become fertilizers which will
enrich your self-knowledge and enhance your
skills for improved effectiveness and success.
• Realize that we all make mistakes. The KEY to
success is
– ACCEPTING that you made a mistake
– EXAMINING these mistakes
– LEARNING from them
“TURN YOUR SCARS INTO STARS”
“ALL PENCILS HAVE ERASERS”
 Realign and Refrain …
1. Focus and build on your strengths, while
recognizing your limitations.
2. Place goals where you can review them
several times each day.
3. Develop plan and implement it.
 Convert negative thoughts…
• Your mind can be your worst enemy. Your
memory bank often carries damaging, self-
defeating words and phrases. These images
and put downs diminishes your self-esteem,
undermines your self-image and demolishes
your self-confidence.
“LIKE VULTURES WHICH FEED ON THE
NEGATIVE PARTS OF YOU.”
 Convert negative thoughts…

NEED TO DEVELOP MOOD CONTROL

• Psychomotor skill of maintaining positive emotion
in whatever situations you encounter.
• Reframing a situation by changing your
interpretation and looking at it from another point
of view or perspective.
• Negative feelings (anger, frustration, fear, grief)
block and drain your energy flow. These clouds
judgment and sometimes can even immobilize you.
 Have a VISION
• The picture/image of the future you intend to
create. It can be characterized as an explicit
assumption matched with powerful and
exciting images.
 Have a VISION
• Your vision of the future is your
comprehensive personal statement which will
capture what you really want to happen in
your life and in your career.
“VISION without action
is merely a DREAM,
ACTION without vision
merely PASSES THE
TIME, VISION with
action creates the
future and CHANGES
THE WORLD.”
“Take it one day at a time, then, one day ---you
will find that you have finally become ---
MASTER of your inner world”
THANK
YOU!
 Narration:
You know many times in life
We all hear the voice of temptation
to be small, to be little, to be mediocre
Not to be the Grand Being
That we are meant to be
But if we don’t answer that voice
If we just wait for a moment
Another voice is soon to follow
A voice that calls us to get up
to take up our bed and to raise
Yes, let’s do that.
 I
The temptation comes upon me
To be the little me
To give up all my hopes and dreams
Of who I want to be
The temptation gathers round me
To live my living life to live within the prisons
I have built within my mind
(Refrain)
Then a voice calls out within me, Get up
Take up your bed, rise above your problems
And walk, as I have said: I led you then
I’ll lead you now and you will make it through
Somehow, One step at a time
One day you’ll find that you are there
One Step at a Time
One day you’ll find that you are there
 II
The temptation seems to find me
When I’m sometimes unaware
When I’m far too weak to struggle
When I’m just too weak to care
I am tempted on occasion
To lay my faith aside
To huddle in the darkness
Where I tremble as I hide
(Repeat Refrain)
III
Temptation has no power but the power that I give
I should rather use my power
to love and laugh
and live
So whenever I am tempted to be less than I can be
Let me listen in the quite for the voice inside of me
 IV
Now the voice calls out within me,
Get up, Take up you r bed,
Rise above your problems and walk
As I have said: I led you then,
I’ll lead you now and you will make it through
Somehow,

One Step at a Time

One day, you’ll find that you are there.
( 2x )

Repeat IV