Pleasure

A Practical Guide for Anal Pleasure

Written by: Rysa Hollis

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Table of Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1: Is Anal Sex Really All That Fun?
The Perks of Anal Sex
Bye Bye Pregnancy
Semen Benefits
An Alternative to Period Sex
Anal Sex Orgasms—The Real Deal!
Explorative Options
Why Is there Such a Stigma Against It?
Chapter 2: Prepping: Why It Matters
Why Prep?
Prepping Keeps You Safe
Best Ways to Prepare
Use Lube!
Chapter 3: Hygiene Tips for Anal Sex
The Truth About Poop
Bathroom Changes
Consider an Enema
If You need to, Clean Up
Try Gloves
Don’t Double- Dip
Chapter 4: Toys for Anal sex
Why Toys?
Butt Plugs
B-Balls
Lube Shooter
Training Kits
Anal Beads
Plug and Bead Combos
Remote-Controlled Plugs
Glass Toys
Chapter 5: Anal Sex for the Giver: How to Make It Memorable
Talk First
Slow and Steady
Lube, Please!
Ease It In
Communicate for Success
Abort Mission!
Chapter 6: Anal Sex Tips for the Receiver
Try It Out on Yourself First
Know If You Really want to try It
Prepare the Space
Breathe and Relax
Control the Play the First Time
Communicate If You Don’t Like Something
Focus on G-spot Stimulation
If Something Hurts, STOP!
Chapter 7: All About Fisting
Why People Like the Extreme
How to Do It
Chapter 8: Anal Sex Positions to Make It Fun!
Lap Time Fun
Lying Doggy-Style
Missionary
Pile Driver
Lying Caboose
Back-Facing
The Turtle
Spooning
Cowgirl
Chapter 9: Aftercare for Anal Sex
Why Aftercare?
The Check-In
Switch Condoms
Help the Butt
Fart It Out
Kegels and Poop
Talk It Out
Description
Have you thought about trying anal sex? It’s great, and it can offer intense
pleasure. But what are the ins and outs of it? Well, in this book we’ll
highlight everything that you need to know about anal sex so you can have a
good time and really enjoy it.
In this book, you’ll learn about the following:
- The perks of anal sex
- Why it’s taboo
- The importance of prepping
- Anal hygiene tips
- Toys to use with anal sex
- Anal sex for the giver
- Anal sex for the receiver
- Tips for making anal sex awesome
- Extreme anal play, including fisting
- The best anal sex position tips
- Some key aftercare tips
- The importance of communication during anal
- How to use anal sex to explore your sexuality
Introduction

The idea of putting it in the butt might sound a little off-putting to some.
But anal sex is very fun, especially for both genders. If you’ve ever been
curious about anal sex, then you’ve come to the right place.
In this book, we’ll go into great detail on how to perform anal sex and what
kinds of perks it can offer. We’ll explain how to make it worthwhile so that
by the end, you’ll be able to perform this without worry.
If you’ve ever been curious about this and you’ve wanted to learn about it,
then look no further. You’ll be able to, by the end of this book, understand
and have an amazing anal sex experience.
Chapter 1: Is anal sex really all that fun?

This may be your first question.

Is anal sex fun?
Well, it totally can be. In fact, it can be great for you, too. The problem with
this, however, is a lot of people think it’ll “hurt” or “they’ll tear something.”
Here, we’ll highlight some of the perks of anal sex, along with why some
people think anal sex isn’t a fun experience.

The Perks of Anal Sex

This is one of the more obvious reasons why people like anal sex. You can’t
get pregnant. The uterus, fallopian tubes, and ovaries are accessed through
the vagina, and there is no connection to that when you’re engaging in anal
sex. Obviously, for men having anal sex, they don’t have to worry about that,
either.
So, if you have a fear of pregnancy or disdain for it, you don’t have to worry,
and it can certainly help with improving your sex life if you want to try
barebacking, too.

Bye Bye, Pregnancy

This is one of the more obvious reasons why people like anal sex. You can’t
get pregnant. The uterus, fallopian tubes, and ovaries are accessed through
the vagina, and there is no connection to that when you’re engaging in anal
sex. Obviously, for men having anal sex, they don’t have to worry about that,
either.
So, if you have a fear of pregnancy or disdain for it, you don’t have to worry,
and it can certainly help with improving your sex life if you want to try
barebacking, too.
Semen Benefits

Yep, it can help with semen.

There is proof that a lot of health benefits in the body of a woman actually
come from the semen plasma that men ejaculate. But, that usually goes into
the vagina. However, there is new research that says that semen that comes
into the anus can have similar effects.
A man’s semen can help with reducing anxiety, improving sleep, and
reducing pain, and it can also help as an antidepressant. It can increase libido
in women, too.
So yes, semen does play a part in this, and it can be quite wonderful.

An Alternative to Period Sex

Let’s face it, periods are never fun to deal with. It can be quite messy, and
some people don’t like it. But, anal sex offers better sexual activity between
you and your partner during that time of the month, so it can be a great thing
for you to try.

Anal Sex Orgasms—The Real Deal!

While vaginal and clitoral orgasms are good, another way to have orgasms is,
of course, through anal sex.
While men can have anal sex orgasms through the prostate, since when it’s
penetrated the man can be stimulated, women can experience these too, and
this is quite cool.
Here is why: when you penetrate anally, it will stimulate the erectile tissue
that’s connected to the G-spot within women. These are called the pudina
nerves, and when they’re stimulated, you will have an orgasm.
The cool thing about this is that you will have more orgasms. Most women
have them during one of their first anal sex sessions.
In contrast, a lot more women struggle with orgasms during vaginal sex, and
a lot of women report that they don’t have an orgasm.
If that isn’t a reason to start trying anal sex, then I don’t know what is!
The anus has a lot of nerve endings in both men and women, and the A-spot
is another area that anal sex hits. This can even lead to female ejaculation and
squirting, too.

Explorative Options

Another benefit of this is that it lets you explore yourself. You don’t always
know how pleasurable something can be to the body until you try it. Anal sex
is something new for you to try with your partner and can allow you to
discover a different way to enjoy sex.
You can also try out kinkier desires too, which is something that is quite
liberating for a lot of people. Anal sex can offer new ways to experience
pleasure.

Why Is There Such a Stigma Against It?

Anal sex has so many benefits to it, so why are people against it?
Well, there are a few reasons for this, and we’ll talk about them here.
The biggest one is that there is a misconception that people think it will hurt.
Anal sex can be a little uncomfortable the first time and may make you feel
sore, but you have to remember that if you prepare and take it nice and slow,
you will have a good time.
We’ll go into how to give your partner the best anal sex of their life in the
later chapters, but understand that if you want to make it better for your
partner, then you have to understand that being relaxed and ready can create a
more enjoyable experience. This is especially true for women, who tend to
clench up a bit more when they’re doing this, which can result in more pain
and anxiety.
If you’re not relaxed, you won’t have a good time, and we’ll talk about how
to fully relax the body during anal sex.
The next issue is, of course, the hygiene aspect of it. Let’s face it, you
defecate from that area, and that idea alone can be quite gross to the average
person.
But it doesn’t have to be.
A lot of people don’t realize that anal sex doesn’t have to be a dirty
experience, and a lot of people do have a misconception of this, too. That’s
because they associate anal sex with defecation, and that’s incorrect.
It can get messy if you don’t clean yourself, but we’ll go into anal sex
hygiene and why it’s so important later on.
Also, another thing to understand is that the poop horror stories usually come
from people who have stomach problems or need to go to the bathroom. Plus,
if your fear is poop, you should talk to your partner and try to get them to not
penetrate so deeply. However, if you’re really concerned about that, you
should definitely make sure that you use an enema beforehand.
It can be awkward at first, and talking about this might make you blush, but
come on, it’s either this or just continue to teeter around, wanting to try anal
sex but afraid of doing so.
A lot of people think that they’ll tear something, too. While you may possibly
tear if you’re not careful, prepping exists to prevent this. When you prep, you
are using your fingers or a toy to help loosen the muscles.
Your anus has two sphincters in it, and usually, before you begin, it can be a
little bit of a tight experience. But when you stimulate the area and it feels
good, you’ll realize that it isn’t all that bad, and in fact, you’ll feel amazing,
too.
So, that’s a big part of this. If you’re not comfortable and you’re not
prepared, you won’t have a good time. That’s why it’s ultimately up to you
and your partner to make your body feel good and to make sure that you’re
properly taken care of, too.
You may wonder if there are any risks besides STIs. There really isn’t,
besides possibly tearing something. But usually, you have to either be
unprepared or take something far too big in order to create a situation where
you have a hernia or a tear.
Finally, you have the fear of it being taboo. There are so many people who
think it’s wrong or people that may think you’re “sinning” or whatever. The
truth is, anal sex isn’t as uncommon as you’d think. In fact, there’s plenty of
people who do it, and it can help improve the intimacy between you and your
partner.
So yes, it’s okay to try anal sex, and you should consider it. Lose the fears,
and you’ll probably notice it’s a little less scary as a result.
Chapter 2: Prepping: Why it Matters

The next part is, of course, prepping.

What is prepping, and why does it matter? Well, it matters a lot more than
you’d think, and here, we’ll dive into the importance of prepping for anal sex
and why you should definitely do it.

Why Prep?

This might seem obvious, but if you don’t prep for anal sex, you’re going to
have a bad time.
The anus is different from the vagina and mouth. For starters, there is no
lubrication. Nothing. So, you will need to supply lube from an outside source.
Second of all, you need to prepare it for something bigger. A toy helps
prepare for a penis or something larger. Even a finger helps you get loosened
up.
The ring of muscle, when stimulated, will naturally loosen up, allowing for
objects, including a penis and finger, to go inside.
Prepping helps make the magic happen, and it helps you feel good before you
do this. It can seem wrong to a few people, but the truth is, it’s probably the
best thing for you to do.
And here’s the thing: if you want to experience anal sex, you’re going to have
to get used to this.
A lot can go wrong if you don’t prep. Let’s face it, the anus isn’t used to
having objects get inserted in, it’s use is to expel objects.
We won’t get into the grossness of that, of course, but we’ll talk about how
prepping helps with improving your anal sex experience.
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Prepping Keeps You Safe

Let’s face it: hemorrhoids are gross and they are painful. Who wants to feel
pain after they excrete?
I know I don’t.
Well, sometimes if you’re ill-prepared, you’ll end up tearing something
within you. That is painful, and it hurts.
In a lot of cases, it can cause bleeding over the next couple of days. That’s
the mildest result of tearing something during anal.
At the very worst, you could tear something at a much deeper level, and that,
of course, takes a long time to heal. Not to mention the fact that if you feel
that, you’ll end up struggling to ever do anal sex again.
Let’s face it, we don’t want to be in pain when we have sex, we want to have
fun, experience the moment, and increase the intimacy between you and your
partner.
So yes, please prepare yourself.

Best Ways to Prepare

You have a couple of options when it comes to preparing yourself.

The first is your handy, dandy fingers.
I recommend starting this way. This is good for those who like to experiment
and would like to try this out.
A finger is small, and if you’re really not sure, start with your pinky.
Obviously cover it with lube, which we’ll get into in the next section, but
from there, lightly prod at the ring. Don’t just shove it in there.
If you do that, it can sometimes hurt, and sometimes you may hurt yourself.
But slowly ease that in there, and take your time with it.
Don’t feel like you have to force it in there. Try with one finger, and once it’s
in, breathe. Relax. Don’t feel like you have to be on edge with this.
After that, you can start moving it around. Experience the sensation.
This can sometimes feel a bit strange. For women, sometimes stimulating
your vagina and clit may be good for this too, since it will help to relax you.
Once you’ve tried it with one, you’re always welcome to add another finger.
Push it in and move it around.
From there, if you have toys, use a toy.
Just please make sure to lube it up. If you’re not careful, not lubing up the toy
before insertion can cause a lot of pain, and it can hurt.
After you’ve lightly pushed it in with something smaller, you can move onto
something bigger, such as another toy, or even two or three fingers.
If you’re doing this with a partner, please make sure to not proceed until
you’re relaxed. We’ll go into how to do this as both a giver and a receiver,
but please, for your own personal happiness and wellness, don’t move on
until you’re totally comfortable.

Use Lube!

If there is nothing else that you take from this, it’s the lube that you should
use.
Here is why. The anus doesn’t have any lubrication. Compared to the vagina,
it’s a ring of muscle. It’s dry in there. There aren’t any magical secretions that
come out.
Vaginas, since they produce a natural lubricant, can help with inserting
something inside. For example, it’s easier to finger a vagina than an anus.
Go ahead, try it. Push your finger inside, and from there, see how you feel.
You’ll notice that when you push it in your vagina, it is obviously easier. But
with the anus, there is that stopping point, since, of course, you need lube.
This should be common knowledge, but we see people in the media doing
anal without lube, and then when you try it in real life, it’s going to hurt.
Of course, it will. Your anus is a muscle, and it needs to be properly
lubricated to do anything with it.
Personally, water-based lube is good for toys. Silicone is better, though, for
anal sex with a penis, since it will hold up much longer so you don’t have to
spend a bunch of time re-lubing it up.
But before you even begin to explore anal sex with someone else, you should
get used to understanding how much lube you need and what your body
requires.
Some people don’t need a ton of lube, and they can insert various items,
including their fingers, into their anal cavity easily. They don’t have to use a
bunch of lube.
But others may need more lube to comfortably get it in.
Remember as well, once you’ve used a toy and taken it out, it’s good to re-
lube it once again. That way, you’re able to keep it inside properly and it
won’t hurt.
If you do notice that it burns a little bit during prep, there is a chance you
may need more lube.
And finally, if you notice a burning sensation with water-based lube, it might
be due to the glycerin within it. That creates a subtle burning sensation, even
in some who prep. You may not realize you have this glycerin allergy until
you start exploring yourself.
But never use Vaseline. That is oil-based, and it can ruin a condom. Plus, it’s
better to use actual lubricant than other substitutes, that’s for sure.
Prepping helps you get ready for anal sex, and here, you learned a little bit
about what you can do in order to perform anal sex.
Chapter 3: Hygiene Tips for Anal Sex

This should come as a given, but if nothing else, make sure you clean up
before you begin.
But how do you do that?
Well, there are a few things that you can do before you begin to make the
process that much easier for you, and we’ll highlight what you can do and
what may not work for you when trying to clean up.

The Truth About Poop

So, what’s the truth about poop?

Well, before you begin, let’s take a moment to talk about whether or not you
will encounter poop during anal sex.
The truth is, it actually isn’t stored in the area where anal sex occurs. Poop is
actually in your upper bowels.
Your upper bowels are that area that is above the anal canal, and usually, it’s
very hard to hit this area. Usually, unless the penis is super big, chances are it
won’t reach it.
Your upper bowels, when you have a bowel movement, signal for the fecal
matter to go down, and that’s how you expel it.
Simple, right?
Well, if you’re scared of possibly pooping, you don’t have to fear that. The
truth is, unless, of course, you’re backed up or sick, you will not actually
have to worry about poop or fecal residue.
If you are having some regular movements, then you should be in the clear.
This goes for both sexes.
If you do notice that you are feeling a little bit sick, it might be best to hold
off on the anal play or use an enema in order to help clean out, which we will
talk about in the next section.
But the common misconception that you will encounter poop during anal sex
each time is just a misconception. It actually is quite rare, so long as you end
up cleaning up beforehand. You may end up doing more during your first go
at it, but of course, that’s ultimately up to you.

Bathroom Changes
There are bathroom changes that you may want to put into play.
You might want to make sure that you go to the bathroom beforehand, and
you should try to, if you can go about an hour before anal play.
It is good to use the bathroom beforehand because it will help you take care
of yourself. And, if you have a bowel movement early on, you don’t have to
worry about it.
If you’re a bit worried about being backed up, watching your diet might be a
good thing, too. Pay attention to the foods you have, when your last bowel
movement was, and how you feel. Ultimately, this can help with cleaning out
the bowels, and it can do your body some good.
During this time, you can also wash your body down with some soap and
water, and of course, clean down the anal area with soap and water.
Unscented and hypoallergenic baby wipes are actually better for cleaning
your backside, both after a bowel movement or even before you’re about to
have anal, so it may be something you want to consider.

Consider an Enema

If you haven’t had a bowel movement recently or if you’re a bit paranoid,

you may want to consider an enema.
For starters, an enema offers a deep clean. It’s best for you to do this an hour
or two before anal play so that once you expel, you give your anus a couple
of hours to relax.
You can do this with a couple of cups of water at most, or just fill up a bulb.
The problem is, if you use too much water, this will stimulate the digestive
system and actually make things much messier.
You want to use warmer water, so make sure you check it against the wrist. If
it’s too cold, it creates cramps, and if it’s too hot it may irritate the tissues.
You should use tap water or water you drink for your enema and make sure
it’s not dirty. If you use dirty water, it does contain bacteria, and that gets in
your anus. Yuck.
From there, relax the muscles, and then use the enema. It’s best if you take a
few deep breaths and then expel over the toilet.
This is definitely good for you, especially if you’re a bit self-conscious about
poop being up there, and if you want to double-check to ensure proper
cleanliness.

If You Need To, Clean Up

If you do need to, please take some time to clean up.

This can be something as small as going for a shower before you try anal sex
and freshening up a little bit.
This might seem silly, but washing off can help you feel cleaner. Even just
your body helps your brain feel like you’re cleaner, and it can make the
experience, and yourself, far more comfortable about anal sex.
But, if you’re worried about time, try to wipe down your body as well. If you
do have time for a shower, and you have one of those detachable
showerheads, try using it to clean down the area.
The big thing to understand here is that by washing down, you wipe away
any evidence of a bad job at wiping, and it will help you feel cleaner and
more confident.
This might seem a bit small and silly, but for some people, it can be the
confidence that they need to feel sexy while doing this.
Anal is different for everyone, and for those who struggle with feeling sexy
when doing anal play, this might help. And for those who are really paranoid
about finding something in there, they can benefit from this, too, since it lets
them get used to the experience of anal sex.

Try Gloves

For the really paranoid types, you may want to consider using gloves.
Gloves, especially latex gloves, are used for anal checks and prostate exams.
But they might be good for those of us who are a bit scared of anal.
You can get a package of them from the store, slip one on, and then lube it
up, of course. If you do have a latex allergy, you might want to consider
something that won’t stimulate that.
The beauty of this is that for those who are a bit scared, it can give them the
confidence that they have.
And, it can be used for something else that’s incredibly enjoyable: an anal
massage.
While some do believe it might not fit with the flow, it’s a good way to keep
clean. They’re great for anal massages.
To do this, slip one on, lube it up, and start to lightly massage the sphincter,
and then start to lightly massage and stimulate the opening of the anal cavity.
This is a form of an erotic massage, and it can be used to stimulate these
openings located at each end in order to prep the body for penetration.

Don’t Double-Dip
Finally, as they say, don’t go from stink to pink.
While it might seem like a good idea, the problem is, it can actually give your
partner an infection if you do this.
The same isn’t to be said for vagina to anus, but vice versa, it can give you a
nasty infection that isn’t good for you or your partner.
So yes, if you’re going to explore your partner, make sure that you clean up
before pushing it into their vagina since you don’t want to hurt them.
All of these hygiene tips are important, and you should make sure that you
incorporate them into anal sex before you begin, for your own personal
benefit, and for your partner as well.
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Chapter 4: Toys for Anal Sex

Now that we’ve touched on how to prepare and how to get ready, let’s talk
about the toys of the trade.
Anal sex toys are important for a variety of reasons, and that’s something
worth mentioning.
Here, we’ll discuss the reasons for anal sex toys and the best ones for anal
play.

Why Toys?

If you like anal, chances are you probably want something more than just
your fingers or a penis to help you prepare.
Plus, there is the fact that jumping from one to another can be a bit surprising.
Anal toys are made specifically for the back door. There are also a few
differences between these and normal toys.
These toys are made for easy removal. They are also made so that the toys
don’t get lost, which could mean a stressful visit to the doctor if you’re not
careful. While you may think that just getting some vaginal play toys will
suffice, it’s honestly better to just dive into anal sex toys and get these first.
So, what are the best ones for the job? We’ll go into the top toys that you
should consider. Most of these you can get right off Amazon, and they’re
pretty easy to use as well.
Of course, you want to use water-based lube as well. Silicone will break
down the toys, and that can possibly jeopardize the use of these.
It’s best to not try this without lube, and you’ll want to get a water-based one
that won’t degrade your toy. Usually, the Wet lubricant brand is good for
starting out, and you can also get that at your local drugstore, too.

Butt Plugs
The first type of toy to discuss is butt plugs.
These are little plugs with a handle at the end in order to properly remove it
without problems.
You can get these in some different variants, including the following:
- Tapered
- Twisted texture
- Ribbed texture
- Metal
- Silicone
Butt plugs also come in varying shapes and sizes. From small and
diminutive to help those get started, to larger sizes that are good for those
who want something a bit bigger.
These all come with a tapered style of varying sizes since that will help
with loosening the anal muscles. Unlike a dildo which is one size, this has
a progression of sizes, making it even better for someone who is looking
to really get used to anal training.
 It’s best if you start off with a small variant, and there are plenty of anal
training kits out there that come with varying sizes, so you can train
yourself to take more and more.
You can even get some crystal butt plugs. These are usually metal butt
plugs that have a crystal on the end. They look pretty cute, too.
If you’re a fan of tails, butt plugs with animal tails on the end are pretty
fun, and they also look nice as well. If you’re someone who likes tails,
then they’re perfect.

These are perfect not just for solo play, but also play with a partner, too.

B-Balls

These are a variant of butt plugs, but inside of them are rotating weights.
These are good for someone who wants to feel a bit more in the body.
These are best used when you’ve used a butt plug since they tend to be a little
bit larger. But, when you use them, you’ll feel, especially during impact play
and spanking sessions, the balls move around, and if you do move your body,
you’ll feel this.
They are best with a water-based lubricant, and it certainly can make the
experience even better.
B-balls are kind of different from your average anal sex toy, but they do
wonders for the body, and they work great.

Lube Shooter

While this isn’t a toy per se, this is a really good thing to have if you’re
starting out with anal training.
If you’re someone who wants to use more lube, this is a great thing to have.
To use, you simply put lube in it and literally insert it, pressing the other side
of the toy to push lube into you.
This is great if you don’t want to spend a bunch of time lubing up, but it does
feel a bit different.
This also is good if you want to simulate the feeling of release there, and
combining that with cum lube might be your best bet.
Personally, I like these for starting out. They offer a simple yet effective
experience for you to enjoy.

Training Kits

If nothing else, a training kit is the way to go.

These are made for two reasons: training and education.
This is probably the best thing for beginners to start with. They come with a
couple of butt plugs, possibly some beads, some sleeves for the plugs, an
enema, and also a handy little caring kit for those who like to keep everything
in place.
These are made for beginners in mind. With them, you can try these different
toys and experience for yourself what you like. If you’re unfamiliar with anal
territory, they also come with butt plugs that tend to feel really good, and
they are good for training you.
If you don’t want to spend a bunch of money, this is getting what you need
all in one place, and it’s a great option for those who are curious about this.
I’d recommend a training kit if you want to have everything in one place and
you’re very new to anal play.

Anal Beads

Ahh, the beads.

Anal beads are a favorite of many for a variety of reasons.
For starters, the texture. They come with a varying array of textures to them,
which is really good for some people.
They also offer a deeper insertion. Plus, when you move the beads around,
they stimulate the anal cavity, and it can feel pleasurable.
This also comes in beads of varying sizes, so you’re not just shoving the
same size bead up there, which may hurt.
They are good for anal training and for those who like something that gets in
deep.
The one downside to this is that they can go deep, so if you don’t deep-clean
the anal cavity, it can actually make it a little messy, especially if you haven’t
had a bowel movement recently.
But, they are great for booty training beginners and veterans alike, so they’re
highly recommended.
You can get them in glass and silicone versions, which we’ll talk about in a
later section.

Plug and Bead Combos

What if you’re not sure whether you like plugs or beads?

Well, there is a combo of these that you can get.
Basically, they combine both elements of the plugs and the beads.
They are the plug type for easy removal, and you don’t have to worry about it
getting lost.
But, they also come with the ribbed texture, which is perfect for those who
like the bead feeling.
While they aren’t totally like the beads, they are certainly quite fun to use,
and they offer a really immersive and fun experience.
Personally, this is good for those who have tried both and like both and for
those who are not sure. They come in both silicone and glass varieties.
You use this mostly similar to a butt plug, but the bead’s texture offers a deep
and penetrating experience for you to have.

Remote-Controlled Plugs
These are perfect for those with a partner who wants to experience the fun of
anal sex but wants to take the control out of their hands.
These can come in certain varieties. If you have a partner, you can give them
the remote, and from far away, they can control the vibrations, just like with a
vaginal toy.
But, there are others that take this to the next level. You can get one that
controls to music. This is great, especially if you’re someone who loves solo
play and doesn’t want to do it alone.
The beauty of the music-controlled ones is it gives you a different experience
each time, which is something a lot of people like.
Personally, I love these, since it can change the game, and the vibrations can
both be short and shallow or deep and penetrating.

Glass Toys

Finally, let’s talk about glass toys.

Glass toys are not for everyone. In a lot of cases, they can feel a little strange
to the average user. But boy, are they fun.
If you’re a fan of temperature and sensation play, this is perfect for you.
What they are is simple: you can either get a glass plug or even some glass
beads. They usually come in a curved texture for deep penetration.
To use this, you simply push it in there and feel the temperature sensations.
They also can be made colder to make you feel pleasure from the coldness.
You can also heat these up either with water or in the microwave for a few
seconds to really heat things up. It is good if you feel like you’ve got to relax.
The crazy thing about this is that it can help you relax, too. If you’re nervous
about anal, using this every now and then can be a great thing for you.
These toys are a good place to start, and you can get them for a good price off
Amazon. If you’re really interested in pursuing this, they can be bought for a
higher price, but something small goes a long way and is great for anal play.
Chapter 5: Anal sex for the Giver—How to Make it
Memorable

You want to make your partner enjoy anal, right?

Well, here are a few tips for the giver in order to make it a memorable
experience. It is important that you keep these in mind since they are a big
part of making anal as fun as it is.
By the end of this, you’ll understand what you have to do and how you can
make anal, as the giver, that much better.

Talk First

First, you’ve got to talk.

If you don’t talk about this with your partner first, this can be a bit awkward.
Maybe your partner is only comfortable with certain positions, and they may
only like a few things. They may want you to start off with shallow thrusts.
No matter what they ask for, please respect it, and make sure you have
everything out in the open.
This might seem like a minuscule thing, but talking about it first and
foremost is the first thing you must do to make it memorable.
If nothing else, please talk about this first. It can be awkward, but it will help
you.

Slow and Steady

It not only wins the race but makes anal memorable.
First, you want to prepare your partner. Make sure to use foreplay, and make
sure that you do not just focus on preparing them for anal.
Take your time, and give them something to enjoy. Get them hot and
bothered.
The worst thing that you can do is start out too fast. You’re not trying to win
a race; you’re trying to have anal sex with your partner.
Take it slow, and make sure that they’re comfortable with what you have to
do.
You should make sure that you never dive in too fast, and don’t ignore
foreplay.
This is important because not only does it help relax the body, but it will help
them feel more confident with anal sex.
A lot of people are a bit nervous about anal sex because they think it’s wrong.
But if you start out slowly, play with them, and make sure that they’re fully
ready, it will help.
And don’t just shove your dick all the way in there, either.
That is one of the common mistakes people make with anal. They give too
much, too fast, and over time, it can be too much for your partner. If you
want to make your partner hate anal, then you can by all means continue this
way.
But it is ideal to ensure that they’re enjoying this, too.
The best way to have butt sex is to take this nice and slow. Remember, you
want to make it worth your while for both parties, and as the giver, you’re in
charge of the pace of the actions.

Lube, Please!

Before you even think about putting a finger or even your dick in there, you
want to make sure that you lube it up.
Remember, the anus does not lubricate. The problem with this is many
people think that with anal, you just push it in.
But the anus can’t lubricate, and many times, it will feel like you’re up
against something. The best thing to do is to shy on the end of using more
lubricant.
If you are going to penetrate with your penis instead of a toy, it’s best to use
silicone lube. Water-based lubricant is great for toys and fingers, but silicone
will stay on the penis for much longer.
It doesn’t break down quickly, so you don’t have to pull out to re-lube it as
much.
Remember, always shy on the side of more, and make sure that you take your
time to prepare the other person.
Ease It In

Please, don’t just force it in.

If you want to do this again, as the giver, you want to ease it in. You should
make sure that you take it nice and slow, and don’t go too fast.
A lot of girls are a bit nervous about anal because they believe that it’s
“wrong.” When you do it for the first time, you have to prove that it isn’t all
that bad, which is why easing it in is really good.
There are certain positions that are good for this. Doggy-style lets you control
your thrusts really well and is arguably one of the best, especially for deeper
penetration.
But if your girl wants to take control on her own terms, let her ride you.
You can have her on top, and you can even dirty talk about how you find it
hot when she plays with herself on top.
You have to make it an enjoyable experience for each party, and please make
sure that you don’t make it awkward for them.
Remember, it’s okay to be nervous, but if you do take it slow and ease it in,
it’ll help immensely.

Communicate for Success

Communication doesn’t stop when you’ve started having anal sex.

Communicate during the entirety of the experience and make sure that you
keep up constant communication.
Asking if it’s okay to touch, whether it’s okay to enter, and the pressure they
desire is so important.
It might seem a bit silly, but the big thing to understand here is that the big
factor in this is consent.
Consent is sexy, and it’s necessary for anal sex. You should make sure that if
something hurts, don’t hide it. Be forthright about it.
And, as the giver, you need to listen to your receiver. If they say they need
more lube, stop. Put more lube on, and go.
If they say that they want you to slow down, please slow down. This is very
important.
The element of safewords is a big part of this. If you want to, you can use
colors. Red can mean stop. Yellow means slow down, and green means go,
continue on.
Anal sex is intense, and penetration can sometimes be too much, too fast.
Sometimes hitting too deep surprises a lot of people.
But, by communicating, you’ll realize that it is much easier.
Some people don’t need colors, but even just saying slow down, ease up, or
stop will help with this.
Some people think that it ruins the fun, but it doesn’t. As a giver, you’re
subjecting the receiver to this, so you should make sure to keep them comfy,
too.

Abort Mission!

Finally, you might have to abort the mission.

Sometimes it isn’t comfortable for the other person, and that’s okay.
This is why communication is key here. We need to make sure that we make
the other person as comfy as we can. Sometimes it doesn’t go as planned, and
just because it doesn’t work or someone wants to stop doesn’t mean it’ll
happen again.
Anal does take some getting used to, so if your partner is a bit surprised and
needs you to chill out, please do so.
Remember, you have to make sure that you’re open about this, flexible, and
sure that this is something you want to do. Make it memorable, and make it
good for both of you.
Chapter 6: Anal Sex Tips for the Receiver

For the receiver, it does involve a few different things. It’s important to make
sure that you’re interested in anal sex as much as your partner is.
Here are a few tips where, as a receiver, you’ll benefit from these and why
they are good for you.

Try It Out on Yourself First

Before you begin with anal, make sure you experiment with yourself first.
This might seem silly, but if you don’t know what it is that you want, you
won’t have a good time. You can try it with toys and get used to this.
Maybe you’ve been curious but unsure. Take some time to experiment, feel
the sensations, and enjoy what you’re feeling as you do this.
Doing this on yourself first is very important. Remember, it is your body and
your pleasure. For some women, this also lets them have free rein to
experiment and learn about their bodies.
Trying it on yourself will tell you whether or not you like it, so it is very
important to do it.
Know If You Really Want to Try It

Next, you need to know if you really want to try it.

Be honest with yourself. If your partner is pressuring you and you really
don’t want to do that, then don’t.
It’s your body and your comfort, and you should make sure that you take
some time to better understand your body and how you feel.
If you’re honest about this, you’ll be much happier. Maybe you’ve tried it
and it isn’t for you, or maybe it is.
Not everyone is into anal sex, and sometimes it is a process, but if you do
understand your body and know for sure whether or not you want to try it,
you’ll be much happier at the end of the day. So, make sure you’re honest
with yourself and know if you really want to try it before you do it.

Prepare the Space

Do make sure to prepare your space before you do anal.

This can be creating a romantic ambiance and incorporating the toys.
If you haven’t already bought it, please get some lube. You’ll be glad to shy
on the end of more lube than less lube.
You should consider putting a towel down if you are worried about messes.
If you haven’t taken care of the hygiene aspects of this, please make sure to
do so.
And most of all, take a bit of time to make the space your own. This is
important since you want to be comfortable, right? And this is the best way to
do it.

Breathe and Relax

A big part of anal sex is learning to breathe and relax.
If you’re not relaxed, you will not have a good time. You will feel pain, and it
can lead to you feeling anxious about the way it’s happening.
The best thing for you to do is to breathe, and take some nice, deep breaths in
order to make this work for you.
You should do things to stimulate you and help with relaxing. Nipple play,
vaginal play, and even kissing and erotic touches are a great way to help with
relaxing the body.
And focus your breathing. Don’t take shallow breaths, since that can make
you nervous. Take a nice, deep breath, and focus on that. This naturally
relaxes the body, and it’ll help you feel confident when it comes to anal sex.

Control the Play the First Time

When you do anal for the first time, make sure to control the play.
It is better for the receiver to be in control. That way, they can control how
deep or how shallow the thrusts are.
For some people, when they start with anal, they go in too deep, too fast, and
that can cause pain. If you control it on your end, you’ll be a whole lot better
off.
The best way to do it is with the receiver on top or even just doggy-style.
Missionary works well for some, but usually, if the receiver can reach
themselves to stimulate, it will work out nicely.
Remember, the more the receiver is in control, the better it’ll be, and that is
something a lot of people don’t realize is a huge part of anal sex.
Control is everything, so make sure you take it easy. Don’t go too fast, and it
can help you feel good.

Communicate If You Don’t Like Something

This should be obvious, but please communicate if you don’t like something.
This is your experience, your anal pleasure. If you don’t like how deep your
partner is going or how they’re penetrating you, say something.
To do otherwise does put you in a position of non-consent, which isn’t good
for anyone.
If you’re struggling to find the right position, take your time. You can tell
them that you’re good with it for now or you need them to slow down.
Remember, anal sex isn’t something you master the first time. It can take a
few tries to really get the hang of it, so don’t be afraid to be forthright with
the communication and understand that it’s up to you to figure out if you
don’t like the way something feels.

Focus on G-Spot Stimulation

This is a big part of it, especially for females.
You can stimulate the G-spot with anal sex, but it involves a certain level of
penetration.
To do this, you want to make sure that you focus on the G-spot or the urethral
sponge since that is where you want to stimulate.
The G-spot is the membranes that are between the vagina and the rectum, and
with the right stimulation, you can hit the whole clitoral complex.
This can actually be incredibly pleasurable since direct stimulation is too
intense.
You can move your body around and experiment to really feel anal orgasm.
It is possible to reach that for people, but it does take some time to master, so
don’t be sad if you’re struggling to hit it. Don’t be afraid to change positions,
while not double-dipping until you wash up.

If Something Hurts, STOP!

Finally, this should be obvious, but if something hurts, stop.

If something starts hurting during anal sex, you’re risking the health and
wellness of both you and your partner.
This is how areas of the skin get ripped, and it isn’t fun for anyone.
Sometimes, it might be a dull pain, but if it’s a large, sharp pain, please stop
and don’t continue.
Sometimes, the anus needs to get used to it, but it is better if you take the
time to better understand your body rather than to force it.
For anal sex receivers, following this will help you enjoy the act so much
more. Don’t be afraid to like it, since it can be fun for you and offer a whole
lot of stimulation you didn’t even think you had.
Chapter 7: All About Fisting

There is another kind of anal play that you can consider.

That is extreme anal play.
What constitutes that, though? Well, anything with a larger insertion,
multiple penises inserted, or even fisting is considered extreme anal play.
But do people like it? Well, yes, they do. Some people like fisting, which
means inserting a whole fist into one’s orifice; in this case, the anus.
This is pleasurable, since a lot of people actually look it up, especially when
it comes to porn. But it isn’t just a porn thing, it’s something people do like in
real life.

Why People Like the Extreme

For starters, some people find it hot. Some people like the internal hot spots
that it hits. It also can create a mind-blowing orgasm for many.
It also is a good way to add to the BDSM scene, and it helps fulfill other
fantasies. Anal fisting can actually fulfill the fantasies of double penetration,
gangbanging, and in some ways, other kinds that are otherwise taboo.
But, you have to be safe with it, and you have to do it in a way that doesn’t
hurt the other person. How do you do that, though? Well, read on to find out.

How To Do It

To begin, first, you need to buy lube, and I mean a lot. Get yourself some
silicone-based lube, such as Uberlube, since this is one of the best.
Next, get yourself some latex gloves so that you don’t damage the skin with
nails, hangnails, or any calluses or rough skin.
After that, anally masturbate. If you can’t take a regular toy or even a dick,
you will not be able to handle a fist. This goes for any sort of extreme anal
play. Start with the basics, and then go from there.
With fisting, you want to make sure that you create a cone shape with your
hand. Do not make a literal fist. Take your lateral digits and bring them in.
You’re not going to literally jab your ass, but instead, create a small cone
shape to help with this.
When you do insert it, begin small, work with some smaller sizes first, and
then go up from there. You want to take a moment to close your eyes and
breathe.
From there, slowly add more and more. If you can’t physically take this, stop.
This should go without saying, but you don’t want to damage the muscles
that are there, and you want to take it nice and slow over time.
You should first move the hand inside, and move it around a bit like you’re
controlling a puppet in a sense. This feels a bit strange, but as you relax
through that, you’ll enjoy it more.
You won’t get there the first time when you explore, so make sure you’re not
going too crazy. Take your time, and get used to it.
With any sort of extreme anal play, always talk to your doctor before you do
it. Take your time and breathe. This alone will help make anal more fun.
Chapter 8: Anal Sex Positions to Make It Fun!

So, what are the best anal sex positions for you to try?
While some of them are better than others, there are some anal sex positions
that will rock your world.
Here, we’ll give you some anal sex positions that you can try that will help
you enjoy it and make it good for you.

Lap Time Fun

For those who are new to anal sex and want something comfortable, this is a
wonderful position.
It’s hot, and it is pretty easy to pull off. Plus, it puts the receiver in control
based on how deep or how shallow you want to go.
To begin, have the partner either on the edge of the bed or on the chair. With
their back to you, start to literally slide up and down on it.
I can guarantee that this will offer loads of fun and a great experience for you
as well.

Lying Doggy-Style

This is a variant of doggy-style and is good for penetration that is shallow.

For those beginning anal sex adventures, shallow is your best friend, since a
lot of the nerves that are in the anus are within the first couple inches of
opening.
For beginners or even veterans alike, this is a great position for you to try.
In order to do this, get on your stomach, and then have the partner on top,
entering from behind. You can balance on your elbows and have your partner
do the same or their wrists for best support.
This is good if you’re not ready for the possible depth of doggy-style but also
want to feel more shallow penetration.
Missionary

Yes, missionary works wonders for the back door, and it is possible.
While most anal sex is usually with both of you looking away from another,
this variant of missionary is good for eye contact.
This is good for those who want something a little more intimate and perfect
for both parties.
To begin, get into missionary and have your partner enter in.
The goal here is to keep the knees against their side to control how deep it is
and use your hands on their chest for more resistance as needed. You can also
use pillows to help with this since this will get your pelvis up.
If at all possible, try to use a pillow on your pelvis to move it up in order to
help improve the penetration, along with the depth of it as well.

Pile Driver
This is good for women who like their men in control.
If the receiver prefers that, then this is the best way to do it. It does require
some flexibility and some lower back strength, too.
Basically, lie on your back and have the man grab the legs and push them
back so the ankles are to the head. This is a vulnerable position, and during
this, the man will enter anally.
This is a pretty nice position, and you’ll enjoy it, especially if you like a man
in control.
The only downside to this one is that if you’re not comfortable with letting
the man take control, this may not be the ideal position for you, so maybe
wait until a later anal session for this one.
Lying Caboose

Lying caboose is a good one that is great for regular penetration but also anal
sex.
It can be good especially if you’re not used to it and want something more
intimate. You’re attached from your torsos to your feet, and you can also kiss
one another during this, which ups the heat.
To do this, move yourself to their lap, penetrate, and then spoon one another
while you’re seated. It’s a fun, intimate position for you to try in the bedroom
that you will adore.

Back Facing
If you want a simple sex position and also one that lets you explore anal, this
is perfect for you.
It’s best for shallow penetration since it lets the other take control, and it is
good for shallow thrusts to help with the nerves that come from the anal
opening.
Plus, the skin-to-skin contact is both sexy and romantic.
To do this, have the partner against the bed kneeling while you go against the
edge with both your back and your butt facing the other person. Literally,
lean back into their penis, and move your hips around to change the thrusts
and control.

The Turtle

This is another one that might be good for those who are a little bit flexible
and have some ability to move about, and also lets someone feel nice and
submissive.
To do this, you need to be on the knees and upright, then lean over and pull
the thighs toward you. Meanwhile, the man gets behind on their knees.
This is one that’s considered a good position for men since it is comfortable,
but if you’re not flexible or if you’re sore, this can get quite cumbersome
very quickly.

Spooning

Spooning is considered the lazy girl’s sex position for pretty much any form,
whether vaginal or anal.
But, just because it’s lazy doesn’t mean that it’s not great. This is good if you
don’t want to make eye contact and if you want to have the focus be on your
partner in the back door.
This is also good because skin-to-skin offers a level of intimacy that you’re
probably looking for. Another part of it is that the man can stimulate from
behind, too, which is perfect for both parties.
To do this, both of you need to lie on your sides, facing similar directions,
bringing the knees upwards in a slight motion while the partner slides up
behind the pelvis. From there, they enter from behind.
This is good for both intimacy and fun.

Cowgirl

Cowgirl is one of the top anal sex positions for a variety of reasons.
First, it gives the receiver all of the control. Then, it’s also very easy for both
to do, and it also lets the partner finger and tease you, too.
Not only that but it’s also perfect for stimulation of the breasts and kissing.
Not only that, but if the man wants to let you take a bit more control, they
most certainly can. It’s simple. Have them slide down with you facing
upwards and straddling them. Slowly move down, and you can alternatively
sit on top or lean forward if you want your partner to do some of the work,
too.
All of these positions are great to start with, and you’ll be able to, with this,
create a fun and engaging anal sex experience for you.
Chapter 9: Aftercare for Anal Sex

Anal sex is great, but there is one thing that is missing from a lot of people’s
experience.
Do you know what that is? Aftercare!
Aftercare is one of the most important things for those who do anal sex,
simply because anal sex can sometimes be a bit messy, and it does involve
lots of feelings.
So, why do you need it? Sure, it isn’t BDSM or kink, but it still is very
necessary for both parties.
In this section, we’ll go into why you need aftercare and how to give it to the
person you care about.

Why Aftercare

This should be obvious, but usually, after anal sex, you tend to be a little bit
sore.
That’s why aftercare is so important.
Aftercare is definitely something that should be incorporated after every
sexual encounter. Aftercare is something that’s commonly done in BDSM
situations.
But with anal, it’s a little bit different. If you’re switching from anal to
vaginal sex, there are a few things that you have to do.
The vagina does protect itself by its pH levels and the bacteria that are there.
The anus is only protected by the opening, and it can throw off your pH
levels if you’re not careful.
Plus, anal sex can sometimes be a little bit painful the first time, and aftercare
is a must for discussing the sexual encounter, and of course, what you’d like
to do differently next time.
Anal pleasure does have some shame and taboo that comes with it, but it also
makes a person very vulnerable. It can be hot, and it can feel great, but some
people do feel shame after it.
So, it isn’t just a physical change but also a mental change. We’ll discuss
both of these, and we’ll talk about why each of these aftercare steps is so
necessary for the best anal experience.
It doesn’t have to be something super grand or anything either, but it can be a
display of both responsibility and appreciation. You should definitely
understand that the higher the fly is, the softer the landing needs to be.
Fingering is simple. Chances are, you’re asking whether or not their butt feels
good.
But, with long anal sessions or even a shorter one, you need to put a little
more care into the activity. Here, we’ll also discuss how you can check on
your partner, along with the physical changes that come along with it.

The Check-In

This is something that’s a part of BDSM and other kink-related sessions, but
the top should understand that the adrenaline will be lower for the receiver of
anal sex, or the bottom.
The first thing that you have to do is check on how they’re feeling and if
they’re good.
Sometimes they feel fine, and other times they may be a little sore. Some
don’t even realize that they’re sore or even mention it until way later on,
which is incredibly common. You should let them bask in the glow, and then
ask them how they are.
Also, get them a good hydrating drink and a sugar-raising snack such as
chocolate or a cookie afterward. This is usually good for pretty much any
aftercare.

Switch Condoms

If you’re someone who is moving from anal to vaginal and are using
condoms, please switch them.
This protects the pH of the body.
While you may not do it right away, this is something important, and it can
help both parties.

Help the Butt

Anal tissues are delicate, so you may want to take it easy after anal sex.
Usually, a gentle clean-up or even an Epsom salt bath is a good way to take
care of those tissues that are a little bit sore.
Do not try to do it again right away. Give your butt a break, and if your
partner is a bit sore, let them take it easy. Sometimes they need to use the
bathroom afterward, too. That’s all very normal.
You should have some baby wipes handy. These are good to help get rid of
the messy silicone lubricant.
If you’re using water-based, usually a nice washdown is a good way to help
you get cleaned up.

Fart It Out

Farts might seem strange after anal sex, and chances are, this may be the last
thing you want to do, but it is important to let it out.
There is a very high chance that you will feel gassy and a little bit sore
afterward.
And, if your stomach is hurting, chances are there is some trapped air in there
that came in during anal.
They are kind of like butt queefs, so make sure that you do consider this
when taking care of yourself, and while yes, farts are funny and maybe a bit
gross, they’re necessary for after anal sex.,

Kegels and Poop

There is also the fact that you should do two things: watch the poop and work
the Kegels.
After anal, you should keep an eye on the poop. That’s because the anus isn’t
made to penetrate, so those muscle fibers, the tissue there, and blood vessels
may get damaged.
Sometimes you may bleed a little after sex, but if there is some discharge or
lots of bleeding, check with your doctor.
Another big thing to look for is to make sure you don’t have hemorrhoids,
and if you do, make sure to get some cream to take care of it right away.
Then there are Kegels. These aren’t just for the vagina but for the anus as
well. You want to tighten the pelvic floor muscles and the anal sphincter
since if you’re having a lot of anal sex, this can weaken over time.
These are personal things you can do on your own, but they are good for you
to do after anal sex.

Talk It Out

Make sure that you talk it out with your partner, especially what you liked
and disliked about anal sex.
If there was a position that bothered you or not enough lube used, you should
let them know. That way, it’ll make anal better for you.
If you’re nervous about asking this, then you really shouldn’t be having sex
with them.
As for the giver, you should definitely praise the bottom, since this helps
them feel more confident. Talking it out with your partner is very healthy and
a good way to help you really understand what you want out of this.
Finally, if you notice that there is pain, don’t just run straight into anal sex
once again. You shouldn’t be doing it right away either.
The anus needs a bit of time to heal, so during that time, you can talk with
your partner. If they’re big, you may need a little bit more time.
Anal sex is fun. It’s enjoyable, but make sure that you’re making it a fun
experience for both parties. Aftercare is super important for all kinds of sex,
not just anal, so make sure you don’t forget it.
Conclusion

With this book, hopefully, you learned the ins and outs of anal sex.
It isn’t for everyone, and it can be a little bit painful. But, with patience and
the right care, anal can be amazing.
Your next step is simple, and that is to talk with your partner and see if it’s
right for you. Consider experimenting on yourself and see if anal is the best
thing for you to try.