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R O U N DTA B L E 4 “All things being equal, people will work with

Relationships
people they like. All things not being equal,
they still will.”
- John C. Maxwell

The quality of your relationships determines the quality


of your life.

Note: The estimated time for each roundtable step is based on an eight-person NOTES
roundtable.

Step 1 - Sharing results (10 min)


What action step did you commit to last week? What were the results?

Step 2 - Watching video, reading and underlining (15 min)


Watch the video of today's session and take note of what you find important.

INSIGHT
Directions: Take turns reading the paragraphs below. As you read, underline
the ideas that capture your attention.

Most of life’s great experiences—the ones that resonate in our hearts and
minds—involve other people. Rarely do we experience them alone. And even
when we do, our first inclination is to share them with others.

Think back to the most important experiences of your life, the highest highs, the
greatest victories, the most daunting obstacles overcome. How many of them
happened to you alone? Probably very few. When you understand that being
connected to others is one of life’s greatest joys, then you realize that life’s best
comes when you initiate and invest in solid relationships.

Few things in life are more important than people and our relationships with
them. The quality of our relationships impacts every area of our lives. For that
reason, we should do everything we can to create solid, positive relationships.
Here are some things to keep in mind as you do:

Trust is the foundation of every relationship. Developing trust is like creating


the foundation of a building. It takes time and effort. But if it’s done right, the
building that stands on it is solid. It can weather storms and earthquakes.

Every person either lifts others up or takes them down. People are the sources
of both our greatest joys and our greatest challenges. That’s why John C.
Maxwell teaches the Elevator Principle, which says, “We can lift people up or take
people down in our relationships.” When we help and encourage others, we lift
them up. We add to their lives. We make them better. When we are negative and
selfish, we take people down. Every day, we get to choose which we will be.

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Believing the best in people usually brings out the best in people. Each of us NOTES
has a choice in life. We can see the worst in people and base our treatment of
them on low expectations, or we can choose to see the best in them and treat
them accordingly.

It’s true that everyone gets disappointed by others in life. Everyone gets hurt.
Everyone has trust and confidence misused. But our past disappointments don’t
have to color our future. We can and should try to build solid relationships,
starting with the people closest and most important to us—our family—and
radiating out from there.

BENEFITS

When you develop good relationships with people, you experience


the following benefits:

1. You live at peace with others.


2. You develop a strong network of people who want the best for
you.
3. You experience the satisfaction of meeting the needs of others.
4. You experience the harmony of being treated as well as you treat
others.
5. You are more likely to receive support from others when you need
it.

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STEPS TO FOLLOW NOTES

1. Put others first. John C. Maxwell reminds us that the entire population of the
world—with one minor exception—is composed of other people. If we maintain
this perspective, it helps us to remember to put other people first. This week,
focus on serving others and putting their needs ahead of your own.

2. Seek to understand others before being understood. Another lesson taught


by John is the Exchange Principle, which says, “Instead of putting others in their
place, we must put ourselves in their place.” How do you do that? By listening and
working harder at understanding the other person’s point of view instead of trying
to get them to understand yours. This week, make it your goal to speak less, listen
more, and understand others.

3. Repair a broken relationship. If you have a broken relationship, you need to


do all that you can to repair it. This usually requires that you take the first step. Do
something to reach out to someone that you might have wronged, even if the
relationship breakdown is not all your fault. When you make good relationships a
priority, you sometimes have to go first in rebuilding them. Apologize for your
contribution to the problem, and be open and forgiving, even if the other person
does not respond in kind.

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Step 3 - Discussion (12 min)

Reflect and respond


Choose something you underlined that is important to you. Take one minute to tell everyone
what you chose and why it is important to you.

Step 4 - Self-assessment (10 min)

Evaluation and action


Complete the self-evaluation section below.

Rate how well you demonstrate this quality in your life on a scale of 1-10.

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10

Why did you give yourself this rating?

What benefits would you receive by improving your rating?

Who do you know that exemplifies this quality? What do you admire most about that person?

What specific action can you take immediately that will improve your rating?

Step 5 - Assessment and intentional action step conversation (10 min)

Take a minute to share your responses to the self-evaluation section, including the step you will
take to improve in this area. Everyone is asked to participate.

© 2023 by EQUIP Leadership, Inc. EQUIP owns the copyright to this


material. Its intended use is for EQUIP’s Beyond Success Global Initiative. 18
EQUIP allows our partners to use these materials for approved purposes
only. These materials are not to be sold or marketed in any way to seek
profit. REV 1.23

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