PERDEV Q2 Mod1
PERDEV Q2 Mod1
PERDEV Q2 Mod1
Department of Education
National Capital Region
DIVISION OF CITY SCHOOLS – MANILA
Manila Education Center Arroceros Forest Park
Antonio J. Villegas St. Ermita, Manila
Personal
Development
Personal Relationships
Quarter 2 - Module 1
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HOW TO USE THIS MODULE
Before starting the module, I want you to set aside other tasks that will
disturb you while enjoying the lessons. Read the simple instructions below to
successfully enjoy the objectives of this kit. Have fun!
1. Follow carefully all the contents and instructions indicated in every page
of this module.
2. Write on your notebook the concepts about the lessons. Writing enhances
learning, that is important to develop and keep in mind.
3. Perform all the provided activities in the module.
4. Let your facilitator/guardian assess your answers using the answer key
card.
5. Analyze conceptually the posttest and apply what you have learned.
6. Enjoy studying!
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EXPECTATIONS
This module will help you to …
discuss an understanding of teen-ager relationships, including
the acceptable and unacceptable expressions of attractions; and
express ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment.
PRETEST
Directions: Choose the letter of the correct answer. Use a separate sheet of paper.
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5. Which of the following kinds of relationships will a person most likely to
have in the future when emotional needs are not met during childhood?
a. Problematic relationship
b. Cold attachments
c. Afraid of commitment
d. All of the above
6. Being associated with other people formed by emotional bonds and close
interactions with certain degree of connection is referring to_______.
a. Acquaintance
b. Family
c. Friends
d. Partner
. 9. When two individuals are attracted to one another and decided to love
each other, what kind of relationship do they develop?
a. Acquaintance
b. Friendship
c. Romantic Relationship
d. All of the above
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LOOKING BACK TO YOUR LESSON
ACTIVITY 1.1 PERCEIVING MY RELATIONSHIPS
ANALYSIS
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BRIEF INTRODUCTION
What comes to your mind when you hear the word “relationship”? You’d
probably think of anybody you are closely associated with like your family,
friends, and other people whom you have connections with. How about
“personal relationships”? Is it distinctive from other relationship status? This
is what this module is all about. The scope of its contents is focused on
partnership or romantic relationship, the acceptable and unacceptable
expressions of attraction, and ways of expressing, attraction, love and
commitment.
DISCUSSIONS
Lesson
Personal Relationships
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RELATIONSHIP
A. Personal Relationships
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FORMS OF PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
1. Family Relationships
The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of
relationships, but this greatly varies. The census defines family as "two or
more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and live together
as one household. They are connected through some form of kinship but
throughout the years, its meaning evolves into some typical characteristics
that family establishes like support, mutual trust, regular interactions, shared
beliefs, values, security, and a sense of community.
2. Friendships
A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people often
built upon mutual experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional
attachment. Friends can turn to each other in times of need. Friends are
people we trust, respect and care about. They are the people whom we feel
easy to confide with and want to spend time with.
3. Acquaintanceships
Acquaintances are people you may casually encounter in your everyday
routine but you do not have close emotional bonds together. It is important to
be polite and respectful to acquaintances to avoid stress and conflict with
people around you. Relationships usually start from being an acquaintance
that over time, evolve into different status level.
4. Romantic Relationships
This is a type of relationship which is closely associated with privacy and
intimacy between two individuals. This relationship comprises one of the most
meaningful aspects of life, providing a source of deep fulfillment. The need for
human connection appears to be innate but the ability to form healthy, loving
relationships should be learned. Romantic relationship characterizes close
interactions built upon attraction, love, and commitment.
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2. Affiliation Phase – the getting to know each other period. It is the stage
that develops more comfortable feelings around through companionship,
setting a friendly atmosphere, and building rapport rather than
intimacy.
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routinely check in with themselves, their partner, and their relationship to see
how things are going and to make change as necessary.
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chaotic atmosphere of relationship. Every relationship in whatever phase or
status has its ups and downs, but if you always have misunderstanding while
you are not yet in a steady relationship, it might be time to think twice about
pursuing a romantic relationship with that person.
4. Manifesting aggression
In an ideal relationship, partners should be patient and give support to
one another. However, if they are engaging in destructive behavior that is
negatively affecting you, and they refuse to seek help, you might want to
consider leaving. There is only so much you can do, and it is not your fault
that they are not willing to be helped or to help themselves.
5. Controlling Behavior
You should have a life outside your relationship, away from your
partner. It is not their place to tell you who you can see and when you can see
them, what to eat, or how to dress. This controlling behavior can be a warning
sign of abuse and should be taken seriously. Unnecessary sacrifices lead to
more sacrifices later on. Have you heard of someone saying they got rid of their
pet because their fiancé didn’t like cats? Or quit their job, left their family, and
moved across the country (or world) for someone who wouldn’t do the same for
them? To compromise is a must in a relationship, but if you feel like you’re
giving up everything while your significant other is sacrificing nothing,
something’s not right.
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DYNAMICS OF ATTRACTION, LOVE, AND COMMITMENT
Attraction - is a force that draws people together. It serves as the first step
towards liking someone that evokes interest or admiration. This results in
positive feelings to develop a so-called “Chemistry” between two people. Some
factors for attraction are Physical Attractiveness, Proximity, Similarity, and
Reciprocity:
Love - is a feeling of deep affection and a complex set of emotions for another
person. The most spectacular, indescribable, deep, euphoric feeling for
someone and considered the most powerful human emotion. Love is what
makes a person want to keep their commitment no matter what happens.
Love’s three main qualities: intimacy, passion, and compassion.
LOVE QUALITIES
1. Intimacy – Is the bond that develops when two individual share thoughts
and feelings they don’t share with anyone else. It involves emotional closeness
and connectedness characterized by attitudes of mutual trust, caring, and
acceptance. It shows a close union in a personal level that creates synchrony
between two people.
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3. Compassion – Compassionate love is characterized by a sympathetic
mutual concern for one another. It shows willingness to go out of their way to
help the physical, mental, or emotional pains of their partner. This love
usually develops by showing kindness and empathy out of feelings of mutual
understanding and shared respect for one another, attachment, and trust.
ACTIVITIES
ACTIVITY 1.3 LOVE REFLECTION
Direction: Reflect as you read the adage below. It will allow you to gain
understanding of the lessons ahead of you.
“Relationships of all kinds are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, within
an open hand, the sand remains were it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze
tightly to hold on the sand trickles through your fingers, you may hold on to some of it,
but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and
freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too
possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost”.
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Kaleel Jamison, The Nibble Theory
Guide Question:
1. What can you say about relationship as discussed in the box?
2. Do you agree with the author’s statement? Why or why not?
3. What unacceptable expression manifests from the excerpt?
4. How freedom is compared to sand in hand?
5. How is being possessive in a relationship make it slips away?
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ACTIVITY 1.5 “MY VISION OF LOVE”
Direction: Draw a big heart divided into two. On the left side of the heart;
describe yourself in terms of values, principles, and goals in life. On the other
half of the heart; describe the characteristics of your “ideal partner” or the
person you want to have in your romantic relationship.
_____ 3. Mental health has nothing to do with the status of personal affairs.
_____ 4. Social Media is an ideal platform for expressing feelings for anybody.
_____ 8. Abuse infringes the rights of the other individual in any relationship.
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REMEMBER
Relationship is how two or more people are associated with one
another.
Personal relationships have a certain degree of connection and
commitment which includes family relationships, friendships,
acquaintanceships, and romantic relationships.
Impersonal relationship is dealing with other individuals without any
reference to attachment but mere interaction and connection by the
circumstances.
Attraction is a force that draws people together. This results into a so-
called “Chemistry” between two people. Some factors for attraction are
Physical Attractiveness, Proximity, Similarity, and Reciprocity.
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POST TEST
Direction: Choose the letter of the correct answer. Use a separate sheet of paper.
3. Ana tends to like Mike because Mike likes her. What is this type of
attraction that tends to like others who reciprocate their liking?
a. Physical Attractiveness
b. Proximity
c. Similarity
d. Reciprocity
4. Carla start liking Kier and find him attractive because they are always
together. This kind of attraction says repeated exposure or physical
nearness breeds liking. What type of attraction is this?
a. Physical Attractiveness
b. Proximity
c. Similarity
d. Reciprocity
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6. Margarette wants to make sure that she knows her suitor very well
before she enters into a romantic relationship with anyone. In what
phase she is still into?
a. Initial Phase
b. Affiliation Phase
c. Intimate Phase
d. Commitment Phase
7. This refers to looks that is usually the first thing to notice as basis for
attraction.
a. Physical Attractiveness
b. Proximity
c. Similarity
d. Reciprocity
10. When Edward proposed to marry Grace, her long-time partner, and
said “yes! She wants Edward to be her loving husband. This
phase wherein they are both ready to settle down is in what phase of
romantic relationship?
a. Affiliation Phase
b. Initial Phase
c. Intimate Phase
d. Commitment Phase
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REFERENCES
Books:
Delena, Mary Irene et.al. (2017). Personal Development, Beyond Selfies. Mandaluyong
Anvil Publishing Inc .
Case, Melona et. al, (2019). Personal Development. Quezon City. Lorimar Publishing,
Inc.,
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REFLECTIVE LEARNING SHEET
4. Give one situation for each of the following: attraction, love and
commitment that you have showed or experienced. What are your
realizations in expressing these?
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ANSWER KEY
PRETEST POSTTEST
1. D 1. C
2. D 2. D
3. B 3. D
4. C 4. B
5. D 5. A
6. B 6. B
7. A 7. A
8. D 8. C
9. C 9. A
10. A 10. D
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