Feelings

Activity Book
Belonging to:

Welcome to your Feelings

Activity Book from your
local hospice, St Barnabas House.
This workbook has been produced to help you to learn
about yourself and your emotions through some fun
activities. There are also some tips on what might help you
to cope during difficult times.
All the activities can be done independently or with others,
at school or at home. You may need help or support from
parents or teachers, that’s OK, don’t be afraid to ask.
 What makes me, me?
My favourite foods
My favourite colour

Colour in

You are special, there is

no one else in the world
like you, no one who
laughs like you and no
one who cries like you.
There is only one you

My favourite books

My favourite films

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 ou connected to?
Who are y
Draw a picture of yourself or write a description in the circle.
Around the outside write or draw the people you are close to. Draw a line between you and each person.
Think about how they support you and how you help each other.

Me

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 Helping hands
On this page, choose your favourite colour pencil or pen and draw around your hand.
On each finger and thumb write the name of somebody who you can talk to.
You could add some other favourite people, pets, or things, in the palm.

You could look at this hand

now and again to see if there is
anyone you would like to add
or take away.
Sometimes you will like to
talk to different people about
different things.

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have
Write their name and draw or stick a picture of them in the hearts below. Write a list of how you might stay
connected with them and what you would like to do when you get together again.

How I will keep in touch. How I will keep in touch. How I will keep in touch. How I will keep in touch.

What we will do when we get What we will do when we get What we will do when we get What we will do when we get
together. together. together. together.

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 Feelings and emotions
We all have feelings and emotions.
Sometimes we feel happy,
or we may feel sad or angry.
Sometimes we might feel scared or lonely.
Whatever you feel is what you feel, there are no wrong feelings.

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Sometimes when you feel angry you might want to lash out or do something hurtful.
It is normal and OK to feel angry but it is important that you express it in a way that is safe for yourself
and others.
If you are finding some of your emotions difficult to deal with, think about talking to someone you trust,
maybe you wrote them down on pages two and three?
Talking about your feelings or worries makes them feel smaller or can help them go away altogether.

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 Feelings diary
We all need to practice to identify and understand our feelings. A feelings diary can help us work out how we react to them;
for example, when you feel on top of the world or when you feel stressed.
Try to write down or draw a few feelings that you notice each day, then talk it through with one of your trusted adults.
Others in the family might want to join in and then you can all help each other to understand feelings.

Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday

Things to think about: When did you feel really good or when did you feel not so good? What was happening? Did it affect your behaviour?
Does your behaviour affect other people? Don’t forget that talking to others really helps.
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 Helping you to cope
Life is not all positive, we all have to cope with challenging situations.
Feelings can be confusing and uncomfortable. Learning how to cope and managing challenges can make us more ‘resilient’.

Think of times when you coped well. Can you remember when you last felt Do you know anyone who appears to
Write or draw in the circle what helped. stressed? cope well?
Some examples might be – walked away, Where did you feel it on your body? Could you ask them for some tips or
talked to someone, distracted myself by Put a mark on the body to describe where maybe share yours with them?
doing something nice. and how it felt. Make a list of good tips or ideas below.

Remember, it
will usually help
to tell someone
you trust how
you are feeling.

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 A couple of ideas
1.
Have some fun being kind to someone!
Write or draw some ideas of how to be kind to someone and
how to be kind to yourself.
Try to do one every day and write it in a diary or on a calendar.

2.
A coping toolbox
Decorate a cardboard box and fill it with
things that make you feel better. Examples:
a toy, photos, favourite book or DVD.
Relaxing tips list – deep breaths, exercises.
Next time you discover something that
helps you can add it to the box.

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 Some other ideas
Learn to do
something new Ask for help Do some exercise

Listen to music or Talk to a friend

Do a drawing watch a film online

Think of a happy
time
Write a poem Write your feelings
down

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 death of a loved one
Coping with the
It can be hard to believe that anyone else
can understand how you are feeling and it
If a person or a pet we love dies, it can be a very can feel very lonely.
difficult time. You may experience some very Not everyone will understand, but many
painful and confusing feelings, this is called grief. will.
Crying one minute, laughing or feeling angry the
It might seem very difficult but talking to
next and even feeling nothing at all (numb) is
someone about your feelings can be the
all very normal. Everyone reacts differently and
first step to begin to heal.
having these mixed up feelings is ok.
It may be a friend or a teacher rather than
There is no time limit on grief so be kind to
a family member and this is OK.
yourself.

You may not always feel like talking and

this is OK too.
It is also OK to laugh and have fun or not
to think of the person all the time.
Sometimes it may feel like the pain will
never go away but over time it will ease.
Suggestion:
There is no magic recipe to change
Use the feelings diary
things but on the following pages there
to keep an eye on
are some things that other people have
how you are feeling
found useful to help.
each day.

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 A memory jar
Write some of your memories on a piece of paper and pop it into the jar.

A memory box
Ask other members of the family to do the same.
Every now and again, or at a set time, take turns to pull a memory out and
talk about it with your family. We will all have different memories.
This really helps to keep the memory of the person alive. Any memories such as photos, letters, tickets, jewellery, songs, smellies,
even clothes, could go in this box with a lock on.
Every now and again unlock the box and refresh your memory.

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 Other strategies to help
Different things will help at different times

Talk to someone Have a cry

Think of
a happy memory

Do something Watch a film

Visit their special
you enjoy you used
place
to watch
together

Plant Write Make a collage with

something in a letter photos and things
their honour to the that remind you of
person the person

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