T.O.N.Y. Truth Only Nurture You
T.O.N.Y. Truth Only Nurture You
T.O.N.Y. Truth Only Nurture You
By Greg X
©Copyright 2023 Greg X
Preface
Truth only nurtures you; truth nurtures your heart, mind, body, and
spirit with its illumination of supreme light that radiates from the
Supreme Creator of Light and Truth.
It is in truth and light that the Supreme Creator of Truth and Light
created the universe and all within and all beyond.
Truth has inspired many prophets, messengers, disciples,
civilizations, and followers that have gifted mankind with phenomenal
written, artistic, technological, and architectural achievements that
have not only stood the test of time and destruction of many
civilizations, but stand as proof that TRUTH is not only the same
today as it was yesterday, but TRUTH will always reveal itself, in the
same way that God always sends a messenger to warn mankind to
atone for their evil deeds before destruction of a civilization takes
place.
For most people it's easier to accept a lie than to accept the truth,
because a lie can often be very flattering and easier to accept for
most people, but the moment that a person has to face the truth
about themselves or a bad situation in their lives, the truth will
often hurt first, forcing them to face reality head on, and that reality
of the truth is either going to break a person or humble them and
make them stronger.
TRUTH has been distorted with lies through out the history of
mankind, some of the more obvious truths that have been distorted
is in religion with the original Sabbath Day being on Saturday the
7th day of the week, that God ordained in the 10 Commandments,
in which it states "keep thy Sabbath Day Holy" but Constantine of
Rome changed the original Saturday Sabbath to Sunday, to honor
the Sun God, instead of honoring God the Creator of all things in
the universe and beyond.
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Another instance of the Truth being distorted is when Europeans
presented to the world a white Jesus/Yeshua in all of their
impressions and art of the Messiah, but in reality, Jesus/Yeshua was
Hebrew, he spoke Aramaic, and many say he was an Essene living
in the eastern part of the world.
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The origin of the Dead Sea Scrolls, which were written between 150
B.C. and 70 A.D., remains the subject of scholarly debate to this
day. According to conventional theory, they are the work of a Jewish
population that inhabited Qumran until Roman troops destroyed the
settlement around 70 A.D. These Jews are thought to have
belonged to a devout, ascetic and communal sect called the
Essenes.
The Roman Catholic Church had been telling everyone for hundreds
of years what they had to believe, and that it was all true.
The Roman Catholic Church must therefore have been very
concerned when texts which had been lost for centuries were
discovered in 1945.
The Nag Hammadi texts were Gnostic texts, and Gnosticism was the
chief ‘heresy’ that was ruthlessly suppressed by the Catholic Church.
These are just a few examples of people that have attempted to
suppress the TRUTH with lies or try to hide the truth; the truth can't
be hid because it will eventually come to fruition.
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(T.O.N.Y.) Truth only nurtures you; please see Biblical verses
and verses from the Quran below:
God is a Spirit: and they that worship him must worship him in spirit
and in truth.
John 4:24
“‘This is the Day when the truthful will benefit from their
truthfulness.’ For them are gardens [in Paradise] beneath which
rivers flow, wherein they will abide forever, Allah being pleased with
them, and they with Him. That is the great attainment,” (Al-Ma’idah:
119).
Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) said, “Speak the truth even when it
is bitter.”
Allah (SWT) says what can be translated as, “O you who have
believed, fear Allah and be with those who are true.”
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LIVING A LIE
In this life we are all guilty of doing things that we are not proud of,
and we have all lied or been less than truthful in one way or another,
many people socially gossip, spread rumors, and talk about other
people that are not in their presence, when they themselves also have
skeletons in their closet that they are ashamed to reveal.
Have you ever asked yourself why you or people you know gossip,
spread rumors, or lie to others?
Straight-out lying: You know, the type of lie you tell to get
yourself out of a messy situation.
When people gossip about you, spread rumors about, or lie to you,
how do you feel about the person or people that do this to you?
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Overcoming the spirit of gossip is a very difficult sin to overcome,
but there is a solution: Love. When we filter our attention on
others through love instead of judgment, prayer will replace
gossip. We are social creatures and we like to contemplate the
world and the people in it. The desire to embrace others with our
thoughts can be extremely beneficial when submitted to the
leadership and guidance of the Holy Spirit. Instead of using our
words to destroy, we can replace gossip with prayer and use our
words to build up.
The tongue is literally a weapon that can be used for good or evil.
When we gossip, our tongue is used for evil. When we pray, our
tongue is used for good. Once we learn to wield this weapon for
good, we can reap the benefits.
There are many reasons why people gossip, some the reasons are
revenge, jealousy, need to increase their social standing, gain
attention, to feel accepted, or to feel better about themselves.
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Psalms 101:5 - Whoso privily slandereth his neighbour, him will I
cut off: him that hath an high look and a proud heart will not I
suffer.
If the Creator stood before a million people with the light of a million
lamps, only a few would truly see him because truth is already alive
in their hearts. Truth can only be seen by those with truth in them.
People who do not have Truth in their heart, will always be blind to
the truth.”
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One of the most unkindest things you can do to a person is to
tarnish their reputation in front of others just to make yourself look
good.
You are living a lie when you have skeleton in your closet that you
have not revealed, yet you gossip, spread rumors, and lie about
other people to try to fit in with a certain group of people, or you
try to gain sympathy and acceptance by putting other people
down to attempt to uplift yourself in the eyes of other people.
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your recollection of events is different from theirs
they “talk the talk” but don’t “walk the walk” (words and actions
are incongruent)
they retell a story that happened to you and pass it off as their
own your gut instinct tells you something is off with their stories
“One study reported that about 13% of people identified
themselves as pathological liars,” says Zrenchik.
Some mental health conditions may be associated with patterns of
pathological lying. These include:
“It can be suggested that the belief does not exist to a delusional
level, but potentially due to the repetition and frequency of the lies. It
could feel real to the liar because it’s a story they’ve told themselves
and others countless times,” he says.
“They may not think in the same terms as you do. The ‘truth’ may be
a foreign concept to them. The only thing that matters may be
‘winning,’ such as an argument, a lawsuit, or a disagreement,” she
says. “They may live in a world of their own reality or truth, which is
simply what they need at the moment: a partner, an accomplishment,
a deal.”
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Try to set healthy boundaries
If you sense you’re being lied to, it’s OK to limit interactions. With
composure and calm, try to explain how you feel. “Let them know
where you stand and set a boundary for your own self-respect,” says
Irwin. “But do so with no expectation of enlightening or changing
them and encouraging them to tell the truth.”
Affirmation
Whatever is, simply is; I cannot change it by wishing. Fearlessly,
therefore, I accept the truth, knowing that, at the heart of
everything, God’s truth is always good.
Prayer
"Praised be Thou, God of Israel, God of Abraham, God of Isaac,
God of Jacob, God of the whole earth. God, give us Thy blessing.
Bless us with the blessing with which Thou didst bless Abraham.
Bless us as Thou didst bless the storehouse of Abitara [a charitable
woman]. Keep our going-out and our coming-in, Thou who art the
keeper of Israel. Keep us in peace. Praise the Lord, O ye heavens.
Let the whole earth praise Him. Amen!"
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THE GRECO-ROMAN LIE –TRUTH REVEALED
To know thy self is truth from God and of God and truth will
always be revealed if you seek it with all of your heart and soul.
This Chapter is meant to give all Ethnic people the historical truth
of our great ethnic ancestors achievements and dispel the lies that
Europeans have used to miseducated Ethnic people.
For centuries ethnic people have had the history of their African,
Middle Eastern, and Far Eastern ancestors distorted, osbscured, and
twisted by Greeks, Romans, and Europeans. These non-ethnic
people have stolen credit for many of the greatest achievements in
history that should be rightfully credited to ethnic people of Africa,
the Middle East, and Far East.
It has often been said that "A tree without roots can not stand" and
a people without knowledge of their true history will live out the
history that they have been indoctrinated with and miseducated by,
this is especially true when we look at the Willie Lynch letter.
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Mental slavery is a subliminal tactic used to keep Africans in America
in psychological chains for generations. In 1712, Willie Lynch
prophesied this method of control that would push an inferior
mentality on the enslaved and eliminate the strength in numbers
that unity provided Africans in America. Lynch stated that the
correct use of his methods would control these Africans in America
for 300 years or more.
This Chapter is written in truth to nurture you and give you insight
into the greatness of your ethnic ancestors and how Greco-Roman
European people stole credit from our great Ethnic history out of
amazement, jealousy, and their inability to achieve any
accomplishments on a scale that Ethnic people achieved in the
Cradle of Civilization.
Truth is that which is consistent with the mind, will, character, glory,
and being of God. Even more to the point: Truth is the self-
expression of God. That is the biblical meaning of truth. Because the
definition of truth flows from God, truth is theological.
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Truth is also ontological—which is a fancy way of saying it is the way
things really are. Reality is what it is because God declared it so and
made it so. Therefore God is the author, source, determiner,
governor, arbiter, ultimate standard, and final judge of all truth.
Jesus also said that the written Word of God is truth. It does not
merely contain nuggets of truth; it is pure, unchangeable, and
inviolable truth that (according to Jesus) “cannot be broken” (John
10:35). Praying to His heavenly Father on behalf of His disciples, He
said this: “Sanctify them by your truth. Your word is truth” (John
17:17). Moreover, the Word of God is eternal truth “which lives and
abides forever” (1 Peter 1:23).
The year 146 BCE thus marks the point at which the majority of
Greece was under Roman control. The Greek Diaspora of the
Diadochi, including the regions of Anatolia, Syria, and Egypt, would
be brought under their control in the following couple of centuries.
As we have seen, Greek culture was already known and admired in
Rome since its earliest days; but political control of the region greatly
intensified the process. Greek art, literature, music, theatre, and
architecture became fashionable. A Roman nobleman was considered
uneducated if he could not speak Greek.
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About 500 years ago, Europeans started conquering the outside
world through colonization of countries throughout the world. As
the dominant force in the world, spreading knowledge (including
world history) was in their total control.
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In other words, settler colonizers do not merely exploit indigenous
peoples and lands for labor and economic interests; they displace
them through settlements. In his groundbreaking theory of the
“logic of elimination,” Patrick Wolfe shows that settler colonialism is
a system, not a historical event, and that as such it perpetuates the
erasure of native peoples as a precondition for settler expropriation
of lands and resources, providing the necessary conditions for
establishing the present-day ideology of multicultural neo-liberalism.
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God told the people of Israel to remember things that happened long
ago. Through his word and through the things he has done, God
reveals his sovereignty and his purpose for mankind.
Isaiah 46:9-10
Africa, the Middle East, and the Far East are known as the Cradle of
Civilization and will always have an illustrious past that will always
keep the world in awe, simply because these areas of the world are
the most researched, most studied in the world, and have given
many birth to the world's oldest cultures and civilizations.
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From the early 7th century BC and onward, the Iranian Medes,
followed by the Achaemenid Empire and other subsequent Iranian
states and empires, dominated the region. In the 1st century BC, the
expanding Roman Republic absorbed the whole Eastern
Mediterranean, which included much of the Near East. The Eastern
Roman Empire, now commonly known as the Byzantine Empire,
ruled from the Balkans to the Euphrates, became increasingly
defined by and dogmatic about Christianity and gradually creating
religious rifts between the doctrines dictated by the establishment in
Constantinople and believers in many parts of the Middle East. From
the 3rd century to the course of the 7th century AD, the entire
Middle East was dominated by the Byzantines and the Sasanian
Empire. From the 7th century, a new power was rising in the Middle
East, that of Islam.
In the ancient Middle East, many great civilizations rose and fell. The
religions of Judaism, Christianity, and Islam each trace their origins
back to this part of the world.
One area within the Fertile Crescent gave rise to the region's most
powerful empires and grandest cities. This area was Mesopotamia,
the land between the Tigris and Euphrates Rivers.
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The Sumerians, Babylonians, Assyrians, Persians, and Phoenicians
all built great empires, each of which rose to glory in the Middle
East. The first writing system. The plow. The sailboat. The first
lunar calendar.
They were the first people to use the plow to lift the silt-laden soil
of their crop fields and they invented the sailboat. They were the
first people to design a calendar based on the phase of the moon
and they developed a numerical system, based on the number 60
that is still used to measure seconds and minutes.
"An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth." This phrase, along
with the idea of written laws, goes back to ancient Mesopotamian
culture that prospered long before the Bible was written or the
civilizations of the Greeks or Romans flowered.
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The word Hermeticism comes from the name of Hermes, the Greek
counterpart for the Ancient Egyptian god "Thoth." In other words,
Hermeticism is the Ancient Greek version of Ancient Egyptian
philosophy.
The Egyptians founded Heliopolis (the Sun City) and Memphis and
according to Masonic legend, these two cities were the source of
knowledge and science, that is, as the Masons would say "Great
Light." Pythagoras, who visited Heliopolis, had much to say about
the temple. The Memphis temple where he had been trained has
historical significance. In the city of Thebes there were advanced
schools. Pythagoras, Plato and Cicero were initiated into Masonry in
these cities.
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Most of the prominent Greek philosophers and scholars got their
training or information studying in ancient Egyptian temples, tombs
and lodges.
They would slip out of Greece via Elea, near the Etruscan Peninsula
(today called Italy), enter Alkebu-Lan (today called Africa) through
modern-day Libya and pilgrim to the Nile Valley. Studying at the
temples of Wa’rit and Waset, near modern day Luxor and Karnak
Temples on the banks of the Nile River, was the greatest goal for
scholars and initiates from all over the ancient world.
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The ancient Egyptians turned the pith of the Cyperus papyrus plant,
which is found throughout the Mediterranean region, into sheets
which could be rolled into scrolls.
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The Edwin Smith Papyrus, dating to 1600 BC, is the oldest known
surgical treatise. It describes 48 surgical cases of injuries, fractures,
wounds, dislocations, and tumors, and details the type of the injury,
examination of the patient, diagnosis, prognosis, and treatment.
Written in black ink, with explanations written in red ink, the papyrus
even contains a section on gynecology and one on cosmetics, along
with five prescriptions. The Cairo Museum contains a collection of
surgical instruments, including scalpels, scissors, copper needles,
forceps, spoons, lancets, hooks, probes, and pincers.
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The Kingdom of Aksum also known as the Kingdom of Axum or
the Aksumite Empire, was a kingdom centered in Northeast Africa
and South Arabia from Classical antiquity to the Middle Ages. Based
primarily in what is now northern Ethiopia, and spanning modern-
day Eritrea, northern Djibouti, and eastern Sudan, it extended at its
height into much of modern-day southern Arabia during the reign of
King Kaleb.
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but the Mesopotamians had greater influence and used a language
which was closer to Canaanite/Hebrew and they started writing it
first (Using Cuneiform Script. Which script is actually a good writing
system, and even tells us how to pronounce those ancient words).
the Epic of Gilgamesh and the book of Genesis are so obvious that
the authors of the Bible must have used them. The Epic of
Gilgamesh is an epic poem from Mesopotamia and is one of the
earliest known works of literature.
It dates to the 18th century BC. The first parallel is between the
story of Enkidu/Shamhat and Adam/Eve. In both stories, a man is
created from the soil by a god and lives among the animals.
He is introduced to a woman who tempts him – he accepts her
offering of food, decides to cover his nakedness, leaves paradise,
and is not allowed to return.
The flood story in Genesis 6-8 closely matches the Gilgamesh flood
myth in such a way that Genesis must have been derived from it.
The Genesis flood story follows the Gilgamesh flood story “point by
point and in the same order”.
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In the Epic of Gilgamesh, the god Ea warns Utnapishtim of a great
flood and told Utnapishtim to build a boat in order to save all the
living things. Just like Noah, he builds the boat, puts all the living
things and his family on it, experiences a storm, and after it was
all over, he offers a sacrifice to God.
In the original flood story, the oldest written version, it was not a
global flood, but only a regional flood on the Euphrates River.
There are also similarities between Jesus and other gods,
suggesting that the authors of the Bible borrowed myths from
other religions. For example, the story of the “dying-and-
returning-god” is considered a pattern or archetype by many,
The gods Adonis, Tammuz, Osiris, and Dionysus died and were
resurrected.
The Great Schism of the 11th century and Reformation of the 16th
century tore apart Christendom into hostile factions, and following the
Age of Enlightenment of the 18th century, atheism and agnosticism
had spread across Europe.
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600 BCE to 500 BCE - Judaism
Judaism began in the Middle East some 4000 years ago but,
much like Hinduism, there has been much debate over the true
founding period. In the 1800s, biblical scholars settled that what we
now recognize as Jewish faith, or Judaism, was formed in the
5th century BCE.
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1st Century CE - Christianity
Christianity developed from Judaism, and it’s founding marks the 1st
Century of the Common Era. Christianity is formed around the life,
death and teachings of a man named Jesus Christ and his 12 disciples.
The most sacred text in the Islamic faith is called the Koran
(Qur’an/Quran). The Koran is written in first person, as if Allah himself
wrote it, and is believed to have been written by scribes of Muhammad
as Muhammad himself never learned to read or write.
In Islamic faith, Muslims hold five basic principles that are essential to
their practice and way of life.
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16th Century CE - Sikhism
Around 500 years ago the Sikh faith was founded in Punjab,
South Asia, by a man called Guru Nanak. At the time, Hinduism
and Islam were the predominant faiths in Asia. Guru (meaning
teacher) Nanak began preaching something completely new.
There were nine other Gurus who followed Nanak, and developed
the faith alongside him. Together, they taught their communities
that God resides over them to guide and protect them, and
emphasized that it is important to live a good life - the way of doing
so is through your actions.
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KNOW THY SELF
Commune with your soul within, and consider how wonderfully you
are created. Meditate long upon your nature, contemplate the
powers you possess. Consider your needs and desires; thus, you
will find the proper path through life and a sure guide to direct
your footsteps. As the union of heat and tinder produces fire, so
does the union of soul and body produce life in man. Nothing is
constant in life, except wisdom, knowledge and skill.
Men are born handsome or ugly, rich or poor, they inherit a life of
ease or a life of struggle.
When the road seems long and the load heavy, remember that the
stouthearted runner carries the greatest burden.
Stay rooted in TRUTH. One reason why people are hurting and
suffering is because they are dishonest with themselves. To become
truth, tap into your heart.
When you actively create and design who you are, inside your
heart, mind, body, and spirit, you learn to love yourself more. This
is because you’re actively influencing who you are, and you’re
molding yourself with your own hands and creating the person you
want to become.
When you master yourself, you master your life. Through the
process of self-awareness, self-empowerment, self-creation, self-
declaration, you can achieve self-mastery. Life is lived by YOU. By
being able to completely control, create, and master yourself inside
your heart, mind, body, and spirit you will master your life.
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By mastering yourself, you take total control of the person you are.
The Words that we speak to ourselves and other have power that
many people are unaware of. The spoken word is one of the most
powerful devices in the universe. The Bible states with words that
you are created in the image and likeness of the creator. That means
you are sharing those creative properties. What you say matters
because what you speak becomes matter. You are energy and your
words are a form of this energy.
Proverbs 15:4 – Words have the power to heal and to hurt, to lift a
hurting soul or crush the last gasp of hope in a desperate life.
Proverbs 18:21 – “Death and life are in the power of the tongue:
and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof."
Psalm 34:13 – “Keep thy tongue from evil, and thy lips from
speaking guile.”
Your thoughts are the main ingredient of this power, and when you
add to them focus and emotions, thoughts become powerful and
can affect your reality.
The thoughts that pass through your mind are responsible for
almost everything that happens in your life.
Thoughts are like seeds. They have a natural tendency to grow, get
powerful, and manifest in your life, if you feed them with your
attention and allow them to grow.
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Scriptures on Truth from The ESSENE GOSPEL OF PEACE
Book One:
Many sick and maimed came to Jesus, asking him. "if you know all
things, tell us, why do we suffer with these grievous plagues? Why
are we not whole like other men?
Master, heal us, that we too may be made strong, and need abide
no longer in our misery. We know that you have it in your power to
heal all manner of disease. Free us from Satan and from all his great
afflictions. Master, have compassion on us.“
Jesus answered- "Happy are you that you hunger for the truth, for I
will satisfy you with the bread of wisdom. Happy are you, that you
knock, for I will open to you the door of life. Happy are you, that
you would cast off the power of Satan, for I will lead you into the
kingdom of our Mother's angels, where the power of Satan cannot
enter.“
And they asked him in amazement: "Who is our Mother and who are
her angels? And where is her kingdom?"
"Your Mother is in you, and you in her. She bore you she gives you
life. it was she who gave to you your body, and to her shall you one
day give it back again. Happy are you when you come to know her
and her kingdom; if you receive your Mother's angels and if you do
her laws.
I tell you truly, he who does these things shall never see disease.
For the power of our Mother is above all. And it destroys Satan and
his kingdom, and has rule over all your bodies and all living things.
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"I tell you in very truth, Man is the Son of the Earthly Mother, and
from her did the Son of Man receive his whole body, even as the
body of the newborn babe is born of the womb of his mother.
I tell you truly, you are one with the Earthly Mother; she is in you,
and you in her. Of her were you born, in her do you live, and to
her shall you return again. Keep, therefore, her laws, for none
can live long, neither be happy, but he who honors his
Earthly Mother and does her laws.
For your breath is her breath; your blood her blood; your bone her
bone; your flesh her flesh; your bowels her bowels; your eyes and
your ears are her eyes and her ears.
"For I tell you truly, evils and dangers innumerable lie in wait for
the Sons of Men. Beelzebub, the prince of all devils, the source of
every evil, lies in wait in the body of all the Sons of Men.
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"For no man can serve two masters. For either he serves
Beelzebub and his devils or else he serves our Earthly Mother and
her angels. Either he serves death or he serves life. I tell you truly,
happy are those that do the laws of life and wander not upon the
paths of death. For in them the forces of life wax strong and they
escape the plagues of death.“
They sat round about Jesus and asked him: "Master, which are
these laws of life? Rest with us awhile longer and teach us. We
would listen to your teaching that we may be healed and become
righteous.“
And Jesus himself sat down in their midst and said: "I tell you
truly, none can be happy, except he do the Law."
And the others answered: "We all do the laws of Moses, our
lawgiver, even as they are written in the holy scriptures."
And Jesus answered: "Seek not the law in your scriptures, for the
law is life, whereas the scripture is dead. I tell you truly, Moses
received not his laws from God in writing, but through the living
word.
The law is living word of living God to living prophets for living
men. In everything that is life is the law written. You find it in the
grass, in the tree, in the river, in the mountain, in the birds of
heaven, in the fishes of the sea; but seek it chiefly in yourselves.
For I tell you truly, all living things are nearer to God than the
scripture which is without life. God so made life and all living things
that they might by the everlasting word teach the laws of the true
God to man.
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God wrote not the laws in the pages of books, but in your heart and
in your spirit. They are in your breath, your blood, your bones; in
your flesh, your bowels, your eyes, your ears, and in every little part
of your body. They are present in the air, in the water, in the earth,
in the plants, in the sunbeams, in the depths and in the heights.
They all speak to you that you may understand the tongue and the
will of the living God. But you shut your eyes that you may not see,
and you shut your ears that you may not hear. I tell you truly, that
the scripture is the work of man, but life and all its hosts are the
work of our God.
"It is by love, that the Heavenly Father and the Earthly Mother and
the Son of Man become one. For the spirit of the Son of Man was
created from the spirit of the Heaven Father, and his body from the
body of the Earthly Mother.
And then shall the Sons of Men like true brothers give love one to
another, the love which they received from their Heavenly Father
and from their Earthly Mother; and they shall all become comforters
one of another. 50
And then shall disappear from the earth all evil and all sorrow, and
there shall be love and joy upon earth. And then shall the earth be
like the heavens, and the kingdom of God shall come.
And then shall come the Son of Man in all his glory, to inherit the
kingdom of God. And then shall the Sons of Men divide their divine
inheritance, the kingdom of God. For the Sons of Men live in the
Heavenly Father and in the Earthly Mother, and the Heavenly
Father and the Earthly Mother live in them.
And then with the kingdom of God shall come the end of the times.
For the Heavenly Father's love gives to all life everlasting in the
kingdom of God. For love is eternal. Love is stronger than death.
"Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have
not love, I am become as sounding brass or a tinkling cymbal.
Though I tell what is to come, and know all secrets, and all wisdom;
and though I have faith strong as the storm which lifts mountains
from their seat, but have not love, I am nothing.
And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and give all my
fire that I have received from my Father, but have not love, I am in
no wise profited. Love is patient, love is kind. Love is not envious,
works not evil, knows not pride; is not rude, neither selfish; is slow
to anger, imagines no mischief; rejoices not in injustice, but delights
in justice. Love defends all, love believes all, love hopes all, love
bears all; never exhausts itself; but as for tongues they shall cease,
and, as for knowledge, it shall vanish away.
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For we have truth in part, and error in part, but when the fullness of
perfection is come, that which is in part shall be blotted out. When a
man was a child he spoke as a child, understood as a child, thought
as a child; but when he became a man he put away childish things.
For now we see through a glass and through dark sayings. Now we
know in part, but when we are come before the face of God, we
shall not know in part, but even as we are taught by him. And now
remain these three: faith and hope and love; but the greatest of
these is love.
"Love one another, for God is love, and so shall his angels
know that you walk in his paths. And then shall all the angels
come before your face and serve you. And Satan with all sins,
diseases and uncleanliness shall depart from your body. Go, eschew
your sins; repent yourselves; baptize yourselves; that you
may be born again and sin no more.“
And the Lord called unto Moses out of the mountain, saying, Come
unto me, for I would give thee the Law for thy people, which shall
be a covenant for the Children of Light.
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And Moses went up unto God. And God spake all these words,
saying, I am the Law, thy God, which hath brought thee out from
the depths of the bondage of darkness.
Thou shalt not make unto thee false laws, for I am the Law, and
the whole Law of all laws. If thou forsake me, thou shalt be visited
by disasters for generation upon generation.
Honor thy Earthly Mother, that thy days may be long upon the land,
and honor thy Heavenly Father, that eternal life be thine in the
heavens, for the earth and the heavens are given unto thee by the
Law, which is thy God.
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And Moses went up unto God. And God spake all these words,
saying, I am the Law, thy God, which hath brought thee out from
the depths of the bondage of darkness.
Thou shalt not make unto thee false laws, for I am the Law, and
the whole Law of all laws. If thou forsake me, thou shalt be visited
by disasters for generation upon generation.
Thou shalt not violate the Law. The Law is thy God, who shall not
hold thee guiltless.
Honor thy Earthly Mother, that thy days may be long upon the
land, and honor thy Heavenly Father, that eternal life be thine in
the heavens, for the earth and the heavens are given unto thee by
the Law, which is thy God.
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Thou shalt greet the Angel of Joy on the fourth morning.
Thou shalt greet the Angel of Sun on the fifth morning.
Thou shalt greet the Angel of Water on the sixth morning.
Thou shalt greet the Angel of Air on the seventh morning.
All these Angels of the Earthly Mother shalt thou greet, and
consecrate thyself to them, that thou mayest enter the Infinite
Garden where stands the Tree of Life.
All these Angels of the Heavenly Father shalt thou commune with,
that thy soul may bathe in the Fountain of Light, and enter into
the Sea of Eternity.
The seventh day is the Sabbath: thou shalt remember it, keep it
holy. The Sabbath is the day of the Light of the Law, thy God. In it
thou shalt not do any work, but search the Light, the Kingdom of
thy God, and all things shall be given unto thee.
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For know ye that during six days thou shalt work with the Angels,
but the seventh day shalt thou dwell in the Light of thy Lord, who is
the holy Law.
Thou shalt not take the life from any living thing. Life comes only
from God, who giveth it and taketh it away.
Thou shalt not debase Love. It is the sacred gift of thy Heavenly
Father.
Thou Shalt not trade thy Soul, the priceless gift of the loving God,
for the riches of the world, which are as seeds sown on stony
ground, having no root in themselves, and so enduring but for a
little while.
Thou shalt not be a false witness of the Law, to use it against thy
brother: Only God knoweth the beginning and the ending of all
things, for his eye is single, and he is the holy Law.
Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's possessions. The Law giveth
unto thee much greater gifts, even the earth and the heavens, if
thou keep the Commandments of the Lord thy God.
Ma'at was the Egyptian goddess that stood for the values of truth,
honor, justice, balance and order. She is always depicted wearing
an ostrich feather in her headdress, which symbolized truth and
justice.
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In the Egyptian creation myth, Ma'at was often considered to be
the child of the Sun God, Ra. It's said that she was created
when he rose from the waters of chaos to create the world.
Because Ma'at brought order to chaos, she was much more than a
goddess to the ancient Egyptians. She represented the very
concept of harmony and balance, which was the most deeply
held conviction in Egyptian society. Even the pyramids are a
testament to their reverence for balance, symmetry and order,
which are said to be built on the laws of sacred geometry.
The role of the King was to uphold Ma'at, because without Ma'at
one would slip into selfishness and greed, and civilization would
be without order; a return to darkness and chaos.
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I have not stolen food.
I have not swindled offerings.
I have not stolen from God/Goddess.
I have not told lies.
I have not carried away food.
I have not cursed.
I have not closed my ears to truth.
I have not committed adultery.
I have not made anyone cry.
I have not felt sorrow without reason.
I have not assaulted anyone.
I am not deceitful.
I have not stolen anyone’s land.
I have not been an eavesdropper.
I have not falsely accused anyone.
I have not been angry without reason.
I have not seduced anyone’s wife.
I have not polluted myself.
I have not terrorized anyone.
I have not disobeyed the Law.
I have not been exclusively angry.
I have not cursed God/Goddess.
I have not behaved with violence.
I have not caused disruption of peace.
I have not acted hastily or without thought.
I have not overstepped my boundaries of concern.
I have not exaggerated my words when speaking.
I have not worked evil.
I have not used evil thoughts, words or deeds.
I have not polluted the water.
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I have not spoken angrily or arrogantly.
I have not cursed anyone in thought, word or deeds.
I have not placed myself on a pedestal.
I have not stolen what belongs to God/Goddess.
I have not stolen from or disrespected the deceased.
I have not taken food from a child.
I have not acted with insolence.
I have not destroyed property belonging to God/Goddess.
The concept behind the Ideals of Ma'at is that we increase the light
and banish darkness by living a life that embodies the positive
emotions of peace, gratitude and joy. The Ideals of Ma'at still
contain the original premise of "do no harm", but the focus is
more on uplifting the vibration of the collective in a way that
resonates today.
I honor virtue
I benefit with gratitude
I am peaceful
I respect the property of others
I affirm that all life is sacred
I give offerings that are genuine
I live in truth
I regard all altars with respect
I speak with sincerity
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I consume only my fair share
I offer words of good intent
I relate in peace
I honor animals with reverence
I can be trusted
I care for the earth
I keep my own council
I speak positively of others
I remain in balance with my emotions
I am trustful in my relationships
I hold purity in high esteem
I spread joy
I do the best I can
I communicate with compassion
I listen to opposing opinions
I create harmony
I invoke laughter
I am open to love in various forms
I am forgiving
I am kind
I act respectfully
I am accepting
I follow my inner guidance
I converse with awareness
I do good
I give blessings
I keep the waters pure
I speak with good intent
I praise the Goddess and the God
I am humble
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I achieve with integrity
I advance through my own abilities
I embrace the All
7 Principles of Ma'at
The 7 Principals of Ma'at are:
1. Truth
2. Justice
3. Harmony
4. Balance
5. Order
6. Reciprocity
7. Propriety
Allah said: Iblis [Satan] then said to Allah, ‘Because You have put
me in the wrong, I will lure mankind on earth and put them in the
wrong, all except Your devoted servants.
Ibn al-Qayyim writes: [The Prophet] never forced the religion upon
anyone, but rather he only fought those who waged war against him
and fought him first. As for those who made peace with him or
conducted a truce, then he never fought them and he never
compelled them to enter his religion, as his Lord the Almighty had
commanded him: There is no compulsion in religion, for right
guidance is distinct from error.
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Allah wants people’s hearts; he does not want servants forced into
hypocritical and empty worship. As Al-Susi, may Allah have mercy
on him, said, “Allah only desires sincerity in the deeds of his
creatures.”
Allah said: You who believe, be mindful of Allah: stand with those
who are true.
And Allah said: Mention too, in the Qur'an, the story of Ishmael. He
was true to his promise, a messenger and a prophet.
And Allah said: Mention too, in the Qur'an, the story of Idris. He
was a man of truth, a prophet.
Telling the truth or telling lies are habits that are learned and, if
necessary, must be unlearned. We should practice telling the truth
so often that it becomes our second nature, that we always tell the
truth without any effort, for this is the mark of a pure heart that will
be admitted into Paradise.
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The Prophet ﷺsaid: You must be truthful. Verily, truthfulness
leads to righteousness and righteousness leads to Paradise. A man
continues to be truthful and encourages honesty until he is
recorded with Allah as truthful. And beware of falsehood. Verily,
falsehood leads to wickedness and wickedness leads to the Hellfire.
A man continues tell lies and encourages falsehood until he is
recorded with Allah as a liar.
The Prophet ﷺsaid: The faith of a servant is not upright until his
heart is upright, and his heart is not upright until his tongue is
upright. A man will not enter Paradise if his neighbor is not secure
from his evil.
The Prophet ﷺsaid: There are four signs that make someone a
pure hypocrite and whoever has them has a characteristic of
hypocrisy until he abandons it: when he speaks he lies, when he
makes a covenant he is treacherous, when he makes a promise he
breaks it, and when he argues he is wicked.
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Perhaps the most important social aspect of honesty is to be faithful
to all of our contracts (al-‘uqud), promises (al-wu’ud), covenants
(al-‘uhud), and trusts (al-amanah).
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FIND YOUR PURPOSE
Finding purpose in your life can fulfill some of your most desired
wishes of happiness, because purpose gives you the inspiration and
motivation to strive for something in your life that is near and dear to
your heart.
Finding purpose in your life gives your life more meaning and
satisfaction, because purpose is based on a goal that is bigger than
yourself and a real purpose goes beyond a simple goal or objective
because it’s focused on the long term and deeper meaning. A true
purpose is one that is both personally meaningful and also makes a
positive impact on the lives of other people, such as your family,
friends, neighbors, city, country, or even the whole world.
If you are unsure of your purpose and you need guidance, seek God,
and in the word of God you will find your true purpose, because God
created you, gave you a talent, and ordained a purpose for you
before you were born, and the Biblical verses below are proof of that.
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Proverbs 19:21
Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but it is YHWH’s purpose that
prevails.
Romans 8:28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who
love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
Ephesians 2:10
For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good
works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
Jeremiah 32:19
Great in counsel, and mighty in work: for thine eyes are open upon
all the ways of the sons of men: to give every one according to his
ways, and according to the fruit of his doings:
Jeremiah 29:11
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to
prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a
future.
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Create a list of your interests and passions: Write down the
things that you enjoy spending time doing.
Write down what you love: Focusing on things that you love with
your heart, including your true passions.
Find your joy: Think about the things that make you happy, thing
that make you laugh, and things you enjoy doing most in life.
After you have evaluated yourself, decide what you’d like your life’s
purpose to be. Remember that it’s okay if it changes in the future.
It’s important to have a goal and direction now, even if you alter it
later as you change and grow.
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List the actions that lead towards your purpose: Write a list
of actions that you can take that will lead you directly towards your
life’s purpose.
Do the things that lead you to fulfill your purpose: Once you
have determined the actions you will need to take to fulfill your
life’s purpose, take those steps. Begin with the short-term changes
and work towards long-term changes. Sometimes taking action
instead of thinking too hard can bring you greater clarity and
happiness.
Avoid activities and people that are not in agreement with your
purpose or distract from your purpose.
As you spend more time fulfilling your life's purpose, you'll notice
it's easy to make decisions in life and over time you'll spend more of
your days living out your life's purpose, which will make you feel
happier and healthier.
As you venture out on the path to find your purpose, always have
faith and pray to God for guidance if you become a little
discouraged or confused about your purpose. These inspiring verses
of God's promise should always be your inspiration.
Philippians 4:13
“I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”
Hebrews 13:5
“Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content
with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave
thee, nor forsake thee.”
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Philippians 4:8
“Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are
honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure,
whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if
there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”
Romans 8:28
“And we know that all things work together for good to them that love
God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”
Goal-setting is an essential tool for self-motivation and self-drivenness
at both personal and professional levels. It gives meaning to our
actions and the purpose of achieving something higher.
Goal Setting
Goals play a dominant role in shaping the way we see ourselves and
others. A person who is focused and goal-oriented is likely to have a
more positive approach towards life and perceive failures as temporary
setbacks, rather than personal shortcomings.
Studies have shown that when we train our mind to think about what
we want in life and work towards reaching it, the brain automatically
rewires itself to acquire the ideal self-image and makes it an essential
part of our identity. If we achieve the goal, we achieve fulfillment, and
if we don’t, our brain keeps nudging us until we achieve it.
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Setting goals gives your mind the power to imagine your ideal
future, the way you want to see yourself in years to come. By
gaining insight into your wants and needs, you become aware of
your reality and can set reasonable expectations.
The ideal goal is one that is motivating enough to excite you without
becoming stressful, realistic enough to have you believing in your
ability to achieve it, and satisfying enough to leave you feeling
fulfilled throughout the pursuit of your goal or purpose after it has
been achieved.
People have a tendency to set goals or a purpose that aim too high,
and while this may initially excite you, it can quickly become
overwhelming. Your goals or purpose should be realistic,
manageable, and attainable.
1. Writing goals
RAS gets activated by the simple act of putting our goals in pen and
paper. Seeing our aims written in clear words before us, feeling the
touch of the pen, or engaging in the thinking process of writing the
targets trigger the RAS functions and ensures that we go for it.
2. Planning goals
The art of imagination is essential when it comes to goal-setting.
Studies have shown that people who have the power to visualize their
goals before setting their actions have a higher activation at the brain
level.
Repeatedly imagining success and reminding ourselves of our targets
maintains a steady stimulation in the RAS and promotes effective
goal-setting (Berkman & Lieberman, 2009).
The RAS activation helps in focusing the mind to attend to only those
pieces of information that are related to the goals we seek to
achieve.
Neurologists working on the science of goal-setting have proved that
the brain cannot distinguish between reality and imagined reality.
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So, when we give ourselves a picture of the goal we want to
achieve, the mind starts believing it to be real.
Eventually, the brain begins driving us to take actions for making the
state and hence, the goal-setting becomes a success (Berkman,
2018).
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Planning for short and long term projects is certainly a work based on
foresight. If Allah (swt) and His Prophet love and admire those with
vision and wisdom, Muslims ought to be racing one another to plan
their activities so that they would be among those of vision and
wisdom. Moreover, the Qur’an inspires the believers, in a yet different
way to design plans for their actions through observation of Allah (swt)
in His creation. Allah (swt) said in Surah Al Qamar, Ayah, 49:
The companion of the Prophet and second Caliph, Umar Ibn Al-Khattab
also said:
“For your worldly affairs, construct your plans based on the assumption
that you are going to live forever, and as for the work reserved for the
Hereafter, construct your plans based on the assumption that you are
going to die tomorrow.”
Motivation Types
Intrinsic and extrinsic motivation
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HEALING
This Chapter of healing is dedicated to all the families that have lost
loved ones to police brutality, homicide, suicide, substance abuse,
Covid-19, Cancer, and Terminal Disease.
My heart felt prayers and sympathy goes out to all of you, because I
am just like you, I have lost loved ones and the feeling can be one
of hurt, disbelief, sorrow, and grief for a long period of time if you
don't find closure and peace after losing someone you love.
You've heard the saying "let go and let God" by Giving it to God
means having entire faith in God to work things out for your benefit
and understanding that the outcome will ultimately depend on God's
will, not yours.
Losing a loved one is a reminder to those who are still alive at the
time. Understanding and embracing death is one of the best ways to
value life as one knows that their time could be up sooner than
later. Remembering death pushes people to work harder and
reevaluate the life they have lived.
There is a saying that many might have heard to obtain more focus
during prayer: “Pray as if this is your last prayer.” When one realizes
this is their last prayer, they will immediately increase in focus.
Humans value what they have less of. When one sees their loved
one perish, take it as a blessing and use it to grow in faith!
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Although we know the experience of loss is bound to occur, it is only
human nature to grieve. For those that do not believe in an afterlife,
the experience may be even more painful.
Muslims know that this separation from their loved ones is only
temporary as they will reunite in the hereafter. That being said, even
with this knowledge it is okay to grieve as long as it follows the
prescribed way that Allah and his Prophet (pbuh) instructed us to. Let
us look into the Quran and sunnah to learn more about loss and how
to make the most of it in this world.
O Allah, forgive him and have mercy on him and give him strength
and pardon him. Be generous to him and cause his entrance to be
wide and wash him with water and snow and hail. Cleanse him of his
transgressions as white cloth is cleansed of stains. Give him an abode
better than his home, and a family better than his family and a wife
better than his wife. Take him into Paradise and protect him from the
punishment of the grave [and from the punishment of Hell-fire].
Although one may have lost a loved one, that person could have
been closer with other people and surely has others that are grieving
at the same time. It is a beautiful deed to take care of those
relationships that the deceased person would have taken care of.
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Visit their relatives, pray for them, help them, and be kind to them.
When Prophet Muhammed’s (pbuh) wife died, he made sure to
visit her other loved ones and encouraged others to do the same
well after her death:
When the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, was given
something, he would say, “Go to such person, for they were a
friend of Khadijah. Go to the house of such person, for they were
loved by Khadijah.” [al-Adab al-Mufrad 225]
In this life, one may be faced with situations that seem hopeless or
even unfair. Feeling completely alone can allow sadness to
consume one completely. This chapter provides perspective that
Allah is readily there to be relied on.
“Your Lord has not taken leave of you, [O Muhammad], nor has He
detested [you].”
(Quran 93:3)
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(T.O.N.Y.) Truth Only Nurtures You and the Quran and the Bible
have become a great healing source for many people worldwide that
have lost faith in man and have turned to Allah/YWHW/God in
prayer for healing in a time of need, because Allah/YWHW/God
created you and knows your heart and needs. Man will fail you but
Allah/YWHW/God will never fail you when you call upon his Holy
name for peace and comfort.
These are the words of God From the Bible that are meant to
comfort those of you that are in need in comfort and peace.
Matthew 5:4 - Blessed are they that mourn: for they shall be
comforted.
Psalms 147:3 - He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up
their wounds.
Revelation 21:4 - And God shall wipe away all tears from their
eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying,
neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are
passed away.
John 3:16 - For God so loved the world, that he gave his only
begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish,
but have everlasting life.
John 14:27-29 - Peace I leave with you, my peace I give unto you:
not as the world giveth, give I unto you. Let not your heart be
troubled, neither let it be afraid.
Isaiah 41:10 - Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed;
for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I
will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.
2 Corinthians 1:4-6 - Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that
we may be able to comfort them which are in any trouble, by the
comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God.
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When someone close to you dies, your world can feel suddenly
different and unknown: think of grief as your adjustment to life after
loss. While certain feelings can be expected, everyone’s journey will
be unique. Some people find solace in speaking to friends, while
others don’t want to talk to anyone. Some turn to group therapy,
while others prefer one-on-one sessions with a counselor.
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Guilt
Guilt is another common reaction to grief. You might feel directly or
indirectly to blame for the person’s death. Or you might feel guilty
if you had a difficult relationship with the person who has died. Try
not to be hard on yourself, it’s very unlikely you could have done
anything to prevent the death from happening.
Depression
You may feel depressed after the death of someone close. It can
feel like nothing matters. You might even feel like you don’t want
to go on living. If you start to feel you might act on suicidal feelings
please talk to someone. You can contact the Samaritans on 116
123 or contact 999 in case of an emergency. Your GP can also let
you know about mental health support in your local area.
Seeing and hearing the person
People sometimes think they can hear or see the person who has
died. You may also find that you can’t stop thinking about the
events leading up to the death. “Seeing” the person who has died
and hearing their voice can happen because our brain is trying to
process the death and accept that it’s final. It’s important to know
this is normal.
Acceptance and hope
Humans, by nature, crave contact, connection and support, and at
some stage in the grieving process will want to engage with friends
and family again. Acceptance is about realizing you can’t change
the circumstances, but that you can gain some control over how
you respond.
Physical feelings
It is common to feel physically ill after someone dies – the pain of
grief can be felt as a real pain. Every part of your health can be
affected.
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Physical symptoms of Grieving:
Lack of energy or fatigue
Headaches and upset stomach
Excessive sleeping or overworking and excessive activity
Emotional symptoms:
Memory lapses, distraction, and preoccupation
Irritability
Depression and feelings of euphoria
Extreme anger or feelings of being resigned to the situation
Spiritual symptoms:
Feelings of being closer to God or feelings of anger and outrage at
God
Strengthening of faith or questioning of faith
There are a range of options for dealing with your grief in a healthy
and conscious way. You may find that some will work for you, and
some will not. Some of the activities mentioned below may be
difficult or impossible, depending on your mental and emotional
state, but the range of options available means you can choose and
try as you see fit. Keep in mind that none of these suggestions is a
surefire solution, as not everything works for everyone. Let go of
your expectations, take your time, and find out what works for you.
Recognize Grief
First understand that there is no “correct” way to grieve. Grieving is
not something you should be expected to simply “get over.” Rather,
it is a process of learning how to live in a world without your loved
one. It is quite normal to experience a variety of high and low
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Take Care of Yourself
The stress of grieving can take its toll on your mind and body, so
continuing to meet your emotional and physical needs is of the
utmost importance. Don’t neglect your health and well-being. Make
sure you continue to eat right, exercise, and get enough sleep. You
may want to try holistic options to treat your grief symptoms.
Nourish your body with healthy foods
Your mind is experiencing trauma. Replenish your body and mind
with nutritious foods and plenty of water so that you can heal
properly.
Hygiene still matters
Don’t forget to care for your body. Take a shower or a hot bath.
Brush your teeth. Doing these simple things for yourself can help you
feel refreshed and can also be a win for the day. Even if you don’t do
anything else that day, you can feel like you accomplished
something.
Talk to People
Some people prefer to grieve in private, some find talking to people
immensely helpful. No one should be expected to grieve alone.
Accept assistance when it is offered to you, and let people know if
you want to talk. Be specific when expressing your needs to others.
Most people want to help, but simply don’t know how.
Share Your Memories
Sharing memories with others can help you maintain a sense of
connection to the person who died. Retelling stories and reminiscing
about days gone by can help keep your loved one an ongoing part of
your day-to-day life.
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Join Grief Support
Research support groups that meet in your area such as in
hospitals, religious groups, counseling centers, and hospice
facilities. By talking to others who are grieving, you can find a
healthy outlet for your thoughts and feelings amongst people who
may be having similar experiences. You can also seek out therapy
with a grief counselor, who is trained to assist you in working
through your intense emotions.
Keep Your Loved One’s Favorite Belongings
Give yourself time, at least a year, before making any decisions
regarding your loved one’s things. While it was once thought that
those grieving should rid themselves of old personal objects in
order to “move on,” we now know that people can connect
strongly with the person they’ve lost through their belongings.
Holding onto personal objects can help you keep cherished
memories alive, and you may gain comfort from the sensory
experience of the object. Enjoy the familiar smells, touch, and
sounds associated with your memories. It could be wearing their
favorite sweater, calling their old phone number once in a while,
or carrying a special watch in your pocket.
Write a Letter to the Person Who Died
This is an opportunity to tell your loved one how much you love
or miss them, or how angry, sorry or sad you are. Maybe you
didn’t have the chance to say goodbye or heal an old wound,
always imagining that there would be plenty of time.
Physical touch
Physical contact can be transformative for healing. A simple hug,
handholding, or arm around someone can be soothing. If this isn’t
you, it is also ok to say no to these gestures.
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Breathe
Intentional focus on your breathing can be beneficial during a time
when you feel you are losing control. Breathing mindfully and other
forms of meditation can give you a sense of control of your body
and mind.
Let light in
Don’t let yourself get too comfortable inside in a dark room. Open
the curtains. Go outside and embrace the sunlight.
Draw Comfort from Spirituality and Religion
If you are religious, you may find comfort in the mourning traditions
of your religion. Ritual has a profound effect on the human spirit
and can greatly aid the healing process. If you are spiritual, praying
or meditating can be soothing exercises and can help you find
peace under new circumstances. Take the opportunity to talk to
clergy and other spiritual leaders in your community. Understand
that it is not uncommon to question your spirituality after the shock
of a loss. Approach your beliefs at your own pace, until you find a
comfortable relationship with them.
Express Yourself Creatively
If you enjoy or thrive on creative expression, you may want to
make it part of your grieving process. Focusing on creative projects
under the duress of grief may be difficult, but this feeling generally
passes as your grief evolves. Take the time to write in a journal,
keep a blog, create a memory book, or sew a quilt out of old
clothing. Find an outlet in drawing and painting, poetry, or music.
Perhaps you’d like to get involved in a cause that was close to the
heart of the person you lost. Finding a productive way to work
through your grief and create something beautiful from the
experience can be immensely therapeutic, and your work may even
inspire others who are also grieving.
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Laugh when you can
Laughter is like medicine for the body and soul. It is shown to
release stress-reducing chemicals in the brain. Don’t feel guilty for
having times of happiness and laughter. This doesn’t mean you love
or miss the person any less.
Spend Time Practicing Favorite Hobbies
If you are ready and willing to engage in activities, try keeping
yourself busy doing the things you’ve always enjoyed. Go see a
movie, visit your library, take hikes, work in the garden, or
participate in a book club. Keep up with your favorite projects or
perhaps find something new that interests you.
Engage in Physical Activity
Get outside in the fresh air, appreciate your surroundings, and
simply meditate on new life perspectives. Join a gym or yoga class,
or try walking, which can be a peaceful place to get some calming,
meditative exercise. Not only can being outside bring you joy,
breathing fresh air provides the body with more oxygen. More
oxygen means more energy and greater clarity of mind.
Schedule something daily that brings you joy
Whether it’s baking, music, art, praying, or reading; find something
that brings you happiness and make it a priority every single day.
Seek Out Healing Art and Literature
Watch films, seek out exhibits, or read books and stories that deal
with loss. Find narratives that you relate to and gain comfort in.
Talk to a Doctor
You may feel that speaking to a trained professional will help you to
cope with the emotional and physical stress of grief. If so, or if you
are having great difficulty in performing everyday tasks, consult with
your physician about your options. Many find that properly-
prescribed drugs can lighten the burden of grief and aid in the
healing process.
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To all of you that have experience the lost of a loved one; this
is my sincere prayer of hope for you and your family.
“Oh Allah, forgive our living and our dead, those present and those
absent, our young and our old, our males and our females. O Allah,
whom among us You keep alive, then let such a life be upon Islam,
and whom among us You take unto Yourself, then let such a death be
upon faith. O Allah, do not deprive us of his reward and do not let us
stray after him.”
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My Last Poem (Rest in Paradise Tony)
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