English Communication Skills
English Communication Skills
There are many ‘soft skills’ and I will talk about 8 skills in this article.
Besides this, it is also very frustrating not to be understood by others, and not to be able to
get your meaning across.
As one of my students said, ‘People think less of me, and don’t believe I have the skills they
need, because I have a heavy accent in English, and sometimes people can’t understand
me.’
It’s important to greet people appropriately, and look at them when you greet them and
when they greet you. You need to take the time to do this because it’s part of building your
connection with others at work, or on your team. Notice how people greet each other. What
words and physical gestures do they use? Learn to use them also. This also includes
saying goodbye at the end of the day.
Notice how others respond, ask for something etc. This includes body language which is a
big part of what we unconsciously pay attention to when interacting with others. (How close
do they stand-personal distance, what sort of facial expression do they use to convey their
meaning etc).
This also applies to written communication as well. Use please and thank you. How do
people sign off in their emails? How does the boss sign off as apposed to a colleague?
If you want others to understand a particular message or instruction and especially if you
are giving a presentation, then work on English word stress. You need to stress
(emphasize) the words you would like them to pay attention to.
Another reason to master this is because certain words said with stress, can also convey
your intention without you actually explaining your intention.
For example, let’s take the sentence ‘I want you to drive.’ I’ll write the stressed word in bold
each time and explain the intention implied:-
I want you to drive. – I particularly want you to drive. Maybe others don’t , but I do.
I want you to drive.– I don’t want you to take the bus or walk, I want you to drive there.
This element also conveys intent, but is more about speech intent. For example, if you want
to signify that you haven’t finished talking and want to keep going, but are pausing for effect
or to take a breath, you make your intonation go up- not as much as with a question
though. (usually this corresponds to where you would put a comma in written speech).
If you have finished saying your piece and are happy to have someone else have a turn,
you make your intonation go up for the vowel just before the end of the word, and then
down at the end.
Listen how colleagues use these cues in speech. Attune your ear to it so you can use it
also.
Develop active listening to others rather than waiting for your turn to talk. Notice what they
are really trying to get across to you including the emotion behind what they are saying, and
respond to that.
For example, you might ask your secretary or colleague how some project, or piece of work
is going. They may say ok… with a pause, or have a doubtful look on their face. You can
notice this and could say “Are you sure? You don’t look sure about it. Can I help in any
way?”
Or if someone sounds frustrated as they are telling you something, rather than offering a
solution straight away, you could say ” That sounds frustrating.” This shows the speaker
that you ‘get’ how they’re feeling and will feel/ think that you are communicating and
connecting with them well.
Another aspect of this is following the instructions you are given rather than trying to do
something else because you think it’s better. If you think it might be better, discuss it first.
The person giving the instruction may want you to do it that way for a reason.
This seems obvious, but often this is more important than the actual skills someone may
have. It is important to have the technical/ appropriate skills for the job, of course. On the
other hand, if someone has great technical skill but isn’t interested in being enthusiastic, or
being friendly, or being part of a team, or willing to learn, it can mean that an employer will
choose someone else with the same skill level, who does have a good attitude. Attitude is
an important soft skill.