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In this chapter, the author discusses how understanding oneself is key to improving relationships with others. To understand ourselves, we must reflect on how we perceive ourselves, our self-esteem, confidence, strengths and weaknesses, and how these can change. Seeking feedback from others can provide new self-insights if we are open to hearing it. Setting achievable goals can boost self-efficacy without risking failure. Overall, self-reflection and understanding how we view ourselves can strengthen our relationships by helping us understand others better.

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Chapter 2 Cheat Sheet 2

In this chapter, the author discusses how understanding oneself is key to improving relationships with others. To understand ourselves, we must reflect on how we perceive ourselves, our self-esteem, confidence, strengths and weaknesses, and how these can change. Seeking feedback from others can provide new self-insights if we are open to hearing it. Setting achievable goals can boost self-efficacy without risking failure. Overall, self-reflection and understanding how we view ourselves can strengthen our relationships by helping us understand others better.

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Chapter 2: The Self in Human Relations

Emma Walters

Summary
In order to improve our relations with others, we must first focus
on ourselves. We can do this by understanding how we perceive
ourselves, how our self-esteem works, how much confidence we
have in our ability to achieve our goals, our strengths, and
weaknesses, as well as how much we let ourselves and others
affect all those things. If we want to better ourselves we have to
be willing to adapt and change because that is what makes us
grow. We also need to understand how to reflect on situations,
thoughts, and actions. Upon reflecting you may be able to catch
things about the way you perceived or reacted to something and
can learn from it. By understanding and applying all of those
things we are able to better our relations with others because we
now understand ourselves.

Quotable Quotes

“asking for feedback can bring to light new information


about aspects of yourself you had either misinterpreted
or hadn’t noticed - as long as you are open to hearing
that feedback”
This stood out to me because it says that we could
misinterpret this about ourselves, even though we think that
we know ourselves we can get it wrong sometimes. Also, I
like that it said “as long as you are open to hearing that feedback” because some people aren’t ready to
hear it and apply it, and feedback only works if someone is truly willing to work on themselves.

“It seems that at any point in life, we can increase our self-efficacy by setting goals that are high
enough so that we feel good when we achieve them, but not so high that we are setting ourselves
up for failure.”
I think that this is really interesting because most people think that “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks”
when in reality it’s really a matter of if you are willing to put in the effort or not. Also by setting goals you
are able to accomplish things while also bettering yourself in the process and I really like that.

Human code

- Humans can be influenced by their own positive thoughts and


can do things that they didn’t think were possible.
-Possible selves, we use these as motivation to pursue our
hopes and dreams, we want to become these possible selves so
we work hard to be them.
-Humans are easily influenced by OTHER people’s perceptions of
them and they let that affect them.
-Humans rely on relationships with others to sometimes motivate
them and keep up their self-esteem and in the possibility of one of
those relationships falling through, their self-esteem could take a
blow.

Hacking the Human Code

By understanding how easily humans are influenced by what others


think and how self-esteem works you are able to find ways to
empathize with them. Once you empathize with someone and show
them that you can be vulnerable with them it is easy for someone to
trust you. Once someone trusts you, you can tap into them and get to
know the person behind the “firewall”.

Experiment
The Johari Window was what I chose to experiment with.
My boyfriend and I sat down and discussed and from there
we drew our window. We found that our “unknown” area
was significantly smaller than the other three areas. We
have been dating for almost 3 years now and we
communicate really well with each other so when our
unknown are was small it didn’t come as a surprise to us.

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