Personal Development

Quarter 2 – Module 9:
Plan on How to Make the Family
Members Firmer and Gentler
with Each Other

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 What I Know

A. Write if the statement is True and write X if the statement

is False.

1. Family relationships are not significant relationships in society

2. A firm and gentle relationship in the family is a relationship that
stands through the test of times.
3. Family members performing their basic roles help promote good
relationships.
4. The sibling relationship is the connection between or among the
brothers or sisters in the family.
5. The Parent-child relationship is the intimate connection between
husband and wife or cohabitation partner.
6. Encouragement to do better in the family destroys the trust of each other.

B. Matching Type. Match Column A with Column B. Write the letter of your
answer on a separate sheet of paper.

Column A Column B
Members of the family Roles of the members of the family

7. Parents A. Honor, obey, and respect parents and others.

8. Children B. Provide the needs like food, clothing, shelter,

love, care, and acceptance

9. Siblings C. Give moral support to the family.

10. Extended family D. Assist the parents in taking care of brothers

and sisters.

C. Multiple Choice. Choose the best answer. Write the letter of your answer on
a separate sheet of paper.
11. Which of the following characteristics promotes firmer family relationships?
A. Having time together
B. Loving and forgiving each other
C. Trusting the different members of the family D. All of the above
12. Who among them destroys the relationships in the family? A. Peter
helped solve the problems of his sister.
B. Rex lied to his parents about his performance in school C. Leah
expressed her gratitude to her mother for cooking her food.

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 D. Jean forgave her brother who has offended her by yelling at her.
13. Which situation builds better relationships?
A. The mother shows favoritism to the youngest child in the family.
B. Joe envies the youngest child since he is the favorite of the family
C. Liza accepts the fact that her family is not perfect, but she’s learning
from their mistakes.
D. The father makes every decision in the family.
14. Which situation promotes respect for the members of the family? A. Gina
listens to the concerns of her younger siblings.
B. Ruel asks permission from his mother to leave the house.
C. Cris returns the cellphone he borrowed from her sister. D. All of
the above
15. Which of the following makes firmer and gentler relationships?
A. Belief in God of love, hope, and justice as a central part of the
relationship.
B. Belief in one’s achievement and accomplishment.
C. The financial aspect is focused on decisions and actions.
D. Family problems are being solved alone.

Lesson 9: Family: Plan on How to Make members of

the Family Firmer and Gentler
A relationship is essential in our lives as social beings. From the previous
module, you traced the relationship through a genogram that made you realize the
traits and health situation of your family. This module covers the different relationships
and responsibilities among members of the family and a description of a healthy family
relationship. The expected task in this lesson is to create a plan on how to have firmer
and gentler relationships among members of the family.

You need to accomplish the following activities to help you reach the objectives of
this module.

What’s In

Let us check your learnings from your previous lesson by doing the activity below.

A. Identification.
Directions: Identify the following statements by choosing the answer inside the box.
Write the letter of your answer on a separate sheet of paper.

A. Genogram B. Siblings C. McGoldrick–Gerson

D. Couple E. Extended family F. Murray Bowe

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 _____1. It is the connection between or among the brothers or sisters in the family.
_____2. It is an intimate connection between partners as husband and wife or
two people living together through the bond of marriage or by
cohabitation (live-in partner).
_____3. It refers to the connection between the nuclear family with other
members of the family like aunts, uncles, grandparents, cousins, and
other relatives?
_____4. It is a family tree or map or history that uses special symbols to describe
relationships of family members over multiple generations.
_____5. He invented the concept of the genogram as part of his family systems
model in the 1970s.

B. Arrange the steps in making a family genogram in proper order by writing A to E.

1. Know your reason for making a genogram to help you determine the type of

family information you want to indicate.

2. Formulate questions to relatives to solicit family information.
3. Write down notes indicating how everyone in your family is connected.
4. Decide the number of generations that you wanted to include in your genogram.
5. Draw your genogram starting with the oldest down to the latest generation.

What’s New

Learning the Skill: Describing the characteristics of the family.

Activity 1. Word Search

Find 5 characteristics of strong relationship in the family. Write a brief description of

each characteristic.

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Example: Forgiving-letting go of the ill-feeling we have against each other.

1. ___________________________________________________________________

2. ___________________________________________________________________

3. ___________________________________________________________________

4. ___________________________________________________________________

5. ___________________________________________________________________

What is It

Family Relationships

Family relationships are meaningful relationships in life and society. It is the basic
relationship people have in life since birth, especially of children born in a biological
family. They play a vital role in shaping and developing an individual’s well-being
throughout his/her life. Let us identify the types of family relationships and their
respective roles in the family.

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Family Members and Their Roles

In the chart are the different members and their respective roles in the family.

Family Members Roles

Couple To provide the need of each other physically, emotionally,
financially, etc.
Parents The provider of the basic needs of the family such as food,
clothes, shelter, education, safety needs, love, acceptance,
and care.
Children Must honor and obey their parents, respect each other,
help the household chores, study, etc.
Siblings Older siblings assist in taking care of the needs of the
siblings, while younger siblings should listen and learn
from them.
Extended members May extend support to the unmet needs of the family like
the grandparents taking care of grandchildren, giving
advice to the members of the family if necessary.
What are your roles to be played in your family? As a member of the family, how
could you promote firmer/stronger and gentler relationships in your family? Let’s look
at some ways for establishing healthier relationships in the family.
What is a firmer and gentler family relationship?

It is a relationship that makes the family stronger amid difficulties, and crisis
they are experiencing. Struggles and difficult times brought them closer together, as
they learn to be respectful, patient, kind, and tender to each other, because they are
one as a family. It is like a strong tree that can always stand still in the face of different
storms passing through it.
Activity 2 Creating a Mind Map
Create a mind map showing how to have a firmer and gentler relationship in
your family. To help you in creating this mind map, you may refer to the rubrics
found after the additional activities.
Sample Mind Map:

Mind map
by: Rebecca T. Arevalo Process

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 Questions:
1. How did you find the activity?
2. What have you learned from doing the activity?
3. How did the activity help you realize your relationship in the family?

Ways on How to Make Family Members Firmer and Gentler with Each Other:
Acronym of FIRMER and GENTLER PLANS

Foster unity. . There is unity in the family despite the differences in

personalities and characteristics of each member by doing its specific roles in the
family. Promote unity in the family by building a bond among the members.

Involve each other. Every member of the family is important. Include

them in significant decision-making in family life.

Respect individuality. Give higher regard by appreciating the

uniqueness of every member of the family, knowing that everyone has its
identity, strengths, and weaknesses. Respect can be earned without

comparing one with another. An example is by asking permission

whenever one needs other member’s belongings.

Model the behavior. Everyone in the family could be a model for each
other. Modeling behavior is setting yourself as an example that is worth
following to other members of the family.

Explain expectations and consequences. Let every family member

understand what is expected of them as to their responsibility. Along with
this, consequences must be clarified, so they will also know their
accountability.

Reward good behavior. A reward is an excellent motivation for any family

member, so they can keep on doing what is good and right. Always look
at the positive behavior rather than focusing and nagging on other family
member’s failures.

Give love and forgiveness. We all need love, but we also need to give
love. Love is the core of relationships to make it stronger and better. When
there is love, there is also forgiveness for they go hand in hand together.

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Encourage and express gratitude. These things would lighten the
burden the person is having by supporting one another through giving
positive words and expressing gratitude. Back up one another with
constructive words and affirmation.

Nurture trust. A trusting relationship promotes dignity and integrity in

the relationship. When trust is present, it challenges the person to do
better because others are depending on him/her.

Take time together. Spending time together helps to know each other
better and promote authentic and stronger relationships. Pray, play, eat,
solve problems together, etc.

Listen attentively. Give your attention to the one who has concerns.
It enables you to understand the motives, feelings, and ideas of others.
The deeper the understanding between each family member, the stronger
the family is.

Ensure safety. It is within the family that members should feel safe and
secured. Be sure that no abuses and domestic violence are happening
among the members of the family. Do not put your family in danger.

Remember God. Acknowledge God as the Source, great provider, and the
center of the relationship. The God of love, peace, and justice is with us
always. If God is the center of the relationships, you will do everything
that is pleasing both to God and others.

Pray always. Prayer is a necessary ingredient in relationships. Seek

strength and help from God in all circumstances. A family that prays
together stays stronger.

Learn good communication. Good communication promotes knowledge

and understanding of the situation in the family. Good communication
uses “I” messages expressing one's concerns and feelings, not blaming
and condemning others.

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 Accept failures. Nobody is perfect; everyone makes mistakes. Acceptance
of one’s failure gives room for learning and improvement in your
relationship.

Nourish each other. To nourish is to provide the necessary things needed

in the family. Nourish the family with kindness and gentleness . Stop
being rude or harsh toward each other.

Serve one another . Serving one another is treating everyone as

important to you. When everyone is serving each other, the burden of the
family becomes lighter.

Illustrated by: Gilbert R. Esguerra

Why it is important to have a firmer and gentler relationship in the family?

A good family relationship creates a transformative society because whatever happens in the
family impacts the society. When the family has a firmer and gentler
relationship, it becomes easier to reach dreams and goals; it’s easier to have a
healthy a happy life. The family then becomes fruitful in any endeavor. With all
these, the God of love, peace, and justice is honored.
What’s More

Activity 1: Understanding the characteristics of relationships

Directions: Read and analyze the situation below. Answer the questions that follow.

Joel is the eldest child in the family. His family is having a hard life since his father
is a construction worker with no permanent job, and his mother works at home to take
care of them. Joel has five siblings of three sisters and two brothers. As the eldest, he
felt the burden of helping to meet the needs of his family. When he was in Junior High
School, he took a part-time job after class, in order to have an additional income to

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 support the needs of his family. He did it with permission from his parents and started
to work as balut vendor in the neighborhood, until he earned money to finance his own
studies. Through balut selling, he was able to provide some of their needs including
school allowances. Joel’s parents are proud and happy of his effort in helping them, and
they always encourage him to do his best in his studies. His other siblings are helping
in the household chores and also in the assignment of his younger siblings for they are
looking forward to a better future.

His parents guided them on how to live a life of contentment and service.

They are happy despite their struggling financial situation because they have
learned to love, care, and respect each other. Above all, they have a relationship
with God. At bedtime, they spend time together in prayer and go to church every
Sunday. Now, Joel is in Senior High School. He is studying well while continuing
his work o f selling balut. He applies what he learned from school and does his

best as a good example to others.

Questions:

1. What is the story all about?

2. What are the characteristics of the people involved in the story?
3. How did the story describe a firmer relationship among the family
members?
What I Have Learned
Activity: Fill in the blanks with the correct answer. Use a separate sheet for your answer.
1. ___________ are meaningful relationships in life and society.
2. ___________ a relationship that makes the family stronger in the midst of difficulties,
and crisis they are experiencing.
3. ___________ give higher regard by appreciating the uniqueness of every member of the
family, knowing that everyone has its identity, strengths, and weaknesses.
4. ___________ is an excellent motivation for any family member, so they can keep on
doing what is good and right.
5. ___________ must honor and obey their parents, respect with each other, help the
household chores, study, etc.
Give the acronym of PLANS for firmer relationship.

6. P
7. L
8. A
9. N
10. S
Complete the following Statement:
11. I realized that
.
12. I learned that
.

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 What I Can Do
Activity: Directions: Make an activity plan using the letters of your
name - ACRONYM (First name, Nick name, or Last name) that can keep
and make your family relationship gentler and stronger.
Example: BECCA

Objective: Activities Persons Time Expected Reflection

involved outcomes
To have Bonding time Siblings and Twice a Better Family time is
harmonious with them parents week relationship priceless.
and loving Expressing God, Parents, Everyday Happy and Gratitude is a
relations gratitude siblings, and everyone is positive
within the others valued attitude,
family.
Communicating God, Parents, Everyday Know and Effective
effectively siblings, and understand Communication
others each other. makes stronger
relations.
Celebrating Siblings and During Everyone is It’s good to
special parents birthdays appreciated celebrate with
occasions and special one another.
events.
Acknowledging God, Parents, Everyday Peaceful There is peace
the presence of siblings, and and when God is in
God in the others harmonious the house.
family living.

Process Questions
1. What have you observed from the activity?
2. What did you feel while doing the activity?
3. How could this activity help build a firm relationship with your family?

Assessment

A. Write Fact if the statement is True and write Bluff if the statement is False.
_______ 1. Love is one of the essential ingredients to have firmer/stronger and gentler relationships.

_______ 2. It is important to work on communicating our feelings properly in relationships.

_______ 3. Judging one another makes the family relationships stronger.

_______ 4. Performing everyone’s role and responsibilities help the family relationship better.

_______ 5. The loving relationship of the couple promotes security and safety of the children.

_______ 6. A healthy family relationship destroys the stability of the society.

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_______ 7. Envying each other builds the relationship stronger.

B. Choose the best answer and write the letter of your answer in your paper.

8. Which situation builds better relationships?

a. The mother shows favoritism to the youngest child in the family.
b. Joe envies the youngest child since he is the favorite of the family
c. Liza accepts the fact that her family is not perfect, but she’s learning from their
mistakes.
d. The father makes every decision in the family.
9. Which of the following destroys good family relationships?
a. Appreciating the efforts of the members
b. Comparing the siblings with the other
c. Giving reward to good behavior
d. Praying together
10. Which of the following shows that they have firm family relationship?
a. Mother takes care of the children’s need
b. Father works to support their living
c. Children obey their parents
d. All of the above
11. Which of the following shows gentle relationships?
a. Brother are bullying each other
b. Mother yells to the children
c. Ana comforts her sister who was hurt by her peers
d. Father demands service from the wife
12. Which of the family shows firmer relationship?
a. Janice’s family members are doing things in their own way.
b. Joshua’s family sets expectations and consequences for their actions
c. Alex’s family does not talk with each other.
d. Julie’s family fights over every little matter
13. How can we have a healthy, strong, and gentle relationship?
a. By having bonding time together with the family
b. By doing our roles and responsibilities
c. By accepting the mistakes and learning to forgive
d. All of the above
14. Why do we need to have a firmer and gentler relationship in the family?
1. To honor God and live harmoniously with each other
2. To bring good transformation in society
3. To become famous in the society
A. Statement 1 & 3
B. Statement 1 & 2
C. Statement 1, 2,& 3
D. Statement 2 & 3
15. Karen was offended because her parents always compare her with her siblings that they are
better than her. What should Karen do?
a. She should talk to her mother about how she felt about it.
b. She should fight her siblings
c. She should keep silent and stay in her room
d. She should not eat so that she gets the attention of her parents

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 Additional Activities

Choose only 1 activity to answer

Activity 1

Interview a friend (through video call, phone call, text, messenger chat) about the
qualities of a strong and gentle relationship they have in their family. Write your
learnings and realizations in your journal.
Activity 2
A. Identify the weak characteristics in your family.
B. Write on your paper the characteristics in which you wanted to improve in your
relationships within your family, and indicate the activities, persons involved, frequency, and
the outcomes.

Weak Persons Frequency/

Activities Outcomes
Characteristics involved Remarks

Ex. Not good • Listen attentively to Parents, Everyday Understand

listeners my parents’ Siblings, and them better/
ideas and advice others no more
• Spend time to listen fights
to the problems of
siblings

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 Rubrics for mind Map

Category 4 3 2 1
Ideas radiate out All of the ideas Most of the ideas Some of the ideas Few of the ideas
of the central clearly connect clearly connect clearly connect to clearly connect
ideas/image to the central to the central the central to the central
ideas/ images ideas/ images ideas/ images ideas/ images

Ideas have key All of the ideas Most ideas have Some ideas Few ideas have
images shows an have key images key images have key images key images
understanding shows an shows an shows an shows an
of the content understanding understanding of understanding understanding
of the content the content of the content of the content

The contents All of the Most of the Some of the Few of the
are well- contents are contents are contents are well- contents are
organized well-organized wellorganized organized well-organized
Use of colors Variety of colors Less variety colors Few variety of colors are used
are used are used effectively colors are used effectively to
effectively to to clarify the effectively to clarify the
clarify the connection clarify the connection
connection connection
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