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Personal
Development
Quarter 1 – Module 7:
Personal Relationships

SELF-LEARNING MODULE

DIVISION OF GENERAL SANTOS CITY

Personal Development- Grade 11
Self-Learning Module (SLM)
Quarter 1 – Module 7: Personal Relationships
First Edition, 2020

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Personal
Development
Quarter 1 – Module 7:
Personal Relationships
Introductory Message
For the facilitator:

Welcome to the Personal Development Self-Learning Module (SLM) on Personal

Relationships!

This module was collaboratively designed, developed and reviewed by educators

both from public and private institutions to assist you, the teacher or facilitator in
helping the learners meet the standards set by the K to 12 Curriculum while
overcoming their personal, social, and economic constraints in schooling.

This learning resource hopes to engage the learners into guided and independent
learning activities at their own pace and time. Furthermore, this also aims to help
learners acquire the needed 21st century skills while taking into consideration their
needs and circumstances.

In addition to the material in the main text, you will also see this box in the body of
the module:

Notes to the Teacher

This module contains helpful tips or strategies
that will help you in guiding the learners in
understanding themselves and the significant
people around them as they make important
career decisions as adolescents. Using the
experiential learning approach, each module
invites students to explore specific themes in
their development. Personal reflections,
sharing, and lectures help reveal and articulate
relevant concepts, theories, and tools in
different areas in psychology.
Specifically, the use of 5E’s and 4 A’s as a
teaching and learning strategies are highly
emphasized in this module. Logically
sequenced activities, divergent type of
questions that aims to promote critical
thinking skills, numerical and literacy skills
are also integrated in this module.
As a facilitator you are expected to orient the learners on how to use this module.
You also need to keep track of the learners' progress while allowing them to manage
their own learning. Furthermore, you are expected to encourage and assist the
learners as they do the tasks included in the module.

For the learner:

Welcome to the Personal Development Self-Learning Module (SLM) on Personal

Relationships!

The hand is one of the most symbolized parts of the human body. It is often used to
depict skill, action and purpose. Through our hands we may learn, create and
accomplish. Hence, the hand in this learning resource signifies that you as a learner
is capable and empowered to successfully achieve the relevant competencies and
skills at your own pace and time. Your academic success lies in your own hands!

This module was designed to provide you with fun and meaningful opportunities for
guided and independent learning at your own pace and time. You will be enabled to
process the contents of the learning resource while being an active learner.

This module has the following parts and corresponding icons:

What I Need to Know This will give you an idea of the skills or
competencies you are expected to learn in
the module.

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check what you already know about the
lesson to take. If you get all the answers
correct (100%), you may decide to skip this
module.

What’s In This is a brief drill or review to help you link

the current lesson with the previous one.

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introduced to you in various ways such as a
story, a song, a poem, a problem opener, an
activity or a situation.

What is It This section provides a brief discussion of

the lesson. This aims to help you discover
and understand new concepts and skills.

What’s More This comprises activities for independent

practice to solidify your understanding and
skills of the topic. You may check the
answers to the exercises using the Answer
Key at the end of the module.
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sentence/paragraph to be filled in to process
what you learned from the lesson.

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help you transfer your new knowledge or
skill into real life situations or concerns.

Assessment This is a task which aims to evaluate your

level of mastery in achieving the learning
competency.

Additional Activities In this portion, another activity will be given

to you to enrich your knowledge or skill of
the lesson learned. This also tends retention
of learned concepts.

Answer Key This contains answers to all activities in the

module.

At the end of this module you will also find:

References This is a list of all sources used in developing

this module.

The following are some reminders in using this module:

1. Use the module with care. Do not put unnecessary mark/s on any part of the
module. Use a separate sheet of paper in answering the exercises.
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included in the module.
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4. Observe honesty and integrity in doing the tasks and checking your answers.
5. Finish the task at hand before proceeding to the next.
6. Return this module to your teacher/facilitator once you are through with it.
If you encounter any difficulty in answering the tasks in this module, do not
hesitate to consult your teacher or facilitator. Always bear in mind that you are
not alone.

We hope that through this material, you will experience meaningful learning and
gain deep understanding of the relevant competencies. You can do it!
 What I Need to Know

This module was designed and written with you in mind. It is here to help you
master the topic on Personal Relationships. The scope of this module permits it to
be used in many different learning situations. The module consists of activities and
exercises that address key concern in personal development and for senior high
students to better understand them and the significant people around them as they
make important career decisions as adolescents. Using the experiential learning
approach, each activity invites students to explore specific themes in their
development. Personal reflections, sharing, and lectures help reveal and articulate
relevant concepts, theories, and tools in different areas in psychology.

After going through this module, you are expected to:

• discuss an understanding of teenage relationships, including the acceptable and

unacceptable expressions of attractions, EsP-PD11/12PR-lla-9.1
• express their ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment; and EsP-
PD11/12PR-lla-9.2

Specifically, you are to:

1. discuss an understanding of teenage relationships, including the acceptable and unacceptable
expressions of attractions,
2. express their ways of showing attraction, love, and commitment; and
3. identify ways to become responsible in a relationship
 What I Know

Choose the letter of the best answer. Write the chosen letter on a separate sheet of
paper.

1. What do you call the state of connectedness between people (especially an

emotional connection)?

a. commitment
b. love
c. relationship
d. attraction

2. The following are the statements on relationships; EXCEPT____________?

a. To fully enjoy and benefit from relationships we need skills,

information, inspiration, practice, and social support
b. Relationships are static; they are unchangeable.
c. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us
maintain good relationships
d.

3. Which of the following refers to a person or thing that draws, attracts, allures,
or entices?
a. commitment
b. love
c. relationship
d. attraction
4. The following are the most common problems in a relationship; EXCEPT?
a. a supportive partner during pregnancy and / or significant
problems after the birth your baby
b. long term depression or other mental health issues suffered by one
partner or both
c. unrealistic Expectations- still thinking your partner / spouse is
the princess / knight and not seeing the 'real' human being
d. significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a
change in relationship dynamics
5. Which of the following is NOT an element of a healthy relationship?
a. Trust one another
b. One person makes all the decisions
c. Respect one another
d. Open and honest communication
6. What skills do you need to make healthy decisions in a relationship?
a. Intelligence, memory, ability to do public speaking
 b. Assertive communication, active listening, and negotiation skills
c. Ability to persuade others, love,
d. passive communication e. None of the above

7. What should you consider when making decisions around sex and sexual
limits?
a. Your values
b. Your friends
c. Your family
d. All of the above

8. What is the best style of communication to use when making decisions about
sexual limits and boundaries?
a. Assertive
b. Passive
c. Aggressive

9. Which of the following are signs that you may be in an abusive relationship?
a. Bruises, scratches and other signs of injuries
b. Avoiding friends
c. Apologizing for your partner`s behavior
d. All of the above

10. Which of the following is NOT a sign of a healthy relationship?

a. You can express your opinion without fear or dread
b. Your partner tries to control how you spend money
c. You respect and encourage each other
d. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions
11. Which of the following does not belong to the rules for finding love and creating
long-lasting, authentic relationships?
a. creating love is a process
b. partnering is a choice
c. you must love others first
d. renewal is a key to longevity
12. Which of these is NOT true about having a good relationship?
a. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in
relationships.
b. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us
maintain good relationships.
c. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain
good relationships
d. a good relationship does not contribute anything to us having good
health.
13. What do you call the trait of being answerable to someone for something or
being responsible for one’s conduct?
a. attraction
b. commitment
 c. love
d. responsibility
14. What do you call the relationships between people, especially those between
friends, lovers and family members?
a. relationship
b. commitment
c. personal relationship
d. responsibility
15. The following are the benefits of having personal relationships;
EXCEPT____________?
a. live longer
b. increased immune system
c. feel richer
d. be healthier
 Lesson
Personal Development:
5 Personal Relationships

Good relationships are fun and make you feel good about yourself. The relationships
that you make in your youth years will be a special part of your life and will teach
you some of the most important lessons about who you are. Truly good relationships
take time and energy to develop. All relationships should be based on respect and
honesty, and this is especially important when you decide to date someone

Personal relationships refer to close connections between people, formed by

emotional bonds and interactions. These bonds often grow from and are
strengthened by mutual experiences. Relationships are not static; they are
continually evolving, and to fully enjoy and benefit from them we need skills,
information, inspiration, practice, and social support. I

What’s In

Activity 1. STATEMENTS ON RELATIONSHIPS

Instruction: State whether these statements are True or False.

1. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in relationships.

2. To love someone, we must love our self first.

3. Trying to understand where other people are coming from rather than judging them helps us build
and maintain relationships.

4. Having a good relationship does not contribute anything to us having good health.

5. When people listen deeply and let us know that they recognize the feeling behind our words, more
likely than not, our relationship is doing good.

6. In our relationships, it is vital that we practice forgiveness when a loved one has hurt us.

7. Our loved ones cannot help us when we deal with stress.

8. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us maintain good relationships.

9. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain good relationships.

10. Significant differences in core values and beliefs never create a problem in relationships.
11. We are happy in our relationships when our loved ones stay connected by spending time with us
and letting us know that they love us.

12. Excessive reliance on social media can be a cause of tension in relationships.

13. Relationships are static; they are unchangeable.

14. Being compassionate, forgiving and grateful contribute to healthy relationships.

15. To fully enjoy and benefit from relationships we need skills, information, inspiration, practice,
and social support.

Processing questions:

Instruction: Please answer the questions on the space provided.

1. Why are relationships important to us humans?

_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________.

2. What is the difference between family, friends/friendship, and partnership/romantic

relationships?
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________.

What’s New

Activity 2. Abtash cipher

Abtash cipher is a mono-alphabetic substitution cipher used for the Hebrew
alphabet. The Atbash Cipher simply reverses the plaintext alphabet to create the
ciphertext alphabet.
Decipher the following terms that are associated with genetic engineering. Write
your answer on the blank and corresponding to your answer, write anything you
know about the word.

Example: SRPANTSE= PARENTS

1. LORISEATNHPI = ________________________= ___________________________
2. ICTMEMTMNO = ________________________= ___________________________
3. ATOITRCTNA = _______________________ = ___________________________
4. EIRISPSBLTYION = _______________________ = ___________________________
5. ELVO =_________________________= ___________________________

The activity above allows you to exercise your brain! Now, it’s time to learn
more about personal relationships.

What is It

Reading: WHAT DO WE MEAN BY PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS?

The concept of relationship is very broad and complex. In our model, personal
relationships refer to close connections between people, formed by emotional bonds
and interactions. These bonds often grow from and are strengthened by mutual
experiences. Relationships are not static; they are continually evolving, and to fully
enjoy and benefit from them we need skills, information, inspiration, practice, and
social support. In our model there are three kinds of personal relationships:

Family
The concept of "family" is an essential component in any discussion of relationships,
but this varies greatly from person to person. The Bureau of the Census defines
family as "two or more persons who are related by birth, marriage, or adoption and
who live together as one household." But many people have family they don't live
with or to whom they are not bonded by love, and the roles of family vary across
cultures as well as throughout your own lifetime. Some typical characteristics of a
family are support, mutual trust, regular interactions, shared beliefs and values,
security, and a sense of community. Although the concept of "family" is one of the
oldest in human nature, its definition has evolved considerably in the past three
decades. Non-traditional family structures and roles can provide as much comfort
and support as traditional forms.

Friends
A friendship can be thought of as a close tie between two people that is often built
upon mutual experiences, shared interests, proximity, and emotional bonding.
Friends are able to turn to each other in times of need. Nicholas Christakis and
James Fowler, social-network researchers and authors of the book Connected, find
that the average person has about six close ties—though some have more, and many
have only one or none. Note that online friends don’t count toward close ties—
research indicates that a large online network isn’t nearly as powerful as having a
few close, real-life friends.

Partnerships
Romantic partnerships, including marriage, are close relationships formed between
two people that are built upon affection, trust, intimacy, and romantic love. We
usually experience this kind of relationship with only one person at a time. Source:
http://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/enhance-your-
wellbeing/relationships/whatdo-we-mean-personal-relationships
Lecturette: BASIC DEFINITIONS
1. Relationship - a relation between people - a state of connectedness between
people (especially an emotional connection)
2. Personal relationships - relationships between people, especially those between
friends, lovers and family members
3. Love - strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personalities
<maternal love for a child> - attraction based on sexual desire : affection and
tenderness felt by lovers -affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common
interests <love for his old schoolmates>
4. Commitment - the act of binding yourself (intellectually or emotionally) to a
course of action - a message that makes a pledge
5. Attraction - the act, power, or property of attracting - attractive quality; magnetic
charm; fascination; allurement; enticement - a person or thing that draws, attracts,
allures, or entices
6. Responsibility - the social force that binds you to the courses of action demanded
by that force - a form of trustworthiness; the trait of being answerable to someone
for something or being responsible for one’s conduct

Reading: A RESEARCH STUDY ON RELATIONSHIPS

A sample of 1,110 adolescents assessed nine aspects of their relationships with their
mother, their father, their best same-sex friend, their most important sibling, and
their most important teacher. These aspects were admiration, affection,
companionship, conflict, instrumental aid, intimacy, nurturance, reliable alliance,
and satisfaction with the relationship. Early adolescents (11 through 13 years of
age) gave higher ratings than did middle (14 through 16years of age) and late (17
through 19years of age) adolescents for all relationships on most attributes. Except
for intimacy and nurturance, middle adolescents' ratings were higher than those of
late adolescents but only for some relationships. The observed trends are interpreted
with respect to several social, social cognitive, and cognitive changes taking place
over the span of adolescence. Source: Clark-Lempers, D., J.D. Lempers & C. Ho.
(1991). Early, Middle, and Late Adolescents' Perceptions of Their Relationships with
Significant Others . Journal of Adolescent Research.

Reading: 25 MOST COMMON RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

Here is a list of the most common relationship problems most often encountered by
couples:
1. Affairs / infidelity / cheating. This includes emotional infidelity, one-night stands,
internet relationships (including ‘sexting’), long- and short-term affairs and financial
infidelity
2. Sexual Issues, particularly loss of libido and including questions around your
gender, or your partner's gender
3. Significant differences in core values and beliefs
4. Life stages – you have ‘outgrown’ each other or have ‘changed’ significantly for
whatever reason
5. Traumatic and/or Life-Changing Events
6. Responses to prolonged periods of Stress, such as Work-Related Stress, longterm
illness, mental health issues, Financial Problems, problems with the children,
infertility and many more
7. Bored in or with Your Relationship
8. Dealing with a jealous partner
9. Having 'blended' family issues
10. Domestic violence, which includes verbal as well as physical abuse: THE most
serious relationship problem.
11. Knowing you should not have got married in the first place!
12. Lack of responsibility regarding finances, children, health and many other
issues
13. Unrealistic Expectations- still thinking your partner / spouse is the princess /
knight and not seeing the 'real' human being
14. Addictions - substance abuse
15. Excessive reliance on social media, at the cost of the relationship
16. Lack of support during particularly difficult times from people that matter to
you
17. Manipulation or over-involvement in your relationships with family or friends
18. Lack of communication about important matters
19. Poor division of and / or one-sided lack of responsibility for chores and tasks. It
is not always women who complain about this relationship problem!
20. Perceived lack of concern, care and consideration / attentiveness: feeling the
relationship is one-sided is a big one!
21. Significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a change in
relationship dynamics
22. Long term depression or other mental health issues suffered by one partner or
both
23. Significant differences in opinion on how to discipline / deal with the children
24. Long-term stress, particularly when not taking responsibility for doing
something positive to address the cause, or about learning to handle it if it cannot
be changed
25. An unsupportive partner during pregnancy and / or significant problems after
the birth your baby.

Processing Questions
Instruction: Now that you have already knowledge about the basic terms and
definitions in a relationship, let us appreciate our lesson by answering the following
questions below.
Questions:
1. Do all relationships have issues?
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________________.
2. How do you address a problem in a relationship?
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________________.
Activity 3. Reflections on Personal Relationships

Instruction: Write a reflection paper on your relationships, why they are important, and how you
intend to keep the good relationships strong and healthy.

REFLECTION ON PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS

What’s More

Reading: NURTURE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

Connect with your family

One of the biggest challenges for families to stay connected is the busy pace of life. But Blue
Zones research states that the healthiest, longest-living people in the world all have something
in common: they put their families first. Family support can provide comfort, support, and even
influence better health outcomes while you are sick. Relationships and family author Mimi Doe
recommends connecting with family by letting little grievances go, spending time together, and
expressing love and compassion to one another. Of course, the same practices apply to close
friends as well. This is especially important if you don’t have living family, or have experienced
difficult circumstances, such as abuse, that would make it difficult for you to connect with your
relatives.

Practice gratitude

Gratitude is one of the most accessible positive emotions, and its effects can strengthen
friendships and intimate relationships. One 2010 study found that expressing gratitude toward
a partner can strengthen the relationship, and this positive boost is felt by both parties—the
one who expresses gratitude and the one who receives it. Remembering to say “thank you”
when a friend listens or your spouse brings you a cup of coffee can set off an upward spiral of
trust, closeness, and affection.

Learn to forgive

It’s normal for disagreements or betrayal to arise in relationships, but your choice about how to
handle the hurt can have a powerful effect on the healing process. Choosing to forgive can bring
about a variety of benefits, both physical and emotional. Fred Luskin, head of the Stanford
Forgiveness Project, says it’s easier to let go of the anger or hurt feelings associated with a
circumstance if you remind yourself that much of your distress is really coming from the
thoughts and feelings you are having right now while remembering the event—not the event
itself. Don’t be afraid to clearly articulate why you are upset, but once the other party has
listened, be willing to lay down your anger and move on.

Be compassionate

Compassion is the willingness to be open to yourself and others, even in painful times, with a
gentle, nonjudgmental attitude. When you feel compassionate toward another person—
whether a romantic partner, friend, relative, or colleague—you open the gates for better
communication and a stronger bond.

This doesn’t mean taking on the suffering of others, or absorbing their emotions. Rather,
compassion is the practice of recognizing when someone else is unhappy or whose needs aren’t
being met and feeling motivated to help them. We are an imitative species: when compassion
is shown to us, we return it.

Accept others

It is also important to be accepting of the other person in the relationship. Obviously, this does
not apply in situations of abuse or unhealthy control, where you need foremost to protect
yourself. But otherwise, try to understand where the person is coming from rather than judge
them. As you do for yourself, have a realistic acceptance of the other's strengths and weaknesses
and remember that change occurs over time.

Create rituals together

With busy schedules and the presence of online social media that offer the façade of real
contact, it’s very easy to drift from friends. In order to nurture the closeness and support of
friendships, you have to make an effort to connect. Gallup researcher Tom Rath has found that
people who deliberately make time for gatherings or trips enjoy stronger relationships and more
positive energy. An easy way to do this is to create a standing ritual that you can share and that
doesn’t create more stress—talking on the telephone on Fridays, for example, or sharing a walk
during lunch breaks, are ways to keep in contact with the ones you care about the most.

Spend the right amount of time together

Gallup researchers Jim Harter and Raksha Arora found that people who spend 67 hours per day
socializing (which could mean hanging out with friends, sharing meals with family, or even
emailing a colleague) tend to be the happiest. In contrast, those who have zero interactions (or
an exhausting overload of social time) feel more stressed.

Reading: TEN RULES FOR FINDING LOVE AND CREATING LONG-LASTING, AUTHENTIC
RELATIONSHIPS

1. YOU MUST LOVE YOURSELF FIRST Your relationship with yourself is the central template from
which all others are formed. Loving yourself is a prerequisite to creating a successful and
authentic union with another.

2. PARTNERING IS A CHOICE The choice to be in a relationship is up to you. You have the ability
to attract your beloved and cause the relationship you desire to happen.

3. CREATING LOVE IS A PROCESS Moving from “I” to “we” requires a shift in perspective and
energy. Being an authentic couple is an evolution.
4. RELATIONSHIPS PROVIDE OPPORTUNITIES TO GROW Your relationship will serve as an
unofficial “lifeshop” in which you will learn about yourself and how you can grow on your
personal path.

5. COMMUNICATION IS ESSENTIAL The open exchange of thoughts and feelings is the lifeblood
of your relationship.

6. NEGOTIATION WILL BE REQUIRED There will be times when you and your partner must work
through impasses. If you do this consciously and with respect, you will learn to create win-win
outcomes.

7. YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE CHALLENGED BY CHANGE Life will present turns in the road.
How you maneuver those twists and turns determines the success of your relationship.

8. YOU MUST NURTURE THE RELATIONSHIP FOR IT TO THRIVE Treasure your beloved and your
relationship will flourish.

9. RENEWAL IS THE KEY TO LONGEVITY Happily ever after means the ability to keep the
relationship fresh and vital.

10. YOU WILL FORGET ALL THIS THE MOMENT YOU FALL IN LOVE You know all these rules
inherently. The challenge is to remember them when you fall under the enchanting spell of love.

Source: http://angellovecards.com/assets/luminaries/drcherrieLOVEposter.pdf
 What I Have Learned

Activity: I KNOW THE SIGNS OF A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

Instruction: Put a HEART before each statement that you think is a sign of a healthy relationship; put
an X on each statement that you think is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

1. You can express your opinion without fear or dread.

2. You and your partner can make decisions together and fairly.

3. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions.

4. Your partner respects your feelings about sex.

5. Your partner supports you and your choices—even when they disagree with you.

6. You respect and encourage each other.

7. You give each other space to study or hang out with friends or family.

8. You are able to make your own decisions about spending your money without worrying about your
partner’s reaction.

9. You can discuss pregnancy and parenting decisions and your view is respected.

10. You feel isolated from friends and family.

11. Your partner tries to control how you spend time and who you hang out with.

12. Your partner tries to control how you spend money.

13. Your partner doesn’t support your decisions.

14. You are sometimes forced to do something that you’re not comfortable with.

15. Your partner threatens, insults, or humiliates you.

16. Your partner hurts you physically or emotionally.

17. Your partner doesn’t keep your secrets safe.

18. Your partner undermines your decisions about pregnancy and parenting.

Source: http://washingteenhelp.org/your-relationships/your-love-life has these signs to know if you

are in a healthy relationships

Processing Questions:

1. What were your thoughts and feelings while answering the activity?
_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________________.

2. In what ways do you express your feelings, whether positive or negative?

_________________________________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________________________
________________________________________________________________________________.

What I Can Do

Reading: BASIC RIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP

• The right to emotional support
• The right to be heard by the other and to respond
• The right to have your own point of view, even if this differs from your partner's
• The right to have your feelings and experiences acknowledged as real
• The right to live free from accusation and blame
• The right to live free from criticism and judgment
• The right to live free from emotional and physical threat
• The right to live free from angry outbursts and rage
• The right to be respectfully asked, rather than ordered

In addition to these basic relationships rights, consider how you can develop
patience, honesty, kindness, and respect.

Patience: Patience is essential to a healthy relationship. There are times when others
will respond to us in a way that is disappointing. When this occurs, it important to
communicate our disappointment, but also to give the other person space. Be
willing to give the person some time to reflect, indicating that you are ready to talk
when they are ready. If the person is never ready to discuss the situation, you may
need professional help to resolve the issue, or ask yourself whether or not you want
to continue the relationship.

Honesty: Honesty is another essential quality in healthy relationships. To build

honesty in a relationship, you should communicate your feelings openly, and expect
the other person to do the same. Over time, this builds trust.

Kindness: Kindness is extremely important to maintaining healthy relationships.

You need to be considerate of others' feelings and other people need to be
considerate of yours. Be kind when you communicate. Kindness will nurture your
relationships. Note that being kind does not necessarily mean being nice.

Respect: Respect is a cornerstone of all healthy relationships. If you don't have

respect for another person, it will have a negative impact on all of your interactions.
Think of a time when you encountered someone who didn't respect you. How did it
feel? What are some ways that you show respect to others? Source:
http://www.takingcharge.csh.umn.edu/activities/basic-rights-relationship

Instruction: On a piece of ¼ illustration board, sketch, draw, or design a poster which shows
one’s basic rights in a relationship.

POSTER

Please refer to this rubric.

RUBRIC FOR INDIVIDUAL WORK (REFLECTION PAPERS)

Exemplary 4 Sufficient 3 Minimal 2 Beginning 1

Student
Self- Student Student Student
demonstrates
disclosure demonstrates demonstrates demonstrates
an in-depth
/ Depth of a general a minimal a lack of
reflection on,
reflection reflection on, reflection on, reflection on,
and
and and or
personalizatio
personalizatio personalizatio personalizatio
n of the
n of, the n of, the n of, the
theories,
theories, theories, theories,
concepts,
concepts, concepts, concepts,
 and/or and/or and/or and/or
strategies strategies strategies strategies
presented in presented in presented in presented in
the course the course the course the course
materials. materials. materials. materials.
Viewpoints Viewpoints Viewpoints Viewpoints
and and and and
interpretations interpretations interpretations interpretations
are insightful are supported. are are missing,
and well Appropriate unsupported inappropriate,
supported. examples are or supported and/or
Clear, detailed provided from with flawed unsupported.
examples from personal arguments. Examples are
personal experiences, Examples are not provided.
experiences as applicable. not provided or
are provided, irrelevant to
as applicable. the
assignment.
Connectio Student makes Student goes Student goes Student merely
n to in-depth into some into little identifies some
outside synthesis of detail detail general ideas
experience thoughtfully explaining explaining or issues from
selected some specific some specific outside
aspects of ideas or issues ideas or issues experiences
experiences from outside from outside related to the
related to the experiences experiences topic.
topic and related to the related to the
makes clear topic and topic and very
connections makes general few
between what connections connections
is learned from between what between what
outside is learned from is learned from
experiences outside outside
and the topic. experiences experiences
and the topic and the topic.
Student

Connectio Student makes Student goes Student goes Student

n to in-depth into more into little detail identifies some
readings synthesis of detail explaining general ideas
thoughtfully explaining some specific or issues from
selected some specific ideas or issues readings
aspects of ideas or issues from readings related to the
readings from readings related to the topic. Readings
related to the related to the topic and are only those
topic and topic and makes general
 makes clear makes general connections assigned for
connections connections between what the topic.
between what between what is learned from
is learned from is learned from readings and
readings and readings and the topic.
the topic. the topic.
Includes Includes
reference to at reference to at
least two least one
readings other reading other
than those than those
assigned for assigned for
class. class

Connectio Student Student Student Student has

n to class synthesizes, synthesizes attempts to difficulty
discussion analyses, and clearly some synthesize restating some
s & unit evaluates directly some directly general ideas
objectives thoughtfully appropriate appropriate or issues from
selected ideas or issues ideas or issues the class
aspects of from the class from the class discussion as
ideas or issues discussion as discussion as they relate to
from the class they relate to they relate to this topic.
discussion as this topic. this topic.
they relate to
this topic.
 Assessment

Choose the letter of the best answer. Write the chosen letter on a separate sheet of
paper.

1. What do you call the state of connectedness between people (especially an

emotional connection)?

a. commitment
b. love
c. relationship
d. attraction

2. The following are the statements on relationships; EXCEPT____________?

a. To fully enjoy and benefit from relationships we need skills,

information, inspiration, practice, and social support
b. Relationships are static; they are unchangeable.
c. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us
maintain good relationships
d.

3. Which of the following refers to a person or thing that draws, attracts, allures,
or entices?
a. commitment
b. love
c. relationship
d. attraction
4. The following are the most common problem in a relationship; EXCEPT?
a. a supportive partner during pregnancy and / or significant
problems after the birth your baby
b. long term depression or other mental health issues suffered by one
partner or both
c. unrealistic Expectations- still thinking your partner / spouse is
the princess / knight and not seeing the 'real' human being
d. significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a
change in relationship dynamics
5. Which of the following is NOT an element of a healthy relationship?
a. Trust one another
 b. One person makes all the decisions
c. Respect one another
d. Open and honest communication
6. What skills do you need to make healthy decisions in a relationship?
a. Intelligence, memory, ability to do public speaking
b. Assertive communication, active listening, and negotiation skills
c. Ability to persuade others, love,
d. passive communication e. None of the above

7. What should you consider when making decisions around sex and sexual
limits?
a. Your values
b. Your friends
c. Your family
d. All of the above

8. What is the best style of communication to use when making decisions about
sexual limits and boundaries?
a. Assertive
b. Passive
c. Aggressive

9. Which of the following are signs that you may be in an abusive relationship?
a. Bruises, scratches and other signs of injuries
b. Avoiding friends
c. Apologizing for your partner`s behavior
d. All of the above

10. Which of the following is NOT a sign of a healthy relationship?

a. You can express your opinion without fear or dread
b. Your partner tries to control how you spend money
d. Having c. You respect and encourage each other
d. Each person takes responsibility for their own actions
11. Which of the following does not belong to the rules for finding love and creating
long-lasting, authentic relationships?
a. creating love is a process
b. partnering is a choice
c. you must love others first
d. renewal is a key to longevity
12. Which of these is NOT true about having a good relationship?
a. It is important to work on communicating our feelings in
relationships.
b. Using positive methods to resolve conflict will more likely help us
maintain good relationships.
c. Expressing gratitude to our friends and family help us maintain
good relationships
 d. a good relationship does not contribute anything to us having good
health.
13. What do you call the trait of being answerable to someone for something or
being responsible for one’s conduct?
a. attraction
b. commitment
c. love
d. responsibility
14. What do you call the relationships between people, especially those between
friends, lovers and family members?
a. relationship
b. commitment
c. personal relationship
d. responsibility
15. The following are the benefits of having personal relationships;
EXCEPT____________?
a. live longer
b. increased immune system
c. feel richer
d. be healthier
 Additional Activities

job well done! You were able to complete answering different activities in personal
relationships. For your additional activity, follow the instruction below.
Have an interview with your parents/guardians/relatives/friends about
Instruction:
the common problems in their relationship that they have encountered, and how
did they deal with it. Use a separate sheet of paper.

Interview
 15. TRUE
14. TRUE
13. FALSE
12. TRUE
11. TRUE
10. FALSE
9. TRUE
8. TRUE
7. FALSE
6. TRUE
5. TRUE
4. FALSE
3. TRUE
2. TRUE
1.TRUE
What’s In
Assessment What I Know
1.C 12. D
2. B 13. D
3. D 14. C 1.C 12. D
4. A 15. B 2. B 13. D
5. B 3. D 14. C
6. B 4. A 15. B
7. D 5. B
8. A 6. B
9. D 7. D
10. B 8. A
11. C 9. D
10. B
11. C
Key
Answer
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