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I Statements

The document discusses 'I' statements, which are assertions about one's own feelings, beliefs, or values expressed in a sentence beginning with "I". 'I' statements are contrasted with 'you' statements that focus on the other person. Using 'I' statements takes responsibility for one's own feelings and allows communication of what is upsetting while minimizing blame. Examples show how regular statements can be reframed as 'I' statements to avoid defensiveness. The document provides a template for constructing 'I' statements and other leading sentences beginning with "I".

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I Statements

The document discusses 'I' statements, which are assertions about one's own feelings, beliefs, or values expressed in a sentence beginning with "I". 'I' statements are contrasted with 'you' statements that focus on the other person. Using 'I' statements takes responsibility for one's own feelings and allows communication of what is upsetting while minimizing blame. Examples show how regular statements can be reframed as 'I' statements to avoid defensiveness. The document provides a template for constructing 'I' statements and other leading sentences beginning with "I".

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January 2016

‘I’ statements

I-statement is an assertion about the feelings, beliefs, values etc. of the person
speaking, generally expressed as a sentence beginning with the word "I", and is
contrasted with a "you-message" or "you-statement", which often begins with the
word "you" and focuses on the person spoken to.

Taking responsibility for your feelings will help you improve your communication
when you feel upset or angry. This technique will allow you to communicate what is
upsetting while minimizing blaming. If our statements feel too blaming, the person
we are trying to speak to will often become defensive.

Examples

Regular “You make me angry because you are always late”

“I” Statement “I feel frustrated when you come home late because I stay awake
worrying.”

Regular “You never call. You don’t even care.”

“I” Statement “I feel hurt when you forget to call because it seems like you don’t
care.”

How to use the ‘I’ statements…

I feel (emotion) ___ when ___ (the situation) ___ and I would like ___ (your request/need).

Other leading ‘I’ sentences…

I think that I....

I feel that I....

When I'm....

When I....

My concern is....

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