SAN JOSE COMMUNITY COLLEGE

San Jose, Malilipot, Albay

COURSE/Block: BEED 2A, BEED 2B, BEED 2C Duration: 3 HourS

Instructor: SHARON G. BALAGUER Semester: 1st
Course Code: MC VED AY: 2022-2023
Course Title: GOOD MANNERS AND RIGHT CONDUCT
(Edukasyon sa Pagpapakatao)
Credit Units: 3 Modality: Modular

COURSE INTRODUCTION/DESCRIPTION

Anchored on the essential component of personhood that deals with

the intra/interpersonal relationships which allow harmony with oneself,
with others and the environment, this course will highlight the
fundamental rules of good manners and appropriate conduct of behaviour or
each learner which are necessary for the formation of character that
embraces the core values of maka – Diyos, maka – Tao, maka- kalikasan
(CMO 74 s 2017)

MODULE 1 – LESSON 1
HOW I VIEW MYSELF

You are about to take journey, and like a good traveller, you
prepare the things you need to successfully reach your destination.
This journey will lead you towards self-discovery, understanding,
acceptance and fulfilment.
The best way to start is to know what you have, where you are now,
how far have you gone, how far still would you want to go and most
importantly what you need to get there.

LEARNING OBJECTIVES/LEARNING OUTCOMES:

At the end of lesson, the students must be able to:
 Examine different views of the self;
 Identify strengths and areas for improvement and
 Enhance acceptance and appreciation of self

“AN UNEXAMINED LIFE IS NOT WORTH LIVING” –

(Socrates)
You are about to start your journey and your first stop is taking a
closer look at yourself. You will be making an inventory of your
strengths and limitations and since becoming yourself is not a process
that you do alone so you will compare your self-assessment with a friend
or family member.
 Acceptance and appreciation of self – discoveries will lead you and
bring you closer to your goal.
Now, let your journey begin………

ACTIVITY 1.1
HUMAN FIGURE
On a whole bond paper, draw a human figure. You are that figure so
make it look like you, your hairstyle, your eyes, nose, shape of your
face. Also, you may include the clothes you love to wear, favourite
accessories, shoes and pieces of jewels so they would reflect the real
you.
Next, divide the paper into 2 by folding it at the centre. On the
left side of the paper make a list of your characteristics both positive
and negative by writing them on the part of your body whose function
relates to that characteristic. So, for example, open-mindedness is
written near the head, dancer near the feet and so on. Fold your drawing
in such away that the left side is concealed and only the right side is
seen.
Choose a partner and exchange drawings. On the right side, write
the characteristics that describe him in the same manner that you ask
your partner to describe you. Writing them on the parts of the body that
relate with the trait in terms of their functions.

Analysis

1. Is your self – descriptions mostly positive or negative?

2. Are the descriptions of you given by your partner similar or
different from your own description of yourself?
3. How do you feel about these positive and negative characteristic
traits you discovered about yourself?
4. What do you plan to do after knowing your traits and
characteristics?
5. What significant insights have you gathered from this activity.
 At this point, how do you see yourself as person? After taking a
closer look at your traits and characteristics you are now aware of
what you have and what you can do and use them to reach your goal.
Your description of yourself tells you how you perceive yourself as
a person. The way you perceive yourself affects how you feel about
yourself and these are manifested in your behaviour. If you attribute
positive traits to yourself, you will feel good and will also behave
in pleasant ways. In my case, if I believe I am a lovable person, I
would feel good and happy about myself, then I will be more open and
freer to relate with others thinking that they would love what I do.
But I think I am not lovable; I would feel insecure and refrain from
associating with others because I believe I am not lovable an nobody
wants to be with me.

In reality, we all perceive ourselves positively and negatively at

one time or another and sometimes there is a greater tendency for some
of us to have negative perceptions of self especially those who have
self esteem issues. Sadly, it colours our outlook in life which in
turn manifest in our relationship with others. What is important is
that we do not dwell on it but we move forward, maximize our
potentials grow as person an also contribute to enriching the lives of
others.
Now, who do you want to be? According to Leo Buscaglia, “we have
the right to be ourselves and all we can do is claim that right”. This
sounds exciting and we all would just love to claim that right.
However, you may have some tendencies to succumb to society’s
standards of what is good an appropriate and many times you find
yourself short of these norms making you feel inadequate or uncertain
about yourself. The challenge to you is to acknowledge your real self,
the unique self that is not identical to anyone in this world. The
self whose characteristics are organized in distinct way that marks
you as different from all others around you. You may have limitation
but as the famous Hellen Keller once said: “I learned that it is
possible for us to create light and sound and order within us no
matter what calamity may befall us in the outer world”. Take note, GOD
CANNOT BE WRONG IN SENDING YOU INTO THIS WORLD TO FULFILL HIS PURPOSE.
Thus, knowing your positive qualities and using them to the fullest
for the enrichment of yourself, of others and His kingdom is the true
essence of becoming the person that is YOU.

APPLICATION
To deepen the process of looking into yourself, go over the
statement and carefully analyse which of them is most applicable to you
by checking the line provided before each statement.

_____ I am usually taken for granted.

_____ I do not think my outputs are really appreciated.
_____ I find it challenging to meet the standards of my teachers.
_____ I cannot say what I really think and feel or else others might get
hurt, or I get punished.
_____ I should keep my feelings to myself or else I may hurt other
people’s feelings so they won’t like me.
_____ I cannot say anything critical about my parents or family members
or else I will appear ungrateful or disloyal#
_____ I must not speak for myself or else will come across as pushy and
inconsiderate of others.
_____ I should always think of other people’s needs before my own or else
I will be self-centred.
_____ I must keep other people informed of all my accomplishments or else
they may not recognize my value.
_____ I must be perfectly competent, adequate, and successful in
everything I do or else I cannot think of myself as a worthwhile person.
_____ I have to please others and satisfy their expectations or else I am
a failure.

THE VISION THERAPY OF JOHN POWELL

There are 4 techniques to correct our distorted visions whether about

ourselves or other things. You can challenge yourself to adopt these
techniques and get a renewed vision of yourself.

A. C O U N T E R I N G
 It is a statement of truth we tell ourselves to replace the
error in our false thinking and distorted attitudes.
Example: Distorted statement about the self: “I have to be
available to everybody who asks for my help otherwise I am
unfair”
COUNTERING statement: “I am wiling to help, but I just do not
have the time”
B. M O D E L L I N G
 It is imitating a person who acts the way we want to act. We
think, identify with and act like that person. I remember how
my teacher refused a request in a nice way.
Example: “My favourite teacher would usually say “I would be
very happy to do it, but my schedule has been filled up since
last week” OR “I hope it is not urgent, but I can be
available.”
C. S T R E T C H I N G
 It is risking beyond our comfort zones to try new and more
satisfying ways of doing things. Caution must also be made
that stretching should be done in a gradual manner. If it is
 about refusing something, start refusing somebody who is
requesting for the first time or somebody who is not yet very
close to you. Then do it with friends until you get the art of
doing it graciously. The risk of doing it abruptly is you
might get overwhelmed, or experience rejection resulting in a
strained relationship. Think of a situation that applies best
to you an try this technique.
D. P R A Y I N G
 It is reflecting or meditating as to how God is communicating
with you in a particular event of your life. For example,
instead of becoming defensive about negative feedback, you can
pray for the gift of openness and humility to accept, learn
and grow from it.

Now, imagine your mind has two buttons. One is switching for negative
self-talk and the other is for positive self-talk. If ever you catch
yourself functioning with the negative, make an effort to switch on the
positive. Try your best to be at the positive side as many times as you
can.

REFLECTION
Watch and make a reflection on the YouTube song, Remind Me Who I Am
by Jason Gray.

LESSON 2

“MY VALUES, MY GUIDE’

By this time, you have a pretty good idea of who you are as a
person. Now, you can describe yourself accurately since with the help of
a friend you are aware of your good qualities as well as the not so good.
You have also learned to accept the things you like and the things you do
not really like about yourself with the desire and determination to
improve. With a clear picture of who you are, you are now ready to
continue your journey through life.

But wait, you need something more, the one that would give you
direction ---- OUR VALUES --- they are like street signs that would lead
you to the right path that would bring you closer to your destination.

LEARNING OUTCOMES
At the end of the lesson, the students must be able to:
 Explain the meaning and kinds of values
 Identify personal values;
 Explain how values influence personal and social choices; and
  Discuss teacher’s role in promoting the core values maka-tao,
Makabayan, makakalikasan and maka Dyos.

ACTIVITY 1.2
VALUES TREE
1. Draw a big tree, complete with roots, trunk and branches.
2. At the roots of the tree, write down the values you developed since
childhood that you learned from you paretns or family.
3. On the trunk of the tree, write down your values developed from
friends, school, travel, books and other sources.
4. Finally, on the branches, write down values you want to develop as
you continue to live your life

ANALYSIS
1. Are there overlapping values on your tree?
2. Highlights values which you think are important to focus on at this
time.
3. Which among those values are most needed for the tree (you) to
thrive?
4. Do you think the values that you identified are evident in the way
you live your life now?
5. What realizations/learnings you have gained from this activity?

MULTIPLE DEFINITIIONS OF VALUES

When an ordinary person who is preoccupied with earning a living is
asked to define value, the first thing that may come to his mind is the
value of a peso compared to a dollar, euro, etc. For psychologist, it is
that which makes something desirable, attractive, worthy of approval,
admiration; that which inspires feelings, judgements, or attitudes of
esteem, commendations; that which is useful in view of certain ends.
Values motivate, inspire, or lead you to choose to reach your goals in
life.
On the other hand, the sociologists view values as goals of
personal behaviour during social interactions. They are those that are
considered important for the welfare of the members of a group. They are
common to all of them and represent their concept of what is good and
desirable for everyone. They are also what people see, hear, perceive,
and appreciate. In a society there exist a value system, a configuration
of cultural practices the dominant motivations and basic principles of
their behaviour; cultural ethics that binds them together, their concept
of what is important and the desired reactions and responses to
situations.

Values are transcendent beliefs and moral precepts one learns from
teachers of religion while for parents they are the ideals or virtues
which they try to inculcate to their children. Professional educators
view values as totality of objective, universal truths and standards that
should govern man’s decisions, motivations, conduct, and aspirations.
Each of these definitions has contributed to our better understanding f
values, but the simplest, most basic definition of values is: Moral
values are universal truths which man holds to be good and important;
they are the ethical principles which he struggles to attain and
implement in his daily life. They are the ideals which transcend all time
and space; those which are valid for all men regardless of race or
religion; l the one which unite strangers, families’ nations – all
humanity – with God.

2 Kinds of Values
1. ABSOLUTE MORAL VALUES – absolute because no human being is
exempted, every human being is called to uphold and live by them
during his lifetime. Examples are love, respect for dignity of man,
love of truth, justice, peace, respect for property, family
solidarity, respect for life, freedom, work. They are universal
because they are common to all people and are based on human nature
which is universal/
2. CULTURAL BEHAVIORAL VLAUES – behavioural values are the inner
personal response or incentives which prompt a person to act in ta
certain way. Cultural values are the modes of conduct of a group or
society. Behavioural and cultural values are changeable and
internal; they emerge from within man, individually or
collectively, and lead to the fulfilment of more immediate goals.
They are each man’s views, attitudes or inclinations which are
prompted by inner senses, emotions, thoughts motives, experience a
 training. They are customs and traditions which are expressed and
transmitted in interpersonal relationships. For example, in western
culture people values open, frank and clear interpersonal
relationships while Asians conduct themselves in ways which they
perceive will preserve harmonious relations and self-esteem. Hiya,
pakikisama, utang na loob are examples of Filipino cultural values.

VALUE OF A TEACHER
Teaching is the most important jobs in our society, as educators
play a crucial role in helping to influence learners and shape their
lives. As such, teachers who commit themselves to teach often to hold
specific values that motivate and drive them to dedicate their lives to
others. Teachers have special responsibility to foster values.

THE CORE FILIPINO VALUES

1. MAKA-DIYOS – expresses one’s spiritual beliefs while respecting the

spiritual beliefs of others. This is manifested by engaging oneself
in worthwhile spiritual activities, respecting sacred places,
respecting the religious beliefs of others, and demonstrating
curiosity and willingness to learn about other ways to express
spiritual self.
2. MAKA -TAO – Is being sensitive to individual, social and cultural
differences. This can be observed when one shoes respect for all,
waits for one’s turn, takes good care borrowed things, vies
mistakes as learning opportunities upholds and respects the dignity
and equality of all including those with special needs, volunteers
to assist others in times of needs, recognizes and accepts the
contribution of others toward a goal, considers diverse views,
communicates respectfully, accepts defeat an celebrates other’s
success, enables others to succeed, speaks out against and prevents
bullying.
3. MAKA-KALIKASAN – caring for the environment and utilizing wisely,
judiciously and economically. This is practices by showing a caring
attitude toward the environment, practicing waste management,
conserving energy and resources, taking care of school materials,
facilities and equipment, keeping the work area in order during and
after work, and keeping one’s work neat and orderly.
4. MAKA-BANSA – demonstrates pride in being a Filipino, exercises the
rights and responsibilities of a Filipino citizen. This is
illustrated as one identifies himself as a Filipino. Respects the
flag and national anthem, takes pride in diverse Filipino cultural
expressions, practices and traditions, promotes the appreciation
 and enhancement of Filipino languages abides by the rules of the
school, community and country and enables others to develop
interest and pride in being a Filipino.

APPLICATION

Values for me is ____________________________________________

My most important role as future GMRC teacher is ____________
What if I find most challenging in teaching values is _______

“The virtue of a man ought to be measured not by his

extraordinary exertions, but by his everyday conduct“
- PASCAL

NOTE:

1. There is no right or wrong answer. Please answer

truthfully… from the heart. If there are sensitive
personal answers, do not worry because I will be the
only one who can read it (unless otherwise you will
share it with someone)
2. Print all activities highlighted in yellow. Print it
on a LONG WHITE BOND PAPER. Insert all print outs in
a LONG TRANSPARENT ENVELOPE.
3.Date of submission will be given later. Be prepared.
4.You will be graded for composition, content and
creativity.

Thank you…