Forgiving Someone Is Forgiving Myself and Let Go All The Negativity Around Me.
Forgiving Someone Is Forgiving Myself and Let Go All The Negativity Around Me.
Direction: Kindly share your story on how you forgive someone or how someone forgives
you. Please do not disclose the names.
As I remembered way back in Junior High School, there was this boy who really hate me
because of my sexuality or rather my gender orientation of being a gay. He thinks that being a
gay is a mortal sin and something that do not fit in this Earthly world. He easily gets mad
whenever I want to make friends with him, that’s why in order not to make any trouble into him I
always keep myself distance towards him. So we come now to the saddest part of this story, it’s
unexpected that he always makes fun of me even though I didn’t do anything to him at all and
the worst is he insulted me like my whole life is affected because of what he did to me. He
posted something on social media about my true identity, bad and harshly comments, edited
pictures and so many more. That time, I was emotionally scared of what he did to me because
my fellow classmates and the other students began to backstab me, criticized me, humiliates me
and embarrassed me to the whole campus. I can’t stand myself of what happened to me, I kept
crying all over again feels like it blow my. That’s why my Mama and Papa started to do some act
regarding this offensive manner or cyber bullying. Until the school principal informed about this
she immediately called the student and his parents who is responsible of everything. She said that
if the boy didn’t delete and say sorry to me, he will end up suspended or yet expelled. The boy
begs for forgiveness of what he did to me, but I know it’s not that easy however, he promised to
me that he wouldn’t do it again not only me, as well as the other student. Since I heard his words
and promises I forgive him though it’s hard to do, but I know that everyone needs a second
chance to start a new life and to become a good person. Having that guilt and hate are wrong
because it means that the evilness wins but in the end the goodness is always prevails.
“Forgiving someone is forgiving myself and let go all the negativity around me.”
Questions to Reflect:
A meaningful reflection, in the previous section, you were able to know meaningfully the
two sacraments of healing. It is indeed that we belong to a community of faith as we believe
in the healing grace of God towards communal change and conversion. At this point, please
answer the next activity to apply what you learned in the discussion.
Directions: Cite three different stories from the Bible where Jesus manifested the healing
grace of God and connect each story to your own or personal experiences of conversion or
healing.
Bartimaeus was a blind beggar who called out to Jesus for mercy and healing. The
faith of Bartimaeus is seen in how he addresses Jesus as the Son of God. While the crowd
tells the blind man to be quiet, Bartimaeus just became louder! When Jesus tells his disciples
to bring the blind man over, a miracle happens because of his faith.
My own/personal experience:
This biblical story is somehow relates to myself as to how I see the world differently as
what I expected to believed. As I remembered, I was buying something at the mall then I
suddenly noticed that the man is secretly doing something to the old woman and I thought
she was with that man so I decided it was all nothing. However, I saw him continuously
following the old lady whenever it goes and he was suspicious so that time I began to realize
that the man is a stranger and he is a thief. Before he does something to the old lady I go after
the old lady and act as a concerned citizen and become friendly with her in order to prevent
what the man wants to do to the old lady. After that I immediately report to the security
guard about what happened. In reality, there are some cases where some people don’t want to
get involved in this particular situation, they are blind on what is happening around them, but
for me you must not be scared to help or to do the right thing or something because it’s a
matter of life and death. Act what you think is right and never tolerate evilness in the world.
A simple act of goodness can change and save someone’s life.
Now there was a woman who had been suffering from hemorrhages for twelve years;
and though she had spent all she had on physicians, no one could cure her. She came up
behind Jesus and touched the fringe of his clothes, and immediately her hemorrhage stopped.
Then Jesus asked, ‘Who touched me?’ When all denied it, Peter said, ‘Master, the crowds
surround you and press in on you.’ But Jesus said, ‘Someone touched me; for I noticed that
power had gone out from me.’ When the woman saw that she could not remain hidden, she
came trembling; and falling down before him, she declared in the presence of all the people
why she had touched him, and how she had been immediately healed. He said to her,
‘Daughter, your faith has made you well; go in peace. – Luke 8:43-48
My own/personal experience:
In this biblical story is quite relevant to my own experience regarding with my health
and physical wellbeing. Whenever I get sick or ill, I feel the pain is all over my whole body
and I suffered a lot. Whether headache, stomach ache, body ache or whatever it was it is
really something to make a serious act regarding this matter. As I remembered, during the
times that I was laying on my bed and couldn’t move because of it, I feel like my condition is
getting worst I was crying over and over and my parents were really scared. My mama told
me that whatever I am feeling right now, the only way to make it good and to lessen the pain
is always putting your faith with God. Before I go to sleep, I get up and get my Holy Rosary
and start to pray wholeheartedly with God and I offer to Him all my sin and what I am
feeling or experiencing that time. I put my faith first and I believed that through His healing
power and ask God’s forgiveness. After that, when I wake up in the morning the pain was
still there, but I feel that the pain inside me is not that much. I was relieved and I continue to
praise the Lord, I always thank Him for what He did to me and I will never ever forget what
the Lord teaches me, especially on that time. Now it is true that in time like that, no matter
what we do or happened in our everyday lives, the Lord is always there for us in times of our
needs.
And when he returned to Capernaum after some days, it was reported that he was at
home. And many were gathered together, so that there was no more room, not even at the
door. And he was preaching the word to them. And they came, bringing to him a paralytic
carried by four men. And when they could not get near him because of the crowd, they
removed the roof above him, and when they had made an opening, they let down the bed on
which the paralytic lay. And when Jesus saw their faith, he said to the paralytic, "Son, your
sins are forgiven." Now some of the scribes were sitting there, questioning in their hearts,
"Why does this man speak like that? He is blaspheming! Who can forgive sins but God
alone?" And immediately Jesus, perceiving in his spirit that they thus questioned within
themselves, said to them, "Why do you question these things in your hearts? Which is easier,
to say to the paralytic, 'Your sins are forgiven,' or to say, 'Rise, take up your bed and walk'?
But that you may know that the Son of Man has authority on earth to forgive sins"--he said to
the paralytic-- "I say to you, rise, pick up your bed, and go home." And he rose and
immediately picked up his bed and went out before them all, so that they were all amazed
and glorified God, saying, "We never saw anything like this!" – Mark 2:1-12
My own/personal experience:
On this biblical story, this somehow similar to what I experience back then because as
I remember, my Uncle was paralyzed because of an unexpected accident 2 years ago, the
year 2020. We were shock when we heard about that incident happened to him and also to
his family can’t believe his condition. The doctor said that there was some part of his body
was paralyzed and that they can’t do anything anymore. A couple of days, my Uncle died
because he didn’t survive anymore. Our family was in deep sorrow and it happened so fast
that his family wasn’t ready to deal with it. I feel sorry for them because I know how it feels
of having someone being passed away. However, our family was busy doing the Funeral
Mass and offer Vigil prayer and services to our Uncle. I know my story is opposite on the
biblical story of Jesus, but what matter the most is it is important that we do not forget God in
our life and we always seek to His grace to protect us, heals us and loves us. In reality, we
can’t control life, that’s why we need God in our side.
Direction: Do examination of conscience at the end of the day and if possible, ask/give
forgiveness to someone if you are ready.
1. You shall have no other gods besides the Lord your God.
As a Christian, I have no any other Gods besides the Lord our God.
Have money and pleasure become more important to me than the God who created me
for Himself?
As a Christian, I know that the most important thing in this world is our Lord God, but as an
ordinary person living in this world I also need money and pleasure in order to survive yet
that doesn’t mean that it’s the most important than the Lord Jesus Christ.
As a Christian, I must always pray in order for me to have a good friendship with God.
Have I been involved with occult or superstitious practices, i.e., fortune telling?
As a Christian, sometimes I get involved with occult or superstitious practices, fortune telling
etc.
As a Christian, I never received Holy Communion in the state of a mortal sin. In order to
receive Holy Communion I must reconcile with God and ask for His forgiveness.
As a Christian, I never lie during the confession or deliberately withheld confessing a mortal
sin.
2. You shall not take the Lord your God's name in vain.
Have I ever committed perjury that is, lied under oath in a court of law?
Have I ever lied after "swearing to God" that I am telling the truth?
Have I ever used God's name out of anger, that is, as a curse?
As a Christian, sometimes I used God’s name when I’m out of anger or else as a curse.
Have I deliberately missed Holy Mass on the Sabbath (Saturday evening through
Sunday)?
4. Honor your father and your mother so that you may live long and flourish.
As a Christian, I tell them that I love them and sometimes I do lie to them.
Do I steal from them? Am I obeying and honoring those in place of my parents, such as
teachers and principals? Do I skip class? Do I lie to my teachers? Do I swear at them?
As a Christian, I don’t steal from them. I obey and honor my teachers and principals. I never
skipped class and I never lie to my teachers. I never swear at them.
Am I spreading rumors or keeping rumors alive by passing them on? Do I nurse anger
against anyone?
As a Christian, I don’t spread rumors or keeping rumors alive by passing them on. I am not
angry against anyone.
As a Christian, I never hold a grudge and never refuse to forgive another. I never cursed.
Do I steal from my parents? Do I steal from friends? Have I ever stolen from a
stranger?
Am I a liar? Am I guilty of detraction, that is, making known the faults of others?
As a Christian, sometimes I gossip about others. I never reveal information about anything.
Am I "two-faced", that is, have I been a certain kind of person to some people, but a
completely different kind of person to others?
9. & 10. You shall not envy your neighbor’s wife and goods.
Am I envious of others? Do I wish that others be deprived of the goods or talents that
are theirs? Am I jealous of others? Do I harbor unforgiveness and grudges against
others?
As a Christian, I am not envious of others. I never deprived them and I am not jealous at
them. I never harbor unforgiveness and grudges against others.
Let Us Reflect: A new lesson has been discussed… a fresh knowledge has been
learned… and a vibrant call for passionate service is once again achieved. Now, it’s time
for you to share what you have learned… write what you have realized and inscribe
what you have resolved in and about yourself.
Reflection/Realization:
Prayer:
Dear Heavenly Father, You reveal us the road of life and in Your presence is richness of joy,
and at Your two hands is eternal happiness. We wish to delight as Your child, underneath
Your protection, in Your existence. May we grow faithful in all aspects of our lives on Earth.
Allow that soon anything from Your kingdom, from Your Heaven, would surround us like a
blessing, allowing us to strive on with gladness and wonderment. We dedicate ourselves to
You, our loving and faithful God, as we thank You. Amen