Personal Development

Quarter 1 – Module 1:
Knowing and Understanding
Oneself during Middle and Late
Adolescence
 What I Need to Know

This module was design to help you in your journey on assessing yourself and

to become a better person as you are.

At the end of the module, the learners shall be able to:

1. explain that knowing oneself can make a person accept his/her strengths and

limitations and dealing with other's better (EsP-PD11/12KO-Ia-1.1); and

2. share his/her unique characteristics, habits, and experiences (EsP-PD11/12KO

Ia-1.2)

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 What I Know

Rearrange or unscramble the letters to make a word. Write your answer in a

paper.

1. lesf

2. aopselnrtyi

3. gemai

4. odleevp

5. hractreac

6. shibat

7. riexscenpee

8. omliitatin

9. cateduion

10. queniu

11. rahdincesn

12. opisivet

13. simsion

14. cobvjetise

15. elrangin

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Lesson
Conduct self-exploration
1 and simple disclosure

What’s In

4 PICS 1 WORD

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 Notes to the Teacher
This module aims to deepen the understanding of one’s identity.

What’s New

Analyse this!

Take a look at your own self-concept and answer the

following self-concept inventory in your notebook. Give
yourself a rating using the scale: 0 = very weak; 1 = weak;
2 = somewhat weak or somewhat strong; 3 = strong; 4 = very
strong

Activity: SELF-CONCEPT INVENTORY

1. I have strong sex appeal.

2. I am proud of my physical figure.
3. I am physically attractive and beautiful/handsome.
4. I exude with charm and poise.
5. I am easy to get along with.
6. I can adjust to different people and different situations.
7. I am approachable; other people are at ease and comfortable with
me.
8. I am lovable and easy to love.
9. I am a fast learner, can understand with one instruction.
10. I am intelligent.
11. I have special talents and abilities.
12. I can easily analyze situations and make right judgments.
13. I can be trusted in any transaction.
14. I have a clean conscience and carry no guilty feeling.
15. I have integrity and good reputation.
16. My friends and classmates can look up to me as a model worth
emulating.
17. I can express my ideas without difficulty.
18. I talk in a persuasive manner that I can easily get
people to accept what I say.
19. I can express my ideas in writing without difficulty.
20. I am a good listener.

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 21. I am emotionally stable and not easily rattled when faced with
trouble.
22. I am logical and rational in my outlook and decisions.
23. I feel and act with confidence.
24. I am a mature person.

Scoring: Copy this table in your paper. Write your score opposite each number and
get the subtotal. In what areas do you consider yourself strong (with score 14-16 or
somewhat weak (score of 10-13) and very weak (below 10).

Physical appeal Human Relations Intelligence

1 5 9
2 6 10
3 7 11
4 8 12
Subtotal: Subtotal: Subtotal:
Character Communications Maturity
13 17 21
14 18 22
15 19 23
16 20 24
Subtotal: Subtotal: Subtotal:
Very Good! You may now work on your weakness until they become
your strength.

Our gifts or talents are ours but they are not just there for us. They are given
to be shared with others.

Guess the picture! Which talent or skill do they possessed?

1. _______________

2. ________________

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3. ____________

4. ___________________

5. ___________________

What is It

Let’s continue the discussion.

Don’t forget to jot down notes.

Self - is the union of element namely: Body, thoughts, feeling or emotions, and
sensations that constitute the individuality and identity of a person.

Reading: SELF-CONCEPT
Imagine yourself looking into a mirror. What do you see? Do you see your
ideal self or your actual self?
Your ideal self is the self that you aspire to be. It is the one that you hope
will possess characteristics similar to that of a mentor or some other worldly
figure.
Your actual self, however, is the one that you actually see. It is the self
that has characteristics that you were nurtured or, in some cases, born to have.

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 The actual self and the ideal self are two broad categories of self-concept.
Self-concept refers to your awareness of yourself.
It is the construct that negotiates these two selves.
In other words, it connotes first the identification of the ideal self as
separate from others, and second, it encompasses all the behaviors evaluated in
the actual self that you engage in to reach the ideal self.

The actual self is built on self-knowledge.

Self-knowledge is derived from social interactions that provide insight into
how others react to you.
The actual self is who we actually are.
It is how we think, how we feel, look, and act.
The actual self can be seen by others, but because we have no way of
truly knowing how others view us, the actual self is our self-image.
The ideal self, on the other hand, is how we want to be.
It is an idealized image that we have developed over time, based on what
we have learned and experienced.
The ideal self could include components of what our parents have taught
us, what we admire in others, what our society promotes, and what we think is
in our best interest.
There is negotiation that exists between the two selves which is complex
because there are numerous exchanges between the ideal and actual self.
These exchanges are exemplified in social roles that are adjusted and re-
adjusted, and are derived from outcomes of social interactions from infant to
adult development.
Alignment is important. If the way that I am (the actual self) is aligned
with the way that I want to be (the ideal self), then I will feel a sense of mental
well-being or peace of mind. If the way that I am is not aligned with how I want
to be, the incongruence, or lack of alignment, will result in mental distress or
anxiety.
The greater the level of incongruence between the ideal self and real self,
the greater the level of resulting distress.
Personal development modules ultimate aim is greater self-knowledge
that will lead to higher alignment between these two personality domains.

Reading: PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS

Personal effectiveness means making use of all the personal resources –

talents, skills, energy and time, to enable you to achieve life goals.

Your knowledge of yourself and how you manage yourself impacts directly
on your personal effectiveness. Being self-aware, making the most of your
strengths, learning new skills and techniques and behavioral flexibility are all
keys to improving your personal performance.

Our personal effectiveness depends on our innate characteristics – talent

and experience accumulated in the process of personal development. Talents
first are needed to be identified and then developed to be used in a particular
subject area (science, literature, sports, politics, etc.).

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 Experience includes knowledge and skills that we acquire in the process
of cognitive and practical activities.

Knowledge is required for setting goals, defining an action plan to achieve

them and risk assessment.

Skills also determine whether real actions are performed in accordance

with the plan. If the same ability is used many times in the same situation, then
it becomes a habit that runs automatically, subconsciously. Here are some skills
that will greatly increase the efficiency of any person who owns them:

1. Determination. It allows you to focus only on achieving a specific goal

without being distracted by less important things or spontaneous desires. It may
be developed with the help of self-discipline exercise.

2. Self-confidence. It appears in the process of personal development, as

a result of getting aware of yourself, your actions and their consequences. Self-
confidence is manifested in speech, appearance, dressing, gait, and physical
condition. To develop it, you need to learn yourself and your capabilities, gain
positive attitude and believe that by performing right actions and achieving right
goals you will certainly reach success.

3. Persistence. It makes you keep moving forward regardless of emerging

obstacles – problems, laziness, bad emotional state, etc. It reduces the costs of
overcoming obstacles. It can also be developed with the help of self- discipline
exercise.

4. Managing stress. It helps combat stress that arises in daily life from
the environment and other people. Stress arises from the uncertainty in an
unknown situation when a lack of information creates the risk of negative
consequences of your actions. It increases efficiency in the actively changing
environment.

5. Problem-solving skills. They help cope with the problems encountered

with a lack of experience. It increases efficiency by adopting new ways of
achieving goals when obtaining a new experience.

6. Creativity. It allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out a

specific action that no one has tried to use. It can lead to a decrease or an
increase of costs, but usually the speed of action is greatly increased when using
creative tools.

7. Generating ideas. It helps you achieve goals using new, original,

unconventional ideas. Idea is a mental image of an object formed by the human
mind, which can be changed before being implemented in the real world. For
generating ideas you can use a method of mental maps, which allows you to
materialize, visualize and scrutinize all your ideas, which in turn contributes to
the emergence of new ideas. These are just some, but the most important
personal effectiveness skills which make the achievement of any goal easier and
less costly.

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 Let’s Go further….

Reading: Here are 7 Reasons Why We Should Put Our Talents, Gifts
or Strengths to Use:

1. Other People Can Benefit From Them.

Our gifts or talents are purposely created not just for ourselves but to
help those around us.
We benefit from other people’s talents. We benefit from Jobs’ Apple
creations, Edison’s light bulb, Ford’s automotive ideas or our mom’s cooking.
Almost everyone around us contribute to our welfare in one way or another.

Now the interesting question is: How do other people benefit from our gifts
or talents?
Our gifts or talents are ours but they are not just there for us. They are
given to be shared with others.
There’s no sense of delight when we only want to serve
ourselves. Sharing our talents with other people can
create more lasting fulfillment.
It is actually a win-win situation. We get to exercise our talent and other
people on the other end receives a benefit from it.

2. Other Lives May Change Because of Our Talents.

Sherry, a former-ballerina-turned-attorney, married Bob, who is likewise
an attorney. They started a program in 1984 called “City Hearts: Kids Say
Yes to the Arts”.
They deeply believe in the potential and gifts of children who are trapped
in the cycle of delinquency and poverty. They saw that using their talents
is the first step to provide the appropriate avenue to transform and benefit
these children.
Their message is to find our path and put our talents to work.
We may even change someone’s life just because we exercise our gift. It
doesn’t need to be a huge one. Start small and someone out there will be
inspired because of it.

3. Leads to a More Satisfying Life.

Our gifts or talents are also considered our strengths. Gallup conducted
a research on people who use their strengths every day and how it affects
their performance and overall, their quality of life.
Gallup found out that people who use their strengths and talents
(something that comes naturally and can be enhanced through practice)
every day are six times more likely to be engaged on the job.
The key points they found in the research are as follows:

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a. Improved Health and Wellness
b. Experienced Less Worry, Stress, Anger, Sadness or Physical Pain
c. Boost Their Positive Emotions
d. More Energy to Face the Day
e. Higher Engagement Level on the Task
They also found out that building employees’ strengths is a far more
effective approach to improving performance than trying to improve
weaknesses.
This means lots of people can benefit more if they use their talents and
strengths every day.

4. We Can Make Money Out Of Them.

Our talents can help us earn money. With proper development and use,
they can even offer us richness beyond imagination — in all aspects of
our lives.
People are often unconscious about the kind of talent they have. If we are
aware of something where we are really good at, we can start small and
make money out of it.
Maybe we can do a part-time hustle and we’ll be surprised on the learning
we can have in the process. That’s what most successful people claim.
They found what they are really good at and with constant use and
practice, their gifts serve them well.
Whether we are great in doing calligraphy, tinkering things, drawing or
anything else, there is always an opportunity waiting for us.

5. Let’s Us Leave a Lasting Impression to People

“If we want to leave a lasting imprint to people we encounter, use whatever
we have to offer. These are our gifts and talents.
“That moment of sharing without an agenda of getting a part wasn’t
about the outcome but about the joy of touching others and giving
unconditionally what was mine to give. And that brought with it a
tremendous sense of fulfilment.”

6. Leads to Faster Growth and Development

When a person positively monitors his performance and look for ways to
improve his strengths, he will develop faster than focusing on his
weaknesses.
If we would like to improve vastly, start on where we are good at. We have
nothing to lose because we already have them.

7. Show Appreciation to the Giver

One thing I like about gift giving is the feeling I get when the receiver
opens the gift and love it. But I like it best when I see that the person is
using the gift. It makes me wanna give him/her more gifts next time.
When we are using the talents given to us, we are opening more doors
and windows for more gifts. Why is this so?
Because it’s how the Law of God works. Whoever we believe in, when we

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 use the talents the Creator gave us, it shows that we appreciate His
works. He will give us more opportunities to use them in return.
Our talents are investments of God. If we don’t capitalize on them, they
will never grow. We will lose the compounding interest where we and
others can benefit from.

Conclusion

Every human being conceived carries with him or her that innate ability
that is uniquely his or hers. It is like our finger print. Lots of people may
carry the same ability, but the way we use ours will make us unique.
These talents, gifts or strengths are our diamonds. We need to dig them.
Nobody can dig them for us.
Once we find them, we should remove the dust. Keep polishing them. The
more we take care of them, the more we can recognize the other diamonds
in our lives.
Soon, our gifts and talents, just like diamonds, will shine brightly and
will serve us well in the long run.
Because we took the time to search for them, the return of investment is
more than what we have imagined.
Because our Creator saw that we are using them, He will bless us with
more opportunities to apply them.
Make a promise to yourself. You’ll search for your diamonds. And you’ll
make sure they will shine brightly.

Awesome! You’re a great reader!

What’s More

Well done! Now you have a greater knowledge about oneself. Let us try to recall

some facts.

Completion Test. Fill in the blank the correct word or phrase.

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1-2. The _________________ and the _________________are two broad categories of
self-concept.

3-4. ______________ is derived from _____________________ that provide insight into

how others react to you.

5-6. There is ____________________ that exists between the ______________.

7-10. The actual self is who we actually are. It is how we ___________, how we
___________, __________, and ____________.

Write TRUE if the statement is correct and FALSE if the statement is incorrect.

1. Every human had the same finger print that is why we are unique.
2. Sharing our talents with other people can create more lasting fulfillment.
3. Personal effectiveness = TEST means making use of all the personal
resources – talents, energy, skills, and time.
4. Experience includes knowledge and skills that we acquire in the process of
cognitive and practical activities.
5. Your knowledge of yourself and how you manage yourself impacts directly on
your personal effectiveness.

What I Have Learned

Let us checked what you have learned.

Clues Solver!

Directions: Give the correct answers using the clues given below.

Answer Clues

Enable you to achieve life goals

1.

Manifested in speech, appearance, dressing, gait, and

2.
physical condition.

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 The investments of God
3.

About the joy of touching others life

4.

It helps you achieve goals using new, original,

5.
unconventional ideas

6. It increases efficiency in the actively changing

environment.

It allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out a

7.
specific action that no one has tried to use.

Determine whether real actions are performed in

8.
accordance with the plan.

Our gifts or talents are also considered our strengths.

9.

10. Our gifts or talents are ours but they are not just there
for us. They are given to be shared with others.
.

It is required for setting goals, defining an action plan to

11.
achieve them and risk assessment.

They help cope with the problems encountered with a

12.
lack of experience

It makes you keep moving forward regardless of

13.
emerging obstacles

Their message is to find our path and put our talents to

14.
work.

It may be developed with the help of self-discipline

15.
exercise

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 What I Can Do

Conveying a message through lyrics

Reflection
Lea Salonga

Look at me
I will never pass for a perfect bride, or a perfect daughter
Can it be
I'm not meant to play this part
Now I see, that if I were truly to be myself
I would break my family's heart

Who is that girl I see

Staring straight back at me
Why is my reflection someone I don't know
Somehow I cannot hide
Who I am, though I've tried
When will my reflection show, who I am, inside

How I pray, that a time will come

I can free myself and meet their expectations
On that day, I'll discover someway to be myself
And to make my family proud

They want a docile lamb

No-one knows who I am
Must there be a secret me
I'm forced to hide

Must I pretend that I am someone else for all time

When will my reflection show, who I am inside
When will my reflection show, who I am inside

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Multiple choice. Write the letter of the correct answer.

1. What is the title of the song?

a. reflection
b. my reflection
c. how far ill go
d. we know the way

2. Who does the voice of the character who sings this song?
a. Christina Aguillera
b. Lea Salonga
c. Kelly Clarkson
d. Sarah Geronimo

3. What is this song all about?

a. be yourself, you can never please everybody
b. nobody’s perfect
c. be true to yourself, do what you want and what will make you happy
d. all of the above

4. Complete the lyrics. “ look at me, I will never pass for a perfect _________.”
a. bride
b. girl
c. soldier
d. teacher

5. Complete the lyrics. or a perfect _________.”

a. woman
b. human
c. wife
d. daughter

6. Complete the lyrics. Can it be, I’m not meant to play this _________?
a. role
b. part
c. game
d. all of the above

7. Complete the lyrics. Now I see that if I were truly to be myself, I would break my
family’s _____________?
a. tree
b. pride
c. heart
d. expectation

8. These lyrics are correct: Who is that girl I see staring straight back at me?
a. true
b. false
c. maybe
d. both and b

9. What Disney movie features this song?

a. Pinocchio

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b. The Lion King
c. Mulan
d. Alladin

10. Complete the lyrics: “When will my reflection ___________ who I am inside”
a. reveal
b. tell me
c. show
d. hide

Assessment

Read each statement below carefully. Write a T if you think a statement is TRUE.
Write an F if you think the statement is FALSE. Write the answer on your paper.

1. The actual self is composed of what our parents and society have taught us.

2. Awareness of oneself is called self-concept.

3. Personal development modules ultimate aim is greater self-knowledge that will

lead to higher alignment between ideal self and real self.

4. The actual self is our self-image.

5. The ideal self is how we want to be.

6. I will feel a sense of mental well-being or peace of mind when I have an

imbalance self.

7. Self-knowledge is derived from social interactions that provide insight into how
others react to
you.

8. Alignment exists between the two selves which is complex because there are
numerous
exchanges between the ideal and actual self.

9. There are exemplified exchanges in social roles that are adjusted and re-
adjusted, and are derived
from outcomes of social interactions from infant to adult development.

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10. The greater the level of incongruence between the ideal self and real self, the
greater the level of resulting distress.

11. The actual self is built on self-knowledge.

12. The incongruence is same with lack of alignment.

13. The actual self can be seen by others.

14. It is the one that you hope will possess characteristics similar to that of a
mentor or some other worldly figure is called ideal self.

15. The actual self and the ideal self are two broad categories of self-concept.

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 Additional Activities

The Challenge is how you see YOURSELF now?

#YOU CAN BE A BETTER VERSION OF YOU!

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Oooooops! Don’t forget! Think of the situations where you can share your talents
using the different parts of your body in your everyday living.

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